Speaker 1: Talk. We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion
Speaker 1: who talks back? Yep, what's up, y'all? Thank you for
Speaker 1: tuning in for a new episode that we talked back
Speaker 1: and show dedicated to you niggers and knees, holes and
Speaker 1: everybody else in between. What's up girl? Gobble gobble, gobbl y'all,
Speaker 1: every thanksgiving this tam Man. I love y'all, y'all for
Speaker 1: jointing to another episode. I couldn't think it should have
Speaker 1: say like a gobblbla gobl what about y'all? What's going on? Nothing?
Speaker 1: How you doing? Oh? Well, you know I've been in
Speaker 1: a honeycomb hide out all fing weekend, bitch and rejuvenated.
Speaker 1: I feel young today, like the fucking body is stretched
Speaker 1: and ready to conquer the world. When I FaceTime you
Speaker 1: on Saturday, you are you were smiling so big. Who
Speaker 1: was you with that? Had you smiling like that? Your
Speaker 1: mother like a daddy for Chicago. I believe it too.
Speaker 1: I believe it because he's a player, player from the
Speaker 1: l Now. Whoever you was with, Yeah, whoever you was with,
Speaker 1: had you lit up like your face was like lit
Speaker 1: up child? We were we was grocery shopping for So
Speaker 1: I made this little thing. What's uh dates? So if
Speaker 1: you take dates and you put whatever kind of nuts
Speaker 1: he want, the medal and peanut butter. It tastes like
Speaker 1: a snicker. It's like a little calorie, y'all chocolate. Oh
Speaker 1: that sounds cute and fun. It was nice. That has
Speaker 1: been a whole this weekend. Let's just be clear, okay,
Speaker 1: what you had going on? So I went to l
Speaker 1: A this weekend. I went to b Simone and Megan
Speaker 1: Brooks their podcast No for Sure. They had their very
Speaker 1: first live show in l A. And I went to
Speaker 1: check that out and network and meet some people. It
Speaker 1: was a good time. It was a good show. It's
Speaker 1: a lot of fun. So I you know, I flew
Speaker 1: out there on Saturday. I went to that on Sunday
Speaker 1: and flew right back this morning. I'm low key tired.
Speaker 1: Was it nice? Did you see some good faces? Oh? Yeah,
Speaker 1: it was really really nice. It was a beautiful of it.
Speaker 1: It was so like, oh it was hosted by Patreon.
Speaker 1: Shout out to Patreon. Um, it was really black of it.
Speaker 1: Everybody looked so nice. Um. I ran into uh quay
Speaker 1: at blame it on Quay on Instagram. Y'all know who
Speaker 1: that is. He was a lot of fun. He said
Speaker 1: he's gonna do the show and be my ain't making
Speaker 1: said they're gonna come on. We talked back soon, so
Speaker 1: y'all stay tuned for that. That's gonna be a lot
Speaker 1: of fun. It's gonna be Yeah, it's gonna be Really
Speaker 1: that sounds like a good time. I hung out with
Speaker 1: a look after everything was over. We went to Katana
Speaker 1: for dinner a group of us. That was cool. And
Speaker 1: then after that and you know, I went to see uh,
Speaker 1: one of my old friends, see how he was doing.
Speaker 1: Just hang out real quick. His house was beautiful. A
Speaker 1: j oh my god, beautiful house. Yeah real quick? That
Speaker 1: no you laughing. I adn't do nothing. It was just
Speaker 1: like literally just catch up, hang out a little bit
Speaker 1: and then I left. Okay, girl, shut up. Yeah. What
Speaker 1: we got going on this weekend? Stupid and the net news. UM.
Speaker 1: One thing I want to talk about how they tried
Speaker 1: to play with Chris Brown the American Music Awards this week.
Speaker 1: It was pretty disgusting. So I don't know if you
Speaker 1: guys saw saw it or not, but so um Chris
Speaker 1: Brown was set to perform um a tribute to Michael
Speaker 1: Jackson for the fourth anniversary of Thriller this year at
Speaker 1: the a m As Sierra was also supposed to be
Speaker 1: a part of the whole production and all that stuff too.
Speaker 1: So allegedly, y'all ABC's executives, we're re evaluating their decision
Speaker 1: and having a convicted domestic abuser paid tribute to an
Speaker 1: alleged child molester. Current reports claim this is nasty, This
Speaker 1: is really nasty. Soa who's who's a child molester? So
Speaker 1: they are no Michael Jackson, Michaelson, who was never convicted
Speaker 1: of abusing any children. And with the information we know
Speaker 1: now how these people operate, I don't think it ever happened. Now.
Speaker 1: I know they extorted some money out of Michael Jackson
Speaker 1: behind these alleged um child abuse allegations, and these people
Speaker 1: continued to have their children around him. And here it is,
Speaker 1: how many years has Michael been gone? This is how
Speaker 1: y'all gonna do his legacy? Sounds about white. And then
Speaker 1: you know Chris Brown, they're calling him the alleged abuse
Speaker 1: that Chris Brown was nineteen twenty years old. How long
Speaker 1: is that supposed to run with him? Like? How long
Speaker 1: does he have to pay for that situation. Yeah, because
Speaker 1: him and Rihanna were really young. What money and ego
Speaker 1: should happen? And it's old like that. That woman don't
Speaker 1: had a baby and whole family, She don't move, don't
Speaker 1: wear life. Yeah, So I mean, why are we still
Speaker 1: talking about that? Yeah, it's pretty nasty. Listen, you are
Speaker 1: not allowed to be You can't make no mistakes out here.
Speaker 1: You make one mistake when you're eight teams if I
Speaker 1: leave for the rest of your life. If you're a
Speaker 1: black man, yeah right, or a woman, but you know,
Speaker 1: their kids are allowed to grow up and learn from
Speaker 1: their mistakes, but not when you're a black boy, you can't.
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to think of any Is there anything
Speaker 1: I did that's gonna, you know, funck me up later?
Speaker 1: Oh ship, I don't know, we're gonna see. Look, I
Speaker 1: got some fucking money to make anybody disappeared, or y'all
Speaker 1: play with me more, to play with me if you
Speaker 1: want to. You don't know me no more. Um but anyway,
Speaker 1: So at the A War, so a couple of people
Speaker 1: want some good ships to Beyonce did win uh Soul
Speaker 1: and R and b wiz Kid won uh an Award
Speaker 1: for Afrobeats. He won the Afrobeats Award. Kendrick Lamar just
Speaker 1: came through quietly and swooped UM artists that the year
Speaker 1: for you know, hip hop and R and B, Nicki
Speaker 1: Minaje over Glorilla Latto and who else, Cardi ban I
Speaker 1: can't keep up with all these white people trophies because
Speaker 1: that's what they are, right right. Fuck them. Yeah, because
Speaker 1: some hawker was feeling some type of way because she
Speaker 1: was like, today's R and B definitely don't sound like
Speaker 1: yesterday's R and B and that, you know, Beyonce took
Speaker 1: home R and B album, so in Summer Walker wasn't
Speaker 1: running up, so she felt like she got that, you know,
Speaker 1: snatched from m hmm. I liked her album. I liked
Speaker 1: Blast album better, but there's a few hits on this
Speaker 1: um this year's album too. Summer Walker mm hmmm mm
Speaker 1: hmm um. You guys, be Simone revealed that she doesn't
Speaker 1: shower every day and there was a big conversation about it.
Speaker 1: It sparked a hygiene debate on Twitter, in Instagram and
Speaker 1: I was with her this weekend. She smells she must't
Speaker 1: shower that day because she smells great, she smelled nice.
Speaker 1: You know, I might have some mental health issues because
Speaker 1: I literally washed like two to three times a day,
Speaker 1: like right now. If I shower and then I go
Speaker 1: to the grocery store right quick, like when I come home,
Speaker 1: I gotta take another shower before I get in my bed.
Speaker 1: I just like to feel like super fresh before I
Speaker 1: lay down. Yeah. See, that's the thing. I would just
Speaker 1: not leave again, so I would have to avoid that.
Speaker 1: Like insta cart, I'm not going to the store, so
Speaker 1: I don't have to shower in right. Yeah, sometimes you
Speaker 1: might have to run out for a reason, for whatever reason.
Speaker 1: So I just I don't know. I probably bathe too much.
Speaker 1: But if you're not running around funky like, one could
Speaker 1: argue that washing lesson it's probably better for your skin.
Speaker 1: Especially when you're using like all these different products on
Speaker 1: your skin can't be good. So I showered every day.
Speaker 1: But let's say I come home from work Saturday. After work,
Speaker 1: I'll shower on Sunday morning. I might not shower again
Speaker 1: until that night Sunday. If I don't leave my house,
Speaker 1: as long as I get one in. Yeah, that's as
Speaker 1: long as I get one in within the four But
Speaker 1: I have been like depressed pussy stank alright washed the
Speaker 1: days yo, days I ain't shower, I was like fucking
Speaker 1: I was in a dark space, know I did not care.
Speaker 1: So that was the only time I can remember where
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm not I'm not taking the bath
Speaker 1: and I don't care. Probably this straight tugging it like
Speaker 1: pus the stink. So I think if you're not like
Speaker 1: just outside just super stink like it's just to me,
Speaker 1: it's a private thing. I wouldn't get up on the
Speaker 1: podcast and say that I'll be washing every day because
Speaker 1: even niggas who don't wash every day gonna be looking
Speaker 1: at you sideways, like she said it out loud, like
Speaker 1: it ain't probably living the same way, the same life exactly,
Speaker 1: But I don't know. I gotta wash every day every day,
Speaker 1: multiple times a day. I can't feel planny at all.
Speaker 1: But again, to each his own, I don't think this
Speaker 1: is like super internet uh newsworthy And she definitely UH
Speaker 1: is the queen of marketing. So I saw she had
Speaker 1: like at off shower fifty and then that same day
Speaker 1: she been baby exactly. I'm right. Um. So yesterday was
Speaker 1: Kyrie's first UM game back since his recent suspension over
Speaker 1: some bullshit and child a Hebrew Israel life showed up
Speaker 1: and showed out. Okay, I don't know how many of
Speaker 1: them were out there to essentially escort Kyrie make sure
Speaker 1: he was good. And y'all, this is what I think
Speaker 1: they fear. They fear this type of um and they
Speaker 1: y'all can gather whatever whoever y'all think they are right,
Speaker 1: but this is what they fear. They fear this type
Speaker 1: of um um union and unity. They fear it. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. We started really knowing who the
Speaker 1: funk we are and pulling up as such. It's a
Speaker 1: problem for a lot of people. So um. I know.
Speaker 1: The commission of the nba A said that Kyrie um,
Speaker 1: he still had some things to do, but he also
Speaker 1: said that he didn't think Kyrie was anti Semitic. And
Speaker 1: this is the thing that they have done to Kyrie
Speaker 1: kind of proves our point about how they run ship.
Speaker 1: And that's all we'd be saying, like it's the truth,
Speaker 1: it's the truth, and then you do the thing to
Speaker 1: flex that you run ship. I'm confused about what y'all
Speaker 1: confused about. But anyway, y'all, that's stupid Internet news. Um,
Speaker 1: today is Thanksgiving. We're gonna go to commercial and we're
Speaker 1: gonna get into topic about Thanksgiving and how to get
Speaker 1: through with your Thanksgiving day. I hope you would listen
Speaker 1: to us in the morning, but not just Thanksgiving, also
Speaker 1: your holidays. But before I just want to say, don't
Speaker 1: y'all post no picture of your damn food today. We're
Speaker 1: eating the same ship. You gotta post no picture of
Speaker 1: your plate. We'll be right back. Sorry, y'all this thing
Speaker 1: given day, and we know that you know, holidays are
Speaker 1: not the same for everybody, right, Some people have um holidays.
Speaker 1: They really don't have that much family. You're not around people.
Speaker 1: Some people have huge families and like this, like Thanksgiving
Speaker 1: and Christmas is like a big thing. So we want
Speaker 1: to get into like how do you handle your family
Speaker 1: during the holidays, you know, to make the best of it,
Speaker 1: because I believe that most people go into it like
Speaker 1: with good intentions, like I'm gonna see all my cousins,
Speaker 1: aren't seen. I love my cousins, But then you realize
Speaker 1: how much you hate they asked once you get there, right,
Speaker 1: like two seconds off my aunts, right, So I guess
Speaker 1: my family we weren't ever really that big, like our
Speaker 1: immediate family, like my mom my sister, like we would
Speaker 1: always do something in the house, but like being and going.
Speaker 1: Like my family has a soulful restaurant in Charleston, and
Speaker 1: I can only count maybe a couple times where we
Speaker 1: actually went and congregated with the whole family. For real,
Speaker 1: we do a little small little thing at the house,
Speaker 1: and that'd be it. You might go to my daddy
Speaker 1: house and eat some my crabs. That's about it for
Speaker 1: the holidays, right, I like seafood Thanksgivings. I don't like
Speaker 1: that last stuff. I've done seafood Thanksgiving before too, and
Speaker 1: we did, like, uh one time, we did like an
Speaker 1: Italian Thanksgiving where we just had like pasta and things
Speaker 1: like that. Because I don't want the same ship on
Speaker 1: Thanksgiving and Christmas. Right, it's the same meal, you really,
Speaker 1: you really only get that same meal, you know, twice
Speaker 1: a year though, right, I don't be eating all that
Speaker 1: ship anyway, so ever, since I stopped eating meat, like Thanksgiving,
Speaker 1: it's just not it for me for real, Like I
Speaker 1: have to do my own separate color greens. I'll made
Speaker 1: the mac cheese. Um, I'll just see take the pie,
Speaker 1: like I can't really eat all the ship because everything
Speaker 1: else got meat in it, right, Everything got meat in
Speaker 1: the vegetables got me in it right. Cut with my
Speaker 1: high vibrational plate. Boom boom. See it's a queen's plate.
Speaker 1: You know that whole ship was in time for the holidays,
Speaker 1: because just think about it, I think they say I
Speaker 1: forgot the chemical that's in Turkey, and then in combination
Speaker 1: with all this other ship for the holidays, especially Thanksgiving,
Speaker 1: they say like people are eating like I don't know,
Speaker 1: ten thousand calories in one setting for real. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: can't wait be up. So she was saying over the
Speaker 1: weekend that she has been uh, she hasn't eaten meat
Speaker 1: for six years now, and she said, like the little
Speaker 1: turkeys or they'd be like crying right before they get
Speaker 1: slotted because they can hear, like they the peaks before
Speaker 1: them that are dying, and they'd be like crying. And
Speaker 1: for a moment I was like, damn, that's fun up,
Speaker 1: And then I went back to like, maybe some of
Speaker 1: that trauma make the port tastes better because that's the
Speaker 1: type of ship people need to think about before they
Speaker 1: eat me. Now, I'm not here to be a debbie downer, Okay,
Speaker 1: you can meet. I don't give a ship. It ain't
Speaker 1: my body. But you know, when people trying to figure
Speaker 1: out why they feel like a certain way, like why
Speaker 1: am I depressed today? Why am I sad? That fucking meet?
Speaker 1: You just consume. Imagine how that animal felt. And a
Speaker 1: hog in particular releases some type of chemical and the
Speaker 1: meat when they feel threatened. So unless you're eating wild boar,
Speaker 1: eating that farm raised pig is not good for your
Speaker 1: health unless the animal like died unexpectedly, like those animals
Speaker 1: are stressed the funk out. And I'm sl yes, just
Speaker 1: missed me with that miss me with that ship. I'm
Speaker 1: still eating my bacon. I'm still eating my honey baked ham.
Speaker 1: Can't wait to pick it up on whiskey. And how
Speaker 1: you feel left to eat that ship, I'll be sleepy, sluggish, sleepy.
Speaker 1: You don't feel good. I do feel good. I'd be happy,
Speaker 1: I'd be real happy. I'll be high, I'll be full,
Speaker 1: I'll be happy. Me and my cousins, we're gonna race
Speaker 1: my niece. I'm gonna raise one of the motherfucker's I'm
Speaker 1: gonna running off. Don't worry about it. And when you
Speaker 1: get sucking home and get on that scale you'll ask
Speaker 1: to be depressing. I'll sucking watching No I see my
Speaker 1: train on Friday morning. That was just one time I
Speaker 1: didn't watch my pussy because I was depressed. We're not
Speaker 1: gonna make it seem like this every month, yo, girl.
Speaker 1: Fuck you. So here's a two ways to cope with
Speaker 1: difficult relatives during the holidays. The first thing you need
Speaker 1: to do number one on the list, and this is
Speaker 1: important not just for the holidays, but just for your life.
Speaker 1: Adjust your attitude. If you're already anticipating that a gathering
Speaker 1: will be stressful, your anxiety may get worse by the
Speaker 1: time the actual gathering begins. Instead of worrying about what
Speaker 1: will happen, choose behaviors that can decrease your anxiety before
Speaker 1: they then do something relaxing, such as practicing yoga, listen
Speaker 1: to music, smug or joint you know, whatever you do. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, I agree with this because if you're already
Speaker 1: like dreading the holidays how some people do, and as
Speaker 1: soon as you get to your family's house, like your
Speaker 1: energy are, your energy is going to be that you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. So you're gonna be inviting that
Speaker 1: ship that you're trying to avoid. So yeah, be positive
Speaker 1: about the holiday city. You know, even if last year,
Speaker 1: the year before it was bad, this year is gonna
Speaker 1: be different. This year is gonna be good. The mountains
Speaker 1: ain't gonna be asking you about why an'tran years. Yeah, Like,
Speaker 1: just just go in there with a positive mind, alright.
Speaker 1: Number two, have realistic expect patience as fresh as refreshing
Speaker 1: as it would be if your aunt married didn't criticize
Speaker 1: your outfit this year. She's probably gonna do that, and
Speaker 1: she's probably gonna ask you why you still ain't got
Speaker 1: no babies. But don't don't expect people to change when
Speaker 1: they have behaved in the same way for years. Minimize
Speaker 1: your contact with difficult relatives and spend more time interacting
Speaker 1: with people you like. Okay, damn me, I do agree
Speaker 1: with this one a little tiny bit, right, So yeah,
Speaker 1: sometimes you do try to avoid the cousins that you
Speaker 1: don't funk with, But them cousins always funk with you.
Speaker 1: Them aunts always funk with you, like they literally need
Speaker 1: your fucking energy. That's why they come around ship exactly.
Speaker 1: You know, love and hate is like a thin line, Okay,
Speaker 1: so now I agree with this. It says, you know,
Speaker 1: she probably going to say something of you. The thing
Speaker 1: is that, but she's probably still saying something to you
Speaker 1: because you ain't nipped in the butt all the other years.
Speaker 1: You might disagree with that. But if somebody constantly saying
Speaker 1: about my fucking clothes every time I see you, bit
Speaker 1: this year, the goddamn yere, where's your baby daddy? Bitch
Speaker 1: that you're gonna start ship, you got to ruin these people,
Speaker 1: damn right, No, don't do that, y'all. Just ignore it.
Speaker 1: You're only seeing her for the holiday. Just where would
Speaker 1: you want and forget Aunt Mary? But why she get
Speaker 1: to get off on me every holiday? She's only getting
Speaker 1: to get off because you're allowing it. That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Why you check, you know you're allowing it to affect you.
Speaker 1: Don't let it affect you. Let it roll off your shoulder, like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I think you should say something this year, then next
Speaker 1: year gonna be lit. Once you check that bitch this year,
Speaker 1: she's gonna avoid you next year. She's only doing this
Speaker 1: ship to you because she can once you let her know,
Speaker 1: she can't do that. Listen, Okay, y'all, I'll fight cousins,
Speaker 1: and I'll fight aunt. I've been waiting my whole life
Speaker 1: to fight a aunt. Especially i'm older ones, old ones
Speaker 1: like who've been talking ship? You're old like childhood? Yes,
Speaker 1: y'all hear that, want to fight a sixty year old woman.
Speaker 1: Don't listen to her. Do not listen to her. Just ignore,
Speaker 1: aren't Mary? She's jealous of your outfit? She wish she
Speaker 1: could wear that stuff? Is all right? Next, this is
Speaker 1: a very important one. Keep potentially upsetting topics off limits.
Speaker 1: Don't don't talk about politics, don't talk about abortion rights.
Speaker 1: Don't talk about that ship, Like, leave that off the table. Like,
Speaker 1: if you got some ship that you want to get
Speaker 1: off your chest, do it on Friday or Wednesday. Leave
Speaker 1: it alone on Thursday. Talk about fucking what's your song
Speaker 1: on TikTok with your cousins or something like that. A church,
Speaker 1: keep a cute And this is for the people who
Speaker 1: have the questions. Don't be asking that cousin over thirty
Speaker 1: while she why she don't have no kids yet, because
Speaker 1: you're gonna be kind of embarrassed when you said, oh,
Speaker 1: because you know, I have a big gass fibroid, or
Speaker 1: have a system, my ovar. You know, people have medical
Speaker 1: conditions that they may not share why they don't have
Speaker 1: kids yet, respectful. Yeah, you want them to unpack their
Speaker 1: trauma for you real quick and see on the type.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be like, Yeah, I don't have two uh
Speaker 1: to pregnancies. You know, I went through the whole little
Speaker 1: um testing my eggs and all that ship just last year.
Speaker 1: You know, God willing I might get one. You're gonna
Speaker 1: feel embarrassed because now you have forced me to actually
Speaker 1: answer your fucking question, bitch about where when I'm have
Speaker 1: some kids. But religion, keep that. Let's listen, especially on Christmas.
Speaker 1: All of my fucking atheists. Let's let them people how
Speaker 1: they God don't be at the table on Christmas, Thanksgiving.
Speaker 1: I see this. This this ain't even know real holiday,
Speaker 1: y'all celebrating the white man's holiday. Listen, just take it
Speaker 1: as a time to fellowship with family. Yeah, yeah, don't
Speaker 1: be making people uncomfortable. I do be doing that Thanksgiving though,
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna lie. I mean, like happy smallpox blanket Day.
Speaker 1: I did say I ain't gonna do that this year.
Speaker 1: You're stupid. Yeah, don't bring Trump up or Kanye at
Speaker 1: the table right about the vote Democratic for the DAYMN
Speaker 1: sixty time. I'm gonna be mad, right, And please don't
Speaker 1: go up there telling everybody how you ate. Oh goodness,
Speaker 1: just keep that to yourself. If they ask you if
Speaker 1: you voted in the recent local elections, just lie and
Speaker 1: tell him, yeah, I voted for such and such if
Speaker 1: you didn't, and yeah if you didn't, Just just lie,
Speaker 1: all right. Number four, except that the only thing you
Speaker 1: control is your reaction. Yes, that's what I was saying.
Speaker 1: Don't let that ship affect you. Just let it roll
Speaker 1: off your shoulder. But if I take my hands and
Speaker 1: put around your neck, see that's still like control. No,
Speaker 1: that's going to jail, trying to go to thank physical control.
Speaker 1: If you go to gel and Thanksgiving, you ain't gonna
Speaker 1: see that judge till Monday. Damn. Like that turkey and
Speaker 1: there partly tastes different too. And I heard they give
Speaker 1: you something to drink in there that make you like
Speaker 1: not horny. Really, I might be wrong. That might somebody
Speaker 1: might have been lying to me as much as fucking
Speaker 1: these niggas doing present. I doubt that very serious seat.
Speaker 1: It's called soft Peter, Yeah, Google, all right, it's eliminade
Speaker 1: like yellow yea yellow fives in it. M hmm. So
Speaker 1: it says you can't stop people from bringing up controversial
Speaker 1: subjects or asking real questions, but you can't monitor and
Speaker 1: modify your own reactions. So this is some ship I
Speaker 1: gotta work on in life, yesterday, life Today, life, thanksgiving,
Speaker 1: life like whenever. Is to try not to respond those
Speaker 1: people on you at that right when they do that?
Speaker 1: So what can you say to avoid the conversation? All right,
Speaker 1: I'm yeah married. M hmm. On that shirt show got
Speaker 1: a lot of cleavage out. Do you like it? Mm hmm.
Speaker 1: You look like a lady of the night. See like
Speaker 1: I'm automatically like run out. What can I say? Look,
Speaker 1: give me, give me some tips. What could I pos?
Speaker 1: You come out? Let's not get into that. I'm Mary.
Speaker 1: Did you listen to We Talked Back Today? You really
Speaker 1: should listen to that podcast. It's a really good show.
Speaker 1: Oh I'm gonna go over here. I'll be right back, Mary.
Speaker 1: I love you, You're nice. You're fucking people like the
Speaker 1: next one says, don't drink too much now if I'm
Speaker 1: sober and I'm marry, come over here with that both
Speaker 1: shot I might be all right, but if I got
Speaker 1: a few drinks in my system, she in trouble. That's
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Don't drink too much. I know you're
Speaker 1: getting family and you like to have your cocktails and
Speaker 1: your spirits and take a walk with your cousin, come
Speaker 1: back with red eyes, you know, but keep it to
Speaker 1: a minimum, especially if you know you become argumentative or
Speaker 1: aggressive when you're drinking. Some people are happy drinks drunks.
Speaker 1: Some people are not if you know you wanted the not.
Speaker 1: Don't get too drunk around the family, so I'm not
Speaker 1: like a mean alcoholic. I think I'm pretty fun when
Speaker 1: I get drunk, so I'll probably be on sad some
Speaker 1: ship to like ha high jokes on you. They may
Speaker 1: then get mad. I'm not mad though, Like I'm not
Speaker 1: really wanting to fight. I'm happy and I'm around family
Speaker 1: and I'm cussing and acting a food. But you might
Speaker 1: be mad after I say what I'm gonna say back
Speaker 1: to your ass. Just don't say it. Don't drink too much, y'all.
Speaker 1: Number six, Get active. It's difficult to be drawn into
Speaker 1: the argument when you're engrossed in an activity that requires concentration,
Speaker 1: physical activity, or laugh. So play a game, go for
Speaker 1: a walk on the beach or around your mama's neighborhood,
Speaker 1: or watch a funny holiday movie. All that stuff will
Speaker 1: keep you from getting into an argument. So one thing,
Speaker 1: I want to see um on Netflix this Thursday or
Speaker 1: Wednesday it is, but it's the show on Netflix called Wednesday.
Speaker 1: It's actually like Wednesday from the Adams Family. It's like
Speaker 1: a movie coming out about her. I want to see that.
Speaker 1: So that's a good thing. Everybody can sit down and watch.
Speaker 1: But the kids too because it looks like yeah, and
Speaker 1: it's you know, rady g So the kids can watch
Speaker 1: and maybe y'all can avoid talking as much. So to
Speaker 1: avoid any altercations, let's talking as much as much as possible. Right.
Speaker 1: Number seven, Practice gratitude. Now you don't need to just
Speaker 1: do this for the holidays. You just need to do
Speaker 1: this in your life. Take time out and think about
Speaker 1: all you have to be grateful for your delicious meal
Speaker 1: or warm home, own good health, a sunny day, friendship,
Speaker 1: and family gathering. Anxiety can be disminaged by focusing on
Speaker 1: the things we enjoy and we value. So that's important, Yeah,
Speaker 1: very important. If you've got a group of people at
Speaker 1: the house, just go around to people that make you
Speaker 1: happy and try to avoid the ones that don't right,
Speaker 1: and just you know, think about all the things that
Speaker 1: you are blessed with in that day. M hmm, not
Speaker 1: all the bullshit, you know, even this year. Like maybe
Speaker 1: if you if you are always have problems with your
Speaker 1: family a year and maybe you can go over to
Speaker 1: a friend's house and their family this year instead. I'll
Speaker 1: switch it up, right, because you don't have to be
Speaker 1: around your family. You can go somewhere else if you
Speaker 1: want to. Friends become family. You know what, they probably
Speaker 1: ain't gonna sunk with you. They're not gonna harass a
Speaker 1: friends friends, right you kid, Well, you never know somebody
Speaker 1: aren't married at their house and be like you ain't
Speaker 1: got no family, Well, where's your family at? Baby? You
Speaker 1: know they might be there, so you might not even
Speaker 1: avoid the bullshit. Number eight, practice tolerance. We all do
Speaker 1: things that irritate other people and we probably aren't aware
Speaker 1: of it. Try to be tolerant of others quirks and
Speaker 1: irritating behaviors and don't take them personally, and nothing else.
Speaker 1: Remember you only have to tolerate the irritation for a
Speaker 1: little while. So let me tell y'all. Last year, I
Speaker 1: was cooking with my family and I had my niece
Speaker 1: in the kitchen because she just want to TikTok and
Speaker 1: be on Instagram and don't want to help. So I
Speaker 1: was like, she nineteen. I was like, get your button
Speaker 1: this kitchen. You need to learn how to cook, like,
Speaker 1: learn how to cook these meals. I was like, how
Speaker 1: are you gonna get a man? You can't cook that,
Speaker 1: and she was like, well, you know how to cook everything?
Speaker 1: Where yo? Man? It who? Baby? I almost took my
Speaker 1: forearm across the whole county just ruled Thanksgiving, knocked everything
Speaker 1: on the ground. I had to grab my glass of
Speaker 1: perseco and walk outside, and as I got I got
Speaker 1: a face out. This bitch walking down the street maddest
Speaker 1: hell visually because her niece. I told her, goddamn truth,
Speaker 1: you know how to cook all this ship? Well, y'all, man,
Speaker 1: it beat your ass, But I bet you won't bother
Speaker 1: her again this year about that ship. You see what
Speaker 1: I mean, She's gonna be right back in and catch
Speaker 1: you with me learning the fuck. Listen, that baby said
Speaker 1: these things can be outsourced. I don't got to know
Speaker 1: how to cook, baby, I really, y'all, I really had
Speaker 1: to walk up out the house with my little I
Speaker 1: feeled up my glass. I said, excuse me, everybody, and
Speaker 1: never mind that I am, like, you need to know
Speaker 1: how to cook for yourself? Come on, yeah, but you
Speaker 1: know you want to be able to, like my nieces,
Speaker 1: provide nurse for your family. She's twenty five and she
Speaker 1: doesn't cook, like you ought to know how to cook
Speaker 1: some stuff for yourself. Yeah, just nothing else. You can't
Speaker 1: eat goddamn chicken fingers all a goddamn time, grown woman.
Speaker 1: I mean, you could, but it wouldn't be a good idea.
Speaker 1: But I'll be I'll be in here to eat like
Speaker 1: I could cook. But sometimes cooking for just myself seems
Speaker 1: like a hassle when I can just outsource it, like
Speaker 1: you said. So sometimes I'll be in here like eating
Speaker 1: like real childish, Like I'll come home for work and
Speaker 1: eat a bullet hardy food. I'll put me too glyzzies
Speaker 1: in the air fly fire, not that glyzzie. I would
Speaker 1: eat me too glyzzies for dinner. Mystery meat, What the
Speaker 1: is it? I had dog delicious niece, m M girl
Speaker 1: and I would roll it up in a piece of bread.
Speaker 1: You don't even have to be a hot dog, but
Speaker 1: it'll be like a regular piece of bread. I'll take
Speaker 1: a slice of cheese and split it in half and
Speaker 1: put it on one piece, like if I make two,
Speaker 1: so the one slice of cheese will do right for both. Yeah?
Speaker 1: Does that really true? Good to you catch up in mustard? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'll be sucking them up. And I thought some sweet
Speaker 1: potator fries in the air, frair both dinner. Dinner is served.
Speaker 1: I enjoy cooking, so I can't like I like nice
Speaker 1: tasty food. I cannot just cook me some bullshit. I'll
Speaker 1: do cereal for dinner, but before I like cook some
Speaker 1: regular bread and a fucking glyzzie. You are I can't do.
Speaker 1: You know what's another ghetto thing that I will I
Speaker 1: won't say ghetto, but like I will make cheese toads.
Speaker 1: I would like get the crack and then butter bread
Speaker 1: and put it in the oven. Oh my god, now
Speaker 1: that right there, Like that's a good struggle me. Okay,
Speaker 1: even if you do like I like to grow mind
Speaker 1: on the stove. I'll make like honey butter and put
Speaker 1: on my bread grill it with my cheese, and I
Speaker 1: love it with honey barbecue. Lads, that's a meal. It's good.
Speaker 1: M that's a that's a little quick bullshit meal though,
Speaker 1: mm hmm. But I would make that all right, So
Speaker 1: I'm nice, says bring a happy reminder. So looking at
Speaker 1: a favorite photograph, of funny text from a friend, or
Speaker 1: anything else that makes you smile can go a long
Speaker 1: way toward relieving stress when things get too stressful. Planning
Speaker 1: to sneak away and take a break. That sounds like
Speaker 1: a little walk with the cousins right there, right, go
Speaker 1: smoke with your cousin right as read where y'all going
Speaker 1: to the stuff? Who are going back? We be the
Speaker 1: car pool for the weed. Heeads at the Thanksgiving dinner.
Speaker 1: Thank got my my dad's So everybody out the in
Speaker 1: the back hi drunk? Right? M h No, my mama
Speaker 1: don't participate in nothing. No alcohol, No, we know nothing.
Speaker 1: So I had to keep it cute and act like
Speaker 1: I'm not doing drugs. Shame, I'll be faking. But oh,
Speaker 1: let me go out here and take this call. Come
Speaker 1: back in that calm and regularly and nothing bothering. Aw,
Speaker 1: she'd be knowing, She'll say, man, all right, Number ten,
Speaker 1: take a deep breath or five. This is a good tip.
Speaker 1: Can't physically leave a stressful situation, you can always focus
Speaker 1: on your breathing. Take five slow deep breaths, focusing on
Speaker 1: breathing in and out. Even this short break can have
Speaker 1: a powerful effect on stress and anxiety. So when you mad,
Speaker 1: just take some deep breath shall and just remind yourself
Speaker 1: that it's just for today. Yeah, and this last part says,
Speaker 1: keep in mind that you and only change yourself. You
Speaker 1: can't change what your difficult relatives are going to do.
Speaker 1: Don't waste your energy trying to change others and accept
Speaker 1: that you can only control your own actions and thoughts.
Speaker 1: That's the most important part of y'all. This ten uh
Speaker 1: this uh. This list comes from script start org and
Speaker 1: I think that's a pretty solid list on how to
Speaker 1: deal with those um not so fun relatives. But I
Speaker 1: think the first one is going in with setting your
Speaker 1: intentions on like having a good time Like that should
Speaker 1: alleviate all of ship, I feel like right, And if
Speaker 1: you can't do that, don't go. I wanna go. If
Speaker 1: you come in here with negative energy, if you know
Speaker 1: you're showing up with that just don't go yea, yeah,
Speaker 1: because you're gonna ruin it for everybody. You're gonna be
Speaker 1: the motherfucking problem, right every year, m like big big Mama,
Speaker 1: How here comes Tommy talk about smallpox blanket the holiday. Hey,
Speaker 1: I'm a j this Indigenous People's Day. Yeah, because I
Speaker 1: think I think most black people have like removed like
Speaker 1: the the original meaning behind these holidays now is just
Speaker 1: like it's tradition at this point, it's just this time
Speaker 1: of year, this is what we do, right, So I
Speaker 1: want to like for my family when I create my family,
Speaker 1: I want to like start my own traditions that could
Speaker 1: be passed down to the generations. Yeah, so I'll do
Speaker 1: my own type of Christmas thing where we get do
Speaker 1: gift givings, um, whatever time. It won't have to be quinside,
Speaker 1: could be something for my family exactly. So this year,
Speaker 1: on these days, this is what my family does. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. So well, the kids, it's they
Speaker 1: won't feel left out when Christmas ship come around because
Speaker 1: maybe they got there Christmas in June for my birthday.
Speaker 1: I don't know. So yeah, I want to do like
Speaker 1: like that for my family, don't we don't you don't
Speaker 1: have to do these current man made holidays. You don't
Speaker 1: have to creat your own ship. Well, well, let's you know,
Speaker 1: closing out this list, tell everybody what you're thankful for,
Speaker 1: Oh number one, I am thankful for you, hey, Fred
Speaker 1: Thus whatever. I'm grateful for my family. I'm grateful to
Speaker 1: be in good health. I'm grateful for this year. I'm
Speaker 1: grateful for next year. It's gonna be little. I'm just
Speaker 1: I feel really good right now, so that's good. I
Speaker 1: love all that. I'm grateful for these buddles, that's what
Speaker 1: they're coming to mail. I'm grateful for these Black Friday sales.
Speaker 1: I'm grateful for your two friends. I'm very grateful to
Speaker 1: have you in my life. You're one of my favorite
Speaker 1: people in the world. I couldn't imagine doing this with
Speaker 1: anybody else, Like I couldn't think of a soul that
Speaker 1: I would rather be doing this show with. So I'm
Speaker 1: grateful for the show. I'm grateful for the listeners y'all
Speaker 1: be telling me, y'all love me back, and my d
Speaker 1: m s and ship. That ship really sometimes I'll be
Speaker 1: going through it and that love really be helping me.
Speaker 1: So I do appreciate you'all for extending that love back
Speaker 1: to me. Um. I'm grateful for my family. I'm blessed
Speaker 1: to have a very close family. UM, and I'm just
Speaker 1: grateful to have them in my life and always, you know,
Speaker 1: let me know that they're proud of me and they
Speaker 1: love me despite all my flaws because I could be
Speaker 1: hard to deal with sometimes. I know that. Um. I'm
Speaker 1: grateful for my future husband. I ain't at him, yeah,
Speaker 1: but I'm speaking to I'm manifesting you, baby. I'm grateful
Speaker 1: for you. My niece ain't gonna be able to talk
Speaker 1: about me next Thanksgiving. We have a man, God willing, UM.
Speaker 1: And I'm and I'm grateful for good health. You know,
Speaker 1: I have multiple scorrosis and I blessed to be healthy
Speaker 1: despite that. So I'm grateful for that. And I'm just
Speaker 1: grateful to be able to laugh and love every day. Yes, Amen,
Speaker 1: doesn't that feel good? We should have like a damn
Speaker 1: gratitude segment because I don't think people actually say allowed
Speaker 1: a lot what they are actually grateful for. A lot
Speaker 1: of times you focus on the grgative ship that's going
Speaker 1: on in your life. When you focus on those positive things,
Speaker 1: it just helped more positive ship manifests right when you
Speaker 1: got an attitude, I'm gonna I'm gonna say, like, let's
Speaker 1: just a gratitude. Let's let's say what we're grateful for.
Speaker 1: What you're mean as all, y'all, we hope you all
Speaker 1: enjoy your Thanksgiving. Okay, we don't want to see them places.
Speaker 1: Like Tam said before, listen, everybody got the same slop.
Speaker 1: Especially that ship. Looks like your grandma is not the
Speaker 1: best cook. Just no, I am, I said, want to God,
Speaker 1: I'd be challenging niggas like I know I cook better
Speaker 1: in your mama and your grandmama. That's why everybody be
Speaker 1: having them ugly asks places, because everybody's think they're the
Speaker 1: best cook. I don't. First of all, I don't like
Speaker 1: places where the foods are touching each other. Me either,
Speaker 1: Me either. I don't like my food touching. Yeah, like
Speaker 1: I don't want to see that. Don't make my plate,
Speaker 1: I got it, And I don't nobody want to see
Speaker 1: your chickling plate. Bitch, keep that to yourself, and they
Speaker 1: love chiless. I will not eat that ship no more.
Speaker 1: And Thanksgiving is not the time to be experimenting. Just
Speaker 1: make the macaroni and cheese. How you usually do a bit?
Speaker 1: Don't add sugar to the macaroni and cheese this year, right,
Speaker 1: keep it simple, keeping regular, keep it what your My
Speaker 1: sister made the meccan cheese and she got the evaporated milk,
Speaker 1: but she accidentally got the sweet and uh and didn't
Speaker 1: realize that she got condensed milk. Yeah, yeah, and it
Speaker 1: was sweet and baby, we was about to jump her
Speaker 1: in there. It was like, put your fences up, bit,
Speaker 1: you know it ain't nobody else macaroni like that is asked.
Speaker 1: But can dense milk looks way different from yes, like
Speaker 1: it's thick, it's coming out like, it comes out different.
Speaker 1: It looks it looks sugary and sweet. How you messed
Speaker 1: that up? So? How you messed that up? Put your
Speaker 1: hands on bit? All right, y'all listen. So if you
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