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Speaker 2: Trea is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted from a date she
Speaker 2: went on with a woman named Carolina. So we're going
Speaker 2: to see if we can help figure it out for
Speaker 2: and maybe get another date if she still wants one.
Speaker 2: In a second, but first, Dray, how long has it
Speaker 2: been since you heard from Krolina.
Speaker 3: It's been about a week now that I hadn't heard
Speaker 3: from her, Okay, And yeah, so I'm just really confused
Speaker 3: because we well, for like, we met at work and
Speaker 3: we've kind of been flirting, like back and forth, you know,
Speaker 3: just kind of office romance. I guess, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 4: But she's really pretty.
Speaker 3: She has a great sense of humor, and we've actually
Speaker 3: been having coffee like in the office break room and
Speaker 3: stuff and kind of getting to know each other. So
Speaker 3: it was we kind of knew each other before going
Speaker 3: into a date, and so I finally got up the
Speaker 3: nerve to ask her out, and I wanted I've been
Speaker 3: wanting to play pickleball because I've heard there's so much
Speaker 3: hype around it, and I thought it would be fun.
Speaker 5: Is that what you did for your date?
Speaker 6: Yeah, we went.
Speaker 3: We played We played a couple of rounds of pickleball,
Speaker 3: and then we had some drinks after words at bar.
Speaker 4: Okay, And I mean, as far as I'm concerned, the
Speaker 4: date was great. Like the conversation was wonderful.
Speaker 3: Like I said, she has a great personality, she's funny,
Speaker 3: she has wonderful sense of humor. And we even shared
Speaker 3: a little kiss. Oh but yeah, the next day, I
Speaker 3: was excited to like get to work and see her,
Speaker 3: and she wasn't there. So I texted her because I
Speaker 3: was like, oh, no, you know, I just wanted to
Speaker 3: make sure she was okay. Maybe she was sick. I
Speaker 3: wanted to check in on her, and she didn't answer
Speaker 3: me back, and so she hasn't been at work all week.
Speaker 4: She get fired, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I hadn't heard anything, so I don't think so. But
Speaker 3: I've been reaching out to her, and I'm actually like
Speaker 3: kind of worried because like I don't know if something
Speaker 3: happened or she's really sick or if I mean maybe I.
Speaker 4: Just don't know. I thought we had a great date.
Speaker 4: I think, you know. Now I'm just worried I did something.
Speaker 2: Do they have like a policy about dating other coworkers
Speaker 2: at your office?
Speaker 4: Only if you're like.
Speaker 3: You can't, like supervisors can't date hourly employees and things
Speaker 3: like that.
Speaker 4: But if you're both hourly, then you can, then you
Speaker 4: can date.
Speaker 5: Look, it's a free for all.
Speaker 4: I love it.
Speaker 5: Does she usually show up to work every day?
Speaker 7: Like, I mean, is she the type of person that
Speaker 7: just calls out sick randomly sometimes or No?
Speaker 3: She's actually pretty good with attendance, so which is why
Speaker 3: I'm so worried that she's missed so much.
Speaker 7: Did anything weird and on the date, Like, was there
Speaker 7: a moment where you felt like, I.
Speaker 3: Don't know, I mean not on my end, I thought
Speaker 3: everything went went great, Like when we parted, we parted
Speaker 3: on great terms, and you know, we even said we
Speaker 3: were kind of even like, hey see, you see we're
Speaker 3: like see around the office, and just kind of made
Speaker 3: a little joke.
Speaker 4: Out of it.
Speaker 5: But I'd be worried too. Have you asked around about her?
Speaker 3: I asked a couple of people, but nobody really and
Speaker 3: everybody just kind of says they haven't heard from her either,
Speaker 3: especially a week.
Speaker 5: I feel like it's a good amount of time to
Speaker 5: not be in the office, right, Like, do you know
Speaker 5: where she lives? You do a drive by or I
Speaker 5: don't know. It's an idea.
Speaker 4: I did call her.
Speaker 3: From a block number to see if she would answer,
Speaker 3: and she did answer, but I got a little nervous
Speaker 3: and just hung up.
Speaker 2: Oh no, so you know that she's answering her phone
Speaker 2: at least.
Speaker 5: Okay, Well, good, she's alive.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she is alive, So that's good. I guess now
Speaker 3: it's or so I'm worried that she's just avoiding me.
Speaker 5: We'll see if we can figure it out.
Speaker 2: We'll play a song come Back, and then we'll call
Speaker 2: her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting
Speaker 2: you and maybe get you another date if you still
Speaker 2: want one.
Speaker 5: Okay, that's great, thanks guys, all right, we'll play song
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Speaker 2: Greya is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a date she
Speaker 2: went on with a coworker named Carolina and doesn't know why.
Speaker 2: So we're about to call Carolina and see if she'll
Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting and maybe get Drea another
Speaker 2: date if she still wants one. But first, Drea, why
Speaker 2: don't you catch everybody up on your date with Carolina.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Carolyne and I met at work. We've been kind
Speaker 3: of floating back and forth, and I finally got the
Speaker 3: nerve to ask her out. We went, we played pickleball,
Speaker 3: we had drinks, great conversation, and even a little kiss.
Speaker 4: At the end.
Speaker 3: So I'm just wondering why she's not returning my text.
Speaker 5: And she hasn't been to work for a week. Yeah,
Speaker 5: that's the alarming.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, all right, that's where I'm worried.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okaym call her.
Speaker 4: Hello.
Speaker 5: Hi, May I speak to Carolina please? Yes, this is Carolina, Carolina,
Speaker 5: how are you? My name is Jewbell, and I host
Speaker 5: a radio show and it's called The Jewbell Show. Hi, Carolena,
Speaker 5: the show's here too. My name is Nina. Hi An,
Speaker 5: I'm Victoria. There's three of us on the phone with
Speaker 5: you right now.
Speaker 4: Hi, Okay, sorry three?
Speaker 6: Okay, what's going on?
Speaker 2: We do a segment on our show it's called the
Speaker 2: first Date follow Up. That's where if you go out
Speaker 2: on a day with somebody and end up ghosting them.
Speaker 2: That person can email us to get you on the
Speaker 2: phone and ask why you're ghosting them. So we got
Speaker 2: an email about you from somebody.
Speaker 5: That you dated recently. Okay, any idea who would be?
Speaker 5: Was it?
Speaker 6: Ja?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 5: It was. Drea wants to know why you're ghosting her?
Speaker 5: Why haven't been to worked?
Speaker 6: Okay, So I'll tell you about that. Okay, cool, I
Speaker 6: mean to ask me about it? Okay, yeah, okay, but
Speaker 6: you know what, fine, So I'm Gohostandrea. You can tell
Speaker 6: her this because you know, as we were leaving our date,
Speaker 6: something just didn't really sit right with me. It was
Speaker 6: a comment that she made. She's kind of like, oh,
Speaker 6: you know, it's going to be amazing when my ex
Speaker 6: years about this, she's going to lose her. And I
Speaker 6: just kind of looked at it like, oh, so there's
Speaker 6: just some sort of competition. Like to me, that's like,
Speaker 6: you know, listen, I'm getting older. I don't want to
Speaker 6: be a pawn in anyone's game. So I was hurt
Speaker 6: by that. I thought it was really uncalled for, and
Speaker 6: from there on out, I was really uninterested.
Speaker 5: She was saying that going out with you was going
Speaker 5: to make her ex angry.
Speaker 6: Yeah, like basically like getting back to her, Like happiness
Speaker 6: is the best revenge. Like that's what I took from
Speaker 6: it with her saying that. So I ended up. Actually
Speaker 6: I haven't been around her because I called out of
Speaker 6: works the next day. First and foremost, I did not
Speaker 6: want to see Draya. But then it turns out universe
Speaker 6: works and mysterious ways, and I really did come down
Speaker 6: with something. So I've actually been pretty sick this past
Speaker 6: week or so. But at the same time, like, yeah,
Speaker 6: I'm getting better, but I just have no interest in
Speaker 6: being used to make someone jealous, you know what I mean.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I'm glad you're feeling about She seems like.
Speaker 6: A cool girl, so I had to protect my heart,
Speaker 6: you know. I don't want to set myself up for
Speaker 6: something and be disappointed get hurt. So we work together,
Speaker 6: which makes it super awkward. I just think it's probably
Speaker 6: best if we can just avoid each other at work.
Speaker 6: I don't know how I'm going to go about that
Speaker 6: once I do return to the office, but I'm to
Speaker 6: figure that out.
Speaker 2: You think that she didn't really like you that much,
Speaker 2: She just wanted to make her ex jealous.
Speaker 6: Well that's the thing, like I didn't see that coming
Speaker 6: that she gave me no sign to that. It was again,
Speaker 6: just at the very end of the day she said that.
Speaker 6: So that was when I felt let down because I
Speaker 6: thought everything went well. I thought we had really good
Speaker 6: kind of tree and everything. It's just tough to find.
Speaker 6: So yeah, it's at down for sure. But now I
Speaker 6: just kept trying to be smart about this whole thing,
Speaker 6: you know.
Speaker 7: I mean, I get that protecting yourself is one thing,
Speaker 7: but did you ever think about calling her out and
Speaker 7: having a conversation about it?
Speaker 6: Maybe? You know, it was just the one date. So
Speaker 6: I kind of feel like, I don't know, I don't
Speaker 6: hope I'm not being cowardly, but I just kind of
Speaker 6: want to let it go. And I really am being
Speaker 6: a ghoster here, aren't I? But sometimes like it's better
Speaker 6: than to just get into a long drawn out conversation.
Speaker 6: So I don't know what she'll say if I mentioned
Speaker 6: that comment that she made. I don't know, a little backfire.
Speaker 2: Well, let's see, because she's actually on the phone and
Speaker 2: she's been listening this whole time, and she wants to
Speaker 2: talk to you.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, so Dreya, you're there right, No, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 4: I'm here.
Speaker 3: Sorry, I just got kind of like I just got
Speaker 3: really anxious all of a sudden. Yeah.
Speaker 4: No, first of all, I am so sorry. It's like,
Speaker 4: let me apologize for making that comment.
Speaker 3: Obviously, you don't know a lot about my past and
Speaker 3: I didn't. It didn't come from a place of oh,
Speaker 3: ha ha, you're going to be how I get back
Speaker 3: at my ex and everything like that.
Speaker 4: Actually I had an.
Speaker 3: Amazing time with you, but my ex was kind of
Speaker 3: one of those who was kind of abusive and always
Speaker 3: made me feel small and like I wasn't good enough
Speaker 3: for anybody, and you're just, all of a sudden, this amazing,
Speaker 3: beautiful person who showed up, and it was just one
Speaker 3: of those things where it was it was more of
Speaker 3: like a happy like, oh my god, wait till my
Speaker 3: ex sise this because ha ha, I finally like might
Speaker 3: actually be happy for once. And it wasn't to be
Speaker 3: petty or to use you as a pawn in a
Speaker 3: game or anything like that. It was just more of
Speaker 3: like a I'm wow, I finally met somebody like really
Speaker 3: nice that I like it and might like me back.
Speaker 3: So I'm so sorry for that comment. If it heard you, Okay,
Speaker 3: I would say.
Speaker 6: Right now, like I do appreciate the apology for sure,
Speaker 6: and you know, I didn't think that's where you'd be
Speaker 6: coming from. Really sure if I'm interested, if they gave
Speaker 6: us any further. For me, the biggest reason why is
Speaker 6: just kind of like the whole X talk. I feel
Speaker 6: like this is a lot of talk about your AX
Speaker 6: and like I don't even like bringing up like past
Speaker 6: girlfriends or even guys I dated about nothing from the
Speaker 6: past like early on, So I feel like this is
Speaker 6: a lot coming at me. Does that make sense you
Speaker 6: dated guys? Yes, I date people for sure.
Speaker 4: Yeah. Oh yeah, you didn't tell me that, so I
Speaker 4: didn't know that.
Speaker 6: So I just thought I'll mention, you know, keeps your
Speaker 6: secrets for sure, So you know that's kind of oh,
Speaker 6: just a lot.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Well you're getting onto me about like my ex
Speaker 3: but you didn't even tell me about your.
Speaker 4: XES, so it's just kind of it's just kind of
Speaker 4: odds to me.
Speaker 6: I wasn't really getting onto about your act. I think
Speaker 6: for me it was just more about like, oh, that
Speaker 6: seemed like some game playing there.
Speaker 4: So yeah, I just I mean, I guess like.
Speaker 3: I kind of like to be upfront about things I
Speaker 3: you know, I don't really like to keep things from people,
Speaker 3: even though early on in a relationship, you know, because
Speaker 3: if you're trying to get to know somebody, you're trying
Speaker 3: to get to know somebody.
Speaker 6: Yeah, but like in time for sure. But that is
Speaker 6: exactly what I'm trying to say. You just pretty much
Speaker 6: stated that there. You know, I just think it takes
Speaker 6: time to get to know one to I don't need
Speaker 6: to know everything up front.
Speaker 3: I guess I'm just kind of different on that end.
Speaker 3: I kind of like, you know, I mean.
Speaker 2: More different Carolina. Would you would you like to go
Speaker 2: out with your egg in another date? We'll pay for it.
Speaker 6: I think that's just made myself pretty clear here. Again,
Speaker 6: I think she seems like a cool girl, but I
Speaker 6: think you know she's I'm not the one for her.
Speaker 6: You know, it's early on, but I can tell, I
Speaker 6: can definitely tell this. We're just not a match.
Speaker 4: But yeah, no, that's fine.
Speaker 3: I mean, I would feel like to be friends, because
Speaker 3: I think you're really cool girls. But I mean I
Speaker 3: just I'm not really interested either, because you know, it's
Speaker 3: like doing to hide things from me.
Speaker 6: So well, hopefully you know, work friends. We'll leave it
Speaker 6: at that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, well see it work, Carolina.
Speaker 5: We have a good first day back after being sick.
Speaker 6: Oh, thank you. I appreciate that.
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