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Speaker 2: We're black.

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Speaker 1: Abusu amen?

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Speaker 2: Drat are you hi?

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Speaker 1: Where are your curls?

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Speaker 3: I feel like you're high? Is like is being reflected

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Speaker 1: Not be here?

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Speaker 2: I blue dried, blow dried my hair yesterday.

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Speaker 1: It's so long now.

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Speaker 2: Didn't recognize me. He's just now like he's nigh. He's

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Speaker 2: like almost ten months. But yes, it is the part.

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Speaker 2: This is the time when it's like stranger danger. And

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Speaker 2: also he recognizes faces and stuff and the way that

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Speaker 2: he just looked at me like I was a stranger

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Speaker 2: picking him up at day here yesterday. It was pretty sad,

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Speaker 2: you know, right in his face.

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Speaker 3: He's just like did you see like the you see

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Speaker 3: the clips where like the babies where the dad shave

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Speaker 2: That's exactly what the effects must be for him, because

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Speaker 2: I didn't even have it down. I just had it

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Speaker 2: like it's back all the way and like a slip pony.

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Speaker 2: He's like, anyway, I've really been trying to like get

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Speaker 2: my energy up, but today is just not it. So

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Speaker 2: but I'm going to push through. I'm going to push through,

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Speaker 2: come through. Queens are not thanks, but yeah, life is

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Speaker 2: very much not backing down. So that's all just a

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Speaker 2: lot of shit going on. I'm heading to Georgia again tomorrow, okay,

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Speaker 2: because my dad. I'm gonna go visit him. The way,

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Speaker 2: I could probably have bought like a couple of European

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Speaker 2: But yeah, I'm taking my I'm taking the big kid

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Speaker 2: taking real Okay, okay, but yeah, and I'm like behind

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Speaker 2: on taxes and stuff like a bummer over here. I

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Speaker 2: don't want Are you an escorp?

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Speaker 1: Is many money makers? Is that an escort? Oh? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Because that the escorp taxes wild do last Friday?

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Speaker 2: Mm hmm, well I already followed an extension for that

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Speaker 3: Okay, but did you make a payment because have you

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Speaker 3: been paying quarterly?

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Speaker 2: And I want to talk about a tiffany, I mean,

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Speaker 2: you know, because well man, they didn't have to talk

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Speaker 2: about that personal taxes.

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Speaker 3: The do date is April were like fifteen fourteenth. I

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Speaker 3: can't remember one of them Aprils days. You know, we

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Speaker 3: all have tax Day, but if you have an escorp,

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Speaker 3: of way that your company is tax I suspect man.

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Speaker 3: These companies set up like me, which is the underlying companies. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: but the way we're tax is an es corp, which

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Speaker 3: Ambition is not an escorp, it is an LLC which

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Speaker 3: is the underlying company, and it's a partnership. So that

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Speaker 3: just means it's just me and many in it and

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Speaker 3: we pay taxes differently. But with an es corp, you

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Speaker 3: your business once you become an escorp. So if you

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Speaker 3: you're not self employed. You're an employee of that company.

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Speaker 3: And typically you get to es corp, you start to

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Speaker 3: of income. So you're like, oh, maybe I'll supposed to

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Speaker 3: my business. The thing is, because you're still in that LLC,

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Speaker 3: what happens is is that the money it's a pass

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Speaker 3: makes money. Let's just say your business makes one hundred

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Speaker 3: But just so you know, that fifty that you didn't

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Speaker 1: Through to your personal taxes.

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Speaker 3: So whether you take the money out or not, you're

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Speaker 3: just say the taxes on the fifty is twenty thousand dollars,

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Speaker 3: my business will give me the twenty thousand. So if

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Speaker 3: do whatever work. Because even though I didn't take it,

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Speaker 3: it wasn't spent, so taxes need to be paid on it.

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Speaker 3: And so that's what last Friday, I can't remember what

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Speaker 3: eevery day of the week that was last Friday.

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Speaker 1: Es Corp taxes were due. That means you're supposed to.

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Speaker 3: Have filed them, which you could certainly file an extension,

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Speaker 3: but they don't give you an extension on payment, so

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Speaker 3: you have to have paid something. Now, if you're doing

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Speaker 3: the es Corp right, you're paying quarterly. That means every

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Speaker 3: quarter you're making a payment. So even so I didn't

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Speaker 1: So that way, this is kind of like the wrap

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Speaker 1: it up. It was like, oh, Tiffany, well, you know

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Speaker 1: what you've been paying every quarter. You good.

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Speaker 3: Let's as far as business girlies who listen to understand,

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Speaker 3: because the truth of the matter is most businesses that

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Speaker 1: Not good at cooking or baking or.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry, I didn't want.

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Speaker 1: To talk about it already talking about to you.

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Speaker 2: I was telling the girl, but period, I don't. I

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Speaker 2: was sorry about it, and that concludes.

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Speaker 1: That conclude the business portion.

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Speaker 2: I just wanted to I didn't want the girl to

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Speaker 1: The teacher. I'm sorry, all right, we're gonna focus here, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm just kidding.

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Speaker 2: I care about the girl. I'm sorry. I just hate

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Speaker 1: I mean I think you did. Which is which is real?

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Speaker 1: Which is? Girl? You know you already know my tax issues.

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Speaker 3: Girl, I made so many tax mistakes it costs me.

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Speaker 3: Remember I told you I probably paid about seven figures

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Speaker 1: I made a mistake again, tax mistakes because.

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Speaker 3: There was two or three years in a row when

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Speaker 3: the way we were doing taxes was incorrect and wrong,

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Speaker 3: and as a result, up until I think twenty twenty two,

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Speaker 3: I finally got my last final you know, you get

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Speaker 3: but we finally paid it, and I think we're finally

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Speaker 1: So I just sad.

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Speaker 3: All that to say is that, you know, there isn't

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Speaker 3: a mistake I ain't made, And the reason why I

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Speaker 3: really costly and stressful. But you you know, you're living,

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Speaker 3: you learn, and you hope you live to see another day. Hey,

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Speaker 1: Oh if we want to talk about something, you want

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Speaker 1: to talk about the White House?

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Speaker 3: Sound right? You call Mary called me yesterday? Wait what

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Speaker 1: Just to say.

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Speaker 2: Hey, yeah, no, not on a Monday. Oh It's like

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Speaker 2: yeah morning. It was like, yeah, I was dropping off

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Speaker 2: the kiddos. I was like I usually picture you on

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, day yeah.

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Speaker 2: So Mandy called me, but you weren't on a little

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Speaker 2: But I'm like so excited, tell me about everything.

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Speaker 3: So when Mandy called me, I was literally running leak

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Speaker 3: White House. As you know, it's March's International, well Women's

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Speaker 3: there were I don't know, at least one hundred, maybe

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Speaker 3: different industries, doctors, attorneys, nonprofit workers. It was amazing. It

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Speaker 1: And so they invited us one to.

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Speaker 3: Network with each other, which was really awesome that these

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Speaker 2: It wasn't like a sit down thing. It was like

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Speaker 2: I did see your stories this time.

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Speaker 3: Yes, No, it wasn't a sit down thing. It was

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Speaker 3: so for example, Kamala or you know, first our vice president,

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Speaker 3: she spoke, as did Maria Shriver, who's a big woman's advocate.

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Speaker 3: The President was there as well, and he spoke as

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Speaker 3: is really cool to see them all.

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Speaker 2: I've never seen a crew there.

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Speaker 3: So the reason why they were all there, they kind

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Speaker 3: of gathered us is because the President just.

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Speaker 1: Signed let me find what it was. He just signed.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't into law, but he signed the most comprehensive

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Speaker 1: let me see what was it march.

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Speaker 2: If it wasn't a Family Paid Leave and Childcare Act,

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Speaker 2: I don't.

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Speaker 3: Know, you know, it was a woman's let me see.

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Speaker 3: So I'm looking at the White House dot gov. He

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Speaker 3: signed an executive Order on Advancing Women's Health Research and Innovation.

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Speaker 3: So there are a lot of doctors in the room,

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Speaker 3: and so it is the largest executive order. So he

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Speaker 3: but women suffer from so many health ailments that are

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Speaker 3: just like doctors ignore, especially black and brow women. Like

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Speaker 3: the mortality rates for black women when it comes to

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Speaker 3: I remember, do you remember did you ever see that

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Speaker 3: Saint Sylvia. So we go to visit her. She's all

439
00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:09,280
Speaker 3: like sitting in the bed like do do do? And

440
00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:11,240
Speaker 3: like she said, oh, when you go to the house,

441
00:23:11,280 --> 00:23:13,880
Speaker 3: bring me my stretch pants and bring me I said,

442
00:23:13,880 --> 00:23:15,960
Speaker 3: you seem in good spirits and she was like yeah,

443
00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:16,400
Speaker 3: I'm fine.

444
00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:18,320
Speaker 1: You know, they just they found out that it was

445
00:23:18,320 --> 00:23:19,960
Speaker 1: like the physical therapist went a little too hard.

446
00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:22,320
Speaker 3: But I had them because my mother as a nurse,

447
00:23:22,640 --> 00:23:24,800
Speaker 3: was like I had them run this test, this.

448
00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:27,680
Speaker 1: Test because she knew what to ask for and she knew.

449
00:23:27,520 --> 00:23:29,679
Speaker 3: Exactly what to do and so much so many that

450
00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:31,960
Speaker 3: when we got to the room, this woman had I said,

451
00:23:31,960 --> 00:23:34,040
Speaker 3: what is this print out? And she said, oh, this

452
00:23:34,119 --> 00:23:37,679
Speaker 3: is my health plan because she said, I asked the doctor,

453
00:23:37,760 --> 00:23:38,640
Speaker 3: can I get a print.

454
00:23:38,440 --> 00:23:40,560
Speaker 1: Out of my health plan in like sixteen fonts?

455
00:23:40,560 --> 00:23:43,880
Speaker 3: Because you know everybody got to get the lady had

456
00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:47,359
Speaker 3: highlight and red marker. I'm not taking that medicine because

457
00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:48,959
Speaker 3: it is for people who have seizures.

458
00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:49,600
Speaker 1: I'm not too.

459
00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:52,800
Speaker 3: I was like, like you said this sense of like

460
00:23:53,320 --> 00:23:56,119
Speaker 3: if they say it, it's Bible. But because she was

461
00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:59,520
Speaker 3: a nurse, she's like, that's not true. So she's asking

462
00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:01,520
Speaker 3: every question. But I wouldn't have known. I would like,

463
00:24:01,840 --> 00:24:03,320
Speaker 3: I said, how wout you? She said, no, no, I know

464
00:24:03,760 --> 00:24:06,000
Speaker 3: this medication it can help for this, but it's a

465
00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:07,719
Speaker 3: little overdoing it, you know.

466
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:09,320
Speaker 1: So she was like, I'm not going to take this.

467
00:24:09,320 --> 00:24:11,000
Speaker 1: This is too high, this is too low.

468
00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:14,640
Speaker 3: And I said, But the way the nurses treated her

469
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:16,960
Speaker 3: because they said this is there's somebody in the room

470
00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:19,440
Speaker 3: who obviously used to be a nurse who she doesn't

471
00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:21,440
Speaker 3: always let people know that she's been a nurse whenever she.

472
00:24:22,000 --> 00:24:23,080
Speaker 1: Is in a hospital setting.

473
00:24:23,560 --> 00:24:25,919
Speaker 3: And because they also knew, she knew exactly what they

474
00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:26,680
Speaker 3: were supposed to be doing.

475
00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:29,000
Speaker 1: So the way, hi, how are you?

476
00:24:29,000 --> 00:24:31,240
Speaker 3: You know, everybody was on their best behavior because nobody

477
00:24:31,240 --> 00:24:33,439
Speaker 3: wants to be sued by somebody who knows what you're

478
00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:35,359
Speaker 3: supposed to have been doing. Like when I press this

479
00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:37,439
Speaker 3: call button, there's a certain amount of time he's supposed

480
00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:39,359
Speaker 3: to take before you get there. When my uncle was

481
00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:41,600
Speaker 3: in the hospital, my mother said, put me on speaker,

482
00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:43,640
Speaker 3: pressed the call button, and she timed it. And when

483
00:24:43,720 --> 00:24:45,760
Speaker 3: the nurse came in, she got on the phone. She

484
00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:49,160
Speaker 3: was like, you took ten minutes to come you were

485
00:24:49,160 --> 00:24:51,760
Speaker 3: supposed to. They were like, oh, oh, you have a

486
00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:54,520
Speaker 3: medical professional in your family, and so I know everyone

487
00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:56,800
Speaker 3: doesn't have that, but I just wanted to speak to that,

488
00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:59,600
Speaker 3: that part that you said, Mandy about like taking everything

489
00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:02,359
Speaker 3: for by but because I just assumed they're I mean,

490
00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:05,119
Speaker 3: you assume obviously everyone's doing their best, but it doesn't

491
00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:06,520
Speaker 3: mean that they're not making mistakes.

492
00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:10,080
Speaker 2: You want to assume, but they're not. And like they'll

493
00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:12,919
Speaker 2: be coming in, like there's a shift change at seven pm,

494
00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:14,679
Speaker 2: and they'll be there all night. Like I slept at

495
00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:17,840
Speaker 2: the hospital so many nights because I can sleep anywhere,

496
00:25:18,000 --> 00:25:20,359
Speaker 2: and I have practice not sleeping at night because it

497
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:22,280
Speaker 2: was like taking care of a newborn thing. I want

498
00:25:22,320 --> 00:25:27,439
Speaker 2: to be honest anyway, And and there'll be multiple people

499
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:29,800
Speaker 2: and they won't like stop to look at you in

500
00:25:29,840 --> 00:25:31,399
Speaker 2: the eye. I mean, at one point I took the

501
00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:33,760
Speaker 2: nurse outside and I was like, Hi, my name is

502
00:25:33,800 --> 00:25:37,119
Speaker 2: Amanda Woodriff, Like this is my dad, and I just

503
00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:39,159
Speaker 2: was like forcing her to listen. It was almost like

504
00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:41,240
Speaker 2: you know, if you've ever been kidnapped or health hostage.

505
00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:43,439
Speaker 2: It's like you an hae yourself to the person with

506
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:46,359
Speaker 2: a gun to your head. Yes, but like imagine that

507
00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:49,119
Speaker 2: for every twelve hours, just wanting to be like, please

508
00:25:49,160 --> 00:25:51,160
Speaker 2: take care of my dad. He's not just another dude.

509
00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:55,800
Speaker 2: Like he's not just another like you know guy who

510
00:25:56,080 --> 00:25:58,680
Speaker 2: is sick, you know and has gone through this procedure

511
00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:03,320
Speaker 2: or whatever. Like don't make assumptions, but everyone carries their

512
00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:07,280
Speaker 2: bias with them in that regard. But absolutely, like from

513
00:26:07,280 --> 00:26:10,000
Speaker 2: the medications they're giving him, I mean there were times

514
00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:12,000
Speaker 2: when we want I just wanted to let my brain

515
00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:15,240
Speaker 2: go and be like trust, but you can't. You know,

516
00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:17,440
Speaker 2: sometimes what they're giving him is not what they should

517
00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:19,520
Speaker 2: be giving him or they amount that they should be

518
00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:22,600
Speaker 2: giving him, and so many mistakes can happen.

519
00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:24,320
Speaker 1: And cost.

520
00:26:25,840 --> 00:26:27,840
Speaker 2: And I have a shout out my friend Kristin, who

521
00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:30,159
Speaker 2: is an ICU nurse all the way on the Left coast,

522
00:26:31,119 --> 00:26:33,560
Speaker 2: but she was like my guru and just someone who

523
00:26:33,560 --> 00:26:36,600
Speaker 2: helped kind of like walk me through it. And yeah,

524
00:26:36,600 --> 00:26:38,800
Speaker 2: if you don't know someone in the medical field, you

525
00:26:38,840 --> 00:26:41,640
Speaker 2: don't have to but find somebody and somebody who knows somebody.

526
00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:45,720
Speaker 2: It's worth it. I think it's so worth it finds

527
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:48,760
Speaker 2: or at least find someone who's gone through a hospital

528
00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:51,520
Speaker 2: ordeal like the one that you're going through, like whether

529
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:55,160
Speaker 2: it's a surgery or like a trauma, like whatever it is,

530
00:26:55,240 --> 00:27:00,280
Speaker 2: Like find someone who understands the language and the the

531
00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:02,680
Speaker 2: rhythm yes of care.

532
00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:05,919
Speaker 3: There are Facebook groups for certain things, like I always

533
00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:09,959
Speaker 3: tell like like whenever my friends have like preschool aged children,

534
00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:11,119
Speaker 3: you know, they always.

535
00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:13,000
Speaker 1: Hit me up. So, Tiffany, what is this normal? What

536
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 1: about that?

537
00:27:13,720 --> 00:27:16,480
Speaker 3: And so if you have children in school, you should

538
00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:19,199
Speaker 3: have at least one or two teacher friends, you know,

539
00:27:19,359 --> 00:27:22,480
Speaker 3: because that's really helpful, like with every aspect of your life. Right,

540
00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:25,280
Speaker 3: It's like I am always trying to insulate myself with

541
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:28,919
Speaker 3: like in business, I've got business friends and finance. If

542
00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:31,320
Speaker 3: there's something I want to learn, I you know, when

543
00:27:31,359 --> 00:27:33,399
Speaker 3: I was really starting to think about, like really digging

544
00:27:33,440 --> 00:27:35,720
Speaker 3: into real estate, I have some real estate friends and

545
00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:37,560
Speaker 3: I get to reach out to because you can't be

546
00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:40,000
Speaker 3: an expert in everything, but there are people who are experts,

547
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:42,639
Speaker 3: and I make it my business to be like, Okay,

548
00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:45,199
Speaker 3: let me let me see, like you know what this

549
00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:47,439
Speaker 3: person is really good at. Let me lean in, Like

550
00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:50,600
Speaker 3: Mandy is my negotiation friend, like for real, and I'm like,

551
00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 3: how do I is this going to be enough? How

552
00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:55,960
Speaker 3: should I ask about this? How should you know? And

553
00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:58,400
Speaker 3: so remember I told you last time, you know, Mandy

554
00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:01,439
Speaker 3: negotiating and so much so that what I thought was

555
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:02,920
Speaker 3: locked in and girl up, but they unlocked in. But

556
00:28:02,920 --> 00:28:05,080
Speaker 3: it's still it was one point two million dollars worth

557
00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:06,920
Speaker 3: of contracts, you know, at the end of the year,

558
00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:08,760
Speaker 3: because of a piece of advice that Mandy gave me.

559
00:28:08,840 --> 00:28:12,560
Speaker 3: So I just that isn't that's excellent advice and that

560
00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:17,240
Speaker 3: having friends not. Obviously the purpose of friendship is connection,

561
00:28:17,880 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 3: but I like to also be intentional about like what

562
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:23,920
Speaker 3: additional types of like resources I can lean into when

563
00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 3: it comes to my friendship. So you're building for connection,

564
00:28:27,119 --> 00:28:31,200
Speaker 3: but you bring something valuable to the table too, And

565
00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:33,000
Speaker 3: I like to lean in what I know, Like my friend,

566
00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:35,680
Speaker 3: Like my friend Linda, she's like the advocate of all advocates.

567
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:40,280
Speaker 3: There is any sort of like my mom is sick

568
00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:41,640
Speaker 3: and she needs this.

569
00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:42,560
Speaker 1: Resource or whatever.

570
00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:44,760
Speaker 3: Linda is the one who's like, well, the state provides,

571
00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:47,400
Speaker 3: and you can get a ramp and a and a.

572
00:28:49,040 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 1: Link vehicle can take it to the doctors. And like

573
00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:53,520
Speaker 1: that's Linda, you know, and so.

574
00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:55,520
Speaker 2: I like it to Linda for Atlanta. If you know

575
00:28:55,560 --> 00:29:01,880
Speaker 2: a Linda in Atlanta can help names, but help who

576
00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:04,240
Speaker 2: can help figure out how to get I mean I'm

577
00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:05,880
Speaker 2: not naming names. I don't know who this would be,

578
00:29:05,920 --> 00:29:08,800
Speaker 2: but like a mid sixties kind of like older man

579
00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:11,240
Speaker 2: kind he lives by himself and wants no help and

580
00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:14,880
Speaker 2: thinks he's God like services to help that person who

581
00:29:14,960 --> 00:29:18,200
Speaker 2: can't care for themselves or move or like drive.

582
00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:21,320
Speaker 3: You know, here's the thing, remimy Linda, I mean REMI

583
00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:23,440
Speaker 3: man because I ask Linda, like does she know Linda

584
00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:26,360
Speaker 3: in Atlanta or at least a place to start, because

585
00:29:26,360 --> 00:29:28,240
Speaker 3: oftentimes Linda is like, you know what, if you go

586
00:29:28,280 --> 00:29:30,680
Speaker 3: to this site or call this number, it's a place

587
00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:31,160
Speaker 3: to start.

588
00:29:31,320 --> 00:29:34,680
Speaker 1: So yeah, we have to lean into each other. I think, I.

589
00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:39,640
Speaker 3: Feel like twenty twenty four and beyond that in order

590
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:43,480
Speaker 3: for us to make it financially, personally, and otherwise, it's

591
00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:47,120
Speaker 3: gonna be The theme is community. You have to build,

592
00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:50,720
Speaker 3: lean into and contribute to your community because you cannot

593
00:29:50,720 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 3: do this by yourself. You cannot, Like you want to

594
00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:57,160
Speaker 3: work on your money, community, want to work on your business. Community,

595
00:29:57,440 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 3: you know, health community, your kids, cann unity. It is

596
00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:05,240
Speaker 3: just you cannot My dad has a phrase, the lone wolf.

597
00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:07,000
Speaker 3: I'm sure it's like not his phrase, but you know

598
00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:09,440
Speaker 3: he's African, so everything belongs to him. According to him,

599
00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 3: the lone wolf perishes in the winter. No, it's something

600
00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:19,080
Speaker 3: I know, but yeah, yeah, the lone wolf. Wolf perishes

601
00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:20,960
Speaker 3: in the winter, but the pack survives.

602
00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:26,800
Speaker 2: You know in Game of Thrones, that's the lone wolf dies,

603
00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 2: but the pack survives.

604
00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:31,640
Speaker 1: Okay, what have we got him that they got it.

605
00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:38,600
Speaker 2: From watching TV too? You know nothing, John Snow.

606
00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 1: So.

607
00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:44,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, so it's just important.

608
00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:47,760
Speaker 1: You can't be out here by yourself basically, you know that,

609
00:30:47,960 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 1: like it all here is.

610
00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:51,600
Speaker 2: So that means that I can't curl up into a

611
00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:53,320
Speaker 2: ball inside of myself and disappear.

612
00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:55,000
Speaker 1: I mean you can't temporarily.

613
00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:56,800
Speaker 3: But then you're gonna reach out to your Therapist's gonna

614
00:30:56,800 --> 00:30:58,120
Speaker 3: call me, gonna call your other friends.

615
00:30:58,120 --> 00:31:02,160
Speaker 2: You're gonna, I know, my poor therapist, she needs a

616
00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:03,720
Speaker 2: therapist for me for herself.

617
00:31:03,880 --> 00:31:06,440
Speaker 3: After talking to me, you know, there's therapist therapist like

618
00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:07,880
Speaker 3: I knew, Like one of my friends was like, I'm

619
00:31:07,880 --> 00:31:08,680
Speaker 3: a therapist therapist.

620
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:10,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, literally a therapist just for therapists.

621
00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:14,720
Speaker 2: Yes, that that part all right? Let me let's shake

622
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:19,640
Speaker 2: it off and do little boosty breaking. We're gonna boosty breaking.

623
00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:21,880
Speaker 2: And now I remembered.

624
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:25,120
Speaker 3: It, and now it's time to boost up, break up,

625
00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:27,040
Speaker 3: boost break up, boost up break?

626
00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:30,840
Speaker 1: Oh you got a boost? Is you going to bring?

627
00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:32,760
Speaker 1: What you're gonna do?

628
00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:33,640
Speaker 2: Lell?

629
00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:38,280
Speaker 1: What you gonna take? Candy? Do you want to go first?

630
00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:43,360
Speaker 2: Second, I'm gonna do a break. Okay, I'm gonna do

631
00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:43,760
Speaker 2: a boost.

632
00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:44,400
Speaker 1: I'll go last.

633
00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:47,880
Speaker 2: It's not gonna be too dark of a break. However,

634
00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:52,560
Speaker 2: why I need to take a break from the girls

635
00:31:52,720 --> 00:31:58,160
Speaker 2: on social using down dish soap in their hair? Have

636
00:31:58,280 --> 00:31:59,200
Speaker 2: you seen this tip?

637
00:31:59,240 --> 00:31:59,760
Speaker 1: I done? Still?

638
00:31:59,760 --> 00:32:01,360
Speaker 2: Have you ever with your locks?

639
00:32:01,480 --> 00:32:01,800
Speaker 1: Okay?

640
00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:04,400
Speaker 2: So I think in the I think the exception to

641
00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 2: the rule that I have gathered is that with locks, yes,

642
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:10,400
Speaker 2: because it gets built up and stuff out. But like right,

643
00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:14,680
Speaker 2: like other hair styles like don dish soap. I And

644
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:18,040
Speaker 2: it's just I think that the girls, the influencers, the

645
00:32:18,040 --> 00:32:20,320
Speaker 2: beauty people, they have run out of things to talk

646
00:32:20,360 --> 00:32:25,440
Speaker 2: about and it's stripping. It's extreme, like come on, I mean,

647
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:27,920
Speaker 2: my fingers are destroyed because I have to wash baby

648
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:30,920
Speaker 2: bottles every day, and that's what the fancy soap let alone.

649
00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:35,880
Speaker 2: The blue chemical whatever dye is it gets oil off

650
00:32:35,920 --> 00:32:40,560
Speaker 2: of like ducks. Yeah, you guys saw that episode the Bell, Like, come.

651
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:43,800
Speaker 1: On, I haven't seen this.

652
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:46,400
Speaker 2: This is the have not. Just google it right now

653
00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:48,600
Speaker 2: because you'll find a ton of videos. I swear. I

654
00:32:48,680 --> 00:32:53,880
Speaker 2: just put a on TikTok or on the TikTok talk

655
00:32:54,040 --> 00:32:57,760
Speaker 2: on YouTube on Instagram. Who knows where it originated from,

656
00:32:57,800 --> 00:33:00,920
Speaker 2: but it is all on these in the nets. They're

657
00:33:00,920 --> 00:33:03,720
Speaker 2: calling it a hack. No, it's not a hack. It

658
00:33:03,760 --> 00:33:07,840
Speaker 2: is it may it's like it's probably second. I feel

659
00:33:07,840 --> 00:33:09,760
Speaker 2: like to that check you got the gorilla glue stuck

660
00:33:09,800 --> 00:33:12,479
Speaker 2: in her head. Thought it was gel or whatever it

661
00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:15,880
Speaker 2: was that she used. Uh yeah, just don't do it.

662
00:33:16,520 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 2: I mean, if you're going to take risks with your hair,

663
00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:22,240
Speaker 2: just like use the two dollars suave stuff, you know,

664
00:33:22,400 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 2: like that For me, I.

665
00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:25,520
Speaker 1: Feel like it's not that that's a verst. I used

666
00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:27,640
Speaker 1: to use that too. That's funny, I know.

667
00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:30,280
Speaker 2: But yeah, don't wash your hair or you know, do

668
00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:34,040
Speaker 2: but I would like a break front see it. Gimmicks,

669
00:33:34,680 --> 00:33:37,440
Speaker 2: beauty gimmicks. And also I just got to prove to

670
00:33:37,520 --> 00:33:40,320
Speaker 2: sell on TikTok TikTok shop or whatever, and I'm just

671
00:33:40,360 --> 00:33:43,960
Speaker 2: like I would perform. I think I'm getting in my

672
00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:49,880
Speaker 2: cranky consumerism anti consumerism era about like social media right now,

673
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:54,760
Speaker 2: because everybody is like wanted. It's like, what where'd you

674
00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:55,600
Speaker 2: get your shorts from?

675
00:33:55,640 --> 00:33:55,760
Speaker 1: Oh?

676
00:33:55,760 --> 00:33:57,560
Speaker 2: I had the link to my shop in my bio,

677
00:33:57,720 --> 00:34:00,239
Speaker 2: you know, my Amazon storefront, and like it's just like

678
00:34:00,760 --> 00:34:06,840
Speaker 2: just yeah, I'm I'm, I'm I'm trying not to. I'm

679
00:34:06,840 --> 00:34:09,960
Speaker 2: trying to stay away from that, like that cycle of

680
00:34:10,360 --> 00:34:12,000
Speaker 2: go on here and think you got to do that

681
00:34:12,040 --> 00:34:14,640
Speaker 2: thing and you know, or buy that thing or whatnot.

682
00:34:14,760 --> 00:34:17,919
Speaker 2: So don dish soap is just where I draw the line.

683
00:34:18,080 --> 00:34:21,080
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm let me watch it. Here's the thing.

684
00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:27,120
Speaker 3: So I remember so especially with locks, because locks essentially

685
00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:31,560
Speaker 3: you know they not over and then but build up

686
00:34:31,600 --> 00:34:35,520
Speaker 3: can live inside the lock that it's almost impossible to

687
00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:38,319
Speaker 3: get out. And so Dawn, I don't do it. I

688
00:34:38,320 --> 00:34:39,799
Speaker 3: mean I probably say I don't want to do it

689
00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:42,719
Speaker 3: max once a year when like it's like, you know,

690
00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:45,200
Speaker 3: because I washed my hair with regular you know, I

691
00:34:45,200 --> 00:34:48,959
Speaker 3: don't even use condition because conditioner builds up with locks.

692
00:34:48,960 --> 00:34:50,960
Speaker 3: So with natural with when my hair was a firm,

693
00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:53,680
Speaker 3: I never used dawn because you don't need to because

694
00:34:53,680 --> 00:34:56,360
Speaker 3: you don't have to die deep. Instead, I would just

695
00:34:56,480 --> 00:34:59,520
Speaker 3: use I was heavy on the conditioner when your hair

696
00:34:59,560 --> 00:35:02,600
Speaker 3: is loose, natural, more conditioner when your hair is locked,

697
00:35:03,040 --> 00:35:05,120
Speaker 3: less conditional because it really builds up.

698
00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:07,080
Speaker 1: So don would help to.

699
00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:09,719
Speaker 3: Like get some of that stuff out that that you

700
00:35:09,719 --> 00:35:12,160
Speaker 3: know that I could not get out with just regular washings,

701
00:35:12,200 --> 00:35:12,480
Speaker 3: you know.

702
00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:15,640
Speaker 2: But just some of my favorite TikTok videos though, like

703
00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:18,520
Speaker 2: washing locks because they'll put it in like it's just

704
00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:22,560
Speaker 2: really satisfying to see how the water, you know, runs.

705
00:35:22,280 --> 00:35:25,359
Speaker 1: Clear, so you'll just out of vinegar. I've done that.

706
00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:29,279
Speaker 1: The apple side of though, I'm done with. Yeah, although

707
00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:30,800
Speaker 1: like oh your eyes, you're.

708
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:35,719
Speaker 2: Like my so you need to get a friend tif

709
00:35:35,800 --> 00:35:37,560
Speaker 2: to like, you know, you bend over the sink and

710
00:35:37,600 --> 00:35:38,319
Speaker 2: someone you know.

711
00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:41,400
Speaker 1: That.

712
00:35:41,560 --> 00:35:44,600
Speaker 3: But truthfully, what I love about locks is for at

713
00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:46,839
Speaker 3: least far as I concern for my locks, they.

714
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:48,840
Speaker 1: Don't need Like locks are very low product.

715
00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:51,120
Speaker 3: That's because the more products you put on them, quite honestly,

716
00:35:51,160 --> 00:35:53,359
Speaker 3: the more you have to build up, so it's very low.

717
00:35:53,480 --> 00:35:54,920
Speaker 1: I don't put any products into my lock.

718
00:35:54,800 --> 00:35:57,759
Speaker 3: Really, like I will do some edge control, you know,

719
00:35:57,760 --> 00:35:59,840
Speaker 3: if I'm gonna be on TV. But other than that,

720
00:36:00,040 --> 00:36:02,319
Speaker 3: gonna get these curly edges because that's how.

721
00:36:02,239 --> 00:36:02,920
Speaker 1: God made me.

722
00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:05,200
Speaker 2: They look amazing by the way, and I like the

723
00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:08,399
Speaker 2: curl that you have. Although I missed the ringlets.

724
00:36:08,680 --> 00:36:10,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm to get them back because I was like,

725
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:12,040
Speaker 3: you know what, like I mean, it's still a little

726
00:36:12,040 --> 00:36:14,480
Speaker 3: wave that's holding out a little wave. It's not super straight.

727
00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:18,600
Speaker 3: So yeah, no, no, I mean I get the don girlies.

728
00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:20,720
Speaker 3: But to me, if you if your hair is loose,

729
00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:24,160
Speaker 3: you are stripping, like you know, like I said, even

730
00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:25,080
Speaker 3: if you have locks, that.

731
00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:27,480
Speaker 1: Should be like very rarely that you have to do

732
00:36:27,520 --> 00:36:27,839
Speaker 1: all that.

733
00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:32,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I can understand that we're in a very

734
00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:38,400
Speaker 3: consumer escape world. So my boost is gonna be so

735
00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:42,080
Speaker 3: of the amazing women that I met at the White House.

736
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:48,839
Speaker 3: One of them, Oh, I forget Jakati cho k Oh.

737
00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:50,200
Speaker 1: Girl, I'm gonna get your name wrong.

738
00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:53,759
Speaker 3: So some years back, Own Network reached out to me

739
00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:57,400
Speaker 3: and said, we want you to be on this like

740
00:36:57,600 --> 00:37:01,719
Speaker 3: special called like Black Women in Wealth or something like that,

741
00:37:01,920 --> 00:37:03,160
Speaker 3: and so she was the host.

742
00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:04,759
Speaker 1: Her name is like it's like.

743
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:09,439
Speaker 3: Joe Ja Kata something like that Jakata or something like that. Right,

744
00:37:09,840 --> 00:37:13,040
Speaker 3: So anyway, beautiful black woman locks she was the host.

745
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:14,040
Speaker 1: I met her there so nice.

746
00:37:14,040 --> 00:37:16,160
Speaker 3: Afterwards we end up, like all the people who were

747
00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:17,799
Speaker 3: on the panel stuff, we ended up having dinner at

748
00:37:17,840 --> 00:37:19,960
Speaker 3: the hotel. But I had not seen her in person

749
00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:21,879
Speaker 3: since then, but I follow her on social and she's

750
00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:23,319
Speaker 3: just been living this fabulous life.

751
00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 1: Honey.

752
00:37:23,840 --> 00:37:27,080
Speaker 3: She's like Bessies with Oprah because after that own network,

753
00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 3: Oprah's had her do all these other things and like

754
00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 3: hosts all these other things, and she's like, oh, she's

755
00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:33,319
Speaker 3: the host of it.

756
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:34,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's like a host.

757
00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:37,520
Speaker 3: I guess, like I would say, so, she actually came

758
00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 3: up in the tech world super smart.

759
00:37:39,680 --> 00:37:40,359
Speaker 1: So she used to.

760
00:37:40,320 --> 00:37:42,719
Speaker 3: Be like big in tech. I can't remember what big

761
00:37:42,760 --> 00:37:45,640
Speaker 3: tech companies she worked for prior, and then she left

762
00:37:45,640 --> 00:37:50,520
Speaker 3: that and started investing. But then it also started like

763
00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:52,560
Speaker 3: you know, kind of like working as a host and

764
00:37:52,600 --> 00:37:55,279
Speaker 3: then connected with Own and Oprah and now that's what

765
00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:55,719
Speaker 3: she does.

766
00:37:56,280 --> 00:37:58,520
Speaker 1: But now so I saw her to think you ever just.

767
00:37:58,520 --> 00:38:01,919
Speaker 3: See it is so beautiful when you see a black

768
00:38:01,920 --> 00:38:05,000
Speaker 3: woman in her soft error, you know, because you know,

769
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:06,680
Speaker 3: we just be out here working, honey, and you can

770
00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:08,360
Speaker 3: see it.

771
00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:09,760
Speaker 1: Even in Look Beautiful.

772
00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:13,800
Speaker 3: You could tell the difference between the beautiful pull together

773
00:38:13,840 --> 00:38:16,319
Speaker 3: because I got to get it together and the beautiful

774
00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:21,359
Speaker 3: like girl I am in So I see was there

775
00:38:21,400 --> 00:38:23,600
Speaker 3: was like this blue room that like I imagine kind

776
00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:25,000
Speaker 3: of like the Oval office kind of looked like this

777
00:38:25,040 --> 00:38:28,000
Speaker 3: blue round room that they had us in. There's a

778
00:38:28,040 --> 00:38:29,160
Speaker 3: number of rooms they had to say, but it was

779
00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:31,040
Speaker 3: like one of the prettiest rooms. And she was sitting

780
00:38:31,040 --> 00:38:33,600
Speaker 3: on the couch. The energy she was reading.

781
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:37,120
Speaker 1: Was Life of Luxury and Leisure. I just looked at her.

782
00:38:37,760 --> 00:38:40,399
Speaker 1: I walked over to her. I said, hey, girl, how

783
00:38:40,440 --> 00:38:42,600
Speaker 1: are you? She said wonderful but.

784
00:38:44,480 --> 00:38:48,760
Speaker 3: From her soul, and I was like really, she said really,

785
00:38:49,160 --> 00:38:51,279
Speaker 3: she said, when I tell you, I am living the

786
00:38:51,400 --> 00:38:54,360
Speaker 3: life that I always dreamed of. I was like really,

787
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:57,560
Speaker 3: She said yes, And she said, you know, I used

788
00:38:57,560 --> 00:39:00,480
Speaker 3: to work in tech, made a lot of money, super stressful.

789
00:39:01,120 --> 00:39:03,520
Speaker 3: But because of working in tech, I learned like there

790
00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:06,800
Speaker 3: were a lot of colleagues that were investing, so I

791
00:39:06,800 --> 00:39:09,840
Speaker 3: started to invest learning from them, and so I started investing,

792
00:39:09,880 --> 00:39:12,320
Speaker 3: and then you know, I knew, you know, her whole

793
00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:14,239
Speaker 3: stint with Oprah, which I think she still works in,

794
00:39:14,360 --> 00:39:19,680
Speaker 3: but she said, but now, she said, because of her

795
00:39:20,040 --> 00:39:23,560
Speaker 3: like acumen, it took a number of years obviously for investing,

796
00:39:23,719 --> 00:39:26,120
Speaker 3: she said. I do the thing like the hosting things

797
00:39:26,120 --> 00:39:28,480
Speaker 3: and stuff that I like with you know, Oprah and otherwise,

798
00:39:28,840 --> 00:39:31,400
Speaker 3: but mostly I live off my investment. She said, girl,

799
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:35,239
Speaker 3: I just got that from Copenhagen, copen Copenhagen. And now

800
00:39:35,280 --> 00:39:39,439
Speaker 3: you said Copenhagen, Copenhagen, which is in Denmark, right, she said,

801
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:42,879
Speaker 3: I went for dinner, she said, for dinner, just like that,

802
00:39:44,719 --> 00:39:47,359
Speaker 3: she said for dinner.

803
00:39:47,160 --> 00:39:49,680
Speaker 1: She said, thirty six hours A friend of mine was like, oh,

804
00:39:49,719 --> 00:39:53,160
Speaker 1: come have for dinner, right, and then she was I

805
00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:56,040
Speaker 1: just it was like, wait, what how?

806
00:39:56,280 --> 00:40:00,080
Speaker 3: And she said, honestly, like I've mentioned this before, or

807
00:40:00,640 --> 00:40:02,640
Speaker 3: you know, if there's income, you have to make it.

808
00:40:03,120 --> 00:40:04,960
Speaker 3: You have to make more than you spend or spend

809
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:07,120
Speaker 3: less than you make. You have to obviously save some

810
00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:11,759
Speaker 3: for security. You have to invest, you have to learn

811
00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:14,440
Speaker 3: to invest. And when she said that, she was like, honestly,

812
00:40:15,040 --> 00:40:19,560
Speaker 3: I really buckled down and leaned into learning how to invest.

813
00:40:20,120 --> 00:40:22,880
Speaker 3: And it was just like when you last week I

814
00:40:22,880 --> 00:40:25,239
Speaker 3: talked about investing, and it just because this is the

815
00:40:25,320 --> 00:40:27,279
Speaker 3: year for me, I've just decided like.

816
00:40:27,200 --> 00:40:29,040
Speaker 1: You know, like you know, how we have you wanted signs?

817
00:40:29,320 --> 00:40:31,040
Speaker 1: And I was like, this lady is.

818
00:40:32,040 --> 00:40:34,040
Speaker 3: I mean, I've met her before and she was happy,

819
00:40:34,080 --> 00:40:35,759
Speaker 3: but definitely I could tell it was that busy like

820
00:40:36,120 --> 00:40:39,200
Speaker 3: I'm here, I'm doing it now. She was sipping on

821
00:40:39,239 --> 00:40:41,759
Speaker 3: her champagne, chilling on a couch that probably was two

822
00:40:41,840 --> 00:40:45,120
Speaker 3: hundred years old. I mean, just soaking in like yeah,

823
00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:47,080
Speaker 3: it's just a little white house and then I'm off

824
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:49,920
Speaker 3: to this other thing and maybe Copenhagen for dinner.

825
00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:52,640
Speaker 1: I said, I want Copenhagen for dinner.

826
00:40:54,920 --> 00:40:57,480
Speaker 3: So anyway, I just share that that, like if you're

827
00:40:57,560 --> 00:41:02,400
Speaker 3: needing your sign of life, whether it's investing in yourself,

828
00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 3: you know, whether it's like real estate, whether it's business,

829
00:41:06,600 --> 00:41:10,000
Speaker 3: whether it's the market, if you're needing a sign, I

830
00:41:10,080 --> 00:41:15,160
Speaker 3: just know that because the way my life is set

831
00:41:15,239 --> 00:41:18,719
Speaker 3: up now is that I have just enough that if

832
00:41:18,719 --> 00:41:21,359
Speaker 3: I didn't want to work anymore, I likely could make it.

833
00:41:21,400 --> 00:41:24,600
Speaker 3: But one really bad oopsie, I'll be back to the grind.

834
00:41:25,239 --> 00:41:28,560
Speaker 3: So it's not quite but just enough, and I want

835
00:41:28,600 --> 00:41:31,960
Speaker 3: more space than that I want, and also too, I

836
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:35,319
Speaker 3: don't want because a Bungonese had a hard year last year,

837
00:41:35,760 --> 00:41:38,240
Speaker 3: the academy is having a harder this year. We're turning around.

838
00:41:38,520 --> 00:41:40,560
Speaker 3: And I don't want to live from feast to famine,

839
00:41:40,560 --> 00:41:42,799
Speaker 3: feast to famine. I don't want to always be like

840
00:41:43,080 --> 00:41:46,040
Speaker 3: pulling it up, you know, like I I want to

841
00:41:46,080 --> 00:41:50,560
Speaker 3: be able to know that external to business, which I

842
00:41:50,600 --> 00:41:55,240
Speaker 3: do love, you know, I have other ways to create

843
00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:58,960
Speaker 3: income for myself that like I have more of a sayover,

844
00:41:59,400 --> 00:42:01,080
Speaker 3: you know, because it's much as you work on in business,

845
00:42:01,120 --> 00:42:03,680
Speaker 3: like Mandy will tell you that it doesn't guarantee that

846
00:42:03,680 --> 00:42:05,440
Speaker 3: you have a say. And so for me, I told

847
00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:07,720
Speaker 3: myself and I've been hearing the voice of like Tifny,

848
00:42:07,719 --> 00:42:08,800
Speaker 3: you need to start to learn and invest.

849
00:42:09,200 --> 00:42:10,840
Speaker 1: And I've been like, I do I invest in business?

850
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:12,360
Speaker 1: I do. I bought some real estate, but I'm like

851
00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:14,320
Speaker 1: in the market, Tiffany, I need you to be confident

852
00:42:14,800 --> 00:42:15,400
Speaker 1: in the market.

853
00:42:15,480 --> 00:42:18,080
Speaker 3: And as I'm meeting more and more people that this

854
00:42:18,120 --> 00:42:20,520
Speaker 3: is kind of the way they supplement whatever else they're doing,

855
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:22,719
Speaker 3: I'm like, no, this is the year that I get

856
00:42:22,719 --> 00:42:24,279
Speaker 3: my fundamental feet.

857
00:42:24,480 --> 00:42:26,359
Speaker 1: Ready, Like I'm not going to be some you know,

858
00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 1: like Jazzy.

859
00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:28,640
Speaker 3: I don't honestly, I'm not even trying to trade That's

860
00:42:28,680 --> 00:42:31,160
Speaker 3: one thing I learned from my friend Terry that you

861
00:42:31,160 --> 00:42:33,440
Speaker 3: don't actually have to actively trade. But I want to

862
00:42:33,640 --> 00:42:37,439
Speaker 3: like feel confident about investing in the market because there's

863
00:42:37,440 --> 00:42:40,560
Speaker 3: so many reasons why people don't and so yeah, so

864
00:42:40,719 --> 00:42:43,120
Speaker 3: and honestly like and you know me, like, if I

865
00:42:43,239 --> 00:42:45,480
Speaker 3: want to learn a thing, one of the best ways

866
00:42:45,520 --> 00:42:47,919
Speaker 3: to learn a thing is to help other people learn

867
00:42:47,920 --> 00:42:51,239
Speaker 3: a thing. And so like, if you're not sure, like

868
00:42:51,360 --> 00:42:53,200
Speaker 3: why you're investing, I told Logan, let's do a quiz

869
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:55,439
Speaker 3: to figure out why people are not investing, because really,

870
00:42:55,440 --> 00:42:57,040
Speaker 3: by the end of later on this year, I want

871
00:42:57,080 --> 00:42:59,359
Speaker 3: to find a solution to that because as I try

872
00:42:59,360 --> 00:43:01,400
Speaker 3: to fix things for myself financially, my thing is always

873
00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:03,359
Speaker 3: how can I find a solution for that? So, if

874
00:43:03,360 --> 00:43:05,680
Speaker 3: you're not sure why you're not investing or creating this

875
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:09,040
Speaker 3: quiz called you should invest dot com so you can

876
00:43:09,080 --> 00:43:11,200
Speaker 3: get like is it because you don't have money? Is

877
00:43:11,239 --> 00:43:13,839
Speaker 3: it because of knowledge? It's because of fear? Like why

878
00:43:13,840 --> 00:43:17,759
Speaker 3: are you not investing? And like from that quiz, I'm

879
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:21,880
Speaker 3: taking like the percentages to see like where are you

880
00:43:21,920 --> 00:43:25,160
Speaker 3: struggling the most? So that way I can start to

881
00:43:25,200 --> 00:43:27,160
Speaker 3: either if I'm not going to create the tools and

882
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:30,520
Speaker 3: resources because I'm not at the investorista finding the tools

883
00:43:30,560 --> 00:43:33,160
Speaker 3: and resources because it doesn't make sense. I just feel

884
00:43:33,160 --> 00:43:35,520
Speaker 3: like we can't ignore it another year. You can't budget

885
00:43:35,520 --> 00:43:38,160
Speaker 3: your way, you can't save your way, you can't even

886
00:43:38,200 --> 00:43:40,680
Speaker 3: really work your way to the level of security. I

887
00:43:40,760 --> 00:43:42,479
Speaker 3: just know that, like, we have to put our money

888
00:43:42,480 --> 00:43:44,319
Speaker 3: to work. And so if you want to put your

889
00:43:44,360 --> 00:43:47,719
Speaker 3: money to work, you know, and you want to figure

890
00:43:47,760 --> 00:43:50,200
Speaker 3: out why are you not investing? And help me figure

891
00:43:50,200 --> 00:43:52,480
Speaker 3: out what tools I need to figure out because I

892
00:43:52,520 --> 00:43:53,840
Speaker 3: know for myself why I'm not investing.

893
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:56,320
Speaker 1: It's because of lack of knowledge and fear.

894
00:43:56,719 --> 00:43:58,680
Speaker 3: If you want to get really clear about why you're

895
00:43:58,719 --> 00:44:01,800
Speaker 3: not investing and help me get like some numbers about

896
00:44:01,840 --> 00:44:04,839
Speaker 3: like what I can do to create or find, you

897
00:44:05,280 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 3: should invest dot Com. It's just a quick, like thirty

898
00:44:08,200 --> 00:44:11,120
Speaker 3: second quiz to help me gather information, but also too

899
00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:13,880
Speaker 3: to help me issue it's not well, I'm taping it

900
00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:15,520
Speaker 3: right now, it'll be up by the time this is up.

901
00:44:16,800 --> 00:44:18,719
Speaker 3: But yeah, you should invest dot com because I want

902
00:44:18,719 --> 00:44:21,279
Speaker 3: to figure it out. I promised myself. I think it

903
00:44:21,400 --> 00:44:24,120
Speaker 3: was was it you, Mandy, It was either you or

904
00:44:24,200 --> 00:44:27,960
Speaker 3: brand as I had asked, how do you because I'm

905
00:44:27,960 --> 00:44:31,480
Speaker 3: not always so good at execution at implementation, and you

906
00:44:31,560 --> 00:44:33,440
Speaker 3: and Brand, as my friend brand is, are like my

907
00:44:33,520 --> 00:44:36,600
Speaker 3: top executor friends. And one of the number one things

908
00:44:36,640 --> 00:44:39,960
Speaker 3: that both you and BRANDI said was one, obviously you

909
00:44:40,160 --> 00:44:42,160
Speaker 3: determine the goal, which for me is to get my

910
00:44:42,160 --> 00:44:46,240
Speaker 3: fundamentals for investing. And then two you make the goal public,

911
00:44:47,239 --> 00:44:48,640
Speaker 3: you know, and maybe I don't know if you told

912
00:44:48,640 --> 00:44:50,000
Speaker 3: me that, our brand has told me that that. Like,

913
00:44:50,040 --> 00:44:51,759
Speaker 3: so this is why I'm saying it because I'm just like,

914
00:44:52,280 --> 00:44:54,160
Speaker 3: you know, I am putting it out there. I am

915
00:44:54,160 --> 00:44:56,440
Speaker 3: going to get fundamentally strong in investing this year.

916
00:44:56,480 --> 00:44:57,200
Speaker 1: That is my goal.

917
00:44:57,400 --> 00:44:59,680
Speaker 3: I'm making it public because it forces me to hold

918
00:44:59,719 --> 00:45:03,000
Speaker 3: myself accountable, but also too, I want to take more

919
00:45:03,000 --> 00:45:03,560
Speaker 3: people with me.

920
00:45:04,200 --> 00:45:06,720
Speaker 1: And so that's what I'm doing. You should invest dot com.

921
00:45:06,840 --> 00:45:08,400
Speaker 1: Let's go. This is the year. You know.

922
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:11,120
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna pretend we're gonna be some trading like whatever,

923
00:45:11,200 --> 00:45:13,319
Speaker 3: but we're at least gonna get our fundamentals this year

924
00:45:13,320 --> 00:45:15,279
Speaker 3: and then maybe next year we get even deeper into it.

925
00:45:15,320 --> 00:45:18,200
Speaker 3: But yeah, that is my goal and my prondess to myself.

926
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Speaker 1: Yes, let's do it, girl.

927
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:25,840
Speaker 2: M being around people who normalize wealth as always Yes,

928
00:45:27,239 --> 00:45:29,000
Speaker 2: it's just casual.

929
00:45:29,160 --> 00:45:31,359
Speaker 3: Like just copenh hanging for dinner. I was like, it

930
00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:33,359
Speaker 3: wasn't even so much to coping hanging for dinner, because

931
00:45:33,360 --> 00:45:35,000
Speaker 3: I don't know if I'm trying to find no, however,

932
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Speaker 3: many hours just for dinner. It was more so that

933
00:45:38,760 --> 00:45:42,480
Speaker 3: I realized how little, how how rare it was for

934
00:45:42,520 --> 00:45:46,360
Speaker 3: me to see a relaxed black woman, do you know

935
00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:52,279
Speaker 3: what I mean? Like she was supremely relaxed, and in

936
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Speaker 3: her softness, in her luxury, I mean, the energy that

937
00:45:57,040 --> 00:46:00,480
Speaker 3: was radiant. And I said, because that's not just money.

938
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:05,160
Speaker 3: That is a level of like wealth meaning like external

939
00:46:05,239 --> 00:46:08,319
Speaker 3: to just money, like like my money is navigating in

940
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Speaker 3: such a way that allows me the space of like

941
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Speaker 3: less worry, you know what I mean.

942
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Speaker 1: So I don't want you to think it's like, oh

943
00:46:13,840 --> 00:46:14,640
Speaker 1: if I have because.

944
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Speaker 2: Children starving in Gaza, how can she be so calm?

945
00:46:20,239 --> 00:46:22,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, well here's the thing. And that doesn't mean it's

946
00:46:22,920 --> 00:46:26,200
Speaker 1: and or you know what I mean, it's and.

947
00:46:26,120 --> 00:46:28,840
Speaker 2: I now, you know, trying to be like a little

948
00:46:30,520 --> 00:46:35,520
Speaker 2: silly about it, but it's yeah, no, but it also

949
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Speaker 2: is like the I not that I know what she

950
00:46:38,320 --> 00:46:41,040
Speaker 2: feels like, but it's like what I aspire to is

951
00:46:41,160 --> 00:46:47,359
Speaker 2: the is a little bit of like the mental like

952
00:46:47,440 --> 00:46:52,120
Speaker 2: the the the part of your brain when you realize, oh,

953
00:46:52,200 --> 00:46:55,000
Speaker 2: I got this, Like you know, you move a lot

954
00:46:55,080 --> 00:46:59,359
Speaker 2: differently when you just have that self reliance and trust, yeah,

955
00:46:59,360 --> 00:47:01,800
Speaker 2: that things will be okay and that you got yourself

956
00:47:01,880 --> 00:47:04,279
Speaker 2: like that kind of unbothered.

957
00:47:04,360 --> 00:47:06,360
Speaker 3: Yes, that's what I was feeling that It was like

958
00:47:07,560 --> 00:47:10,200
Speaker 3: not that I mean, obviously she's an intelligent woman. I

959
00:47:10,239 --> 00:47:12,680
Speaker 3: mean we didn't talk about gods or anything like that obviously,

960
00:47:12,680 --> 00:47:16,319
Speaker 3: but there was just a sense of like, I don't know,

961
00:47:16,680 --> 00:47:19,200
Speaker 3: like I just don't see that in black women, which.

962
00:47:19,080 --> 00:47:19,520
Speaker 1: Is so sad.

963
00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:20,520
Speaker 3: And I know a lot of black women with a

964
00:47:20,560 --> 00:47:22,840
Speaker 3: lot of money. So it wasn't just the money, you know.

965
00:47:22,880 --> 00:47:24,680
Speaker 3: I know people who have sixty million dollars in the bank.

966
00:47:24,760 --> 00:47:27,680
Speaker 3: Show me what you think and they're not given that.

967
00:47:28,200 --> 00:47:30,760
Speaker 3: It was something else. But when she said she said,

968
00:47:31,719 --> 00:47:34,640
Speaker 3: I am investing my way through life, I really was like,

969
00:47:34,719 --> 00:47:40,080
Speaker 3: that's what I heard is that I'm making enough from

970
00:47:40,120 --> 00:47:44,400
Speaker 3: myself to support myself that like I am in charge.

971
00:47:44,640 --> 00:47:48,200
Speaker 3: No one is like creating the opportunity that if I

972
00:47:48,320 --> 00:47:50,560
Speaker 3: need it, I can go and do it because I

973
00:47:50,600 --> 00:47:52,160
Speaker 3: know what to do. And I've heard that from a

974
00:47:52,239 --> 00:47:56,040
Speaker 3: few of my friends that like hardcore, like invest you

975
00:47:56,080 --> 00:47:58,680
Speaker 3: know where it's like, you know, I have friends who

976
00:47:58,680 --> 00:48:01,120
Speaker 3: are in the real estate child. They stress because being

977
00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:03,520
Speaker 3: the landlord is not easy. You know, my friend's a

978
00:48:03,520 --> 00:48:05,880
Speaker 3: business child. We stressed, check up all your business friends.

979
00:48:06,880 --> 00:48:09,040
Speaker 3: But yeah, so that was the part. I mean, obviously

980
00:48:09,120 --> 00:48:11,399
Speaker 3: there's no guarantee investing in the market, that's not it.

981
00:48:11,640 --> 00:48:14,680
Speaker 3: But I'm just saying that, like that was just my

982
00:48:14,840 --> 00:48:17,920
Speaker 3: sense is that she didn't feel victim to She felt

983
00:48:17,960 --> 00:48:21,799
Speaker 3: like empowered, and that empowerment left her like, at least

984
00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:23,319
Speaker 3: in that moment, because I don't see her all day

985
00:48:23,320 --> 00:48:26,040
Speaker 3: every day, in that moment left her like feeling like

986
00:48:26,160 --> 00:48:28,560
Speaker 3: light and easy and so much so like I.

987
00:48:28,520 --> 00:48:30,279
Speaker 1: Wasn't the only person who who walked up to her.

988
00:48:30,400 --> 00:48:32,839
Speaker 1: People who didn't know her were like, what.

989
00:48:32,760 --> 00:48:33,040
Speaker 3: Do you do?

990
00:48:33,080 --> 00:48:35,080
Speaker 1: What's going on with you? Because she just was just

991
00:48:35,120 --> 00:48:35,759
Speaker 1: giving that ease.

992
00:48:35,800 --> 00:48:37,839
Speaker 3: And so we're gonna get there, We're gonna I'll put

993
00:48:37,840 --> 00:48:40,120
Speaker 3: the link in the show notes you should invest dot com.

994
00:48:40,120 --> 00:48:42,560
Speaker 3: But I am committed for myself and also committed. The

995
00:48:42,640 --> 00:48:44,760
Speaker 3: teacher of me is committed to figuring out the tools

996
00:48:44,760 --> 00:48:46,280
Speaker 3: and resources that we can use.

997
00:48:47,600 --> 00:48:50,200
Speaker 1: To get there together together.

998
00:48:51,400 --> 00:48:54,840
Speaker 2: Take me to cope and hanging kind of food do

999
00:48:54,880 --> 00:48:56,279
Speaker 2: they have out there? I know?

1000
00:48:56,640 --> 00:48:56,879
Speaker 3: Right?

1001
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:03,319
Speaker 2: Oh that's awesome though, good for her. And just a

1002
00:49:03,360 --> 00:49:05,000
Speaker 2: quick note on I should have done this as my

1003
00:49:05,040 --> 00:49:08,279
Speaker 2: little little baby boost. But talk about unbrought, unbothered in

1004
00:49:08,360 --> 00:49:12,399
Speaker 2: black Stedman Oprah's Deedman octopus every day.

1005
00:49:12,600 --> 00:49:16,480
Speaker 1: Oh I saw that? Oh no, I mean I love octopus.

1006
00:49:16,520 --> 00:49:19,240
Speaker 1: I had some two days ago. It's I know there's someone.

1007
00:49:19,000 --> 00:49:23,120
Speaker 2: For breakfast, I know every morning, but like also what

1008
00:49:23,480 --> 00:49:26,879
Speaker 2: you mean? Yes, deed men, just get your octopus every

1009
00:49:26,920 --> 00:49:30,840
Speaker 2: morning because you're married to effing or not married sorry,

1010
00:49:30,880 --> 00:49:34,040
Speaker 2: you're partnered with Oprah effing winfree, you got your own money.

1011
00:49:34,280 --> 00:49:35,520
Speaker 2: Just like live your best life.

1012
00:49:35,960 --> 00:49:37,280
Speaker 1: But that was crazy.

1013
00:49:37,960 --> 00:49:43,839
Speaker 2: That is so strange. But God, bless God, bless all Right,

1014
00:49:43,960 --> 00:49:47,600
Speaker 2: b a fan catch us on Friday, be a Q

1015
00:49:47,760 --> 00:49:49,880
Speaker 2: and a review.

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00:49:50,160 --> 00:49:52,960
Speaker 1: Okay, they're c Do you have any Oh we haven't

1017
00:49:55,080 --> 00:49:55,600
Speaker 1: read them?

1018
00:49:56,480 --> 00:49:59,759
Speaker 2: Yes I will. I have a new one that I

1019
00:49:59,800 --> 00:50:05,920
Speaker 2: just March eighteenth, that was yesterday. Yes, amazing, man. Tiffany

1020
00:50:05,960 --> 00:50:08,880
Speaker 2: and Mandy are so amazing. They give out such good information,

1021
00:50:09,040 --> 00:50:13,439
Speaker 2: especially for everyday situations. I love the episode on life insurance.

1022
00:50:13,640 --> 00:50:17,600
Speaker 2: Thank you ladies. And this person's name is what Miss

1023
00:50:17,719 --> 00:50:19,760
Speaker 2: number one? Is that it?

1024
00:50:20,120 --> 00:50:20,400
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1025
00:50:20,760 --> 00:50:24,520
Speaker 2: Because you can call yourself yeah, miss number one. So

1026
00:50:24,560 --> 00:50:27,640
Speaker 2: thank you Miss number one. You're the best. And if

1027
00:50:27,640 --> 00:50:29,239
Speaker 2: you guys want to leave us a review, please do

1028
00:50:29,560 --> 00:50:33,560
Speaker 2: go to what is it called now? I it's not iTunes,

1029
00:50:33,560 --> 00:50:35,960
Speaker 2: I'll date myself Apple podcast.

1030
00:50:36,239 --> 00:50:40,799
Speaker 1: I guess bro share the episode if it's helpful. You

1031
00:50:40,840 --> 00:50:45,319
Speaker 1: think it's awesome, Shamy so we can get outside.

1032
00:50:47,440 --> 00:50:49,600
Speaker 2: It's some of my favorite black forager Girl.

1033
00:50:51,239 --> 00:50:57,960
Speaker 1: Of a good solng because think we made a smile.

1034
00:50:58,040 --> 00:51:03,000
Speaker 2: Guys, you're doing it, Peter, where's that from doing Peter right?

1035
00:51:03,560 --> 00:51:07,960
Speaker 1: No, Peter Pan. Remember when Robin Williams was Peter Pan.

1036
00:51:08,680 --> 00:51:10,919
Speaker 3: Yeah, and he was sitting down with the Lost Boys

1037
00:51:10,920 --> 00:51:12,760
Speaker 3: and they were eating but it was like pretend food.

1038
00:51:13,600 --> 00:51:14,520
Speaker 1: Because he was a grown up.

1039
00:51:14,560 --> 00:51:18,120
Speaker 3: He couldn't see that for them with their kid mind,

1040
00:51:18,160 --> 00:51:19,960
Speaker 3: they could see that it was real food to them

1041
00:51:19,960 --> 00:51:22,200
Speaker 3: and they were enjoying it. Because he had grown up.

1042
00:51:22,360 --> 00:51:24,640
Speaker 3: He was like, there's nothing in these pots, and they're like,

1043
00:51:24,680 --> 00:51:27,120
Speaker 3: you have to use your imagination, and so he was

1044
00:51:27,160 --> 00:51:27,360
Speaker 3: like what.

1045
00:51:27,680 --> 00:51:28,520
Speaker 1: He made me sad.

1046
00:51:28,920 --> 00:51:29,560
Speaker 2: He is good.

1047
00:51:30,000 --> 00:51:32,839
Speaker 3: Yes, And then at one point somebody drew a pie

1048
00:51:32,880 --> 00:51:35,880
Speaker 3: and it hit his face and then like the he realized.

1049
00:51:35,480 --> 00:51:37,880
Speaker 1: Like, oh, there is actually food here, and one of

1050
00:51:37,880 --> 00:51:39,160
Speaker 1: the kids in you're.

1051
00:51:42,680 --> 00:51:44,759
Speaker 3: So that's like my favorite when like people are coming

1052
00:51:44,800 --> 00:51:46,520
Speaker 3: over to the other side and I'm like, oh, look

1053
00:51:46,520 --> 00:51:47,360
Speaker 3: at Mandy's smiling.

1054
00:51:47,560 --> 00:51:49,760
Speaker 1: You're doing it, Peter, you're doing it.

1055
00:51:49,960 --> 00:51:53,200
Speaker 2: Thank goodness. It feels natural, whereas it was forced at

1056
00:51:53,200 --> 00:51:56,120
Speaker 2: the beginning. But that's the Tiffany effect. It's the Brown ambition,

1057
00:51:56,640 --> 00:52:01,480
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Yes, all right, y'all until Friday.

1058
00:52:01,520 --> 00:52:07,280
Speaker 3: Alright, bye bye mhm.