WEBVTT - Girls Girling: Nightlife (Bonus) 0:00:03.080 --> 0:00:05.640 I love the idea of being bleeped. It sounds so chic, 0:00:11.119 --> 0:00:15.080 Hi gay not that. No, no, no, we've beaten that 0:00:15.200 --> 0:00:21.680 joke to death. It must stop. Likes that's better. Hello, 0:00:21.720 --> 0:00:25.480 my fellow trans is um, yeah, I I feel like that. 0:00:25.800 --> 0:00:28.200 I love Meg's daughter. She's amazing and also this new 0:00:28.240 --> 0:00:32.000 season of Hacks like very fun to watch her. You know. No, no, no, 0:00:32.159 --> 0:00:36.880 we are not talking about any media because peeling back 0:00:36.920 --> 0:00:39.559 the curtain a little bit on the real lives of 0:00:39.600 --> 0:00:45.680 myself and Ms Frangela Toronto Angela, we are spending them 0:00:45.680 --> 0:00:49.200 on apart frants in New York. I'm still in Los Angeles, 0:00:49.600 --> 0:00:52.559 and you know, it's pride and we should be closer 0:00:52.600 --> 0:00:55.360 than ever. So we decided that, you know, we wanted 0:00:55.400 --> 0:00:59.560 to spend a little time together catching up over zoom 0:00:59.640 --> 0:01:03.400 and figured like, why not record it and make content 0:01:03.440 --> 0:01:06.679 out of it since that is what we've done with 0:01:06.760 --> 0:01:09.920 our entire relationship. Well, you know, obviously we protect a 0:01:09.920 --> 0:01:11.880 lot of our friendship as well, but like, this is 0:01:11.920 --> 0:01:14.560 a moment where we're like, as a gift to the virgins, 0:01:15.040 --> 0:01:18.360 we want to bestow on you because it's a pride gift. 0:01:18.560 --> 0:01:21.240 And we talked about like what this could look like, 0:01:21.480 --> 0:01:25.160 and we mutually agreed. Even though I violated the agreement immediately, 0:01:25.400 --> 0:01:29.080 we mutually agreed that this would be a non news discussion. 0:01:29.360 --> 0:01:33.920 This is a key, Okay, this is we are just 0:01:34.080 --> 0:01:38.800 like two sisters catching up talking about our lives in 0:01:38.840 --> 0:01:41.320 a way that is very different from the other podcast 0:01:41.360 --> 0:01:49.360 in which we usually catch up and talk about our lives. Yeah, exactly. Well, 0:01:49.360 --> 0:01:51.560 the thing about having a key is, UM, you have 0:01:51.760 --> 0:01:54.480 to like go out and do stuff so you can 0:01:54.600 --> 0:01:57.360 later talk about it. And that's going to be really 0:01:58.920 --> 0:02:01.240 a bit of it. Make it. I didn't say it. 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:02.760 I wasn't gonna be the one to say it, but 0:02:02.800 --> 0:02:05.440 you hope that you it was implied because it wasn't fled. 0:02:05.480 --> 0:02:08.440 It wasn't fling. But like I, thankfully, thankfully, I've had 0:02:08.440 --> 0:02:12.799 a very eventful week emotionally saying saying I And we're 0:02:12.840 --> 0:02:15.120 also in UM. This is usually the time when I 0:02:15.120 --> 0:02:18.560 would be in therapy. So I'm going to use this 0:02:18.639 --> 0:02:21.920 as an excuse to um, you know, pour out personally 0:02:21.960 --> 0:02:25.080 details for thousands of people to listen. Yes, I'm happy 0:02:25.200 --> 0:02:28.440 to be your therapist. This is a lovely update in 0:02:28.480 --> 0:02:31.600 our relationship. Can we talk about the power of adderall 0:02:31.760 --> 0:02:35.480 because so I'm trying to find a psychiatrist because like 0:02:35.520 --> 0:02:38.320 I've been feeling very unfocused. I'm working on a book 0:02:38.400 --> 0:02:42.799 right now, and I need an adderall prescription. Hopefully none 0:02:42.840 --> 0:02:46.000 of my potential psychiatrists are listening to this podcast, and 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:51.760 we'll know that. I've been getting m P and France 0:02:51.840 --> 0:02:56.720 to give me uh samples, a sample sample, And the 0:02:56.720 --> 0:03:00.800 other day I slammed an adderall. And when I tell you, 0:03:01.040 --> 0:03:04.440 I have never felt I mean obviously like I've used 0:03:04.480 --> 0:03:08.800 adderall before. I by vans like everything, but I forgot 0:03:08.960 --> 0:03:11.880 just the power of like when you have something you 0:03:11.960 --> 0:03:16.320 need to get done, taking an adderall and just like 0:03:16.480 --> 0:03:20.480 sitting down and just fucking blowing through it and knowing 0:03:20.480 --> 0:03:22.560 the whole time that you were a genius. Genius. No 0:03:22.600 --> 0:03:25.920 one in the world is more creatively talented than I was. 0:03:26.280 --> 0:03:28.239 I was like, right, I was writing a couple of 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:30.520 chapters of the book I'm working on, and as I 0:03:30.560 --> 0:03:33.840 was writing, I was like speaking it and like typing 0:03:33.880 --> 0:03:37.320 the words. That's like a good process for me. And 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:39.680 when I would finish a chapter, I would like read 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:41.960 it all back and I'd be like, oh my god, 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:46.840 you are fucking Joan Didian, you are jk rowling like 0:03:47.080 --> 0:03:50.240 you are. It isn't it amazing when you use adderall 0:03:50.280 --> 0:03:52.960 for it's like defined purpose as opposed to, you know, 0:03:53.040 --> 0:03:57.160 recreationally like snorting it at parties. Well, the first time, 0:03:57.200 --> 0:03:59.560 the first time I ever did adderall was also the 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:04.200 first I ever did cocaine, which you chicely hate. I 0:04:04.240 --> 0:04:06.480 hate cocaine, But the first time I ever did both 0:04:06.520 --> 0:04:09.480 of them. I was in college and there was this 0:04:09.720 --> 0:04:12.480 kid I went to school with who did have an 0:04:12.480 --> 0:04:15.880 overdose our first semester of college. He survived, but one 0:04:15.960 --> 0:04:18.080 night he just like came over to my dorm room. 0:04:18.120 --> 0:04:19.760 We lived across the hall from each other. It was like, 0:04:20.000 --> 0:04:23.080 do you want to do cocaine? And I was like, okay, 0:04:23.560 --> 0:04:27.279 I've never done it before. And so we did a 0:04:27.279 --> 0:04:30.640 bunch of lines of cocaine and mixed with adderall, and 0:04:30.680 --> 0:04:34.560 then he put on these ruby slipper platform shoes that 0:04:34.640 --> 0:04:37.599 he had and we just walked around the block that 0:04:37.640 --> 0:04:42.839 our dorm was on for like six hours. Oh my god, 0:04:43.120 --> 0:04:45.880 that is honestly, that makes me nervous. I I I 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:48.599 don't even know the first time I took adderall. It 0:04:48.640 --> 0:04:51.520 was actually my prescription adderall, so I don't have like 0:04:51.560 --> 0:04:54.000 a kind of crazy story, but I'm trying to think 0:04:54.080 --> 0:04:56.080 up the first time I did cocaine, I did feel 0:04:56.080 --> 0:04:58.640 like my heart was going to explode, which I also 0:04:59.000 --> 0:05:04.960 the summer Out for Local original recipe existed when it 0:05:05.000 --> 0:05:08.800 was when it was like before before they literally had 0:05:08.839 --> 0:05:11.560 to change the formula because it was getting people like 0:05:11.640 --> 0:05:14.480 too drunk into hype. My friends and I used to 0:05:14.480 --> 0:05:18.120 like slam to four locals into an eight ball of 0:05:18.160 --> 0:05:22.160 cocaine just to like go out or just like hang 0:05:22.200 --> 0:05:24.360 out and like talk. And you know when you do that, 0:05:24.400 --> 0:05:26.839 like that cocaine talk where you're like, oh my god, 0:05:26.839 --> 0:05:30.000 I love you. See, we are the best friends in 0:05:30.040 --> 0:05:34.280 the world. We're gonna be friends until our nine You 0:05:34.720 --> 0:05:38.400 are my sister Molly talk. But also a little coke talk. 0:05:38.440 --> 0:05:41.160 I guess it's it's fast talk. It's fast talking. You're 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:45.320 just like exchanging ideas very fear ferociously, like sitting in 0:05:45.360 --> 0:05:49.480 someone's bedroom lit by a single like lamp and just 0:05:49.760 --> 0:05:53.680 talking about like rolling in the deep which would just 0:05:53.800 --> 0:05:56.520 come out um and talking about it for like eight hours. 0:05:56.600 --> 0:05:58.880 I think the first time I ever did coke was 0:05:59.320 --> 0:06:01.480 at the Diamond Tor shoe and they used to do 0:06:01.520 --> 0:06:05.200 this amazing plub kid party that I can't remember the name. Yes, 0:06:05.240 --> 0:06:07.919 pretty ugly. That was, like, I mean, this is back 0:06:08.000 --> 0:06:11.120 when I really was I did count myself amongst a 0:06:11.160 --> 0:06:15.040 class of men who date men um and that really 0:06:15.080 --> 0:06:17.760 it really was like a fucking men party, but they 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:20.080 were at least like clubs. That was also when I 0:06:20.160 --> 0:06:24.200 counted myself as a class of men. Yes, not multile 0:06:24.279 --> 0:06:29.640 not multi level marketing schemes, but mm um yeah, but 0:06:29.760 --> 0:06:32.719 I I I think I remember really loving that party 0:06:32.720 --> 0:06:34.760 because you know, we got to turn looks and like that. 0:06:34.839 --> 0:06:37.240 The looks were like really really good. But I think 0:06:37.320 --> 0:06:39.200 the venue is no longer called the Diamond Horseshoe. It's 0:06:39.200 --> 0:06:47.119 called like the Samsung Galaxy Arena or something stupid like 0:06:44.720 --> 0:06:50.680 the Yeah, every iconic venue is slowly going to be 0:06:50.760 --> 0:06:53.839 turned into you know, cryptocurrency dot com or whatever. Like 0:06:53.880 --> 0:06:56.920 every single venue is getting like you know, they get 0:06:56.960 --> 0:06:59.880 bought by a corporation with a really ugly name that 0:07:00.000 --> 0:07:01.280 you don't want to have to say all the time 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:04.159 when you say meet me at the zok doc you 0:07:04.200 --> 0:07:06.640 know bar or whatever. I mean, that's why nightlife has 0:07:06.720 --> 0:07:09.120 changed so much, because like At the time when I 0:07:09.160 --> 0:07:12.240 was working in nightlife and was throwing parties, it was 0:07:12.280 --> 0:07:14.160 a time when there were a lot of venues and 0:07:14.200 --> 0:07:17.000 there were all these d i y spaces that you 0:07:17.040 --> 0:07:20.200 could rent for a night if you like had you know, 0:07:20.280 --> 0:07:23.000 a couple of thousand dollars and you could throw like 0:07:23.120 --> 0:07:28.040 a disgusting you know, queer rave at. And now like 0:07:28.160 --> 0:07:30.840 if you want to throw parties on that scale, like 0:07:30.920 --> 0:07:34.520 they have to be a level of like corpora tized. Yeah, 0:07:34.560 --> 0:07:38.440 and exactly it's and people getting paid, like like club 0:07:38.520 --> 0:07:41.520 kids like submitting W two's to get paid. And let 0:07:41.520 --> 0:07:44.800 me tell you, getting club kids to submit W two's, 0:07:45.160 --> 0:07:48.040 I can tell you from experience impossible. Getting a drag 0:07:48.120 --> 0:07:51.320 queen to fill out one single form. You might as 0:07:51.320 --> 0:07:53.239 well like she might as well be dead. Like it's 0:07:53.320 --> 0:07:55.320 it's not going to happen for you, Um, but that 0:07:55.520 --> 0:07:58.640 is it really does. That's something that really sucks about nightlife, 0:07:58.880 --> 0:08:03.040 the gentrification of nightlife, the kind of collapse of financial 0:08:03.080 --> 0:08:06.160 infrastructure and nightlife is like in order to have like 0:08:06.200 --> 0:08:10.000 a really successful party, it has to either cater to 0:08:10.520 --> 0:08:15.480 white men or charge you know, thirty five dollars to enter. 0:08:15.760 --> 0:08:18.360 And it's and that sucks because like night let people 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:20.560 in night life deserve to make a living. This deserves 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:23.320 to be a viable job, and everyone gets should be 0:08:23.320 --> 0:08:26.960 paid their due um, except for like the scammers and 0:08:26.960 --> 0:08:30.080 the abusers, of which in nightlife there are many um. 0:08:30.200 --> 0:08:32.040 But like I I just I don't know. It makes 0:08:32.040 --> 0:08:35.880 me depressed sometimes. Yeah, it really does come down to 0:08:36.040 --> 0:08:45.320 like who has the ability to fund space? And I 0:08:45.320 --> 0:08:49.719 guess at the time when I was throwing parties, it 0:08:49.800 --> 0:08:52.199 was just like a little easier to make that happen. 0:08:52.600 --> 0:08:54.680 But also when I think about it, like the people 0:08:54.720 --> 0:08:58.760 who were like renting venues and like did it because 0:08:58.800 --> 0:09:00.640 they had some kind of top at all, or like 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:03.520 some kind of hustle. Because there weren't a lot of 0:09:03.559 --> 0:09:06.400 like permanent venues. There was the spectrum, which you know, 0:09:06.480 --> 0:09:09.560 like r I P went through, went through so many iterations. 0:09:10.120 --> 0:09:11.920 Actually I was gonna say, I said rest in peace, 0:09:11.920 --> 0:09:14.040 but it's really more rest in chaos like that that 0:09:14.920 --> 0:09:17.080 unless you're doing it at a really big scale or 0:09:17.160 --> 0:09:19.280 like has some kind of like backers or whatever, it's 0:09:19.400 --> 0:09:21.640 really hard to make money and night I mean trying 0:09:21.640 --> 0:09:24.560 to do gorgeous, gorgeous this party in l A, which 0:09:24.600 --> 0:09:26.760 is by the way, on the tenth at the Resident 0:09:26.800 --> 0:09:29.480 in downtown Los Angeles, you can get tickets, you know 0:09:30.240 --> 0:09:33.440 if you just check out my social Like this party, 0:09:33.679 --> 0:09:36.560 it involves so much planning from the four of us, UM, DJ, 0:09:36.679 --> 0:09:40.480 Louis La la Omar and myself, and yet like we 0:09:40.720 --> 0:09:44.200 are barely breaking even because we want to pay talent 0:09:44.280 --> 0:09:46.040 and we want to pay hosts, like everyone wants to 0:09:46.040 --> 0:09:49.960 be paid, And I fucking hate parties that don't pay people, 0:09:50.240 --> 0:09:53.360 Like there are still, especially in West Hollywood, parties that 0:09:53.400 --> 0:09:57.160 are like literally not paying hosts, being like you get 0:09:57.200 --> 0:09:59.240 to drink tickets and your name on a poster and 0:09:59.240 --> 0:10:02.840 that's that. And it's like it's like that is that's gross. 0:10:02.960 --> 0:10:06.120 That's gross, I know, And that hasn't changed since I 0:10:06.160 --> 0:10:09.720 was working a nightlife and I started, like I started 0:10:09.720 --> 0:10:12.960 throwing parties ten years ago. Yeah, I love the Poppy 0:10:13.040 --> 0:10:15.240 Juice model because I think when I hosted like a 0:10:15.240 --> 0:10:18.800 few prides ago, they paid me I think like three 0:10:18.920 --> 0:10:22.040 hundred dollars, which is like a lot for a host 0:10:22.080 --> 0:10:24.480 in my opinion, But and also like they emailed me 0:10:24.520 --> 0:10:27.079 and they were like, you know, you don't have any responsibilities, 0:10:27.120 --> 0:10:29.480 like here's the poster assets, but like you don't have 0:10:29.559 --> 0:10:32.360 to like bring twenty people. We just want you to 0:10:32.360 --> 0:10:35.120 have fun, Like your job is to show up and 0:10:35.200 --> 0:10:38.319 have fun, and like you know, like bringing people thing. 0:10:38.559 --> 0:10:41.520 The first party I ever hosted, we used to get 0:10:41.600 --> 0:10:46.320 paid per head of people scam scan. This is an 0:10:46.400 --> 0:10:52.200 m l M MLM and MLM Lally, there were nights 0:10:52.200 --> 0:10:55.720 when I like, I only brought to people and you know, 0:10:55.800 --> 0:11:00.240 so I would make like like or what I where 0:11:00.240 --> 0:11:02.840 it was. I remember one nay I hosted this Susanne 0:11:02.840 --> 0:11:06.520 barsh party and I was there for literally forty five minutes, 0:11:06.880 --> 0:11:08.360 and then I like went to her. I was like 0:11:08.600 --> 0:11:10.680 because I had another party that I had to work 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:12.480 that night, and I was like, hey, babe, like I 0:11:12.520 --> 0:11:13.959 have to go, and she was like, oh hold on, 0:11:14.120 --> 0:11:16.120 let me let me write you a check. And then 0:11:16.160 --> 0:11:18.679 she had her assistant in the middle of the dance sport. 0:11:18.880 --> 0:11:21.600 She wrote me a check on her assistance back and 0:11:21.640 --> 0:11:24.480 gave it to me, And I made I made more 0:11:24.679 --> 0:11:26.760 in like forty five minutes of being that party that 0:11:26.880 --> 0:11:28.640 I did like in a week at my full time 0:11:28.679 --> 0:11:31.959 office job. That is iconic. That is like I love 0:11:32.000 --> 0:11:34.400 Susanne bar so much. Um that reminds me of the 0:11:34.559 --> 0:11:38.600 SNL sketch Checks, you know with Sandra and Oh my God, 0:11:39.880 --> 0:11:42.599 and it's written by Bowen and Julio. Is one of 0:11:42.640 --> 0:11:46.920 the funniest SNL sketches of all times. Like Checks, Well, 0:11:46.960 --> 0:11:49.440 Susanne barsh is very they never speak of this again. 0:11:49.559 --> 0:11:52.439 She said she still pays everyone by check. She has 0:11:52.480 --> 0:11:55.079 an a o L email address. Of course, she lives 0:11:55.080 --> 0:11:57.880 at the Chelsea Hotel. Like that is the only person 0:11:58.440 --> 0:12:01.080 to this day to live the Chelsea Hotel because it 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:03.280 used to be like an artist residency where a lot 0:12:03.320 --> 0:12:06.240 of different kind of long types of people like maple 0:12:06.280 --> 0:12:11.679 Thorpe and Um Patty Smith. I actually UM had like 0:12:12.040 --> 0:12:16.160 an affair with someone who by affair, I mean like 0:12:16.520 --> 0:12:19.240 I picked someone up at Nowhere Bar and like spend 0:12:19.280 --> 0:12:21.439 a night with him. But that's an affair, that's a 0:12:21.480 --> 0:12:24.920 Brooklyn affair. Yeah, he was in town, like he was 0:12:24.960 --> 0:12:27.679 a tourist and he was staying at the Chelsea Hotel. 0:12:28.520 --> 0:12:31.240 And this was right after the summer that I read 0:12:31.320 --> 0:12:35.000 Just Kids. It was like such a quintessential New York 0:12:35.000 --> 0:12:38.199 experience book is so perfect it is, I like picked 0:12:38.240 --> 0:12:41.000 this guy up, we went and got pizza and went 0:12:41.000 --> 0:12:43.520 back to the Chelsea Hotel and fucked all night, and 0:12:43.559 --> 0:12:47.440 I was like, I am Patty Smith, I am Robert Thorpe, 0:12:47.920 --> 0:12:50.280 I am all I am Well oh my god, Okay, wait, 0:12:50.320 --> 0:12:52.720 you just dug up so much for me. I used 0:12:52.760 --> 0:12:55.840 to host this other party at Beauty and Essex. Do 0:12:55.880 --> 0:12:58.920 you remember that place? It's like I used to live 0:12:58.920 --> 0:13:01.360 her on the corner front, so non non New Yorkers. 0:13:01.360 --> 0:13:04.520 Beauty and Essex is a speak easy style um bar 0:13:04.920 --> 0:13:09.200 wherein you go through an instrument repair shop to a 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:11.960 secret kind of bar that's like covered in red velvet. 0:13:11.960 --> 0:13:14.440 It's very sexy and sleep but it's also like garbage. 0:13:14.440 --> 0:13:17.800 And the worst people in Manhattan thrive in Beauty and Essex. 0:13:18.160 --> 0:13:21.000 And I would ascend this velvet staircase pastor rope if 0:13:21.040 --> 0:13:23.000 you like, you know, said the name Fran at the door, 0:13:23.040 --> 0:13:25.000 and I remember I felt like so sheet. But it 0:13:25.040 --> 0:13:28.480 was all produced by Michael, who's this like cereal like 0:13:28.880 --> 0:13:32.600 horrible person. Honestly, a lot of party promoters are horrible people, 0:13:32.640 --> 0:13:34.960 Like I mean not to name drop people. Actually we 0:13:34.960 --> 0:13:37.080 can just we can. We can bleep it, but we'll 0:13:37.080 --> 0:13:52.160 bliep it up. You do start feeling when you work 0:13:52.280 --> 0:13:55.840 enough of those parties that like you, like you understand 0:13:56.040 --> 0:14:00.280 that you are there to provide atmosphere for the people 0:14:00.320 --> 0:14:03.600 who were actually paying to be there, who are paying 0:14:03.679 --> 0:14:06.520 you to be there, and there is a very fine 0:14:06.600 --> 0:14:10.480 line of feeling very valued and very disposable. Like I mean, 0:14:10.480 --> 0:14:13.600 this is like a like totally stupid whatever example. But 0:14:14.000 --> 0:14:17.000 at Holy Mountain, the Lady Fag party that I hosted, 0:14:17.080 --> 0:14:19.280 like from the beginning of it, I don't know if 0:14:19.280 --> 0:14:22.120 you ever went, but it was at Sleep and in 0:14:22.160 --> 0:14:26.080 the main room, the Obsidian Room City, and there was 0:14:26.120 --> 0:14:28.760 that booth in the back that like for the whole 0:14:28.760 --> 0:14:32.080 maybe like first year, was where all the hosts hung 0:14:32.080 --> 0:14:34.080 out on that floor, you know, and it felt very 0:14:34.200 --> 0:14:38.760 like we were in there, like feeling fabulous, looking down 0:14:38.760 --> 0:14:41.440 on everybody and like would do drugs in there and 0:14:41.480 --> 0:14:45.920 like whatever. And then there was one night where Erica 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:51.080 Jane and we got kicked and we got kicked out 0:14:51.080 --> 0:14:53.960 of the booth. And then from then on it was 0:14:54.040 --> 0:14:57.080 like very clear that that booth was for actual v 0:14:57.160 --> 0:14:59.680 i p s and not to the people who were 0:14:59.680 --> 0:15:03.480 worked the part that fucking sucks, and that honestly is 0:15:03.520 --> 0:15:07.160 a testament to how ugly queer spaces can be when 0:15:07.200 --> 0:15:11.040 they prioritize people based on class or eliteness and not 0:15:11.120 --> 0:15:14.640 actually usually people were like coming in, we're coming into 0:15:14.680 --> 0:15:17.560 like do like a little Safari moment where they're seeing 0:15:17.560 --> 0:15:20.680 the sights for the night. That booth at Holy Mountain 0:15:21.320 --> 0:15:25.880 ended one of my relationships literally, yes, how so so 0:15:26.120 --> 0:15:29.120 I dated this ballet dancer briefly. He is, unfortunately one 0:15:29.240 --> 0:15:32.120 of I think six ballet dancers I have dated or 0:15:32.160 --> 0:15:35.160 hooked up, which is honestly, like that needs to be 0:15:35.360 --> 0:15:37.600 I'm investigated. I mean, it's just it's just that I 0:15:37.640 --> 0:15:41.920 like pretty pretty girls. I love bone structure and huge thighs. 0:15:42.200 --> 0:15:46.120 But anyways, this guy was like he was rich, That's 0:15:46.120 --> 0:15:49.160 what I'll say. He was rich. He was young, so 0:15:49.400 --> 0:15:51.520 he was a brat. But he was hot and a 0:15:51.560 --> 0:15:54.160 ballet dancer, so I didn't care. And one time I 0:15:54.200 --> 0:15:56.000 was like, let's go to Holy Mountain UM. But we 0:15:56.040 --> 0:15:58.360 didn't go together for whatever reason I can't remember. I 0:15:58.400 --> 0:16:01.840 think he was coming with friends and I wasn't hosting. 0:16:02.080 --> 0:16:05.840 But I had been invited to like sit a mandelaport's 0:16:05.920 --> 0:16:08.400 table in the booth or whatever, the area where you 0:16:08.400 --> 0:16:10.400 like look down on the rest of the venue, and 0:16:10.440 --> 0:16:13.920 so when this guy came, I was already in the 0:16:13.920 --> 0:16:16.000 booth and looking down to people, and I texted him. 0:16:16.040 --> 0:16:17.600 I was like, come up to the booth, come up 0:16:17.600 --> 0:16:19.720 to the booth, like let's hang, let's let's drink, and 0:16:19.760 --> 0:16:21.760 blah blah blah. And I was very in my jug 0:16:22.240 --> 0:16:25.960 and he never ever came up at any point like 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:28.120 I would have been able to let him in. And 0:16:28.160 --> 0:16:30.240 I was like, wait, what's going on? And I was 0:16:30.280 --> 0:16:32.560 like should I go down and find him? Like I 0:16:32.600 --> 0:16:35.000 don't really, he wasn't really texting me back, and like 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:38.680 when I finally like met up with him, I think 0:16:38.680 --> 0:16:40.880 he was like I'm leaving and I was like what. 0:16:40.960 --> 0:16:43.080 And so we went outside and proceeded to have like 0:16:43.120 --> 0:16:49.280 a cigarette infused argument about yes, there out outside the 0:16:49.280 --> 0:16:51.640 barber girl. We were both tourists, which is like a 0:16:51.720 --> 0:16:54.480 key component of like why this didn't work out, And 0:16:55.120 --> 0:16:56.920 he was like you were up there in the booth 0:16:56.960 --> 0:16:59.520 like fully just like in your and like you just 0:16:59.560 --> 0:17:01.480 think you're better than everyone else. And it was such 0:17:01.520 --> 0:17:03.840 a power play and like I felt it like blah blah, 0:17:03.880 --> 0:17:06.719 And I was like a power play, mama, Like how 0:17:06.760 --> 0:17:10.280 insecure are you? That also mean it kind of was. 0:17:10.920 --> 0:17:14.960 It's not power play to say come join me, but 0:17:15.119 --> 0:17:17.600 they do. But I'm sure there was part of it 0:17:17.640 --> 0:17:22.080 that was if you got him to see you in 0:17:22.119 --> 0:17:26.960 that context of like but being being a special person 0:17:27.680 --> 0:17:30.840 in this space. But of course I do like why, 0:17:31.040 --> 0:17:33.760 like what I need to feel bad at? I totally 0:17:33.760 --> 0:17:36.280 get that there was there was. There was nothing more 0:17:36.280 --> 0:17:41.920 exhilarating to me than arriving at a party, walking past 0:17:42.119 --> 0:17:45.679 the line, waiting to get inside, going up to the 0:17:45.720 --> 0:17:49.840 door person and saying Hi, I'm on the list, or 0:17:49.920 --> 0:17:53.399 like hi, I'm hosting tonight, or like working. It's the 0:17:53.400 --> 0:17:56.320 best feeling ever. I mean, the worst feeling ever is 0:17:56.359 --> 0:17:59.040 when you do that and your name isn't on the list, 0:17:59.240 --> 0:18:02.200 oh my, and you have to either like stand there 0:18:02.240 --> 0:18:06.200 and wait while they like confirm with someone or get 0:18:06.240 --> 0:18:08.479 turned away, which I mean I would never has not 0:18:08.720 --> 0:18:10.440 has not happened to me. I would never take no 0:18:10.560 --> 0:18:12.920 for an answer. I would just argue until their resistance 0:18:13.000 --> 0:18:15.919 was weekend like I although that did happen to me 0:18:16.000 --> 0:18:18.520 one time, but it was in Berlin. There was this 0:18:18.520 --> 0:18:20.280 this party that I was going to with a bunch 0:18:20.320 --> 0:18:24.480 of locals, and they all got in because they were 0:18:24.560 --> 0:18:27.520 friends with the door girl and I because I was 0:18:27.560 --> 0:18:29.680 like the tourist I did, I like didn't know them well. 0:18:29.720 --> 0:18:31.600 I like I had met them through friends of friends. 0:18:32.000 --> 0:18:35.520 And Berlin is very like not that kind of city, 0:18:35.600 --> 0:18:38.680 Like they make people wait and so they all got 0:18:38.760 --> 0:18:42.000 in and I had to wait in line, and like 0:18:42.119 --> 0:18:44.160 I eventually got to cut the line, but I did 0:18:44.200 --> 0:18:47.399 wait for like two hours. I mean everyone else waited 0:18:47.440 --> 0:18:53.240 for like five hours. But it was humiliated. I it 0:18:53.359 --> 0:18:57.200 reminds me, honestly of the Madonna party at the Boom 0:18:57.200 --> 0:18:59.520 Moon Room that kicked off Pride last summer, which is 0:18:59.560 --> 0:19:02.320 too long of a story for me to tell now, 0:19:02.359 --> 0:19:04.080 but maybe I'll tell it for a future for a 0:19:04.080 --> 0:19:06.680 future key, because I do actually have to tell you 0:19:06.720 --> 0:19:08.560 about what I did last night and why I am 0:19:08.840 --> 0:19:11.840 severely hungover right now. Okay, wait, I do want it. 0:19:11.920 --> 0:19:15.040 One thing though, is when you are working the door, 0:19:15.240 --> 0:19:18.200 which I have done a couple of time's never done 0:19:18.240 --> 0:19:22.440 that before. I used to fill in for um for 0:19:22.480 --> 0:19:26.800 Amy at the door Westgate occasionally, and the one night 0:19:26.840 --> 0:19:29.520 I did was the night that is Zalia Banks performed 0:19:29.520 --> 0:19:33.080 at Westgate. So the worst people on the planet are kind, 0:19:33.480 --> 0:19:36.399 but but a girl That night was the night I 0:19:36.480 --> 0:19:41.080 was taking bribes to get in and I made on 0:19:41.200 --> 0:19:43.160 top of what I was getting paid to work the door, 0:19:43.600 --> 0:19:46.679 I made like four hundred dollars that in bribes the 0:19:46.720 --> 0:19:49.040 people who just wanted to get in and cut the line. 0:19:49.160 --> 0:19:51.720 That's iconic. That's and then I and then I got 0:19:51.760 --> 0:19:54.920 to like go upstairs to the booth and watch Zonias. 0:19:55.119 --> 0:19:58.960 What's a good bribe? Like twenty bucks? Fifty bucks? Um? 0:19:58.960 --> 0:20:01.760 Fifty was like the baseline. That's what I was gonna say. 0:20:01.800 --> 0:20:05.639 I feel like it would have to be fifty um. Okay, um, 0:20:05.680 --> 0:20:09.280 that is iconic. Azially Banks does draw some really some 0:20:09.560 --> 0:20:13.919 really um terrifying crowds. As someone who's been in multiple 0:20:13.960 --> 0:20:17.280 Assally Banks crowds before. Um, but I have to tell you, Okay, 0:20:17.320 --> 0:20:19.359 so last night I went to this coach party which 0:20:19.359 --> 0:20:21.960 was at the Monster. Do you remember the Monster? Yes, 0:20:22.119 --> 0:20:25.480 I haven't really have spent a few quite a few 0:20:25.760 --> 0:20:29.640 um nights that I would I would rather forget. It's 0:20:29.640 --> 0:20:32.040 a it's a really I really love it, but it 0:20:32.119 --> 0:20:36.879 is kind of a lost dingy gay bar. In the 0:20:36.960 --> 0:20:39.080 last time I was like the Monster was when I 0:20:39.240 --> 0:20:45.920 performed the Cell Blocked Tango from Chicago with Charlene Slater, 0:20:46.080 --> 0:20:50.080 g S. Dring and um Amber Alert and a couple 0:20:50.160 --> 0:20:53.200 other girls. That sounds we had like we had done 0:20:53.200 --> 0:20:56.520 it one night at Straight Acting, I think, and then 0:20:56.600 --> 0:20:59.640 like kind of toward it around a few different parties. 0:21:00.680 --> 0:21:03.639 We did it at the Monster. We did it at 0:21:03.680 --> 0:21:09.280 the party that Frankie Sharp used to throw at the Jane. Yeah, anyway, 0:21:09.520 --> 0:21:14.440 that's so wait, wait, that's so funny. I um, I wait, 0:21:14.520 --> 0:21:17.080 I have to know that, I think video if I 0:21:17.280 --> 0:21:19.560 still have it on my phone, I will send it. Okay, 0:21:19.560 --> 0:21:22.800 I'm dying to see. I have to know where you pop? 0:21:22.880 --> 0:21:26.480 Were you cioa, where you lipshits? I don't actually remember, Rose, 0:21:26.560 --> 0:21:29.679 how can you not remember? I don't know, but I 0:21:29.720 --> 0:21:32.240 will I will. I will find it and send it 0:21:32.280 --> 0:21:34.520 to you. And then he ran into my knife. That 0:21:34.520 --> 0:21:36.840 would be you, that's my guess. No, I don't think 0:21:36.880 --> 0:21:40.000 that was me. I think I was. I was. I 0:21:40.040 --> 0:21:46.400 was not Velma because that was shar obviously. M Well, 0:21:46.400 --> 0:21:47.920 we'll figure it out, we'll figure it out. We'll figure 0:21:47.920 --> 0:21:50.919 it out. Um okay, like so yeah, coach had it. 0:21:50.920 --> 0:21:53.440 It was like in collaboration with the Monster, which I 0:21:53.480 --> 0:21:56.639 think is cool. It's like a historic queer bar. And 0:21:57.480 --> 0:22:01.359 Daniel Rasmussen, who did the pr for this, like pulled 0:22:01.760 --> 0:22:06.320 the most amazing crowd for this coach party, and like I, I, 0:22:06.520 --> 0:22:08.560