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Speaker 1: This is Cowboys Sam, and this is Eh John. And

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Speaker 1: We bucking love so much and they're paid us the

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Speaker 1: wife's family is obsessed with him. It's becoming a problem.

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Speaker 1: I twenty five female, am getting married to my fiance

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Speaker 1: twenty nine Mail and met. When we first got together,

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Speaker 1: he told me that he was married from twenty to

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Speaker 1: twenty two years old to his high school sweethearts. We

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Speaker 1: met when he was twenty five, but she passed away

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Speaker 1: from sepsis due to a botched surgery. That is so sad.

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Speaker 1: Pay didn't cope well and stayed in contact with her family,

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Speaker 1: namely her father and two sisters nineteen and twenty four.

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Speaker 1: was a side spot for me for a while at

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Speaker 1: the beginning because there was so much history they had

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Speaker 1: that we would not have, and it was tough knowing

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Speaker 1: that she was all around him red flag. I never

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Speaker 1: told him and decided to work through it on my own,

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Speaker 1: especially with the fact that he would often spend time

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Speaker 1: with her family during our relationship. Her birthday, their anniversary,

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Speaker 1: and the anniversary of her death. He'd spend the day

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Speaker 1: knowing the man I loved was reminiscing about love he

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Speaker 1: had with someone else, but I kept trying to see

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Speaker 1: it from his perspective, so if he is locked in

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Speaker 1: on the pundit square, I can see her. But the

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Speaker 1: last couple of years, I've been completely secure in a

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Speaker 1: relationship and it doesn't bother me much anymore. He proposed

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Speaker 1: this time last year, and I was over the moon.

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Speaker 1: I love this man with all my heart, but I

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Speaker 1: recently learned that he never told them the family of

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Speaker 1: his girlfriend that we got engaged, his ex girlfriend, his

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Speaker 2: That's not good.

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Speaker 1: I've been trying local coffee shops for the past few months,

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Speaker 1: rather than my usual run and try to one. His

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Speaker 1: late wife's sister worked there, and other than being awkward,

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Speaker 1: looked really unhappy. I didn't mention it and left.

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Speaker 2: See that's the problem they were going to find out.

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Speaker 2: He should have been the one to tell them.

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Speaker 1: My fiance told me that she kept messaging him on

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Speaker 1: social media about it, and I wasn't happy that he

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Speaker 1: by it all. He said that he didn't want to

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Speaker 1: that both of us were a huge part of his life.

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Speaker 1: And I understand that and let him off the hook slightly.

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Speaker 1: Just told him to be upfront with them from now on.

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Speaker 1: That was that, at least I thought so. A week

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Speaker 1: sending things in chat about blood types. You're distracting her.

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Speaker 1: She even said that he only kept me around for

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Speaker 1: me when you're in my position. All these points are

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Speaker 1: it to him, and he comforted me and reassured me.

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Speaker 1: He said he'd set boundaries with her and that I'd

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Speaker 2: A big part is on her fiance. Yeah, he had

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Speaker 2: communicated earlier. Maybe we could have at least mitigated.

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Speaker 1: That was until I found out my car with the

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Speaker 2: These people need therapy so bad in red paint. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 2: Did they expect him to remain celebrate for the rest

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Speaker 1: Passed, maybe they expected him to run through the family.

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Speaker 2: You know, maybe that's what the sister thought.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, take him a court.

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Speaker 1: I told him I was filing a police report, and

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Speaker 2: The only way that I'm not filing a police report

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Speaker 1: He set up the meeting for last night, and it

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Speaker 1: did not go well, to say the least. Everyone was shouting.

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Speaker 1: And now that that hadn't happened, they were putting their

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Speaker 1: gave him an ultimatum. Is this the time to give

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Speaker 2: I need to know what the ultimatum is.

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Speaker 1: Well, the ultimatum either he cuts contact or we call

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Speaker 1: and I don't think I should have to just because

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Speaker 1: we're getting married and there's an updates. Yeah, what do

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Speaker 2: We know we don't like ultimatums on this show. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I think what you are asking for, reasonable in general,

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Speaker 1: I agree that he has to cut him off. I

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Speaker 1: just wonder about the time like he it sounded like

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Speaker 1: a chance to recover, and then give him the ultimatum,

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Speaker 1: like the next day or something. Hey, everyone, there's a

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Speaker 1: I don't know what they've told people, but I've got

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Speaker 1: messages from one of their uncles and grandparents calling me

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Speaker 1: horrible stuff too, So obviously they've been spreading what's happened

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Speaker 1: this week and twisting it. I haven't blocked them because

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Speaker 1: I want to gain as much evidence as I can

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Speaker 1: for the inevitable case. Regardless of any outcome with my fiance,

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Speaker 1: I'm hoping my fiance will help me. I haven't spoken

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Speaker 1: to my fiance since the argument at the table, other

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Speaker 1: to come to terms with everything, and I will contact

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Speaker 1: him when I'm ready. All this from the first message

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Speaker 1: till now has been a week. It's a huge weight

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Speaker 1: to contemplate leaving people you've known for fifteen years and

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Speaker 1: that Ope recognizes that, yes, I feel like that's an

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Speaker 2: She understands that there is a weight here.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he did set hard boundaries with the sister from

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Speaker 1: the coffee shop. As I've seen the messages. He said, paraphrasing,

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Speaker 2: I'm honestly, I think they need therapy in counseling.

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Speaker 1: He's been getting it since before we even started dating.

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Speaker 1: After the incident at work. I don't know about any

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Speaker 1: of their family though, the first time I had a

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Speaker 1: are wondering what late wife passed away of and it

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Speaker 2: That's devastating. That's devastating. Oh, like maybe like gastron, you know, oh, devastating.

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Speaker 1: People were wondering if he was somehow the reason behind

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Speaker 1: not in the slightest He likes bagger women and wouldn't

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Speaker 1: Neither of us wanted to ruin her life. When I

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Speaker 1: I'll have a positive update for you tomorrow. There is

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Speaker 2: No, I think that we're just going to find out

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Speaker 1: Well, he said. The twenty four year old, about eight

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Speaker 1: He said he should have been more observant and realized

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Speaker 1: But I've always been the strong one, so he neglected

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Speaker 1: Like they're better quotes.

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Speaker 2: Oh, He's like, Wow, that really spoke to me. I

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Speaker 2: don't think i've ever heard anyone say that before. You're right, Dad, or.

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Speaker 1: Your father in law, Papa wise, Woods of wisdom.

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Speaker 1: completely agreed. The house's late wife his parents offered to

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Speaker 1: and that's not going to be cheap. After all the

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Speaker 1: But I also feel like it almost feels like it

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Speaker 1: So there we have it. Writing all this out and

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Speaker 1: that was my life, and everything worked out as well

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Speaker 1: We'll see how his meeting goes with them. Is it

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Speaker 1: you all, and I'll update after they've met up and

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Speaker 1: there is let's freaking dive in another update. So it

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Speaker 1: here for three days in chat someone who's calling me

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Speaker 1: we drove down to the police station with our block

436
00:20:04,600 --> 00:20:07,840
Speaker 1: of paperwork and had a couple hours talk. They were

437
00:20:07,840 --> 00:20:11,040
Speaker 1: so sweet about everything, as some of you expected. They

438
00:20:11,040 --> 00:20:13,600
Speaker 1: did say I should have come earlier, but they didn't

439
00:20:13,640 --> 00:20:15,880
Speaker 1: really care because it was only a few days. They

440
00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:18,240
Speaker 1: said that it often takes people about this amount of

441
00:20:18,240 --> 00:20:21,360
Speaker 1: time to actually file charges if they weren't in immediate

442
00:20:21,440 --> 00:20:24,280
Speaker 1: threat or danger. So unless someone was about to throw

443
00:20:24,320 --> 00:20:27,560
Speaker 1: the old one two's, this was par for the course.

444
00:20:27,800 --> 00:20:30,000
Speaker 1: I handed them everything and it looks like I've got

445
00:20:30,000 --> 00:20:32,800
Speaker 1: plenty of evidence. They'll be contacting my insurance on my

446
00:20:32,960 --> 00:20:35,360
Speaker 1: behalf to get the ball rolling so they can come

447
00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:37,600
Speaker 1: to a check of the car themselves, and then they

448
00:20:37,600 --> 00:20:39,560
Speaker 1: can open a claim with me if I want. They're

449
00:20:39,560 --> 00:20:42,800
Speaker 1: not filing a claim, they're just notifying about the criminal damages.

450
00:20:42,920 --> 00:20:46,879
Speaker 1: I filed criminal damages for pastor mento vandalism, and they'll

451
00:20:46,880 --> 00:20:49,720
Speaker 1: notify me with more details about my restraining order. This week,

452
00:20:49,880 --> 00:20:52,199
Speaker 1: my fiancee told the police that he was planning on

453
00:20:52,359 --> 00:20:55,080
Speaker 1: meeting with late wife's family and asked if that would

454
00:20:55,080 --> 00:20:58,720
Speaker 1: contradict my case, right, because he's like oh, is if

455
00:20:58,760 --> 00:21:01,879
Speaker 1: creating a relationship with them, you know, ur it's the

456
00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:04,600
Speaker 1: ability to get a restraining order whatever. Yeah, and they said, no,

457
00:21:04,720 --> 00:21:06,800
Speaker 1: we're not married at the time of filing, so legally

458
00:21:06,800 --> 00:21:09,840
Speaker 1: we're two separate entities in this case or something. So

459
00:21:10,040 --> 00:21:12,800
Speaker 1: my car is totaled. My mechanic friend, I'm going to

460
00:21:12,800 --> 00:21:15,600
Speaker 1: call him Tom because I can't keep saying. My mechanic

461
00:21:15,600 --> 00:21:17,560
Speaker 1: friend and his partner at the shop did a full

462
00:21:17,680 --> 00:21:20,080
Speaker 1: check on my car and this is the damage they found.

463
00:21:20,160 --> 00:21:21,520
Speaker 1: So we're getting a full.

464
00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:23,960
Speaker 2: Full list of what's going on with this car.

465
00:21:24,640 --> 00:21:31,320
Speaker 1: Shattered windshield, four slash tires, two broken windows, paint obvious

466
00:21:31,400 --> 00:21:36,440
Speaker 1: I think, unknown substance in the engine, oil, and battered

467
00:21:36,720 --> 00:21:37,280
Speaker 1: body work.

468
00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:38,520
Speaker 2: They did a number.

469
00:21:38,880 --> 00:21:40,879
Speaker 1: They said, with this amount of damage, I should just

470
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Speaker 1: go for a new car. So that's what I'll be doing.

471
00:21:43,920 --> 00:21:45,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, and make sure they freaking pay for it.

472
00:21:45,720 --> 00:21:48,520
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's so rough. If anyone is curious,

473
00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:51,000
Speaker 1: it's evolvough. I'd always wanted one and managed to buy

474
00:21:51,080 --> 00:21:53,480
Speaker 1: a new one two years ago. Either they get me

475
00:21:53,480 --> 00:21:56,960
Speaker 1: a new car or they'd be set back around sixty

476
00:21:57,400 --> 00:22:01,080
Speaker 1: thousand dollars. That's an expensive volve. What does the sixty

477
00:22:01,080 --> 00:22:04,040
Speaker 1: thousand dollars volver live like right now, Yeah, that's that's

478
00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:08,480
Speaker 1: an expensive Volvough the amount classifies the vandalism as a felony,

479
00:22:08,680 --> 00:22:10,360
Speaker 1: so they could be looking at jail time too.

480
00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:12,920
Speaker 2: Obviously clearly a felony.

481
00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:16,000
Speaker 1: My fiance met with the family on Saturday and Tom

482
00:22:16,080 --> 00:22:18,560
Speaker 1: sat by the window. I currently live in a one

483
00:22:18,600 --> 00:22:22,000
Speaker 1: party state, so as long as my fiance consents, the

484
00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:24,600
Speaker 1: recording can be used in my case. While it may

485
00:22:24,640 --> 00:22:27,520
Speaker 1: not be as drama filled as some of you may want,

486
00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:30,080
Speaker 1: it was still pretty stressful to see. They met at

487
00:22:30,080 --> 00:22:32,280
Speaker 1: the same cafe that we did before, and Tom sat

488
00:22:32,280 --> 00:22:35,879
Speaker 1: a few tables away. Fiance arrived after their father and

489
00:22:35,960 --> 00:22:39,560
Speaker 1: before them for the best because they managed to have

490
00:22:39,680 --> 00:22:42,320
Speaker 1: a calm conversation for once. I thought it was gonna

491
00:22:42,320 --> 00:22:42,679
Speaker 1: blow up.

492
00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:44,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, I thought it was gonna be like how dare

493
00:22:44,560 --> 00:22:46,600
Speaker 2: you fight?

494
00:22:47,840 --> 00:22:50,960
Speaker 1: Fiance told him how he was feeling, and father in

495
00:22:51,040 --> 00:22:54,080
Speaker 1: law was very understanding but still trying to minimize. He

496
00:22:54,160 --> 00:22:56,600
Speaker 1: was saying things like, you know, they missed late wife,

497
00:22:56,640 --> 00:22:58,440
Speaker 1: and they'll come around. You just need time to come

498
00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:01,120
Speaker 1: to terms with you moving on. Kept trying to initiate

499
00:23:01,119 --> 00:23:03,520
Speaker 1: paying for the damages, but fiance wouldn't talk about it

500
00:23:03,600 --> 00:23:06,679
Speaker 1: until the sisters arrived. It was like butter wouldn't melt

501
00:23:06,760 --> 00:23:09,920
Speaker 1: with a twenty four year old, but nineteen came in

502
00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:14,440
Speaker 1: like the Tasman devil. My fiance didn't acknowledge anyone until

503
00:23:14,440 --> 00:23:17,240
Speaker 1: it all settled down. Where then he said this would

504
00:23:17,240 --> 00:23:19,480
Speaker 1: be his last meeting with all of them and they'd

505
00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:22,199
Speaker 1: be going their separate rays. He turned to the girls

506
00:23:22,240 --> 00:23:24,960
Speaker 1: and said that he would miss who he thought they were.

507
00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:26,840
Speaker 2: That that's kind of hit deep.

508
00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:28,879
Speaker 1: That's got it for someone.

509
00:23:28,600 --> 00:23:30,400
Speaker 2: To say, I miss who I thought you were.

510
00:23:30,960 --> 00:23:34,640
Speaker 1: Oh oh, that is a line.

511
00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:36,639
Speaker 2: See that's that's a good line.

512
00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:38,080
Speaker 1: That's a good line. Yeah.

513
00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:40,159
Speaker 2: Yeah, when the act is over, the jig is up.

514
00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:42,840
Speaker 2: That's a bad lot. That's just a very SciTE.

515
00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:47,480
Speaker 1: Yeah. I've heard that the mill, but I haven't heard.

516
00:23:47,760 --> 00:23:49,359
Speaker 2: I miss who I thought you were.

517
00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:52,600
Speaker 1: That is that cuts deep. But the way they could

518
00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:55,280
Speaker 1: treat people horrified him, especially me. He said that this

519
00:23:55,480 --> 00:23:57,320
Speaker 1: was all him and they needed to accept that I

520
00:23:57,359 --> 00:23:59,159
Speaker 1: was not to blame. He even said that it was

521
00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:02,920
Speaker 1: me who offered the apology in exchange for not filing charges.

522
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:06,439
Speaker 1: The nineteen year old then interrupted, asking what charges, and

523
00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:09,760
Speaker 1: that no one was going to charge them for barely

524
00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:14,639
Speaker 1: touching a car. She was a deer in headlights. When

525
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:17,320
Speaker 1: he asked what they'd done to the engine oil, and

526
00:24:17,359 --> 00:24:19,600
Speaker 1: the two looked at each other. Seems they didn't expect

527
00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:22,760
Speaker 1: me to find out. H The groveling twenty four year

528
00:24:22,800 --> 00:24:25,359
Speaker 1: old tried to touch his hand and told him he

529
00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:27,879
Speaker 1: had to stop me pressing charges because this would ruin

530
00:24:27,960 --> 00:24:30,920
Speaker 1: her and interfere with the nineteen year old's college. Oh

531
00:24:30,920 --> 00:24:32,679
Speaker 1: you should have thought about that, he said. It was

532
00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:35,320
Speaker 1: too late, and the cops should be issuing a warrant soon.

533
00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:38,159
Speaker 1: It can take a few days. I thought it was

534
00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:40,159
Speaker 1: an instant thing, but apparently not. This is when their

535
00:24:40,280 --> 00:24:43,200
Speaker 1: dad got involved and said for everyone to calm down

536
00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:46,359
Speaker 1: and fix this like adults. Now. He wants his girls

537
00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:49,040
Speaker 1: to be adults. I see. He asked if fiance would

538
00:24:49,080 --> 00:24:52,359
Speaker 1: convince me to drop the charges in exchange for that apology,

539
00:24:52,600 --> 00:24:55,159
Speaker 1: and he'd pay the damages. When my fiance said it

540
00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:57,960
Speaker 1: was sixty thousand dollars. The eyes he gave to those

541
00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:01,320
Speaker 1: women would shave the hair off a cat. The video

542
00:25:01,359 --> 00:25:03,199
Speaker 1: wasn't the best, but I swear I could see the

543
00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:07,280
Speaker 1: color drain from their faces. It may sound awful, but

544
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:09,720
Speaker 1: I enjoyed it. Call me what you will. They kept

545
00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:12,760
Speaker 1: going on about apologizing and that they'd pay, but he

546
00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:15,080
Speaker 1: just said it was too late and he was done.

547
00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:17,240
Speaker 1: He tried to be civil, but they were the ones

548
00:25:17,320 --> 00:25:19,359
Speaker 1: that wouldn't let him go. The twenty four year old

549
00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:21,480
Speaker 1: actually asked him to set up a meeting with me

550
00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:23,679
Speaker 1: so they could get to know me and put it

551
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:26,960
Speaker 1: all behind us. What crocodile tears? You know?

552
00:25:27,320 --> 00:25:27,800
Speaker 2: Too late?

553
00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:32,320
Speaker 1: Too late late? Memj grow says, play a dog games?

554
00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:33,880
Speaker 1: Oh win adult prizes?

555
00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:37,000
Speaker 2: Yup? Sorry, you gotta pay that sixty thousand now.

556
00:25:37,320 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 1: He didn't reply, and after the silence, they piped up again, like,

557
00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:43,679
Speaker 1: so she won't even meet us, so she's behind all

558
00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:46,480
Speaker 1: this because she doesn't want us around. We'll see about that.

559
00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:48,560
Speaker 1: Not using the exact quotes because I don't know if

560
00:25:48,560 --> 00:25:51,439
Speaker 1: I'm allowed, so not risking it thinks that's it went

561
00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:54,200
Speaker 1: on and on. Frankly, it was funny more than harmful,

562
00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:57,159
Speaker 1: but they didn't incriminate themselves. More and more for my

563
00:25:57,240 --> 00:26:00,119
Speaker 1: pestorment case. And the nail on the coffin was the

564
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:03,919
Speaker 1: nineteen year old said, if we can do that to

565
00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:06,560
Speaker 1: a car, Imagine what else we could do?

566
00:26:07,840 --> 00:26:09,080
Speaker 2: Threat? Threat, threat, threat?

567
00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:10,919
Speaker 1: How are you talking like a mob boss?

568
00:26:11,119 --> 00:26:15,120
Speaker 2: Nineteen year old girl going? If we could destroy your car,

569
00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:17,760
Speaker 2: imagine what we could do to a person.

570
00:26:18,359 --> 00:26:21,320
Speaker 1: Imagine if your shoes were filled.

571
00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:24,000
Speaker 2: With Magine that your body was that car.

572
00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:27,320
Speaker 1: Imagine that your body was at the bottom of it.

573
00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 2: Would that your body was that vovo That we could

574
00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:32,560
Speaker 2: do a whole lot of damage.

575
00:26:32,880 --> 00:26:37,560
Speaker 3: The V ninety cross country and MSRP is around sixty thousand.

576
00:26:37,720 --> 00:26:42,040
Speaker 2: Imagine that those slash dies were your arms and the

577
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:46,560
Speaker 2: engine oil was your blood. I could do a whole

578
00:26:46,600 --> 00:26:47,720
Speaker 2: lot of damage.

579
00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:51,719
Speaker 1: Oh lot, That, my friends, is both a confession and

580
00:26:51,760 --> 00:26:54,920
Speaker 1: a threat of bodily harm. My fiance said one loud

581
00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:57,919
Speaker 1: stop before wishing father in law well and telling the

582
00:26:57,920 --> 00:27:00,440
Speaker 1: girls to not come near me. Then got up left,

583
00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:02,680
Speaker 1: and that's where the recording ends, because you wouldn't be

584
00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:05,560
Speaker 1: able to use anything afterwards. Anyway. As for moving, we're

585
00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:08,680
Speaker 1: pretty much all packed up and have a truck coming

586
00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:10,879
Speaker 1: on Friday. We'll be staying with his parents until we

587
00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:13,399
Speaker 1: find a place. We're looking at buying this time, but

588
00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:15,919
Speaker 1: might get an RV in the meantime, so we're not

589
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:17,960
Speaker 1: all stepping on each other. I doubt his parents would

590
00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:21,439
Speaker 1: mind it all. But this is the last update for

591
00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:23,560
Speaker 1: a while. I think I have a wedding to finish,

592
00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:26,080
Speaker 1: a venue, to change, new invites, etc. In less than

593
00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:29,240
Speaker 1: two months to do it all. Send help, but thank

594
00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:31,600
Speaker 1: you all for being ears and helping me to get

595
00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:34,879
Speaker 1: through this. It only distracts me from ruminating and digging

596
00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:37,960
Speaker 1: a huge mental hole. I guess what, Sophia, what you

597
00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:38,680
Speaker 1: thought it was over?

598
00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:39,760
Speaker 2: I thought it was over.

599
00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:41,080
Speaker 1: You thought it was done.

600
00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:42,240
Speaker 2: I thought it was done.

601
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:47,680
Speaker 1: But there is a fourth update. But there's a fourth update,

602
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:50,879
Speaker 1: come and right up your little buttercups, So strap in.

603
00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:53,800
Speaker 1: But what do we think about this meeting? So we

604
00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:56,480
Speaker 1: decided that it was good to have a final send off.

605
00:27:56,640 --> 00:28:00,199
Speaker 1: What do you think about how oh he responded the

606
00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:02,640
Speaker 1: family and how the family responded to him.

607
00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:03,880
Speaker 2: You beat Ope's field too?

608
00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:04,560
Speaker 1: Oh pis fiance?

609
00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:07,000
Speaker 2: Yeah? I think that was all brilliant. I think not

610
00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:08,919
Speaker 2: only was it a final send off, but it was

611
00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:14,120
Speaker 2: a way to now get you know, even more evidence evidence. Yeah,

612
00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:18,920
Speaker 2: and clearly these people are more than a little crazy. Yeah,

613
00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:22,199
Speaker 2: yike seg seggs, they're threatening bodily harm.

614
00:28:22,600 --> 00:28:26,080
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Speaker 1: our sponsors. First. So it's been a while. Guys, calling

617
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Speaker 1: the past few months a roller coaster wouldn't quite do

618
00:28:32,880 --> 00:28:34,639
Speaker 1: a justice. A lot has happened, and I hope I

619
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Speaker 1: don't leave anything out here it goes. So, first, we

620
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:40,320
Speaker 1: moved away. We're only a couple of towns over from

621
00:28:40,360 --> 00:28:42,760
Speaker 1: my husband's parents legally, but we kind of just live

622
00:28:42,840 --> 00:28:47,280
Speaker 1: in their backyard and my own are a state over Hallujah.

623
00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:49,920
Speaker 1: It's been really great living in our own new RV,

624
00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:52,120
Speaker 1: and we've been able to take small trips now and

625
00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:54,960
Speaker 1: then too, which has been a great breather. Took a

626
00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:56,840
Speaker 1: chunk out of our house savings, but we're not too

627
00:28:56,840 --> 00:28:59,320
Speaker 1: worried about it. Looking for a house has been fun too.

628
00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:02,440
Speaker 1: I can't speak to what have happened, but by a

629
00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:05,080
Speaker 1: stroke of luck, the warrants came through the day before

630
00:29:05,120 --> 00:29:08,320
Speaker 1: our moving day, and the sisters spent the whole move

631
00:29:08,800 --> 00:29:11,520
Speaker 1: in police custody. I'm sure it was not as formal

632
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:14,200
Speaker 1: as cuffs and interview rooms, but I'd like to imagine

633
00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:15,600
Speaker 1: it that way. So we didn't have to deal with

634
00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:19,400
Speaker 1: any drama that for sure would have happened otherwise. As

635
00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:21,240
Speaker 1: I said before, we didn't block them because we wanted

636
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:23,560
Speaker 1: to keep the line open for more evidence. M boy,

637
00:29:24,120 --> 00:29:26,520
Speaker 1: was that a good idea? The nineteen year old has

638
00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:29,840
Speaker 1: only now just stopped sending me my messages. Start off

639
00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 1: with pleading and hoping for a meetup, then went to

640
00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:35,560
Speaker 1: calling me names and such for trying to ruin her life.

641
00:29:35,720 --> 00:29:38,800
Speaker 1: But the past few weeks have been pure rage, which

642
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:42,440
Speaker 1: has been draining, if entertaining. She says she'll find me

643
00:29:42,640 --> 00:29:45,440
Speaker 1: and I'd better watch my back. Blah blah blah. My

644
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:48,040
Speaker 1: printer has been working overtime. As you can imagine, so

645
00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:50,000
Speaker 1: many receipts to give to my lawyers.

646
00:29:50,360 --> 00:29:52,960
Speaker 2: She just keeps digging her own freaking grace.

647
00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:55,760
Speaker 1: I know, I know, I mean, hey, Opie's case is

648
00:29:55,840 --> 00:29:59,400
Speaker 1: a rock solid, rock solid, so many receiepts to give

649
00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:01,000
Speaker 1: my lawyer. The two twenty four year old is still

650
00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:03,800
Speaker 1: working on. My husband reached ahead a few days ago

651
00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 1: before the wedding. We should have changed the dates, but

652
00:30:05,680 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 1: it just wasn't feasible. We had family from all over

653
00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 1: that had taken time off work and we really wanted

654
00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:13,160
Speaker 1: everyone to be there after what happened. She tried to

655
00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:15,920
Speaker 1: call my husband over a dozen times and actually left

656
00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:20,400
Speaker 1: two voicemails. She was crying and hyperventilating, saying how she

657
00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:23,040
Speaker 1: didn't want to lose him. For those of you who

658
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:26,320
Speaker 1: said she still had a thing for him in Dingdong.

659
00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:28,720
Speaker 1: My husband listened to the voicemails with me, and she

660
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:31,800
Speaker 1: just rambled. It was actually quite sad. She said that

661
00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:34,200
Speaker 1: she always thought they would be together because they've been

662
00:30:34,280 --> 00:30:37,040
Speaker 1: through so much together and it felt right. She blamed

663
00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:39,640
Speaker 1: him for leading her on and making her fall for him,

664
00:30:39,680 --> 00:30:42,480
Speaker 1: only to choose someone else that he hardly knew. She

665
00:30:42,560 --> 00:30:45,400
Speaker 1: even said she felt replaced, which made me uncomfortable. All

666
00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 1: this all the while degrading him for betraying his late

667
00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:52,000
Speaker 1: wife by moving on at all. I genuinely do not

668
00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:54,840
Speaker 1: understand her logic. As for my car, we found out

669
00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:58,920
Speaker 1: what the unknown substance was. It was anti freeze. The

670
00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:02,440
Speaker 1: entire engine was written off and with everything else. My

671
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 1: insurance launched a case against them for the cost of

672
00:31:06,240 --> 00:31:09,080
Speaker 1: a new car. I was expecting sixty thousand dollars or so,

673
00:31:09,440 --> 00:31:12,400
Speaker 1: but Tom, my mechanic friend, said to ask for more

674
00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:15,640
Speaker 1: based on the current market value and such and they

675
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:20,640
Speaker 1: came back with a new offer, seventy five thousand dollars. Yes, keon,

676
00:31:20,720 --> 00:31:22,320
Speaker 1: what's a seventy five thousand dollars olive?

677
00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:26,000
Speaker 3: I look like, Oh no, I'm too hot hot, let

678
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:26,600
Speaker 3: me look it up.

679
00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:29,479
Speaker 1: It took over a month for the money to hit

680
00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 1: my account, but I got it. Seventy five big ones.

681
00:31:32,520 --> 00:31:33,960
Speaker 2: Dang man, you won.

682
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:37,040
Speaker 1: As for the case, I'm no longer going after them

683
00:31:37,080 --> 00:31:40,200
Speaker 1: for repayment my insurances, so that's one less thing I

684
00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:42,280
Speaker 1: have to worry about. As far as I know, their

685
00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:44,600
Speaker 1: father is paying for the legal fees, but I doubt

686
00:31:44,600 --> 00:31:47,040
Speaker 1: he'll pay back the insurance company for them. There is

687
00:31:47,120 --> 00:31:50,280
Speaker 1: still a case against them for pesterment and threatening behavior,

688
00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:52,760
Speaker 1: and I'm suing for the money it took to move

689
00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:56,440
Speaker 1: away and the emotional stress. My lawyer says they'll be liable,

690
00:31:56,480 --> 00:31:58,880
Speaker 1: and it's looking like they want to settle. I don't

691
00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:01,760
Speaker 1: feel great about going for emotional distress, but after everything

692
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 1: they've done, it was surely yeah, emotionally.

693
00:32:04,880 --> 00:32:07,520
Speaker 2: Distressing threatened you multiple times.

694
00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:09,959
Speaker 1: The courts are moving slowly, so I don't have anything

695
00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:12,400
Speaker 1: new on the criminal case yet other than that they

696
00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:14,959
Speaker 1: are going to plead guilty. Shouldn't be long now, and

697
00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:18,920
Speaker 1: it's looking like they're getting probation and mandatory anger management,

698
00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:21,120
Speaker 1: not a stint in jail, but oh well, at least

699
00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 1: they'll both have a record. My husband has been down

700
00:32:23,320 --> 00:32:26,000
Speaker 1: for a while since we left, but he hasn't wavered

701
00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:27,400
Speaker 1: in supporting me.

702
00:32:27,800 --> 00:32:29,600
Speaker 2: Helb you husband, I think he's allowed to feel a

703
00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:30,120
Speaker 2: little down.

704
00:32:30,400 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 1: He's getting back to his old self now that he's

705
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:35,760
Speaker 1: settling at work, and he's enjoying being closer to his parents.

706
00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:38,680
Speaker 1: It's been great for our relationship too, because we all

707
00:32:38,720 --> 00:32:40,960
Speaker 1: get on so well. And if you want to get

708
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:43,160
Speaker 1: on well with us, you should listen to full episodes

709
00:32:43,200 --> 00:32:45,440
Speaker 1: of stories just like this. Go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts,

710
00:32:45,560 --> 00:32:49,160
Speaker 1: or your favorite podcast app and search. Okay, storytime, there's

711
00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:52,600
Speaker 1: another relevant updates. But how are we feeling about where

712
00:32:52,640 --> 00:32:54,120
Speaker 1: things are ending up?

713
00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:57,560
Speaker 2: I think that everyone, I mean op and her partner

714
00:32:57,640 --> 00:33:00,440
Speaker 2: have taken all the right steps here. I think Opie's

715
00:33:00,480 --> 00:33:04,160
Speaker 2: partner felt a little bit of he was unsure about it,

716
00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:07,440
Speaker 2: like he wasn't. He didn't go full steam ahead into

717
00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:10,040
Speaker 2: cutting them off because they were really important part of

718
00:33:10,040 --> 00:33:10,360
Speaker 2: his life.

719
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:13,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I understand that. I understand that, but I

720
00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:15,840
Speaker 1: feel like he's kind of made all the right moves

721
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:16,360
Speaker 1: since then.

722
00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:19,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, like once he realized, oh they are a huge problem,

723
00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:22,320
Speaker 2: let's pump the brakes, let's get them out of my life,

724
00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 2: he did all of that, you know, So I think

725
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:26,080
Speaker 2: all of the right steps.

726
00:33:26,280 --> 00:33:28,360
Speaker 1: How it was made, all the right steps. What a

727
00:33:28,400 --> 00:33:30,040
Speaker 1: crazy family to be, like to.

728
00:33:30,360 --> 00:33:33,479
Speaker 2: Crazy to find out that they were this crazy all

729
00:33:33,560 --> 00:33:34,840
Speaker 2: after fifteen years.

730
00:33:34,920 --> 00:33:37,480
Speaker 1: I could understand maybe, you know, the twenty four year

731
00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:40,120
Speaker 1: old being crazy, but the fact that it's both the

732
00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:41,880
Speaker 1: twenty four year old and the nineteen year old that

733
00:33:41,920 --> 00:33:44,240
Speaker 1: are spearheading it, and the dad and the mom are

734
00:33:44,280 --> 00:33:46,960
Speaker 1: just kind of being like, yeah, kids will be kids.

735
00:33:47,640 --> 00:33:48,560
Speaker 2: Let's just know what it goes.

736
00:33:49,040 --> 00:33:51,560
Speaker 1: So it goes, Yeah, a little crazy, But we do

737
00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:55,200
Speaker 1: got a little bit more of this story as of

738
00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:58,320
Speaker 1: the twenty first, I'm a married woman. Let's go. We

739
00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:00,880
Speaker 1: got through the marriage. It was very tack and stressful

740
00:34:00,920 --> 00:34:03,840
Speaker 1: to change basically our entire wedding in two months, but

741
00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 1: we did it, and our guests were so understanding. We

742
00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:09,279
Speaker 1: had to settle for a few things like our cake

743
00:34:09,560 --> 00:34:12,640
Speaker 1: and catering, but everything else worked out amazingly. Now, we

744
00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:15,719
Speaker 1: couldn't imagine any other way. It happened as it was

745
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:19,000
Speaker 1: all supposed to. All in all, things are going well

746
00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:22,520
Speaker 1: and thanks to everyone who got invested. It's been a

747
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:25,879
Speaker 1: tough journey, but I'm just glad to have them out

748
00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:31,120
Speaker 1: of my life. And that is where this story ends.

749
00:34:32,239 --> 00:34:36,000
Speaker 1: I mean, I think this is a prime example of

750
00:34:36,480 --> 00:34:39,680
Speaker 1: what happens when you have a deep familial relationship with

751
00:34:39,760 --> 00:34:41,839
Speaker 1: someone that needs to end. It's going to be.

752
00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:44,279
Speaker 2: Hard, absolutely, I mean, like tearn off a.

753
00:34:44,320 --> 00:34:47,960
Speaker 1: Leech, Yeah, exactly, and it's and it's uh, but it's necessary.

754
00:34:48,320 --> 00:34:52,160
Speaker 1: And sometimes sometimes you only see who someone is when

755
00:34:52,520 --> 00:34:56,800
Speaker 1: they're actually being like emotionally tested, right, Like maybe like Ope,

756
00:34:57,800 --> 00:35:00,520
Speaker 1: Ope's fiance never saw a jealous side of it family,

757
00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:03,000
Speaker 1: so never was exposed to the crazy that they had.

758
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:06,000
Speaker 1: But it is. But I'm like surprised that it took

759
00:35:06,040 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 1: fifteen years to get like this.

760
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:10,880
Speaker 2: I I know, fifteen years because it seems like they

761
00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:13,520
Speaker 2: were fine with OPI when they were just dating. It

762
00:35:13,560 --> 00:35:15,319
Speaker 2: was the marriage that really triggered them.

763
00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:17,560
Speaker 1: Well yeah, I mean I think the twenty four year

764
00:35:17,560 --> 00:35:19,200
Speaker 1: old's like, oh my god, I'm never going to give

765
00:35:19,200 --> 00:35:20,319
Speaker 1: a chance to actually be with him.

766
00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:23,080
Speaker 2: Yeah. Ms Woozy says I hope the twenty four year

767
00:35:23,120 --> 00:35:26,600
Speaker 2: old can't escape the wedding photos online, so she's constantly

768
00:35:26,680 --> 00:35:28,719
Speaker 2: reminded what a butt she was.

769
00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:32,040
Speaker 3: But that's what a seventy five k all looks like. Whoa,

770
00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:33,040
Speaker 3: it took me a second.

771
00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:34,839
Speaker 1: I like the sixty five k one more.

772
00:35:35,480 --> 00:35:39,000
Speaker 3: Well, that's like a plug in hybrid. Oh it's a

773
00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:40,000
Speaker 3: weird one.

774
00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:42,160
Speaker 1: Not a big It's not not as big a fan

775
00:35:42,280 --> 00:35:44,600
Speaker 1: of that. Alvough. We have heard a lot of stories

776
00:35:44,719 --> 00:35:50,160
Speaker 1: of like the siblings basically stepping up and becoming, yeah,

777
00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:52,920
Speaker 1: the partner and becoming the partner. And I think we

778
00:35:52,920 --> 00:35:54,560
Speaker 1: were like, I think at some point we're like, oh,

779
00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:56,719
Speaker 1: like that's a little odd. But a lot of the

780
00:35:56,719 --> 00:35:59,479
Speaker 1: comments we actually saw were like grief, basically Kim Robers

781
00:35:59,520 --> 00:36:03,480
Speaker 1: grief change things to people, And that's actually more common,

782
00:36:03,560 --> 00:36:05,600
Speaker 1: maybe more accepted than you might think.

783
00:36:05,880 --> 00:36:08,040
Speaker 2: It's like pretty common in like different cultures.

784
00:36:08,560 --> 00:36:11,239
Speaker 1: Where it's like the brother steps up or like like

785
00:36:11,280 --> 00:36:14,400
Speaker 1: the really good friend up. Jellybu says, it's expected to.

786
00:36:14,480 --> 00:36:16,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, like if you've seen a boy and the heron,

787
00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:17,760
Speaker 2: that's what happens.

788
00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:19,080
Speaker 1: Oh really, yeah, Like.

789
00:36:19,000 --> 00:36:21,239
Speaker 2: The whole plot of the movie is that the young

790
00:36:21,320 --> 00:36:25,359
Speaker 2: boy loses his mom and then his aunt becomes his mom,

791
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:28,000
Speaker 2: and they kind of have to deal with that new relationship.

792
00:36:28,239 --> 00:36:29,160
Speaker 1: I never saw that.

793
00:36:29,280 --> 00:36:32,440
Speaker 2: It is a good movie if you go into it

794
00:36:32,560 --> 00:36:35,320
Speaker 2: just for the vines, the reds. It is a very

795
00:36:35,360 --> 00:36:39,400
Speaker 2: confusing movie. And that is coming from a hardcore me

796
00:36:39,440 --> 00:36:42,000
Speaker 2: as Oki fan. I asked my sister to change your

797
00:36:42,040 --> 00:36:44,640
Speaker 2: wedding date because I'm graduating that day.

798
00:36:45,120 --> 00:36:48,120
Speaker 1: I mean, I can't change my graduation. You have the

799
00:36:48,120 --> 00:36:49,120
Speaker 1: power to change your wedding.

800
00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:52,480
Speaker 2: My sister is getting married next year on May seventeenth,

801
00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:56,360
Speaker 2: twenty twenty five. This is a problem because I graduate

802
00:36:56,480 --> 00:36:59,360
Speaker 2: that day. By the way, this comes from civil signature

803
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:02,080
Speaker 2: Nino seven. And if you want to spit your own stories,

804
00:37:02,080 --> 00:37:04,520
Speaker 2: go to the r slash Okay storytime separate it. So

805
00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:08,440
Speaker 2: I was informed about the date in March. Long story short,

806
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:10,680
Speaker 2: I was looking at my academic calendar just a few

807
00:37:10,760 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 2: days ago and I found out that was my graduation

808
00:37:13,760 --> 00:37:16,279
Speaker 2: day at my school. Usually graduates during the first week

809
00:37:16,320 --> 00:37:18,840
Speaker 2: of May, so this surprised me. I let my parents

810
00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:20,640
Speaker 2: know about the date, and they told me to tell

811
00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 2: my sister. When I told her about the date, I

812
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:25,360
Speaker 2: asked her if she could change the date. She told

813
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:27,799
Speaker 2: me that she already changed the date three times and

814
00:37:27,880 --> 00:37:30,319
Speaker 2: she wasn't going to change it a fourth time. She

815
00:37:30,360 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 2: told me that she was sorry and she'll understand if

816
00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:35,239
Speaker 2: I can't come. I was kind of upset because I

817
00:37:35,280 --> 00:37:37,960
Speaker 2: thought it was very dismissive when I told her that.

818
00:37:38,040 --> 00:37:39,960
Speaker 2: She got mad and told me that I can't expect

819
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:41,840
Speaker 2: her to try and change her date again, and that

820
00:37:41,920 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 2: it was set and it was final. Now, I'm kind

821
00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:46,200
Speaker 2: of worry that none of my family members would be

822
00:37:46,239 --> 00:37:48,640
Speaker 2: at my graduation and I won't be able to see

823
00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:52,120
Speaker 2: my sister get married. I understand that it's an inconvenience

824
00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:54,680
Speaker 2: for her, but she could change her wedding date. I

825
00:37:54,719 --> 00:37:58,600
Speaker 2: have no control over my graduation date. When I talked

826
00:37:58,640 --> 00:38:00,840
Speaker 2: to my parents about who's going to be my graduation,

827
00:38:01,040 --> 00:38:02,839
Speaker 2: they just told me not to worry about that right

828
00:38:02,880 --> 00:38:06,640
Speaker 2: now because it's not time to stress about that. They're

829
00:38:06,680 --> 00:38:09,440
Speaker 2: not going to be there. That means no one's gonna

830
00:38:09,440 --> 00:38:09,799
Speaker 2: be there.

831
00:38:10,440 --> 00:38:14,400
Speaker 1: I if I was, I do think a marriage is

832
00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:15,600
Speaker 1: more important than a graduation.

833
00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:16,840
Speaker 2: I agree.

834
00:38:17,080 --> 00:38:19,359
Speaker 1: I didn't even want to attend my graduation, huh.

835
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:25,920
Speaker 2: I agree. However, if Op's sister can still change the date.

836
00:38:25,840 --> 00:38:26,440
Speaker 1: That she should.

837
00:38:26,719 --> 00:38:27,719
Speaker 2: Then she should, but.

838
00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:29,400
Speaker 1: There might be a lot of things that are.

839
00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:32,680
Speaker 2: Like's if things are booked, then I'd be like, yeah,

840
00:38:32,840 --> 00:38:36,080
Speaker 2: she's already booked everything. It doesn't make sense, like really sucks.

841
00:38:36,160 --> 00:38:39,120
Speaker 2: Doesn't make sense if she has not booked things and

842
00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:41,440
Speaker 2: she just doesn't want to change the date because she

843
00:38:41,520 --> 00:38:42,959
Speaker 2: just doesn't want to change the date.

844
00:38:43,160 --> 00:38:47,239
Speaker 1: I also feel like it's it's also not what she said,

845
00:38:47,280 --> 00:38:49,200
Speaker 1: it's how she said it. Yeah, it was like I'm

846
00:38:49,200 --> 00:38:49,880
Speaker 1: obtaining it for you.

847
00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:51,880
Speaker 2: It's like I've ready change it three times. It's annoying.

848
00:38:52,360 --> 00:38:55,439
Speaker 2: If she didn't have anything holding her to that date,

849
00:38:55,520 --> 00:38:58,719
Speaker 2: I think she should change the date. My parents are

850
00:38:58,760 --> 00:39:00,719
Speaker 2: telling me that they are going to try convinced my

851
00:39:00,800 --> 00:39:04,440
Speaker 2: sister to change the date, but I doubt she will consensus.

852
00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:07,760
Speaker 2: Not the ale commenters tell op that nobody is trying

853
00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:10,200
Speaker 2: to cause drama or be mean and that this is

854
00:39:10,239 --> 00:39:13,080
Speaker 2: a crappy coincidence. Comments by Ope, I'm not going to

855
00:39:13,160 --> 00:39:15,480
Speaker 2: a wedding if it's during my graduation. If no one

856
00:39:15,480 --> 00:39:17,839
Speaker 2: in my family comes to my graduation, I'd like them

857
00:39:17,840 --> 00:39:20,200
Speaker 2: to tell me now instead of waiting until later. This

858
00:39:20,280 --> 00:39:24,080
Speaker 2: is her first wedding. I'm sixteen. She's twenty five. Oh oh,

859
00:39:24,120 --> 00:39:25,920
Speaker 2: it's your high school graduation. Graduation.

860
00:39:26,360 --> 00:39:28,320
Speaker 1: I actually think a high school I think it was important.

861
00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:29,960
Speaker 1: It's more important than college graduation.

862
00:39:30,080 --> 00:39:33,360
Speaker 2: I think college graduations are huge. Yeah, at least mine was.

863
00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:35,880
Speaker 2: If I mean, I would have been like sad if

864
00:39:35,880 --> 00:39:38,000
Speaker 2: you guys hadn't come to my graduation. But like, also,

865
00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:40,359
Speaker 2: it was like a fifteen minute thing.

866
00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:42,600
Speaker 1: You know, what do you mean? It wasn't fifteen minutes.

867
00:39:42,600 --> 00:39:43,360
Speaker 1: It was like three hours.

868
00:39:43,440 --> 00:39:46,200
Speaker 2: No, but like the actual part of me going on

869
00:39:46,239 --> 00:39:46,799
Speaker 2: stage was.

870
00:39:46,840 --> 00:39:49,320
Speaker 1: Like no, it was in two seconds. Yeah, I was

871
00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:50,040
Speaker 1: like thirty seconds.

872
00:39:50,040 --> 00:39:52,840
Speaker 2: Like I'm talking about the walking, right. I would have

873
00:39:52,840 --> 00:39:54,319
Speaker 2: been more sad if you hadn't gone to the theater

874
00:39:54,400 --> 00:39:57,719
Speaker 2: graduation because I actually like got awards and that was

875
00:39:57,760 --> 00:40:01,959
Speaker 2: like actually a cooving. But the main graduation. I would

876
00:40:01,960 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 2: like to be at her wedding. But I'm not missing

877
00:40:03,680 --> 00:40:06,400
Speaker 2: my graduation. Yeah, I think the high school graduation is

878
00:40:06,400 --> 00:40:08,560
Speaker 2: like pretty big deal.

879
00:40:08,760 --> 00:40:10,320
Speaker 1: Yeah I'm still hot.

880
00:40:10,360 --> 00:40:12,799
Speaker 3: But do you remember your graduation because I was there

881
00:40:12,800 --> 00:40:14,240
Speaker 3: because you and Keiona graduated.

882
00:40:14,360 --> 00:40:15,640
Speaker 2: Oh my god, yeah, you would have been there.

883
00:40:15,760 --> 00:40:17,759
Speaker 3: I was there. I was the guy who show the

884
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:18,399
Speaker 3: confetti gun.

885
00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:20,719
Speaker 2: Why would I remember that because.

886
00:40:20,440 --> 00:40:22,200
Speaker 3: Everyone was really upset about you.

887
00:40:22,280 --> 00:40:23,360
Speaker 2: Oh, I don't remember.

888
00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:25,680
Speaker 3: One of the teachers with like the curly hair was like,

889
00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:26,879
Speaker 3: we're gonna take that away from you now.

890
00:40:26,920 --> 00:40:29,480
Speaker 2: I got the theater award. That's what I remember.

891
00:40:30,040 --> 00:40:35,400
Speaker 1: At shockingly your shockingly shockingly big deal, A big deal. Alert.

892
00:40:35,440 --> 00:40:39,800
Speaker 2: Well, there's only like three you did I know exactly

893
00:40:39,840 --> 00:40:42,240
Speaker 2: who you asked one of my friend's sisters.

894
00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:44,000
Speaker 1: I did, Well, what like, we went on a couple

895
00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:44,360
Speaker 1: of dates.

896
00:40:45,880 --> 00:40:46,279
Speaker 2: That's crazy.

897
00:40:46,320 --> 00:40:49,239
Speaker 3: I was at your graduation, yeah, man, Samon graduate. I

898
00:40:49,239 --> 00:40:52,160
Speaker 3: was always there in spirit, yeah, and also physically.

899
00:40:53,040 --> 00:40:56,160
Speaker 2: My parents are conflicted. They're not sure what to do,

900
00:40:56,239 --> 00:40:57,719
Speaker 2: and just told me that they're going to try and

901
00:40:57,840 --> 00:41:00,320
Speaker 2: convince her to change the date. My sister wanted a

902
00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:03,000
Speaker 2: spring wedding at first, but she changed her mind wanting

903
00:41:03,200 --> 00:41:06,160
Speaker 2: and wanted to get married during September, but most of

904
00:41:06,239 --> 00:41:07,759
Speaker 2: us would be in school by that time.

905
00:41:07,880 --> 00:41:09,680
Speaker 1: Oh do it do it go go?

906
00:41:09,960 --> 00:41:13,840
Speaker 2: Stays no, no, but most of us would be in

907
00:41:13,880 --> 00:41:16,400
Speaker 2: school by that time, and she just decided to change

908
00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:19,520
Speaker 2: it to May. It keeps getting pushed back. If OP

909
00:41:19,719 --> 00:41:23,080
Speaker 2: was at sister's graduation, yes, we all attended except her

910
00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:25,279
Speaker 2: college graduation. It was only a few of us who

911
00:41:25,280 --> 00:41:28,080
Speaker 2: could go, Me, my mom and dad, and two of

912
00:41:28,080 --> 00:41:30,520
Speaker 2: our cousins. It had limited tickets, but for her high

913
00:41:30,560 --> 00:41:34,680
Speaker 2: school one everyone went. The thing is also cater Rance's

914
00:41:34,680 --> 00:41:37,040
Speaker 2: All graduations are a big deal, very very true. But

915
00:41:37,120 --> 00:41:40,600
Speaker 2: I think that like high school graduation is a little

916
00:41:40,600 --> 00:41:42,920
Speaker 2: bit of a kind of it's a little bit different

917
00:41:43,040 --> 00:41:49,320
Speaker 2: because you're eighteen. It's usually smaller and you are like you're.

918
00:41:49,160 --> 00:41:53,200
Speaker 1: Going on to the world your family.

919
00:41:53,239 --> 00:41:55,600
Speaker 2: Often, like college is that you know you're going out

920
00:41:55,640 --> 00:41:57,480
Speaker 2: in the world for like you're going to get a

921
00:41:57,560 --> 00:42:00,200
Speaker 2: job and stuff. But like high school graduation is you

922
00:42:00,239 --> 00:42:03,520
Speaker 2: have just become an adult. You were about to become

923
00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:07,600
Speaker 2: independent to a certain extent, live apart from your parents

924
00:42:07,640 --> 00:42:10,279
Speaker 2: for maybe the first time. It says it's one hour

925
00:42:10,320 --> 00:42:12,360
Speaker 2: and thirty one minutes away from my school. On the

926
00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:14,600
Speaker 2: calendar it says at four pm, but I know that

927
00:42:14,640 --> 00:42:17,080
Speaker 2: the graduates have to be there earlier for lineup, and

928
00:42:17,160 --> 00:42:19,560
Speaker 2: I'm not sure what time that'll be. My sister wants

929
00:42:19,640 --> 00:42:22,319
Speaker 2: to start her wedding at five thirty. Even if my

930
00:42:22,400 --> 00:42:25,520
Speaker 2: graduation ends before, I'll miss part of it. I want

931
00:42:25,560 --> 00:42:28,080
Speaker 2: my family at my high school graduation too. They're both

932
00:42:28,120 --> 00:42:30,600
Speaker 2: important and I liked seeing how everyone was proud of

933
00:42:30,600 --> 00:42:33,680
Speaker 2: my cousins and sister when they graduated, and I want

934
00:42:33,680 --> 00:42:35,759
Speaker 2: that for me too. In order for my parents or

935
00:42:35,800 --> 00:42:38,279
Speaker 2: anyone who wants to see the wedding, that means they'll

936
00:42:38,280 --> 00:42:40,960
Speaker 2: have to miss my graduation because of the time it

937
00:42:41,000 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 2: takes to get there. I can't go to a reception

938
00:42:43,320 --> 00:42:47,919
Speaker 2: with no transportation. That even bigger point. Yeah, I don't

939
00:42:47,960 --> 00:42:50,919
Speaker 2: think she really checked in with anyone. She just told

940
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:53,719
Speaker 2: everyone that was the date. She originally had it for September,

941
00:42:53,760 --> 00:42:55,640
Speaker 2: but I wasn't working out for everyone, so she just

942
00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:56,560
Speaker 2: changed it.

943
00:42:56,560 --> 00:42:59,560
Speaker 1: It feels like she's not considering her sister in her wedding,

944
00:42:59,560 --> 00:43:01,600
Speaker 1: which is that sounds like she doesn't want her there.

945
00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:03,719
Speaker 2: My parents are telling me not to talk about it

946
00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:05,759
Speaker 2: right now. You have to talk about it right now

947
00:43:05,760 --> 00:43:08,399
Speaker 2: before she books anything. And I would like it if

948
00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:11,719
Speaker 2: everyone came to my graduation. I went to theirs, But

949
00:43:11,800 --> 00:43:13,880
Speaker 2: if I'm being honest, I don't really care if my

950
00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:16,719
Speaker 2: uncle's aunts and cousins don't come. I just wanted my

951
00:43:16,840 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 2: parents to be there for me. If both of my

952
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:21,839
Speaker 2: parents don't want to come to my graduation, they need

953
00:43:21,840 --> 00:43:24,359
Speaker 2: to tell me now, so I can accept that no

954
00:43:24,400 --> 00:43:26,680
Speaker 2: one will be there for me instead of prolonging it

955
00:43:26,760 --> 00:43:29,880
Speaker 2: and refusing to talk about it. V Ran says she's

956
00:43:29,880 --> 00:43:32,000
Speaker 2: sixteen graduating in high school. No, this is a year

957
00:43:32,040 --> 00:43:35,040
Speaker 2: from now, So she's saying that she found out about

958
00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:38,200
Speaker 2: when her graduation date is a year before.

959
00:43:38,600 --> 00:43:40,440
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Sam. We're going to get back to these stories.

960
00:43:40,440 --> 00:43:42,440
Speaker 1: But here's three bits of ads from our sponsors that

961
00:43:42,520 --> 00:43:43,240
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962
00:43:43,440 --> 00:43:46,480
Speaker 2: Did I say she was too blame new It just

963
00:43:46,520 --> 00:43:49,799
Speaker 2: sucks that I went to everyone everyone's graduation and I'm

964
00:43:49,800 --> 00:43:52,359
Speaker 2: going to be the only person without having anyone there.

965
00:43:52,640 --> 00:43:55,239
Speaker 2: I got my hopes up for nothing, and that's what's

966
00:43:55,320 --> 00:43:57,880
Speaker 2: upsetting me. I always looked forward to seeing my cousins

967
00:43:57,880 --> 00:44:00,239
Speaker 2: and my sister graduating, and I liked how I've everyone

968
00:44:00,280 --> 00:44:02,760
Speaker 2: in the family was always there. If my parents can't

969
00:44:02,760 --> 00:44:05,640
Speaker 2: convince her to change the date, I'll accept it and

970
00:44:05,719 --> 00:44:09,560
Speaker 2: not expect anyone to come until told. If someone is, I.

971
00:44:09,600 --> 00:44:12,040
Speaker 1: Wonder, do you have one parent go to the wedding?

972
00:44:12,120 --> 00:44:13,040
Speaker 1: One parent go too?

973
00:44:13,120 --> 00:44:13,920
Speaker 2: Would they even do that?

974
00:44:14,000 --> 00:44:16,640
Speaker 1: Though? You know, well, I guess what would you do

975
00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:20,359
Speaker 1: in this situation? Right? So graduation you can't you can't

976
00:44:20,360 --> 00:44:20,920
Speaker 1: move the wedding.

977
00:44:21,200 --> 00:44:22,520
Speaker 2: Am I a parent in this situation?

978
00:44:22,920 --> 00:44:26,120
Speaker 1: You can't move the wedding and you can't move the graduation.

979
00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:28,759
Speaker 2: I probably would split up if that, yeah, because I

980
00:44:29,080 --> 00:44:31,120
Speaker 2: don't think it's fair to have the you know, and

981
00:44:31,200 --> 00:44:34,040
Speaker 2: I would, and hopefully that would be an incentive to

982
00:44:34,200 --> 00:44:37,719
Speaker 2: the other daughter, Yeah, to change the date. I would say, hey,

983
00:44:38,120 --> 00:44:41,759
Speaker 2: if this is your wedding, you can do that. One

984
00:44:41,760 --> 00:44:43,200
Speaker 2: of us needs to be there for your sister.

985
00:44:43,320 --> 00:44:44,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, but does suck.

986
00:44:44,600 --> 00:44:45,320
Speaker 2: It sucks.

987
00:44:45,560 --> 00:44:46,479
Speaker 1: It sucks so much.

988
00:44:46,520 --> 00:44:48,800
Speaker 2: And I would hope that them saying that would convince

989
00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:51,480
Speaker 2: the sister to be like, you're right, I want both

990
00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:53,239
Speaker 2: of my parents and my sister to be there.

991
00:44:53,440 --> 00:44:53,680
Speaker 1: Yeah.

992
00:44:53,719 --> 00:44:57,080
Speaker 2: So I feel like the parents keep pushing it off

993
00:44:57,080 --> 00:44:58,839
Speaker 2: and saying, oh, let's not talk about it, like, let's

994
00:44:58,840 --> 00:45:00,000
Speaker 2: not talk talk about it now.

995
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:02,560
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it needs to I think they just they

996
00:45:03,440 --> 00:45:06,120
Speaker 1: I think that's hoping it resolves itself. For like op

997
00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:08,320
Speaker 1: just stops being, stops caring.

998
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:11,520
Speaker 2: Somebody says to go no contact with her family, thanks,

999
00:45:11,520 --> 00:45:13,799
Speaker 2: But I couldn't do that to my parents. I love

1000
00:45:13,840 --> 00:45:16,080
Speaker 2: them too much to stop talking to them. I also

1001
00:45:16,120 --> 00:45:18,120
Speaker 2: won't say I'll stop talking to my sister either, But

1002
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:20,839
Speaker 2: I will view her differently, and I'm not sure if

1003
00:45:20,840 --> 00:45:23,400
Speaker 2: we could ever be as close anymore. It hurt my

1004
00:45:23,400 --> 00:45:25,560
Speaker 2: feelings a lot when she basically told me that she

1005
00:45:25,680 --> 00:45:27,920
Speaker 2: was okay with me not being at her wedding and

1006
00:45:28,040 --> 00:45:30,720
Speaker 2: didn't sound as concerned as me. She made it sound

1007
00:45:30,719 --> 00:45:33,000
Speaker 2: like it wasn't a big deal. It made me realize

1008
00:45:33,040 --> 00:45:35,640
Speaker 2: that I maybe valued her more than she valued me.

1009
00:45:35,880 --> 00:45:38,520
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be hurt regardless not having everyone there, but

1010
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:40,640
Speaker 2: I don't really know what I can do. And there

1011
00:45:40,719 --> 00:45:42,839
Speaker 2: is an update, folks ten months later.

1012
00:45:43,400 --> 00:45:46,759
Speaker 1: Oh boys jumps straight into it. I So, I guess

1013
00:45:46,800 --> 00:45:51,360
Speaker 1: we're gonna know whether people are going to Ope's graduation

1014
00:45:51,719 --> 00:45:52,400
Speaker 1: or the wedding.

1015
00:45:53,080 --> 00:45:55,319
Speaker 2: I forgot about this account until I checked my other

1016
00:45:55,400 --> 00:45:58,239
Speaker 2: Gmail accounts on my phone. It's May twentieth now, and

1017
00:45:58,320 --> 00:45:59,880
Speaker 2: I graduated.

1018
00:45:59,600 --> 00:46:00,960
Speaker 1: Who with no one there.

1019
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:05,319
Speaker 2: Everyone in my family went to my sister's wedding. I

1020
00:46:05,360 --> 00:46:05,799
Speaker 2: didn't go.

1021
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:07,960
Speaker 1: That is crushing.

1022
00:46:09,080 --> 00:46:12,200
Speaker 2: My parents left me my mom's car so i'd have

1023
00:46:12,239 --> 00:46:14,799
Speaker 2: transportation while they were away and could still make it

1024
00:46:14,840 --> 00:46:18,600
Speaker 2: to my graduation. I graduated top five in my class,

1025
00:46:18,760 --> 00:46:21,400
Speaker 2: and I felt alone. Oh when my name was called,

1026
00:46:21,400 --> 00:46:23,360
Speaker 2: a few people in the crowd clap, But it wasn't

1027
00:46:23,360 --> 00:46:26,160
Speaker 2: like everyone else who had their whole famili's cheering, yelling

1028
00:46:26,200 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 2: and making noise. It was embarrassingly quiet. You could feel

1029
00:46:30,160 --> 00:46:32,680
Speaker 2: that I didn't have anyone there. However, I didn't even

1030
00:46:32,719 --> 00:46:35,759
Speaker 2: know my school live streams graduations on Facebook until the

1031
00:46:35,840 --> 00:46:38,799
Speaker 2: day afterwards. The camera angle was so far away you

1032
00:46:38,840 --> 00:46:41,160
Speaker 2: couldn't really see me though. You could only hear my

1033
00:46:41,239 --> 00:46:43,840
Speaker 2: voice and see me when I was at the podium

1034
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:46,200
Speaker 2: reading the pledge and when they said my name, that

1035
00:46:46,360 --> 00:46:51,160
Speaker 2: was it. So op was even like reading at their graduation. Afterwards,

1036
00:46:51,200 --> 00:46:54,319
Speaker 2: I went to McDonald's and then went home. Oh, I

1037
00:46:54,360 --> 00:46:58,239
Speaker 2: would have been at your graduation. That's so sad, that's hurt.

1038
00:46:59,640 --> 00:47:02,560
Speaker 2: If you ever had to graduate before me and I

1039
00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:04,279
Speaker 2: was supposed to have a wedding, I would always move

1040
00:47:04,360 --> 00:47:06,920
Speaker 2: it for you. I would move heaven and earth to

1041
00:47:06,960 --> 00:47:08,759
Speaker 2: have you be at my wedding too, Because you're going

1042
00:47:08,800 --> 00:47:09,800
Speaker 2: to be at my bridal party.

1043
00:47:10,080 --> 00:47:11,560
Speaker 1: Heck, yeah, I'm excited.

1044
00:47:11,640 --> 00:47:13,399
Speaker 2: I was talking to as well about this. Actually, we've

1045
00:47:13,400 --> 00:47:15,160
Speaker 2: confirmed who my bridesmaids are.

1046
00:47:15,320 --> 00:47:16,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you're one of them. Cool.

1047
00:47:16,560 --> 00:47:18,279
Speaker 2: Don't have to wear a dress, Oh, I mean you

1048
00:47:18,280 --> 00:47:21,440
Speaker 2: can if you want to. Cool okay, because my graduation

1049
00:47:21,640 --> 00:47:24,080
Speaker 2: ended around five PM and my parents didn't make it

1050
00:47:24,120 --> 00:47:27,080
Speaker 2: home until around eleven that night. My parents tried to

1051
00:47:27,080 --> 00:47:30,920
Speaker 2: plan a celebratory dinner for me Sunday. The places I

1052
00:47:31,000 --> 00:47:33,920
Speaker 2: really wanted to eat at are closed on Sundays and Mondays.

1053
00:47:34,080 --> 00:47:36,400
Speaker 2: Now they're pushing it to this Saturday so everyone in

1054
00:47:36,400 --> 00:47:38,600
Speaker 2: the family could come. I already told them they can't

1055
00:47:38,600 --> 00:47:41,200
Speaker 2: really make up for missing my graduation though, at least

1056
00:47:41,239 --> 00:47:43,760
Speaker 2: that's how I feel. A dinner after the fact doesn't

1057
00:47:43,800 --> 00:47:47,600
Speaker 2: fix how invisible I felt. To be honest, but you

1058
00:47:47,640 --> 00:47:51,000
Speaker 2: guys will never be invisible to us because we're always

1059
00:47:51,080 --> 00:47:53,480
Speaker 2: making you full episodes for you to listen to with

1060
00:47:53,600 --> 00:47:56,880
Speaker 2: stories just like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcast,

1061
00:47:57,000 --> 00:47:59,759
Speaker 2: or iHeartRadio and search a Pocus story time. There is

1062
00:47:59,760 --> 00:48:01,560
Speaker 2: a little bit left to the sat.

1063
00:48:01,719 --> 00:48:04,840
Speaker 1: It is sad. I mean, it's just like the family's

1064
00:48:04,920 --> 00:48:08,480
Speaker 1: just so obviously choosing yeah the sister, and the sister

1065
00:48:08,640 --> 00:48:11,400
Speaker 1: is not care, doesn't care if he's.

1066
00:48:11,239 --> 00:48:15,280
Speaker 2: There, Like, Wow, not of your sister who it seems

1067
00:48:15,320 --> 00:48:18,840
Speaker 2: like they were close before. Do not have your sister

1068
00:48:18,880 --> 00:48:20,880
Speaker 2: be at your wedding to not have anyone go to

1069
00:48:20,920 --> 00:48:24,120
Speaker 2: her graduation? Wow? But let's finish this off. They're upset

1070
00:48:24,160 --> 00:48:26,160
Speaker 2: that I said at dinner and wasn't really going to

1071
00:48:26,239 --> 00:48:28,640
Speaker 2: make up for missing my graduation. They said they thought

1072
00:48:28,680 --> 00:48:30,520
Speaker 2: long and hard about it and figured I'd still have

1073
00:48:30,560 --> 00:48:32,960
Speaker 2: the chance to graduate college later on and they could

1074
00:48:32,960 --> 00:48:35,319
Speaker 2: see me then. Meanwhile, they wouldn't have to miss my

1075
00:48:35,440 --> 00:48:38,800
Speaker 2: sister's weddings since she'd only get married once. My sister

1076
00:48:38,840 --> 00:48:40,520
Speaker 2: and the rest of the family have been texting me

1077
00:48:41,000 --> 00:48:44,640
Speaker 2: congratulations now, but it all just feels late, if that

1078
00:48:44,719 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 2: makes sense.

1079
00:48:45,680 --> 00:48:46,080
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1080
00:48:46,239 --> 00:48:49,120
Speaker 2: I'm happy I graduated, but I do feel a little overlooked.

1081
00:48:49,200 --> 00:48:52,759
Speaker 2: Comments coming one says this situation just sucks. I want

1082
00:48:52,760 --> 00:48:55,279
Speaker 2: to give Op the biggest hug. Another reply says same.

1083
00:48:55,400 --> 00:48:57,800
Speaker 2: The parents should have persuaded the older sister to change

1084
00:48:57,800 --> 00:49:00,239
Speaker 2: the date or made dang sure one of them could

1085
00:49:00,239 --> 00:49:00,640
Speaker 2: be there for.

1086
00:49:01,120 --> 00:49:03,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, which is what we suggested.

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Speaker 2: What a crappy family all in all, heartbreaking. Comment two

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Speaker 2: says the situation sucks, but I'm a little baffled about

1089
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Speaker 2: why at least one member of the family didn't go

1090
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Speaker 2: to cheer on Op and then they high tail it

1091
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Speaker 2: over to the wedding and attend the reception. If I'd

1092
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Speaker 2: been the oldest sister, I would have announced Op's arrival

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Speaker 2: at the reception and let everyone cheer she walked in.

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Speaker 2: That would have been no one to go to the graduation. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and why did Op just go home instead of going

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Speaker 2: to the second after the wedding? Well, because Opie was sad. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: O if he was sad, no one came to their

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Speaker 2: graduation and then expected.

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Speaker 1: State or something like it was an hour and a half,

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Speaker 1: an hour a half away.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Another reply says, yeah, even if it meant op

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Speaker 2: he missed some part of the wedding, I would have

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Speaker 2: wanted my sister there and would have arranged for her

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Speaker 2: to be there. I understand not moving the date because yeah,

1105
00:49:47,480 --> 00:49:49,440
Speaker 2: wedding venues, you got to get them on time. But

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Speaker 2: I don't understand not doing everything possible to have your

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Speaker 2: sister there tbh. I blame the parents. Parents need to

1108
00:49:56,160 --> 00:49:59,160
Speaker 2: know the date of the graduation, let everyone know and

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Speaker 2: make sure people attended the graduation, and that is the end.

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Speaker 1: Wow. Wow, I feel so bad for Op. But maybe

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Speaker 1: you kind of like know a little bit more where

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Speaker 1: you stand with these relationships and know maybe to invest

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Speaker 1: in different ones. Agreed, But it's definitely hard.

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Speaker 2: Really sucks, sucks.

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Speaker 1: It sucks to see, but but else sucks less. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I guess this sucks too, exactly the end of that story.

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Speaker 1: It's the end and this episode. Yeah, So if you

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Speaker 1: see it alone.