1 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:06,720 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio. 2 00:00:09,080 --> 00:00:15,200 Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. 3 00:00:16,360 --> 00:00:20,759 Speaker 1: Today's tip is to go for the memory. When you 4 00:00:20,800 --> 00:00:25,040 Speaker 1: are feeling uncertain about doing something, consider not just how 5 00:00:25,079 --> 00:00:28,319 Speaker 1: you are feeling now, but how you will feel to 6 00:00:28,400 --> 00:00:32,000 Speaker 1: have done the thing. Will it make for a good story. 7 00:00:33,280 --> 00:00:39,000 Speaker 1: If so, it might be worth trying. Time always moves 8 00:00:39,040 --> 00:00:42,600 Speaker 1: along at the same rate, but how we experience it 9 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:47,839 Speaker 1: varies widely. Time expands when we have more memories of it. 10 00:00:48,960 --> 00:00:52,160 Speaker 1: Time seems to disappear when we do the same thing 11 00:00:52,320 --> 00:00:58,360 Speaker 1: over and over again with nothing novel or adventurous. Emotional 12 00:00:58,480 --> 00:01:03,560 Speaker 1: intensity can so deep in time. Sometimes things that were 13 00:01:03,600 --> 00:01:07,080 Speaker 1: over with quite quickly become defining memories for the rest 14 00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:11,800 Speaker 1: of our lives. The memory consumes much more space than 15 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:16,080 Speaker 1: the event itself. We can't really control that with some 16 00:01:16,400 --> 00:01:19,679 Speaker 1: negative things that become memories, but we do have a 17 00:01:19,760 --> 00:01:23,880 Speaker 1: choice with other memorable things that we can actively put 18 00:01:24,200 --> 00:01:27,760 Speaker 1: into our lives. I had this discussion with one of 19 00:01:27,800 --> 00:01:30,680 Speaker 1: my children a few years ago when he was very 20 00:01:30,720 --> 00:01:34,560 Speaker 1: curious about a particular roller coaster. He got to the 21 00:01:34,600 --> 00:01:39,000 Speaker 1: park and his nerve almost failed him, but we talked 22 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:41,440 Speaker 1: about this and hashed out that the ride would be 23 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:47,120 Speaker 1: over in two minutes. Love it, hate it. Either way, 24 00:01:47,560 --> 00:01:51,280 Speaker 1: it would be over in two minutes, and then he 25 00:01:51,320 --> 00:01:54,240 Speaker 1: could tell all his other siblings about going on it, 26 00:01:54,880 --> 00:01:58,000 Speaker 1: and he would have the memory. If he walked away 27 00:01:58,040 --> 00:02:00,760 Speaker 1: from the park without that, well, he could spend far 28 00:02:00,920 --> 00:02:05,680 Speaker 1: longer than two minutes rehashing that decision. He decided to 29 00:02:05,720 --> 00:02:07,920 Speaker 1: go on the ride, and sure enough it was awesome. 30 00:02:08,680 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 1: He went on it again and again. But even when 31 00:02:12,560 --> 00:02:15,000 Speaker 1: things aren't so awesome in the moment, they can make 32 00:02:15,040 --> 00:02:18,880 Speaker 1: a good memory. Over a recent weekend, my family elected 33 00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:23,120 Speaker 1: to go hiking in some nearby mountains. Theoretically, early summer 34 00:02:23,160 --> 00:02:28,119 Speaker 1: should be beautiful hiking weather. It was not. The rain 35 00:02:28,200 --> 00:02:30,239 Speaker 1: that was supposed to stop. By the time we started 36 00:02:30,320 --> 00:02:34,520 Speaker 1: hiking did not stop. The temperature hovered around forty eight 37 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:38,160 Speaker 1: degrees and this was pretty ridiculous, as are the photos 38 00:02:38,200 --> 00:02:42,320 Speaker 1: of us in our wet winter coats in summer. But 39 00:02:42,440 --> 00:02:46,000 Speaker 1: you know what, I love looking at those photos of 40 00:02:46,040 --> 00:02:49,920 Speaker 1: my little hikers. The day stands out more in my 41 00:02:50,040 --> 00:02:52,360 Speaker 1: mind than if we had stayed at home attempting to 42 00:02:52,400 --> 00:02:59,400 Speaker 1: do nothing, which really means meaningless. Something's one way or another, 43 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:04,720 Speaker 1: these five hours would pass. I now have a memory 44 00:03:04,760 --> 00:03:10,359 Speaker 1: of all of us soaked on that rocky mountaintop. So 45 00:03:10,520 --> 00:03:14,320 Speaker 1: as you are pondering planning your day, you're weak the 46 00:03:14,360 --> 00:03:18,440 Speaker 1: rest of this year, your life. Why not go for 47 00:03:18,480 --> 00:03:22,400 Speaker 1: the memory. Yes, you will feel silly dressing up as 48 00:03:22,440 --> 00:03:24,760 Speaker 1: a clown for that parade, or you might feel nervous 49 00:03:24,840 --> 00:03:28,360 Speaker 1: about that karaoke solo or traveling to Boise on your own, 50 00:03:29,400 --> 00:03:33,239 Speaker 1: but you will definitely remember those things, and the memories 51 00:03:33,280 --> 00:03:38,480 Speaker 1: can entertain you and stretch your experience of time long 52 00:03:38,520 --> 00:03:43,920 Speaker 1: after the experience itself has drifted into the past. The 53 00:03:44,000 --> 00:03:49,240 Speaker 1: present is fleeting. All we have most of the time 54 00:03:50,120 --> 00:03:55,920 Speaker 1: is memories, so best to make some interesting ones in 55 00:03:55,960 --> 00:04:01,320 Speaker 1: the meantime. This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's 56 00:04:01,360 --> 00:04:10,760 Speaker 1: to making the most of our time. 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