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Speaker 1: First Day of follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 1: Attorneys online at adjocuslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Blake is on the phone today for our first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Selena. So in

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Speaker 2: a few minutes we'll call her and see if she'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him

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Speaker 2: another date. But before we do that, Blake, how long

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Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Selena?

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Speaker 3: It has been like several days a week maybe, And

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Speaker 3: it's not technically a first day followup because we didn't

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Speaker 3: even get our first date. No, what happened she ghosted

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Speaker 3: me On the first date. We got set up with

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Speaker 3: friends who like a group chat, and we really hit

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Speaker 3: it off, and we'd been talking for she was a

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Speaker 3: town business and so we've been just chatting and we'd

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Speaker 3: facetiming and it was going like super well, like she's

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Speaker 3: and we're going to hang out the date she got

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Speaker 3: back into town, we were going to have like a

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Speaker 3: late lunch early dinner thing, and I had a whole plan,

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Speaker 3: like just in Kate, you know, like if the night

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Speaker 3: went well, I have a telescope on the roof of

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Speaker 3: my building, and I was going to show her the stars.

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Speaker 3: It was going to be so so cute, and she

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Speaker 3: never showed up. And I have not heard from her

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Speaker 4: So have you tried texting her? How many times have

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Speaker 4: you reached out to her in that week?

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Speaker 3: I mean I probably sent a bunch of texts that afternoon,

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Speaker 3: like you know, like we're worried about her and stuff,

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Speaker 3: and then I've tried to not be you know, I

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Speaker 3: don't want to be crazy if she's not responding. I mean,

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Speaker 3: she she definitely got the other messages, so you know,

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Speaker 3: I've checked in. I waited a few days, and I

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Speaker 3: checked in again and still nothing.

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Speaker 4: What do you think could have happened?

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Speaker 3: I mean, look, the only thing I can think is

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Speaker 3: that maybe it was like too intense before we actually met.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, it really felt special to me, like

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Speaker 3: I thought for sure, like we've been talking every we're

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Speaker 3: facetding every day, and I think maybe I wonder if

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Speaker 3: maybe she got freaked out that it was like too

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Speaker 3: much pressure for a date and like couldn't possibly live

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Speaker 3: up to whatever we were imagining it would be or something.

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Speaker 4: It is weird how close you can get to somebody

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Speaker 4: just off of like FaceTime, so you feel like you

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Speaker 4: kind of know a person. So essentially, you guys had

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Speaker 4: a day. It just was on the phone the much.

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Speaker 3: The longest we've gone without talking since then is the thing.

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Speaker 3: So it's like it's we ever had a week off.

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Speaker 3: So I don't know, and I checked. I texted because

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Speaker 3: it was a mutual friends so I reached out of

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Speaker 3: the friends just like make sure they were she was okay,

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Speaker 3: and they were like, yep.

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Speaker 4: They just said yep.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they just said yep. So I like, I assume

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Speaker 3: that she's I mean, that sounded like they knew something,

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Speaker 3: but I didn't want to like follow up. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Maybe I got scared about following up then and I

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Speaker 4: Is there anything to be said to her that she

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Speaker 3: I don't think so. I mean, like I mean, between us,

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Speaker 3: and I've I don't know, I've never actually been ghosted before.

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Speaker 3: I don't think so. I think maybe I just like

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Speaker 3: I didn't say that.

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Speaker 4: I didn't say kidding. What was the last conversation you

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Speaker 3: Well the night before, because she was like, she was

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Speaker 3: we were facetiming. And then afterwards, I mean I text

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Speaker 3: her a few times before she went to sleep, and

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Speaker 3: like she asked for a steamy picture, okay, and she

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Speaker 3: hearted it. She just hearted it. That's it. That was

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Speaker 3: the last interaction we had. It wasn't it wasn't gross.

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Speaker 3: It was very it was you know, it was respectable.

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Speaker 4: Steamy, you know, and took a picture of your shower.

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Speaker 3: It was like, look, I mean, look, I'm not I know,

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Speaker 3: I know, I know the rules. I'm not sending you know,

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Speaker 3: I'm not sending her my junk. You know. It was like,

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Speaker 4: I'm just wondering what her true reaction was to seeing

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Speaker 4: the photo and like, I'm sure you're lovely, but I

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Speaker 4: just want you know what I mean, Like, would that

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Speaker 3: If it was that?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, very soon? Maybe you know.

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Speaker 2: She's just like, you're such a man. She can't I

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Speaker 2: can't handle it. She's like, oh no, I shouldn't ask

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Speaker 2: her that Steene picture. I don't know what kind of

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Speaker 4: Was gonna get. I'm sorry, we're laughing. Yeah, maybe maybe

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Speaker 4: you're too much man.

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Speaker 3: Blake, Blake, I must be it.

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Speaker 4: All right, we'll figure it out.

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Speaker 3: Man.

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Speaker 2: We'll play a song come Back, and then call her

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Speaker 2: and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you

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Speaker 2: and maybe give you another date if you still want.

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Speaker 3: Okay, thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: All right, we'll play a song come back, get your

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Speaker 2: first day follow up next, right in the middle of

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Speaker 2: your first day follow up. If you're just joining us

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Speaker 2: and Blake is on the phone and he's getting ghosted

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Speaker 2: by Selena and he has no idea why. So we're

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Speaker 2: gonna call her in a minute and see if she'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him

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Speaker 2: another date. But real quick, before we do that, Blake,

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Speaker 2: why don't you refresh everybody's memory about your not really

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Speaker 2: date but still getting ghosted by Selena Selena thing.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so we talked on time a month before she

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Speaker 3: got back from my road trip, and then work trip,

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Speaker 3: and then when she lands were supposed to have a date.

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Speaker 3: But then she's ghosted me after that, and I think

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Speaker 3: I might have come on too strong at the last

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Speaker 4: Last one.

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Speaker 2: The last thing that happened was you sent her a

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Speaker 2: steaming picture, and that's it. You haven't heard from her

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Speaker 2: since it that way, she did ask for the steamy picture,

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Speaker 2: right she did.

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Speaker 4: Okay, are you ready to call her?

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Speaker 3: Yep, okay, yep, here we go.

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Speaker 4: Hello, Hi, Ma, I speak to Selena. Please.

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Speaker 1: This is Selena.

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Speaker 2: Hey, Selena, how are you? My name is Jewbel and

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Speaker 2: I host a radio show. It's called The Jewbel Show.

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Speaker 4: I'm Nina also on the show. Hi, and I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 1: Oh Hi, Hi, I'm Felena.

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Speaker 4: So nice to meet you. Selena. Have you ever heard

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Speaker 4: of The Jewel Show before.

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Speaker 1: Maybe it sounds vaguely familiar.

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Speaker 2: We do a segment on our show it's called the

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Speaker 2: first Date follow up. What that means is if you

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Speaker 2: go out on a date with somebody and end up

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Speaker 2: ghosting them, that person can email us to get you

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Speaker 2: on the phone and ask why you're ghosting them. So,

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Speaker 2: we got an email about you from one of our listeners.

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Speaker 2: No really, Yeah, his name is Blake, and he's wondering, Oh,

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Speaker 2: you're ghosting Blake.

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Speaker 1: Wait, so he thinks I'm ghosting him.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: He told us about how you guys have like facetimed

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Speaker 2: you said, hey, send me a steamy picture, and then

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Speaker 2: so he sent you a seemy pick and then that's

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Speaker 2: the last you heard from you.

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Speaker 1: So he doesn't understand what happened, right, That's totally fair.

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Speaker 3: That's totally fair.

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Speaker 1: I Uh, this is weirder thing because.

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Speaker 4: I just got my phone back today.

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Speaker 1: I was on a flight. I flew out to Chicago

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Speaker 1: for work and we were supposed to meet up while

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Speaker 1: I was there, and I left my phone on the

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Speaker 1: plane and they literally like just mailed it back to

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Speaker 1: me this morning. Probably an hour ago, opened up the

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Speaker 3: This is so weird, this is so like so.

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Speaker 1: No, no, I.

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Speaker 3: Didn't want to.

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Speaker 1: I've been trying, like I sent him a Facebook message,

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Speaker 3: I haven't been able to.

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Speaker 1: So I was get to call him later now that

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Speaker 1: I have my phone back, but I didn't have any

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Speaker 1: of my contacts. I had no way to get a

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Speaker 4: Seriously, that is yeah, and you just got your phone back.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I literally just got it back today.

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Speaker 4: I can't. I don't.

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Speaker 1: I know that sounds like it's not real.

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Speaker 3: It's real, Like it's so weird. Maybe it's like kissing

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Speaker 4: Got to say, Yeah, I guess what.

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Speaker 2: Blake is actually on the phone listening and wants to

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Speaker 2: talk to you, so kind of like you called awesome.

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Speaker 3: Well, hey, I was, I just full of your Facebook message.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry. I would have been Facebook in like two years.

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Speaker 3: I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, I can't even this is so weird.

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Speaker 1: I was literally going to call you this afternoon, but

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Speaker 1: I had to do my work first. I got my

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Speaker 1: phone just now and the phone ring, and I was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I have no idea who this is, but I'm I'm

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Speaker 3: That it's you, and that like, I don't know what

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Speaker 3: feels like. I don't it feels like it was meant

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Speaker 3: to be. You're not too much. Maybe I'll give you

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Speaker 3: I'll give you my numbers.

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Speaker 1: We're not on the air anymore, right, Maybe I should

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Speaker 1: write it down this time somewhere somewhere. Maybe address books

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Speaker 1: were for a reason when people used to write them.

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Speaker 4: You guys, they have technology for that.

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Speaker 3: I'm just I'm just so glad you're not ghosting me

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Speaker 3: and I I have I'm happy to restart the date

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Speaker 3: plan whenever you are free.

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Speaker 1: I love that. I'll be back in town in like

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Speaker 1: a week or two. And then, so you sent me

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Speaker 1: that picture. That was the last like internet like, that's

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Speaker 1: the last time I talked to you. Was that was

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Speaker 1: that was a good picture. I'm sorry that.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry that that wasn't much. Man, they think the

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Speaker 3: picture was too much and you couldn't handle it. And

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Speaker 3: that's why you disappeared.

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Speaker 1: Maybe like subconsciously that's but no, I absolutely like it

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Speaker 1: was so fun, like getting to know you and talking

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Speaker 1: to you, and I was really looking forward to it too,

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Speaker 1: and so I was just thinking, like I guess I

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Speaker 1: wasn't meant to be, you know, And then this totally

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Speaker 1: flipped it around.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, so Selena, would you like to go on

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Speaker 2: another date with Blake?

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Speaker 4: We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, that's exciting. I can't wait. And if you lose

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Speaker 3: a phone again, then I'll just look for you on Facebook.

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Speaker 4: I guess. Wait, yeah, we made AirTag.

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Speaker 3: Oh that's a good idea. I'll have to put an

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Speaker 3: air tag on you.

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Speaker 1: And then I can sign you from the.

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Speaker 3: Air tagic.

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Speaker 4: Weird with the air tag.

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Speaker 3: Juble's first date fallow up