Speaker 1: Okay. So the brilliant, beyond brilliant and prolific spiritual teacher
Speaker 1: Gabby Bernstein is coming on Climbing in Heels this week,
Speaker 1: and I think we could all use the amazing wisdom
Speaker 1: she has to share. Her full interview will be out tomorrow,
Speaker 1: but get to know Gabby a little better.
Speaker 2: So walk me.
Speaker 1: Through this because I want my listeners to really experience
Speaker 1: even a touch of the magic of Gabby.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I mean, let's keep it simple, right, Yeah, think about
Speaker 3: an area, a belief system in your life, or a
Speaker 3: pattern or maybe even considered an extreme behavior that is
Speaker 3: kind of running the show in your life right now.
Speaker 3: Right it's controlling, maybe it's people pleasing, maybe it's numbing
Speaker 3: out with food.
Speaker 2: What is running the show?
Speaker 3: But if you're like, I don't know, then maybe what's
Speaker 3: a feeling that you have anxiety or physical bag pain,
Speaker 3: like something that's just just really in your life right
Speaker 3: now that you'd love to have some relief from. Can
Speaker 3: be addiction, addiction and so so do you have yours reach?
Speaker 3: You can keep it to yourself, okay, what it is? Yeah, okay,
Speaker 3: And so the first step is to choose to check
Speaker 3: in with this part and This is a beautiful step
Speaker 3: because typically what do we do all day We check out,
Speaker 3: we feel that feeling or we notice that trigger, and
Speaker 3: then we go right into that protection mechanism, behavior pattern,
Speaker 3: or belief that is just completely checking us out from
Speaker 3: reality and overriding and we almost get blended with it. Right,
Speaker 3: So we do these extreme things. So instead of checking out,
Speaker 3: choose to check in. That's the first step. It's so simple.
Speaker 3: Just focus your attention inward on the feeling, belief, or
Speaker 3: sensation that's inside. Okay, you've named it. Maybe you've named
Speaker 3: it controller. Maybe you're just like anxiety. Maybe it's just
Speaker 3: maybe it's all of the abass.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and choose one for right now, we'll check mine.
Speaker 1: Is mine is basically an effort to re mean happy. Okay,
Speaker 1: it makes sense. It's almost the reverse. I'm not letting
Speaker 1: bad energy in. I'm so I'm putting up something.
Speaker 2: To block that.
Speaker 1: So however you interpret that, maybe if that makes sense,
Speaker 1: because let's.
Speaker 2: Work with that. Okay, so let's check in with that.
Speaker 1: Almost I'm reversing it.
Speaker 2: Well, well, well it could be.
Speaker 3: Sometimes it's actually really beautiful that you're saying that, because
Speaker 3: sometimes like over spiritualizing or like overhappying, like anything that
Speaker 3: we're doing that's overriding the feelings. Okay, So you could
Speaker 3: be like overpositiving, you know, it's overly positive. Could be
Speaker 3: your good I'm good, I'm good. Sounds a little avoidant, right,
Speaker 3: I'm good, Okay, beautiful, so.
Speaker 2: Let's check it.
Speaker 3: So you would choose to check in with i'm good
Speaker 3: instead of just going i'm good and overriding yourself, right,
Speaker 3: And then you'd focus your tension inward. And as you
Speaker 3: focus your tension inward, you'd notice where that is in
Speaker 3: your body, like when you go i'm good, where is
Speaker 3: that somatically, where is that in your body right now?
Speaker 1: And stomach stomach always.
Speaker 2: Okay, and how long has that been around?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm good, I got this. I'm good forever, Yeah, forever, forever. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm good, I got this probably forever.
Speaker 3: And with some curiosity, more curiosity. This is the second step.
Speaker 3: So yeah, to check in, and the second step is curiosity,
Speaker 3: more curiosity. Are there any thoughts or beliefs, or feelings
Speaker 3: or sensations that are associated with that it's good that?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah, of course, like the yeah, I mean, I'm I'm
Speaker 1: I think I'm i mean, I'm.
Speaker 2: Definitely a blocker. Blocker, Okay, I'm a blocker because because yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so the listener can check it now and get curious.
Speaker 3: And so you're asking these parts of yourself, you know,
Speaker 3: where is this in my body?
Speaker 2: What do I know about this?
Speaker 3: Are there any beliefs or thoughts, sensations or feelings that
Speaker 3: it wants to reveal?
Speaker 2: And so just let it.
Speaker 3: Let that part of you just give it some air time,
Speaker 3: and then anything else that it wants you to know,
Speaker 3: just give it space to reveal itself with curious energy.
Speaker 2: How old is it? Is it a girl? Is it
Speaker 2: a boy? Does it have no tensure?
Speaker 3: Just seeing any images you know, maybe you see as
Speaker 3: a kid needs to come forward.
Speaker 2: And then the third step is to compassionately connect to
Speaker 2: the part of you. This is so simple.
Speaker 3: You just focus your attention a little bit more towards
Speaker 3: that part and you would say what do you need?
Speaker 3: And don't think, just let it answer you and you
Speaker 3: could keep that to yourself and our When we ask
Speaker 3: these parts of us what do they need? They often
Speaker 3: say need I need a hug, or I need to
Speaker 3: rest or I need to take a break, or I
Speaker 3: need to feel seen. Or I need to speak up,
Speaker 3: because what are they? Their little children inside of us,
Speaker 3: They've been around forever, and what do they need? They
Speaker 3: need love, they need connection, And then you would give
Speaker 3: it some more breath. That's just in that compassionate connection.
Speaker 3: Just place your hand where you feel it in your
Speaker 3: stomach or wherever you feel it in your body, and
Speaker 3: you would give it a little bit of breath. You'd
Speaker 3: let it know that you see it and that you're here,
Speaker 3: and then just sort of tune into your body a
Speaker 3: little bit right now and just notice how you feel
Speaker 3: in this moment, and you can just let me know
Speaker 3: if there's any shifts that happened inside of you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I think it's I think it's good
Speaker 1: to have that moment to actually acknowledge what it is.
Speaker 2: Do you have clarity like a little that's.
Speaker 1: Doing it too you? Yeah, it's an energy, an outside
Speaker 1: energy that I'm intentionally blocking to not ruin.
Speaker 4: My your ping yourself right. You're protecting your vibe correct
Speaker 4: at your own expense, because that I've got this, I'm good,
Speaker 4: is probably been protecting you forever and it's also possibly
Speaker 4: creating some some you know, chaotic patterns in your life
Speaker 4: right for me, it would have been well, if you know,
Speaker 4: if no one else will do it, I will do
Speaker 4: it right.
Speaker 2: I'm sure every else can do it. So I'll have
Speaker 2: to do it.
Speaker 1: All day, every day, all day, every day since forever since. Well,
Speaker 1: at least you know it will get down the way
Speaker 1: you want it.
Speaker 3: There's benefits to that. But then and what it means,
Speaker 3: we've burn. It's just physical physical overwhelm. It's it's and
Speaker 3: then extreme. It's an extreme pattern, right, And so as
Speaker 3: we start to tend to these parts of ourselves, we
Speaker 3: get to that fourth step, which is to check inside
Speaker 3: and see the shifts. Often when you go through these steps,
Speaker 3: you'll have more clarity like you had, or you'll have
Speaker 3: some compassion for that part of you.
Speaker 2: That's sure, if you felt any compassion for that part
Speaker 2: of you.
Speaker 3: Or you'll have some calmness come over, or you'll feel
Speaker 3: a little bit more courageous to just we're curious.
Speaker 2: You might be like, I want to know a little
Speaker 2: more about that part of me.
Speaker 3: As you start to notice those sea qualities, that's actually
Speaker 3: that self energy, that's that sun behind the clouds, and
Speaker 3: so the clouds can emerge when we check in with
Speaker 3: those beliefs and patterns, and as we do that inquiry
Speaker 3: of choosing to check in and being curious and being compassionate,
Speaker 3: asking what you need, that's when we start to let
Speaker 3: that self energy of the inner parent inside of us,
Speaker 3: the compassionate, calm presence emrge naturally