WEBVTT - Go for the memory

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to go for the memory. When you

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<v Speaker 1>are feeling uncertain about doing something, consider not just how

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<v Speaker 1>you are feeling now, but how you will feel to

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<v Speaker 1>have done the thing. Will it make for a good story.

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<v Speaker 1>If so, it might be worth trying. Time always moves

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<v Speaker 1>along at the same rate, but how we experience it

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<v Speaker 1>varies widely. Time expands when we have more memories of it.

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<v Speaker 1>Time seems to disappear when we do the same thing

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<v Speaker 1>over and over again with nothing novel or adventurous. Emotional

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<v Speaker 1>intensity can so deep in time. Sometimes things that were

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<v Speaker 1>over with quite quickly become defining memories for the rest

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<v Speaker 1>of our lives. The memory consumes much more space than

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<v Speaker 1>the event itself. We can't really control that with some

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<v Speaker 1>negative things that become memories, but we do have a

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<v Speaker 1>choice with other memorable things that we can actively put

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<v Speaker 1>into our lives. I had this discussion with one of

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<v Speaker 1>my children a few years ago when he was very

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<v Speaker 1>curious about a particular roller coaster. He got to the

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<v Speaker 1>park and his nerve almost failed him, but we talked

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<v Speaker 1>about this and hashed out that the ride would be

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<v Speaker 1>over in two minutes. Love it, hate it. Either way,

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<v Speaker 1>it would be over in two minutes, and then he

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<v Speaker 1>could tell all his other siblings about going on it,

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<v Speaker 1>and he would have the memory. If he walked away

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<v Speaker 1>from the park without that, well, he could spend far

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<v Speaker 1>longer than two minutes rehashing that decision. He decided to

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<v Speaker 1>go on the ride, and sure enough it was awesome.

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<v Speaker 1>He went on it again and again. But even when

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<v Speaker 1>things aren't so awesome in the moment, they can make

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<v Speaker 1>a good memory. Over a recent weekend, my family elected

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<v Speaker 1>to go hiking in some nearby mountains. Theoretically, early summer

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<v Speaker 1>should be beautiful hiking weather. It was not. The rain

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<v Speaker 1>that was supposed to stop. By the time we started

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<v Speaker 1>hiking did not stop. The temperature hovered around forty eight

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<v Speaker 1>degrees and this was pretty ridiculous, as are the photos

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<v Speaker 1>of us in our wet winter coats in summer. But

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<v Speaker 1>you know what, I love looking at those photos of

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<v Speaker 1>my little hikers. The day stands out more in my

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<v Speaker 1>mind than if we had stayed at home attempting to

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<v Speaker 1>do nothing, which really means meaningless. Something's one way or another,

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<v Speaker 1>these five hours would pass. I now have a memory

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<v Speaker 1>of all of us soaked on that rocky mountaintop. So

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<v Speaker 1>as you are pondering planning your day, you're weak the

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<v Speaker 1>rest of this year, your life. Why not go for

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<v Speaker 1>the memory. Yes, you will feel silly dressing up as

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<v Speaker 1>a clown for that parade, or you might feel nervous

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<v Speaker 1>about that karaoke solo or traveling to Boise on your own,

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<v Speaker 1>but you will definitely remember those things, and the memories

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<v Speaker 1>can entertain you and stretch your experience of time long

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<v Speaker 1>after the experience itself has drifted into the past. The

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<v Speaker 1>present is fleeting. All we have most of the time

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<v Speaker 1>is memories, so best to make some interesting ones in

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<v Speaker 1>the meantime. This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's

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<v Speaker 1>to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd

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