Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, we're back.
Speaker 2: We're black.
Speaker 1: Abusu amen?
Speaker 2: Drat are you hi?
Speaker 1: Where are your curls?
Speaker 3: I feel like you're high? Is like is being reflected
Speaker 3: in your curls?
Speaker 1: Not be here?
Speaker 2: I blue dried, blow dried my hair yesterday.
Speaker 1: It's so long now.
Speaker 2: Didn't recognize me. He's just now like he's nigh. He's
Speaker 2: like almost ten months. But yes, it is the part.
Speaker 2: This is the time when it's like stranger danger. And
Speaker 2: also he recognizes faces and stuff and the way that
Speaker 2: he just looked at me like I was a stranger
Speaker 2: picking him up at day here yesterday. It was pretty sad,
Speaker 2: you know, right in his face.
Speaker 3: He's just like did you see like the you see
Speaker 3: the clips where like the babies where the dad shave
Speaker 3: off their beard and their mustache.
Speaker 2: That's exactly what the effects must be for him, because
Speaker 2: I didn't even have it down. I just had it
Speaker 2: like it's back all the way and like a slip pony.
Speaker 2: He's like, anyway, I've really been trying to like get
Speaker 2: my energy up, but today is just not it. So
Speaker 2: but I'm going to push through. I'm going to push through,
Speaker 2: come through. Queens are not thanks, but yeah, life is
Speaker 2: just lifing so hard and it's very adult and it's
Speaker 2: very much not backing down. So that's all just a
Speaker 2: lot of shit going on. I'm heading to Georgia again tomorrow, okay,
Speaker 2: because my dad. I'm gonna go visit him. The way,
Speaker 2: I could probably have bought like a couple of European
Speaker 2: vacations for the amount of airfare just spend going to Georgia.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I'm taking my I'm taking the big kid
Speaker 2: taking real Okay, okay, but yeah, and I'm like behind
Speaker 2: on taxes and stuff like a bummer over here. I
Speaker 2: don't want Are you an escorp?
Speaker 1: Is many money makers? Is that an escort? Oh? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Because that the escorp taxes wild do last Friday?
Speaker 2: Mm hmm, well I already followed an extension for that
Speaker 2: all that.
Speaker 3: Okay, but did you make a payment because have you
Speaker 3: been paying quarterly?
Speaker 2: And I want to talk about a tiffany, I mean,
Speaker 2: you know, because well man, they didn't have to talk
Speaker 2: about it, but if just so you know, we're talking
Speaker 2: about that personal taxes.
Speaker 3: The do date is April were like fifteen fourteenth. I
Speaker 3: can't remember one of them Aprils days. You know, we
Speaker 3: all have tax Day, but if you have an escorp,
Speaker 3: which is a type of business entity also a type
Speaker 3: of way that your company is tax I suspect man.
Speaker 3: These companies set up like me, which is the underlying companies. Yeah,
Speaker 3: but the way we're tax is an es corp, which
Speaker 3: means is if you are a like for example, Brown
Speaker 3: Ambition is not an escorp, it is an LLC which
Speaker 3: is the underlying company, and it's a partnership. So that
Speaker 3: just means it's just me and many in it and
Speaker 3: we pay taxes differently. But with an es corp, you
Speaker 3: are actually not an employee. You are an employee of
Speaker 3: your business once you become an escorp. So if you
Speaker 3: have a sole proprietorship or you have a partnership, then
Speaker 3: you basically they consider you self employed and then there's
Speaker 3: self employment taxes that will come in to play. Once
Speaker 3: you become an es corp or c corp. They say no, no, no,
Speaker 3: you're not self employed. You're an employee of that company.
Speaker 3: And typically you get to es corp, you start to
Speaker 3: look at escorp for one. When you get to about
Speaker 3: six figures or more a business, you start to consider
Speaker 3: doing an escorp because the self employment tax is not
Speaker 3: to pay it. It's not worth it at that level
Speaker 3: of income. So you're like, oh, maybe I'll supposed to
Speaker 3: an escort now so I can be an employee of
Speaker 3: my business. The thing is, because you're still in that LLC,
Speaker 3: what happens is is that the money it's a pass
Speaker 3: through entity. So what that means is that your business
Speaker 3: makes money. Let's just say your business makes one hundred
Speaker 3: thousand wooho. Then your business makes a hundred, but then
Speaker 3: spends one hundred thousand dollars in order to I mean
Speaker 3: spends say fifty thousand in order to navigate business. That's
Speaker 3: how much payroll, your website, all that stuff is fifty thousand.
Speaker 3: And let's just say you say I want to keep
Speaker 3: the other fifty in the business for next year because
Speaker 3: I have some big projects. The government says, that's cute,
Speaker 3: But just so you know, that fifty that you didn't
Speaker 3: spend on business passes.
Speaker 1: Through to your personal taxes.
Speaker 3: So whether you take the money out or not, you're
Speaker 3: gonna have to pay fifty thousand dollars. You have to
Speaker 3: going to have to pay taxes on the fifty thousand
Speaker 3: because whatever's left over in the business passes through onto
Speaker 3: you and so the way my business is set up,
Speaker 3: and I suspect most peoples is that whatever the let's
Speaker 3: just say the taxes on the fifty is twenty thousand dollars,
Speaker 3: my business will give me the twenty thousand. So if
Speaker 3: I keep fifty thousand in the business, the business will
Speaker 3: have to give me twenty of that fifty because the
Speaker 3: government wants their taxes, and it'll keep the thirty to
Speaker 3: do whatever work. Because even though I didn't take it,
Speaker 3: it wasn't spent, so taxes need to be paid on it.
Speaker 3: And so that's what last Friday, I can't remember what
Speaker 3: eevery day of the week that was last Friday.
Speaker 1: Es Corp taxes were due. That means you're supposed to.
Speaker 3: Have filed them, which you could certainly file an extension,
Speaker 3: but they don't give you an extension on payment, so
Speaker 3: you have to have paid something. Now, if you're doing
Speaker 3: the es Corp right, you're paying quarterly. That means every
Speaker 3: quarter you're making a payment. So even so I didn't
Speaker 3: have anything I owed on Friday because every quarter I've
Speaker 3: been making my payment.
Speaker 1: So that way, this is kind of like the wrap
Speaker 1: it up. It was like, oh, Tiffany, well, you know
Speaker 1: what you've been paying every quarter. You good.
Speaker 3: Let's as far as business girlies who listen to understand,
Speaker 3: because the truth of the matter is most businesses that
Speaker 3: go under or have a hard time, it's really like
Speaker 3: the back end stuff that kind of get you, not
Speaker 3: that you're.
Speaker 1: Not good at cooking or baking or.
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, I didn't want.
Speaker 1: To talk about it already talking about to you.
Speaker 2: I was telling the girl, but period, I don't. I
Speaker 2: was sorry about it, and that concludes.
Speaker 1: That conclude the business portion.
Speaker 2: I just wanted to I didn't want the girl to
Speaker 2: be like, I don't know what these things mean.
Speaker 1: The teacher. I'm sorry, all right, we're gonna focus here, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2: I care about the girl. I'm sorry. I just hate
Speaker 2: when I can't give anything on the other side of
Speaker 2: a conversation. And you know better, Okay.
Speaker 1: I mean I think you did. Which is which is real?
Speaker 1: Which is? Girl? You know you already know my tax issues.
Speaker 3: Girl, I made so many tax mistakes it costs me.
Speaker 3: Remember I told you I probably paid about seven figures
Speaker 3: in oops.
Speaker 1: I made a mistake again, tax mistakes because.
Speaker 3: There was two or three years in a row when
Speaker 3: the way we were doing taxes was incorrect and wrong,
Speaker 3: and as a result, up until I think twenty twenty two,
Speaker 3: I finally got my last final you know, you get
Speaker 3: out of jail free, like, and it was a two
Speaker 3: hundred and fifty thousand dollars bill and almost broke my soul,
Speaker 3: but we finally paid it, and I think we're finally
Speaker 3: on the up and up.
Speaker 1: So I just sad.
Speaker 3: All that to say is that, you know, there isn't
Speaker 3: a mistake I ain't made, And the reason why I
Speaker 3: had to learn is because I made every mistake possible,
Speaker 3: you know, And so I just don't want the girls
Speaker 3: to have to make those mistakes because it was really, really,
Speaker 3: really costly and stressful. But you you know, you're living,
Speaker 3: you learn, and you hope you live to see another day. Hey,
Speaker 3: ba fan, we're gonna take a quick break and we'll
Speaker 3: be right back.
Speaker 1: Oh if we want to talk about something, you want
Speaker 1: to talk about the White House?
Speaker 3: Sound right? You call Mary called me yesterday? Wait what
Speaker 3: were you calling me for?
Speaker 1: Just to say.
Speaker 2: Hey, yeah, no, not on a Monday. Oh It's like
Speaker 2: yeah morning. It was like, yeah, I was dropping off
Speaker 2: the kiddos. I was like I usually picture you on
Speaker 2: a little walkie walk.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, day yeah.
Speaker 2: So Mandy called me, but you weren't on a little
Speaker 2: walk I forgot, but you just told me. Duh no no,
Speaker 2: But I'm like so excited, tell me about everything.
Speaker 3: So when Mandy called me, I was literally running leak
Speaker 3: because I was getting dressed to go back to the
Speaker 3: White House. As you know, it's March's International, well Women's
Speaker 3: history month, that's what March is. I believe March eighth
Speaker 3: is International Women's Day like But anyway, so I got
Speaker 3: invited back to the White House for a reception and
Speaker 3: there were I don't know, at least one hundred, maybe
Speaker 3: two hundred women from all over the country, all these
Speaker 3: different industries, doctors, attorneys, nonprofit workers. It was amazing. It
Speaker 3: was just a room full of just amazing women. And
Speaker 3: everybody was so nice. You know, sometimes you go in
Speaker 3: these rooms and everybody's so important and the CEO of
Speaker 3: this or whatever, and they don't speak. That was not
Speaker 3: the case. Everyone was so nice. It was a super
Speaker 3: diverse group. Some women were disabled, black, brown, Asian, every
Speaker 3: type of woman, young, like older, just everything.
Speaker 1: And so they invited us one to.
Speaker 3: Network with each other, which was really awesome that these
Speaker 3: little orders. I was like the White House was be
Speaker 3: light on the food. So many people and then also
Speaker 3: too we got to hear.
Speaker 2: It wasn't like a sit down thing. It was like
Speaker 2: I did see your stories this time.
Speaker 3: Yes, No, it wasn't a sit down thing. It was
Speaker 3: so for example, Kamala or you know, first our vice president,
Speaker 3: she spoke, as did Maria Shriver, who's a big woman's advocate.
Speaker 3: The President was there as well, and he spoke as
Speaker 3: well as doctor Joe Biden as she spoke to, which
Speaker 3: is really cool to see them all.
Speaker 2: I've never seen a crew there.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 3: So the reason why they were all there, they kind
Speaker 3: of gathered us is because the President just.
Speaker 1: Signed let me find what it was. He just signed.
Speaker 1: It wasn't into law, but he signed the most comprehensive
Speaker 1: let me see what was it march.
Speaker 2: If it wasn't a Family Paid Leave and Childcare Act,
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 3: Know, you know, it was a woman's let me see.
Speaker 3: So I'm looking at the White House dot gov. He
Speaker 3: signed an executive Order on Advancing Women's Health Research and Innovation.
Speaker 3: So there are a lot of doctors in the room,
Speaker 3: and so it is the largest executive order. So he
Speaker 3: talked about like that and many of us know this,
Speaker 3: but women suffer from so many health ailments that are
Speaker 3: just like doctors ignore, especially black and brow women. Like
Speaker 3: the mortality rates for black women when it comes to
Speaker 3: giving birth are just astronomical in comparison to anybody else.
Speaker 3: I remember, do you remember did you ever see that
Speaker 3: documentary with Serena Williams talks about.
Speaker 2: Yes, she had pulmonary embolisms, yes, while giving birth, and
Speaker 2: they were just like.
Speaker 3: She almost died, yes, but she knew her body and
Speaker 3: she was like, yeah, I'm not going home.
Speaker 1: I need an MRI.
Speaker 3: They're like, oh, whiney, whitey, black lady, Serena the Williams,
Speaker 3: and so she insisted.
Speaker 1: And show enough. They're like, hey, I think I see
Speaker 1: a black clott girl.
Speaker 3: If you had gone home, you would have d You
Speaker 3: would have be d Are you are you freaking getting me?
Speaker 1: Serena.
Speaker 3: Maria Shriver shared a story how her mother, who was
Speaker 3: the President Kennedy's sister, John F. Kennedy, his Eunice, suffered
Speaker 3: from gut issues, all these issues, and she was really
Speaker 3: having a hard time. So she really pushed her brother
Speaker 3: to uh to try to get legislation has to help
Speaker 3: women with whatever their health ailment is what they were
Speaker 3: struggling with, and her doctors meanwhile, this is there the
Speaker 3: sitting president's sister, and they're like, maybe you need to rask,
Speaker 3: maybe you need to lie down. So if the president's
Speaker 3: sister could not get adequate health care, like that's crazy,
Speaker 3: it's Serena Williams is ignored. And so that's what this
Speaker 3: executive order aims to remedy. It's about women's health and
Speaker 3: research and innovation. And they talked everything about like endometriosis
Speaker 3: and how it affects black and brown women in the higher
Speaker 3: levels than any other population. Talked about that most studies
Speaker 3: that are done now are done on men. They literally
Speaker 3: did this study MIAs Drivers shared that where women. They
Speaker 3: noticed that when women are going through menopause, there's an
Speaker 3: uptick in them having heart attacks. And they said, wow,
Speaker 3: so there, maybe it's tied to estrogen, Like why men
Speaker 3: or why.
Speaker 1: Heart attacks happen.
Speaker 3: Let's do a study of what happened, what happens when
Speaker 3: estrogen levels drop? And it was like, I think they said,
Speaker 3: like fourteen hundred participants in the.
Speaker 1: Study, not one woman.
Speaker 3: So you're doing estrogen study and no women and like
Speaker 3: same thing, like you know a woman when you're having
Speaker 3: a heart attack, Like the symptoms that they tell you
Speaker 3: to look out for, those are men's symptoms.
Speaker 1: We don't have those symptoms.
Speaker 3: You know, when you are struggling with mental health, like
Speaker 3: young girls who have ADHD or who oh, what is
Speaker 3: the one where you have trouble reading? Dyslexia? It looks
Speaker 3: different in girls, but the symptoms that they look out
Speaker 3: for are attributed to boys, and so we are left
Speaker 3: behind when it comes to health research. And this executive
Speaker 3: order would I can't remember how many billions of dollars
Speaker 3: it would allocate toward the expansion of like of innovation
Speaker 3: and what did I say, I'm talking too and research
Speaker 3: on women's health. So that part I thought this was
Speaker 3: really great. So I'm not really sure what executive order means.
Speaker 3: By being honest, I'm like, it is it a lah anna?
Speaker 1: So I'm a executive order.
Speaker 2: I mean that's the thing though, is that like Congress
Speaker 2: holds the purse strings. So it could just be you know,
Speaker 2: these holidays, the president's always like doing symbolic shit.
Speaker 1: Yes, like.
Speaker 2: To like say he was doing symbolic shit. I don't know.
Speaker 2: I'm a little like pessimistic about lots of stuff. I mean,
Speaker 2: I think I feel like if we're not if we're
Speaker 2: not focusing on I mean that I'm sure, yes it's important,
Speaker 2: it's super important, but I'm just like, where is the
Speaker 2: ceasefire and Gaza? And it makes me so I just
Speaker 2: don't know, I just you know, it makes me so
Speaker 2: feel so powerless and so sad. I'm just like human's
Speaker 2: capacity to just inflict pain and torture on one another,
Speaker 2: and it's just like and the world spins off and
Speaker 2: everything seems so dark and twisty, and it is like
Speaker 2: everything there is so much, there is a lot of
Speaker 2: good and all of that. But I think I'm just
Speaker 2: in one of those spaces, you know, where like the
Speaker 2: fog is descending, like the fog, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: I've talked about my fog before.
Speaker 1: I'm going a fog.
Speaker 2: I'm going to fog And everything seems very sad, and
Speaker 2: everything is very sad, and everything is scary, and there's
Speaker 2: like it's the kind of thing where it just makes
Speaker 2: me want to crawl inside of my own body and
Speaker 2: just like not poke my head up, which is really
Speaker 2: hard when we do this stuff that we do right now.
Speaker 2: But like even just thinking about healthcare and like everything
Speaker 2: going on with my dad lately, I don't like to
Speaker 2: talk I don't want to talk about too much about
Speaker 2: like the specific stuff going on with him. But he
Speaker 2: was in the hospital for several weeks and it was
Speaker 2: he had a huge operation and it was I think
Speaker 2: one of the hardest things about having my dad in
Speaker 2: a hospital setting is that he is like the textbook
Speaker 2: picture of someone who would be probably neglected in a
Speaker 2: healthcare setting typically when you think about his age, his race,
Speaker 2: in his orneriness, like he's not you know, And it's
Speaker 2: sad to think that, like you think you have to, like,
Speaker 2: you know, worry about that. But I went in there,
Speaker 2: like I was spending nights in the hospital just to
Speaker 2: make sure that I could be the like his publicist, like, oh, hello, yes,
Speaker 2: this is my father. Hear all the exciting here, does
Speaker 2: all the great things about him that you should know,
Speaker 2: so that you give a damn during this like twelve
Speaker 2: hour shift and you don't just like you know, like,
Speaker 2: you know, we had a nurse who kept giving him
Speaker 2: really strong like opioids even though he hadn't asked for them,
Speaker 2: and it was very much like we're in the ICU,
Speaker 2: I just want this patient to go to sleep, Like
Speaker 2: it was that kind of vibe and like I just
Speaker 2: saw and like the stress of it all. I think
Speaker 2: what's happening is that the processing, like the you know,
Speaker 2: like you were just in it. Yeah, but the processing
Speaker 2: I think is all right now. And and I think
Speaker 2: at the same time, there's part of me that's like, oh,
Speaker 2: shut up. People have way worse going on, and people
Speaker 2: have sick parents in the hospital and like sick babies
Speaker 2: and all that going on.
Speaker 3: But it was two things can be true, Mandy, A
Speaker 3: jillion things can be true, yeah, at the same time,
Speaker 3: meaning that like somebody could have a sick baby and
Speaker 3: also not or and also you're worried about your dad,
Speaker 3: and rightfully so it doesn't diminish that, you know, even
Speaker 3: with like.
Speaker 2: There's there were three of us, my brother, my sister,
Speaker 2: and I and even then it still felt like there
Speaker 2: were things that happened that we're not I think we
Speaker 2: were just like really we were so obsessed with trying
Speaker 2: to control and be not control in the sense that
Speaker 2: like take decisions away from him, but like understand everything
Speaker 2: and be sure we were in the room and available
Speaker 2: and like, you know, make sure we were on speakerphone
Speaker 2: if a doctor walked in, and like checking on his
Speaker 2: charts online and making sure all that stuff is squared
Speaker 2: away and we're all in. We're in three different states,
Speaker 2: mind you, and getting all to Georgia and all that stuff,
Speaker 2: and like it still feels like it still feels like
Speaker 2: we're not entirely out of the woods. And it's not
Speaker 2: even it's just gonna, yeah, there's more like it's gonna
Speaker 2: be an ongoing kind of thing. But if there's one
Speaker 2: I'll stop this like train that I'm on. But if
Speaker 2: there's one thing that I keep thinking about, like what's
Speaker 2: a lesson that I've learned when it comes to health.
Speaker 2: And I really like to your point about knowing your
Speaker 2: symptoms and knowing your body and advocating. I've always heard
Speaker 2: that advocate for yourself, advocate for yourself, but I feel
Speaker 2: like that's almost too general. The thing to say to people.
Speaker 2: What I would say is, don't trust the person in
Speaker 2: the room, like Bible, like the person who's in the room,
Speaker 2: because like, for example, my dad would be seen by
Speaker 2: maybe like eight specialists a day. I'm not even exaggerating,
Speaker 2: like eight specific healthcare people a day during their shift,
Speaker 2: and then a new shift would start and they would
Speaker 2: come in again and be like respiratory, cardio, pulmonology, nephrology,
Speaker 2: ot PT, like all these different people the general provider
Speaker 2: like look and they'd all make comments like oh this,
Speaker 2: oh that, here's what you can expect. Yeah, I think
Speaker 2: he needs XYZ, and we would be like jerked in
Speaker 2: all these different like emotions and directions. Well, the person
Speaker 2: who came in earlier just said this thing, and they're
Speaker 2: like wh at because they don't even like speak to
Speaker 2: one another that often, you know, they're all like on
Speaker 2: their own different silos. So I think I could have
Speaker 2: saved some We could have saved like probably some stress
Speaker 2: and like some worrying if we had just been like, Okay,
Speaker 2: so this is what this person is saying based on
Speaker 2: like the last three minutes they spent in his room.
Speaker 2: We have to sort of like connect all the dots
Speaker 2: together and just understand that things can change. And even
Speaker 2: though you think you know for sure what the next
Speaker 2: like day is going to look like, or what recovery
Speaker 2: will look like and all of that, like, even then
Speaker 2: it can change and it's always going to be changing,
Speaker 2: and keep asking asking the same questions again, questions of
Speaker 2: different people. Force them to talk to each other if
Speaker 2: you have to, because yeah, a lot of them, especially
Speaker 2: in a hospital, they're just coming in and out and
Speaker 2: they don't have even that they have their whole chart
Speaker 2: in front of them. They don't spend time reading everything
Speaker 2: before they come into their they don't have the time
Speaker 2: at shortages and all that. So I feel like, for
Speaker 2: one hundred percent, if you're going to be in a
Speaker 2: hospital setting, call anyone, anyone, a neighbor even you know,
Speaker 2: to be there with you to help ask those questions.
Speaker 2: And like, if you don't have family, like friends, whoever,
Speaker 2: just don't go into that situation alone like my dad
Speaker 2: did to start with, because that is the kind of
Speaker 2: stubborn o he is. But don't be alone and uh,
Speaker 2: you know, and and do your best. And then what
Speaker 2: I'm working on now is just like the processing afterward
Speaker 2: of all that and like, yeah, it's just life is life.
Speaker 2: In I'm in my concealer era, a lot of concealer went.
Speaker 1: Into today's face.
Speaker 2: Hey be a fan, We're going to take a quick
Speaker 2: break and we'll be right back.
Speaker 1: I'll have to say, like you it's true.
Speaker 3: So you all know, my mom's a nurse, and like
Speaker 3: I remember some time ago she because she's the type
Speaker 3: of like I'm not feeling well, she'll drop her own
Speaker 3: self to the emergency room.
Speaker 1: You're like, where's mommy at the mergency room?
Speaker 3: And you're like what, And so she went to the
Speaker 3: emergency room because she was like, I'm getting tingling in
Speaker 3: my arm. Let me make sure that it's nothing super serious.
Speaker 3: So she am and they did some tests. It wasn't
Speaker 3: a stroke or anything. She gets physical therapy for like
Speaker 3: a slip disc and shes gonna be like, tell, oh
Speaker 3: my damn business.
Speaker 2: I know it's weird, right because like they don't want to.
Speaker 1: So if you know my mom, please keep me so mad,
Speaker 1: don't tell.
Speaker 3: Anyway, she had got a dad, don't so she so
Speaker 3: it it's because she gets physical because because of her
Speaker 3: physical therapy. I think basically her physical therapist and that
Speaker 3: you know how you get the deep massage. If you
Speaker 3: guys have ever gotten physical therapy, the deep massage after
Speaker 3: I think they did put too much pressure in it,
Speaker 3: like basically pinched a nerve or whatever. So that's why
Speaker 3: she was having like some issue like with her hand
Speaker 3: in her arm. So it wasn't a a stroke or anything,
Speaker 3: but what was so crazy? And I said, at this
Speaker 3: Saint Sylvia. So we go to visit her. She's all
Speaker 3: like sitting in the bed like do do do? And
Speaker 3: like she said, oh, when you go to the house,
Speaker 3: bring me my stretch pants and bring me I said,
Speaker 3: you seem in good spirits and she was like yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm fine.
Speaker 1: You know, they just they found out that it was
Speaker 1: like the physical therapist went a little too hard.
Speaker 3: But I had them because my mother as a nurse,
Speaker 3: was like I had them run this test, this.
Speaker 1: Test because she knew what to ask for and she knew.
Speaker 3: Exactly what to do and so much so many that
Speaker 3: when we got to the room, this woman had I said,
Speaker 3: what is this print out? And she said, oh, this
Speaker 3: is my health plan because she said, I asked the doctor,
Speaker 3: can I get a print.
Speaker 1: Out of my health plan in like sixteen fonts?
Speaker 3: Because you know everybody got to get the lady had
Speaker 3: highlight and red marker. I'm not taking that medicine because
Speaker 3: it is for people who have seizures.
Speaker 1: I'm not too.
Speaker 3: I was like, like you said this sense of like
Speaker 3: if they say it, it's Bible. But because she was
Speaker 3: a nurse, she's like, that's not true. So she's asking
Speaker 3: every question. But I wouldn't have known. I would like,
Speaker 3: I said, how wout you? She said, no, no, I know
Speaker 3: this medication it can help for this, but it's a
Speaker 3: little overdoing it, you know.
Speaker 1: So she was like, I'm not going to take this.
Speaker 1: This is too high, this is too low.
Speaker 3: And I said, But the way the nurses treated her
Speaker 3: because they said this is there's somebody in the room
Speaker 3: who obviously used to be a nurse who she doesn't
Speaker 3: always let people know that she's been a nurse whenever she.
Speaker 1: Is in a hospital setting.
Speaker 3: And because they also knew, she knew exactly what they
Speaker 3: were supposed to be doing.
Speaker 1: So the way, hi, how are you?
Speaker 3: You know, everybody was on their best behavior because nobody
Speaker 3: wants to be sued by somebody who knows what you're
Speaker 3: supposed to have been doing. Like when I press this
Speaker 3: call button, there's a certain amount of time he's supposed
Speaker 3: to take before you get there. When my uncle was
Speaker 3: in the hospital, my mother said, put me on speaker,
Speaker 3: pressed the call button, and she timed it. And when
Speaker 3: the nurse came in, she got on the phone. She
Speaker 3: was like, you took ten minutes to come you were
Speaker 3: supposed to. They were like, oh, oh, you have a
Speaker 3: medical professional in your family, and so I know everyone
Speaker 3: doesn't have that, but I just wanted to speak to that,
Speaker 3: that part that you said, Mandy about like taking everything
Speaker 3: for by but because I just assumed they're I mean,
Speaker 3: you assume obviously everyone's doing their best, but it doesn't
Speaker 3: mean that they're not making mistakes.
Speaker 2: You want to assume, but they're not. And like they'll
Speaker 2: be coming in, like there's a shift change at seven pm,
Speaker 2: and they'll be there all night. Like I slept at
Speaker 2: the hospital so many nights because I can sleep anywhere,
Speaker 2: and I have practice not sleeping at night because it
Speaker 2: was like taking care of a newborn thing. I want
Speaker 2: to be honest anyway, And and there'll be multiple people
Speaker 2: and they won't like stop to look at you in
Speaker 2: the eye. I mean, at one point I took the
Speaker 2: nurse outside and I was like, Hi, my name is
Speaker 2: Amanda Woodriff, Like this is my dad, and I just
Speaker 2: was like forcing her to listen. It was almost like
Speaker 2: you know, if you've ever been kidnapped or health hostage.
Speaker 2: It's like you an hae yourself to the person with
Speaker 2: a gun to your head. Yes, but like imagine that
Speaker 2: for every twelve hours, just wanting to be like, please
Speaker 2: take care of my dad. He's not just another dude.
Speaker 2: Like he's not just another like you know guy who
Speaker 2: is sick, you know and has gone through this procedure
Speaker 2: or whatever. Like don't make assumptions, but everyone carries their
Speaker 2: bias with them in that regard. But absolutely, like from
Speaker 2: the medications they're giving him, I mean there were times
Speaker 2: when we want I just wanted to let my brain
Speaker 2: go and be like trust, but you can't. You know,
Speaker 2: sometimes what they're giving him is not what they should
Speaker 2: be giving him or they amount that they should be
Speaker 2: giving him, and so many mistakes can happen.
Speaker 1: And cost.
Speaker 2: And I have a shout out my friend Kristin, who
Speaker 2: is an ICU nurse all the way on the Left coast,
Speaker 2: but she was like my guru and just someone who
Speaker 2: helped kind of like walk me through it. And yeah,
Speaker 2: if you don't know someone in the medical field, you
Speaker 2: don't have to but find somebody and somebody who knows somebody.
Speaker 2: It's worth it. I think it's so worth it finds
Speaker 2: or at least find someone who's gone through a hospital
Speaker 2: ordeal like the one that you're going through, like whether
Speaker 2: it's a surgery or like a trauma, like whatever it is,
Speaker 2: Like find someone who understands the language and the the
Speaker 2: rhythm yes of care.
Speaker 3: There are Facebook groups for certain things, like I always
Speaker 3: tell like like whenever my friends have like preschool aged children,
Speaker 3: you know, they always.
Speaker 1: Hit me up. So, Tiffany, what is this normal? What
Speaker 1: about that?
Speaker 3: And so if you have children in school, you should
Speaker 3: have at least one or two teacher friends, you know,
Speaker 3: because that's really helpful, like with every aspect of your life. Right,
Speaker 3: It's like I am always trying to insulate myself with
Speaker 3: like in business, I've got business friends and finance. If
Speaker 3: there's something I want to learn, I you know, when
Speaker 3: I was really starting to think about, like really digging
Speaker 3: into real estate, I have some real estate friends and
Speaker 3: I get to reach out to because you can't be
Speaker 3: an expert in everything, but there are people who are experts,
Speaker 3: and I make it my business to be like, Okay,
Speaker 3: let me let me see, like you know what this
Speaker 3: person is really good at. Let me lean in, Like
Speaker 3: Mandy is my negotiation friend, like for real, and I'm like,
Speaker 3: how do I is this going to be enough? How
Speaker 3: should I ask about this? How should you know? And
Speaker 3: so remember I told you last time, you know, Mandy
Speaker 3: negotiating and so much so that what I thought was
Speaker 3: locked in and girl up, but they unlocked in. But
Speaker 3: it's still it was one point two million dollars worth
Speaker 3: of contracts, you know, at the end of the year,
Speaker 3: because of a piece of advice that Mandy gave me.
Speaker 3: So I just that isn't that's excellent advice and that
Speaker 3: having friends not. Obviously the purpose of friendship is connection,
Speaker 3: but I like to also be intentional about like what
Speaker 3: additional types of like resources I can lean into when
Speaker 3: it comes to my friendship. So you're building for connection,
Speaker 3: but you bring something valuable to the table too, And
Speaker 3: I like to lean in what I know, Like my friend,
Speaker 3: Like my friend Linda, she's like the advocate of all advocates.
Speaker 3: There is any sort of like my mom is sick
Speaker 3: and she needs this.
Speaker 1: Resource or whatever.
Speaker 3: Linda is the one who's like, well, the state provides,
Speaker 3: and you can get a ramp and a and a.
Speaker 1: Link vehicle can take it to the doctors. And like
Speaker 1: that's Linda, you know, and so.
Speaker 2: I like it to Linda for Atlanta. If you know
Speaker 2: a Linda in Atlanta can help names, but help who
Speaker 2: can help figure out how to get I mean I'm
Speaker 2: not naming names. I don't know who this would be,
Speaker 2: but like a mid sixties kind of like older man
Speaker 2: kind he lives by himself and wants no help and
Speaker 2: thinks he's God like services to help that person who
Speaker 2: can't care for themselves or move or like drive.
Speaker 3: You know, here's the thing, remimy Linda, I mean REMI
Speaker 3: man because I ask Linda, like does she know Linda
Speaker 3: in Atlanta or at least a place to start, because
Speaker 3: oftentimes Linda is like, you know what, if you go
Speaker 3: to this site or call this number, it's a place
Speaker 3: to start.
Speaker 1: So yeah, we have to lean into each other. I think, I.
Speaker 3: Feel like twenty twenty four and beyond that in order
Speaker 3: for us to make it financially, personally, and otherwise, it's
Speaker 3: gonna be The theme is community. You have to build,
Speaker 3: lean into and contribute to your community because you cannot
Speaker 3: do this by yourself. You cannot, Like you want to
Speaker 3: work on your money, community, want to work on your business. Community,
Speaker 3: you know, health community, your kids, cann unity. It is
Speaker 3: just you cannot My dad has a phrase, the lone wolf.
Speaker 3: I'm sure it's like not his phrase, but you know
Speaker 3: he's African, so everything belongs to him. According to him,
Speaker 3: the lone wolf perishes in the winter. No, it's something
Speaker 3: I know, but yeah, yeah, the lone wolf. Wolf perishes
Speaker 3: in the winter, but the pack survives.
Speaker 2: You know in Game of Thrones, that's the lone wolf dies,
Speaker 2: but the pack survives.
Speaker 1: Okay, what have we got him that they got it.
Speaker 2: From watching TV too? You know nothing, John Snow.
Speaker 1: So.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so it's just important.
Speaker 1: You can't be out here by yourself basically, you know that,
Speaker 1: like it all here is.
Speaker 2: So that means that I can't curl up into a
Speaker 2: ball inside of myself and disappear.
Speaker 1: I mean you can't temporarily.
Speaker 3: But then you're gonna reach out to your Therapist's gonna
Speaker 3: call me, gonna call your other friends.
Speaker 2: You're gonna, I know, my poor therapist, she needs a
Speaker 2: therapist for me for herself.
Speaker 3: After talking to me, you know, there's therapist therapist like
Speaker 3: I knew, Like one of my friends was like, I'm
Speaker 3: a therapist therapist.
Speaker 1: Yeah, literally a therapist just for therapists.
Speaker 2: Yes, that that part all right? Let me let's shake
Speaker 2: it off and do little boosty breaking. We're gonna boosty breaking.
Speaker 2: And now I remembered.
Speaker 3: It, and now it's time to boost up, break up,
Speaker 3: boost break up, boost up break?
Speaker 1: Oh you got a boost? Is you going to bring?
Speaker 1: What you're gonna do?
Speaker 2: Lell?
Speaker 1: What you gonna take? Candy? Do you want to go first?
Speaker 2: Second, I'm gonna do a break. Okay, I'm gonna do
Speaker 2: a boost.
Speaker 1: I'll go last.
Speaker 2: It's not gonna be too dark of a break. However,
Speaker 2: why I need to take a break from the girls
Speaker 2: on social using down dish soap in their hair? Have
Speaker 2: you seen this tip?
Speaker 1: I done? Still?
Speaker 2: Have you ever with your locks?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 2: So I think in the I think the exception to
Speaker 2: the rule that I have gathered is that with locks, yes,
Speaker 2: because it gets built up and stuff out. But like right,
Speaker 2: like other hair styles like don dish soap. I And
Speaker 2: it's just I think that the girls, the influencers, the
Speaker 2: beauty people, they have run out of things to talk
Speaker 2: about and it's stripping. It's extreme, like come on, I mean,
Speaker 2: my fingers are destroyed because I have to wash baby
Speaker 2: bottles every day, and that's what the fancy soap let alone.
Speaker 2: The blue chemical whatever dye is it gets oil off
Speaker 2: of like ducks. Yeah, you guys saw that episode the Bell, Like, come.
Speaker 1: On, I haven't seen this.
Speaker 2: This is the have not. Just google it right now
Speaker 2: because you'll find a ton of videos. I swear. I
Speaker 2: just put a on TikTok or on the TikTok talk
Speaker 2: on YouTube on Instagram. Who knows where it originated from,
Speaker 2: but it is all on these in the nets. They're
Speaker 2: calling it a hack. No, it's not a hack. It
Speaker 2: is it may it's like it's probably second. I feel
Speaker 2: like to that check you got the gorilla glue stuck
Speaker 2: in her head. Thought it was gel or whatever it
Speaker 2: was that she used. Uh yeah, just don't do it.
Speaker 2: I mean, if you're going to take risks with your hair,
Speaker 2: just like use the two dollars suave stuff, you know,
Speaker 2: like that For me, I.
Speaker 1: Feel like it's not that that's a verst. I used
Speaker 1: to use that too. That's funny, I know.
Speaker 2: But yeah, don't wash your hair or you know, do
Speaker 2: but I would like a break front see it. Gimmicks,
Speaker 2: beauty gimmicks. And also I just got to prove to
Speaker 2: sell on TikTok TikTok shop or whatever, and I'm just
Speaker 2: like I would perform. I think I'm getting in my
Speaker 2: cranky consumerism anti consumerism era about like social media right now,
Speaker 2: because everybody is like wanted. It's like, what where'd you
Speaker 2: get your shorts from?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: I had the link to my shop in my bio,
Speaker 2: you know, my Amazon storefront, and like it's just like
Speaker 2: just yeah, I'm I'm, I'm I'm trying not to. I'm
Speaker 2: trying to stay away from that, like that cycle of
Speaker 2: go on here and think you got to do that
Speaker 2: thing and you know, or buy that thing or whatnot.
Speaker 2: So don dish soap is just where I draw the line.
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm let me watch it. Here's the thing.
Speaker 3: So I remember so especially with locks, because locks essentially
Speaker 3: you know they not over and then but build up
Speaker 3: can live inside the lock that it's almost impossible to
Speaker 3: get out. And so Dawn, I don't do it. I
Speaker 3: mean I probably say I don't want to do it
Speaker 3: max once a year when like it's like, you know,
Speaker 3: because I washed my hair with regular you know, I
Speaker 3: don't even use condition because conditioner builds up with locks.
Speaker 3: So with natural with when my hair was a firm,
Speaker 3: I never used dawn because you don't need to because
Speaker 3: you don't have to die deep. Instead, I would just
Speaker 3: use I was heavy on the conditioner when your hair
Speaker 3: is loose, natural, more conditioner when your hair is locked,
Speaker 3: less conditional because it really builds up.
Speaker 1: So don would help to.
Speaker 3: Like get some of that stuff out that that you
Speaker 3: know that I could not get out with just regular washings,
Speaker 3: you know.
Speaker 2: But just some of my favorite TikTok videos though, like
Speaker 2: washing locks because they'll put it in like it's just
Speaker 2: really satisfying to see how the water, you know, runs.
Speaker 1: Clear, so you'll just out of vinegar. I've done that.
Speaker 1: The apple side of though, I'm done with. Yeah, although
Speaker 1: like oh your eyes, you're.
Speaker 2: Like my so you need to get a friend tif
Speaker 2: to like, you know, you bend over the sink and
Speaker 2: someone you know.
Speaker 1: That.
Speaker 3: But truthfully, what I love about locks is for at
Speaker 3: least far as I concern for my locks, they.
Speaker 1: Don't need Like locks are very low product.
Speaker 3: That's because the more products you put on them, quite honestly,
Speaker 3: the more you have to build up, so it's very low.
Speaker 1: I don't put any products into my lock.
Speaker 3: Really, like I will do some edge control, you know,
Speaker 3: if I'm gonna be on TV. But other than that,
Speaker 3: gonna get these curly edges because that's how.
Speaker 1: God made me.
Speaker 2: They look amazing by the way, and I like the
Speaker 2: curl that you have. Although I missed the ringlets.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm to get them back because I was like,
Speaker 3: you know what, like I mean, it's still a little
Speaker 3: wave that's holding out a little wave. It's not super straight.
Speaker 3: So yeah, no, no, I mean I get the don girlies.
Speaker 3: But to me, if you if your hair is loose,
Speaker 3: you are stripping, like you know, like I said, even
Speaker 3: if you have locks, that.
Speaker 1: Should be like very rarely that you have to do
Speaker 1: all that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I can understand that we're in a very
Speaker 3: consumer escape world. So my boost is gonna be so
Speaker 3: of the amazing women that I met at the White House.
Speaker 3: One of them, Oh, I forget Jakati cho k Oh.
Speaker 1: Girl, I'm gonna get your name wrong.
Speaker 3: So some years back, Own Network reached out to me
Speaker 3: and said, we want you to be on this like
Speaker 3: special called like Black Women in Wealth or something like that,
Speaker 3: and so she was the host.
Speaker 1: Her name is like it's like.
Speaker 3: Joe Ja Kata something like that Jakata or something like that. Right,
Speaker 3: So anyway, beautiful black woman locks she was the host.
Speaker 1: I met her there so nice.
Speaker 3: Afterwards we end up, like all the people who were
Speaker 3: on the panel stuff, we ended up having dinner at
Speaker 3: the hotel. But I had not seen her in person
Speaker 3: since then, but I follow her on social and she's
Speaker 3: just been living this fabulous life.
Speaker 1: Honey.
Speaker 3: She's like Bessies with Oprah because after that own network,
Speaker 3: Oprah's had her do all these other things and like
Speaker 3: hosts all these other things, and she's like, oh, she's
Speaker 3: the host of it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's like a host.
Speaker 3: I guess, like I would say, so, she actually came
Speaker 3: up in the tech world super smart.
Speaker 1: So she used to.
Speaker 3: Be like big in tech. I can't remember what big
Speaker 3: tech companies she worked for prior, and then she left
Speaker 3: that and started investing. But then it also started like
Speaker 3: you know, kind of like working as a host and
Speaker 3: then connected with Own and Oprah and now that's what
Speaker 3: she does.
Speaker 1: But now so I saw her to think you ever just.
Speaker 3: See it is so beautiful when you see a black
Speaker 3: woman in her soft error, you know, because you know,
Speaker 3: we just be out here working, honey, and you can
Speaker 3: see it.
Speaker 1: Even in Look Beautiful.
Speaker 3: You could tell the difference between the beautiful pull together
Speaker 3: because I got to get it together and the beautiful
Speaker 3: like girl I am in So I see was there
Speaker 3: was like this blue room that like I imagine kind
Speaker 3: of like the Oval office kind of looked like this
Speaker 3: blue round room that they had us in. There's a
Speaker 3: number of rooms they had to say, but it was
Speaker 3: like one of the prettiest rooms. And she was sitting
Speaker 3: on the couch. The energy she was reading.
Speaker 1: Was Life of Luxury and Leisure. I just looked at her.
Speaker 1: I walked over to her. I said, hey, girl, how
Speaker 1: are you? She said wonderful but.
Speaker 3: From her soul, and I was like really, she said really,
Speaker 3: she said, when I tell you, I am living the
Speaker 3: life that I always dreamed of. I was like really,
Speaker 3: She said yes, And she said, you know, I used
Speaker 3: to work in tech, made a lot of money, super stressful.
Speaker 3: But because of working in tech, I learned like there
Speaker 3: were a lot of colleagues that were investing, so I
Speaker 3: started to invest learning from them, and so I started investing,
Speaker 3: and then you know, I knew, you know, her whole
Speaker 3: stint with Oprah, which I think she still works in,
Speaker 3: but she said, but now, she said, because of her
Speaker 3: like acumen, it took a number of years obviously for investing,
Speaker 3: she said. I do the thing like the hosting things
Speaker 3: and stuff that I like with you know, Oprah and otherwise,
Speaker 3: but mostly I live off my investment. She said, girl,
Speaker 3: I just got that from Copenhagen, copen Copenhagen. And now
Speaker 3: you said Copenhagen, Copenhagen, which is in Denmark, right, she said,
Speaker 3: I went for dinner, she said, for dinner, just like that,
Speaker 3: she said for dinner.
Speaker 1: She said, thirty six hours A friend of mine was like, oh,
Speaker 1: come have for dinner, right, and then she was I
Speaker 1: just it was like, wait, what how?
Speaker 3: And she said, honestly, like I've mentioned this before, or
Speaker 3: you know, if there's income, you have to make it.
Speaker 3: You have to make more than you spend or spend
Speaker 3: less than you make. You have to obviously save some
Speaker 3: for security. You have to invest, you have to learn
Speaker 3: to invest. And when she said that, she was like, honestly,
Speaker 3: I really buckled down and leaned into learning how to invest.
Speaker 3: And it was just like when you last week I
Speaker 3: talked about investing, and it just because this is the
Speaker 3: year for me, I've just decided like.
Speaker 1: You know, like you know, how we have you wanted signs?
Speaker 1: And I was like, this lady is.
Speaker 3: I mean, I've met her before and she was happy,
Speaker 3: but definitely I could tell it was that busy like
Speaker 3: I'm here, I'm doing it now. She was sipping on
Speaker 3: her champagne, chilling on a couch that probably was two
Speaker 3: hundred years old. I mean, just soaking in like yeah,
Speaker 3: it's just a little white house and then I'm off
Speaker 3: to this other thing and maybe Copenhagen for dinner.
Speaker 1: I said, I want Copenhagen for dinner.
Speaker 3: So anyway, I just share that that, like if you're
Speaker 3: needing your sign of life, whether it's investing in yourself,
Speaker 3: you know, whether it's like real estate, whether it's business,
Speaker 3: whether it's the market, if you're needing a sign, I
Speaker 3: just know that because the way my life is set
Speaker 3: up now is that I have just enough that if
Speaker 3: I didn't want to work anymore, I likely could make it.
Speaker 3: But one really bad oopsie, I'll be back to the grind.
Speaker 3: So it's not quite but just enough, and I want
Speaker 3: more space than that I want, and also too, I
Speaker 3: don't want because a Bungonese had a hard year last year,
Speaker 3: the academy is having a harder this year. We're turning around.
Speaker 3: And I don't want to live from feast to famine,
Speaker 3: feast to famine. I don't want to always be like
Speaker 3: pulling it up, you know, like I I want to
Speaker 3: be able to know that external to business, which I
Speaker 3: do love, you know, I have other ways to create
Speaker 3: income for myself that like I have more of a sayover,
Speaker 3: you know, because it's much as you work on in business,
Speaker 3: like Mandy will tell you that it doesn't guarantee that
Speaker 3: you have a say. And so for me, I told
Speaker 3: myself and I've been hearing the voice of like Tifny,
Speaker 3: you need to start to learn and invest.
Speaker 1: And I've been like, I do I invest in business?
Speaker 1: I do. I bought some real estate, but I'm like
Speaker 1: in the market, Tiffany, I need you to be confident
Speaker 1: in the market.
Speaker 3: And as I'm meeting more and more people that this
Speaker 3: is kind of the way they supplement whatever else they're doing,
Speaker 3: I'm like, no, this is the year that I get
Speaker 3: my fundamental feet.
Speaker 1: Ready, Like I'm not going to be some you know,
Speaker 1: like Jazzy.
Speaker 3: I don't honestly, I'm not even trying to trade That's
Speaker 3: one thing I learned from my friend Terry that you
Speaker 3: don't actually have to actively trade. But I want to
Speaker 3: like feel confident about investing in the market because there's
Speaker 3: so many reasons why people don't and so yeah, so
Speaker 3: and honestly like and you know me, like, if I
Speaker 3: want to learn a thing, one of the best ways
Speaker 3: to learn a thing is to help other people learn
Speaker 3: a thing. And so like, if you're not sure, like
Speaker 3: why you're investing, I told Logan, let's do a quiz
Speaker 3: to figure out why people are not investing, because really,
Speaker 3: by the end of later on this year, I want
Speaker 3: to find a solution to that because as I try
Speaker 3: to fix things for myself financially, my thing is always
Speaker 3: how can I find a solution for that? So, if
Speaker 3: you're not sure why you're not investing or creating this
Speaker 3: quiz called you should invest dot com so you can
Speaker 3: get like is it because you don't have money? Is
Speaker 3: it because of knowledge? It's because of fear? Like why
Speaker 3: are you not investing? And like from that quiz, I'm
Speaker 3: taking like the percentages to see like where are you
Speaker 3: struggling the most? So that way I can start to
Speaker 3: either if I'm not going to create the tools and
Speaker 3: resources because I'm not at the investorista finding the tools
Speaker 3: and resources because it doesn't make sense. I just feel
Speaker 3: like we can't ignore it another year. You can't budget
Speaker 3: your way, you can't save your way, you can't even
Speaker 3: really work your way to the level of security. I
Speaker 3: just know that, like, we have to put our money
Speaker 3: to work. And so if you want to put your
Speaker 3: money to work, you know, and you want to figure
Speaker 3: out why are you not investing? And help me figure
Speaker 3: out what tools I need to figure out because I
Speaker 3: know for myself why I'm not investing.
Speaker 1: It's because of lack of knowledge and fear.
Speaker 3: If you want to get really clear about why you're
Speaker 3: not investing and help me get like some numbers about
Speaker 3: like what I can do to create or find, you
Speaker 3: should invest dot Com. It's just a quick, like thirty
Speaker 3: second quiz to help me gather information, but also too
Speaker 3: to help me issue it's not well, I'm taping it
Speaker 3: right now, it'll be up by the time this is up.
Speaker 3: But yeah, you should invest dot com because I want
Speaker 3: to figure it out. I promised myself. I think it
Speaker 3: was was it you, Mandy, It was either you or
Speaker 3: brand as I had asked, how do you because I'm
Speaker 3: not always so good at execution at implementation, and you
Speaker 3: and Brand, as my friend brand is, are like my
Speaker 3: top executor friends. And one of the number one things
Speaker 3: that both you and BRANDI said was one, obviously you
Speaker 3: determine the goal, which for me is to get my
Speaker 3: fundamentals for investing. And then two you make the goal public,
Speaker 3: you know, and maybe I don't know if you told
Speaker 3: me that, our brand has told me that that. Like,
Speaker 3: so this is why I'm saying it because I'm just like,
Speaker 3: you know, I am putting it out there. I am
Speaker 3: going to get fundamentally strong in investing this year.
Speaker 1: That is my goal.
Speaker 3: I'm making it public because it forces me to hold
Speaker 3: myself accountable, but also too, I want to take more
Speaker 3: people with me.
Speaker 1: And so that's what I'm doing. You should invest dot com.
Speaker 1: Let's go. This is the year. You know.
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna pretend we're gonna be some trading like whatever,
Speaker 3: but we're at least gonna get our fundamentals this year
Speaker 3: and then maybe next year we get even deeper into it.
Speaker 3: But yeah, that is my goal and my prondess to myself.
Speaker 1: Yes, let's do it, girl.
Speaker 2: M being around people who normalize wealth as always Yes,
Speaker 2: it's just casual.
Speaker 3: Like just copenh hanging for dinner. I was like, it
Speaker 3: wasn't even so much to coping hanging for dinner, because
Speaker 3: I don't know if I'm trying to find no, however,
Speaker 3: many hours just for dinner. It was more so that
Speaker 3: I realized how little, how how rare it was for
Speaker 3: me to see a relaxed black woman, do you know
Speaker 3: what I mean? Like she was supremely relaxed, and in
Speaker 3: her softness, in her luxury, I mean, the energy that
Speaker 3: was radiant. And I said, because that's not just money.
Speaker 3: That is a level of like wealth meaning like external
Speaker 3: to just money, like like my money is navigating in
Speaker 3: such a way that allows me the space of like
Speaker 3: less worry, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So I don't want you to think it's like, oh
Speaker 1: if I have because.
Speaker 2: Children starving in Gaza, how can she be so calm?
Speaker 1: Yeah, well here's the thing. And that doesn't mean it's
Speaker 1: and or you know what I mean, it's and.
Speaker 2: I now, you know, trying to be like a little
Speaker 2: silly about it, but it's yeah, no, but it also
Speaker 2: is like the I not that I know what she
Speaker 2: feels like, but it's like what I aspire to is
Speaker 2: the is a little bit of like the mental like
Speaker 2: the the the part of your brain when you realize, oh,
Speaker 2: I got this, Like you know, you move a lot
Speaker 2: differently when you just have that self reliance and trust, yeah,
Speaker 2: that things will be okay and that you got yourself
Speaker 2: like that kind of unbothered.
Speaker 3: Yes, that's what I was feeling that It was like
Speaker 3: not that I mean, obviously she's an intelligent woman. I
Speaker 3: mean we didn't talk about gods or anything like that obviously,
Speaker 3: but there was just a sense of like, I don't know,
Speaker 3: like I just don't see that in black women, which.
Speaker 1: Is so sad.
Speaker 3: And I know a lot of black women with a
Speaker 3: lot of money. So it wasn't just the money, you know.
Speaker 3: I know people who have sixty million dollars in the bank.
Speaker 3: Show me what you think and they're not given that.
Speaker 3: It was something else. But when she said she said,
Speaker 3: I am investing my way through life, I really was like,
Speaker 3: that's what I heard is that I'm making enough from
Speaker 3: myself to support myself that like I am in charge.
Speaker 3: No one is like creating the opportunity that if I
Speaker 3: need it, I can go and do it because I
Speaker 3: know what to do. And I've heard that from a
Speaker 3: few of my friends that like hardcore, like invest you
Speaker 3: know where it's like, you know, I have friends who
Speaker 3: are in the real estate child. They stress because being
Speaker 3: the landlord is not easy. You know, my friend's a
Speaker 3: business child. We stressed, check up all your business friends.
Speaker 3: But yeah, so that was the part. I mean, obviously
Speaker 3: there's no guarantee investing in the market, that's not it.
Speaker 3: But I'm just saying that, like that was just my
Speaker 3: sense is that she didn't feel victim to She felt
Speaker 3: like empowered, and that empowerment left her like, at least
Speaker 3: in that moment, because I don't see her all day
Speaker 3: every day, in that moment left her like feeling like
Speaker 3: light and easy and so much so like I.
Speaker 1: Wasn't the only person who who walked up to her.
Speaker 1: People who didn't know her were like, what.
Speaker 3: Do you do?
Speaker 1: What's going on with you? Because she just was just
Speaker 1: giving that ease.
Speaker 3: And so we're gonna get there, We're gonna I'll put
Speaker 3: the link in the show notes you should invest dot com.
Speaker 3: But I am committed for myself and also committed. The
Speaker 3: teacher of me is committed to figuring out the tools
Speaker 3: and resources that we can use.
Speaker 1: To get there together together.
Speaker 2: Take me to cope and hanging kind of food do
Speaker 2: they have out there? I know?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 2: Oh that's awesome though, good for her. And just a
Speaker 2: quick note on I should have done this as my
Speaker 2: little little baby boost. But talk about unbrought, unbothered in
Speaker 2: black Stedman Oprah's Deedman octopus every day.
Speaker 1: Oh I saw that? Oh no, I mean I love octopus.
Speaker 1: I had some two days ago. It's I know there's someone.
Speaker 2: For breakfast, I know every morning, but like also what
Speaker 2: you mean? Yes, deed men, just get your octopus every
Speaker 2: morning because you're married to effing or not married sorry,
Speaker 2: you're partnered with Oprah effing winfree, you got your own money.
Speaker 2: Just like live your best life.
Speaker 1: But that was crazy.
Speaker 2: That is so strange. But God, bless God, bless all Right,
Speaker 2: b a fan catch us on Friday, be a Q
Speaker 2: and a review.
Speaker 1: Okay, they're c Do you have any Oh we haven't
Speaker 1: read them?
Speaker 2: Yes I will. I have a new one that I
Speaker 2: just March eighteenth, that was yesterday. Yes, amazing, man. Tiffany
Speaker 2: and Mandy are so amazing. They give out such good information,
Speaker 2: especially for everyday situations. I love the episode on life insurance.
Speaker 2: Thank you ladies. And this person's name is what Miss
Speaker 2: number one? Is that it?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Because you can call yourself yeah, miss number one. So
Speaker 2: thank you Miss number one. You're the best. And if
Speaker 2: you guys want to leave us a review, please do
Speaker 2: go to what is it called now? I it's not iTunes,
Speaker 2: I'll date myself Apple podcast.
Speaker 1: I guess bro share the episode if it's helpful. You
Speaker 1: think it's awesome, Shamy so we can get outside.
Speaker 2: It's some of my favorite black forager Girl.
Speaker 1: Of a good solng because think we made a smile.
Speaker 2: Guys, you're doing it, Peter, where's that from doing Peter right?
Speaker 1: No, Peter Pan. Remember when Robin Williams was Peter Pan.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and he was sitting down with the Lost Boys
Speaker 3: and they were eating but it was like pretend food.
Speaker 1: Because he was a grown up.
Speaker 3: He couldn't see that for them with their kid mind,
Speaker 3: they could see that it was real food to them
Speaker 3: and they were enjoying it. Because he had grown up.
Speaker 3: He was like, there's nothing in these pots, and they're like,
Speaker 3: you have to use your imagination, and so he was
Speaker 3: like what.
Speaker 1: He made me sad.
Speaker 2: He is good.
Speaker 3: Yes, And then at one point somebody drew a pie
Speaker 3: and it hit his face and then like the he realized.
Speaker 1: Like, oh, there is actually food here, and one of
Speaker 1: the kids in you're.
Speaker 3: So that's like my favorite when like people are coming
Speaker 3: over to the other side and I'm like, oh, look
Speaker 3: at Mandy's smiling.
Speaker 1: You're doing it, Peter, you're doing it.
Speaker 2: Thank goodness. It feels natural, whereas it was forced at
Speaker 2: the beginning. But that's the Tiffany effect. It's the Brown ambition,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Yes, all right, y'all until Friday.
Speaker 3: Alright, bye bye mhm.