WEBVTT - Things That Truly Matter

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, Come on in and make yourself at home. I

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<v Speaker 1>want you to kick off your shoes. I want you

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<v Speaker 1>to get comfortable, and I hope you'll do what I do.

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<v Speaker 1>When I sit down and get a chance to connect

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<v Speaker 1>with you. While I'm in the studio, I make myself

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<v Speaker 1>a cup of Twinings tea of London. I'm holding my

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<v Speaker 1>cup of Twinings tea right here right now. In fact,

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<v Speaker 1>I want you to put the stress and the cares

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<v Speaker 1>and the worries of the day aside. Normally, when you

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<v Speaker 1>listen to me at night on the radio, I have

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<v Speaker 1>to stop talking every few minutes and play music because

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<v Speaker 1>it's a request and dedication show, and that's what I do.

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<v Speaker 1>But here on this podcast, I don't have to do that.

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<v Speaker 1>I can talk as much as I want. I can

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<v Speaker 1>talk as much as you want, and we can talk

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<v Speaker 1>about things that matter, things that really truly matter in life.

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<v Speaker 1>And you want to know, of funny thing, the things

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<v Speaker 1>that matter most in life aren't things at all. Things

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<v Speaker 1>don't really matter. I want you to respect stuff. I

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<v Speaker 1>really want my children to respect my stuff and other

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<v Speaker 1>people's stuff. I don't want my children growing up to

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<v Speaker 1>be self entitled, spoiled brats who think that they are

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<v Speaker 1>entitled to stuff and things and who don't respect other

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<v Speaker 1>people's stuff and things. When we grow go grocery shopping,

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<v Speaker 1>after we've put the groceries in the car, I want

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<v Speaker 1>my children to take the cards and put it away

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<v Speaker 1>in the little card holder so that it doesn't go

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<v Speaker 1>rolling through the parking lot and hit someone else's car

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<v Speaker 1>and do damage or cause an accident. One of the

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<v Speaker 1>ways I teach them to respect other people's things when

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<v Speaker 1>we go shopping. If we go into a store, I

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<v Speaker 1>tell them to look with their eyes and out with

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<v Speaker 1>their hands. Keep their hands off stuff, because I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want them breaking it or spoiling it or soiling it.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to walk into my kid's bedroom and

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<v Speaker 1>find their clothes that I just worked really hard to

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<v Speaker 1>earn money to buy to put on them. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to find their clothes, their nice clothes piled up

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<v Speaker 1>in a big heap with wet towels on top. That's gonna,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, if it's odd, they be moldy. I want

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<v Speaker 1>them to take care of their things, but I never

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<v Speaker 1>ever ever want them to think that things have great

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<v Speaker 1>value in life. What do I mean by that? I

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<v Speaker 1>mean that things are just things. I want them to

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<v Speaker 1>take care of them, but I want them to understand

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<v Speaker 1>things are just things. I tell my kids when they're

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<v Speaker 1>learning how to drive and they're so worried that they're

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<v Speaker 1>going to scratch the car, get a bump, or get

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<v Speaker 1>in an accident, and they do. They scratch the car,

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<v Speaker 1>and they get bumps and they get in you know,

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<v Speaker 1>fender benders or whatever, And I say, are you okay, honey?

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<v Speaker 1>Is everybody okay? Because if everybody's okay, cars are just

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<v Speaker 1>metal and rubber and plastic held together with screws. That's

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<v Speaker 1>all they are. Cars will come and cars will go.

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<v Speaker 1>But your health, your life, your safety, that is what

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<v Speaker 1>is important. Things are things, and we can attach emotional

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<v Speaker 1>value to those things. I got a lot of stuff

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<v Speaker 1>that I've collected over the year just because it reminds

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<v Speaker 1>me and my mama, or my grandma or my dad.

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<v Speaker 1>And when they passed and I didn't get any of

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<v Speaker 1>their stuff, I started collecting stuff that they would have

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<v Speaker 1>owned or that reminds me of something they had at

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<v Speaker 1>one time. But it's just stuff, and the only emotion

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<v Speaker 1>attached to it is the emotions I attached to it.

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<v Speaker 1>The things that really matter are respect, kindness, being there

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<v Speaker 1>emotionally for your family and your friends. Playing a game

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<v Speaker 1>of cards or Shoots and Ladders, go fish far more

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<v Speaker 1>valuable then giving your kid a tablet and letting them

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<v Speaker 1>sit there zoning out, playing angry Birds. When they're setting

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<v Speaker 1>there zoning out, they're not connecting with the world around them.

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<v Speaker 1>They're not connecting with you. They're not learning life skills. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>they're developing handby coordination. They can do that with a

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<v Speaker 1>baseball too. But when you take the electronics away and

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<v Speaker 1>you have your kids play cards with each other, or

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<v Speaker 1>you have them play Monopoly or Apples to Apples, and

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<v Speaker 1>you listen to their conversations, it's priceless, Absolutely priceless. Over

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<v Speaker 1>the holiday weekend, I took five of my children and

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<v Speaker 1>three of their friends, and my sister and a girlfriend

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<v Speaker 1>and we went away for the weekend. And I laid

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<v Speaker 1>on my bed, which is up in aloft in this cabin,

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<v Speaker 1>and the living room dining room area is right below,

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<v Speaker 1>so it's an open loft. I can hear every word

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<v Speaker 1>the kids are saying. And they thought I was taking

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<v Speaker 1>a nap, but I was actually laying up there listening

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<v Speaker 1>to their conversations, and I was priceless, priceless the conversation

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<v Speaker 1>my twenty one year old daughter was having with my sister,

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<v Speaker 1>explaining her views on dating and how she accidentally accidentally

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<v Speaker 1>kissed a boy, and my sister said, no, honey, that's

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<v Speaker 1>not an accident, that's an on purpose And it just

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<v Speaker 1>was a delightful conversation about young love and about hopes

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<v Speaker 1>and dreams for the future, and checking to see if

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<v Speaker 1>she was on the right track, asking my sister important questions.

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<v Speaker 1>All that happened over a card game at the table.

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<v Speaker 1>Had they been in separate rooms on their electronic devices,

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<v Speaker 1>that conversation never would have taken place, and I wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>have had the joy of eavesdropping and hearing my beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>daughter with great values talking about what she's looking for

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<v Speaker 1>in a forever love, and my sister, who could be

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<v Speaker 1>very jaded in her situation, instead offering so much love

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<v Speaker 1>to her niece. The things that matter in life aren't things,

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<v Speaker 1>their people, their relationships, taking care of our planet, picking

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<v Speaker 1>up trash, talking to a neighbor, picking flowers and giving

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<v Speaker 1>them to somebody in a nursing home, adopting a child

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<v Speaker 1>out of poverty. These are the things that matter. These

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<v Speaker 1>are the things that will change the world. M