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Speaker 2: Remy is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Erica. So in

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Speaker 2: a minute, we're gonna call her and just tell us

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Speaker 2: why she's ghosting and maybe get another date. But first, Remy,

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Speaker 2: how long has it been since you heard from Tarika.

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Speaker 3: It's been in about two weeks now.

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Speaker 4: Okay, have you reached out to her?

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Speaker 3: I mean at first I was reaching out, but no,

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Speaker 3: I've kind of gotten the point and you know, held

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Speaker 4: But why don't you tell us about your date?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Sure, So we went out to take place in

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Speaker 3: town I really like, and then after that we went

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Speaker 3: out for a froyo and then we even went out

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Speaker 3: I don't know, it was a great night, you know,

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Speaker 3: you know, we met up around seven, and you know,

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Speaker 3: by the time I dropped her off, it was you know,

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Speaker 3: almost already night. So great night, a lot of fun.

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Speaker 1: This is always weird to me when you go to

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Speaker 1: three different locations and then you get ghosted, because at

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Speaker 1: that point you you have a pretty good feeling that,

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Speaker 1: like this person wants to spend time with you, like

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Speaker 1: you had it out two different times. Did you feel

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Speaker 1: like she was super nice?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she was super nice. I like, you know how

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Speaker 3: we talked a while before even our first date, and like,

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Speaker 3: I don't know, we're both vibing really good together. And yeah,

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Speaker 3: it was really weird that she didn't tell me anything

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Speaker 1: So could it be like work or family related that

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Speaker 1: she's not like something's going on in her personal life?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean she she's some like she really had

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Speaker 3: her stuff together, but you know, it's definitely possible she

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Speaker 3: get just gotten busy. But you know, like I said,

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Speaker 3: it's been in a couple of weeks, so I forgured

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Speaker 3: if she wanted to go out another date, maybe she

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Speaker 3: would have answered me. But I really at least, you know,

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Speaker 1: During the date, Remy, did she give you feelings that

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Speaker 1: she liked you? Did she say that or is there

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Speaker 1: something that could have possibly happened that would have made

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Speaker 1: the date kind of take a turn?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Like so I guess the one thing is I was

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Speaker 3: because things were going so well, like, you know, how

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Speaker 3: those feelings were kind of reciprocated. But I don't know,

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Speaker 3: maybe I pushed too hard, like that's the only thing

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Speaker 1: But like what did you say? What direction were you pushing? Like,

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Speaker 1: oh I really liked you? Reason we get married?

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Speaker 3: Or yeah yeah, yeah, no, no, nothing like that, but

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Speaker 3: just like, oh, you know, next time I have to

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Speaker 3: know kind of you know, you know, insinuating that you know,

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Speaker 3: this wouldn't be the only, you know, date.

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Speaker 4: I think that's some good things.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you can't think of anything awkward that happened or

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Speaker 2: any reason that you'd be getting ghosted.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know, Like, uh, I don't know. Maybe

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Speaker 3: I wasn't dressed right, like I was wearing like corduroy

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Speaker 2: Corduroys are in now, so is ish Okay, so maybe

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Speaker 4: Judged on that, Like I mean, I like them? How

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Speaker 3: Just?

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 3: Man?

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Speaker 2: All right, well we'll see if that is the issue,

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Speaker 2: we'll play a song come back and then call her

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Speaker 2: and see if she tell us why she's ghosting you,

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Speaker 2: and then maybe get you another date if you still want.

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Speaker 3: Okay, all right, also appreciate it.

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Speaker 4: So we'll play a song. Come back and get your

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Speaker 4: first day followup next.

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of your first day follow up

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Speaker 2: if you're just joining us, Remy is on the phone

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Speaker 2: and he's getting ghosted by Tarika. So in a second,

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Speaker 2: we're going to call her and see if she tell

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Speaker 2: But first, Remy, why don't you catch everybody up on

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Speaker 2: your date with Tarica?

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Speaker 3: So, yeah, we went out to stage place, we had

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Speaker 3: frozen yogurt, you know, we went to a dive bar,

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Speaker 3: you know, all together. We're together probably for about five hours.

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Speaker 3: It's a great day. You know, A text her a

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Speaker 3: few times after the date. But now it's been about

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Speaker 3: two weeks, haven't heard from her. Don't know if she

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Speaker 3: was judging me on my corduroy paint and some of

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Speaker 3: the talent that was making, you know, you know, hoping

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Speaker 3: that we would you know, it wouldn't be our only

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Speaker 2: Okay, cool, you're right us a caller. Okay, here we go, Hi,

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Speaker 2: I speak to Erica.

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Speaker 4: Please. This is hey Tarica. How are you?

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Speaker 2: My name is Jewbell and I'm calling from a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called The Jebel Show.

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Speaker 1: Hi, Sarah, I'm Nina. I'm also on the show.

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Speaker 4: Hi, and I'm Victoria. Please.

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Speaker 5: That's cool.

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Speaker 4: You listen to the show.

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Speaker 2: Every we do a segment on the show called the

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Speaker 2: First Date follow Up, where if you go on a

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Speaker 2: date with somebody and ghost them, that person emails us

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Speaker 2: to call you up and ask why you're ghosting them.

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Speaker 5: Okay, so.

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Speaker 4: We got an email about you?

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Speaker 5: Okay, all right, it's.

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Speaker 4: From a dude named Remy. Oh no, oh yeah, yep?

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Speaker 1: Are you ghosting Remy?

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Speaker 5: Can I say yes or no?

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Speaker 4: Okay? Yeah? Would explaining to us what that means? Though,

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Speaker 4: I get like, I.

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Speaker 5: Definitely put off messaging him back. I'll put it that way.

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Speaker 5: I put off messaging him back.

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Speaker 4: So he's not totally ghosted yet.

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Speaker 1: It's just Elaine just mailed him a letter.

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Speaker 4: At this point sounds funny.

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Speaker 5: It wasn't anything like I literally just got thrown off.

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Speaker 5: That was that was it. Like it wasn't like anything.

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Speaker 5: I was just thrown off. Okay, So I couldn't stop

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Speaker 5: thinking about what happened when we went to get frozen

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Speaker 5: he he like became like a monster in that proio shop,

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Speaker 5: Like he added everything that they had available for toppings

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Speaker 5: of syrup and the strawberry.

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Speaker 4: Yeah it sounds like having.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it sounds like something I do too. I know

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Speaker 1: he was sending forty bucks. It's the hoppings are so good.

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Speaker 1: I don't understand what you just one right, Well.

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Speaker 5: It was my thought process, but I was like, I

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Speaker 5: going to weigh forty pounds. And I was just like,

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Speaker 5: you've never been to one of these places, Like is

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Speaker 5: I guess I thought about it like way too much.

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Speaker 5: And then I was like, well, I'll get back to him.

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Speaker 5: You know, I was still in my head and then

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Speaker 5: I completely forgot to get back to him.

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Speaker 1: Okay, just for that sounds like something, Victoria. Yeah, obviously

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Speaker 1: Does that tell you something about his character? You're just

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Speaker 5: It just it just like a lot like I think.

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Speaker 3: I was just stunned.

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Speaker 5: It was kind of like a train wreck kind of thing.

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Speaker 5: I was just watching it, and I'm like, I just

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Speaker 1: Okay, let me ask you this, Erika. This will help

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Speaker 1: me understand. What do you put on your frozen yogurt?

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Speaker 5: Oh? Well, like the flavors coordinate, like I'll do like,

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Speaker 5: but no toppings. I'll do some toppings, but I'll do like, oh, like,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, no, no, I get it now.

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Speaker 1: Her closet is like it's color coordinating. It is actually yeah,

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Speaker 1: see Okay, I just needed to understand, okay, why the

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Speaker 5: The chaos is a good word for it.

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Speaker 2: Yes, that's the reason that you're going singing is because

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Speaker 5: I was just kind of picturing, you know how, like

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Speaker 1: Okay, I do that too. What, Yeah, it's very incoccident.

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Speaker 1: It's called Anina. I understand your name, like Nina aid,

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Speaker 4: Was like anyways, Erica, thank you for telling us.

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Speaker 2: I should also let you know that Remy is on

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Speaker 3: So yeah, I guess I kind of like you could

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Speaker 3: just started a little bit of everything. Sorry about that.

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Speaker 4: If I don't think you me to apologize, I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I'm pretty offended.

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Speaker 5: so sorry. I was not offended. I was just blown

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Speaker 5: away flesh. My mind is just blown. Like I don't

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Speaker 3: You know, maybe sometime you can go out for pizza

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Speaker 5: I was gonna say, like, how many topics go on

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Speaker 5: your pizza? Like are you one of those people that

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Speaker 5: put like pardi concina butter or something.

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Speaker 3: No, but maybe some sausage and pine apple and green

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Speaker 3: pepper and onion and Canadian bacon and taco and you know,

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Speaker 3: pepperoni and black oloves green olives. So not too many mushrooms,

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Speaker 3: but not too many toppings.

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Speaker 1: But I.

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Speaker 5: Don't know, like well, at least like with pizzas, you

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Speaker 3: So but yeah, so it it's just a proio hum

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Speaker 3: Like it was really kind of just going around a

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Speaker 5: Oh, Like I wasn't really like ghosting me because of it.

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Speaker 5: I just got in my head about it and then

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Speaker 5: I honestly I meant to get back to you, and

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Speaker 5: then I just I didn't like that. That's what like,

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Speaker 5: I wish I had a better excuse. I wish I

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Speaker 5: had a clever and I have nothing.

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Speaker 2: It was just, would you like to go out with

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Speaker 2: Remy again? We'll pay for it. I mean, we'll pay

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Speaker 2: for most of it. I don't know how much ISO

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Speaker 2: cost if you guys get FROO, but we'll pay for it.

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Speaker 5: I mean, I guess your question is, like, is he

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Speaker 5: willing to go out with me again?

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Speaker 4: That's fair?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know that, uh pizza with the twenty toppings

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Speaker 3: sounding pretty good now, so that'd be awesome.

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Speaker 5: Well, I mean, if you want a third date, just

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Speaker 5: don't get the twenty topping pizza.

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Speaker 2: I'm like Good's first date follow up