WEBVTT - What Booties May Come (with Sasheer Zamata) 0:00:02.240 --> 0:00:04.080 I don't know if you've ever opened for like a 0:00:04.200 --> 0:00:07.360 celebrity who doesn't do stand up but they are making 0:00:07.440 --> 0:00:09.639 you do like forty five minutes and then they go 0:00:09.800 --> 0:00:12.840 open do like ten. It's usually how sex is for me. 0:00:14.040 --> 0:00:18.520 The fat chairs, they out the station. It wasn't that 0:00:18.640 --> 0:00:23.840 got great? I'm glad I found him and they go, yeah, 0:00:23.880 --> 0:00:45.680 you're a genius celebrity. Who I want? Nate racist money 0:00:45.760 --> 0:00:53.000 stuff can't tell me? Yep, yep, yep, there it is. 0:00:53.040 --> 0:00:56.880 There it is. Ladies and gentlemen, Welcome to another sensational 0:00:57.040 --> 0:01:00.960 episode of My Mama Told Me, the podcast where we 0:01:01.120 --> 0:01:05.160 got deep, deep into the pockets of black conspiracy theories 0:01:05.200 --> 0:01:08.600 and we finally work to prove that Nick Cannon is 0:01:08.640 --> 0:01:11.200 having all of these children so that he can build 0:01:11.240 --> 0:01:16.160 an army that takes back his America Got talented job 0:01:16.360 --> 0:01:19.640 by force. He says, he's very upset that you all 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:22.560 expected him to read and be more careful with his words. 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:26.039 He's gonna trade these weird named babies to attack the 0:01:26.160 --> 0:01:30.040 NBC building and bring his job back. That is the 0:01:30.040 --> 0:01:34.040 theory that I'm spreading. I'm your host, Lankston Kerman. As always, 0:01:34.240 --> 0:01:36.960 I'm coming in hot day it's a hot one. We're 0:01:37.000 --> 0:01:39.840 doing it well. Oh, I'm having a good day. My 0:01:39.920 --> 0:01:42.800 wife's mom moved into the house now and she made 0:01:42.840 --> 0:01:46.160 salmon croquettes. In our house smells like as but my 0:01:46.240 --> 0:01:49.480 tummy is full and I'm enjoying the company this destin. 0:01:49.600 --> 0:01:52.160 It's a delight. I have a new kingdom that I'm building. 0:01:52.440 --> 0:01:55.920 And you know what, my desterday, She's got her own kingdom, 0:01:55.960 --> 0:01:59.520 a queendom, I dare say. She's so talented, so funny. 0:01:59.840 --> 0:02:02.280 You know her from amazing things. You know her from 0:02:02.280 --> 0:02:05.600 home economics, you know her from Whope, from now and 0:02:05.680 --> 0:02:09.600 from her very very very fun, fun, fun funny, all 0:02:09.639 --> 0:02:12.760 the fun, all the money's it's it's a great podcast 0:02:13.000 --> 0:02:16.040 called best Friends Podcast. And she runs with the cold byer. 0:02:16.440 --> 0:02:18.680 I love her. Please give it up. From my guest, 0:02:18.919 --> 0:02:27.240 this Sashir Samata. Yeah, how are you good? How are you? 0:02:27.680 --> 0:02:33.840 I'm so happy you're here. Salmon croquettes, Yeah, I don't know. 0:02:34.160 --> 0:02:35.880 She was like, I'm a cook, and I was like 0:02:35.919 --> 0:02:38.800 hell yeah, and then she cook. Now our house smells wild, 0:02:39.000 --> 0:02:42.160 but you know, as part of the deal, home cooking 0:02:42.240 --> 0:02:45.519 is always great. Yeah, exactly. You get over the smell 0:02:45.639 --> 0:02:47.919 once it's then your your body, and then you worry 0:02:47.960 --> 0:02:51.200 that people are gonna come over and they're gonna be like, yo, dirty, 0:02:51.360 --> 0:02:54.560 why did you smell like this? You're like, shut up, 0:02:54.560 --> 0:02:57.200 pull up the plate right, You're not not eat this. 0:02:57.360 --> 0:03:00.920 You'll figure it out. Yeah, okay, you came today, and 0:03:01.040 --> 0:03:02.960 I don't want to play any games. I don't want 0:03:02.960 --> 0:03:06.359 to funk around this this episode. That's an that's not 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:09.600 funk around. Because you came to me with a conspiracy 0:03:09.639 --> 0:03:13.160 theory that that I have been hearing my entire life. 0:03:13.200 --> 0:03:16.040 I think, U, maybe that's not appropriate, that I've been 0:03:16.080 --> 0:03:20.160 hearing at my entire your entire life. Yeah, we laugh, 0:03:20.440 --> 0:03:25.519 We lad. The day I came out, a man who 0:03:25.560 --> 0:03:27.680 I did not recognize looked at me and he said, 0:03:27.720 --> 0:03:29.760 you know, And I was like, all right, here we go. 0:03:29.840 --> 0:03:31.680 And I'm not gonna jump the gun on this. But 0:03:31.760 --> 0:03:38.800 you said, my mama told me women's butts get bigger 0:03:38.880 --> 0:03:47.760 after they have sex. Yeah, tell me more. I you know, 0:03:48.040 --> 0:03:52.920 I didn't. I didn't hear it until my butt got bigger. 0:03:54.360 --> 0:03:59.080 There was a definitive time period between senior in high 0:03:59.120 --> 0:04:03.040 school and my first year of college, and my aunt 0:04:03.120 --> 0:04:06.880 was the first one to be did you have a 0:04:06.880 --> 0:04:10.880 good summer. And I was like, I was like, I guess, 0:04:10.920 --> 0:04:13.480 what do you what do you think? Like you're asking fat? 0:04:14.080 --> 0:04:20.080 I was like, I guess it changed. And then I 0:04:20.080 --> 0:04:21.839 asked my mom and she was like, yeah, I went, 0:04:21.920 --> 0:04:26.600 women's butts get bigger after their chair gets popped, and 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:28.920 which was not even the case. I was still very 0:04:28.960 --> 0:04:32.760 much a virgin and not very pristine and untouched at 0:04:32.800 --> 0:04:35.440 that point. Oh so you hadn't even had sex. I 0:04:35.520 --> 0:04:38.760 had not had sex, but they were recognizing the shift 0:04:38.960 --> 0:04:43.440 preemptively in your body. Yes, and you were Were you 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:46.520 then telling them that, like, yo, I'm actually I didn't 0:04:46.560 --> 0:04:51.000 have sex, or yeah, no, dog we out here. I 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:53.520 should have I should have been like, yeah, what you said, 0:04:53.760 --> 0:04:57.440 we're all we're all fucking because they're cool. I love 0:04:57.520 --> 0:05:04.680 it so much. No, yeah, I mean to my mom, 0:05:04.680 --> 0:05:06.039 I was like no, no, no no, no, of course not. 0:05:06.240 --> 0:05:08.320 But you know, she always thought I did things that 0:05:08.360 --> 0:05:11.080 I didn't do, just assumed I was doing the worst 0:05:11.120 --> 0:05:14.719 when I was truly scared and doing the best. I 0:05:14.800 --> 0:05:18.599 was like, you know, straight a student, like stayed at home, 0:05:18.680 --> 0:05:21.520 did all the activities, and she would be like, still, 0:05:21.640 --> 0:05:24.640 come find me after choir rehearsals and be like, you 0:05:24.680 --> 0:05:27.760 were out too late. You didn't answer your You are 0:05:27.839 --> 0:05:30.679 poking through that that robe. I see it. I see 0:05:30.720 --> 0:05:32.920 that big old But you've been out here. I know 0:05:32.960 --> 0:05:36.440 what you've been doing. Yeah, that's why. So so you 0:05:36.560 --> 0:05:39.680 hear this, they say this to you, you know for 0:05:39.800 --> 0:05:43.360 a fact that this bigger butt is not the result 0:05:43.400 --> 0:05:48.040 of sex. Do you then completely dismissed the conspiracy theory? 0:05:48.040 --> 0:05:50.560 Are you like, no, it's not true, because I am 0:05:50.640 --> 0:05:54.480 living proof of that, you know. I actually I didn't 0:05:54.520 --> 0:05:57.600 dismiss the conspiracy theory, even though it didn't apply to me. 0:05:58.080 --> 0:06:00.839 I remember telling my man this who was and he 0:06:00.960 --> 0:06:04.839 was like what? He was like, that's a crazy theory. 0:06:04.880 --> 0:06:08.200 And I was like, is it because I because it's 0:06:08.240 --> 0:06:10.400 so common and people say it so much. I just 0:06:10.440 --> 0:06:13.479 thought that everyone knew that. And he's like no, He's like, 0:06:13.520 --> 0:06:15.799 I've literally never heard that. And also there's no science 0:06:15.839 --> 0:06:20.040 behind that. And I was like, oh, I guess yeah, sure, sure, 0:06:20.600 --> 0:06:22.880 I will say and this this gets a little into 0:06:22.920 --> 0:06:25.240 the research, but then it's not gonna blow anything here. 0:06:25.520 --> 0:06:28.040 When I look this up, you know, you just type 0:06:28.080 --> 0:06:30.880 the words into Google and like, Google do what it does. 0:06:31.400 --> 0:06:34.200 But the auto feel for this when you go out 0:06:34.520 --> 0:06:38.159 after women have sex, do their blankety blank blank blank, 0:06:38.480 --> 0:06:41.599 And the immediate auto field is do their hips get wider? 0:06:42.040 --> 0:06:47.479 Which feels like the whiter version of this equation. If 0:06:47.480 --> 0:06:51.080 you yeah, yeah, I can see that then being like, oh, 0:06:51.120 --> 0:06:54.720 my body's wider than usual, as opposed to my butt 0:06:54.800 --> 0:07:00.440 is larger. Yeah. I think, especially for a certain narration 0:07:00.480 --> 0:07:04.600 of women, a big butt was like the biggest taboo 0:07:04.680 --> 0:07:07.520 that you could possibly have, And so for white women 0:07:07.600 --> 0:07:10.880 it's like, no, I'm widening. Don't you dare, motherfucker, don't 0:07:10.880 --> 0:07:13.480 you dare say that my butts getting big? Yeah, my 0:07:13.520 --> 0:07:17.640 butt say perfectly the same. It's just the sides got 0:07:17.680 --> 0:07:21.480 a little water. I'm just like a pancake spreading out 0:07:21.520 --> 0:07:25.160 on the pain. You ain't got nothing doing, getting thickers, 0:07:25.160 --> 0:07:29.880 just right, getting water. Okay. So so you don't dismiss this, 0:07:30.480 --> 0:07:34.280 you don't, you don't go no, I don't believe you, guys, 0:07:34.320 --> 0:07:37.040 I'm ready to you know you you at least play 0:07:37.080 --> 0:07:39.680 with the idea. I do play with the idea, and 0:07:39.680 --> 0:07:43.360 I spread that to other people, not as fact, but 0:07:43.440 --> 0:07:45.520 I think, but I guess I've mentioned it as an 0:07:45.520 --> 0:07:49.960 adult and then still have people be like what and I, 0:07:50.040 --> 0:07:52.120 even though I know it's not true for me, I 0:07:52.120 --> 0:07:57.040 guess I was like, well, I'm a special case. My 0:07:57.360 --> 0:08:03.520 butt just game early and that's okay. Hey, listen, my 0:08:03.640 --> 0:08:07.600 butt knew that eventually I was going to be ready. 0:08:08.640 --> 0:08:11.880 Just a little preemptive growth. That's all this a little 0:08:12.000 --> 0:08:14.600 this little early growth for a big button and then 0:08:14.640 --> 0:08:17.960 we'll look at there. Okay, so you're you do believe 0:08:18.120 --> 0:08:20.520 at least in the possibility of it. You are at 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:23.600 least throwing it around as a rumor. And then you 0:08:23.680 --> 0:08:26.800 have this white partner who is like, I've never heard 0:08:26.840 --> 0:08:29.720 of that. There's no science to back that. Does that 0:08:29.920 --> 0:08:33.120 sway you in anywhere? Are you then like a damn? Okay, 0:08:33.240 --> 0:08:40.640 you thwarted me, white man with your your science with educations. Okay, 0:08:41.480 --> 0:08:47.840 you know it hasn't thwarted me, because even if there 0:08:47.880 --> 0:08:53.440 aren't like scientific backings, I still think there's something to 0:08:53.520 --> 0:08:57.840 that I can see because after you have sex. And again, 0:08:57.840 --> 0:08:59.760 I haven't looked at any of this, but I'm assuming 0:09:00.440 --> 0:09:06.120 that that say. I love when people don't look up anything. 0:09:06.160 --> 0:09:08.960 It's beautiful. It's my favorite part of this show. Please 0:09:09.000 --> 0:09:12.280 go on. I guess what I was thinking of why 0:09:12.280 --> 0:09:14.600 that would make sense is that your body starts making 0:09:14.640 --> 0:09:17.240 a house for a baby, your body starts expanding, and 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:19.960 it's like, okay, we gotta rearrange stuff because you know 0:09:20.040 --> 0:09:23.560 that our bodies now having sex, we're trying to procreate, 0:09:23.600 --> 0:09:26.880 We're trying to make room for new life. So that's 0:09:26.880 --> 0:09:31.160 why it makes sense in my brain. But I don't 0:09:31.200 --> 0:09:35.920 know if that's right. I mean, I do think that 0:09:36.120 --> 0:09:40.160 is essentially what puberty is, right that like it is 0:09:40.200 --> 0:09:44.640 our bodies basically saying yo, your your ultimate function is 0:09:44.679 --> 0:09:47.160 to be able to procreate, is to be able to 0:09:47.240 --> 0:09:51.400 keep making more of you, And so your balls will drop, 0:09:51.559 --> 0:09:54.800 your hips will widen, all your shoulders will get big 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:57.840 so that you can peacock and you know, in a 0:09:57.960 --> 0:10:00.240 parking lot in front of a lady who's a little 0:10:00.320 --> 0:10:02.679 drunk and just left the club, like all the things 0:10:02.760 --> 0:10:08.840 you need to nature intended just to be a sexual 0:10:08.960 --> 0:10:13.240 person is all it happens. So it theoretically makes sense 0:10:13.280 --> 0:10:16.760 for sure. Mm hmmm, yeah, I think so did you 0:10:17.080 --> 0:10:21.199 did you find yourself experiencing any fear around this? Were you, 0:10:21.520 --> 0:10:24.760 like some of these white women afraid that like, oh no, 0:10:25.440 --> 0:10:27.960 me and this massive but what what would I do 0:10:28.040 --> 0:10:31.880 when I introduced sex to the equation. I think the 0:10:31.880 --> 0:10:35.280 only fear is that everyone thought I was having sex 0:10:35.840 --> 0:10:38.640 mm hmmm, because I was like, I was a church 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:41.439 girl and I and not that I needed everyone to 0:10:41.480 --> 0:10:44.920 know that I was carrying a virginity card, but I 0:10:45.040 --> 0:10:47.840 just I didn't want people to think that I was 0:10:47.920 --> 0:10:50.040 having sex and that I was welcoming sex and that 0:10:50.080 --> 0:10:52.440 I was like, I didn't want to draw attention in 0:10:52.520 --> 0:10:56.640 that way and have people be like, oh, okay, time 0:10:56.679 --> 0:10:59.280 for me to slip on in there, because I wasn't ready. 0:11:01.480 --> 0:11:05.480 I wasn't ready. I love how awful men are that 0:11:05.559 --> 0:11:08.000 the the instinct that women have to live with is 0:11:08.040 --> 0:11:11.360 that once you've had sex, everybody assumes they can have 0:11:11.440 --> 0:11:18.520 sex with you. This is true. Yes, absolutely, Literally, you're 0:11:18.559 --> 0:11:22.160 talking about no, you talk about previous sexual encounters and 0:11:22.200 --> 0:11:24.280 people are like, oh, then well then I can do 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:28.240 that too, right, because you're just open for business. You 0:11:28.360 --> 0:11:30.760 just take another clients. And I'm like, that's not like 0:11:31.440 --> 0:11:37.800 is that I heard heard you did it once? So 0:11:37.960 --> 0:11:40.320 you do it all the time? Were you at the 0:11:40.400 --> 0:11:44.480 time logic? Were you like saving yourself for marriage? Was 0:11:44.520 --> 0:11:48.760 that the Yeah, yeah, it was and then and then 0:11:48.840 --> 0:11:52.440 that didn't end up happening, but but that was what 0:11:52.559 --> 0:11:55.959 I learned and thought was right that, you know, I 0:11:56.040 --> 0:12:02.800 gotta wait for your husband and do it, do it godly. Yeah. Fashion. 0:12:03.320 --> 0:12:05.880 I didn't personally like grow up in a church, but 0:12:06.080 --> 0:12:09.959 at like thirteen, all my friends were talking about going 0:12:10.000 --> 0:12:12.840 to church. I was like twelve thirteen, and I basically 0:12:12.880 --> 0:12:15.440 like went to my mom and her husband at the time, 0:12:15.480 --> 0:12:17.840 and I was like, Hey, we gotta start going to church. Church. 0:12:18.880 --> 0:12:21.000 I'm trying to funk with church. And then I ended 0:12:21.040 --> 0:12:23.079 up becoming one of those kids that goes to church 0:12:23.160 --> 0:12:26.160 like three days a week. So I'm like, yeah, no, 0:12:26.280 --> 0:12:28.160 I was a freak. I was like going to Bible 0:12:28.240 --> 0:12:31.720 study independent of my family, just because I wanted to 0:12:31.800 --> 0:12:36.199 learn more about religion and ship. And then I similarly 0:12:36.520 --> 0:12:38.920 like had made a vow to myself for I was like, no, 0:12:39.000 --> 0:12:41.800 I'm gonna save myself for marriage. I'm gonna be I'm 0:12:41.800 --> 0:12:46.439 gonna be a dude who doesn't have sex before marriage. Yeah. 0:12:46.880 --> 0:12:48.800 I didn't do that. I knew not to be a 0:12:48.840 --> 0:12:51.360 fucking loser out in public, but I I it was 0:12:51.400 --> 0:12:55.200 a private vow. But I then went to my dad 0:12:55.600 --> 0:12:59.400 and I and my dad's very atheist, very very much 0:12:59.400 --> 0:13:01.679 a person who doesn't believe in any of that ship. 0:13:02.200 --> 0:13:05.840 And uh, I told my dad that, like, yo, I'm 0:13:05.880 --> 0:13:08.720 thinking that I'm gonna save myself for marriage. And his 0:13:08.880 --> 0:13:11.640 response and he's not a big guy who like talks 0:13:11.679 --> 0:13:14.200 a lot, but I was like, you know, I'm saving 0:13:14.240 --> 0:13:16.360 myself for marriage. And I remember we were driving a 0:13:16.400 --> 0:13:20.000 car and he said why and I was like, well, 0:13:20.559 --> 0:13:27.200 when you put it that way, I thought you were 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:28.800 going to say like a speech and it was gonna 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:30.800 like a speech or like a look, now you know, 0:13:31.760 --> 0:13:35.360 here's no good thought, but here's logically why that wouldn't work. 0:13:35.360 --> 0:13:39.840 It just why and then turned up a book on tape, 0:13:39.920 --> 0:13:42.760 you know what I mean, Like, just left me with 0:13:42.840 --> 0:13:46.360 that feeling for the rest of all ways, and it worked. 0:13:47.679 --> 0:13:50.560 Like two years later, I was done with that idea, 0:13:50.760 --> 0:13:54.800 So it definitely worked. That is very funny. That's so 0:13:54.840 --> 0:13:57.240 funny that you wanted to go to church. I was 0:13:57.360 --> 0:14:00.360 forced to and didn't want to keep point. But I 0:14:00.360 --> 0:14:02.600 guess it's like if you're used to it, you want 0:14:02.600 --> 0:14:05.520 to stop, and maybe if you're not, you're like, oh, 0:14:05.600 --> 0:14:08.680 what was this cool new thing? Yeah? I think it's 0:14:08.800 --> 0:14:12.440 it's like how you know, the Williams sisters probably were 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:15.439 tired of tennis at a certain point because it's like, yeah, 0:14:15.520 --> 0:14:19.640 you just do this constantly, it gets old. That's why 0:14:19.720 --> 0:14:22.640 Lou Williams went to that strip club. What is it 0:14:22.800 --> 0:14:26.560 the real You know, I'm talking basketball and you don't 0:14:26.560 --> 0:14:31.120 know a lot about it. Yeah, I saw your face ship. Like. 0:14:35.160 --> 0:14:37.840 The point is you can be so successful at a 0:14:37.920 --> 0:14:41.600 thing and or frequent a thing enough that you start 0:14:41.680 --> 0:14:46.680 to regret being there. Do you feel like you did 0:14:46.800 --> 0:14:49.280 resent church by this point where you like sitting or 0:14:49.320 --> 0:14:52.480 not resent resent maybe a heavy word where you anti 0:14:52.600 --> 0:14:55.480 church or where you just sort of like I'm over 0:14:55.600 --> 0:14:59.080 this experience. I think like over this experience. I think 0:14:59.080 --> 0:15:02.320 I was going to church like it was routine. I 0:15:02.400 --> 0:15:06.000 had friends there, I liked being in the choir, but 0:15:06.080 --> 0:15:09.720 I was I don't think I was like gathering information 0:15:09.840 --> 0:15:11.440 or like, I don't think I was like really taking 0:15:11.440 --> 0:15:14.760 in what was being said. Sometimes I was, but because 0:15:14.760 --> 0:15:18.320 it's always general like good themes being spoken, but then 0:15:18.360 --> 0:15:21.600 sometimes I did have issues with the word. So yeah, 0:15:21.600 --> 0:15:24.160 I think I was kind of like not like I 0:15:24.200 --> 0:15:26.440 hate it, but I can see why it's good and 0:15:26.480 --> 0:15:29.160 why it's good for communities and people, but not that 0:15:29.360 --> 0:15:32.440 I wasn't so far in I got you, why then 0:15:32.600 --> 0:15:39.160 still hold on too? Like your sexual you protect your 0:15:39.240 --> 0:15:43.680 virginity in this week. At that point, well, I grew 0:15:43.720 --> 0:15:47.680 up in the Midwest in Indianapolis, and there's a lot 0:15:47.720 --> 0:15:54.880 of team pregnancy there. Just seeing what these girls were 0:15:55.400 --> 0:15:57.200 having to go through, like taking care of kids while 0:15:57.200 --> 0:15:59.760 still going to school, I was like, I don't right, 0:16:00.040 --> 0:16:03.800 I do not want that. So that kind of scared 0:16:03.840 --> 0:16:06.280 me and made me a versity even one because because 0:16:06.280 --> 0:16:08.720 also I was like everyone's pull out games very weak, 0:16:08.800 --> 0:16:11.920 like if that's what, like, how is so how are 0:16:12.000 --> 0:16:14.520 so many of us getting pregnant. I don't want to. 0:16:14.720 --> 0:16:16.840 I don't want what they have to offer. All these 0:16:16.880 --> 0:16:20.400 Indiana carbs have made us very slow in lethargic in 0:16:20.440 --> 0:16:22.360 a way that we can't get out of each other. 0:16:22.560 --> 0:16:25.560 So it's probably not worth it. It's not worth it. Yeah, 0:16:25.600 --> 0:16:28.000 So I think I was just like I don't want 0:16:28.000 --> 0:16:30.040 to risk it. Also, because I knew I wanted to 0:16:30.080 --> 0:16:31.720 go to college. I want to get out of Indiana, 0:16:31.800 --> 0:16:33.760 so I was that was my main focus. I was like, 0:16:33.840 --> 0:16:39.000 I just need to like put the blind news on focus, work, work, work, work, work, 0:16:39.600 --> 0:16:42.400 and get out of here. It is. It's a funny 0:16:42.480 --> 0:16:46.000 thing that I think we unfortunately have to do. What 0:16:46.080 --> 0:16:49.240 it means is that we have to correlate sex with 0:16:49.360 --> 0:16:53.120 a bad thing, we like for people of a certain age, 0:16:53.200 --> 0:16:57.800 because if you don't, they're not able to facilitate like 0:16:57.960 --> 0:17:00.680 right and wrong clear enough in their to be able 0:17:00.720 --> 0:17:03.000 to go like, Okay, I can have sex suntimes, but 0:17:03.040 --> 0:17:05.480 I don't want to overdo it, and if I do 0:17:05.480 --> 0:17:07.120 do it, I want to be protected and I want 0:17:07.119 --> 0:17:10.160 to be careful. And ideally we can teach that stuff right, 0:17:10.200 --> 0:17:12.480 we can go into a school and help them understand 0:17:12.520 --> 0:17:15.840 that this is something that you can both indulge in 0:17:15.960 --> 0:17:18.479 but be in control of. But instead we just go 0:17:18.640 --> 0:17:22.800 don't because everything in your world will die. Yeah, we 0:17:22.800 --> 0:17:26.119 we only had scare tactics. There's no actual information on 0:17:26.200 --> 0:17:28.399 like how to do it safely. It was just don't 0:17:28.720 --> 0:17:31.080 and we had a baby think about it. Have you 0:17:31.119 --> 0:17:33.640 heard of that? I have not, but I'm so excited 0:17:33.680 --> 0:17:37.680 to find out what that means. It's a baby doll 0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:40.639 that you had to take care for a week, so 0:17:40.680 --> 0:17:42.359 you can think about it, so you could think, like, 0:17:42.440 --> 0:17:46.040 do I want them. And they were like tiny robots. 0:17:46.080 --> 0:17:48.240 They had like a computer chip in their back to 0:17:48.400 --> 0:17:51.639 monitor like how often you picked it was waited, so 0:17:51.760 --> 0:17:53.480 you could you could tell how often you picked it up. 0:17:53.720 --> 0:17:55.480 There was a light sensor in its mouth so you 0:17:55.480 --> 0:17:58.480 can see how often you fed it. It cried. There 0:17:58.480 --> 0:18:00.719 were also some crack baby said Some of them just 0:18:00.760 --> 0:18:02.639 like cried consistently, which I was like, why are you 0:18:02.640 --> 0:18:05.800 doing that to kid? Whoa hold on, wait a minute, 0:18:06.000 --> 0:18:11.359 because hold on, are you saying that they introduced these 0:18:11.359 --> 0:18:14.720 babies to you as crack babies. I don't remember that. 0:18:14.760 --> 0:18:16.200 I didn't get one of those. I don't know what 0:18:16.240 --> 0:18:20.320 they said, here's your crack baby, but they but that 0:18:20.440 --> 0:18:22.560 was a word on the street. And some of these 0:18:22.560 --> 0:18:26.600 babies wouldn't shut up. And I was like, oh no, yeah, 0:18:26.920 --> 0:18:30.200 so I had a baby, but I didn't I didn't 0:18:30.240 --> 0:18:33.120 want a baby. I didn't ask for this baby. And 0:18:33.720 --> 0:18:35.960 I did horribly take care of this baby. Then there 0:18:36.000 --> 0:18:37.919 was one day in particular, I was late for the 0:18:37.960 --> 0:18:40.480 bus and I was carrying the baby in one arm 0:18:40.600 --> 0:18:43.440 and I was running to the bus and head its 0:18:43.440 --> 0:18:51.160 head was like loosen, like bouncing back a mom this yes, 0:18:51.640 --> 0:18:52.840 And at the end of the week, they take the 0:18:52.840 --> 0:18:56.040 computer chips out and like tally all the like you know, 0:18:56.160 --> 0:18:59.920 nurturing neglect points or whatever. And I had like third 0:19:00.119 --> 0:19:03.520 two abuse points or like some some some crazy number 0:19:03.560 --> 0:19:07.840 of abuse points. And then someone from CPS Child Protective 0:19:07.880 --> 0:19:11.239 Services had to come talk to me. I mean, I'm 0:19:11.280 --> 0:19:13.240 assuming it was an intern or something, but they like 0:19:13.280 --> 0:19:14.960 took me to a room and they're like, if this 0:19:15.000 --> 0:19:17.199 was a real baby, we would have to take it 0:19:17.200 --> 0:19:19.400 away from you. And I was like, good, I didn't 0:19:19.400 --> 0:19:22.320 ask for this. What did this life? I didn't. I 0:19:22.359 --> 0:19:24.200 just wanted to go to school. I didn't want this. 0:19:24.920 --> 0:19:27.600 But yeah, I'm saying, they're like, ace this year, we 0:19:27.760 --> 0:19:30.680 unschipped your baby and it turns out it has CT now, 0:19:30.880 --> 0:19:34.640 so we're gonna have the government come down and get 0:19:34.680 --> 0:19:38.240 involved in what in a thing you didn't volunteer for. 0:19:39.200 --> 0:19:42.639 Also your your fourteen, so good luck with your future? 0:19:42.880 --> 0:19:46.600 What is It was crazy? But I think it also 0:19:46.680 --> 0:19:49.119 may have backfire for some people to I think some 0:19:49.160 --> 0:19:51.480 people were like, oh, this wasn't that hard, or like, 0:19:51.600 --> 0:19:54.159 you know, if this is all, which is also like, 0:19:54.160 --> 0:19:56.240 it's still a robot baby, it's not an actual baby, 0:19:56.280 --> 0:19:58.640 so it's still that she doesn't require all the things 0:19:58.640 --> 0:20:00.200 you need to do to take care of baby. So 0:20:00.240 --> 0:20:02.399 if someone succeeded and got an a and was like, 0:20:02.840 --> 0:20:06.200 oh that's all I got take a baby, I could 0:20:06.200 --> 0:20:08.320 just have a baby right now. And they've also like 0:20:08.480 --> 0:20:11.880 calibrated I'm sure they calibrated the children to still at 0:20:11.960 --> 0:20:16.560 least be reasonable within a high school persons scheduled. Probably 0:20:16.920 --> 0:20:21.680 probably my wife is pregnant now, hell yeah, it's tight. 0:20:21.840 --> 0:20:24.920 And so she you know, we were reading, we're listening 0:20:24.920 --> 0:20:27.480 to stuff and all this other and somebody on a 0:20:27.520 --> 0:20:30.120 class that we were watching the other day asked how 0:20:30.119 --> 0:20:33.160 many diapers do you need for like the first couple 0:20:33.200 --> 0:20:36.320 of months. And the lady was basically breaking it down statistically, 0:20:36.400 --> 0:20:39.200 and she was like, when a newborn comes in, it's 0:20:39.200 --> 0:20:42.840 like ten diapers a day. It's somewhere between six to 0:20:42.960 --> 0:20:46.880 ten diapers a day, and so that's you know, seventy 0:20:46.960 --> 0:20:51.680 diapers a week and needing to change them constantly. They're 0:20:51.720 --> 0:20:55.760 not making y'all do that, they like twice, yeah, exactly. 0:20:56.119 --> 0:20:59.200 That's fucking crazy for you to to introduce this as 0:20:59.200 --> 0:21:02.119 a premise of you could be a good parent based 0:21:02.119 --> 0:21:05.679 on robot behavior, because you still don't even know you have. No. 0:21:07.720 --> 0:21:10.320 I'm just finding out and I want out of this situation. 0:21:11.119 --> 0:21:13.640 I did not sign up for seventy diapers a week. 0:21:13.680 --> 0:21:15.960 I thought I was signing up for about twelve, and 0:21:16.040 --> 0:21:20.840 I thought, sweet, I can do that. No, seventy that's 0:21:20.840 --> 0:21:23.600 way too much. How much? How many are in a pack? 0:21:24.160 --> 0:21:26.960 I feel like that's more than what you can even 0:21:27.040 --> 0:21:29.480 get at the start. You have to get um boy, 0:21:29.800 --> 0:21:33.320 that's my issue with the baby is it doesn't ship impacts. 0:21:33.520 --> 0:21:35.000 Do you know what I mean? Like, if you if 0:21:35.119 --> 0:21:37.400 you could get the baby to ship a pack amount 0:21:37.800 --> 0:21:40.680 each time, then that's reasonable. But if you're sitting in 0:21:40.800 --> 0:21:43.720 some odd number that doesn't equate to what I can order, 0:21:44.000 --> 0:21:46.560 that's what are we doing? Yeah? Yeah, get on board 0:21:46.760 --> 0:21:50.680 you for days now. You gotta figure this out quick. 0:21:51.640 --> 0:21:57.760 This is on You's on you, baby, don't okay? Last question, 0:21:58.160 --> 0:22:01.320 you're sort of recognizing some of the failures, not failures, 0:22:01.359 --> 0:22:04.359 but some of the the doubt. You're introducing doubt to 0:22:04.440 --> 0:22:08.960 some of your religious experiences. At what point do you 0:22:09.280 --> 0:22:13.399 finally like, go fuck it, I'm I'm down to walk 0:22:13.440 --> 0:22:16.960 away from these things that I had built in my life. 0:22:17.119 --> 0:22:19.399 As long as I have. I think it was my 0:22:19.400 --> 0:22:23.119 first year of college because I tried to finding another church. 0:22:23.400 --> 0:22:25.280 Like I, there was a few other black girls on 0:22:25.359 --> 0:22:27.280 my hall, and we all grew up in the church, 0:22:27.280 --> 0:22:28.880 and we're like, we're going to find a church here 0:22:28.920 --> 0:22:32.000 and go together. And we went to church shopping. None 0:22:32.040 --> 0:22:34.359 of us liked any of them. We couldn't find one 0:22:34.359 --> 0:22:37.280 that we all liked. And I remember we went to 0:22:37.280 --> 0:22:40.240 the Bible study at one church and the deacon was 0:22:40.320 --> 0:22:44.240 highlighting all these like servitude verses, like talking about women 0:22:44.240 --> 0:22:48.840 needing to serve their man, etcetera. And I I don't 0:22:48.840 --> 0:22:51.640 know if I argued with him. I was just challenging 0:22:51.640 --> 0:22:53.879 this because I was like, are you really sure that 0:22:53.960 --> 0:22:56.240 you're reading this correctly or like this that this would 0:22:56.680 --> 0:22:58.800 apply today? And he was like, that's what the word 0:22:58.840 --> 0:23:02.520 says and that, and yeah, I was like, oh, I 0:23:02.560 --> 0:23:06.439 don't need to be here. I don't need to do this. 0:23:06.520 --> 0:23:08.200 I don't need to fight with deacons about this and that. 0:23:08.280 --> 0:23:11.440 And I know now I actually do want to revisit 0:23:11.480 --> 0:23:13.800 the Bible and like actually study it more just the 0:23:13.840 --> 0:23:17.479 written words as opposed to like hearing people's interpretation of it, 0:23:17.560 --> 0:23:20.560