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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter voted best subject, Why is

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Speaker 1: your mama always drunk? Yes? And the award goes to

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Speaker 1: all Right, Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm married to a man

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Speaker 1: that can't control his mother. We've been married for two years.

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Speaker 1: For two years, and I've dealt with this since I

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Speaker 1: met him. His mother went through a late life crisis

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Speaker 1: and has started shopping at Forever twenty one and hanging

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Speaker 1: out at cafes at night. I have warned her about COVID,

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Speaker 1: but she says alcohol kills the virus. If that's the case,

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Speaker 1: she won't need the vaccination because she is always a

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Speaker 1: little tipsy when we see her. She's always got a

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Speaker 1: yetti cup full of wine with her, and she rambles

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Speaker 1: on and repeats herself a lot My husband and I

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Speaker 1: live in a nice enough neighborhood and there's an older

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Speaker 1: man that lives with his daughter next door to us.

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Speaker 1: He sits in the yard in the evenings, and my

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Speaker 1: husband's mom has made it her business to get all

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Speaker 1: in his business. She told us that he's single and

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Speaker 1: he just broke up with his girlfriend, so she's ready

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Speaker 1: to make a move on him. I told her to

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Speaker 1: leave that man alone. Two days later, I noticed her

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Speaker 1: car was in our driveway, but I didn't see her.

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Speaker 1: I went next door and looked in the front window,

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Speaker 1: and I saw her with the neighbor and it looked

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Speaker 1: like they were having sex. I told my husband, and

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Speaker 1: he wanted to go next door, but I told him

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Speaker 1: not to. The next thing we know, there's a knock

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Speaker 1: on the door from the man, and he said that

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Speaker 1: my husband's mom was passed out drunk in his living room.

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Speaker 1: My husband embarrassed, and he quickly went next door to

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Speaker 1: get his mom. He still won't tell his mom to

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Speaker 1: cut it out and act her age. Should I intervene

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Speaker 1: and talk to her or should I mind my business

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Speaker 1: and let my husband handle it? Please advise, I mean,

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Speaker 1: what do you think you can do at this point,

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Speaker 1: your husband hasn't done anything. Let your husband handle it.

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Speaker 1: He hasn't handled it. This is a grown woman who

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Speaker 1: has a drinking problem. She drinks, that's why she's always drunk. Right,

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Speaker 1: You said yourself that you have dealt with this for

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Speaker 1: two years. Two years, and that's how long you've been

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Speaker 1: married to your husband, so you knew this was going

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Speaker 1: on before you guys got married. I mean, you even

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Speaker 1: warned her about COVID, but she had a clapback for that,

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Speaker 1: saying alcohol kills the virus. What mama? So right there,

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Speaker 1: she's not trying to hear anything you have to say

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Speaker 1: to her. And as far as your husband, her son,

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Speaker 1: you see, he can't control her. He can't say anything.

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Speaker 1: He's not going to say anything. It might be afraid

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Speaker 1: to say anything to his mom. You know how that is.

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Speaker 1: She's definitely an embarrassment. I get that, but you're gonna

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Speaker 1: have to let this play out because you guys can't

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Speaker 1: do anything, and she's already out of control. She's doing

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Speaker 1: whatever she wants to do. And the last time I checked,

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Speaker 1: passing out drunk over a man's house that you're trying

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Speaker 1: to get with, that's not sexy, and that doesn't get

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Speaker 1: you in. So maybe you could tell her that, maybe

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Speaker 1: that'll help, But I don't think anything's gonna help. She

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Speaker 1: wants to drink and do whatever she wants to do,

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Speaker 1: hang out at cafes. Did you say at night? All right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: go ahead, Steve, Well, I don't know. You've been married

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Speaker 1: to a man that you say can't control his mama.

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Speaker 1: Who can control a mama? Right? That's that's a tough

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Speaker 1: one right there now. And you've been dealing with this

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Speaker 1: since you met her. Now here's a problem. His mother

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Speaker 1: went through a life life crisis and has started shopping

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Speaker 1: at Forever one and hang out of cafes at night

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Speaker 1: Forever twenty one. Now the reason, See when you when

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Speaker 1: you're old and you shop at Forever twenty one, you

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Speaker 1: in that outfit. See the reason they named the store

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Speaker 1: Forever twenty one. It's so they can attract the younger crowd. Yes,

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Speaker 1: they didn't mean that if you put this on, you

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Speaker 1: when you put clothes on that you ain't got no

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Speaker 1: how No, she old, so you've warned her about it.

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Speaker 1: She hang out of cafes and night. She said that

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Speaker 1: the virus. Now, if that ain't an old ass remedy,

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Speaker 1: I don't know who it is. You got to be

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Speaker 1: she don't need the fascination. And then she's always high

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Speaker 1: when you see it, she got it now, this is

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Speaker 1: this is when you really high. She ain't got a

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Speaker 1: solo cup. She don't have a paper cup. This old

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Speaker 1: heffer got a YETI cup full of liquor. Yetti cup

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Speaker 1: that means it can stay the same temperature for hours. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she a professional drinker. She got the same feeling the

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Speaker 1: whole way through that damn yetti cup. Yeah, even rappers

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Speaker 1: My husband and I y'all live in a nice neighborhood,

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Speaker 1: and as an older man that lives with his daughter

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Speaker 1: next door to y'all, he sits in yarding the evening

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Speaker 1: that my husband's mom has made it her business to

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Speaker 1: get all up in his business. Well, you you made

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Speaker 1: that statement, but what you really didn't know was what

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Speaker 1: she was really trying to get all up in. And

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Speaker 1: it wasn't just his business, it was his house. And

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Speaker 1: then she told us he's single and broke up with

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Speaker 1: when we come back, I'll explain to you everything else

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Speaker 1: that happened in this lattitude. All right, Steve? All right,

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Speaker 1: we can't wait. Part two of Steve's response is coming

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Speaker 1: up at twenty three minutes after the hour, subject it's

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Speaker 1: our favorite, why is your mama always drunk? We'll get

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Speaker 1: back into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Come on, let's recap today's Strawberry letter, the subject why

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Speaker 1: is your mama always drunk? Why? Well, this man's mama.

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Speaker 1: You've been married to him for two years and you're

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Speaker 1: ben't dealt with the drinking since she met him. Is

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Speaker 1: started shopping at Forever twenty one. You didn't say how

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Speaker 1: old she was, but she's probably doubled at so she

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Speaker 1: should probably be shopping at Forever Senior citizens. But No,

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Speaker 1: she's at forever when it won Where is that store?

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Speaker 1: That's a new store I'm thinking about opening. Quit acting

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Speaker 1: at your age, not your shoe side. You know she

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Speaker 1: don't care nothing about COVID because she drinking enough. She

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Speaker 1: said alcohol kills the virus. She's a professional drinker. Because

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Speaker 1: come it ain't in the style phone call. This woman

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Speaker 1: carries her look around in a damn yetti. She's investing,

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Speaker 1: yet he comes are expensive. She's invested in keeping her

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Speaker 1: alcohol at premium temperature. That's to be. That's an alcoholic

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Speaker 1: when you got to keep it right at the same

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Speaker 1: in it or nothing. Three degree. Yeah. Now it's a

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Speaker 1: man next door that she'd have made it her business

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Speaker 1: to get to know him, because he'd have told her

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Speaker 1: a girlfriend. So now she gonna make a move on it.

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Speaker 1: You told her to lead that man alone. Who are you? Old?

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Speaker 1: People need love to lead that man alone. Maybe that

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Speaker 1: like it when you get old, somebody tell you leave

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Speaker 1: you alone. You're just sitting over there by your damn self.

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Speaker 1: See that. I think she was doing a Christian thing. Really,

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Speaker 1: just for now, just for now, right? Will soon find

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Speaker 1: out in a couple of lines that this wasn't real

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Speaker 1: churchy after all. Two days later you noticed her car

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Speaker 1: focus on. I went next door and looked in the

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Speaker 1: front window. What wavering lad? What your your busy body?

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Speaker 1: Has you so damn nosy? You went next door, walked

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Speaker 1: front window. Do you not know that's illegal? Peeping? Tom

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Speaker 1: is illegal? Neighborhood man, you can't do that. Who is

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Speaker 1: you mean it looked like they were having sex? Right?

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Speaker 1: How you having sex and it don't look like it?

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Speaker 1: You know, I've had some sex, did it? Every time

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Speaker 1: I've had it? It looked like I was having it?

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Speaker 1: It just ain't no way. It ain't no way. You

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Speaker 1: is an activity, it's not a reading suggestion. Yeah, you

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Speaker 1: she was full. Yeah, so he thought he had killed her,

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Speaker 1: she didn't passed out because she drunk. He'd left out

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Speaker 1: the part of what he was doing to her because

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Speaker 1: So he just came and told you she drunk. He

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Speaker 1: put her out. Okay, my husband was embarrassing. He quickly

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Speaker 1: quickly went next door to get his mom, Len go

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Speaker 1: his mama to cut it out in that day? Should

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Speaker 1: I intervene to tell Yeah, yeah, go ahead, take your nose,

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Speaker 1: on porch, getting ladders, looking end and stuff, a telescope

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Speaker 1: dissecting sexual movements. Hell yeah, in a field, all right,

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