WEBVTT - The Ferguson Twins: WAGs, Fertility, and ‘Bachelor’ Tea | Happy Hour 0:00:02.000 --> 0:00:05.360 Hello everyone, and welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hour. I'm 0:00:05.440 --> 0:00:09.040 Rachel doing a solo episode today, but we have two 0:00:09.240 --> 0:00:14.160 amazing guests, the iconic twin duo Emily and Haley Ferguson. Guys, 0:00:14.200 --> 0:00:15.240 welcome to the podcast. 0:00:15.920 --> 0:00:18.720 Thanks for having Yes, thanks for having us. It's been 0:00:18.720 --> 0:00:19.160 a while. 0:00:19.400 --> 0:00:21.759 It has been four years since we have had you 0:00:21.760 --> 0:00:22.280 guys on a. 0:00:22.200 --> 0:00:25.200 Bachelor podcast, but that is crazy long time. 0:00:25.200 --> 0:00:27.840 Which is so insane. Was it clickbait that you guys 0:00:27.880 --> 0:00:28.480 think you were on? 0:00:28.920 --> 0:00:31.720 Yeah? And a lot has changed since. Oh yeah, a 0:00:31.760 --> 0:00:33.040 lot has changed since then. 0:00:33.240 --> 0:00:35.600 I can't wait to get all the updates because you 0:00:35.800 --> 0:00:40.840 are both pregnant. Congratulations, Thank you. What has that been 0:00:40.960 --> 0:00:43.560 like being pregnant at the same time together. 0:00:44.680 --> 0:00:47.599 Well, we've always dreamed of being pregnant together, so this 0:00:47.680 --> 0:00:49.680 is the first time I feel like we've officially been 0:00:49.680 --> 0:00:52.879 pregnant together. But other pregnancies we kind of were, but 0:00:53.000 --> 0:00:55.720 like only for a few weeks, so we're notorious for 0:00:55.800 --> 0:00:58.760 just switching off pregnancy. So one twin is pregnant while 0:00:58.760 --> 0:01:01.080 the other isn't, so it's so much easier to tell 0:01:01.120 --> 0:01:03.320 us apart. And I feel like as we've gotten older, 0:01:03.400 --> 0:01:06.120 we start to look more alike. But the only way 0:01:06.120 --> 0:01:08.240 people can tell us apart now is if oh, one's 0:01:08.240 --> 0:01:09.280 pregnant and the other isn't. 0:01:09.720 --> 0:01:12.920 Oh my gosh. Has there been anything that has surprised 0:01:12.920 --> 0:01:15.319 you about this journey you guys have been on together? 0:01:16.560 --> 0:01:17.520 Surprised us? 0:01:18.240 --> 0:01:21.000 Well, I mean that, I mean I think that what 0:01:21.200 --> 0:01:25.039 maybe is surprised us is how like crazy you kind 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:27.800 of become when you're a mother, Like you like your 0:01:27.880 --> 0:01:32.240 instincts just change, like you're like so maternal and I 0:01:32.240 --> 0:01:34.640 don't know, and like Haley and I, well we've always 0:01:34.680 --> 0:01:37.560 been homebodies, but now with kids, we just don't. We 0:01:37.680 --> 0:01:41.319 really don't leave the house. So I really have kept 0:01:41.360 --> 0:01:42.520 us home, which I love. 0:01:42.680 --> 0:01:44.640 Yeah, I don't blame you guys. And during the summer 0:01:44.720 --> 0:01:47.760 as well, being pregnant, I feel like I would just 0:01:47.800 --> 0:01:48.480 be suffering. 0:01:48.960 --> 0:01:51.800 Oh girl, I am. I'm ready for this child to 0:01:51.840 --> 0:01:52.480 be out of me. 0:01:52.640 --> 0:01:54.920 Well, it's also like like literally yesterday it was one 0:01:54.960 --> 0:01:57.280 hundred and three degrees in Vegas and I was like, 0:01:57.400 --> 0:01:59.480 it feels like you're burning in hell. I'm like, I 0:01:59.520 --> 0:02:02.240 don't remember for Vegas actually being a hot as a kid, 0:02:02.280 --> 0:02:03.040 but here we. 0:02:03.000 --> 0:02:06.720 Are a hundred. That is absolutely crazy. 0:02:06.960 --> 0:02:07.760 It is nuts. 0:02:08.080 --> 0:02:11.160 Okay. So, Hailey, you have been incredibly open about your 0:02:11.200 --> 0:02:13.640 fertility journey, and I know that so many people listening 0:02:13.720 --> 0:02:16.480 and watching have been able to relate to you. What 0:02:16.919 --> 0:02:20.079 is it outside of what you've shared that you think 0:02:20.080 --> 0:02:22.480 people might not fully understand about what you went through? 0:02:23.600 --> 0:02:24.760 Gosh fully understand? 0:02:24.840 --> 0:02:29.920 I mean, I think, like just how exhausting it is 0:02:29.960 --> 0:02:32.799 to go through the whole IVF process because you're at 0:02:32.840 --> 0:02:37.280 the doctor's office like every other day, getting ultrasounds, injecting 0:02:37.280 --> 0:02:43.280 yourself with different medications, tracking everything like cycle wise, like 0:02:43.440 --> 0:02:45.079 just to make sure everything's lining up. 0:02:45.639 --> 0:02:47.240 Hanley, I just want to jump in and say I 0:02:47.280 --> 0:02:50.280 went through a massive IVF journey and I remember following 0:02:50.320 --> 0:02:54.440 along specifically with everything you were posting. So just like 0:02:54.560 --> 0:02:56.639 on behalf of somebody who didn't know what they were 0:02:56.639 --> 0:02:58.880 doing when they got into it, I just like, thank you. 0:03:01.040 --> 0:03:03.640 Yeah, I get I get so much because I shared, 0:03:04.160 --> 0:03:06.920 specifically on my TikTok a lot of videos on like 0:03:07.040 --> 0:03:10.040 injections and like how to inject and what worked for 0:03:10.080 --> 0:03:12.919 me and what didn't work for me. So a lot 0:03:12.919 --> 0:03:16.079 of people still go back to those videos to learn 0:03:16.160 --> 0:03:19.200 how to inject themselves with some of the medications going 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:22.480 through ive YEF. But I think like just the process 0:03:22.480 --> 0:03:25.040 of being at the doctor's office and how mentally draining 0:03:25.040 --> 0:03:27.280 and exhausting it is getting your blood drawn all the 0:03:27.320 --> 0:03:30.800 time to make sure your levels, or like I remember 0:03:30.880 --> 0:03:33.200 sitting and like waiting for those calls from the doctor, 0:03:33.200 --> 0:03:35.120 and whenever the doctor calls, like you see their name 0:03:35.160 --> 0:03:37.600 pop up on your phone and your stomach instantly drops, 0:03:37.640 --> 0:03:40.120 like is this good news or is this bad news? 0:03:40.120 --> 0:03:42.880 And I've been on both ends of that, getting good 0:03:42.920 --> 0:03:46.080 news and getting bad news. So it's just it's it's 0:03:46.680 --> 0:03:48.520 mentally really exhausting. 0:03:49.200 --> 0:03:52.160 Has your platform helped you with all the support of 0:03:52.200 --> 0:03:54.080 women who have also been through this journey. 0:03:54.640 --> 0:03:57.680 I think that's why I was so inclined to share 0:03:57.720 --> 0:04:00.680 my stories, because I've had so many people reach out, 0:04:00.720 --> 0:04:02.600 and it makes you feel not alone, because when you're 0:04:02.600 --> 0:04:05.320 going through that, you feel so alone. You're like why 0:04:05.400 --> 0:04:07.000 is this happening to me? It's like whoa? 0:04:07.120 --> 0:04:08.760 Like you kind of like WHOA is me? Like why 0:04:08.840 --> 0:04:10.400 is this happening to me? Why me? 0:04:10.600 --> 0:04:12.520 Like why is it so easy for everybody else to 0:04:12.560 --> 0:04:16.400 get pregnant? So it's like actually so reassuring to kind 0:04:16.400 --> 0:04:18.880 of hear from other women going through it and having 0:04:18.960 --> 0:04:22.560 similar stories and similar outcomes, or like I remember when 0:04:22.560 --> 0:04:26.719 I was going through like I was going through cycles 0:04:26.720 --> 0:04:29.920 and my uterine lining kept getting too thick from the medications, 0:04:29.960 --> 0:04:31.440 and so I went on my stories and I was 0:04:31.440 --> 0:04:34.360 like asking people if this happened to them, and then 0:04:34.360 --> 0:04:36.479 they would tell me what, like what worked for them, 0:04:36.560 --> 0:04:39.320 and then it ultimately ended up working for me too, 0:04:39.360 --> 0:04:41.720 to like not take all the medication. So I did 0:04:41.760 --> 0:04:44.919 like a natural modified cycle this time around, and it 0:04:44.960 --> 0:04:46.359 worked so much better for me. 0:04:46.960 --> 0:04:49.240 That is amazing. I feel like I don't realize how 0:04:49.320 --> 0:04:51.440 much I rely on everyone. Like you could just post 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:53.839 a story and they give you the best advice and 0:04:53.880 --> 0:04:55.240 I don't even have to go searching. 0:04:55.520 --> 0:04:59.600 It's a social media has it has its pros and 0:04:59.720 --> 0:05:02.920 calong but like sometimes like especially like looking through back, 0:05:03.040 --> 0:05:05.960 like looking back, like looking at other women who've gone 0:05:06.000 --> 0:05:08.039 through IBF. I love to look at their stories and 0:05:08.080 --> 0:05:10.760 see what worked for them. So it's like that's one 0:05:10.760 --> 0:05:12.240 of the plus sides of social media. 0:05:12.560 --> 0:05:15.600 So beautiful as twins, you guys have really gone through 0:05:15.640 --> 0:05:19.440 so many milestones together. What was it like with one 0:05:19.480 --> 0:05:22.520 of you being going through an infertility journey? 0:05:22.560 --> 0:05:25.919 And the other not Well, I guess that's something you 0:05:25.920 --> 0:05:26.520 could talk about. 0:05:26.600 --> 0:05:29.920 I imagine that it was probably hard because I think 0:05:29.920 --> 0:05:32.880 a lot of people think that it was really tough 0:05:32.880 --> 0:05:35.520 on me that like she would get pregnant naturally, and 0:05:35.560 --> 0:05:38.719 she get pregnant really quickly, but like, honestly, to me, 0:05:38.880 --> 0:05:41.919 like knowing what I know now, how difficult it is 0:05:41.960 --> 0:05:46.880 to get pregnant, like pregnancy is like getting it's a miracle, 0:05:47.080 --> 0:05:49.560 Like honestly, it's such a miracle. And I was obviously 0:05:49.600 --> 0:05:51.520 so happy for my sister because I know that's what 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:54.680 she wanted. And I think it's the hardest part is 0:05:54.720 --> 0:05:58.880 seeing so many other people like post their announcements and 0:05:58.920 --> 0:06:02.080 like share, because you get so excited to like I remember, 0:06:02.120 --> 0:06:03.680 like getting pregnant, be like, oh my gosh, what am 0:06:03.720 --> 0:06:05.800 I going to do for my announcement? I'm so excited 0:06:05.800 --> 0:06:09.120 to share this news. And so I know, like when 0:06:09.160 --> 0:06:11.960 it's time to announce that how exciting it is for people. 0:06:12.000 --> 0:06:15.360 But like it's simultaneously like feeling sad for yourself, like 0:06:15.600 --> 0:06:16.839 because you're not there yet. 0:06:16.880 --> 0:06:19.840 But I think opposite, dream, I think it's harder for you. 0:06:20.720 --> 0:06:22.640 Yeah, what was it like for you? 0:06:22.839 --> 0:06:26.080 I get, Yeah, I felt guilty for sure, because it 0:06:26.240 --> 0:06:29.720 just didn't seem fair, Like why would I be able 0:06:29.720 --> 0:06:31.919 to get pregnant but she wouldn't work twins, We've literally 0:06:32.080 --> 0:06:35.039 like everything should be the same everything, it shouldn't be 0:06:35.080 --> 0:06:35.520 so hard. 0:06:35.600 --> 0:06:36.640 But then I guess, like if. 0:06:36.520 --> 0:06:40.760 You factor and like everything, like your partner and everything, like, 0:06:40.839 --> 0:06:42.560 there's so many factors. 0:06:42.040 --> 0:06:44.160 That come there with infertility and it's not. 0:06:44.279 --> 0:06:46.760 Always just the woman, Like I know that people always 0:06:46.760 --> 0:06:49.440 assume it's the woman, but it's not always the case 0:06:49.480 --> 0:06:52.920 in that for infertility. But yeah, there was definitely like 0:06:52.960 --> 0:06:56.279 a lot of guilt, but I know that Haley was very. 0:06:56.120 --> 0:07:00.480 Supportive, and I just I guess I didn't feel like so. 0:07:00.520 --> 0:07:04.200 Bad because I was so happy. Yeah, those are my nephews. 0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:06.279 Like how could I be sad about having a new 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:08.560 nephew come into me? But it put in it does 0:07:08.600 --> 0:07:10.920 put a light, like shed a light for me, like 0:07:11.000 --> 0:07:16.960 how like difficult infertility is and for other women who struggle, 0:07:17.080 --> 0:07:19.280 So it just makes me. Yeah, I think that women 0:07:19.320 --> 0:07:21.880 who probably get pregnant naturally and know someone who struggles 0:07:21.880 --> 0:07:23.880 with infertility feel a sense of guilt. 0:07:24.240 --> 0:07:27.120 Yeah, were there ever any other emotions that you had 0:07:27.120 --> 0:07:29.320 to hold back? Like feeling excited for something. 0:07:31.320 --> 0:07:32.600 I wouldn't say so, but I would. 0:07:32.640 --> 0:07:34.600 I would always feel like whenever I felt ready for 0:07:34.640 --> 0:07:36.920 another baby, I'd be like, no, let's let Haley get 0:07:36.920 --> 0:07:39.480 pregnant first, and then I'll wait to get pregnant because 0:07:39.880 --> 0:07:42.320 I talked about getting pregnant at the same time for 0:07:42.440 --> 0:07:44.680 so long and we're like, Emily, but it's like I 0:07:44.720 --> 0:07:46.120 don't get that luxury, Like I. 0:07:46.040 --> 0:07:47.800 Don't just get to be like, oh, I want to 0:07:47.840 --> 0:07:50.120 try to get pregnant, you know. So I think like 0:07:50.200 --> 0:07:52.560 when we were talking about it, and we were. 0:07:52.400 --> 0:07:55.080 Talking about it this second time, I didn't have as 0:07:55.160 --> 0:07:57.840 much pressure on myself because I already have my beautiful daughter, 0:07:58.440 --> 0:08:01.480 and so I I think this time around, it was 0:08:01.520 --> 0:08:04.280 like a little easier to like kind of talk about 0:08:04.280 --> 0:08:06.800 getting pregnant at the same time, but you. 0:08:06.640 --> 0:08:10.440 Just weren't quite ready yet. No, you know, then I 0:08:10.480 --> 0:08:12.760 have a third I'm actually so nervous staff at third. 0:08:12.920 --> 0:08:16.280 So you guys just switching off. I love that, Emily. 0:08:16.800 --> 0:08:19.160 How did you support Haley during a time while also 0:08:19.200 --> 0:08:21.600 allowing yourself to fully enjoy your own pregnancy. 0:08:22.560 --> 0:08:26.119 I feel like I was just able to support Hailey 0:08:26.200 --> 0:08:28.720 so easily because she was so supportive of me too. 0:08:30.000 --> 0:08:33.160 But in a sense, I've been to some of her appointments, 0:08:33.200 --> 0:08:36.560 which when you when they and how do you what 0:08:36.559 --> 0:08:40.120 do you call when they put when they transferred lov 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:42.720 her first daughter. I was there for that, which was 0:08:42.760 --> 0:08:45.240 really cool. And then I think there was a couple 0:08:45.360 --> 0:08:47.120 other appointments that I went to and then. 0:08:47.240 --> 0:08:49.400 Did all of my injections. Oh, I did a couple 0:08:49.400 --> 0:08:51.640 of injections, which I think I did it wrong because 0:08:51.679 --> 0:08:52.720 then the one time is when it. 0:08:52.800 --> 0:08:55.640 Like like I was on a blood dinner, so the 0:08:55.679 --> 0:08:57.960 blood just it was so gross and I was like, 0:08:58.000 --> 0:08:59.480 of course it's me, who does that? 0:08:59.760 --> 0:09:01.960 You were giving her the injection, yeah, and. 0:09:01.880 --> 0:09:03.680 Then she's and then I pulled the needle out and 0:09:03.679 --> 0:09:05.160 she's sort of like spraying blood. 0:09:05.240 --> 0:09:07.680 I was like on a blood center at the same time, 0:09:07.760 --> 0:09:09.680 so like it's just yeah, I just. 0:09:09.960 --> 0:09:12.360 But I had wanted to always try an injection on 0:09:12.400 --> 0:09:14.160 her because she lets her husband do them. 0:09:14.040 --> 0:09:15.280 Mostly, and I was like, I kind of want to 0:09:15.280 --> 0:09:16.240 try it. And then of course the. 0:09:16.320 --> 0:09:18.000 One time I try it, it was when that happens, and 0:09:18.040 --> 0:09:19.680 I'm like, yeah, so I'll never be doing that again. 0:09:19.840 --> 0:09:23.440 Like a horror movie, just literally splatter the walls. Oh 0:09:23.480 --> 0:09:24.120 my gosh. 0:09:24.320 --> 0:09:26.000 But I just think like more like so like the 0:09:26.080 --> 0:09:30.679 emotional support is like just listening to me, letting me cry, 0:09:30.920 --> 0:09:33.640 talk about it literally twenty four to seven, because I 0:09:33.800 --> 0:09:35.679 it's all like, when you're going through it, it feels 0:09:35.679 --> 0:09:37.000 like the end of the world and it's kind of 0:09:37.040 --> 0:09:39.160 just all that's on your mind. So just like letting 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:41.920 me talk through it with her, like and just no judgment, 0:09:42.120 --> 0:09:44.520 just letting me get all those emotions out. 0:09:44.920 --> 0:09:47.520 Yeah, you guys said that this has always been a 0:09:47.600 --> 0:09:51.160 dream for you guys. Has this strength in your relationship 0:09:51.240 --> 0:09:53.160 even further going through it At the. 0:09:53.160 --> 0:09:56.200 Same time, I don't know if this can get any stronger. Yeah, 0:09:56.280 --> 0:09:59.240 I know, it's like we're attached at the hip. I'm 0:09:59.320 --> 0:10:01.760 literally with her O all the time. But yeah, I 0:10:01.760 --> 0:10:04.320 would say that it's just cool. 0:10:04.360 --> 0:10:06.000 But I guess you're about to have your baby and 0:10:06.040 --> 0:10:09.040 I'm still I still feel at the beginning. Yeah, but 0:10:09.200 --> 0:10:10.920 bad for her, she's got to go through this whole 0:10:10.960 --> 0:10:14.360 pregnancy thing again. Yeah, Like pregnancy is probably the hardest 0:10:14.400 --> 0:10:16.440 part of it all. Once you give birth to that baby, 0:10:16.440 --> 0:10:18.000 it's like the biggest relief in the world. 0:10:18.000 --> 0:10:21.440 I can't even explain. Oh, happy, like you're healthy. 0:10:21.520 --> 0:10:23.640 You know you're healthy, like you're building your baby like 0:10:23.679 --> 0:10:24.600 it's such a relief. 0:10:24.720 --> 0:10:28.000 Yeah, it is so beautiful, Haley, since you were doing 0:10:28.080 --> 0:10:31.400 IVF and you guys obviously have such an incredible relationship 0:10:31.400 --> 0:10:34.640 as twins, did you ever consider implanting two to go 0:10:34.760 --> 0:10:35.600 for twins? 0:10:36.480 --> 0:10:40.000 I never considered implanting too to go for twins, just 0:10:40.040 --> 0:10:41.840 because I'm such a tiny person. 0:10:42.120 --> 0:10:45.080 I don't think I would be capable of carrying. 0:10:45.440 --> 0:10:48.200 That is probably number physically, that is the number one 0:10:48.240 --> 0:10:51.280 question people always ask ask us because we're twins, do 0:10:51.400 --> 0:10:55.360 you guys want twins? And I hurt, like selfishly, I 0:10:55.440 --> 0:10:57.680 don't want to carry twins because with even just with 0:10:57.720 --> 0:11:01.240 our one babies, me and Haley get to so stretched out, 0:11:01.440 --> 0:11:04.280 like like these babies are big and our husbands are 0:11:04.520 --> 0:11:06.440 big guys, so these babies aren't small. 0:11:06.480 --> 0:11:07.760 We don't have small babies. 0:11:08.360 --> 0:11:12.280 So yeah, I just like, there's no room. 0:11:10.840 --> 0:11:12.240 There is no room. 0:11:12.800 --> 0:11:15.120 We cannot do athletic twin babies. 0:11:15.840 --> 0:11:18.719 Absolutely, having all boys, I do it. 0:11:19.720 --> 0:11:22.800 Speaking of Emily, you're raising all boys, well, Hailey is 0:11:22.880 --> 0:11:25.120 raising all girls. Do you ever look at each other 0:11:25.200 --> 0:11:28.199 and think you are living a completely different life than me. 0:11:28.480 --> 0:11:32.680 Oh, every single day, and every single day. I tell 0:11:32.720 --> 0:11:36.040 her she knows. She comes over here every day and 0:11:36.080 --> 0:11:39.040 she sees the chaos that boys are, and any boy 0:11:39.080 --> 0:11:40.600 mom would agree with me. 0:11:41.160 --> 0:11:43.280 Boys house is larry chaotic. 0:11:43.360 --> 0:11:45.240 And then like even my sister's husband will come to 0:11:45.280 --> 0:11:47.600 my house and he's like, wow, it's really calm here. 0:11:47.840 --> 0:11:48.480 Yeah. 0:11:48.520 --> 0:11:51.440 My daughter's dressed in her princess dress, singing like Elsa 0:11:51.520 --> 0:11:54.360 and frozen and twirling in her princess. 0:11:53.880 --> 0:11:55.800 Gowns, and her boys are like wrestling. 0:11:55.840 --> 0:11:57.800 They got each other and like these like neckholds and 0:11:57.840 --> 0:12:00.400 they're wrestling each other being on top of the how. 0:12:00.360 --> 0:12:02.800 To and see they're jumping off the railing and they're 0:12:02.840 --> 0:12:05.720 doing a tea party. It's like polar opposites. 0:12:05.800 --> 0:12:09.000 It really is. We have different parenting styles too. 0:12:09.160 --> 0:12:10.920 Yeah, I think that's it makes sense that I have 0:12:10.960 --> 0:12:12.400 all boys because I feel like I'm a little more 0:12:12.440 --> 0:12:15.600 laid back definitely, and you're very like a little more strict. 0:12:15.800 --> 0:12:17.400 So it does kind of make sense that you have 0:12:17.440 --> 0:12:19.480 girls and I have boys. It kind of worked out in. 0:12:19.440 --> 0:12:21.760 A sense and we get the best of both worlds. Yeah, 0:12:21.920 --> 0:12:23.559 her kids are mine and my kids are hers. 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:26.000 Yeah, when you need a little girl time you can 0:12:26.040 --> 0:12:28.480 have it and then give them back. And similarly, I 0:12:28.520 --> 0:12:36.880 love that. Do you feel like it's true what they 0:12:36.960 --> 0:12:39.560 say like being a boy mom and a girl mom, Like, 0:12:39.640 --> 0:12:42.199 do you feel like you embody those characteristics? 0:12:42.720 --> 0:12:42.920 Well? 0:12:43.040 --> 0:12:43.800 I do. 0:12:43.880 --> 0:12:45.880 I see yourself that I see you as a girl 0:12:46.679 --> 0:12:49.080 and I see you having a boy like I see 0:12:49.120 --> 0:12:52.800 us see us as having both. But I mean I 0:12:52.800 --> 0:12:54.360 feel like now I wonder if people just see me 0:12:54.400 --> 0:12:56.760 as I like fully embraced being a girl. I know, 0:12:56.880 --> 0:12:59.040 and I feel like Ola has to your husband, he's 0:12:59.080 --> 0:13:01.640 like such a girl and I feel like for Will. 0:13:01.480 --> 0:13:03.280 He could be, he could do. I always thought Will 0:13:03.280 --> 0:13:05.760 he was glad. I kind of thought we'd all have 0:13:05.800 --> 0:13:06.679 all girls instead. 0:13:07.200 --> 0:13:09.280 Yeah, I didn't see me as a full boy mom, 0:13:09.320 --> 0:13:11.120 but here that's what God wanted for me. 0:13:11.840 --> 0:13:15.760 Speaking of your husband's people see the glamorous side of 0:13:15.760 --> 0:13:18.880 being married to professional athletes, but what is it that 0:13:18.920 --> 0:13:19.839 people don't see? 0:13:20.800 --> 0:13:23.360 Well, he's like especially for me right now, my husband 0:13:23.400 --> 0:13:27.440 has been injured this entire hockey season, so having to 0:13:27.760 --> 0:13:29.840 like be there to support him through injuries, and like 0:13:29.920 --> 0:13:32.120 right now he has a broken wrist and like yesterday 0:13:32.160 --> 0:13:35.199 I needed to massage this broken wrist and get like the. 0:13:35.080 --> 0:13:38.920 Blood flow that it was, like that was really hard. 0:13:38.720 --> 0:13:41.079 To do because these extra duties. 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:43.600 Freak me out, and I just the swelling of his 0:13:43.840 --> 0:13:45.480 hand is so crazy. 0:13:45.559 --> 0:13:47.640 I don't know, so like I think, and it's sad 0:13:47.720 --> 0:13:50.679 to watch them like go through injuries and like. 0:13:50.760 --> 0:13:53.560 I think, like to like your home alone a lot, 0:13:53.679 --> 0:13:55.559 you don't get A lot of people don't know that, 0:13:55.640 --> 0:13:59.440 like they are around. Yeah, my situation is a lot 0:13:59.480 --> 0:14:02.000 different than your, but like just in general, like they 0:14:02.000 --> 0:14:05.320 go on these road trips for the hockey, like during 0:14:05.320 --> 0:14:08.320 the hockey season, so you're home alone with your kids 0:14:08.400 --> 0:14:11.840 for days. Yeah, for you sometimes weeks at its time, 0:14:12.440 --> 0:14:15.679 like with no no husband there to support like you 0:14:15.760 --> 0:14:18.240 doing that, so it's kind of a lot of alone time. 0:14:18.720 --> 0:14:21.040 But like for me, the biggest sacrifice I make is 0:14:21.040 --> 0:14:23.760 I live overseas half of the year so I'm over 0:14:23.840 --> 0:14:26.400 in Europe for half of the year during the coldest, 0:14:26.560 --> 0:14:30.480 darkest time of the year. And it's been very mentally 0:14:30.560 --> 0:14:33.320 draining since having kids. So like I've been doing this 0:14:33.360 --> 0:14:37.200 for six hockey seasons now, so I'm feeling ready to 0:14:37.280 --> 0:14:41.240 be done with that. But we'll see what we're life takes. 0:14:41.240 --> 0:14:42.960 But what's this crazy thing is you're about to have 0:14:43.000 --> 0:14:44.200 a baby and he's gonna leave. 0:14:44.400 --> 0:14:45.760 Yeah, week after. 0:14:45.560 --> 0:14:48.400 This baby's wanted to go play and my husband has 0:14:48.520 --> 0:14:50.600 a training camp camp usually August first. 0:14:50.600 --> 0:14:53.520 Her due date is August third, but I'm getting induced early. 0:14:53.640 --> 0:14:55.240 So we're going to have this baby a little early 0:14:55.280 --> 0:14:57.840 and then like a week after he's leaving to go 0:14:58.120 --> 0:14:58.760 play hockey. 0:14:58.760 --> 0:15:00.600 So I'll be taking care of a todd or a newborn. 0:15:00.680 --> 0:15:01.040 Oh bye. 0:15:02.040 --> 0:15:03.960 We love a scheduled induction. 0:15:05.080 --> 0:15:07.960 Love a scheduling. Yeah, I do love a deduction. I'm 0:15:08.000 --> 0:15:09.120 all about inductions. 0:15:09.760 --> 0:15:12.640 How do you guys make it work being long distance? 0:15:13.320 --> 0:15:14.280 Do you have any tips? 0:15:14.760 --> 0:15:17.440 Like, I've just been long distance my whole relationship. 0:15:17.840 --> 0:15:21.240 We spend months apart just because of my husband's career 0:15:21.280 --> 0:15:25.960 being overseas. But like just we have our TV shows 0:15:26.000 --> 0:15:28.960 that we watch together, so when we're like facetiming each other, 0:15:29.080 --> 0:15:31.120 we like always have something to talk about. We are, 0:15:31.320 --> 0:15:34.720 we're talking about our TV shows together. Now it's just 0:15:34.760 --> 0:15:37.280 like with our daughter, Like we just spend most of 0:15:37.320 --> 0:15:39.200 the time on the phone so that he can talk 0:15:39.240 --> 0:15:41.520 to our daughter. And like, now that we're having this baby, 0:15:41.520 --> 0:15:45.000 it'll probably most of our conversations will be about our kids. 0:15:45.120 --> 0:15:48.040 But you know, I just think that like having things 0:15:48.080 --> 0:15:51.160 hobbies together even if you're not together, like so that 0:15:51.240 --> 0:15:54.720 you can talk about them on FaceTime is always good. 0:15:55.840 --> 0:15:59.160 And you mentioned that you are overseas for half the years, 0:15:59.320 --> 0:16:02.760 which is crazy. What has that been like culturally going 0:16:02.800 --> 0:16:04.240 back and forth to a different country. 0:16:04.320 --> 0:16:05.680 I feel people think it's a dream. 0:16:05.800 --> 0:16:07.240 I do think a lot of people look at it 0:16:07.280 --> 0:16:09.520 and like this, she is living the life. 0:16:09.560 --> 0:16:10.560 She is living the dream. 0:16:10.560 --> 0:16:12.680 And in the beginning it was very cool because I 0:16:12.680 --> 0:16:14.600 didn't have kids, like I was able to kind. 0:16:14.440 --> 0:16:15.960 Of travel back and forth a lot more. 0:16:16.520 --> 0:16:18.760 And so we were like, we've been in Sweden, We've 0:16:18.800 --> 0:16:21.200 been in Switzerland, We've been in Finland, like I've played 0:16:21.200 --> 0:16:25.760 in really cool countries, but like we were in Geneva, Switzerland. 0:16:25.360 --> 0:16:27.840 For a while and it was like the coolest experience 0:16:27.880 --> 0:16:28.480 of my life. 0:16:29.560 --> 0:16:32.800 But it takes a toll on your mental health, like 0:16:32.920 --> 0:16:35.640 being over there away from family, I have no support system. 0:16:35.680 --> 0:16:38.640 I'm taking care of my daughter with no support system, 0:16:38.760 --> 0:16:42.480 Like my husband's family is in Finland, so like it's 0:16:42.840 --> 0:16:46.040 I literally it's all all on me. So my mental 0:16:46.040 --> 0:16:49.320 health last season was I took a big dip, and 0:16:49.360 --> 0:16:53.000 I was also pregnant in my first trimester, so it 0:16:53.040 --> 0:16:56.120 was just a lot last year. But I think a 0:16:56.160 --> 0:16:58.240 lot of people think, oh, she's lived that yearal life, 0:16:58.240 --> 0:17:01.120 like she lives overseas and she like she's got this. 0:17:01.120 --> 0:17:02.960 European like life, and I'm like, no. 0:17:02.880 --> 0:17:06.120 I'm living overseas during the coldest, darkest time of the year. 0:17:06.200 --> 0:17:07.640 You don't get to go in the summer. I don't 0:17:07.680 --> 0:17:09.600 get to Yeah, I don't get to go to the summer, Like. 0:17:09.560 --> 0:17:10.800 No euro summer for you. 0:17:11.080 --> 0:17:15.800 Yeah, So it's I think the first four seasons were 0:17:15.880 --> 0:17:18.360 a lot easier, but the last few seasons have been 0:17:18.440 --> 0:17:20.120 kind of hard. Well, it's got to be a culture 0:17:20.160 --> 0:17:23.680 shock too when you're from Vegas and like our winters, 0:17:23.680 --> 0:17:24.840 we don't get snow that. 0:17:25.040 --> 0:17:29.919 Cold, but not the not layering up cold like a layer. 0:17:30.080 --> 0:17:31.840 Getting my daughter ready to go out in the snow 0:17:31.920 --> 0:17:32.840 is a whole deal. 0:17:32.880 --> 0:17:34.520 Like it takes me at least thirty minutes to get 0:17:34.520 --> 0:17:36.480 her in her snow suit to just go outside and play. 0:17:36.520 --> 0:17:37.280 For twenty or thirty. 0:17:37.520 --> 0:17:40.560 You send me videos of Ola scraping the snow off 0:17:40.640 --> 0:17:43.240 the car and like warming the car before you guys 0:17:43.320 --> 0:17:45.359 even have to leave, like we would never have to 0:17:45.400 --> 0:17:47.200