WEBVTT - The A&G Replay Thursday Hour One 0:00:00.560 --> 0:00:03.240 Hey, we're Armstrong and Getty. We're featuring our podcast one 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:06.359 more thing. Find it wherever you find all your podcasts. 0:00:06.400 --> 0:00:09.760 I was fascinated by that python farm story the other day. 0:00:09.800 --> 0:00:12.160 I actually dug into that, did a little reading, you know, 0:00:12.360 --> 0:00:16.520 because pythons are big and giant and meaty, and they're 0:00:16.560 --> 0:00:20.520 like super efficient with the way they turn calories into 0:00:20.800 --> 0:00:24.400 muscle mass, and they taste like chicken. 0:00:24.600 --> 0:00:26.560 I got a question about that, but when I get 0:00:26.600 --> 0:00:28.120 to the cannibalism, I'll I'll hit you. 0:00:28.080 --> 0:00:30.040 With it, all right, all right, fair enough. 0:00:30.240 --> 0:00:35.360 So after the show, before we started recording this, Hanson 0:00:35.400 --> 0:00:38.920 replayed a clip of me saying something rather dry about Jack, 0:00:38.960 --> 0:00:42.240 and Jack commented, that's a very I'm just Diane thing 0:00:42.280 --> 0:00:46.519 to say, and I was reminded of a longtime listener 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:51.080 to the show and hilarious tweeter I'm just Diane, and 0:00:51.120 --> 0:00:53.080 I went digging into our twitter feed. She doesn't tweet 0:00:53.080 --> 0:00:56.280 as much as she used to, I think, which is 0:00:56.280 --> 0:00:57.360 a shame for humanity. 0:00:57.400 --> 0:00:59.200 But she's had grown up with a job now and 0:00:59.240 --> 0:01:01.560 it's not easy. Should follow her, Katie, if you've never 0:01:01.640 --> 0:01:03.080 checked out I'm just Diana. 0:01:02.920 --> 0:01:04.600 I am on her shoes now. 0:01:04.640 --> 0:01:05.039 She is a. 0:01:05.000 --> 0:01:07.080 Listener we became aware of a long time ago. And 0:01:07.120 --> 0:01:08.000 she's very funny. 0:01:08.160 --> 0:01:09.000 Okay, yeah. 0:01:09.040 --> 0:01:12.160 Her pinned tweet is I'd rather go home than go big, 0:01:13.840 --> 0:01:16.720 which I agree with. How perfect is that? And then 0:01:17.000 --> 0:01:20.440 somebody tweeted the the Nancy Pelosi this is not an 0:01:20.440 --> 0:01:23.400 attempt to ban TikTok, it's an attempt to make TikTok better. 0:01:23.680 --> 0:01:26.640 Tic tac toe a winner, a winner. Her comment has 0:01:26.680 --> 0:01:36.160 simply nailed it. Oh boy, man, I love understatement. I 0:01:36.200 --> 0:01:39.280 think that's hilarious. Oh looking forward to the day my 0:01:39.360 --> 0:01:42.240 new phone stops autocorrecting, vaping to raping. 0:01:46.520 --> 0:01:48.040 Oh boy. 0:01:48.400 --> 0:01:50.440 Her best stuff is how much she hates her job 0:01:50.440 --> 0:01:57.080 and her coworkers. But that's a different topic. So New 0:01:57.120 --> 0:02:00.080 Scientist is a real science outfit, and they're trying to 0:02:00.360 --> 0:02:04.800 take another look at cannibalism, and they mention these bones 0:02:04.840 --> 0:02:08.880 that were found in a cave in southwest England which 0:02:09.440 --> 0:02:12.360 beared all the marks of cannibalism. It's pretty clear that 0:02:12.360 --> 0:02:14.640 cannibalism was going on their teeth, marks on the bones 0:02:14.680 --> 0:02:17.120 and the way. I won't get into details. It's pretty gross. 0:02:17.120 --> 0:02:21.800 But and this was fourteen, seven hundred years ago that 0:02:22.000 --> 0:02:26.519 they were practicing cannibalism there in England's Protein Baby. That's 0:02:26.520 --> 0:02:29.560 what I say today, they write in New Scientists Today, 0:02:29.560 --> 0:02:32.800 cannibalism is a taboo subject in many societies. We see 0:02:32.800 --> 0:02:35.440 it as aberrant, as a clear in film such as 0:02:35.480 --> 0:02:38.919 the Texas Chainsaw massacre. We associate it with zombies, psychopaths, 0:02:38.919 --> 0:02:42.840 and serial killers like cannibal lecter. Positive stories about cannibals 0:02:42.840 --> 0:02:45.000 are few and far between. I would agree with you there, 0:02:45.280 --> 0:02:46.400 I haven't heard one of those. 0:02:47.800 --> 0:02:51.639 Wait, what a child's book about cannibalism? 0:02:52.120 --> 0:02:54.480 Or Jimmy is a good guy, liked to golf, he 0:02:54.520 --> 0:02:57.400 treated his family well, and he was a cannibalabe. 0:02:57.639 --> 0:02:58.520 He'll be missed. 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:05.120 But perhaps it's time for a rethink, because despite our preconceptions, 0:03:05.320 --> 0:03:08.760 evidence is accumulating that cannibalism was a common human behavior. 0:03:09.840 --> 0:03:12.160 Our ancestors have been eating each other for a million 0:03:12.240 --> 0:03:15.800 years or more. In fact, so was torture for years, 0:03:15.840 --> 0:03:17.880 in the years, for centuries. But that doesn't mean we 0:03:17.919 --> 0:03:23.200 should reconsider it. What a bizarre story this is. In fact, 0:03:23.240 --> 0:03:25.400 it seems that down the ages, around a fifth of 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:29.520 societies have practiced cannibalism. While some of these people, while 0:03:29.680 --> 0:03:32.800 some of this people eating may have been simply to survive. 0:03:33.080 --> 0:03:35.960 In many cases, the reasons look more complex. In places 0:03:36.040 --> 0:03:39.880 like this cave in southern England, for example, consuming bodies 0:03:39.880 --> 0:03:41.800 of the dead seems to have been part of a 0:03:41.840 --> 0:03:45.400 funerary ritual, something they did when people died. Far from 0:03:45.440 --> 0:03:48.320 a monstrous affront to nature, cannibalism may have been a 0:03:48.320 --> 0:03:51.640 way of showing respect and love for the dead, say archaeologist. 0:03:52.120 --> 0:03:56.360 No, uh, yeah, no, no. 0:03:56.640 --> 0:03:59.080 Whoever wrote this needs to be investigated. He's like trying 0:03:59.120 --> 0:03:59.600 to sell this. 0:03:59.640 --> 0:04:03.160 I don't right, He's trying to soften a revelation that 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:05.920 may occur someday about the barrels in. 0:04:05.960 --> 0:04:12.760 His exactly exactly, he's trying to set the table cannibalism. 0:04:12.800 --> 0:04:14.400 We need to reconsider it. 0:04:14.840 --> 0:04:18.840 I just watched a horrible horror movie about cannibalism where 0:04:18.960 --> 0:04:20.680 these guys invite a bunch of people over to their 0:04:20.680 --> 0:04:23.240 house for a dinner party, and they're serving them the victims, 0:04:23.240 --> 0:04:24.560 but they don't know it. 0:04:24.800 --> 0:04:27.880 Will Jim never watch episodes of Hannibal, the prequel to 0:04:28.279 --> 0:04:29.240 Silence of the Lambs. 0:04:29.320 --> 0:04:30.480 Yes, oh my god. 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:32.240 When he would when he would sit down at the 0:04:32.279 --> 0:04:34.440 table in his suit, with his fine wine, and his 0:04:34.480 --> 0:04:37.760 beautiful home and start slicing off pieces of the river 0:04:37.880 --> 0:04:38.640 that he cooked up. 0:04:38.839 --> 0:04:41.280 God, that is gross. Dinner tables. 0:04:42.200 --> 0:04:44.400 Do you think because like you, you're so you're talking 0:04:44.440 --> 0:04:46.840 the other day about the snakes and how that might 0:04:46.920 --> 0:04:49.000 become a meat of the future, And I said, you 0:04:49.040 --> 0:04:51.640 because the idea of eating a snake disgusts me. There's 0:04:51.640 --> 0:04:55.520 something about eating a reptile that I find. And I've 0:04:55.520 --> 0:04:58.240 had snake, I've had alligator. There multiple, I've had it, 0:04:58.279 --> 0:04:59.280 but I don't want. 0:04:59.080 --> 0:05:04.719 To Alligator was great, let's just fried me to say, 0:05:05.080 --> 0:05:08.360 that's all right, But could could. 0:05:08.120 --> 0:05:15.479 You eat human? No? No, that's repugnant, repulsive? Why, I 0:05:15.520 --> 0:05:15.800 don't know. 0:05:15.880 --> 0:05:19.680 It's an instinctive horror, I think now the concept of 0:05:19.680 --> 0:05:24.800 it being a funerary ritual. Does anybody have anything else 0:05:24.800 --> 0:05:27.760 they'd like to say about jim Okay, well, then we're 0:05:27.800 --> 0:05:30.159 passing out knives and forks if we could all make 0:05:30.160 --> 0:05:31.320 our way to the casket. 0:05:31.440 --> 0:05:33.080 Yeah, I got one more thing to say about Jimmy. 0:05:33.120 --> 0:05:36.320 Looks delicious. Now that's some marbling. I mean, I know, 0:05:36.680 --> 0:05:38.640 I know he didn't exercise much, but that is some 0:05:38.800 --> 0:05:40.240 delicious looking marbling. 0:05:40.520 --> 0:05:45.599 He's creating a nice rub for it side size. 0:05:46.720 --> 0:05:48.560 If you heard me, I think, did I tell this 0:05:48.600 --> 0:05:50.560 on the air? I can't remember. My favorite joke now, 0:05:51.080 --> 0:05:54.360 which also takes place at a funeral. If you've heard 0:05:54.400 --> 0:05:55.880 this before, forgive me, but it's short. 0:05:56.720 --> 0:05:56.840 Uh. 0:05:57.480 --> 0:06:01.000 It's a funeral and uh, and people are talking about 0:06:01.000 --> 0:06:05.400 the dearly departed, and the widow stands up and says, 0:06:05.680 --> 0:06:07.559 is there anybody else who'd like to say a word? 0:06:08.400 --> 0:06:10.279 The guy stands up, He said I would, and he 0:06:10.320 --> 0:06:12.920 says plethora. 0:06:13.160 --> 0:06:16.400 Then he sits down, and the widow says, thank you, Jim. 0:06:16.560 --> 0:06:21.200 That means a lot to me. Yes, that is a 0:06:21.240 --> 0:06:22.080 good one I have. 0:06:22.200 --> 0:06:25.440 Actually, you've told that before, and I wrote it down 0:06:25.480 --> 0:06:27.440 to tell it to somebody else and then I never did, 0:06:27.520 --> 0:06:28.560 so thank you for reminding me. 0:06:28.560 --> 0:06:30.400 I pass it on. Now you got it again. 0:06:30.720 --> 0:06:33.560 Yes, the beauty of that joke is you think the 0:06:33.680 --> 0:06:35.960 punch your line is that he just says one worker. 0:06:36.240 --> 0:06:39.960 Yeah, there's a twist, and twist, my love. It caught 0:06:39.960 --> 0:06:43.000 the twist, well done, good. 0:06:42.920 --> 0:06:44.480 Good twist. That's funny. 0:06:44.600 --> 0:06:49.599 So back to cannibalism. I'm guessing that we're designed to 0:06:49.640 --> 0:06:52.400 be disgusted by it only because most of human history 0:06:52.440 --> 0:06:54.480 people have been starving, and if you weren't disgusted by it, 0:06:54.520 --> 0:06:56.680 I mean, if you if you thought of eating another 0:06:56.760 --> 0:06:58.480 human the same way you thought of eating a cow, 0:06:58.560 --> 0:06:59.120 we would. 0:06:58.880 --> 0:06:59.880 Have all eaten each other. 0:07:00.120 --> 0:07:03.279 I mean, just the strongest would have survived and eaten 0:07:03.279 --> 0:07:06.120 each other, and the societies that didn't find it up 0:07:06.160 --> 0:07:07.120 hurt and died out. 0:07:07.000 --> 0:07:09.320 Pretty quickly because of that. 0:07:09.320 --> 0:07:11.160 That'd be my evolutionary guess. 0:07:12.280 --> 0:07:14.280 Yeah, and doesn't. 0:07:14.720 --> 0:07:17.920 Like an epidemiological reason why it's a bad idea, because 0:07:17.960 --> 0:07:20.160 obviously humans can catch human diseases, but I don't. 0:07:20.160 --> 0:07:21.040 I suppose that's possible. 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:24.000 But you know, we've mostly been starving throughout history if 0:07:24.000 --> 0:07:26.760 you weren't disgusted by it, and like, the only the 0:07:26.800 --> 0:07:28.720 only way you could possibly do it is if you're 0:07:29.000 --> 0:07:31.480 you know, the Donner Party, and you're all starving to death, 0:07:31.520 --> 0:07:34.200 and many of them didn't participate, they went ahead and 0:07:34.280 --> 0:07:38.760 starved before they did it. If it was okay with you, Yeah, 0:07:38.800 --> 0:07:40.400 people would have turned to that right away. 0:07:41.400 --> 0:07:44.080 Yeah, I know, I suppose hat Jim. We all hate Jim. 0:07:44.320 --> 0:07:49.200 Let's eat him, I tell you. I tell you what though, 0:07:49.360 --> 0:07:52.120 It's it's all about the method of preparation, because like 0:07:52.160 --> 0:07:54.760 I'm not going to have human sushi or anything like that. 0:07:54.760 --> 0:07:55.360 That's too much. 0:07:55.400 --> 0:07:57.240 No, I'm I'm a medium rare guy, but I'm going 0:07:57.280 --> 0:07:58.280 well done on Jim. 0:07:58.400 --> 0:08:02.000 Yeah, and I'm like, maybe he smoked all day, like 0:08:02.040 --> 0:08:05.360 a long maybe jerky even. I want it really click. 0:08:06.160 --> 0:08:07.320 Could it be like a company. 0:08:07.400 --> 0:08:09.440 Could it be like a sandwich or maybe like a 0:08:09.480 --> 0:08:14.000 wrap or something, so it's not just that, yeah, you 0:08:14.040 --> 0:08:14.440 know what I mean. 0:08:14.640 --> 0:08:17.360 I don't want it like tender and falling off the femur. 0:08:17.680 --> 0:08:21.440 I just say, oh, you like a turkey leg you know, 0:08:21.840 --> 0:08:22.600 you see it the fair. 0:08:23.800 --> 0:08:26.080 I'd have to because I'm diabetic. 0:08:26.520 --> 0:08:29.520 That's right, You're at the fair and you're eating a 0:08:29.640 --> 0:08:34.160 human legs, got the footstill, see, that's disgusting. 0:08:34.200 --> 0:08:35.719 That's my point. 0:08:36.000 --> 0:08:38.480 So we'll see if this catches on and if New 0:08:38.520 --> 0:08:42.400 Scientific is successful in their effort to I don't know, 0:08:42.559 --> 0:08:43.920 mainstream cannibalism. 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:47.160 I guess you know what the world we're in right now, 0:08:47.200 --> 0:08:48.480 it wouldn't shock me. 0:08:49.160 --> 0:08:51.880 Right right you it's a sick enough. 0:08:55.840 --> 0:08:59.160 This is the Armstrong and Getty Show, featuring our podcast 0:08:59.160 --> 0:09:02.439 One More Thing, Get it wherever you like to get podcasts. 0:09:03.200 --> 0:09:05.760 I've been familiar with next door for a long time, 0:09:05.800 --> 0:09:08.440 but I'd never had the notifications on where I would 0:09:08.440 --> 0:09:12.480 get where I would get the regular everything everybody posts. 0:09:12.960 --> 0:09:18.319 Good God, is that a smorgus board of unimportant thing? 0:09:18.679 --> 0:09:18.880 It is? 0:09:19.080 --> 0:09:19.400 Question? 0:09:19.880 --> 0:09:23.240 It is the forum of first world problems? Well, it's 0:09:23.320 --> 0:09:27.839 it's a combination of like first world problems that you 0:09:28.040 --> 0:09:31.880 really don't need to mention out loud to anyone, and uh, 0:09:31.920 --> 0:09:36.040 and like big problems that there are much better venues 0:09:36.160 --> 0:09:40.400 for finding the answer, like my you know, my dad 0:09:40.400 --> 0:09:43.360 has got this disease. My dad's got Parkinson. He happened 0:09:43.360 --> 0:09:46.040 to be president. Does anybody recommend a good doctor? 0:09:46.080 --> 0:09:49.400 You going on next door for that? Is that your best. 0:09:49.080 --> 0:09:50.959 Place to try to figure out these things? 0:09:51.400 --> 0:09:52.520 It just seems odd to me. 0:09:53.840 --> 0:09:57.640 Yeah, I guess nobody ever responds, So I don't know 0:09:57.679 --> 0:10:01.040 why everybody's fishing in this pond. I could see asking 0:10:01.120 --> 0:10:03.959 for a recommendation of like a service provider or something 0:10:04.000 --> 0:10:06.040 like that. I wouldn't ask what medicine do you think 0:10:06.080 --> 0:10:09.040 he ought to take or anything like that. Or you know, 0:10:09.440 --> 0:10:11.760 a football is in my backyards, they may know it 0:10:11.760 --> 0:10:13.199 belonged to That was one this morning. 0:10:13.600 --> 0:10:15.960 Oh boy, I saw one the other day that somebody 0:10:15.960 --> 0:10:18.439 took a picture off of a ring camera of a 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:20.640 kid that doorbell ditched them, and they posted the video 0:10:20.679 --> 0:10:23.199 on next door, going, whose kid is this right? 0:10:23.440 --> 0:10:23.600 Right? 0:10:23.760 --> 0:10:27.000 Lots of those, lots of those, lots of did anybody 0:10:27.040 --> 0:10:29.640 just hear that noise? Well, that happens like ten times 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:33.360 a day? And then various responses. I did too. I 0:10:33.360 --> 0:10:35.079 thought it sounded like a gun. It didn't sound like 0:10:35.120 --> 0:10:37.560 a gun. It sounded like more okay, whatever. But here's 0:10:37.600 --> 0:10:39.400 my favorite one from today that got me on this 0:10:39.600 --> 0:10:43.120 very topic. Here's another one. Somebody asking about shingles. Find 0:10:43.120 --> 0:10:47.120 a medical professional or web md or something not next 0:10:47.200 --> 0:10:51.160 door now she's talking about roof depilatiating a nerve pain 0:10:51.760 --> 0:10:52.640 or exactly. 0:10:52.360 --> 0:10:57.640 I'm talking about the disease. Here's my favorite one. 0:10:58.840 --> 0:11:01.880 Uh does does anybody know what I should do with 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:05.720 this crow? It has a hurt wing. It landed between 0:11:05.760 --> 0:11:09.240 our houses. Yeah, I'm trying. I'm trying to I'm trying 0:11:09.280 --> 0:11:11.600 to nurse it back to health. It keeps hopping around 0:11:11.679 --> 0:11:15.120 and I don't know what to do with it. You 0:11:15.240 --> 0:11:16.960 got to put the whip to it. It's not trying 0:11:17.000 --> 0:11:20.000 hard enough. What should I do with it? Call it 0:11:20.000 --> 0:11:21.960 a sissy and tell it to try harder. 0:11:22.160 --> 0:11:25.760 Right exactly, tell it to good Lord helps crows that 0:11:25.840 --> 0:11:27.800 help themselves. 0:11:27.880 --> 0:11:31.120 Like, is it like the new Google for your neighbors. 0:11:31.160 --> 0:11:33.280 I don't understand why people are utilizing that. 0:11:33.440 --> 0:11:34.800 Well, all right, that's what I'm saying. 0:11:34.920 --> 0:11:39.880 You don't have Google or any of the other search 0:11:39.880 --> 0:11:42.800 engines for figuring stuff out, or even TikTok or whatever. 0:11:42.840 --> 0:11:43.080 You do. 0:11:43.120 --> 0:11:46.319 You go to the next door with the other eighty 0:11:46.400 --> 0:11:49.080 year old. Nothing else to do is to answer your question. 0:11:50.320 --> 0:11:53.760 Yeah, yeah, man, It's just I just shocked by it. 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:58.120 And I've always wondered this about when I didn't live 0:11:58.160 --> 0:12:00.000 in a neighborhood for like twenty years. But now I'm 0:12:00.040 --> 0:12:03.480 in a neighborhood. Every neighborhood I've ever lived in, pretty much, 0:12:04.360 --> 0:12:07.360 there are quite a few houses where you know who 0:12:07.400 --> 0:12:08.839 lives there, even if you don't know know them, you 0:12:09.000 --> 0:12:11.240 see them on a regular basis, getting in their car, kid, 0:12:11.280 --> 0:12:13.840 coming home on a bike, whatever. But there's always several 0:12:13.840 --> 0:12:16.400 houses where you just never see anybody. 0:12:16.840 --> 0:12:20.160 Yeah ever, ever, you never see anybody. 0:12:20.200 --> 0:12:21.360 Ever. Somebody lives there. 0:12:21.440 --> 0:12:23.319 Lights get turned on at night off in the morning, 0:12:23.600 --> 0:12:25.800 and that must be the crowd that's on next door 0:12:25.840 --> 0:12:28.559 asking about crows or medical questions or whatever. 0:12:28.559 --> 0:12:31.120 It must be that you gotta go on next door 0:12:31.200 --> 0:12:33.800 and say, hey, has anybody ever seen anybody come out 0:12:33.840 --> 0:12:34.680 of the blue house. 0:12:36.400 --> 0:12:40.320 That's perfect on them, Just start asking really weird questions 0:12:40.360 --> 0:12:41.800 on there, Jack, that'd be perfect. 0:12:43.000 --> 0:12:45.360 Hey, speaking of asking advice, I thought this was so 0:12:45.520 --> 0:12:47.679 interesting and it makes sense in my head. See if 0:12:47.679 --> 0:12:53.000 it does to you. It's new research out about getting advice, 0:12:53.200 --> 0:12:56.679 asking for advice, that sort of thing, and this, Elizabeth 0:12:56.679 --> 0:12:59.120 Bernstein writes, we tend to believe the best person for 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:01.679 support during a time time will always be someone who's 0:13:01.760 --> 0:13:02.600 been there before. 0:13:03.000 --> 0:13:04.360 It turns out that's wrong. 0:13:05.160 --> 0:13:08.520 New research shows we make get better help from people 0:13:08.559 --> 0:13:12.120 who've been through a significant challenge that's different from our own, 0:13:12.720 --> 0:13:15.480 because social scientists say this is because those who have 0:13:15.520 --> 0:13:20.240 been through an unrelated challenge can empathize with our emotional pain, 0:13:20.760 --> 0:13:23.240 but they won't assume they know what our experience is 0:13:23.520 --> 0:13:27.360 like or bring their own emotional baggage to the conversation. 0:13:28.320 --> 0:13:31.440 Oh, hun's great, that is interesting. I think that one over. 0:13:31.920 --> 0:13:35.600 Meanwhile, somebody who's quote unquote been there before sometimes talks 0:13:35.679 --> 0:13:38.520 more than they listen. They may also give advice solely 0:13:38.559 --> 0:13:41.400 based on their experience and forget that ours is going 0:13:41.480 --> 0:13:43.920 to be different. And because they got already got over 0:13:44.000 --> 0:13:47.120 the problem, they think we should too and tend to 0:13:47.280 --> 0:13:49.679 minimize how painful the situation is. 0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:53.720 My main advice with big things that I've been through 0:13:54.880 --> 0:13:58.120 is usually having been through this, don't listen to anybody's advice. 0:13:59.280 --> 0:14:01.760 That's about my own advice on a number of big things. 0:14:02.480 --> 0:14:07.760 Wow wow interesting a cynical man or an experienced man. 0:14:12.200 --> 0:14:13.560 Sometimes you don't know. 0:14:13.760 --> 0:14:16.640 Sometimes someone you don't know well may have different life 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:18.440 experiences that you can draw upon. 0:14:18.840 --> 0:14:21.400 You never know what people know until you ask. 0:14:21.560 --> 0:14:23.400 Well, like, that's the advice I give on my cancer 0:14:23.400 --> 0:14:25.400 experience because I've had a number of people ask me 0:14:25.440 --> 0:14:29.560 who get cancer, and I say, don't take anybody's advice 0:14:29.600 --> 0:14:34.000 because everybody's situation is so incredibly different. I heard so 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:36.040 many things that turned out not to be true, and 0:14:36.040 --> 0:14:39.080 I've been better off if I never asked. Everybody's situation 0:14:40.240 --> 0:14:43.600 is miles apart and changes on a daily basis, so 0:14:43.600 --> 0:14:46.200 don't worry about it. And child rearing, while not the 0:14:46.240 --> 0:14:50.320 same as that, because there are some truths to child wearing, definitely, 0:14:50.880 --> 0:14:54.320 but man there's a lot of I don't know, what 0:14:54.360 --> 0:14:55.920 are you telling me this for when it comes to 0:14:56.000 --> 0:14:58.720 child wearing. Also, yeah, a lot of people are trying 0:14:58.720 --> 0:15:02.560 to express their own and how to put this, work 0:15:02.600 --> 0:15:06.200 out their own issues or exhibit their own egos or something. 0:15:07.080 --> 0:15:07.920 Because kids are. 0:15:07.800 --> 0:15:10.040 So different and then the parents interaction with the kid 0:15:10.080 --> 0:15:10.640 is so different. 0:15:10.680 --> 0:15:12.960 It's just yeah, it's hard to normalize a lot of it. 0:15:13.160 --> 0:15:16.720 Yeah, maybe the worst advice giver is somebody who's raised 0:15:16.920 --> 0:15:21.040 a kid, because back to the beginning of this article, 0:15:21.600 --> 0:15:25.040 they're completely convinced that their experience is universal. 0:15:25.120 --> 0:15:26.760 I'm not talking about all of you that have had 0:15:26.760 --> 0:15:27.160 one child. 0:15:27.240 --> 0:15:30.880 Obviously some of you have wisdom, but yeah, you'd exactly 0:15:30.920 --> 0:15:32.040 be what she was describing. 0:15:32.280 --> 0:15:35.080 Yep, because I've got that situation. It ends up fine. 0:15:35.640 --> 0:15:37.480 If I just if I'd only had one of them, 0:15:37.480 --> 0:15:39.080 I would think I was the world's greatest parent and 0:15:39.160 --> 0:15:41.160 be willing to lay out all kinds of advice and 0:15:41.160 --> 0:15:42.880 maybe write a book. If I don't lay out the 0:15:42.920 --> 0:15:44.400 other one, I would think I'm a disaster. 0:15:47.240 --> 0:15:47.960 Yeah, I heard that. 0:15:48.560 --> 0:15:51.160 So final note on this, which I found interesting was 0:15:51.200 --> 0:15:55.640 the power of weak ties. Conversations with people that you 0:15:55.680 --> 0:15:59.000 have weak ties with can be surprisingly helpful. 0:15:59.520 --> 0:16:01.760 They don't know us well, they don't know our faults. 0:16:01.800 --> 0:16:05.920 They're less likely to judge us or make assumptions about 0:16:05.920 --> 0:16:07.440 our situation or something like that. 0:16:07.720 --> 0:16:09.160 I've had many experiences like this. 0:16:09.680 --> 0:16:14.200 Are much more likely to be a fellow, like a brainstormer, 0:16:14.720 --> 0:16:20.080 than a bestower of alleged wisdom. They're much more likely 0:16:20.120 --> 0:16:23.800 to listen and toss out ideas with you than try 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:26.400 to lay the law down. This is the guy sitting 0:16:26.400 --> 0:16:28.600 next to you at the bar or the bus stop 0:16:28.680 --> 0:16:29.040 or whatever. 0:16:29.120 --> 0:16:29.320 Yeah. 0:16:29.320 --> 0:16:31.680 I've had this experience many times in my life, and 0:16:31.720 --> 0:16:36.480 it works both directions. They don't have any particular agenda. 0:16:36.520 --> 0:16:41.240 Because they don't know you and you don't they can 0:16:41.280 --> 0:16:44.160 say things that if somebody who did know you said them, 0:16:44.240 --> 0:16:47.360 you'd get furiously angry. But because you don't know them 0:16:47.360 --> 0:16:50.000 at all and have nothing invested, you can just hear 0:16:50.160 --> 0:16:50.920 what day have to say. 0:16:51.600 --> 0:16:56.800 Yeah, the power of weak ties, thought provoking. Yeah, ask 0:16:56.840 --> 0:16:58.040 a stranger, the. 0:16:58.120 --> 0:17:02.280 Armstrong and Getty show, Yeah, your shoe podcasts and our 0:17:02.320 --> 0:17:07.640 hot links. At one points, as a child, for some reason, 0:17:07.680 --> 0:17:09.720 I thought it would be a good idea to stick 0:17:09.760 --> 0:17:11.080 my finger in a pencil Sharper. 0:17:12.080 --> 0:17:12.639 I don't remember. 0:17:12.840 --> 0:17:16.240 I don't remember how old I was, But anyway, I've 0:17:16.280 --> 0:17:20.080 got one finger that the fingernail on top still has 0:17:20.119 --> 0:17:23.480 white spots on there from that. They never went away. 0:17:23.520 --> 0:17:26.560 The fingernail continues to grow. But the cuts that I 0:17:26.640 --> 0:17:29.400 put deep into my fingernail causing me great pain from 0:17:29.400 --> 0:17:32.560 the finger from the pencil sharpener still on my fingernail. 0:17:33.240 --> 0:17:36.800 Do you think you were like seven or seventeen. I 0:17:36.840 --> 0:17:39.560 was twenty eight. It was thirty one, Yeah, I was, 0:17:39.640 --> 0:17:40.639 I was more like seven. 0:17:40.680 --> 0:17:43.480 Sure, yeah, well we all do silly stuff like that. 0:17:44.520 --> 0:17:47.960 You know what I've always wondered about scars? What's the 0:17:48.040 --> 0:17:51.800 deal with scars? I have, you know, various places on 0:17:51.840 --> 0:17:55.000 my body where I got cut open or whatever. My 0:17:55.240 --> 0:17:59.400 skin has regenerated hundreds of times and thousands of times. 0:17:59.440 --> 0:18:03.200 I don't know dermatologists, But why does my skin regenerate 0:18:03.280 --> 0:18:06.879 star scars? I mean, at one point when I was 0:18:06.920 --> 0:18:09.280 born that skin was on scarred, So you'd think that 0:18:09.320 --> 0:18:10.960 would be programmed into my genetics. 0:18:11.000 --> 0:18:11.560 I don't get that. 0:18:12.359 --> 0:18:15.520 I don't understand either. Clearly happens, but yeah, why why 0:18:15.560 --> 0:18:20.000 it doesn't regenerate? Your face does mostly, but the rest 0:18:20.000 --> 0:18:20.760 of your body does not. 0:18:21.400 --> 0:18:22.960 I mean, like right up there, I got a notch 0:18:23.080 --> 0:18:25.520 there and one there, and I got scars there and there, 0:18:26.080 --> 0:18:28.400 and they've faded a bit over the years, but they're 0:18:28.440 --> 0:18:28.880 still there. 0:18:28.920 --> 0:18:29.560 I don't get that. 0:18:29.680 --> 0:18:32.119 When you and your orangutang used to travel around the 0:18:32.160 --> 0:18:34.040 country and a pick up and do that bare knuckle 0:18:34.040 --> 0:18:35.080 street fighting. 0:18:35.359 --> 0:18:37.920 Yeah, I mean it was choreographed, but sometimes, you know, 0:18:38.040 --> 0:18:41.959 his mighty ape blows would land upon my head. 0:18:42.240 --> 0:18:44.119 It's an old movie you've never heard of, Katie, from 0:18:44.160 --> 0:18:46.679 way back in the day, Clint Eastwood street fighting with 0:18:46.720 --> 0:18:47.480 an orangutang. 0:18:47.600 --> 0:18:50.640 Okay, like, wow, Joe, you've done some things I haven't 0:18:50.680 --> 0:18:53.440 heard about in a life. 0:18:54.160 --> 0:18:57.040 What a life? What a ride it's been, Katie. I'll 0:18:57.040 --> 0:18:58.080 tell you about it sometimes. 0:18:59.280 --> 0:19:03.600 So anyway, if if you're just seguing from the February 0:19:03.640 --> 0:19:06.560 twentieth Armstrong and Getty radio show or the on demand 0:19:06.600 --> 0:19:10.200 podcast into one more thing, the pencil sharpener reference will 0:19:10.240 --> 0:19:10.879 be familiar to it. 0:19:10.920 --> 0:19:12.600 We talked about it during the radio show today. 0:19:12.600 --> 0:19:16.440 But the situation is your friend announces his intention to 0:19:16.440 --> 0:19:18.520 put his finger into a power pencil sharpener and you 0:19:18.520 --> 0:19:20.040 tell him, well, Jim, if you do that, it's going 0:19:20.080 --> 0:19:22.439 to shred your finger, be incredibly painful, and you're going 0:19:22.480 --> 0:19:24.600 to bleed a great deal. Then he says, well, I 0:19:24.840 --> 0:19:26.560 feel like I must do it, and he sticks his 0:19:26.560 --> 0:19:29.439 finger in there, and precisely what you describe happens, and 0:19:29.480 --> 0:19:30.320