Speaker 1: Before we get to your brand new second Date update. Today,
Speaker 1: it's Brook and Jeffrey and you did find the Second
Speaker 1: Date Update podcast. We gotta go back because we asked
Speaker 1: y'all on Wednesday for the weirdest, most ridiculous question you've
Speaker 1: ever been asked on a.
Speaker 2: First day, and I love some of the responses. Yes,
Speaker 2: what's one that we got?
Speaker 1: All right, I gotta read Matthews, who said, y'all asked,
Speaker 1: and I'm going to answer it.
Speaker 2: They asked which toe is your favorite? I'm cringing while
Speaker 2: typing this.
Speaker 3: I've never even thought of a favorite.
Speaker 2: I mean, isn't it obvious that it's a pinky?
Speaker 3: Help your balance?
Speaker 2: My pinkies are a little weird from running, so I
Speaker 2: might have.
Speaker 4: My sister has a weird that she's flipping you off.
Speaker 3: It's longer than the other one.
Speaker 1: I think we lost our gained listeners. Maybe we'll do
Speaker 1: that again next week, Thanks Matthew. Basically, we just normalized
Speaker 1: your weird question. Time to start your Friday with a
Speaker 1: brand new second Date update, and this one definitely has
Speaker 1: a new method for dating that hopefully can eliminate all
Speaker 1: the swiping in the endless chats. So we'll see if
Speaker 1: it works starts right now.
Speaker 3: The second date updated.
Speaker 5: If you ask me and Brook, you'll probably agree with this.
Speaker 5: The dating world needs more ultimatums.
Speaker 2: No, Jack, Yes, No, are not ever good.
Speaker 5: Ever, I think maybe we need them because the more
Speaker 5: listeners we talk to, everybody seems so indecisive, so wishy washy, like, oh,
Speaker 5: maybe i'll date her, or maybe that other hot girl,
Speaker 5: or maybe I'll just stick with my wife.
Speaker 3: I don't really know what.
Speaker 6: Here.
Speaker 5: Ultimatum suddenly sounding good?
Speaker 2: Yeah, they stick to your wife? Like, what is happening?
Speaker 3: Ultimating?
Speaker 5: That's why I appreciate somebody who's actually willing to lay
Speaker 5: all their cards down on the table and say this
Speaker 5: is it?
Speaker 3: Take it or leave it?
Speaker 5: Apparently that's how our listener, Dustin rolls ultimatum style. Well
Speaker 5: that's the vibe I got from his email, Dustin.
Speaker 3: Welcome to the show.
Speaker 7: Hey, how's it going, guys?
Speaker 1: Hey you sound like such a nice guy for being
Speaker 1: such a badasshole's amat a maker?
Speaker 5: Yeah, tell me if I was wrong, But it sounds
Speaker 5: like you like to play the dating game a little
Speaker 5: bit more straightforward.
Speaker 6: Yeah, totally, let's go, man, I mean I don't have
Speaker 6: that much time left. I'm not going to sit down
Speaker 6: and text all day.
Speaker 3: Oh I want to do?
Speaker 5: You do this?
Speaker 7: Here's my new role.
Speaker 6: Now.
Speaker 7: When I talk to people, it's like, if I don't
Speaker 7: meet up with them right away, it pretty much just
Speaker 7: kind of sizzles out.
Speaker 2: Okay, I mean I can see how that could happen.
Speaker 5: If you don't do that, you'll get strung along for
Speaker 5: weeks and months and maybe never even person.
Speaker 2: What is right away to you? What does that mean?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 6: I think like forty eight to seventy two hours, we
Speaker 6: should at least have like some kind of plan to
Speaker 6: hang out. But like if that plan's not established, and
Speaker 6: it's probably never gonna work out.
Speaker 3: Okay, that's actually.
Speaker 8: Kind of a rule.
Speaker 1: I kind of like that rule, like it's respecting everybody's time.
Speaker 5: Yeah, dating runs on deadlines, and so that's good. Jes
Speaker 5: you gave Jessica the dating deadline.
Speaker 7: Well, I don't know.
Speaker 6: She I ended up just getting her number and then
Speaker 6: I pretty much like kind of took the conversation elsewhere
Speaker 6: off the app and then started texting from there.
Speaker 1: I feel like that's an important step because otherwise the app,
Speaker 1: you don't open it, you know, you don't reply.
Speaker 2: I don't check this.
Speaker 5: So once it got off of the apps, how did
Speaker 5: you and Jessica vibe?
Speaker 6: She's really really funny, So she pretty much was just
Speaker 6: saying like, hey, one time, no chat.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay.
Speaker 2: Did you turn it into an in person date pretty quickly?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 6: We went out for pizza. I love pizza. Oh you
Speaker 6: want to know the crazy part about that?
Speaker 2: Yes, that's the only part I want to know.
Speaker 3: We'll start with the crazy part first. Start there.
Speaker 6: She looked really different from the photos that one on
Speaker 6: the profile.
Speaker 7: Different, not like a cat fish.
Speaker 6: I mean she was still like super cute, like for sure,
Speaker 6: but like different different, like different.
Speaker 1: Okay again, no, do you mean like she colored her
Speaker 1: hair a different.
Speaker 4: Color, maybe a full face tattoo that wasn't there before.
Speaker 7: No, nothing like that, but that would have been like
Speaker 7: totally cool.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 5: Overall though you liked what you saw in person.
Speaker 6: Yeah, she was cute. It was just different than what
Speaker 6: I expected. But could this be my perspective? A lot
Speaker 6: of the photos she had she was wearing sunglasses, so
Speaker 6: you could be misjudged through that.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, sunglasses now cover like seventy percent of the
Speaker 5: face they are, so now that we've covered the crazy eye.
Speaker 2: That was a crazy part.
Speaker 3: Now that we've.
Speaker 5: Covered all the crazy parts of the date, bring us
Speaker 5: to the boring, you know, mushy stuff.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, that's my favorite. Jose wants to know
Speaker 3: how the rest of the date went.
Speaker 6: Everything normal about the day, but then there was like
Speaker 6: this one part that was really.
Speaker 3: Weird, going back to crazy again.
Speaker 6: It wasn't like super crazy, but it was just like
Speaker 6: one of those another different things than I thought.
Speaker 2: Okay, what happened.
Speaker 6: Well, on her profile, like she talks about like pilates,
Speaker 6: and a bunch of like pilates stuff is on her
Speaker 6: profile a right, so I was kind of I thought
Speaker 6: that was kind of cool about her. But every time
Speaker 6: I would talk to her about pilates, I swear she
Speaker 6: would just kept redirecting the conversation into something else.
Speaker 2: Huh weird.
Speaker 1: So it's either like you no, it feels like she
Speaker 1: either lied on her bio or you're talking to a
Speaker 1: different person than what you're thinking.
Speaker 2: That's what I means.
Speaker 5: About alexis you put stuff in your profile that you
Speaker 5: don't actually care much about.
Speaker 3: It's more of like a I love sports.
Speaker 1: I do. Like she was a collegiate athlete, she's more
Speaker 1: athletic than you.
Speaker 5: Jack, But she also says that she enjoys baseball even
Speaker 5: though she thinks it has a half time.
Speaker 4: In enjoy half times the game, not halftime, after stretch
Speaker 4: the second inning.
Speaker 5: Jack, I'm just saying maybe she isn't fully into pilates
Speaker 5: as much as she claims.
Speaker 2: On easier prop to put on there.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I.
Speaker 1: Will say there is there is a phenomenon right now
Speaker 1: that if you aren't a die hard fan of something,
Speaker 1: you're not allowed to say that you like it.
Speaker 5: You know, how long has it been since you last
Speaker 5: spoke to Jessica.
Speaker 7: It's been like six days.
Speaker 2: Oh no, which is a long time.
Speaker 1: When you were moving so quick, you know, you had
Speaker 1: a pacing going, and it's dead.
Speaker 7: I don't understand because we both had such a great time.
Speaker 7: She said she had a great time. I had a
Speaker 7: great time.
Speaker 3: You know, let's try and keep the great times going.
Speaker 5: Come and we give this girl another ultimatum, saying, I
Speaker 5: am it's either go out with Dustin now or lose
Speaker 5: him forever.
Speaker 4: That's always the old.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's just yeah, it just sounds more scary if
Speaker 5: you say ultimatum, We're gonna come back and do it
Speaker 5: with your second date right after this.
Speaker 3: So hold on.
Speaker 5: Today's second date update begs the question can you fully
Speaker 5: trust what you see in someone's dating profile, because our
Speaker 5: listener Dustin met up with a woman from Bumble who
Speaker 5: looked a little different than her picture.
Speaker 2: Bad though, just different, Yeah.
Speaker 3: Like a good, good, different.
Speaker 5: And even though her bio talked about pilates a lot,
Speaker 5: she didn't really want to discuss it much on their date,
Speaker 5: which is.
Speaker 3: Kind of strange.
Speaker 5: But to be fair, my old dating profile said I'm Jewish,
Speaker 5: but any woman who met up with me would discover
Speaker 5: I'm not kosher and not good with money, so probably
Speaker 5: equally confusing.
Speaker 2: That's a really good point.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean you can't trust it fully from the
Speaker 5: dating profile. The good news is Dustin, despite the differences,
Speaker 5: really had a good time with her. It felt like
Speaker 5: they vibed in ways he hasn't in the two years
Speaker 5: that he has spent on this happ before.
Speaker 1: God, I really want this to work out for you,
Speaker 1: justin just because you have put in the time and
Speaker 1: the effort and you seem like a good guy.
Speaker 6: Yeah, thanks a lot, Brooke, I really do appreciate that
Speaker 6: about you.
Speaker 5: Yeah, Oh, you appreciate that she compliments you well her
Speaker 5: her fingers are crossed right now, and she said that, so.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you wanted to tell everybody everything.
Speaker 5: Okay, I feel like there is some part of Brook
Speaker 5: that really is rooting for you today, justin yes.
Speaker 1: I am. I think this is going to be a
Speaker 1: simple like miscommunication or something, you know, I.
Speaker 6: Mean, yeah, possibly, I mean, I don't know. As long
Speaker 6: as you guys get me another date.
Speaker 5: Yeah, all right, all right, Well, let's style Jessica right now.
Speaker 5: We'll see if she picks up and hopefully has a
Speaker 5: simple explanation for why she hasn't hit you back colin
Speaker 5: her right now, here we go.
Speaker 3: Huo, hey is this Jessica? Yeah, Hey, Jill.
Speaker 2: She's so cute.
Speaker 7: I know.
Speaker 5: It's so nice to talk to someone who's like positive
Speaker 5: and perky when we're talking to them. Because we're doing
Speaker 5: a second Date Update.
Speaker 3: Most of our listeners are like, who is this?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sorry?
Speaker 6: What? Yeah?
Speaker 5: Sorry, threw a lot at you. We're a radio show
Speaker 5: called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning, which you're on
Speaker 5: right now. Congratulations, Hi, okay, hi, and this segment is
Speaker 5: called second Date Update. I don't know if you've heard
Speaker 5: it before. But it's a thing where if somebody blows
Speaker 5: you off and you're not sure why, we can try
Speaker 5: to call that person for you to maybe figure out
Speaker 5: if there's a reason for it.
Speaker 8: Okay, I didn't blow anyone off.
Speaker 2: What Yeah, I mean, I guess I'm talking. She said sick.
Speaker 1: I mean he said six days. So maybe that's not
Speaker 1: blowing someone off to you. Maybe that's not enough time.
Speaker 5: Yeah, because six days ago you went out with a
Speaker 5: guy who, at least according to him, felt like you
Speaker 5: had a really good connection. Afterwards, he feels like you've
Speaker 5: been pulling away a little bit.
Speaker 3: His name is Dustin.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I forgot about that one. Huh.
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 8: I'm not trying to blow him off. I just don't
Speaker 8: know what to do.
Speaker 2: Oh Okay, I think it's pretty simple. You should text
Speaker 2: him and go out with him again.
Speaker 7: No.
Speaker 8: I mean, like, I don't know how much she told
Speaker 8: you or what you know, But I actually matched with
Speaker 8: Dustin a year and a half ago.
Speaker 1: A year and a half he said that you guys
Speaker 1: just met on the app.
Speaker 8: And that you Yeah. So when I got a text
Speaker 8: from him like a week ago, I was kind of
Speaker 8: confused because it was like, wait, this is weird, just
Speaker 8: kind of out of the blue. But I was just
Speaker 8: like whatever, and I was just like, long time, no chat.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah.
Speaker 1: He said that you made a joke that you were
Speaker 1: joking because you had just been chatting with him.
Speaker 8: It wasn't a joke. It really was a lot time.
Speaker 3: Oh my wait, I'm confused.
Speaker 1: So you hadn't talked to Dustin in a year and
Speaker 1: a half on an app at all, is what you're saying.
Speaker 8: Right, it was just a year and a half ago.
Speaker 8: You never replied to one of my texts, ok, And
Speaker 8: then all of a sudden, Yeah, I get a text
Speaker 8: from him.
Speaker 2: And then you guys went to pizza, right, You didn't
Speaker 2: meet up?
Speaker 7: Right?
Speaker 8: We got pizza, and I was kind of like, I
Speaker 8: wonder why all of a sudden he wants to talk
Speaker 8: to me now. But I was like, I remember he
Speaker 8: and I got along really well on Bumble, and so
Speaker 8: I was just like, yeah, sure, let's get pizza.
Speaker 2: And is he in a coma for a year and
Speaker 2: a half? Told us you went from the app to that, Yes.
Speaker 5: He met a year and a half, And that seems
Speaker 5: like a big miscommunication.
Speaker 3: What about that?
Speaker 2: It has to be the same person. It's the same.
Speaker 8: He kept talking about Pilates and how like you kept
Speaker 8: asking about it, and I was like, plat He's like,
Speaker 8: I don't have that in my bioen.
Speaker 3: That's the other girl. Ye oh no.
Speaker 8: But then I was like, oh, my gosh, Jessica is
Speaker 8: a really common name and my god thinking about it,
Speaker 8: and I was like, oh, shoot.
Speaker 5: You think that he went out with the wrong Jessica
Speaker 5: or texted the wrong Jessica in his fum.
Speaker 8: I mean it could have been another Jessica from Bumble.
Speaker 6: Wait.
Speaker 4: Wait, then you have him as Dustin Bumble. He probably
Speaker 4: has multiple Jessica Bumbles.
Speaker 3: That makes so much sense.
Speaker 2: Did you have fun with them? I did?
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 7: No, I had a lot of fun with him.
Speaker 5: Even though you had to keep dodging his questions about pilates.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 8: I mean, honestly, I didn't know what to say. I
Speaker 8: was kind of embarrassed, but like, we were really enjoying ourselves.
Speaker 5: So this makes sense why Dustin told us that she
Speaker 5: didn't look like the pictures from the girl that he
Speaker 5: matched with a.
Speaker 3: Couple of weeks ago.
Speaker 1: Wait he said that, yeah, but he added that you
Speaker 1: were super cute. Oh, it's not like it was a disappointment.
Speaker 1: I think that's important to know.
Speaker 4: I also say you're both in the same spot, because
Speaker 4: he's like, I don't know where to go from here,
Speaker 4: and she just said I don't know where to go
Speaker 4: from here.
Speaker 3: Yeah, bold and limbo, this is kind of perfect. Well, yeah,
Speaker 3: I guess that's it. Sorry, No, she tell her.
Speaker 2: Jeff tell her. She doesn't know how to tell him,
Speaker 2: and now she doesn't even have to.
Speaker 5: I guess the other option is, if you are interested.
Speaker 5: Dustin has been listening to this call on the other
Speaker 5: phone line.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he knows everything.
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, if he hasn't fainted already, Dustin you there.
Speaker 7: Holy I can't believe this happened. I'm such an idiot.
Speaker 2: I'm such an idiot.
Speaker 7: You guys were talking about it. I was looking through
Speaker 7: my phone and I saw all the different Jessica bumbles.
Speaker 8: How many Jessica even.
Speaker 7: Talking to I don't know.
Speaker 6: I mean, I'm embarrassed, though, I mean, I'm I'm so sorry.
Speaker 8: Yeah, when you cut springing up Pilates, I was like,
Speaker 8: what why did he bringing this up?
Speaker 7: Like?
Speaker 8: Did you want to see a move?
Speaker 7: I don't know what you're talking about, but I know
Speaker 7: I know now. I just I thought it was very
Speaker 7: interesting at the time, that's all.
Speaker 5: He was only asking because he thought that you were
Speaker 5: super interested in it. But that was a different Jessica Bumble.
Speaker 1: I mean now you need to maybe tell him what
Speaker 1: are your hobbies in interest because he has no idea.
Speaker 8: I actually love soccer and I love hiking, and I
Speaker 8: speak a little French, and yeah, I.
Speaker 7: Think I remember that from a year and a half.
Speaker 5: Ago, or was that the other Jessica Bumble Like Jessica
Speaker 5: Bumble number four.
Speaker 3: Oh, that's right.
Speaker 1: You could have saved so much time and headache in
Speaker 1: your life if you would have just gone out a
Speaker 1: year and a half ago.
Speaker 6: Broke You're so right again, I'm just such an idiot.
Speaker 5: Women do like hearing that, So that's a good thing
Speaker 5: for you to start saying. So, now that we've cleared
Speaker 5: up the big misunderstanding and you realize who each other are,
Speaker 5: you like each other at least it seems that way
Speaker 5: from our perspective. We'd like to offer to send you
Speaker 5: out on another date, Jessica, and we would pay for
Speaker 5: it if you say yes.
Speaker 7: Maybe this could be like a mistake that was meant
Speaker 7: to be.
Speaker 6: Oh well, see that.
Speaker 2: I need to turn it around. Come on, Dustin.
Speaker 8: I want to hear something from Dustin, and depending on
Speaker 8: what he says, maybe I'll say yes, Oh, what is it?
Speaker 8: Out of all this Jessica's, which one do you like best?
Speaker 3: If you tough an answer here, He's like Jessica.
Speaker 7: Eighteen, Well, to be honest, Look to be honest, Jessica,
Speaker 7: You're the only Jessica I had a real connection with
Speaker 7: all the other Jessica's I never even hung out with.
Speaker 2: Look at that, you're the.
Speaker 3: You're the only one that would talk to me.
Speaker 4: He's too honest.
Speaker 3: Did that answer your question, Jessica?
Speaker 8: It did.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I'll go out again.
Speaker 2: I think they're so cute.
Speaker 5: Well, congratulations you two. You're going out again, and it's
Speaker 5: probably a good lesson for you.
Speaker 3: Dustin.
Speaker 5: You gotta put the year that you matched with the
Speaker 5: person next to their names in your contacts.
Speaker 4: I'm always like day.
Speaker 1: I'm hoping after this he doesn't have any more matches
Speaker 1: like this is it?
Speaker 7: I think after this, I'm not going to use the
Speaker 7: dating apps for a while.
Speaker 3: Yeah, after two years, bro, you need a.
Speaker 7: Break, ye.
Speaker 2: Brooking Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 5: See, that's why we do the second date updates, Jessica
Speaker 5: said she didn't.
Speaker 3: Know what to do.
Speaker 5: She was caught middy with a guy who thought that
Speaker 5: she was somebody else.
Speaker 2: God that is so it's my worst nightmare.
Speaker 5: It would be a turnoff obviously, but it was like
Speaker 5: super awkward, Like how do you even bring that up?
Speaker 3: The thing is that she wasn't a total stranger.
Speaker 5: They'd matched eighteen months before then, and like we heard,
Speaker 5: they seemed to be actually pretty cute together.
Speaker 2: I mean, sometimes it's all about timing, you know. Maybe
Speaker 2: maybe eighteen months.
Speaker 1: Ago he would have thought, oh, I just got on
Speaker 1: the dating apps, It's going to be awesome, and then
Speaker 1: now he's too year's in He's like, wait, it's not.
Speaker 5: Is there a part of me that thinks Dustin is
Speaker 5: texting the other Jessica right now, the one that he
Speaker 5: ghosted a week ago?
Speaker 2: How dare you even bring that up?
Speaker 5: On's remember, he is a guy and we're addicted to
Speaker 5: the chase. Hey, hopefully he can just focus on the
Speaker 5: current Jessica and the good thing that they have going.
Speaker 2: Why would you even put that in his head? If
Speaker 2: he's listening, if you're.
Speaker 4: Listening, change the other Jessica's to do not text yeah.
Speaker 2: Or just delete their number. That's even easier.
Speaker 5: You know, never say never yeah, but remember you can
Speaker 5: listen to all of our Second Date updates on Spotify, Apple,
Speaker 5: or wherever you get your podcasts.
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