WEBVTT - Pause before a yes 

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to pause before saying yes. Today's tip,

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<v Speaker 1>like others, recently comes from the book Joy at Work

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<v Speaker 1>by Marie Condo and Scott Sunensheine. The authors talk about

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<v Speaker 1>how to declutter your desk and declutter your calendar in

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<v Speaker 1>order to achieve more satisfaction. In years of writing about

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<v Speaker 1>time management, I've learned that it is incredibly important to

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<v Speaker 1>leave open space. Stuff comes up. Plus we all need

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<v Speaker 1>time to think. But it's really hard to say no

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<v Speaker 1>to things, especially things that happen far in the future.

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<v Speaker 1>We can't really claim to be busy on some random

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<v Speaker 1>Wednesday next November. So the tendency is to say yes

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<v Speaker 1>and then kick ourselves later. Condo and Sunenshine recommend dealing

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<v Speaker 1>with this with a simple trick. Take a pause, simply

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<v Speaker 1>say I'll think about it and get back to you. Then,

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<v Speaker 1>the authors say, you can take some time to decide

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<v Speaker 1>whether the task will spark joy. If so, great, if not,

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<v Speaker 1>let it go. They report that the research shows that

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<v Speaker 1>when we delay making a commitment, we feel more empowered

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<v Speaker 1>to say no to tasks we don't enjoy, and yes

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<v Speaker 1>to tasks we do. I think this is a great idea.

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<v Speaker 1>If saying no is so hard that you're inclined to

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<v Speaker 1>say yes when you mean to say no, then stepping

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<v Speaker 1>back for a few minutes can reduce the pressure. You're

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<v Speaker 1>not saying yes or no immediately, You're just asking for

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<v Speaker 1>time to think about it. Then you can give an

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<v Speaker 1>answer when you've considered everything else on your plate. So today,

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<v Speaker 1>if someone makes a request you're unsure about, just try

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<v Speaker 1>that simple phrase, let me think about it and get

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<v Speaker 1>back to you, or the variations. I know this is

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<v Speaker 1>important to you. Let me check my calendar. You get

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<v Speaker 1>the idea. I would just make one additional suggestion. If

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<v Speaker 1>the answer is truly no, then don't claim to be busy.

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<v Speaker 1>If you say, oh, I'd love to do this, but

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<v Speaker 1>I have something else Tuesday night, the person just might

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<v Speaker 1>be willing to move it to Wednesday, and then you've

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<v Speaker 1>got the same problem all over again. Better to tell

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<v Speaker 1>the truth, but you can wait a little bit to

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<v Speaker 1>get there. In the meantime. This is Laura. Thanks for listening,

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<v Speaker 1>and here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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