WEBVTT - Gabby Bernstein Teaser: 4 Step Check In 

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. So the brilliant, beyond brilliant and prolific spiritual teacher

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<v Speaker 1>Gabby Bernstein is coming on Climbing in Heels this week,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think we could all use the amazing wisdom

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<v Speaker 1>she has to share. Her full interview will be out tomorrow,

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<v Speaker 1>but get to know Gabby a little better.

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<v Speaker 2>So walk me.

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<v Speaker 1>Through this because I want my listeners to really experience

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<v Speaker 1>even a touch of the magic of Gabby.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, let's keep it simple, right, Yeah, think about

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<v Speaker 3>an area, a belief system in your life, or a

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<v Speaker 3>pattern or maybe even considered an extreme behavior that is

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<v Speaker 3>kind of running the show in your life right now.

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<v Speaker 3>Right it's controlling, maybe it's people pleasing, maybe it's numbing

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<v Speaker 3>out with food.

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<v Speaker 2>What is running the show?

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<v Speaker 3>But if you're like, I don't know, then maybe what's

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<v Speaker 3>a feeling that you have anxiety or physical bag pain,

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<v Speaker 3>like something that's just just really in your life right

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<v Speaker 3>now that you'd love to have some relief from. Can

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<v Speaker 3>be addiction, addiction and so so do you have yours reach?

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<v Speaker 3>You can keep it to yourself, okay, what it is? Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>And so the first step is to choose to check

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<v Speaker 3>in with this part and This is a beautiful step

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<v Speaker 3>because typically what do we do all day We check out,

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<v Speaker 3>we feel that feeling or we notice that trigger, and

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<v Speaker 3>then we go right into that protection mechanism, behavior pattern,

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<v Speaker 3>or belief that is just completely checking us out from

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<v Speaker 3>reality and overriding and we almost get blended with it. Right,

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<v Speaker 3>So we do these extreme things. So instead of checking out,

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<v Speaker 3>choose to check in. That's the first step. It's so simple.

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<v Speaker 3>Just focus your attention inward on the feeling, belief, or

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<v Speaker 3>sensation that's inside. Okay, you've named it. Maybe you've named

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<v Speaker 3>it controller. Maybe you're just like anxiety. Maybe it's just

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<v Speaker 3>maybe it's all of the abass.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and choose one for right now, we'll check mine.

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<v Speaker 1>Is mine is basically an effort to re mean happy. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>it makes sense. It's almost the reverse. I'm not letting

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<v Speaker 1>bad energy in. I'm so I'm putting up something.

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<v Speaker 2>To block that.

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<v Speaker 1>So however you interpret that, maybe if that makes sense,

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<v Speaker 1>because let's.

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<v Speaker 2>Work with that. Okay, so let's check in with that.

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<v Speaker 1>Almost I'm reversing it.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, well, well it could be.

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<v Speaker 3>Sometimes it's actually really beautiful that you're saying that, because

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<v Speaker 3>sometimes like over spiritualizing or like overhappying, like anything that

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<v Speaker 3>we're doing that's overriding the feelings. Okay, So you could

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<v Speaker 3>be like overpositiving, you know, it's overly positive. Could be

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<v Speaker 3>your good I'm good, I'm good. Sounds a little avoidant, right,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm good, Okay, beautiful, so.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's check it.

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<v Speaker 3>So you would choose to check in with i'm good

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<v Speaker 3>instead of just going i'm good and overriding yourself, right,

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<v Speaker 3>And then you'd focus your tension inward. And as you

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<v Speaker 3>focus your tension inward, you'd notice where that is in

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<v Speaker 3>your body, like when you go i'm good, where is

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<v Speaker 3>that somatically, where is that in your body right now?

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<v Speaker 1>And stomach stomach always.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, and how long has that been around?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm good, I got this. I'm good forever, Yeah, forever, forever. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm good, I got this probably forever.

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<v Speaker 3>And with some curiosity, more curiosity. This is the second step.

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<v Speaker 3>So yeah, to check in, and the second step is curiosity,

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<v Speaker 3>more curiosity. Are there any thoughts or beliefs, or feelings

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<v Speaker 3>or sensations that are associated with that it's good that?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, of course, like the yeah, I mean, I'm I'm

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<v Speaker 1>I think I'm i mean, I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Definitely a blocker. Blocker, Okay, I'm a blocker because because yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so the listener can check it now and get curious.

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<v Speaker 3>And so you're asking these parts of yourself, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>where is this in my body?

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<v Speaker 2>What do I know about this?

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<v Speaker 3>Are there any beliefs or thoughts, sensations or feelings that

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<v Speaker 3>it wants to reveal?

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<v Speaker 2>And so just let it.

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<v Speaker 3>Let that part of you just give it some air time,

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<v Speaker 3>and then anything else that it wants you to know,

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<v Speaker 3>just give it space to reveal itself with curious energy.

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<v Speaker 2>How old is it? Is it a girl? Is it

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<v Speaker 2>a boy? Does it have no tensure?

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<v Speaker 3>Just seeing any images you know, maybe you see as

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<v Speaker 3>a kid needs to come forward.

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<v Speaker 2>And then the third step is to compassionately connect to

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<v Speaker 2>the part of you. This is so simple.

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<v Speaker 3>You just focus your attention a little bit more towards

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<v Speaker 3>that part and you would say what do you need?

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<v Speaker 3>And don't think, just let it answer you and you

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<v Speaker 3>could keep that to yourself and our When we ask

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<v Speaker 3>these parts of us what do they need? They often

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<v Speaker 3>say need I need a hug, or I need to

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<v Speaker 3>rest or I need to take a break, or I

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<v Speaker 3>need to feel seen. Or I need to speak up,

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<v Speaker 3>because what are they? Their little children inside of us,

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<v Speaker 3>They've been around forever, and what do they need? They

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<v Speaker 3>need love, they need connection, And then you would give

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<v Speaker 3>it some more breath. That's just in that compassionate connection.

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<v Speaker 3>Just place your hand where you feel it in your

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<v Speaker 3>stomach or wherever you feel it in your body, and

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<v Speaker 3>you would give it a little bit of breath. You'd

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<v Speaker 3>let it know that you see it and that you're here,

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<v Speaker 3>and then just sort of tune into your body a

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<v Speaker 3>little bit right now and just notice how you feel

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<v Speaker 3>in this moment, and you can just let me know

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<v Speaker 3>if there's any shifts that happened inside of you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean I think it's I think it's good

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<v Speaker 1>to have that moment to actually acknowledge what it is.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you have clarity like a little that's.

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<v Speaker 1>Doing it too you? Yeah, it's an energy, an outside

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<v Speaker 1>energy that I'm intentionally blocking to not ruin.

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<v Speaker 4>My your ping yourself right. You're protecting your vibe correct

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<v Speaker 4>at your own expense, because that I've got this, I'm good,

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<v Speaker 4>is probably been protecting you forever and it's also possibly

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<v Speaker 4>creating some some you know, chaotic patterns in your life

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<v Speaker 4>right for me, it would have been well, if you know,

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<v Speaker 4>if no one else will do it, I will do

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<v Speaker 4>it right.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure every else can do it. So I'll have

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<v Speaker 2>to do it.

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<v Speaker 1>All day, every day, all day, every day since forever since. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>at least you know it will get down the way

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<v Speaker 1>you want it.

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<v Speaker 3>There's benefits to that. But then and what it means,

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<v Speaker 3>we've burn. It's just physical physical overwhelm. It's it's and

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<v Speaker 3>then extreme. It's an extreme pattern, right, And so as

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<v Speaker 3>we start to tend to these parts of ourselves, we

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<v Speaker 3>get to that fourth step, which is to check inside

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<v Speaker 3>and see the shifts. Often when you go through these steps,

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<v Speaker 3>you'll have more clarity like you had, or you'll have

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<v Speaker 3>some compassion for that part of you.

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<v Speaker 2>That's sure, if you felt any compassion for that part

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<v Speaker 2>of you.

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<v Speaker 3>Or you'll have some calmness come over, or you'll feel

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<v Speaker 3>a little bit more courageous to just we're curious.

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<v Speaker 2>You might be like, I want to know a little

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<v Speaker 2>more about that part of me.

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<v Speaker 3>As you start to notice those sea qualities, that's actually

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<v Speaker 3>that self energy, that's that sun behind the clouds, and

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<v Speaker 3>so the clouds can emerge when we check in with

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<v Speaker 3>those beliefs and patterns, and as we do that inquiry

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<v Speaker 3>of choosing to check in and being curious and being compassionate,

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<v Speaker 3>asking what you need, that's when we start to let

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<v Speaker 3>that self energy of the inner parent inside of us,

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<v Speaker 3>the compassionate, calm presence emrge naturally