WEBVTT - The Only Cure Is More Shec**k 0:00:03.200 --> 0:00:04.280 Have I fucked a doctor? 0:00:05.080 --> 0:00:08.520 I have not fucked a doctor. Have I fucked someone 0:00:08.520 --> 0:00:09.360 with a doctorate? 0:00:10.440 --> 0:00:11.280 I'm sure you have. 0:00:11.560 --> 0:00:12.800 That sounds more like me. 0:00:14.120 --> 0:00:17.639 She's Sheen, I'm me, No. 0:00:17.840 --> 0:00:23.400 May not my name? Yoo yoh? What is your childhood? 0:00:25.560 --> 0:00:29.280 I am a choky? 0:00:29.480 --> 0:00:30.880 What's going down before? 0:00:31.120 --> 0:00:32.000 Like you? 0:00:32.960 --> 0:00:47.040 So round, Hey, Virgins. So this week we are skipping 0:00:47.240 --> 0:00:49.600 the chit chat and getting right to the meat and 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:52.120 potatoes of the conversation. We got a lot going on 0:00:52.159 --> 0:00:56.480 this week. Lucky for you if you are deprived of 0:00:56.760 --> 0:00:59.680 some news catch up. We always have our patreon available 0:00:59.720 --> 0:01:02.040 to you at patreon dot com slash like a Virgin, 0:01:02.280 --> 0:01:05.679 So get into that while you await our return for 0:01:05.760 --> 0:01:13.119 chit chat. Today we are talking about doctors and medical things. 0:01:13.240 --> 0:01:19.119 A lot of uh deep trans personal conversations happening here. 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:20.959 It's a bit of a fun and different episode for 0:01:21.040 --> 0:01:24.200 us because this is like a Virgin, the show where 0:01:24.200 --> 0:01:26.400 we give yesterday's pop culture today's takes. 0:01:26.680 --> 0:01:29.600 As always, I'm Fran Toronto, I'm Rose DomU. 0:01:30.160 --> 0:01:34.960 Are you ready to talk about the medical industrial complex? 0:01:35.920 --> 0:01:41.640 Yeah? Cough twice, got it? Okay, you want to play 0:01:41.680 --> 0:01:42.280 doctor Fran? 0:01:42.520 --> 0:01:44.120 Actually, maybe you should play the doctor. 0:01:44.200 --> 0:01:48.360 Okay, we're gonna play doctor, but not in I guess 0:01:48.400 --> 0:01:51.240 the sexy way, although I never played like sexy doctor. 0:01:51.280 --> 0:01:54.880 I'm not promising anything. I can't. I can't not promise sexual. 0:01:54.600 --> 0:01:56.880 So it could get heated in here, heated by on 0:01:57.480 --> 0:02:00.960 tip tip tip on hard floors. Okay, so let's play doctor. 0:02:00.960 --> 0:02:07.280 I'm going to be the doctor. Okay, Okay, So you're 0:02:07.440 --> 0:02:09.400 you're like in the You're in the room, You're in 0:02:09.440 --> 0:02:12.480 the examination room, and you've been waiting bear asked for 0:02:12.560 --> 0:02:15.200 like forty five minutes, at least forty minutes, and someone 0:02:15.200 --> 0:02:18.800 has already come in and misgendered me. Yes, okay, scoom, 0:02:19.040 --> 0:02:23.280 that's the door opening. Hi mixed terrada. 0:02:24.919 --> 0:02:27.560 But I don't know if that's what my medical forms say. 0:02:27.560 --> 0:02:29.840 But I really appreciate the gender affirming way you just 0:02:29.880 --> 0:02:31.000 addressed me. Thank you doctor. 0:02:31.240 --> 0:02:33.520 Well, you're wearing a shirt that says everybody knows I'm 0:02:33.560 --> 0:02:37.000 a transsexual, so I figured it was a safe assumption 0:02:37.160 --> 0:02:42.560 to make thank you do. So, Fran, is it fran 0:02:42.960 --> 0:02:45.200 to tell me? Tell me what brings you in here today? 0:02:45.280 --> 0:02:49.160 So I recently had a gonorrhea and chlamydia scare, and 0:02:49.280 --> 0:02:52.320 I feel like you know, because I've slept with these partners, 0:02:52.360 --> 0:02:54.560 I should get tested and maybe also get a shot. 0:02:54.840 --> 0:02:57.200 I also need my hormone levels checked. And there's something 0:02:57.200 --> 0:02:59.000 weird on my foot. If you could also look at. 0:02:58.880 --> 0:03:01.560 It, great, So you know, without examining you, I think 0:03:01.560 --> 0:03:04.720 I can diagnose you. And the diagnosis I would give 0:03:04.840 --> 0:03:05.880 is that you're a whore. 0:03:07.480 --> 0:03:10.760 Doctor, I would say, that's a completely accurate diagnosis. Thank 0:03:10.800 --> 0:03:11.800 you so much for your time. 0:03:12.000 --> 0:03:14.200 Yeah, and you know what, I got the medicine for that. 0:03:14.639 --> 0:03:17.480 Oh and what's the medicine this fucking checock? 0:03:25.720 --> 0:03:28.560 I got a fever and the only cure is more chic. 0:03:28.720 --> 0:03:31.799 I mean, this is literally the way my appointment at 0:03:31.880 --> 0:03:33.440 callan Lord went weeks ago. 0:03:33.560 --> 0:03:36.440 Oh you got sucked by your doctor, doctor in a way, 0:03:36.840 --> 0:03:40.040 in a way I feel like, honestly, there's something when 0:03:40.080 --> 0:03:42.240 you said that, it kind of reminded me of that 0:03:42.280 --> 0:03:42.840 scene in. 0:03:42.920 --> 0:03:48.800 This fucking cock continue, sorry, reminded. 0:03:48.360 --> 0:03:50.640 Me of what was the Rachel Vice show series that 0:03:50.680 --> 0:03:55.720 we just watched with. Oh uh, what the fuck is it? 0:03:55.760 --> 0:03:59.800 Called Ringers? Which I never finished, which you never finished? 0:03:59.800 --> 0:04:02.280 So dead Ringers a show we already discussed. There's a 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:05.600 scene in it an immaculate scene in it where one 0:04:05.640 --> 0:04:08.240 of the Rachel vices is talking to this guy and 0:04:08.280 --> 0:04:11.280 his wife in a doctor's office, and the wife briefly 0:04:11.400 --> 0:04:15.000 leaves and then she basically in a matter of seconds, 0:04:15.080 --> 0:04:17.160 goes him into pulling out his cock so she can 0:04:17.240 --> 0:04:21.720 look at it. It's so good. It's one of the 0:04:21.760 --> 0:04:25.320 best doctor scenes I've ever seen in my test. Did 0:04:25.320 --> 0:04:26.360 you ever watch grays Anatomy? 0:04:27.000 --> 0:04:28.040 Of course I watched. 0:04:28.240 --> 0:04:31.200 I have watched zero episodes. What can you tell me? 0:04:32.640 --> 0:04:36.160 So it's about surgeon and. 0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:37.640 It's about mostly. 0:04:37.400 --> 0:04:39.960 It's about Sandra. Well, it's about this girl, Meredith Gray, 0:04:40.160 --> 0:04:44.520 who is part of a class of residents who come 0:04:44.560 --> 0:04:49.320 to a hospital, and it's about them becoming doctors and 0:04:49.360 --> 0:04:52.360 also falling in love and you know, making lots of 0:04:53.120 --> 0:04:58.960 bad decisions and it I'm sure it really does not 0:04:59.080 --> 0:05:02.080 resemble the medical field in any way in any way, 0:05:02.480 --> 0:05:11.720 but it is very entertaining. I want to hold space 0:05:11.760 --> 0:05:17.400 for our audience as I'm sure that thinking about doctors 0:05:17.760 --> 0:05:20.840 or the medical field in any way, or the pharmacypally 0:05:21.960 --> 0:05:23.440 probably somewhat traumatic. 0:05:24.200 --> 0:05:28.279 So you know, this will not really be a triggering episode, 0:05:28.320 --> 0:05:33.120 though we're gonna shoo sh about how horrible is. 0:05:33.080 --> 0:05:40.239 Honestly, doctors are the wa U do Doctors are people 0:05:40.400 --> 0:05:50.800 who ostensibly exist to help us, and in practice are 0:05:50.880 --> 0:05:52.200 frequently horrible. 0:05:52.480 --> 0:05:54.560 Yeah, And the thing that we need to know about 0:05:54.560 --> 0:05:58.560 them is that generally speaking, they are running a business 0:05:58.680 --> 0:06:01.560 and a lot of them aren't interested in your medical 0:06:01.560 --> 0:06:04.480 care at all. And I think that honestly, you know, doctors, 0:06:04.520 --> 0:06:09.200 you know, have gotten this societal have achieved this societal 0:06:09.240 --> 0:06:13.680 placement where like they're questions so infrequently and they're they're 0:06:13.760 --> 0:06:15.400 just like, oh, yeah, whatever you say goes because you 0:06:15.440 --> 0:06:17.760 went to a bajillion years of school and could afford that, 0:06:17.839 --> 0:06:19.560 and now you are in this place and probably make 0:06:19.640 --> 0:06:24.039 zillions of dollars doing it. But everyone should be skeptical 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:24.760 of their doctors. 0:06:24.920 --> 0:06:27.520 Did you ever want to be a doctor? No, thank god, 0:06:27.680 --> 0:06:31.200 No I did. I wanted to be a surgeon, mostly 0:06:31.240 --> 0:06:34.560 because of Grey's anatomy. But I but I realized very 0:06:34.640 --> 0:06:38.120 quickly that I was not smart enough because you have 0:06:38.200 --> 0:06:41.719 to wait, very smart and remember so much stuff to 0:06:41.720 --> 0:06:44.599 be a doctor, and that there was no way I 0:06:44.600 --> 0:06:47.560 could stand for that long to do surgery. 0:06:47.720 --> 0:06:50.280 Oh yeah, you, I mean, when you're a doctor, you 0:06:50.320 --> 0:06:53.000 have to be on your feet for like twelve, fourteen, 0:06:53.120 --> 0:06:55.000 nineteen hours a day, Like it's insane. 0:06:55.080 --> 0:06:56.880 Can't do that. That's why they wear such ugly shoes. 0:06:56.880 --> 0:06:58.800 That's why they wear such ugly shoes and such ugly 0:06:58.800 --> 0:07:00.760 clothes too. I mean, I know people are trying to 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:03.440 like really up the scrubs game. They're like these influencer 0:07:03.480 --> 0:07:05.839 scrubs figs or whatever, but like those are not that 0:07:05.920 --> 0:07:06.400 cute either. 0:07:06.640 --> 0:07:09.520 So I used to wear scrubs as a kid a 0:07:09.520 --> 0:07:13.480 lot because my dad, my dad worked at the hospital, 0:07:14.040 --> 0:07:17.480 and I don't know, because he used to like bring 0:07:17.520 --> 0:07:20.080 them home and whenever we spent the weekend at his house, 0:07:20.200 --> 0:07:22.640 like after my parents got divorced, like that's always what 0:07:22.640 --> 0:07:26.120 I would wear to sleep was in the hospital. I 0:07:26.120 --> 0:07:29.440 do think I've talked about this before, my intense love 0:07:29.520 --> 0:07:33.000 for hospital food because we used to go visit my 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:35.160 dad for the hospital at the hospital, and he would 0:07:35.200 --> 0:07:36.360 take us to the cafeteria. 0:07:36.480 --> 0:07:37.960 Do you still like hospital food? 0:07:38.480 --> 0:07:46.720 I do have this weird appreciation for kind of institutionalized 0:07:46.800 --> 0:07:50.400 food that is made in huge batches, like airplane food, 0:07:50.560 --> 0:07:55.720 like airplane food, cafeteria food of any kind, and hospital 0:07:55.760 --> 0:07:59.360 food really gives me that When was the last time 0:08:00.080 --> 0:08:03.880 you were in a hospital as a patient that wasn't 0:08:03.920 --> 0:08:06.360 just like an appointment, Like when was the last time 0:08:06.400 --> 0:08:09.360 you needed care from the hospital in a sort of 0:08:09.520 --> 0:08:12.840 extended way as a patient? I mean, have I already 0:08:12.880 --> 0:08:17.600 told you the story about when my long spontaneously collapsed? No? 0:08:17.720 --> 0:08:21.440 Apparently No. Okay, let me see if I can tell 0:08:21.440 --> 0:08:25.120 the short version. The short version is I was in college. 0:08:25.240 --> 0:08:27.400 I was working as an eighteen hour credit student. I 0:08:27.480 --> 0:08:29.720 was also a closeted smoker, which was something that I 0:08:29.800 --> 0:08:32.000 kept for my boyfriend at the time. And it's just 0:08:32.040 --> 0:08:36.000 an extremely stressed out, very skinny person. I was probably 0:08:36.040 --> 0:08:37.680 like one hundred and thirty five one hundred and forty 0:08:37.679 --> 0:08:40.840 pounds as a consequence of a recently healed eating disorder 0:08:41.200 --> 0:08:43.480 back in twenty whatever the fuck? 0:08:43.679 --> 0:08:45.079 Okay I rushed music videos. 0:08:45.320 --> 0:08:48.640 Sorry, yeah, I'm not skinny. I mean I'm still skinny, 0:08:48.640 --> 0:08:51.800 but whatever. Anyways, this is all relevant information because one 0:08:51.880 --> 0:08:53.560 day I was in the library of studying for an 0:08:53.600 --> 0:08:56.280 Italian test because I took Italian because I had read 0:08:56.320 --> 0:08:58.280 epre Love and thought it was a phenomenal piece of. 0:08:58.200 --> 0:08:59.959 Oh my god, I was watching epray Love this morning. 0:09:00.360 --> 0:09:02.839 What what for work for? What it was for work? 0:09:04.080 --> 0:09:07.240 And I leaned over the back of my chair and 0:09:07.240 --> 0:09:09.640 I heard a little pup and I was like, what 0:09:09.679 --> 0:09:14.520 was that, James, Well, what was that, James? And then 0:09:14.800 --> 0:09:16.240 I leaned back over and I was like, oh, like 0:09:16.280 --> 0:09:17.120 my back was cracking. 0:09:17.160 --> 0:09:17.640 That was weird. 0:09:17.679 --> 0:09:20.280 And then I was experiencing what was probably the worst 0:09:20.400 --> 0:09:23.440 possible pain I've ever experienced in my entire life. And 0:09:23.480 --> 0:09:25.760 I was like, what the fuck just happened? And then 0:09:25.920 --> 0:09:27.560 in my head, I was like, is this what it 0:09:27.600 --> 0:09:31.040 feels like when people throw their back out? Like is 0:09:31.160 --> 0:09:33.720 am I experiencing like back problems for the first time? 0:09:34.960 --> 0:09:38.040 And anyways, I, you know, was too poor, like I 0:09:38.280 --> 0:09:40.080 it was at a time and honestly still is that 0:09:40.080 --> 0:09:41.280 time where it's like I'm not going to go to 0:09:41.320 --> 0:09:43.240 the doctor's office just to give them fifty dollars to 0:09:43.320 --> 0:09:45.480 like tell me that like, I, you know, broke my 0:09:45.559 --> 0:09:49.559 back or whatever, or that my back is like hurting. 0:09:49.640 --> 0:09:52.200 It's just like, yeah, I knew that. But I went 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:56.000 two full days wandering around campus being an eighteen hour 0:09:56.040 --> 0:09:58.800 credit student. I was a commuter biker. I jogged every 0:09:58.840 --> 0:10:02.280 single day five mile. I did all of that for 0:10:02.320 --> 0:10:06.000 two days and an excruciating kind of quote unquote back pain, 0:10:06.760 --> 0:10:08.480 which I found out was not a back pain when 0:10:08.520 --> 0:10:10.839 I finally did go to urgent care and then they 0:10:10.920 --> 0:10:12.760 did an X ray on me and they were like, yeah, 0:10:12.800 --> 0:10:16.280 so you had a spontaneous pneumothorax. You literally only have 0:10:16.400 --> 0:10:19.120 one lung right now and have had one lung for 0:10:19.200 --> 0:10:22.199 two days. You need to go to the er immediately. 0:10:22.240 --> 0:10:25.480 Would you like an ambulance? And they fixed it like 0:10:25.520 --> 0:10:28.160 fifteen minutes. It's actually a really simple surgery, and it's 0:10:28.200 --> 0:10:31.120 an incredibly common thing that happens to a very small 0:10:31.200 --> 0:10:34.680 number of people who are usually stressed and or really 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:36.920 skinny and or smokers. And I was all three at 0:10:36.960 --> 0:10:37.240 the time. 0:10:37.320 --> 0:10:39.720 Did you have to be put under anesthesia? 0:10:40.360 --> 0:10:44.440 I don't think I did need to, but I was like, 0:10:44.559 --> 0:10:46.280 you're doing that. I'm like not going to be awake 0:10:46.400 --> 0:10:48.160 for this, like I do. I can't experience that. 0:10:48.400 --> 0:10:51.640 Being put under anesthesia is so cunty. It's so nice, 0:10:51.679 --> 0:10:57.079 Like I I got something done in when was it 0:10:57.120 --> 0:11:01.080 like twenty twenty one? That's I don't know if you 0:11:01.080 --> 0:11:02.160 remember this. I had a. 0:11:02.080 --> 0:11:03.480 Little and. 0:11:06.480 --> 0:11:12.760 I just like that feeling of like being conscious one 0:11:12.800 --> 0:11:17.560 moment and then suddenly awake another moment, completely somewhere else 0:11:17.640 --> 0:11:20.880 under very different circumstances is such a gag. 0:11:21.080 --> 0:11:22.920 Yeah, wait, okay. 0:11:22.640 --> 0:11:25.000 That's how I wish I fell asleep every night. Okay, 0:11:25.080 --> 0:11:27.920 I want to be put under anesthesia every night. That 0:11:27.920 --> 0:11:31.720 would be very bad for your brain. Cares, but who cares. 0:11:32.080 --> 0:11:34.600 Estheticians are probably making bank for not that big of 0:11:34.600 --> 0:11:35.120 a skill set. 0:11:35.200 --> 0:11:35.280 Right. 0:11:35.320 --> 0:11:36.880 You have to go to so much less school to 0:11:36.880 --> 0:11:38.760 be an esthetician, right. 0:11:38.679 --> 0:11:42.880 Or an estheticianth ansty ziologist. 0:11:42.960 --> 0:11:47.119 Yeah, that's what it is. That's what they're called. I 0:11:47.160 --> 0:11:49.520 am Okay. Have you ever had a doctor that you 0:11:49.880 --> 0:11:53.240 liked slash? Is it our doctor from La Doctor V? 0:11:53.440 --> 0:11:56.800 Doctor V? I loved doctor V and I do miss him, 0:11:56.840 --> 0:12:00.440 although so I recently restarted care at Colin Lore because 0:12:00.480 --> 0:12:03.800 since I moved back here, I have been saying over 0:12:03.840 --> 0:12:05.760 and over that I wanted to find a doctor at 0:12:05.760 --> 0:12:07.599 a private practice. I really didn't want to go to 0:12:07.640 --> 0:12:11.160 a queer health center. And then I realized my estrogym 0:12:11.200 --> 0:12:13.240 was running out, and I was like, fuck, I guess 0:12:13.280 --> 0:12:15.040 I just have to go back to coun lord, because 0:12:15.040 --> 0:12:17.800 it's just the easiest thing, even though it is not 0:12:18.000 --> 0:12:21.480 easy in literally any way. But I'm going to the 0:12:21.480 --> 0:12:26.080 Brooklyn one, so that makes things like marginally better. But yeah, 0:12:26.160 --> 0:12:29.920 I really missed doctor V, our gay ass doctor from. 0:12:29.840 --> 0:12:34.640 LA, the gayest doctor, such a competent, like runs his 0:12:34.760 --> 0:12:37.600 practice like a machine, a well oiled machine. 0:12:37.640 --> 0:12:40.160 I miss And he's hot. He is hot. 0:12:40.240 --> 0:12:41.120 Yeah, he was hot. 0:12:41.240 --> 0:12:45.800 I got recommended him from and it was like, this 0:12:45.840 --> 0:12:47.520 is a gay doctor that all the girls go all 0:12:47.520 --> 0:12:48.160 the girls go to. 0:12:48.400 --> 0:12:50.800 Yeah kind of yeah, and I he So I worked 0:12:50.840 --> 0:12:52.160 with doctor V for a bit and then there was 0:12:52.200 --> 0:12:55.160 someone else in his practice, and doctor Jake Collins, who 0:12:55.360 --> 0:12:57.760 then became my primary care physician and also put me 0:12:57.800 --> 0:12:59.920 on estradeal honestly, which is kind of a big deal. 0:13:00.400 --> 0:13:04.080 And my whole experience of that was so seamless and 0:13:04.120 --> 0:13:08.240 easy and unquestioned. I loved it, and I love doctor Collins, 0:13:08.280 --> 0:13:11.160 and honestly, so this is in COVID era and so 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:13.680 everybody was still in masks one hundred percent of the time, 0:13:13.800 --> 0:13:16.560 so I didn't really know what doctor Collins looked like. 0:13:17.240 --> 0:13:19.960 But one day I was scrolling through Instagram, and turns 0:13:20.000 --> 0:13:23.960 out he's like a hot doctor influencer and he has 0:13:24.040 --> 0:13:26.800 a kick in bod and the most gorgeous face I've 0:13:26.840 --> 0:13:28.559 ever looked at in my entire life, one that I've 0:13:28.600 --> 0:13:30.360 never seen because it's always been under a mask. And 0:13:30.360 --> 0:13:32.640 I was like, what the fuck this man just had 0:13:32.640 --> 0:13:35.480 his like rubber gloved fingers in my whole, like checking 0:13:35.520 --> 0:13:39.840 for prostate cancer or whatever. Yeah, but I would love 0:13:39.920 --> 0:13:42.800 to fuck a doctor. I would love to marry a doctor. 0:13:42.840 --> 0:13:44.000 I would love to marry it. 0:13:44.080 --> 0:13:45.640 Because they would not be home a lot. 0:13:45.800 --> 0:13:46.720 Yeah exactly. 0:13:46.920 --> 0:13:49.640 Oh, and they would get me, you know, they would 0:13:49.679 --> 0:13:51.920 prescribe me whatever I want to wait, you know, those 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:53.080 pills forever. 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:56.000 You know what really fulfills this fantasy for me of 0:13:56.040 --> 0:13:58.480 being married to a doctor is the kids are all right, 0:13:58.559 --> 0:14:01.960 starring on at Benning and Julian More because Annette Benning 0:14:02.040 --> 0:14:04.880 is famously kind of the tied up, stuck up like 0:14:05.080 --> 0:14:09.400 work bitch doctor mom, and like her like over commitment 0:14:09.400 --> 0:14:11.280 to work is like part of what is like wedging 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:14.520 her relationship to Anette Benning that in the fact that 0:14:14.520 --> 0:14:18.800 she's like fucking the gardener. But I just remember bearing 0:14:18.840 --> 0:14:21.920 witness to their relationship and how loving and supportive it was, 0:14:22.160 --> 0:14:24.479 and I was like, yeah, you know, in a gay relationship, 0:14:24.480 --> 0:14:27.240 a lot of times there's an Annette and there's a 0:14:27.320 --> 0:14:30.840 Julianne Moore, and I'm always the Annette. But I would love. 0:14:30.720 --> 0:14:33.480 Oh and I'm the julian of this relationship. I'm definitely 0:14:33.480 --> 0:14:35.200 the Julianne. I would I'm on the redhead. 0:14:35.320 --> 0:14:38.200 I would disagree because you're very get shit done. But yeah, 0:14:38.240 --> 0:14:40.200 I guess, like on paper because your redhead, you like 0:14:40.280 --> 0:14:43.280 legally do have to be Julianne Moore. However, I would 0:14:43.280 --> 0:14:45.480 say I wish I was the Julianne Moore. And I 0:14:45.480 --> 0:14:47.600 feel like I would like to have a relationship where 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:49.800 I'm the Julianne Moore and the one that's just kind 0:14:49.840 --> 0:14:52.000 of like, I don't really know what I'm doing for 0:14:52.120 --> 0:14:55.240 my career. I'll start like four businesses. Can I buy 0:14:55.240 --> 0:14:55.640 a truck? 0:14:55.720 --> 0:14:56.040 Mommy? 0:14:56.200 --> 0:14:59.160 Like that's what I want to be, but I'm not. 0:15:00.040 --> 0:15:01.960 Then maybe one day, maybe one day, I'll be taken 0:15:02.000 --> 0:15:02.880 care of by a daddy. 0:15:02.920 --> 0:15:05.160 Doctor. You know what doctors always make me think of 0:15:05.600 --> 0:15:10.200 is my is Highlights magazine? Do you remember Highlight? You 0:15:10.280 --> 0:15:12.800 remember it was like the magazine for parents and it 0:15:12.880 --> 0:15:14.920 was always in the pediatricians office. 0:15:15.000 --> 0:15:19.800 Yeah, with that geo kids, Yeah, I mean a Nickelodeon magazine. 0:15:19.800 --> 0:15:21.960 Did you grow up hating going to the doctor. 0:15:23.240 --> 0:15:26.960 Yeah, I'm pretty sure my parents didn't have We didn't 0:15:26.960 --> 0:15:28.880 have fights about it, which was great, Like I knew 0:15:28.920 --> 0:15:31.560 I had to go, but I hated. Yeah, I hated doctors. 0:15:31.560 --> 0:15:34.280 The only doctors I enjoyed going to were eye doctors. 0:15:34.640 --> 0:15:36.880 I think the I think weird. I think taking eye 0:15:36.920 --> 0:15:38.080 exams is really fun. 0:15:38.520 --> 0:15:41.720 Do you are you squeamish about giving blood? 0:15:42.280 --> 0:15:45.840 No, I'm not. I'm a little bit of a baby sometimes, 0:15:45.880 --> 0:15:47.440 but like I just look at my phone now and 0:15:47.480 --> 0:15:49.160 I'm fine because I feel like I have to get 0:15:49.160 --> 0:15:50.960 blood work done all the time because I'm gay. 0:15:51.120 --> 0:15:54.880 What about you, I like actively enjoy giving blood. 0:15:56.320 --> 0:15:59.880 You're like peah, I mean, oh, that's all you're gonna take. 0:16:00.240 --> 0:16:04.200 Well, I do have some more. Something that's happened in 0:16:04.240 --> 0:16:06.800 the past couple of years is I apparently my veins 0:16:06.840 --> 0:16:09.600 are really hard to find, either because I have like 0:16:09.640 --> 0:16:12.440 I don't know, like thick skin, or they're like really 0:16:12.480 --> 0:16:15.920 recessed or something. So it usually takes the nurse a 0:16:15.960 --> 0:16:18.440 really long time to find my veins and toms. Sometimes 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:21.960 they will have to insert the needle in many times 0:16:22.400 --> 0:16:25.000 before they find you love in. I love it a 0:16:25.000 --> 0:16:28.000 little bit. I mean I really don't have a problem 0:16:28.040 --> 0:16:31.120 with like doing doing my shots. You know, when I 0:16:31.120 --> 0:16:37.280 inject estrogen, I I just like am not squeamish about 0:16:37.280 --> 0:16:41.120 blood all Like I never flinch when a needle gets 0:16:41.200 --> 0:16:43.920 put in me. The other day, I was getting tattooed, 0:16:44.000 --> 0:16:46.320 and like my friend who was doing my tattoos, like 0:16:46.440 --> 0:16:48.560 kept asking are you okay? Are you okay? And I 0:16:48.600 --> 0:16:50.680 was like, yeah, I'm fine. I mean up until like 0:16:50.720 --> 0:16:53.000 the fourth I haven't even seen your new tattoo yet. 0:16:53.360 --> 0:16:54.600 I have five new tattoos. 0:16:55.360 --> 0:16:58.440 Okay, we'll see them after I fall asleep during tattoo appointments, 0:16:58.720 --> 0:17:00.520 especially now that I get stick in pokes from my 0:17:00.560 --> 0:17:03.760 friend Elliott. Those are like jet they feel nice, they 0:17:03.800 --> 0:17:04.480 feel like good. 0:17:05.000 --> 0:17:07.600 The first four were fine, and then once we. 0:17:07.600 --> 0:17:10.760 Got to my leg that started to become a little 0:17:10.760 --> 0:17:47.320 bit of an issue. 0:17:31.920 --> 0:17:37.000 Obviously. Like when you're trans you know, doctor, and I think, 0:17:37.119 --> 0:17:40.560 just like being queer in general, like doctors become a 0:17:40.680 --> 0:17:44.480 much bigger part of your life. Because before I started 0:17:44.720 --> 0:17:48.639 medically transitioning, I saw a doctor you know, on a 0:17:49.119 --> 0:17:53.040 like a good decade, you know, once every couple of years, 0:17:53.280 --> 0:17:54.920 you know when I was a kid, obviously I saw 0:17:54.960 --> 0:17:57.680 I saw a doctor like once a year for a physical. 0:17:57.840 --> 0:18:00.640 But you know, being trans like you have to be 0:18:01.040 --> 0:18:03.399 much more aware of what's going on in your body. 0:18:03.440 --> 0:18:07.160 And then also if you factor being on prep into it, 0:18:07.440 --> 0:18:09.960 then you have to see a doctor every three months 0:18:10.280 --> 0:18:15.199 to get your blood work done. I I don't know, 0:18:15.280 --> 0:18:22.080 Like I think I now feel a lot less intimidated 0:18:22.200 --> 0:18:25.960 by medical stuff than before I started transitioning. Like there 0:18:26.040 --> 0:18:30.840 were definitely in my sort of like lawless twenties from 0:18:30.960 --> 0:18:36.080 college to when I started transitioning. Like in my later twenties, 0:18:36.440 --> 0:18:38.520 I like I didn't go to the doctor for years. 0:18:38.560 --> 0:18:40.520 I like had no idea what was going on in 0:18:40.520 --> 0:18:42.240 my body. But I was also young enough that it 0:18:42.280 --> 0:18:44.760 didn't really matter, Like I was always bouncing back from this. 0:18:44.880 --> 0:18:47.400 That's kind of tea, Like we really should get regularly 0:18:47.480 --> 0:18:49.840 checked up, especially when it comes to like screenings and 0:18:49.840 --> 0:18:52.600 cancer stuff, but for the most part in your early twenties, 0:18:52.680 --> 0:18:54.720 like you do not need to be This is like 0:18:54.800 --> 0:18:57.600 such terrible advice, but it's true. You may so much 0:18:57.640 --> 0:19:00.000 to just visit the doctor because you're supposed to as 0:19:00.040 --> 0:19:02.720 especially when it comes to like dentists and I doctors 0:19:02.720 --> 0:19:04.359 and all this shit, and then you end up throwing 0:19:04.400 --> 0:19:06.760 away so much money on copays in medicine you don't 0:19:06.760 --> 0:19:08.919 actually need or like things that you never asked for 0:19:10.760 --> 0:19:12.320 and you don't need it, like you're gonna be fine 0:19:12.320 --> 0:19:14.159 through your twenties, like go to the hour when you 0:19:14.200 --> 0:19:16.640 need to. But now in my mid thirties, I'm medicated, 0:19:16.720 --> 0:19:18.399 boots boots down. 0:19:18.320 --> 0:19:20.680 And let me tell you, just buy within an inch 0:19:20.720 --> 0:19:22.960 of my life medicated because health insurance. 0:19:25.320 --> 0:19:29.520 Don't even get me started. I'm still on my California 0:19:29.560 --> 0:19:31.159 health insurance have not changed. 0:19:31.400 --> 0:19:33.280 So you're paying like six hundred dollars a month. 0:19:33.400 --> 0:19:36.199 No, no, no, I'm paying like nothing. Oh. I'm on the 0:19:36.240 --> 0:19:39.639 health insurance that I got when I left my last 0:19:39.720 --> 0:19:43.719 job and went on unemployment. Oh, I pay like nothing. 0:19:43.920 --> 0:19:46.880 And you were still covered by doctor V No no, no, 0:19:47.119 --> 0:19:48.400 I stopped going to doctor V. 0:19:48.520 --> 0:19:51.000 Oh but what but didn't Oh so you didn't have 0:19:51.080 --> 0:19:51.600 your insurance? 0:19:51.720 --> 0:19:53.800 No no no oh I see No I didn't do like 0:19:53.880 --> 0:19:57.240 the I didn't switch my health insurance. I went on 0:19:57.320 --> 0:20:02.720 like the very basic like Medicaid insurance I see, or medicare, 0:20:02.760 --> 0:20:04.960 which one is for old people, Medicare or Medicaid. 0:20:05.040 --> 0:20:07.520 I think Medicare is for old people. Okay, so Medicaid 0:20:08.960 --> 0:20:12.200 but oh no, no, no, a Medicare is for us. Medicaid 0:20:12.280 --> 0:20:12.520 is for. 0:20:12.480 --> 0:20:16.399 Old Well, it hasn't been a problem yet. I mean 0:20:16.440 --> 0:20:18.320 I haven't been to the doctor a lot this year. 0:20:18.320 --> 0:20:23.159 I only went for the first time outside of like 0:20:23.200 --> 0:20:25.359 going to urgent care when I had strapped throat. I 0:20:25.520 --> 0:20:28.320 just went to Calen Lord for the first time to 0:20:30.040 --> 0:20:33.760 start care there again, and like they didn't even have 0:20:33.840 --> 0:20:36.320 my current email or phone number, like it is it's 0:20:36.359 --> 0:20:42.560 been a while. And I the day that I went 0:20:42.600 --> 0:20:46.680 to calen Lord, I saw two people I knew, and 0:20:46.720 --> 0:20:52.320 then afterwards I tweeted something about Callen Lord and someone 0:20:52.560 --> 0:20:55.880 I mutuals with messaged me and was like I sent 0:20:55.920 --> 0:20:57.840 this to my friend at calen Lord and they were like, oh, 0:20:57.920 --> 0:20:59.200