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Speaker 1: My fiance always said we fight too much. Now he

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Speaker 1: wants to call off the wedding two months.

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Speaker 2: Before sounds like another fight.

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Speaker 3: Sounds like another fight.

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Speaker 1: My fiance and I have been together for eight years

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Speaker 1: and have known him for ten. We've had our fair

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Speaker 1: share of ups and downs and breaks in between, not

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Speaker 1: lasting more than two months. All the breaks are initiated

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Speaker 1: by him. The first few years, when he was in university,

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Speaker 1: I had already started working. He would ask for those

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Speaker 1: breaks so that he could focus on his studies slash exams.

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Speaker 1: After university, when he started working full time, the breaks

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Speaker 1: were mostly taken when we've had a major TIF. It

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Speaker 1: had been emotionally training on me, but I still never

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Speaker 1: gave up on us because I love him so much.

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Speaker 1: Pause kind of wild to be like, i'm studying, let's

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Speaker 1: go on a break. I think there's one thing where

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Speaker 1: you can be like, hey, i'm studying. I don't think

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Speaker 1: i'll be able to talk that much or hang out

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Speaker 1: this week because you know, finals.

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Speaker 3: But to just be like.

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Speaker 1: We're calling off the relationship for this week, that's crazy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, crazy.

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Speaker 4: No, that's because he said it was a week period. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: I know, that's.

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Speaker 3: Maybe he needs like taken off a week.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, maybe he needs to like take care of some

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Speaker 5: stuff that he can't take care of while he's in

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Speaker 5: a relationship.

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Speaker 3: That's weird.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe it's a moral boundary that he has. WHOA

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Speaker 2: are you trying to disrespect his boundaries? Wow? Men have

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Speaker 2: boundaries too.

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Speaker 3: Oh you got me?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but this is crazy. This is absolutely Two years.

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Speaker 1: Ago, we were supposed to buy a house together and

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Speaker 1: he backed out the day before we were supposed to

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Speaker 1: sign the documents because he was afraid to commit to

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Speaker 1: me lifelong.

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Speaker 3: Get out, get out of there, don't stay relationship. He

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Speaker 3: keeps going on breaks and he's afraid of commitment.

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Speaker 2: Dude.

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Speaker 5: Yeah no, And plus you both get to FAJA loans

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Speaker 5: and you guys should have got duplexes and did that

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Speaker 5: route talk to him Riley. Yeah, that's really financial advice

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Speaker 5: right there.

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Speaker 1: He was scared of our future, worried we would be

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Speaker 1: fighting all the time.

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Speaker 3: We officially broke up, but he reached.

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Speaker 1: Out to me three months later saying he's sorry and

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Speaker 1: would like to work on things again. I think he

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Speaker 1: just sees all the breakups as breaks. He's like, that's

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Speaker 1: that's not gonna last.

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Speaker 2: Ba, I'm sorry. I'm just out here studying so hard, and.

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Speaker 3: You know we're on my exams thinking straight.

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Speaker 2: I couldn't think straight out. Work is so hard to

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Speaker 2: try to be good. We were on a break. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: we were on a break.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Savvy bo on the

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Speaker 1: r slash Shokay Storytime Separate It.

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Speaker 3: So this is his.

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Speaker 1: First and only relationship, and I personally feel he has

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Speaker 1: so many expectations of me, like how I shouldn't fight, cry,

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Speaker 1: or bring any negative emotions to the relationship.

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Speaker 4: You have to be perfect, be cardboard, gough or I'm

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Speaker 4: going on a break.

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Speaker 1: I do agree that I tend to get angry easily,

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Speaker 1: but I've definitely gotten better at handling my emotions over time.

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Speaker 1: I mostly get angry only because he barely spends any

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Speaker 1: time with me mac max once a week for three

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Speaker 1: to four hours. He is super career focused, doesn't slash

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Speaker 1: very rarely meets with friends. He is introverted, family and

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Speaker 1: career focused. And if I were to lay down his priorities,

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Speaker 1: it would be taking care of his dog, work, family, Jim, No,

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Speaker 1: not the dog.

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Speaker 2: I think I got it. He has screen time for

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Speaker 2: his relationship. I spit. I spent four hours with you.

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Speaker 3: That's it.

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Speaker 2: I have to have to break up the relationship for now.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and then I will reactivate the relationship and the

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Speaker 4: next you know, the next week or whatever.

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Speaker 1: Instagram per exactly when you're like when you.

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Speaker 4: Oh you know, oh my gosh, yes, I'm I now

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Speaker 4: Also you you infected me?

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Speaker 2: How Okay, I'm gonna think of it. Keep going, keep going,

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Speaker 2: I'll remember it.

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Speaker 1: I would always be the least of his priorities, especially

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Speaker 1: when most of his time is already spent doing things

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Speaker 1: that are of his top prior It is always me

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Speaker 1: who accommodates to his schedules. I travel to meet him

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Speaker 1: at his convenience. Times I feel neglected, I cry to

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Speaker 1: him and it ends up in a fight or something.

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Speaker 1: This has gone on for years, so over time, I

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Speaker 1: just got used to his lifestyle. Though there are times

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Speaker 1: I'll pick a fight and it ends up with a

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Speaker 1: month break or something.

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Speaker 3: That's not good. If every time you try to have

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Speaker 3: like a.

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Speaker 1: Discussion, you go on a break, Dude, that's not a

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Speaker 1: healthy relationship.

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Speaker 4: I would love to see like a visualization, and I

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Speaker 4: feel like like one day of relationship one month breaks,

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Speaker 4: like one week of relationship two months break, like, it's

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Speaker 4: just like all break.

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Speaker 3: He's like, hey, can we hang out this week?

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Speaker 1: He's like, ahing, my boundaries of school and my dog

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Speaker 1: de talks.

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Speaker 3: A D talks.

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Speaker 2: That's also the words, That's what it was. I was

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Speaker 2: thinking fast.

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Speaker 3: He's like, I need a girlfriend.

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Speaker 4: D talks.

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Speaker 1: It's too much. One thing I really hate is that

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Speaker 1: he's a flight risk. Whenever crap hits the fan, he

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Speaker 1: runs away.

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Speaker 2: Oh I thought he was like on the PSA Blacklist.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I can't fly anywhere.

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Speaker 1: One thing I hate is that he's banned from most airlines.

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Speaker 2: Dude, and then.

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Speaker 1: Instead of forgiving and forgetting, he says he forgives, but

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Speaker 1: starts treating me so coldly for the next two weeks

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Speaker 1: before asking for a break.

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Speaker 3: So even when they're not on a break, he's not

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Speaker 3: talking to her.

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Speaker 4: He's literally he has eternally broken up with you, but

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Speaker 4: he's trying to convince you otherwise.

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Speaker 2: Why are you still with this man? Why is he

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Speaker 2: still with her?

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Speaker 4: Come on, dude, like like, like, what what could you

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Speaker 4: possibly like?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Getting what are you getting from?

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Speaker 2: Even from his side? I don't even know.

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Speaker 1: So the same thing happened this time round, where we

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Speaker 1: had a series of arguments back to back closer to

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Speaker 1: the wedding date. I forgot they were getting married. Don't

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Speaker 1: get married, I object?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, same.

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Speaker 1: I was feeling super stressed as I was handling most

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Speaker 1: of the things and on top of that, looking for

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Speaker 1: a house too. I was also in the midst of

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Speaker 1: changing jobs. His father got admitted in hospital due to

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Speaker 1: a fever and was hospitalized for a week. This is

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Speaker 1: two and a half months before the wedding. Prior to

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Speaker 1: the situation of his dad being hospitalized, we talked about

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Speaker 1: how he hasn't proposed to mate.

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Speaker 2: What why would you want that?

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Speaker 1: Well, he's already my fiance without proposing, as we had

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Speaker 1: a traditional engagement with families getting together. Wait, they're getting

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Speaker 1: married and he hasn't proposed. He already brought the ring

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Speaker 1: and I know it because he updates me, and we

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Speaker 1: even picked the ring out together. He has been sitting

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Speaker 1: on it for a few months and we had to

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Speaker 1: make our wedding ring soon. I wanted the engagement ring

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Speaker 1: so that I can plan how my wedding ring would

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Speaker 1: look like. At this point I knew he was just

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Speaker 1: stalling because he didn't know what to.

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Speaker 3: Do with it.

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Speaker 1: Or was awkward about proposing, et cetera introvert who only

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Speaker 1: knows nothing, nothing but work. I told him it's not

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Speaker 1: simple as just kneeling down on one knee and proposing

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Speaker 1: with the ring. I would have loved if he had

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Speaker 1: planned out something in a private place, et cetera. But

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Speaker 1: I had let go of all of my expectations and

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Speaker 1: just wanted him to go on one.

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Speaker 3: Knee and propose.

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Speaker 1: If you don't have any expectations for him, that's don't marry.

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Speaker 2: What are we? What are we doing here?

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Speaker 1: That too, was hard for him to execute, but he

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Speaker 1: told me he would definitely do it a day before our.

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Speaker 3: Wedding ring appointment.

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Speaker 1: He's like, well, I'll get it in before we go

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Speaker 1: and get our wedding rings.

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Speaker 2: It's fine, he said, this is what he does.

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Speaker 4: He walks in there like he's like, oh, here.

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Speaker 2: You go, there you go?

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Speaker 3: Does that match? That match?

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Speaker 2: Okay? Nice? So I gave you what you want.

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Speaker 3: To You're so needy. I need a cleanse.

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Speaker 1: I made a mistake in terms of failing to understand

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Speaker 1: must be in a day before the wedding ring appointment.

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Speaker 1: He told me to go back home and wasn't able

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Speaker 1: angry at this point. I just felt like he was

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Speaker 1: He walked off mid conversation and went back to his house.

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Speaker 1: I went over to his place and waited outside to

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Speaker 1: speak to him because I knew I made a mistake

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Speaker 1: by being so angry when we were trying to talk

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Speaker 1: talk to me, and I begged him over text for

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Speaker 1: the fact that we couldn't deal with things like an adult.

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Speaker 1: So you eventually asked us to sort things out. The

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Speaker 1: next day, and we did over phone call. Everything seemed

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Speaker 1: Nothing is okay, None of this is okay all that,

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Speaker 1: but you know what it is?

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Speaker 3: Okay? What you joining us?

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Speaker 1: Live? Every weekda at three pm PSD just tab her profile.

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Speaker 1: I like that his father was back from hospital, but

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Speaker 1: things did not get better between us. He started messaging

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Speaker 1: me coldly, never called like he used to, and I

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Speaker 1: knew it was going to be over At this point,

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Speaker 1: I kept apologizing to him no well he never did

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Speaker 1: and made me feel like I'm the cause for everything.

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Speaker 1: After a week of this, I told him to meet.

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Speaker 1: He refused. He said we'll work things out, but a

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Speaker 1: few days later I mentioned that he didn't want the

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Speaker 1: relationship anymore. I was devastated. I asked him, as a

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Speaker 1: last resort, whether he needed some time to think about it,

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Speaker 1: and gave him two weeks no contact. I've been crying

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Speaker 1: I really do not know how to solve this. I

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Speaker 1: worry that he can't accept me for who I am.

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Speaker 1: He's worried that we'll always be fighting, and that's why

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Speaker 3: It hurts so much. Don't fix this, don't let it die.

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Speaker 2: Let it die, Let it die.

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Speaker 4: You're giving him a little little rat crutch and rattle.

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Speaker 3: You can't Weekend and Bernies. This relationship done. It's done, so.

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Speaker 2: We cannot prop it up no more.

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Speaker 4: Oh well, I think at least I think at least uh,

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Speaker 3: You know, unless he comes back. He's like, actually, so,

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Speaker 2: I'm done with our break Remember how I said it

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Speaker 2: was like a break.

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Speaker 1: Remember when I said, let's not get married, but like

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's how I said it.

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Speaker 3: That's how I said it. But that is the end

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Speaker 2: WHOA.

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Speaker 6: My husband snapped and is threatening divorce. And I never

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Speaker 4: Well now I want to know, well about to tell you, Okay,

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Speaker 4: freaking sit down, I'm saving someone.

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Speaker 2: Story. Brought my buns on a seat. Let me just

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Speaker 2: just fucking just fucking drop out. Parents, put your money

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Speaker 2: a fly's Yeah, leave your wife for a weird reason.

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Speaker 6: Bro, he left his wife for a weird reason, right

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Speaker 6: he like, Oh, we're dating like a like a twenty

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah he did. He did.

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Speaker 6: Fuck your parents, your marriage. We've been married for two years,

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Speaker 6: he's a man. If it matters, I am not a

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Speaker 6: picky eater. In fact, I'm quite adventurous. Oh adventurous eater too.

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Speaker 6: Oh God, I've had to esk cargo, and every time

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Speaker 6: I've traveled, I've always made a point to tried dishes

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Speaker 6: are very few foods I won't eat. One of them though,

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Speaker 6: is mustard. Oh I hate the condiments. I don't like it.

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Speaker 6: I just don't the taste is very strong and over powering.

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Speaker 4: That's that's a lot of mustards, A lot of mustards,

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Speaker 4: I'm trying to think, like, I've eaten some foot, chicken foot,

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Speaker 4: I've eaten a lobster fresh out of the sea like

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Speaker 2: Have you hunted it? And I haven't hunted it this weekend?

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Speaker 2: Am you doing that this weekend?

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Speaker 6: Last weekend, I I at like like ten at night,

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Speaker 4: You're joking, not joking in our ocean, I'm going to

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Speaker 2: Where are you holding him? Bro?

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Speaker 4: Okay, I'm doing this that is absolutely nuts. Lobsters too

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Speaker 6: It was in Orange County area. My husband, for some reason,

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Speaker 6: never understood this. He loves mustard, especially honey mustard. He

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Speaker 6: and every time he tries to force me to try it,

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Speaker 2: But we're grown ass woman.

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Speaker 6: I'll say though, and it'll devolve into a mini argument

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Speaker 6: a quick bite. He got a hot dog slab, bird

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Speaker 6: and mustard. I got one but decided to eat a plane.

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Speaker 6: I don't really love hot dogs to begin with, but

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Speaker 6: I will eat it in a pickle, but not with pickles.

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Speaker 2: I will eat a plane. Yeah.

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Speaker 6: Well, he waited in the line. He has what I

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Speaker 7: He marched over to the convent station and began putting

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Speaker 6: Why telling me to grow up and stop being so picky.

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Speaker 2: I think this mustard dog gotten brother? You grow up?

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Speaker 2: Who cares? What would you do?

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Speaker 7: Like if someone what would you do if we were

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Speaker 7: getting hot dogs together? You got no mustard on it?

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Speaker 7: And I'm like, joht you insultly idiot. Can't believe you

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Speaker 7: to get buster on your hot dog and just freaking

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Speaker 2: I like this, tell me, you idiot.

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Speaker 4: I'd be like, you're buying me a new hot dog,

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Speaker 4: Like I'm not gonna eat this. Like I could have

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Speaker 4: But what if I bought you another hot dog and

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Speaker 4: said you just kept you keep buying it and like

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Speaker 4: like I'm just forced feeding at this time. I promise

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Speaker 4: I promised this. I'm like, oh, I got your dad,

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Speaker 4: I got your gut eating you end up in just

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Speaker 6: Dogs and you're just like covered in mustard. Oh my god,

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Speaker 6: toss these things in your mouth. I mean, John, what

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Speaker 6: do you think oh he should do in this situation?

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Speaker 4: Definitely be like I'm not eating that first step, second step.

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Speaker 4: I'm getting something I want and you're gonna pay for

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Speaker 4: it because he just I do you know like us?

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Speaker 2: I don't like like why so Opie just walked out

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Speaker 2: and sat in the car. Yeah.

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Speaker 6: I didn't even want the hot dog anymore. My appetite

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Speaker 6: was gone. He came back and began screaming at me

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Speaker 6: for embarrassing him. Even further, the word divorce was said

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Speaker 6: for the first time ever in a relationship.

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Speaker 4: Oh my god.

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Speaker 6: I secretly recorded his screaming because I was genuinely afraid

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Speaker 6: I would die. He was driving erradically, swerving and speeding,

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Speaker 6: Like why is he like acting like this over a

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Speaker 4: Just beyond insanity, beyond beyond, beyond beyond.

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Speaker 6: I'm in a hotel tonight. He ignored me all day

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Speaker 6: at work, and then the call started ring, ring, ring ring.

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Speaker 6: I ignored them. Then he realized I wasn't coming home.

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Speaker 6: NonStop voicemails and texts, ping, ping ping, sound effects.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I like your sound designing yourself.

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Speaker 6: He then sent me a screenshot of a Google search

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Speaker 6: for local divorce lawyers. Wow, you can google six whoa,

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Speaker 6: my god, I haven't eaten all day. I've been sobbing

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Speaker 6: in my room. I don't want to get divorced, and

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Speaker 6: I wish I had just eaten the fucking mustard. Can

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Speaker 6: someone give me an explanation of what's happening? Why would

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Speaker 6: he react this way to a preference of mine? I

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Speaker 6: still don't want to divorce. It's so permanent. I just

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Speaker 6: never pictured myself to be a divorce a and I

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Speaker 6: never pictured it being over mustard. So John, that's the

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Speaker 6: story it is. I want to know what you guys

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Speaker 6: would do in this situation. Also, this has ever happened

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Speaker 6: to you? But John, what should OP do?

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Speaker 2: Uh? Dump his ass? Right now?

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Speaker 4: It's so sad because she is completely not in the wrong,

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Speaker 4: but she's you know, like, oh, like I never saw

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Speaker 4: myself as a divorce a and like all these things

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Speaker 4: which like oh my like heart just hurts for her,

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Speaker 4: you know what I mean. Like she's done nothing, nothing,

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Speaker 4: prior but now maybe it's like it's just like clicking

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Speaker 4: for her more at least more.

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Speaker 2: Than it was like an asshole.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, he is, without a doubt the a hole and

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Speaker 4: you deserve way better, like way better.

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Speaker 2: That's our that's our that's our decision, that's our take.

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Speaker 6: Am I the a hole for turning in a school

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Speaker 6: project that shows that I live in a craphole neighborhood

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Speaker 6: where everyone sucks.

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Speaker 2: Okayop, this is Okayop.

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Speaker 6: I'm samuel daughter and I'm not from and we tell

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Speaker 6: the funniest stories on the internet. And John, if you

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Speaker 6: were to like take a walk around your neighborhood and

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Speaker 6: your direct neighborhood, what would you see?

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Speaker 2: What would you find? Oh?

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Speaker 4: Man, we have some interesting houses. We have one that

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Speaker 4: has a mosaic museum inside of it really not even jokes.

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Speaker 4: Yeah it's like legally museum, but also a house or something.

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Speaker 2: Right right right around the Is it like around the

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, it's walking distance in my little back neighborhood area.

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Speaker 4: We have a house with like we thought for sure

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Speaker 2: But then out of nowhere they.

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Speaker 4: Put up like really crappy like Christmas lights on this

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Speaker 2: Front of their house.

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Speaker 4: So we're like, like, I guess someone lives there and

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Speaker 4: they're in the Christmas spere.

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Speaker 2: Yes, they are.

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Speaker 4: And then there's there's someone who literally has like the

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Speaker 4: an island jungle that like is there like surrounding area

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Speaker 6: Sounds super super interesting. This story is a story about

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Speaker 6: a neighborhood that is maybe not as inviting as you know,

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Speaker 6: it's not as interesting. Okay, Am I the a hole

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Speaker 6: for turning in a school project that shows that I

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Speaker 4: Hmmm.

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Speaker 6: I'm a high school student in a Spanish class and

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Speaker 6: we had an assignment to make a video tour of

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Speaker 6: our place. It had to be in Spanish and had

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Speaker 6: to be conversational, like you were showing it around to

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Speaker 6: a friend, like Hey, look at this plan, Look at

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Speaker 4: It was pretty cool, don't sta el planto? Yes, you know,

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Speaker 4: John is very I Spanish speak. He's Spanish speech. Yo

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Speaker 4: a blow espaniol or tua Blaespanol.

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Speaker 2: Howka okay.

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Speaker 6: I decided to just walk around my street and make

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Speaker 2: So this is what I filmed.

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Speaker 6: A neighbor's house when I walked by and they were

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Speaker 6: having a screaming fight like usual, and I said, here

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Speaker 6: yell in the morning, afternoon, and night. Buenosdes. The next

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Speaker 6: neighbor's house, Joe and Tammy live here. They are very

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Speaker 6: nice and have three dogs. At that moment, someone drives

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Speaker 6: by and cat calls me profanely. Hey, no one thots

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Speaker 6: something like that would probably worse, as I joke. I

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Speaker 6: yelled back, as stupid old perro ha, which means stupid dog.

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Speaker 6: Then he slammed his brakes and yelled something racist about

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Speaker 6: me being Mexican, before speeding off. I said to the camera,

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Speaker 6: this man is very stupid. He is a man, but

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Speaker 6: acts like a dog. Also I'm white, but I think

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Speaker 6: this idiot assumed I was a Spanic because I was

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Speaker 6: speaking Spanish. I also introduced ten other mundane things like flowers,

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Speaker 6: a bird, et cetera. I cut out the long sequences

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Speaker 6: of me walking, but I left in everything else. My

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Speaker 6: teacher had a rubric of the types of descriptions and

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Speaker 6: numbers of things you needed, and taking any out would

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Speaker 6: lose me points. It was too dark out to film anymore,

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Speaker 6: so I stopped. The second part of the assignment was

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Speaker 6: to upload the video on the school website and post

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Speaker 6: comments back and forth, responding to several of your classmates videos.

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Speaker 6: One of my friends from class recognized the racist guy

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Speaker 6: as someone who volunteers with the middle school soccer team.

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Speaker 6: So the guy that was cat calling is teaching kids

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Speaker 6: how to play soccer. What So she texted me like, hah,

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Speaker 6: should I say something? And I said sure, So she

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Speaker 6: posted in Spanish in the car is mister J who

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Speaker 6: coaches the children. I learned from your video that he

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Speaker 6: hates women and is racist. I replied to say, does

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Speaker 6: he teach the girls or the boys, and she replied

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Speaker 6: back both. I replied back, that is terrible.

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Speaker 2: I love how all.

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Speaker 6: These sentences are super simple, but they're so savage. A

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00:23:20,520 --> 00:23:22,960
Speaker 6: guy in my class made a comment like the man

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Speaker 6: yelling at his family is a police officer. He is

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Speaker 6: always a very angry man. I replied back to say,

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Speaker 6: that is scary. The next day at school, my teacher

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00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:36,520
Speaker 6: wanted to talk to me alone. She told me my

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Speaker 6: video was inappropriate and I shouldn't have filmed the neighbors

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Speaker 6: or the coach. I said that this assignment was literally

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Speaker 6: to walk around a place you're familiar with and react

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Speaker 6: like you're having a conversation with a friend, and that

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Speaker 6: is literally how it goes when I walk around my

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Speaker 6: house with my friends. My teacher said I was being

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Speaker 6: a belligerent on purpose, and I should have known that

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Speaker 6: this stuff has to be dealt with delicately. I said,

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Speaker 6: I just don't agree. It's just life, and there's no

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Speaker 6: point of pretending that it's not happening.

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Speaker 4: Facts, Opie, I like OPI is literally dropping these like

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Speaker 4: philosophical gems, just yeah, nonchalantly.

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Speaker 6: She said she'd taken down the video and it was

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Speaker 6: the sort of thing that she'd be brought to the

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Speaker 6: authorities instead of posting for the whole class. I said,

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Speaker 6: I didn't even know the guy in the car. And

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Speaker 6: who was I going to call about the cop? The cops?

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Speaker 6: Whole police is the police. I have a meeting with

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Speaker 6: the principal coming up tomorrow. Am I the a hole

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Speaker 6: for posting a video for Spanish class?

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Speaker 4: First off, man, can we have a little humor? Yeah, Cain,

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Speaker 4: we have a little comedy, man like I.

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Speaker 6: Honestly, watching that video, I would have cracked up. I

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Speaker 6: would have thought it was hilarious. Yeah, she did do

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Speaker 6: the assignment that she did. She understood the assignment, Yes

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Speaker 6: she did. But there's an update, John Oh. I had

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Speaker 6: a meeting this morning and I think it went well.

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Speaker 6: I have a study hall now, so I have a

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Speaker 6: little more time to write an update. Last night, I

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Speaker 6: did a bunch of prep before the meeting. I emailed

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Speaker 6: the video to the elementary school principal, guidance counselor, and

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Speaker 6: a few parents I know with kids on the sports

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Speaker 6: team to say their coach had yelled sexually explicit and

515
00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:16,120
Speaker 6: hateful things at me, a student in the school system.

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Speaker 6: I wanted to get out ahead and make sure the

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Speaker 6: video was out there before the school might pressure me

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Speaker 6: to delete it. Then I backed up the video to

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Speaker 6: multiple places. Then I asked a teacher I trust to

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Speaker 6: sit in on this meeting and have it be recorded

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Speaker 6: and sent to all participants afterwards. We scheduled it for

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Speaker 6: just before the school day started on zoom so I

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Speaker 6: wouldn't miss any class. And then finally I decided to

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Speaker 6: write up a list of things I'd want discussed in

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Speaker 6: the meeting and shared it with my favorite teacher in

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Speaker 6: advance so she can help me address the questions.

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Speaker 2: Bro shout out to Opie.

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Speaker 6: Opie became really prepared, gosh darn, and for the actual meeting,

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Speaker 6: I decided I'd just go into it acting as if

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Speaker 6: they would obviously do the right thing and ask for help.

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Speaker 6: I was hoping having a teacher on my side and

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Speaker 6: the meeting on video would pressure them to help. I

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Speaker 6: thought if I approached it from and well, obviously you're

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Speaker 6: going to take this seriously perspective, and had it on video,

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Speaker 6: it would put them in a tough spot to have

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Speaker 6: to contradict me. So when I called in, everyone said

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Speaker 6: good morning, and the principal asked if I knew why

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Speaker 6: I had been called in this morning. I just started

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Speaker 6: out by saying, yes, I assume it's about the kid's coach.

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Speaker 6: Thank you so much for calling me to this meeting

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Speaker 6: this morning. I really appreciate how proactive you are about

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Speaker 6: addressing the sexual harassment from a staff member. I understand

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Speaker 6: this is a mandated reporting state, and I wanted to

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Speaker 6: ask if there's any information you will need to add

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Speaker 6: to your report.

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Speaker 2: That is how it's done.

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Speaker 6: Principle seemed kind of caught out and said a report

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Speaker 6: had not yet been filed. I said, well, as I

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Speaker 6: understand it, there is a forty eight hour timeframe to

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Speaker 6: file report. I understand making you aware of this right

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Speaker 6: before the weekend might have complicated things. Perhaps there was

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Speaker 6: a miscommunication about the severity of the events, but I

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Speaker 6: was approaching a car sexually harassed and threatened by a

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Speaker 6: man who works with other miners in the public school system.

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Speaker 6: As soon as I said all that, the meeting tone

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Speaker 6: really changed. The meeting also had a school guidance counsel

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Speaker 6: on it, and I could tell she understood how serious

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Speaker 6: what I was saying was, especially because I was politely

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Speaker 6: calling out that they were already past the legal deadline

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Speaker 6: and that they should have filed the report already. She

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Speaker 6: actually took over and the principal didn't participate that much.

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Speaker 6: I also tried to smooth things over somewhat by saying

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Speaker 6: I was sorry I brought this to their attention in

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Speaker 6: a school project instead of asking for a meeting with

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Speaker 6: the principal directly, I should have reached out for help.

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Speaker 6: So that's over. I'm still kind of freaking out how

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Speaker 6: big of a deal it turned out to be. Also,

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Speaker 6: I want to say thanks to everyone who had suggestions

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Speaker 6: about how to approach this, like having an adult to

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Speaker 6: back me up, getting the meeting on record, and knowing

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Speaker 6: about the mandatory reporting.

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Speaker 4: OPI is literally a hero, like OPI is a freaking lawyer,

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Speaker 4: bro a lawyer, like just bowling out just this incredible,

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Speaker 4: wow wow wow wow.

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