WEBVTT - Spiritual STD's and Jumping Timelines 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.520 Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife. 0:00:03.680 --> 0:00:04.280 She couldn't. 0:00:04.440 --> 0:00:06.840 She cleaned and cared for her children and the man 0:00:06.880 --> 0:00:09.680 of the house, and of course she didn't talk back. 0:00:09.800 --> 0:00:12.640 She was both obedient and soft by nature. She was 0:00:12.680 --> 0:00:17.079 a good woman who always made good choices. That shit, 0:00:17.440 --> 0:00:18.759 we're good mom's bad choices. 0:00:18.800 --> 0:00:21.520 Who single mom who said fuck the patriarchy shared all 0:00:21.520 --> 0:00:22.720 their bad choices. 0:00:22.320 --> 0:00:23.600 And sound out they were so bad. 0:00:23.640 --> 0:00:26.600 After all, we're experts, overshares and your new besties. 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:29.320 Sit back and enjoy the ride. I can do it. 0:00:32.440 --> 0:00:35.040 Welcome back to good Mom's bad Choices. I'm Erica and 0:00:35.080 --> 0:00:38.880 I'm Meila. Happy hump Day, bitches, Happy med the fucking 0:00:38.960 --> 0:00:43.120 hemp day. It is SmackDown mid January. Are in the middle. 0:00:43.240 --> 0:00:45.760 I can't fucking believe it. I'm like, what the fuck? 0:00:46.720 --> 0:00:50.600 Why is time moving so fast? So fast? I'm so annoyed. 0:00:50.640 --> 0:00:52.760 I literally was on the way here, like damn man, Like, 0:00:52.800 --> 0:00:54.920 can we just push pause for two weeks? 0:00:54.960 --> 0:00:59.040 I need everything to chill. Well, we've had a very 0:00:59.080 --> 0:01:02.720 eventful like beginning of January, so you probably do. 0:01:03.320 --> 0:01:05.119 I'm just like, there is I just feel like there's 0:01:05.120 --> 0:01:07.800 so many birthdays and celebrations and trips, and I'm like, 0:01:08.959 --> 0:01:11.000 can I just wash clothes last week? 0:01:11.160 --> 0:01:14.160 Like clothes, You're you're already planning your next trip. I 0:01:14.200 --> 0:01:15.440 was like, damn, bitch. 0:01:16.000 --> 0:01:18.160 My husband's turning thirty five. He's like, you plan it. 0:01:18.240 --> 0:01:23.000 I'm like, okay, house party, I'm thirty five. I'm like, 0:01:23.440 --> 0:01:25.200 can we keep our coins for one more month? 0:01:25.400 --> 0:01:29.240 Shit? Got it? Orlando? You got the AIRPNP but on 0:01:29.280 --> 0:01:32.360 the credit card. Got it. She's trying to get me 0:01:32.400 --> 0:01:34.960 go to New York. I want to go again. Oh lord. 0:01:35.120 --> 0:01:37.720 I's like, come on, it's my first party in New York. 0:01:37.840 --> 0:01:41.120 I'm like, first party. We're rock stars. I'm like a 0:01:41.240 --> 0:01:43.840 rock star. Oh my god, Oh my goodness. 0:01:44.040 --> 0:01:46.520 And yeah, So I feel like time swimming so fast, 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:50.000 and I keep thinking about twenty twenty and how we 0:01:50.160 --> 0:01:50.640 have anything. 0:01:52.280 --> 0:01:55.880 You think that this little past three episodes. Let's give 0:01:55.880 --> 0:01:58.240 me your hand. It's not coming back. It's not coming back, babe. 0:01:58.280 --> 0:02:01.640 I'm sorry, COVID three. It's it's six years ago. But 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:03.680 it was such a good time, and you know, first 0:02:03.720 --> 0:02:05.480 it was scary, but then I know it was a 0:02:05.480 --> 0:02:08.239 big moment for us. Good time. We didn't do a 0:02:08.280 --> 0:02:12.720 lot some hairstyles. I cut her hair. There was a 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:14.720 lot going on. Our kids were smaller, they were cuter, 0:02:14.840 --> 0:02:15.480 more agreeable. 0:02:15.560 --> 0:02:20.320 There's mushrooms and backyards and nobody was on the highway. Yeah, 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:22.400 you didn't have to wear any clothes. I really got 0:02:22.400 --> 0:02:24.079 my sweatpant game up that year. 0:02:24.200 --> 0:02:27.600 We got accidental. We got accidental boyfriends, speaking of which 0:02:27.639 --> 0:02:29.519 I ran into at the the other night. At that party, 0:02:29.680 --> 0:02:31.160 this guy came up to me and was like, you 0:02:31.240 --> 0:02:34.280 know who I am? And I was like, you're The 0:02:34.320 --> 0:02:36.480 face looks familiar. He's like, you don't remember me, do you? 0:02:36.520 --> 0:02:38.880 And I no, No, I do know your face, but 0:02:38.919 --> 0:02:41.000 I just don't who are you. I don't want of 0:02:41.040 --> 0:02:42.880 people detest me in public? Niggah, Where do I know 0:02:42.880 --> 0:02:46.160 you from? And he was like poetry Bay, scammer bay. 0:02:46.360 --> 0:02:48.079 Why would he call him that? He didn't. I'm just 0:02:48.120 --> 0:02:50.959 not gonna say that his name. I'm not going to 0:02:51.000 --> 0:02:54.600 give that man credit here. And I was like, oh shit. 0:02:54.680 --> 0:02:56.239 He's like have you talked to him? I was like, hell, no, 0:02:56.520 --> 0:02:58.200 have you? He was like no, I thought you would. 0:02:58.240 --> 0:03:01.440 I'm like, no, haiga, he's probably some more scamming a 0:03:01.440 --> 0:03:04.359 new bitch. He is in New York. He's in New York. Yeah, 0:03:04.400 --> 0:03:07.120 he lives in New York. I think, what a loser. Yeah, 0:03:07.160 --> 0:03:09.239 all the losers moved to New York or live there. 0:03:09.400 --> 0:03:11.239 Just kidding. I love New York. I love you guys. 0:03:12.000 --> 0:03:13.560 I actually do really love New York. It's my favorite 0:03:13.560 --> 0:03:14.079 place on Earth. 0:03:14.280 --> 0:03:18.400 I love New York too. I just I don't you know, 0:03:18.440 --> 0:03:19.960 I don't have a lot of friends there. I always go, 0:03:20.000 --> 0:03:22.320 I'm mean, I have Ashley, but I'm always like that 0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:23.359 was more popular here. 0:03:23.400 --> 0:03:27.600 You always say that, like, who can have lunch with nobody? 0:03:28.600 --> 0:03:30.400 You know, to get my friend, you just gotta hit 0:03:30.480 --> 0:03:32.600 up the discord. We have bitches in New York. Actually, 0:03:32.880 --> 0:03:35.920 we got our homegrowl in Connecticut. Whose who will come over? Oh, 0:03:36.280 --> 0:03:38.760 Addieth call her? Yeah, there's a couple of people we 0:03:38.880 --> 0:03:39.240 have people. 0:03:41.320 --> 0:03:43.760 I'm supposed to go to New York this weekend with Nanetia, 0:03:43.960 --> 0:03:49.480 and she's texting me this morning and I'm like, it's 0:03:49.480 --> 0:03:53.880 okay to say no, I know, I know, but yeah, 0:03:53.920 --> 0:03:57.320 it was just January is going to buy really fast. 0:03:57.360 --> 0:04:00.120 Twenty twenty six is here. I feel like sooner as 0:04:00.160 --> 0:04:02.840 the year starts, it's gonna be over in twenty In 0:04:02.840 --> 0:04:05.240 a blink of flash in a fucking hurry. 0:04:05.360 --> 0:04:08.320 I'm not I'm not subscribing to this. I'm not either. 0:04:08.320 --> 0:04:10.360 I'm just telling you what time starting right now, everything's 0:04:10.360 --> 0:04:12.120 moving slower, you hear me, right now? 0:04:13.880 --> 0:04:18.120 Okay, Yeah, it's been a good year though it popped 0:04:18.160 --> 0:04:21.360 off immediately. Great, I feel good. I just need like, 0:04:21.720 --> 0:04:24.120 I like, I want to move slower. I just want 0:04:24.160 --> 0:04:26.560 to have I wish each day was forty eight hours. 0:04:27.040 --> 0:04:28.920 That'll be great, you know it? Can we like can 0:04:28.920 --> 0:04:30.719 we change? Like who even made it? Twenty four? Like 0:04:30.720 --> 0:04:31.239 who said? 0:04:31.440 --> 0:04:33.960 And who is a person who said okay and go 0:04:34.120 --> 0:04:36.520 one two day one day two? 0:04:36.560 --> 0:04:39.359 This is your one? Like who made up time? I 0:04:39.400 --> 0:04:41.360 hate it? I don't know. But what I really need 0:04:41.480 --> 0:04:44.320 is for Daylight Savings to stop, to stop. It gets 0:04:44.440 --> 0:04:46.800 it gets, it gets dark really early. I needed to end. 0:04:47.120 --> 0:04:49.240 It's like, I don't know why we're still doing this shit. 0:04:49.360 --> 0:04:51.640 It's like, is it supposed to? Are they trying to 0:04:51.680 --> 0:04:54.160 cause seasonal depression? Like I'm pretty sure they're trying to 0:04:54.200 --> 0:04:55.000 manipulate our brains. 0:04:55.040 --> 0:04:56.960 I mean, they're definitely trying to manipulate our brains, but 0:04:57.000 --> 0:05:00.000 more so, they're trying to manipulate time. 0:05:00.200 --> 0:05:02.520 Because I always say this, and I'll say it again. 0:05:03.000 --> 0:05:05.680 Where are you putting the hour? Because they I just 0:05:05.680 --> 0:05:08.640 saw on Instagram posts like don't worry guys. Starting next month, 0:05:09.480 --> 0:05:12.960 nightfall will start at six pm instead of four thirty, 0:05:13.360 --> 0:05:16.240 and then in April it will be seven And I'm like, 0:05:16.320 --> 0:05:19.960 oh great, we gotta keep waiting. It does I don't 0:05:19.960 --> 0:05:22.760 They only do it once a year, right, I guess 0:05:22.760 --> 0:05:25.919 over the next few months, it starts, the sun's sunrise starts, 0:05:25.960 --> 0:05:27.760 the sunset starts to happen a little bit later, a 0:05:27.760 --> 0:05:30.760 little bit later, and by I want to say May, 0:05:31.040 --> 0:05:33.799 it's around like eight o'clock or like seven thirty or something, 0:05:33.920 --> 0:05:37.480 and a reasonable time, not four forty five in the afternoon. 0:05:38.680 --> 0:05:43.320 So yeah, I don't get it. Still still don't get it. 0:05:44.800 --> 0:05:47.919 How are you? What's going on? I'm good. I'm good. 0:05:48.080 --> 0:05:51.679 I uh have a child that's sick from school today. 0:05:51.720 --> 0:05:54.680 A lot of shit happened actually today my child. Last night, 0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:58.520 I'm pretty sure I poisoned diary. I made her pasta 0:05:59.160 --> 0:06:01.480 and I I used some pasta sauce. I mean, I 0:06:01.600 --> 0:06:04.000 used some pizza sauce, which is the same shit. They're 0:06:04.000 --> 0:06:06.120 just like repackaging shit and calling it pizza sauce. So 0:06:06.120 --> 0:06:07.719 I used a pizza sauce and it had been opened 0:06:08.000 --> 0:06:09.880 maybe for like a week and a half, maybe longer, 0:06:09.920 --> 0:06:12.120 I don't know. I thought, like refrigerator. It was a refrigerator, 0:06:12.120 --> 0:06:14.560 of course, and I looked at it and I looked around. 0:06:14.600 --> 0:06:16.000 I was like, eh, it looks fine, and I put 0:06:16.000 --> 0:06:18.480 it in and then like thirty minutes later, she's like, well, 0:06:18.600 --> 0:06:22.640 my stomach hurts. I feel that feeling like like last 0:06:22.640 --> 0:06:25.000 time when I projectile vomited it. Did she hear you 0:06:25.080 --> 0:06:28.000 say that? It's no? She said no. That's why I 0:06:28.040 --> 0:06:30.960 was like, oh fuck, And like I was gonna have 0:06:31.040 --> 0:06:32.200 some of her pasta too. I was like, do you 0:06:32.200 --> 0:06:33.920 want some? She's like, I'll have more, and I was like, fuck, 0:06:33.960 --> 0:06:36.160 I want some of that, And then thank god I didn't. 0:06:36.160 --> 0:06:39.320 Did she projected al voma? No? But like generally, like 0:06:39.400 --> 0:06:41.240 usually when I re said she's not feeling well, I've 0:06:41.279 --> 0:06:43.279 learned because I'm like one of those parents never believes 0:06:43.320 --> 0:06:47.840 her kid working on it. It's called trauma childiod trauma. 0:06:47.839 --> 0:06:50.760 Because my mom did that to me. Generally, She's like 0:06:51.240 --> 0:06:54.039 she's pretty truthful about like not feeling well. So I 0:06:54.080 --> 0:06:57.240 was like okay, So this morning. She woke me up 0:06:57.240 --> 0:06:58.919 at like five forty five in the morning saying her 0:06:58.960 --> 0:07:02.279 stomach was still hurting, and so I was like, Okay, 0:07:02.320 --> 0:07:04.960 what are we gonna do? Then? Also, I'm babysitting. Apparently 0:07:04.960 --> 0:07:09.080 I'm co parenting with my baby daddy's dog. My baby 0:07:09.160 --> 0:07:12.559 daddy bought my daughter a golden doodle and it's fucking 0:07:12.560 --> 0:07:15.240 adorable and I love the dog, and so I told him, like, 0:07:15.240 --> 0:07:16.400 when you go out of town, you can bring it 0:07:16.440 --> 0:07:18.080 over here, and so he dropped it off. But I 0:07:18.080 --> 0:07:20.040 haven't heard from him. Yeah, because I heard it. I 0:07:20.040 --> 0:07:21.920 haven't heard from him in two days. I'm like, niggah, 0:07:22.200 --> 0:07:23.480 I gotta go to work. What am I gonna do 0:07:23.520 --> 0:07:25.080 with this dog? You should have never agreed to that. 0:07:25.120 --> 0:07:26.400 I mean, I love the dog. With the dog is 0:07:26.400 --> 0:07:28.040 here at the studio now. Because I had nowhere to go, 0:07:28.120 --> 0:07:29.480 I was gonna put the dog in the car while 0:07:29.480 --> 0:07:31.200 I went to the gym. But thank god, my daughter 0:07:31.240 --> 0:07:32.520 was sick so she could baby sit the dog while 0:07:32.520 --> 0:07:33.600 I went to the gym. And now the dog is 0:07:33.640 --> 0:07:36.240 here with the with the kid. And on top of that, 0:07:36.280 --> 0:07:37.880 I just got a call that my boyfriend got in 0:07:37.920 --> 0:07:40.960 a car accident in my car. So you know, everything 0:07:41.040 --> 0:07:48.600 is great today. Everything is great. Okay, Okay, I'm alive 0:07:48.880 --> 0:07:52.440 and so is he, and that's all that matters. But yeah, 0:07:52.080 --> 0:07:54.440 I'm he got in a hit and run accident about 0:07:54.440 --> 0:07:57.480 twenty minutes ago. Seconds. Let's just say a prayer for 0:07:57.600 --> 0:08:03.040 chakem in my car. How are you well? Had a 0:08:03.120 --> 0:08:07.240 nightmare last night? Oh, tell me about it. I don't know. 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:09.840 We were together and there was a man stalking us. 0:08:09.840 --> 0:08:11.800 They're stalking me, They're trying to get in and like 0:08:11.920 --> 0:08:13.200 man or men? A man? 0:08:13.280 --> 0:08:15.240 What do you look like? Hit? 0:08:15.280 --> 0:08:18.640 A very heavy beard, like a dyed beard, like someone's 0:08:18.640 --> 0:08:19.520 baby daddy that we know. 0:08:19.920 --> 0:08:22.040 Was he black? Yeah? Oh okay, that's all I can 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:23.600 really remember. And it was so bad. 0:08:23.640 --> 0:08:25.960 Like also, do you experience like I just started my 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:29.400 cycle yet, like yesterday, and I feel like I sweat, 0:08:29.720 --> 0:08:31.840 like when I I thought it was just like sometimes 0:08:31.840 --> 0:08:32.880 that I have night sweats. 0:08:32.920 --> 0:08:35.199 But like Perry, menopause, can. 0:08:35.040 --> 0:08:37.839 You not say that that is not the only thing 0:08:37.880 --> 0:08:40.520 that means that is very disrespectful and assumptive. 0:08:40.720 --> 0:08:44.079 You're not daying you're in menopause. It's called perimenopause. Is 0:08:44.120 --> 0:08:46.720 not the only apparently between the ages of thirty five 0:08:46.800 --> 0:08:49.160 to forty two, we are our bodies are already entering 0:08:49.200 --> 0:08:50.199 into perimenopause. 0:08:50.440 --> 0:08:53.960 My mother is not even menopause yet and she's almost 0:08:54.000 --> 0:08:56.600 sixty second of all. You know, I have aspirations to 0:08:56.640 --> 0:08:57.360 have a child that. 0:08:57.360 --> 0:09:00.000 Is not you can't have a child during pen and perimenopause. 0:09:00.320 --> 0:09:02.880 I don't ever beat that. Okay. I was just asking you. 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:07.720 Or on your cycle, I asked you to fucking talk 0:09:07.760 --> 0:09:10.400 when you're on your cycle, do you feel like you 0:09:10.480 --> 0:09:11.120 sweat at night? 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:13.520 No? I turned into a cycle path because. 0:09:13.280 --> 0:09:15.360 I was talking to I think Ashley, and she was like, yeah, 0:09:15.400 --> 0:09:18.040 when I get hot at night when I'm I'm on 0:09:18.120 --> 0:09:19.720 my cycle. I was like, I didn't think about the 0:09:19.760 --> 0:09:21.320 cycle part anyway. 0:09:21.559 --> 0:09:22.520 I had a nightmare. 0:09:22.600 --> 0:09:26.199 I fucking woke up and fucking heaps the sweat, and 0:09:26.240 --> 0:09:29.679 I was like, Orlando, He's like what this guy had 0:09:29.679 --> 0:09:32.640 a good nightmare. And I didn't fel like getting up 0:09:32.640 --> 0:09:34.920 to like put a towel or change the sheet, so 0:09:34.920 --> 0:09:37.800 I just rolled over. But I was like it was traumatic. 0:09:37.840 --> 0:09:39.640 I felt very traumatized. In the middle of the night, 0:09:39.679 --> 0:09:43.000 I'm like sweating, someone's chasing as and then like I 0:09:43.040 --> 0:09:45.320 had a live show but I was by myself. I 0:09:45.480 --> 0:09:48.480 was so weird. I'm like, why am I getting stalked 0:09:49.000 --> 0:09:51.200 maybe beaten? And then also I'm at a live show. 0:09:51.240 --> 0:09:52.040 It was a lot going on. 0:09:52.160 --> 0:09:55.280 But I had a similar dream the other night, but 0:09:55.320 --> 0:09:57.680 you weren't in it. But I had a dream that 0:09:57.960 --> 0:10:00.760 two white men, one with a big beard, was trying 0:10:00.800 --> 0:10:03.480 to break into my house and I and I didn't 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:06.199 have I knew they were trying to steal my money, 0:10:06.240 --> 0:10:08.240 and so I tried to open the safe, but I 0:10:08.280 --> 0:10:10.160 was so nervous that my hands like couldn't like puitch 0:10:10.200 --> 0:10:11.560 the button. So and then I just threw the whole 0:10:11.559 --> 0:10:14.320 safe in a suitcase, and Iri was with me. And 0:10:14.360 --> 0:10:15.839 then I was like, oh my god, wait, I have 0:10:15.880 --> 0:10:17.480 a gun, because I do have a gun in my house, 0:10:17.480 --> 0:10:19.560 and so I remembered where it was, but I wasn't 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:21.840 in my house. I was like in the countryside, but 0:10:21.920 --> 0:10:24.800 the gun was in the dresser that it is actually 0:10:24.840 --> 0:10:26.720 in my house. And and then I went to go 0:10:26.760 --> 0:10:29.280 put the the what is it called the magazine in 0:10:29.679 --> 0:10:31.880 and it wasn't like getting in, and then finally I 0:10:31.880 --> 0:10:33.600 got it in and I was like okay, And so 0:10:33.679 --> 0:10:35.720 I went downstairs like ready to shoot them, and then 0:10:35.720 --> 0:10:37.960 I kept hitting it and nothing was happening, and then 0:10:38.000 --> 0:10:41.040 they grabbed me and they started taking me out of 0:10:41.040 --> 0:10:43.440 the house and then they were like, you stay to Iri, 0:10:43.559 --> 0:10:44.920 and then they closed the door and it was just 0:10:45.000 --> 0:10:46.600 them and Iri in the house. And I woke up 0:10:46.679 --> 0:10:50.959 fucking hysterically crying. And then I was like, Okay, it's 0:10:51.000 --> 0:10:52.560 just a dream. And I tried to go back to sleep, 0:10:52.600 --> 0:10:54.319 and then I felt guilty for going back to sleep 0:10:54.320 --> 0:10:56.640 after such a fucked up dream. Not guilt, yeah, like 0:10:56.640 --> 0:10:58.200 how could I go back to sleep after these two 0:10:58.200 --> 0:10:59.760 men are like going to take my daughter? Like I 0:10:59.800 --> 0:11:03.760 was just it's not really so anyway, I really I 0:11:03.840 --> 0:11:04.360 was fucked up. 0:11:04.440 --> 0:11:05.600 I was like, I haven't had a nightmare a really 0:11:05.640 --> 0:11:07.520 long time, maybe because I didn't smugle weed last night. 0:11:08.320 --> 0:11:11.400 But you have a weapon in your house. I have 0:11:11.440 --> 0:11:17.280 a nailed wood piece she Come's been giving me. After 0:11:17.320 --> 0:11:20.000 that dream, he gave me another gun lesson, So I 0:11:20.000 --> 0:11:21.720 think it's time. I think it's time. No, I really 0:11:21.720 --> 0:11:24.160 do need you need a weapon in your home. I 0:11:24.160 --> 0:11:25.600 have one in my home. I need to feel more 0:11:25.600 --> 0:11:28.520 secure using the weapon, and we need to just literally 0:11:29.040 --> 0:11:31.720 get with cha. Can and do come over and do 0:11:31.800 --> 0:11:34.400 these practices and then go to the shooting range. I'm down. 0:11:34.760 --> 0:11:35.920 I've been saying that for a long time. 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:40.320 You know, I feel militant, Like there's a militant side 0:11:40.320 --> 0:11:41.640 of me I haven't awakened yet. 0:11:41.760 --> 0:11:43.040 So I'm yeah, I'm down. 0:11:43.080 --> 0:11:46.840 And especially when we'd times like every time I see 0:11:46.840 --> 0:11:51.760 like one of these ridiculous fucking ice pullovers, in my head, 0:11:51.800 --> 0:11:55.840 I'm like thinking of the ways we should take them out. 0:11:57.400 --> 0:12:00.960 But it's just, yeah, I just violent. I believe in 0:12:01.480 --> 0:12:03.880 gun laws. I believe everyone should have the right to carry. 0:12:04.160 --> 0:12:05.679 I believe everyone should have one. Well, now you can 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:07.160 open carry in California, you can't. 0:12:07.360 --> 0:12:09.640 I think they just passed that. There's no way. I'm 0:12:09.679 --> 0:12:12.160 like pretty sure California has been had. 0:12:12.200 --> 0:12:17.280 This has the strictest, like the most strict carry laws 0:12:17.320 --> 0:12:19.800 in like the country, Like you can have a gun, 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:21.160 we're not supposed to travel with it, and if you 0:12:21.160 --> 0:12:22.720 do travel, it's supposed to be locked in your glove 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:24.520 compartment or locked in the trunk, where it's like what 0:12:24.559 --> 0:12:25.800 the fuck am I gonna do with it locked in 0:12:25.800 --> 0:12:28.240 my glove compartment and it can't be loaded. 0:12:28.440 --> 0:12:29.200 So it's like. 0:12:29.679 --> 0:12:31.640 It's very strict if you get caught the gun and 0:12:31.679 --> 0:12:34.240 you and it's very hard to get a carry a 0:12:34.520 --> 0:12:37.600 like an open not open carry, but a carry license here, 0:12:37.679 --> 0:12:39.480 like they only do like ten a year or something. 0:12:39.480 --> 0:12:41.720 Crazy. Okay, maybe I made that up. 0:12:41.800 --> 0:12:43.640 Yeah, I don't know if that's true. I mean, maybe 0:12:43.640 --> 0:12:45.600 I help so because I want one in my purse. 0:12:45.960 --> 0:12:49.440 Supreme Court appears likely to strike down California law banning 0:12:49.440 --> 0:12:51.000 guns and stores and restaurants. 0:12:51.720 --> 0:12:54.520 Okay, So I mean that's the Republicans, that's the one 0:12:54.520 --> 0:12:57.120 thing they're doing. I do believe that if people assumed, 0:12:57.200 --> 0:12:59.880 if everyone assumed that someone else had a gun, there'd 0:12:59.920 --> 0:13:01.719 be less likely people to fuck with you. If you 0:13:01.880 --> 0:13:04.000 just assumed everyone was caring, like we're in Texas or 0:13:04.040 --> 0:13:05.880 something like that, I think there'd be less likely for 0:13:05.880 --> 0:13:07.640 someone to break into your home or fuck with you 0:13:07.640 --> 0:13:09.720 because bitch, I'm gonna assume this bitch is gonna shoot me. 0:13:10.440 --> 0:13:12.599 So I just feel like, protect yourself. Anger shit. I 0:13:12.600 --> 0:13:14.440 know Iri was because I told Iri about my dream, 0:13:14.440 --> 0:13:17.120 well not not every part, but she was like, so 0:13:17.440 --> 0:13:19.559 it's like because I have a we have a baseball 0:13:19.559 --> 0:13:25.120 bat because it's scary. I had really dark thoughts about 0:13:25.120 --> 0:13:27.560 what was gonna happen, I know, but then don't put 0:13:27.559 --> 0:13:29.959 the fear into her exactly, which why I didn't tell 0:13:30.160 --> 0:13:31.640 I said, you said you did tell her? No. I 0:13:31.720 --> 0:13:36.480 didn't tell her no, no. So then she was like, Mommy, 0:13:36.520 --> 0:13:38.599 do you know that sometimes when that bat that we 0:13:38.679 --> 0:13:39.960 used to have at the house, I used to just 0:13:40.000 --> 0:13:41.560 push it to my side of the bed. And I 0:13:41.600 --> 0:13:43.040 was like, you did, just like, I'm like why she's 0:13:43.080 --> 0:13:45.600 because sometimes I'd be scared in her old house push 0:13:45.640 --> 0:13:48.520 what we had. I had a bat under my bed 0:13:48.559 --> 0:13:50.280 and so she I guess sometimes she'd push it to 0:13:50.320 --> 0:13:51.520 her side of the bed. I'm like, gir, what you 0:13:51.520 --> 0:13:53.320 going to do with it? Right? Keep that shit on 0:13:53.320 --> 0:13:55.640 my side, you know. And she was like, well, if 0:13:55.640 --> 0:13:58.080 someone came to the and to our door, now, would 0:13:58.160 --> 0:13:59.720 you use a bat? I was like, no, I would 0:13:59.760 --> 0:14:02.040 use it. And she was like why And I was like, 0:14:02.120 --> 0:14:05.480 cuz they would know I'm not fucking playing. Generally, if 0:14:05.480 --> 0:14:08.280 someone here's a gun, you just hear that shit, You're like, 0:14:08.320 --> 0:14:11.560 all right, never mind like and then I was like, wait, well, 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:14.160 just I was like, if it's if we're out in 0:14:14.200 --> 0:14:17.280 public and someone approaches me, probably not going to like 0:14:17.280 --> 0:14:18.920 point a gun in their face. We're going to see 0:14:18.920 --> 0:14:21.320 what happens, like, we'll see how I'm not going straight 0:14:21.320 --> 0:14:22.840 for the gun. So I don't want her to think 0:14:22.880 --> 0:14:25.840 like trouble equals shoot someone in the face. 0:14:26.040 --> 0:14:29.200 I mean women, single women, single moms particularly, I think 0:14:29.280 --> 0:14:31.840 like we need mace, we need tasers, we need guns, 0:14:31.880 --> 0:14:34.200 we need guns. I think, I know there's a lot 0:14:34.240 --> 0:14:37.960 of things right now and like social about decentering men, 0:14:38.920 --> 0:14:42.240 which I also feel like, do we need to recenterment? 0:14:42.760 --> 0:14:43.440 I think I feel like that. 0:14:44.160 --> 0:14:47.560 So all that to say, when we think about decentering men, 0:14:47.600 --> 0:14:51.280 I don't think there's enough enough thought behind how can 0:14:51.320 --> 0:14:54.680 I protect myself and not rely solely on a man? 0:14:54.800 --> 0:14:57.480 How can I like, how do I feel secure without 0:14:57.480 --> 0:14:59.600 a man? And I think if we're going to decenter men, 0:14:59.720 --> 0:15:01.800 I think that is the first in place and foremost 0:15:01.800 --> 0:15:04.600 where you need to feel secure in protecting and providing 0:15:04.640 --> 0:15:07.320 for your own safety and your own family if and 0:15:07.360 --> 0:15:10.160 when you know, like your man is not present. 0:15:10.320 --> 0:15:11.320 I agree. 0:15:11.360 --> 0:15:15.640 But back to the decentering men, uh, like, what is 0:15:15.640 --> 0:15:16.360 it called like a fad? 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:18.520 The trend right now? Yeah? I wouldna say something mean, 0:15:18.560 --> 0:15:21.040 but then I then I decided not to because it's 0:15:21.040 --> 0:15:24.880 not true. I think that decentering men is important for 0:15:24.960 --> 0:15:27.880 women who have made, of course men the center of 0:15:27.880 --> 0:15:33.120 their world. For pigmies, Yes, that's what I was kind 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:35.080 of gonna say. I like, not all of us need 0:15:35.120 --> 0:15:36.960 to decenter men, you know, like some of us that 0:15:37.480 --> 0:15:39.280 have not made men the center of their world probably 0:15:39.320 --> 0:15:42.000 don't need to decenter men, but probably need to recenter men. Yeah, 0:15:42.040 --> 0:15:44.080 I understand. I think you need to recenter the good 0:15:44.080 --> 0:15:46.480 men in the world and not decenter all men, because 0:15:46.480 --> 0:15:48.280 then you're gonna be a lonely bitch. Because I know that. 0:15:48.320 --> 0:15:49.880 I used to think that, like maybe we should just 0:15:49.960 --> 0:15:51.880 live on a on an island full of women. I 0:15:51.920 --> 0:15:53.400 don't want to do that. I change my mind. I 0:15:53.440 --> 0:15:55.000 don't want to do that at all. Wait. I saw 0:15:55.080 --> 0:15:58.360 today this woman is throwing like an all all moms 0:15:58.400 --> 0:16:01.400 prom and they're all dressed up and Dan I was like, 0:16:02.360 --> 0:16:04.080 I was like, I am, I don't mean that gay, 0:16:04.080 --> 0:16:05.240 And I'm like, my. 0:16:05.200 --> 0:16:06.920 Boy crazy, I'm like, I don't want to dress up 0:16:07.080 --> 0:16:08.000 with a bunch of bitches. 0:16:08.960 --> 0:16:11.680 I was like, this seems stupid. They're gonna drink and 0:16:11.760 --> 0:16:12.920 what we're gonna do. I don't want to be in 0:16:12.960 --> 0:16:16.640 a colony full of bitches. I don't want that. I 0:16:16.720 --> 0:16:18.720 do like. I like bitches. I like I need niggas 0:16:18.760 --> 0:16:22.240 to do some stuff, including fuck me so and and 0:16:22.400 --> 0:16:24.920 pick up ship and take the trash out. Like there's 0:16:24.920 --> 0:16:27.360 certain things and privileges that I've become accustomed to now 0:16:27.360 --> 0:16:30.320 that I'm been in a relationship for a while that 0:16:30.480 --> 0:16:32.520 I don't want to give up. I want I need 0:16:32.560 --> 0:16:34.600 the man to be the center of the universe in 0:16:34.640 --> 0:16:38.160 that way. I don't want to do certain ship, but 0:16:38.200 --> 0:16:41.600 I do think we should decenter toxic men. Ain't no 0:16:41.680 --> 0:16:45.000 good ain't no good men, but they're the good ones. No, 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:46.800 we don't need to do that. You need to go 0:16:46.840 --> 0:16:48.840 to therapy, girl and figure out why men are the 0:16:48.880 --> 0:16:52.120 center of universe and why you keep attracting the wrong men. 0:16:52.240 --> 0:16:54.080 Well, I know I've been at the center of women's 0:16:54.160 --> 0:16:56.840 universes because that's kind of how we are socially programmed, 0:16:56.920 --> 0:16:59.560 is that you know, our worth and our worthiness is 0:16:59.560 --> 0:17:02.800 tied to our dating status or like, if you're over 0:17:02.880 --> 0:17:04.840 thirty five and you don't marry, you don't have any kids, 0:17:04.880 --> 0:17:08.040 what's wrong with you? Like that's a huge Like, uh, 0:17:08.280 --> 0:17:11.639 we get spoonfit, we get spoon fed that concept and 0:17:11.680 --> 0:17:14.879 that belief system from like zero years old, so I 0:17:14.960 --> 0:17:17.840 understand it, but I think I realized that it causes 0:17:18.040 --> 0:17:22.960 such a it's so it's so toxic. A I've seen 0:17:23.000 --> 0:17:26.120 women saying relationships for way too long and essentially lose 0:17:26.160 --> 0:17:29.119