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Speaker 5: I hope you enjoy this message. You know, I want

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Speaker 5: to talk to us a little bit about relationships and

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Speaker 5: how to bring value to our relationships. You know, we're

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Speaker 5: and some of those relationships can bring us great joy

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Speaker 5: and satisfaction. And sometimes some of those same relationships can

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Speaker 5: We've got to learn to balance the two extremes. Have

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Speaker 5: then they say something you don't like and you're mad

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Speaker 5: We've got to learn how to balance these things called

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Speaker 5: other and enjoy relationships. Listen to what the apostle Paul

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Speaker 5: teaches us in First Corinthians thirteen five. He says, love

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Speaker 5: keeps no records of wrongs. Love keeps no records of wrongs.

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Speaker 5: Apostle Paul was telling us, if we're gonna balance out

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Speaker 5: learn to keep records of the good things. We're going

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Speaker 5: to have to learn to find the good in our relationship,

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Speaker 5: Let me tell you that takes no effort, and it

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Speaker 5: certainly takes no faith. But when we begin to keep

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Speaker 5: Love keeps no records of wrong. The only way that

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Speaker 5: When we think about this for a minute about God's love,

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Speaker 5: we think, now, God, if you were to have recorded

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Speaker 5: But I thought to myself, wouldn't she be much happier

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Speaker 5: it doesn't matter how many things they do wrong, doesn't

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Speaker 4: Because I trust you God, you got my back. I

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Speaker 5: They're never going to change. There they go. That's who

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Speaker 5: I mean, it not only hurts the other person and

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Speaker 5: One of the ways you can balance all this out

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Speaker 4: Nobody's perfect.

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Speaker 5: Some people say nobody's perfect, and you know that's why

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Speaker 4: But the truth of the matter is.

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Speaker 5: We serve a perfect God, and his spirit is on

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Speaker 5: We should at least set our sights on developing everything

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Speaker 5: Tell me, can you imagine the response that the people

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Speaker 5: Can you imagine the meaningful conversations that we can have

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Speaker 5: You know, more is caught, More is caught with honey.

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Speaker 4: Listen, life is too short to live frustrated.

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Speaker 5: Life is too short, and it's too precious to be

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Speaker 9: It leaves a smile on your mind.

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Speaker 8: Visit watermelons out work for summer recipes and how you

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Speaker 8: can use the whole watermelon.

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Speaker 6: With millions of books on Amazon, there's a reading feeling

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Speaker 6: Nirvana after only the first chapter is different to Maya's

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Speaker 6: which is also different to Noah's aw anytime the cute

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Speaker 6: cyberpunk is mentioned, even though in reality he'd be totally

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Speaker 6: out of his league. From two two Amazon books, that

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Speaker 6: reading feeling awaits