WEBVTT - Don't Be a Jive Ass Turkey 0:00:00.680 --> 0:00:06.400 Talk. We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion 0:00:06.920 --> 0:00:13.640 who talks back? Yep, what's up, y'all? Thank you for 0:00:13.680 --> 0:00:16.239 tuning in for a new episode that we talked back 0:00:16.280 --> 0:00:18.720 and show dedicated to you niggers and knees, holes and 0:00:18.760 --> 0:00:22.599 everybody else in between. What's up girl? Gobble gobble, gobbl y'all, 0:00:22.600 --> 0:00:25.480 every thanksgiving this tam Man. I love y'all, y'all for 0:00:25.600 --> 0:00:28.760 jointing to another episode. I couldn't think it should have 0:00:28.840 --> 0:00:37.560 say like a gobblbla gobl what about y'all? What's going on? Nothing? 0:00:37.560 --> 0:00:40.839 How you doing? Oh? Well, you know I've been in 0:00:40.880 --> 0:00:44.440 a honeycomb hide out all fing weekend, bitch and rejuvenated. 0:00:44.440 --> 0:00:48.160 I feel young today, like the fucking body is stretched 0:00:48.920 --> 0:00:52.800 and ready to conquer the world. When I FaceTime you 0:00:52.920 --> 0:00:56.440 on Saturday, you are you were smiling so big. Who 0:00:56.440 --> 0:00:59.600 was you with that? Had you smiling like that? Your 0:00:59.680 --> 0:01:05.840 mother like a daddy for Chicago. I believe it too. 0:01:06.080 --> 0:01:08.120 I believe it because he's a player, player from the 0:01:08.360 --> 0:01:12.160 l Now. Whoever you was with, Yeah, whoever you was with, 0:01:12.400 --> 0:01:15.040 had you lit up like your face was like lit 0:01:15.560 --> 0:01:20.000 up child? We were we was grocery shopping for So 0:01:20.040 --> 0:01:24.080 I made this little thing. What's uh dates? So if 0:01:24.080 --> 0:01:26.600 you take dates and you put whatever kind of nuts 0:01:26.600 --> 0:01:29.240 he want, the medal and peanut butter. It tastes like 0:01:29.240 --> 0:01:34.160 a snicker. It's like a little calorie, y'all chocolate. Oh 0:01:34.240 --> 0:01:37.920 that sounds cute and fun. It was nice. That has 0:01:37.959 --> 0:01:40.319 been a whole this weekend. Let's just be clear, okay, 0:01:40.319 --> 0:01:44.040 what you had going on? So I went to l 0:01:44.120 --> 0:01:48.040 A this weekend. I went to b Simone and Megan 0:01:48.120 --> 0:01:51.480 Brooks their podcast No for Sure. They had their very 0:01:51.480 --> 0:01:53.800 first live show in l A. And I went to 0:01:53.920 --> 0:01:56.200 check that out and network and meet some people. It 0:01:56.280 --> 0:01:58.160 was a good time. It was a good show. It's 0:01:58.200 --> 0:02:00.960 a lot of fun. So I you know, I flew 0:02:01.000 --> 0:02:04.200 out there on Saturday. I went to that on Sunday 0:02:04.240 --> 0:02:06.560 and flew right back this morning. I'm low key tired. 0:02:07.080 --> 0:02:10.000 Was it nice? Did you see some good faces? Oh? Yeah, 0:02:10.000 --> 0:02:12.480 it was really really nice. It was a beautiful of it. 0:02:12.480 --> 0:02:15.400 It was so like, oh it was hosted by Patreon. 0:02:15.680 --> 0:02:19.160 Shout out to Patreon. Um, it was really black of it. 0:02:19.280 --> 0:02:23.440 Everybody looked so nice. Um. I ran into uh quay 0:02:23.760 --> 0:02:25.960 at blame it on Quay on Instagram. Y'all know who 0:02:26.040 --> 0:02:27.560 that is. He was a lot of fun. He said 0:02:27.560 --> 0:02:29.760 he's gonna do the show and be my ain't making 0:02:29.800 --> 0:02:32.120 said they're gonna come on. We talked back soon, so 0:02:32.680 --> 0:02:34.720 y'all stay tuned for that. That's gonna be a lot 0:02:34.760 --> 0:02:38.400 of fun. It's gonna be Yeah, it's gonna be Really 0:02:39.080 --> 0:02:41.920 that sounds like a good time. I hung out with 0:02:41.960 --> 0:02:45.480 a look after everything was over. We went to Katana 0:02:45.520 --> 0:02:47.800 for dinner a group of us. That was cool. And 0:02:47.840 --> 0:02:51.400 then after that and you know, I went to see uh, 0:02:51.520 --> 0:02:53.919 one of my old friends, see how he was doing. 0:02:54.040 --> 0:02:58.079 Just hang out real quick. His house was beautiful. A 0:02:58.280 --> 0:03:03.160 j oh my god, beautiful house. Yeah real quick? That 0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:07.040 no you laughing. I adn't do nothing. It was just 0:03:07.120 --> 0:03:10.120 like literally just catch up, hang out a little bit 0:03:10.200 --> 0:03:17.120 and then I left. Okay, girl, shut up. Yeah. What 0:03:17.240 --> 0:03:21.920 we got going on this weekend? Stupid and the net news. UM. 0:03:22.160 --> 0:03:25.480 One thing I want to talk about how they tried 0:03:25.480 --> 0:03:28.720 to play with Chris Brown the American Music Awards this week. 0:03:29.360 --> 0:03:31.760 It was pretty disgusting. So I don't know if you 0:03:31.800 --> 0:03:35.480 guys saw saw it or not, but so um Chris 0:03:35.480 --> 0:03:38.640 Brown was set to perform um a tribute to Michael 0:03:38.680 --> 0:03:42.360 Jackson for the fourth anniversary of Thriller this year at 0:03:42.400 --> 0:03:45.240 the a m As Sierra was also supposed to be 0:03:45.280 --> 0:03:47.520 a part of the whole production and all that stuff too. 0:03:48.320 --> 0:03:56.720 So allegedly, y'all ABC's executives, we're re evaluating their decision 0:03:56.840 --> 0:04:02.040 and having a convicted domestic abuser paid tribute to an 0:04:02.080 --> 0:04:09.160 alleged child molester. Current reports claim this is nasty, This 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:15.200 is really nasty. Soa who's who's a child molester? So 0:04:15.440 --> 0:04:21.120 they are no Michael Jackson, Michaelson, who was never convicted 0:04:21.560 --> 0:04:25.200 of abusing any children. And with the information we know 0:04:25.279 --> 0:04:29.960 now how these people operate, I don't think it ever happened. Now. 0:04:29.960 --> 0:04:32.320 I know they extorted some money out of Michael Jackson 0:04:32.440 --> 0:04:37.159 behind these alleged um child abuse allegations, and these people 0:04:37.160 --> 0:04:41.039 continued to have their children around him. And here it is, 0:04:41.080 --> 0:04:44.320 how many years has Michael been gone? This is how 0:04:44.360 --> 0:04:47.719 y'all gonna do his legacy? Sounds about white. And then 0:04:47.760 --> 0:04:50.960 you know Chris Brown, they're calling him the alleged abuse 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:54.000 that Chris Brown was nineteen twenty years old. How long 0:04:54.040 --> 0:04:56.120 is that supposed to run with him? Like? How long 0:04:56.160 --> 0:04:59.520 does he have to pay for that situation. Yeah, because 0:04:59.640 --> 0:05:03.320 him and Rihanna were really young. What money and ego 0:05:04.240 --> 0:05:08.000 should happen? And it's old like that. That woman don't 0:05:08.040 --> 0:05:10.039 had a baby and whole family, She don't move, don't 0:05:10.040 --> 0:05:15.400 wear life. Yeah, So I mean, why are we still 0:05:15.400 --> 0:05:20.000 talking about that? Yeah, it's pretty nasty. Listen, you are 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:23.120 not allowed to be You can't make no mistakes out here. 0:05:23.480 --> 0:05:25.840 You make one mistake when you're eight teams if I 0:05:25.960 --> 0:05:27.800 leave for the rest of your life. If you're a 0:05:27.800 --> 0:05:33.000 black man, yeah right, or a woman, but you know, 0:05:33.080 --> 0:05:35.600 their kids are allowed to grow up and learn from 0:05:35.640 --> 0:05:39.599 their mistakes, but not when you're a black boy, you can't. 0:05:42.560 --> 0:05:44.799 I'm just trying to think of any Is there anything 0:05:44.920 --> 0:05:48.440 I did that's gonna, you know, funck me up later? 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:56.880 Oh ship, I don't know, we're gonna see. Look, I 0:05:56.920 --> 0:05:59.280 got some fucking money to make anybody disappeared, or y'all 0:05:59.279 --> 0:06:03.000 play with me more, to play with me if you 0:06:03.080 --> 0:06:07.640 want to. You don't know me no more. Um but anyway, 0:06:07.680 --> 0:06:09.800 So at the A War, so a couple of people 0:06:09.839 --> 0:06:12.760 want some good ships to Beyonce did win uh Soul 0:06:12.839 --> 0:06:16.480 and R and b wiz Kid won uh an Award 0:06:16.480 --> 0:06:20.200 for Afrobeats. He won the Afrobeats Award. Kendrick Lamar just 0:06:20.520 --> 0:06:25.640 came through quietly and swooped UM artists that the year 0:06:25.720 --> 0:06:28.280 for you know, hip hop and R and B, Nicki 0:06:28.360 --> 0:06:36.120 Minaje over Glorilla Latto and who else, Cardi ban I 0:06:36.160 --> 0:06:38.520 can't keep up with all these white people trophies because 0:06:38.520 --> 0:06:43.000 that's what they are, right right. Fuck them. Yeah, because 0:06:43.040 --> 0:06:44.839 some hawker was feeling some type of way because she 0:06:44.880 --> 0:06:47.520 was like, today's R and B definitely don't sound like 0:06:47.600 --> 0:06:49.880 yesterday's R and B and that, you know, Beyonce took 0:06:49.920 --> 0:06:54.320 home R and B album, so in Summer Walker wasn't 0:06:54.400 --> 0:06:57.240 running up, so she felt like she got that, you know, 0:06:57.360 --> 0:07:01.680 snatched from m hmm. I liked her album. I liked 0:07:01.720 --> 0:07:04.599 Blast album better, but there's a few hits on this 0:07:04.760 --> 0:07:08.520 um this year's album too. Summer Walker mm hmmm mm 0:07:08.600 --> 0:07:13.400 hmm um. You guys, be Simone revealed that she doesn't 0:07:13.400 --> 0:07:17.480 shower every day and there was a big conversation about it. 0:07:17.480 --> 0:07:21.640 It sparked a hygiene debate on Twitter, in Instagram and 0:07:21.680 --> 0:07:23.640 I was with her this weekend. She smells she must't 0:07:23.640 --> 0:07:27.880 shower that day because she smells great, she smelled nice. 0:07:29.760 --> 0:07:32.560 You know, I might have some mental health issues because 0:07:32.600 --> 0:07:35.720 I literally washed like two to three times a day, 0:07:36.440 --> 0:07:39.680 like right now. If I shower and then I go 0:07:39.840 --> 0:07:42.360 to the grocery store right quick, like when I come home, 0:07:42.480 --> 0:07:45.200 I gotta take another shower before I get in my bed. 0:07:45.680 --> 0:07:48.440 I just like to feel like super fresh before I 0:07:48.480 --> 0:07:51.120 lay down. Yeah. See, that's the thing. I would just 0:07:51.160 --> 0:07:54.440 not leave again, so I would have to avoid that. 0:07:54.560 --> 0:07:58.560 Like insta cart, I'm not going to the store, so 0:07:58.640 --> 0:08:02.760 I don't have to shower in right. Yeah, sometimes you 0:08:02.800 --> 0:08:05.040 might have to run out for a reason, for whatever reason. 0:08:05.120 --> 0:08:09.800 So I just I don't know. I probably bathe too much. 0:08:10.880 --> 0:08:14.200 But if you're not running around funky like, one could 0:08:14.320 --> 0:08:17.320 argue that washing lesson it's probably better for your skin. 0:08:17.400 --> 0:08:20.040 Especially when you're using like all these different products on 0:08:20.080 --> 0:08:23.880 your skin can't be good. So I showered every day. 0:08:23.920 --> 0:08:27.760 But let's say I come home from work Saturday. After work, 0:08:27.880 --> 0:08:32.200 I'll shower on Sunday morning. I might not shower again 0:08:32.240 --> 0:08:34.480 until that night Sunday. If I don't leave my house, 0:08:36.040 --> 0:08:38.400 as long as I get one in. Yeah, that's as 0:08:38.400 --> 0:08:41.800 long as I get one in within the four But 0:08:42.000 --> 0:08:47.040 I have been like depressed pussy stank alright washed the 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:58.440 days yo, days I ain't shower, I was like fucking 0:08:58.559 --> 0:09:00.920 I was in a dark space, know I did not care. 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:04.120 So that was the only time I can remember where 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:06.160 I was like, I'm not I'm not taking the bath 0:09:06.240 --> 0:09:09.360 and I don't care. Probably this straight tugging it like 0:09:09.960 --> 0:09:15.760 pus the stink. So I think if you're not like 0:09:15.960 --> 0:09:19.520 just outside just super stink like it's just to me, 0:09:19.559 --> 0:09:21.880 it's a private thing. I wouldn't get up on the 0:09:21.920 --> 0:09:24.160 podcast and say that I'll be washing every day because 0:09:24.200 --> 0:09:26.120 even niggas who don't wash every day gonna be looking 0:09:26.160 --> 0:09:29.120 at you sideways, like she said it out loud, like 0:09:29.160 --> 0:09:34.239 it ain't probably living the same way, the same life exactly, 0:09:34.760 --> 0:09:39.080 But I don't know. I gotta wash every day every day, 0:09:39.240 --> 0:09:42.360 multiple times a day. I can't feel planny at all. 0:09:43.559 --> 0:09:45.680 But again, to each his own, I don't think this 0:09:45.800 --> 0:09:51.319 is like super internet uh newsworthy And she definitely UH 0:09:51.440 --> 0:09:53.440 is the queen of marketing. So I saw she had 0:09:53.480 --> 0:09:59.679 like at off shower fifty and then that same day 0:09:59.720 --> 0:10:11.679 she been baby exactly. I'm right. Um. So yesterday was 0:10:11.760 --> 0:10:16.240 Kyrie's first UM game back since his recent suspension over 0:10:16.280 --> 0:10:20.680 some bullshit and child a Hebrew Israel life showed up 0:10:21.080 --> 0:10:24.360 and showed out. Okay, I don't know how many of 0:10:24.400 --> 0:10:27.680 them were out there to essentially escort Kyrie make sure 0:10:27.720 --> 0:10:30.680 he was good. And y'all, this is what I think 0:10:30.720 --> 0:10:34.920 they fear. They fear this type of um and they 0:10:35.200 --> 0:10:39.960 y'all can gather whatever whoever y'all think they are right, 0:10:40.320 --> 0:10:43.160 but this is what they fear. They fear this type 0:10:43.160 --> 0:10:49.680 of um um union and unity. They fear it. You 0:10:49.720 --> 0:10:51.400 know what I'm saying. We started really knowing who the 0:10:51.440 --> 0:10:53.800 funk we are and pulling up as such. It's a 0:10:53.880 --> 0:10:58.800 problem for a lot of people. So um. I know. 0:10:58.880 --> 0:11:03.199 The commission of the nba A said that Kyrie um, 0:11:03.240 --> 0:11:06.319 he still had some things to do, but he also 0:11:06.360 --> 0:11:09.800 said that he didn't think Kyrie was anti Semitic. And 0:11:09.960 --> 0:11:12.120 this is the thing that they have done to Kyrie 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:16.120 kind of proves our point about how they run ship. 0:11:16.400 --> 0:11:19.800 And that's all we'd be saying, like it's the truth, 0:11:20.280 --> 0:11:22.040 it's the truth, and then you do the thing to 0:11:22.200 --> 0:11:26.400 flex that you run ship. I'm confused about what y'all 0:11:26.400 --> 0:11:30.520 confused about. But anyway, y'all, that's stupid Internet news. Um, 0:11:30.800 --> 0:11:34.760 today is Thanksgiving. We're gonna go to commercial and we're 0:11:34.760 --> 0:11:37.679 gonna get into topic about Thanksgiving and how to get 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:39.840 through with your Thanksgiving day. I hope you would listen 0:11:39.840 --> 0:11:42.320 to us in the morning, but not just Thanksgiving, also 0:11:42.360 --> 0:11:46.120 your holidays. But before I just want to say, don't 0:11:46.200 --> 0:11:48.800 y'all post no picture of your damn food today. We're 0:11:48.840 --> 0:11:51.280 eating the same ship. You gotta post no picture of 0:11:51.320 --> 0:11:59.920 your plate. We'll be right back. Sorry, y'all this thing 0:12:00.120 --> 0:12:05.560 given day, and we know that you know, holidays are 0:12:05.679 --> 0:12:09.080 not the same for everybody, right, Some people have um holidays. 0:12:09.120 --> 0:12:11.199 They really don't have that much family. You're not around people. 0:12:11.600 --> 0:12:14.800 Some people have huge families and like this, like Thanksgiving 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:19.080 and Christmas is like a big thing. So we want 0:12:19.080 --> 0:12:21.520 to get into like how do you handle your family 0:12:22.360 --> 0:12:25.280 during the holidays, you know, to make the best of it, 0:12:25.400 --> 0:12:27.800 because I believe that most people go into it like 0:12:27.880 --> 0:12:30.520 with good intentions, like I'm gonna see all my cousins, 0:12:30.520 --> 0:12:33.000 aren't seen. I love my cousins, But then you realize 0:12:33.040 --> 0:12:35.880 how much you hate they asked once you get there, right, 0:12:35.960 --> 0:12:45.600 like two seconds off my aunts, right, So I guess 0:12:45.720 --> 0:12:48.199 my family we weren't ever really that big, like our 0:12:48.240 --> 0:12:50.880 immediate family, like my mom my sister, like we would 0:12:50.920 --> 0:12:53.559 always do something in the house, but like being and going. 0:12:54.400 --> 0:12:57.800 Like my family has a soulful restaurant in Charleston, and 0:12:58.240 --> 0:13:00.760 I can only count maybe a couple times where we 0:13:00.840 --> 0:13:04.760 actually went and congregated with the whole family. For real, 0:13:04.800 --> 0:13:06.600 we do a little small little thing at the house, 0:13:06.600 --> 0:13:08.240 and that'd be it. You might go to my daddy 0:13:08.280 --> 0:13:10.960 house and eat some my crabs. That's about it for 0:13:11.000 --> 0:13:15.160 the holidays, right, I like seafood Thanksgivings. I don't like 0:13:15.240 --> 0:13:18.520 that last stuff. I've done seafood Thanksgiving before too, and 0:13:18.559 --> 0:13:20.839 we did, like, uh one time, we did like an 0:13:20.840 --> 0:13:25.360 Italian Thanksgiving where we just had like pasta and things 0:13:25.400 --> 0:13:28.400 like that. Because I don't want the same ship on 0:13:28.480 --> 0:13:34.760 Thanksgiving and Christmas. Right, it's the same meal, you really, 0:13:34.800 --> 0:13:37.679 you really only get that same meal, you know, twice 0:13:37.679 --> 0:13:39.880 a year though, right, I don't be eating all that 0:13:39.880 --> 0:13:43.319 ship anyway, so ever, since I stopped eating meat, like Thanksgiving, 0:13:43.360 --> 0:13:45.440 it's just not it for me for real, Like I 0:13:45.480 --> 0:13:48.560 have to do my own separate color greens. I'll made 0:13:48.559 --> 0:13:52.560 the mac cheese. Um, I'll just see take the pie, 0:13:52.600 --> 0:13:55.760 like I can't really eat all the ship because everything 0:13:55.760 --> 0:13:58.480 else got meat in it, right, Everything got meat in 0:13:58.960 --> 0:14:03.640 the vegetables got me in it right. Cut with my 0:14:03.760 --> 0:14:10.199 high vibrational plate. Boom boom. See it's a queen's plate. 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:15.800 You know that whole ship was in time for the holidays, 0:14:15.840 --> 0:14:18.240 because just think about it, I think they say I 0:14:18.280 --> 0:14:21.120 forgot the chemical that's in Turkey, and then in combination 0:14:21.160 --> 0:14:24.880 with all this other ship for the holidays, especially Thanksgiving, 0:14:24.920 --> 0:14:27.760 they say like people are eating like I don't know, 0:14:27.880 --> 0:14:32.760 ten thousand calories in one setting for real. Yeah, I 0:14:32.800 --> 0:14:38.720 can't wait be up. So she was saying over the 0:14:38.720 --> 0:14:42.800 weekend that she has been uh, she hasn't eaten meat 0:14:42.880 --> 0:14:46.600 for six years now, and she said, like the little 0:14:46.640 --> 0:14:51.720 turkeys or they'd be like crying right before they get 0:14:51.720 --> 0:14:55.080 slotted because they can hear, like they the peaks before 0:14:55.120 --> 0:14:58.240 them that are dying, and they'd be like crying. And 0:14:59.640 --> 0:15:03.840 for a moment I was like, damn, that's fun up, 0:15:04.880 --> 0:15:06.720 And then I went back to like, maybe some of 0:15:06.720 --> 0:15:13.560 that trauma make the port tastes better because that's the 0:15:13.560 --> 0:15:15.240 type of ship people need to think about before they 0:15:15.280 --> 0:15:17.720 eat me. Now, I'm not here to be a debbie downer, Okay, 0:15:17.800 --> 0:15:19.320 you can meet. I don't give a ship. It ain't 0:15:19.360 --> 0:15:22.240 my body. But you know, when people trying to figure 0:15:22.240 --> 0:15:24.560 out why they feel like a certain way, like why 0:15:24.560 --> 0:15:27.560 am I depressed today? Why am I sad? That fucking meet? 0:15:27.600 --> 0:15:31.240 You just consume. Imagine how that animal felt. And a 0:15:31.440 --> 0:15:35.600 hog in particular releases some type of chemical and the 0:15:35.680 --> 0:15:39.120 meat when they feel threatened. So unless you're eating wild boar, 0:15:40.200 --> 0:15:42.720 eating that farm raised pig is not good for your 0:15:43.000 --> 0:15:46.960 health unless the animal like died unexpectedly, like those animals 0:15:46.960 --> 0:15:51.160 are stressed the funk out. And I'm sl yes, just 0:15:51.360 --> 0:15:54.400 missed me with that miss me with that ship. I'm 0:15:54.400 --> 0:15:57.200 still eating my bacon. I'm still eating my honey baked ham. 0:15:57.360 --> 0:15:59.600 Can't wait to pick it up on whiskey. And how 0:15:59.680 --> 0:16:06.360 you feel left to eat that ship, I'll be sleepy, sluggish, sleepy. 0:16:06.520 --> 0:16:09.800 You don't feel good. I do feel good. I'd be happy, 0:16:10.080 --> 0:16:12.680 I'd be real happy. I'll be high, I'll be full, 0:16:13.120 --> 0:16:17.880 I'll be happy. Me and my cousins, we're gonna race 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:20.560 my niece. I'm gonna raise one of the motherfucker's I'm 0:16:20.560 --> 0:16:23.400 gonna running off. Don't worry about it. And when you 0:16:23.400 --> 0:16:25.240 get sucking home and get on that scale you'll ask 0:16:25.280 --> 0:16:28.120 to be depressing. I'll sucking watching No I see my 0:16:28.160 --> 0:16:34.360 train on Friday morning. That was just one time I 0:16:34.400 --> 0:16:37.520 didn't watch my pussy because I was depressed. We're not 0:16:37.520 --> 0:16:44.200 gonna make it seem like this every month, yo, girl. 0:16:44.240 --> 0:16:48.080 Fuck you. So here's a two ways to cope with 0:16:48.160 --> 0:16:53.360 difficult relatives during the holidays. The first thing you need 0:16:53.400 --> 0:16:55.920 to do number one on the list, and this is 0:16:55.960 --> 0:16:59.440 important not just for the holidays, but just for your life. 0:17:00.160 --> 0:17:05.040 Adjust your attitude. If you're already anticipating that a gathering 0:17:05.080 --> 0:17:08.000 will be stressful, your anxiety may get worse by the 0:17:08.040 --> 0:17:11.560 time the actual gathering begins. Instead of worrying about what 0:17:11.600 --> 0:17:15.240 will happen, choose behaviors that can decrease your anxiety before 0:17:15.280 --> 0:17:18.200 they then do something relaxing, such as practicing yoga, listen 0:17:18.240 --> 0:17:22.040 to music, smug or joint you know, whatever you do. Yeah, 0:17:22.080 --> 0:17:24.280 you know, I agree with this because if you're already 0:17:24.359 --> 0:17:27.600 like dreading the holidays how some people do, and as 0:17:27.640 --> 0:17:29.520 soon as you get to your family's house, like your 0:17:29.600 --> 0:17:32.480 energy are, your energy is going to be that you 0:17:32.480 --> 0:17:35.000 know what I'm saying. So you're gonna be inviting that 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:38.120 ship that you're trying to avoid. So yeah, be positive 0:17:38.160 --> 0:17:40.280 about the holiday city. You know, even if last year, 0:17:40.320 --> 0:17:42.520 the year before it was bad, this year is gonna 0:17:42.520 --> 0:17:45.159 be different. This year is gonna be good. The mountains 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:49.720 ain't gonna be asking you about why an'tran years. Yeah, Like, 0:17:49.880 --> 0:17:56.840 just just go in there with a positive mind, alright. 0:17:57.160 --> 0:18:02.920 Number two, have realistic expect patience as fresh as refreshing 0:18:03.040 --> 0:18:06.919 as it would be if your aunt married didn't criticize 0:18:06.920 --> 0:18:09.080 your outfit this year. She's probably gonna do that, and 0:18:09.080 --> 0:18:10.880 she's probably gonna ask you why you still ain't got 0:18:10.880 --> 0:18:14.040 no babies. But don't don't expect people to change when 0:18:14.080 --> 0:18:17.200 they have behaved in the same way for years. Minimize 0:18:17.240 --> 0:18:20.720 your contact with difficult relatives and spend more time interacting 0:18:20.760 --> 0:18:24.639 with people you like. Okay, damn me, I do agree 0:18:24.640 --> 0:18:27.040 with this one a little tiny bit, right, So yeah, 0:18:27.080 --> 0:18:29.840 sometimes you do try to avoid the cousins that you 0:18:29.880 --> 0:18:32.359 don't funk with, But them cousins always funk with you. 0:18:32.720 --> 0:18:35.400 Them aunts always funk with you, like they literally need 0:18:35.480 --> 0:18:40.000 your fucking energy. That's why they come around ship exactly. 0:18:40.160 --> 0:18:43.400 You know, love and hate is like a thin line, Okay, 0:18:43.520 --> 0:18:46.119 so now I agree with this. It says, you know, 0:18:46.320 --> 0:18:48.200 she probably going to say something of you. The thing 0:18:48.280 --> 0:18:50.679 is that, but she's probably still saying something to you 0:18:50.680 --> 0:18:52.879 because you ain't nipped in the butt all the other years. 0:18:53.040 --> 0:18:57.200 You might disagree with that. But if somebody constantly saying 0:18:57.560 --> 0:18:59.840 about my fucking clothes every time I see you, bit 0:19:00.640 --> 0:19:05.639 this year, the goddamn yere, where's your baby daddy? Bitch 0:19:07.040 --> 0:19:11.040 that you're gonna start ship, you got to ruin these people, 0:19:11.800 --> 0:19:16.399 damn right, No, don't do that, y'all. Just ignore it. 0:19:16.440 --> 0:19:20.000 You're only seeing her for the holiday. Just where would 0:19:20.000 --> 0:19:22.800 you want and forget Aunt Mary? But why she get 0:19:22.840 --> 0:19:26.080 to get off on me every holiday? She's only getting 0:19:26.080 --> 0:19:28.840 to get off because you're allowing it. That's what I'm saying. 0:19:29.280 --> 0:19:33.199 Why you check, you know you're allowing it to affect you. 0:19:33.280 --> 0:19:37.200 Don't let it affect you. Let it roll off your shoulder, like, yeah, 0:19:37.800 --> 0:19:39.880 I think you should say something this year, then next 0:19:39.960 --> 0:19:43.200 year gonna be lit. Once you check that bitch this year, 0:19:44.200 --> 0:19:46.800 she's gonna avoid you next year. She's only doing this 0:19:46.840 --> 0:19:49.919 ship to you because she can once you let her know, 0:19:50.040 --> 0:19:52.800 she can't do that. Listen, Okay, y'all, I'll fight cousins, 0:19:52.840 --> 0:19:54.680 and I'll fight aunt. I've been waiting my whole life 0:19:54.680 --> 0:19:58.720 to fight a aunt. Especially i'm older ones, old ones 0:19:58.760 --> 0:20:01.400 like who've been talking ship? You're old like childhood? Yes, 0:20:01.600 --> 0:20:04.200 y'all hear that, want to fight a sixty year old woman. 0:20:04.359 --> 0:20:08.479 Don't listen to her. Do not listen to her. Just ignore, 0:20:08.520 --> 0:20:11.720 aren't Mary? She's jealous of your outfit? She wish she 0:20:11.720 --> 0:20:17.000 could wear that stuff? Is all right? Next, this is 0:20:17.040 --> 0:20:22.160 a very important one. Keep potentially upsetting topics off limits. 0:20:22.920 --> 0:20:28.879 Don't don't talk about politics, don't talk about abortion rights. 0:20:29.800 --> 0:20:33.280 Don't talk about that ship, Like, leave that off the table. Like, 0:20:34.760 --> 0:20:36.360 if you got some ship that you want to get 0:20:36.359 --> 0:20:40.960 off your chest, do it on Friday or Wednesday. Leave 0:20:41.000 --> 0:20:45.800 it alone on Thursday. Talk about fucking what's your song 0:20:45.800 --> 0:20:48.640 on TikTok with your cousins or something like that. A church, 0:20:50.160 --> 0:20:52.720 keep a cute And this is for the people who 0:20:52.760 --> 0:20:56.119 have the questions. Don't be asking that cousin over thirty 0:20:56.119 --> 0:20:57.960 while she why she don't have no kids yet, because 0:20:58.000 --> 0:21:00.600 you're gonna be kind of embarrassed when you said, oh, 0:21:00.680 --> 0:21:03.960 because you know, I have a big gass fibroid, or 0:21:04.040 --> 0:21:06.560 have a system, my ovar. You know, people have medical 0:21:06.600 --> 0:21:09.160 conditions that they may not share why they don't have 0:21:09.240 --> 0:21:13.879 kids yet, respectful. Yeah, you want them to unpack their 0:21:13.920 --> 0:21:15.960 trauma for you real quick and see on the type. 0:21:15.960 --> 0:21:17.639 I'm gonna be like, Yeah, I don't have two uh 0:21:17.720 --> 0:21:20.280 to pregnancies. You know, I went through the whole little 0:21:20.400 --> 0:21:24.160 um testing my eggs and all that ship just last year. 0:21:24.200 --> 0:21:26.640 You know, God willing I might get one. You're gonna 0:21:26.680 --> 0:21:29.159 feel embarrassed because now you have forced me to actually 0:21:29.200 --> 0:21:32.879 answer your fucking question, bitch about where when I'm have 0:21:33.040 --> 0:21:38.680 some kids. But religion, keep that. Let's listen, especially on Christmas. 0:21:38.720 --> 0:21:40.959 All of my fucking atheists. Let's let them people how 0:21:41.040 --> 0:21:45.480 they God don't be at the table on Christmas, Thanksgiving. 0:21:46.080 --> 0:21:49.520 I see this. This this ain't even know real holiday, 0:21:49.920 --> 0:21:52.679 y'all celebrating the white man's holiday. Listen, just take it 0:21:52.680 --> 0:21:58.600 as a time to fellowship with family. Yeah, yeah, don't 0:21:58.600 --> 0:22:02.199 be making people uncomfortable. I do be doing that Thanksgiving though, 0:22:02.200 --> 0:22:12.920 I ain't gonna lie. I mean, like happy smallpox blanket Day. 0:22:12.359 --> 0:22:14.160 I did say I ain't gonna do that this year. 0:22:14.320 --> 0:22:17.399 You're stupid. Yeah, don't bring Trump up or Kanye at 0:22:17.440 --> 0:22:21.240 the table right about the vote Democratic for the DAYMN 0:22:21.240 --> 0:22:26.160 sixty time. I'm gonna be mad, right, And please don't 0:22:26.240 --> 0:22:29.320 go up there telling everybody how you ate. Oh goodness, 0:22:29.880 --> 0:22:33.199 just keep that to yourself. If they ask you if 0:22:33.200 --> 0:22:36.159 you voted in the recent local elections, just lie and 0:22:36.200 --> 0:22:38.880 tell him, yeah, I voted for such and such if 0:22:38.880 --> 0:22:40.960 you didn't, and yeah if you didn't, Just just lie, 0:22:41.960 --> 0:22:46.840 all right. Number four, except that the only thing you 0:22:46.920 --> 0:22:51.320 control is your reaction. Yes, that's what I was saying. 0:22:52.080 --> 0:22:54.680 Don't let that ship affect you. Just let it roll 0:22:54.800 --> 0:22:58.399 off your shoulder. But if I take my hands and 0:22:58.440 --> 0:23:02.720 put around your neck, see that's still like control. No, 0:23:02.960 --> 0:23:07.840 that's going to jail, trying to go to thank physical control. 0:23:08.480 --> 0:23:10.280 If you go to gel and Thanksgiving, you ain't gonna 0:23:10.320 --> 0:23:15.560 see that judge till Monday. Damn. Like that turkey and 0:23:15.560 --> 0:23:20.000 there partly tastes different too. And I heard they give 0:23:20.040 --> 0:23:21.600 you something to drink in there that make you like 0:23:22.280 --> 0:23:26.080 not horny. Really, I might be wrong. That might somebody 0:23:26.280 --> 0:23:29.560 might have been lying to me as much as fucking 0:23:29.600 --> 0:23:32.600 these niggas doing present. I doubt that very serious seat. 0:23:34.320 --> 0:23:40.679 It's called soft Peter, Yeah, Google, all right, it's eliminade 0:23:42.760 --> 0:23:46.919 like yellow yea yellow fives in it. M hmm. So 0:23:46.960 --> 0:23:49.280 it says you can't stop people from bringing up controversial 0:23:49.600 --> 0:23:52.840 subjects or asking real questions, but you can't monitor and 0:23:52.880 --> 0:23:55.240 modify your own reactions. So this is some ship I 0:23:55.240 --> 0:23:58.800 gotta work on in life, yesterday, life Today, life, thanksgiving, 0:23:58.840 --> 0:24:02.800 life like whenever. Is to try not to respond those 0:24:02.840 --> 0:24:05.359 people on you at that right when they do that? 0:24:05.520 --> 0:24:09.560 So what can you say to avoid the conversation? All right, 0:24:09.600 --> 0:24:12.880 I'm yeah married. M hmm. On that shirt show got 0:24:12.920 --> 0:24:17.400 a lot of cleavage out. Do you like it? Mm hmm. 0:24:17.560 --> 0:24:21.560 You look like a lady of the night. See like 0:24:21.640 --> 0:24:26.360 I'm automatically like run out. What can I say? Look, 0:24:26.440 --> 0:24:28.159 give me, give me some tips. What could I pos? 0:24:28.640 --> 0:24:32.280 You come out? Let's not get into that. I'm Mary. 0:24:32.560 --> 0:24:34.879 Did you listen to We Talked Back Today? You really 0:24:34.920 --> 0:24:37.119 should listen to that podcast. It's a really good show. 0:24:37.720 --> 0:24:39.639 Oh I'm gonna go over here. I'll be right back, Mary. 0:24:39.680 --> 0:24:50.919 I love you, You're nice. You're fucking people like the 0:24:51.040 --> 0:24:53.800