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Speaker 1: First Date to follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Evan is on the phone today for our first Day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Claire. So in

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Speaker 2: a second we're going to call her and see if

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Speaker 2: she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get

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Speaker 2: him another date. But first, Evan, how long has it

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Speaker 2: been since you heard from Claire?

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Speaker 3: A month?

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Speaker 4: Probably?

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Speaker 2: Okay, you're definitely getting ghosted.

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Speaker 5: Day if it's been a whole month, Why do you

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Speaker 5: want to get hold of her?

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Speaker 4: I don't know. I just like I thought she was great.

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Speaker 4: I really I thought, you know, the day went well,

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Speaker 4: I've had a lot of fun. I just yeah, I

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Speaker 4: really want to get home. I just hope to get

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Speaker 4: a hold of her.

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Speaker 6: Okay, Well, have you been trying to reach out to

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Speaker 6: her in that month?

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Speaker 7: Like, has she said anything to you at all that's

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Speaker 7: giving you hope?

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Speaker 4: No? Not really, okay, And you know I was trying

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Speaker 4: to like be cool about it and not really. I

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Speaker 4: just text her once, but then I text her again recently.

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Speaker 4: I just like sent her like an act throwing meme,

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Speaker 4: you know, just to call back to the date.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, nothing.

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Speaker 7: So let's talk about the date then, Evan like, what

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Speaker 7: did you so you guys went act throwing.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, it was her idea, by the way, guys,

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Speaker 4: so it wasn't like my crazy idea to go act throwing.

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Speaker 6: That's super fun.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I thought it was a little intense, but you know, cool,

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Speaker 4: I guess the idea for her first daid. She was

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Speaker 4: definitely way better than me at the ax throwing, like

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Speaker 4: embarrassingly better at act throwing. Like she actually during like

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Speaker 4: while we were doing this, like she actually gave me

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Speaker 4: tips on how to throw, which I appreciated. I think. Okay,

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Speaker 4: but yeah, so that was pretty much that the act

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Speaker 4: throwing portion. And then afterwards we grabbed some like street

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Speaker 4: food from a like a local truck and we ate

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Speaker 4: in the park. We talked for hours. It was awesome,

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Speaker 4: Like she was hilarious. I mean, obviously she stored me

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Speaker 4: an axe thrawing, but she and rubbed in at all.

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Speaker 4: I don't know, like I just felt like we clicked.

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Speaker 4: After you know, we ate, I walked her back to

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Speaker 4: her place and we shared like, you know, like a kiss.

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Speaker 4: It was really low key, but it was really nice.

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Speaker 4: And that was that was it.

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Speaker 6: So what do you think went wrong?

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Speaker 7: I mean, it looks like there could be a few

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Speaker 7: different options, but in your opinion, was there a moment

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Speaker 7: that felt a little bit more uncomfortable than the others.

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Speaker 4: I mean, you know, obviously, like sometimes I'm a little

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Speaker 4: bit inex socially. I don't know, I stay dumb things

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Speaker 4: and I don't realize it even in the moment. But

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Speaker 4: I think one thing that maybe stands out is I

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Speaker 4: offered to let her wear my jacket. The shirt that

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Speaker 4: she was wearing was like super short. I was like

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Speaker 4: to like be embarrassed to like her booze falling out.

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Speaker 8: Said well, I didn't say that, but like I was

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Speaker 8: tentat and simulated, but like, yeah, she was kind of confused,

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Speaker 8: and she asked She actually asked me if, like I

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Speaker 4: And I didn't, but I did I not peddled on

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Speaker 4: the jacket offering. I felt like she understood that I

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Speaker 6: I just can't imagine, like you're going ax throwing right,

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Speaker 6: it's probably.

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Speaker 7: Warm in there. You're gonna get even more warm. And

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Speaker 7: the guy I'm on a date with offers me a jacket.

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Speaker 4: But.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that would be a little.

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Speaker 5: I don't know, that would kind of rub me the

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Speaker 7: But they kissed and they hung out after the fact,

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Speaker 7: so she gave him another chance.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, or she's too scared to leave the date.

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Speaker 4: Oh, I mean I don't think so, but I mean

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Speaker 4: I could. I guess I could see how maybe she

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Speaker 4: not leave. But like I said, I felt like we

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Speaker 4: moved past it. But sometimes I'm terrible clearly about picking

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Speaker 2: How did you leave everything with her? What was like

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Speaker 2: the last thing that did you? Guys? Kiss?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we kissed, and then I was just like I

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Speaker 4: had a lot of fun. I'll text to you tomorrow

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Speaker 4: and love to see you again, obviously, And you know

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Speaker 4: this is way better than how I'm saying it to

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Speaker 4: you guys right now, But I don't like it when

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Speaker 4: I'm sold.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, we'll try to figure it out for you.

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Speaker 2: Then we'll play a song come back, and then call

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Speaker 2: her and see if we can get you another date

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Speaker 2: and find out where you're getting ghosts.

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Speaker 4: Okay, thank you guys.

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Speaker 2: All right, we'll play a song come back, Get your

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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 2: If you're just joining us for today's First Day follow up.

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Speaker 2: Evan is on the phone and he's getting ghosted by Claire.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call her and see if she'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him

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Speaker 2: another date. But first, Evan, why do you kind of

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Speaker 2: recap things for us real quick?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? So I want to know with Claire. We had

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Speaker 4: a great day when acts throwing. We went out you know,

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Speaker 4: street food. Afterwards we talked for hours, Indan on a kiss.

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Speaker 4: Everything felt good, but like, I haven't talked to her

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Speaker 4: in a month. I've tried texting her a few times

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Speaker 2: All right, you ready for us to call her?

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Speaker 4: Yes?

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Speaker 2: Here we go.

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Speaker 9: Hello.

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Speaker 2: Hi is this Claire?

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Speaker 4: Hi? Yeah?

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Speaker 9: This is Claire.

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Speaker 2: Hey Claire, what's up? This is a Jewbil show. It's

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Speaker 2: a radio show.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, Hi Clara, I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 2: And I'm Jewbel. What's up. How are you?

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Speaker 9: Oh? Hi, guys, I had no ideas peo who actually

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Speaker 9: did this?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? They do. How's it going?

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Speaker 9: How are you all?

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Speaker 2: I'm good. Do you listen to the show?

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Speaker 9: I do?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm the way to work great. Have you ever

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Speaker 2: heard of they follow up before I have?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Well guess what, Claire, congratulations, you're ghosting somebody and they

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Speaker 2: emailed us to get a hold of you.

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Speaker 9: Oh my god, is this about Evan?

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Speaker 2: Yes, yes it is. It's about Evan. He said he

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Speaker 2: really liked you, but can't figure out why you're not

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Speaker 2: calling him back. So would you mind telling us?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I might think Evan's a really great guy. But the

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Speaker 3: date was weird.

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Speaker 2: Okay, it's weird.

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Speaker 3: How so you know every time he throw an act

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Speaker 3: because we went a doing.

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Speaker 9: She scream out someone that he hated.

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Speaker 3: I was like laughing along and I thought it was

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Speaker 3: funny at first because he would like if yel zombies.

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Speaker 9: Or like a real Colors Okay, yeah, I was like, okay,

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Speaker 9: this is.

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Speaker 3: Dark, you know, kind of starts of humor though could

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Speaker 2: Then it started to become real people.

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Speaker 9: Yeah, I got more personal on his side.

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Speaker 3: Because you know, it was like people from his elementary school,

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Speaker 7: Why, how do you know that? Did he tell you

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Speaker 7: that it is like third grade coach and then like

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 9: I was like, who's that? He was like, oh, my

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Speaker 9: third grade soccer coach.

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Speaker 2: Okay, that's a little murderous.

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Speaker 9: I guess Yeah, I got crazy.

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Speaker 2: And so that turned you off. I guess that he

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Speaker 9: Heads, about people from their elementary school.

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Speaker 2: I guess I could see why that'd be disturbing.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, me too.

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Speaker 7: Did you say anything to him about it or like

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Speaker 7: ask him, like, how often do you think about throwing

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Speaker 9: Yeah? I mean I definitely addressed it.

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Speaker 3: I was like, this just keeps going. You know, he

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Speaker 3: in his life. Another thing is he threw me at back,

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Speaker 2: Oh, if you did tell us that he sent you

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Speaker 2: an extra, I guess I would take it that way too. Claire,

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Speaker 2: not to freak out too much, but Evan is actually

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and so like, wait, so that's why you're ghosting me.

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Speaker 4: I was like, it was just I was just blowing

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Speaker 3: Oh so, yeah, you're blowing off scheme shouting about like

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Speaker 3: fifteen people and how you you know, really we're getting

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Speaker 3: into it. I mean, that wasn't just going Ugh, see

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Speaker 3: you were in your own therapy session.

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Speaker 7: I don't know if that's even that therapy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it was all good fun.

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Speaker 4: Come on, Like I was just messing around. It wasn't

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Speaker 4: like I wasn't actually thinking about these people. I was

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Speaker 4: just saying their names. It's not a big deal.

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Speaker 3: I mean, messing around is one thing. But you had

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Speaker 3: to ask in your hands both screaming about your childhood

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Speaker 3: enemies and a local guy.

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Speaker 9: At the gym, and I mean, it's just come on,

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Speaker 9: that's intense, no thing.

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Speaker 4: Sorry, Come on, Like you haven't fantasized about throwing an

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Speaker 4: access somebody and like from your life. Come on, It's

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Speaker 4: just like I was just blowing off steam. It's not

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Speaker 4: like I was serious.

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Speaker 9: No, I haven't. I haven't fantasized about this.

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Speaker 2: Well, Claire, would you like another date with Evan. We'll

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Speaker 2: pay for it, you know.

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Speaker 9: I just don't think so.

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Speaker 3: Like, I'm all for funny games, but I need someone

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Speaker 3: who's just a little bit more I guess, like emotionally stable.

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Speaker 4: I am emotionally stable.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, I'm sorry man, you didn't get another date.

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Speaker 4: That's fine. I don't even want one. Like, what if

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Speaker 4: she's taking it too seriously? Whatever, not a big deal.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, sorry man, and thanks for your time.

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Speaker 9: Claire, thank you all. Take care.

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Speaker 4: It was her stupid idea to go on that stupid day.

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Speaker 4: Anywhere I'm going throwing thanks for nothing.

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Speaker 9: Jubile's first date fall