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Speaker 1: Wind Down with Jane Kramer and I've Heeart Radio podcast.

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Speaker 2: How's the stress level going by this week? Feeling good

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Speaker 2: about things?

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Speaker 3: My stress levels are actually good because I made the

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Speaker 3: decision this week, Yeah, about what not take life too seriously.

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Speaker 1: I feel like you've done so, like you're you feel different,

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Speaker 1: you feel like you feel lighter. Well, just make it

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Speaker 1: you seem lighter. I don't know how you feel.

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Speaker 3: A conscious decision just to just not let things affect

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Speaker 3: me so much, like comments, conversations, decisions. If things don't

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Speaker 3: go quite as I want them to plan them, then

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Speaker 3: it's fine. There's a reason for it. So I've just

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Speaker 3: kind of had to not had to be chosen to

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Speaker 3: take a step back and just relax a little bit,

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Speaker 3: not relax as and get through less work, or but

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Speaker 3: just be like, stop taking everything so so serious all

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Speaker 3: the time, because it doesn't do me any good. I

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Speaker 3: take things so seriously, I become irritable, defensive, reactive. But

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Speaker 3: as if I just speak to myself and be like, yeah,

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Speaker 3: your life's good things are happening.

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Speaker 1: Just slow down, right, do you does it? Do you

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Speaker 1: feel a difference?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I do?

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Speaker 1: Actually yeah?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, smile more.

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Speaker 1: Again? Now just to defend you know, you a bit.

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Speaker 2: It's just you have you have so much that you're

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Speaker 2: doing and so much writing on certain things, and it's

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Speaker 2: it can feel hard, right.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, But I also become obsessed about things.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I do.

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Speaker 3: I have an obsessive nature, so I must do this,

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Speaker 3: I must do that, and and I forget to live essentially,

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Speaker 3: and it's not nice. It's not nice for the people

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Speaker 3: around you and the kids and Troy, and so it's just, yeah,

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Speaker 3: just need to relax a little bit more and not

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Speaker 3: take things so serious.

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Speaker 2: But I think too though you've had I mean maybe

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Speaker 2: you haven't, but in my mind it's it's almost like

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Speaker 2: I think when people go through that, it's like you're

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Speaker 2: the only person going through that, and you don't realize

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Speaker 2: other people that have stresses and pressure. And so when

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Speaker 2: I express something to the other day because I ended up,

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Speaker 2: you know, turning down two things, and then I started

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Speaker 2: to feel, oh my gosh, like.

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Speaker 1: What am I doing?

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Speaker 2: And then I'm like, I also have pressure too, and

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Speaker 2: I have those feelings and thoughts. And I don't know

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Speaker 2: if you sometimes because I try not to let everybody

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Speaker 2: else feel it in a way, so I bet I

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Speaker 2: feel like in that conversation you might have been able

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Speaker 2: to hear like it's not like I also have those

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Speaker 2: same feelings too, just I just expressed them differently.

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Speaker 3: So you'll probably find that this week I held you

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Speaker 3: a little bit more based on how my outlook was

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Speaker 3: or not.

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Speaker 2: What do you mean?

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Speaker 3: So because of how I decided to approach this week

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Speaker 3: with relaxing a little bit more and being a little

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Speaker 3: bit more fun than not taking things serious, then I

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Speaker 3: was in a better position to listen to you when

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Speaker 3: you want to discuss the things that you had said

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Speaker 3: no to and how you were feeling now.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, you're you're I think it's like that.

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Speaker 1: I think when you'll be your present.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, when you're an obsessive person, there's a there's unfortunately,

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Speaker 3: there's a selfish trait in there. What do you Sometimes

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Speaker 3: you think your problems are the.

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Speaker 1: Only problems, right, and they're not.

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Speaker 3: No, it's not, and it's it's not it's not a

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Speaker 3: good mindset to have, and it's not place a good

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Speaker 3: place to be in, which is why I needed to

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Speaker 3: kick up they asked to get out of.

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Speaker 2: Essentially, Oh, I'm glad, I'm happy for you. Then I

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Speaker 2: wonder question for you in relationships, because sometimes when people

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Speaker 2: aren't having sex, they might start to feel a little.

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Speaker 1: Frustrated.

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Speaker 2: Now, that has never really been our issue, but I

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Speaker 2: was reading something where they say sometimes in relationships, when

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Speaker 2: you're not getting your needs met, you start to get

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Speaker 2: a little more irritable, a little more annoyed. Maybe what

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Speaker 2: do you think the magic number is to being intimate

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Speaker 2: and having sex.

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Speaker 3: I think somewhere between two and three. I think two

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Speaker 3: is minimal and three is good.

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Speaker 1: A week or day I'm goodding, but a week a week, yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think I think that's healthy physically. Emotionally

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Speaker 3: there's a good number, but not quite the case for

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Speaker 3: a lot of relationships unfortunately.

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Speaker 2: Well, I think it's hard. You know, everyone's so busy,

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Speaker 2: especially if you have kids. Other factors into things. And

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Speaker 2: I mean we're in a stage now where when we

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Speaker 2: go to bed, I'm like, I'm tired. I just want

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Speaker 2: if it's if it's past a certain point, like I'm done,

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Speaker 2: I'm gone. Like if that's where it's like if we're

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Speaker 2: in I feel like you kind of know me now too.

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Speaker 2: If you don't get me on the front end of

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Speaker 2: the movie, you're not getting me on the back end

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Speaker 2: of the movie, which is not gonna happen.

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Speaker 1: I'm exhausted, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 3: You hear people get into you, hear couples that that

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Speaker 3: actually schedule sex into the lives.

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Speaker 2: But that's something that therapists say to do. If so

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Speaker 2: that you it's like a date, they sexy time.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, would you think that's intimate, that it's planned.

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Speaker 2: That I know someone that does that, So I can't

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Speaker 2: again that that works.

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Speaker 1: For them, you know, judgment on anyone.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, to me, I don't like that because to me,

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Speaker 2: it adds more pressure and then it takes the To me,

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Speaker 2: it adds more pressure scheduling, and it it makes it

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Speaker 2: a little less sexy. Okay, So that's just my personal

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Speaker 2: for me and how I operate. Yeah, but I know

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Speaker 2: for other people it can either be exciting that they

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Speaker 2: know every Monday is.

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Speaker 1: Monday, Monday Funday.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and then you know, for other people it's or

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Speaker 2: it might make them feel pressured.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, I don't think we.

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Speaker 2: I don't think we would ever get to a place

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Speaker 2: where we feel like we'd have to schedule sex.

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Speaker 3: No, how do you know when I want to sex you?

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Speaker 1: I always know?

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Speaker 2: How do you know, I feel like you'd have it

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Speaker 2: every day if you could.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, we have a very healthy sex life.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but I grateful for it, that's for sure.

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Speaker 1: You give me a look, I give you a look.

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Speaker 1: You give me a luck.

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Speaker 2: Like the memes that you see the gorillas or the monkeys,

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Speaker 1: Things that you send me. The memes the gorillas are

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Speaker 1: the best band.

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Speaker 2: Questions who plans the vacations? Do you both match up

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Speaker 2: on what you like your vacation to look like?

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Speaker 3: That's a good question because a lot of a lot

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Speaker 3: of our vacations are we've gone because they come through

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Speaker 3: being offered, don't they.

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Speaker 2: Well, I see where there are places that are offering

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Speaker 2: three places.

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Speaker 3: And then we make a decision based decision. Yeah, I

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Speaker 3: think we're both pretty similar when it comes to the

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Speaker 3: vacation needs only.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I planned our honeymoon honeyon. I planned

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Speaker 2: our year wedding anniversary trip that's coming up. Very excited

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Speaker 2: about that, but I wanted to do that. I was

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Speaker 2: excited about that.

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Speaker 3: And do you want people to know that I know?

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah he knows now, Yeah, I know that so fat.

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Speaker 3: I cannot wait. I think I think about it like

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Speaker 3: four times a day.

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Speaker 2: Ah, I just I cannot wait.

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Speaker 1: It's going to be so fun.

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Speaker 3: If people know who were going. No, not yet, let's

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Speaker 3: keep it a secret.

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Speaker 2: But I think it's fun because this vacation says like,

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Speaker 2: do you both and what you like your vacation to

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Speaker 2: look like? We have a wish list of all the

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Speaker 2: things that we want to do, and they're very similar.

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Speaker 2: It's not not one thing where it's like I don't

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Speaker 2: want to do this, but my partner does. Like we're

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Speaker 2: both open to trying things and having fun. And for this,

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Speaker 2: I don't want to just lay at a beach somewhere.

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Speaker 2: I want to I want us to where I think

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Speaker 2: And so this is right up that alley.

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Speaker 3: I think it was a place for lying on a beach.

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Speaker 1: Yes, for a couple of days February.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, And I think we're in agreement with that. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Like if that's what we're going for, then that's what

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: So I think we're good on the front end because

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Speaker 3: you hear a lot of people that go on vacational like, well,

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Speaker 3: I'm like, wow, how can you how can you not

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Speaker 3: you're doing. I find that that would be tough. Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 3: and a fine question. Who's the fun to apologize? And

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Speaker 1: Who's the first to apologize? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: And then this agreement probably do Yeah, yeah, thank you? Yeah,

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Speaker 3: both stubborn. You're less stubborn.

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Speaker 1: I've worked really hard to apologize first.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I would say you apologize bost. I think we

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Speaker 3: both have a hard tame apologizing, but we've got better

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Speaker 3: at managing it. Yeah, and actually, okay, I put myself

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the kind of our Our no rule is

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Speaker 2: in something it's alan's brought to the relationship where it's

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Speaker 2: flip it. If it's flipped, how would you feel? And

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Speaker 2: that's just been a really good not only reflection before

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Speaker 2: I do things, but just something I always think about

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Speaker 2: in just regular conversations what I would do prior to you.

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Speaker 2: I would never think to flip it, really never, But

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Speaker 2: there was no respect, you know, previously, so why would

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 2: When I when I didn't feel perspected. So with this situation,

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Speaker 2: I always go to flip it. How how do you feel?

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Speaker 2: What would I what would I want in this situation?

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Speaker 2: Would I be happy in this situation? And then but

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Speaker 2: I think it's interesting because I think when I ask

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Speaker 2: you to flip it, you have a harder time with that,

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Speaker 2: Like I will. I will look at what you say,

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Speaker 2: like flip it, and I'm like, okay, yeah I can.

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Speaker 2: I can totally see that. But when I tell you

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Speaker 2: to flip it, it's like, no, it only flips the

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Speaker 2: other way. It doesn't flip your way, sure or not.

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Speaker 3: It's like a coin that's got heads or tails. This

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Speaker 3: one's only got heads. Cliff it. No, don't see it,

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Speaker 3: cliff a game. Still don't see it?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's be flipped a few times to show you.

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Speaker 1: Do you agree or no?

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Speaker 3: Again, it goes back to me being a little bit

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Speaker 3: more stubborn. If you asked me to flip the situation

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Speaker 3: when I would I like to be in that situation,

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Speaker 3: then I'll probably have a few, if some butts before

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Speaker 3: I finally say, yeah, you're right, it's not good or

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Speaker 3: it is good or whatever the situation is at a time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's like it's you're then telling the person the

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Speaker 2: And listen, I have friends that have smacked their kids before.

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Speaker 2: I don't like it, which is why I don't react

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Speaker 3: It's been I think it's been a it's been a

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Speaker 2: when you are upset about maybe something at work, communicate

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Speaker 2: to your spouse because if not, they're going to you

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Speaker 2: will then bring it into the relationship with whatever mood

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Speaker 2: you're in and how then it's going to of course

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Speaker 2: really bad day at work today and this is kind

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Speaker 2: of where I'm at and what you did for me,

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Speaker 2: We're like, let's go for a run. You want to

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Speaker 2: go for a run, And I'm like, actually, yeah, like

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Speaker 2: I needed to get out and do that. But to

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Speaker 2: wrap up, I'm curious what would be your golden rule

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Speaker 2: for our marriage? I have one, if you want me

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Speaker 2: to go first, you okay? Mine would be to never say,

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Speaker 2: like I think it's really important in a golden rule

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Speaker 2: for marriages is to never say in a fight, I

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Speaker 2: don't want to be with you or I don't want

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Speaker 2: to do it be in this marriage anymore. I think

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Speaker 2: it's so important to not do that in marriages because

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Speaker 2: then it just kind of opens a can of well

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Speaker 2: does hea says he mean that? And then insecurity and

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Speaker 2: stuff like that. So I would be like, that would

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Speaker 2: be the golden rule for me and for I think

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Speaker 2: for a marriage too.

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Speaker 1: What do you think?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I agreed. And also with that question, that's kind

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Speaker 3: of a loaded question on what's the golden rule. I

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Speaker 3: think there's a few golden rules. I think the I

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Speaker 3: think it's something that we've always and I had a

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Speaker 3: foundation on since the since we met was it's not

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Speaker 3: always perfect. One of them has never been, but the

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Speaker 3: respect or is always It's never perfect because you get frustrated,

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Speaker 3: you get angry, and sometimes you can be a little

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Speaker 3: bit disrespectful. But I think their biggest thing has always

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Speaker 3: been a golden real is is loyalty and respect. I

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Speaker 3: think those times were swayed on the respect, but never

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Speaker 3: the loyalty. In respect. I mean like someone's stepped over

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Speaker 3: the line in an argument and said something mm hmm

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Speaker 3: that they probably shouldn't have said. I e me, not

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Speaker 3: so much, not so much as you. But I think

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Speaker 3: if you've always got trust and loyalty and a marriage,

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Speaker 3: then you will. You're with each other because you enjoy

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Speaker 3: each other's company, you make each other laugh and it's fun. Okay.

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Speaker 3: I think there's a lot of things that our relationship

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Speaker 3: can get through. I think a break of trust and loyalty,

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Speaker 3: it struggles and softens.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I would say another piece on that, always

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Speaker 2: act as if your partner's right next to you. Would

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Speaker 2: you do what you were about to do if your

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Speaker 2: partner was next to you? And that is a huge

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Speaker 2: golden rule as.

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Speaker 3: Well, especially when your own movie sets.

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Speaker 2: Please, I'm so good. Respect levels off the charts.

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Speaker 3: I know that, and that's why we're still here, loving

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Speaker 3: each other absolutely.

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Speaker 2: All right, guys, Well see you next week for another one.

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Speaker 2: Send us your questions in bye bye