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Speaker 1: Here it is Strawberry letter. Thank you nephew. Subject did

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Speaker 1: she pass her leftovers to me? Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm

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Speaker 1: forty and my boyfriend is forty four years old. My

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Speaker 1: favorite cousin hooked us up and told me that he's

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Speaker 1: a great guy, but he hasn't found a decent woman.

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Speaker 1: Our first date was a double date with my cousin

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Speaker 1: and her boyfriend. There was a little tension between my

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Speaker 1: But we managed to get through the date. I've been

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Speaker 1: told that my standards are too high, so I overlooked

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Speaker 1: a lot of things with this guy. From the beginning,

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Speaker 1: he brags about his past and provides a lot of

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Speaker 1: information that I don't need to know. The most entertaining

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Speaker 1: part of our conversation is how he lies. When he's bragging,

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Speaker 1: he forgets that he's been friends with my cousin since

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Speaker 1: they were kids, and she knows the truth and tells me.

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Speaker 1: He told me he made a lot of money in

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Speaker 1: the stock market, but he doesn't look like he's ever

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Speaker 1: had any money. He lies about his sexual escapades, and

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Speaker 1: I know firsthand that he's not all of that. In

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Speaker 1: I found out he hasn't had a real relationship in

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Speaker 1: ten years. I noticed that my cousin is defensive when

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Speaker 1: I ask her about his past. We both laugh at

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Speaker 1: how much he lies, so she has helped me figure

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Speaker 1: out who this man really is. I finally asked him

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Speaker 1: if he's ever dated my cousin. He said that he's

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Speaker 1: been there and done that, but he would not go

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Speaker 1: into details. So I called my cousin in front of him,

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Speaker 1: and she said that we all know he's a big liar.

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Speaker 1: He got upset by being called a liar and he

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Speaker 1: get off the topic. My cousin says he's lying and

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Speaker 1: that's why her boyfriend doesn't like him if he slept

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Speaker 1: with my cousin. Can our relationship get past this? Why

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Speaker 1: won't they tell me? Okay, what is this letter about?

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Speaker 1: I mean, just because your cousin introduced you guys, doesn't

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Speaker 1: mean she gets to stay all up in your business.

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Speaker 1: The whole point to me in this letter is that

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Speaker 1: you don't know who to believe. It sounds like they

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Speaker 1: both have lied to you about a few things. First off,

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Speaker 1: your cousin for saying he's a great guy, he's not

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Speaker 1: if he's a big liar. And although it doesn't seem

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Speaker 1: to matter to you because you're already calling him your

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Speaker 1: boyfriend and going out on dates, you've already had sex

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Speaker 1: with him. Your favorite cousin won't come clean about whether

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Speaker 1: she dated him or not. Your boyfriend said they did,

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Speaker 1: your favorite cousin said he's lying. But you know what,

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Speaker 1: I get the feeling that none of this matters to

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Speaker 1: you anyway, because you're already a couple. I mean, again,

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Speaker 1: you've had sex with the man already, You've called him

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Speaker 1: your boyfriend at the top of the letter, so your

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Speaker 1: relationship has gotten past a lot of things. It really

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Speaker 1: has a lot of lies. Okay, it comes down to

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Speaker 1: if you want to stay in this relationship or not.

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Speaker 1: I think you know you like this guy lies and all, Steve,

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Speaker 1: I don't. I don't. I don't even understand your question?

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Speaker 1: Did she pass her leftovers to me? How's that the

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Speaker 1: only all listed I'm about to go through with, y'all?

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Speaker 1: Your question is did she pass her leftovers to me?

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Speaker 1: Let me? This is a letter of lies? Now, what's

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Speaker 1: gonna make me good at this letter? I specialize in lie.

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Speaker 1: In the lie, I know when they should be told.

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Speaker 1: I know the background behind tell. I know the amount

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Speaker 1: and the stuff you're gonna have to do to uphold it.

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Speaker 1: So when you lie and spott it easy. This is

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Speaker 1: a letter full of lies. I'm forty and my boyfriend

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Speaker 1: is forty folk Okay to all to be boyfriend girlfriend

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Speaker 1: told you all about that my favorite cousin hooked us up.

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Speaker 1: Now this is your favorite cousin. I would hate to

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Speaker 1: meet your other cousins because this is your favorite and

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Speaker 1: told me he's a great guy, but he hasn't found

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Speaker 1: a decent woman. What really, how many great guys you

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Speaker 1: know haven't found a decent woman? Okay, our first date

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Speaker 1: That was a little tension between my date and my

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Speaker 1: let me explain something TV. If it's tension between the

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Speaker 1: two dudes, it's because one of the dudes is thinking

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Speaker 1: something or have some information, or both of them have information.

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Speaker 1: But if they both had information, they wouldn't be on

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Speaker 1: the date. So one person has some information that the

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Speaker 1: other person don't. But if both men have bad information

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Speaker 1: on another dude, Dudes, that this ain't reality TV. Dudes

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Speaker 1: don't go out with dudes. We don't like it. We

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Speaker 1: don't really do that because we already know where it's going.

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Speaker 1: This ain't nothing to do, but because our mode of

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Speaker 1: try to stay away from that. No, really, that's why

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Speaker 1: you that can be no reality shows at all, men

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Speaker 1: all because you can't slap me this Friday and then

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Speaker 1: next Friday we're eating Sowell. This reality show is coval dog.

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Speaker 1: He bet not, because the first thing you're gonna get

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Speaker 1: him on TV and then mail egos, Bruce simply, so

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Speaker 1: the lives have all begun him. I've been told that

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Speaker 1: my standards are too high, so I overlooked a lot

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Speaker 1: of things with this guy. From the beginning. He brags

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Speaker 1: I don't need to know. What. Well, let's get into

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Speaker 1: this information when we come back as I dissect this

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Speaker 1: letter of lies all true Live, we'll have part two

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Speaker 1: of your response coming up at twenty three minutes after um.

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Speaker 1: Today's strawberry letters subject did she pass her leftovers to me?

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Speaker 1: We'll find out more right after this. You're listening, all right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's very letter, the subject

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Speaker 1: did she pass her leftovers to me? The title of

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Speaker 1: this letter has been tamed change. I'm calling it true Lives. Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: these are true lives. Ready. I'm forty, My boyfriend is

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Speaker 1: forty four. My favorite cousin, Lie pook me up with him,

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Speaker 1: told me he was a great guy. Lie said he

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Speaker 1: was a great guy, but he ain't found a decent woman.

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Speaker 1: That's another lie. Our first day was a double day

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Speaker 1: with my cousin and a boyfriend. That was a little

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Speaker 1: my standards are too high, so I overlooked a lot

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Speaker 1: of things with this guy from the beginning. All right,

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Speaker 1: here we go. He brags about his past and provides

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Speaker 1: I always remember something my father told me. I didn't

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Speaker 1: understanding now. He said, So, if somebody always got to

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Speaker 1: tell you who they are what they do, it probably

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Speaker 1: ain't true. If a person is constantly telling you who

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Speaker 1: they are and what they do, and they gotta keep

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Speaker 1: telling it to you, it's probably not true. So the

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Speaker 1: most entertaining part of our conversations is now he lies

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Speaker 1: when he's bragging, and this is entertaining to you, and

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Speaker 1: you're still dating him. He forgets that he's been friends

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Speaker 1: with my cousin since they were kids, and she knows

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Speaker 1: the truth and tells me he told me he made

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Speaker 1: a lot of money in the stock market, but he

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Speaker 1: don't look like he's ever had any money. Oh, this

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Speaker 1: is my specialty right here. I have spent the bulk

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Speaker 1: of my life in stock Raven put the bulk of

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Speaker 1: my sixty six years has been impot I have lit

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Speaker 1: the bulk of my life. With exception of spot years

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Speaker 1: he and then working at four. Most of those years

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Speaker 1: was spent in polity. So when you tell me that

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Speaker 1: a man says he made a lot of money, but

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Speaker 1: he don't look like he's ever had any money, So

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Speaker 1: it ain't no like he got this this pass shoes

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Speaker 1: that he'd been wearing for years when he had money,

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Speaker 1: a pair of gators. You can tell he bought him

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Speaker 1: back then because nobody really bought gave us too much,

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Speaker 1: no more, and nah, they old. You don't see no

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Speaker 1: watch on him. It's kind of old, but it's a

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Speaker 1: good watch. You don't see no sweater that was cash meal,

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Speaker 1: but it's got little balls on it now when he

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Speaker 1: he don't even look like he ever had no money.

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Speaker 1: He has no residue left over from making money. He

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Speaker 1: told me he made a lot of money in the

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Speaker 1: stock market. You know why that's a good line of

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Speaker 1: town because he can't nobody to check on it. That's

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Speaker 1: a perfect lie. Can't nobody checking. Okay, so he lies

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Speaker 1: about his sexual escapade, and I know firsthand that he

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Speaker 1: ain't all that in bed where he was gonna girl.

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you something, girl, I wrought my bells

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Speaker 1: in that bill, right, yeah, I'm all day up and

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Speaker 1: here I rang the bell. I'm saying, Mama, sa't knock

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Speaker 1: you out, and I do just that. Now, he didn't

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Speaker 1: food didn't in some lie. He he's a ladies man,

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Speaker 1: and I found out he ain't had a real relationship

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Speaker 1: in ten years. That's because he ain't. He ain't no

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Speaker 1: good guy that can't find a decent woman. Most people

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Speaker 1: laughed at how much he lied. So she has helped

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Speaker 1: me figure out who this man really is. Why are

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Speaker 1: you still talking to him if you don't figure how

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Speaker 1: he really is? Why what's the letter faulk? I finally

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Speaker 1: asked him if he'd ever dated my cousin. He said

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Speaker 1: not go into detail. So I called my cousin in

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Speaker 1: he's a big lie. Now, ain't that the truth? Right?

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Speaker 1: He didn't lied about everything else, lied about his past

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Speaker 1: sexual escortation, lied about his abilities with women, lied about

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Speaker 1: the money in the stock pom, lied about what he

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Speaker 1: used to have. Now I told you had your cousin.

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Speaker 1: He ain't got no details because they ain't no details.

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Speaker 1: And she told you we know he a big lie.

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Speaker 1: He got upset after being caller. Caller lied, He left

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Speaker 1: the roof. That's all he got out. Oh I'm a gass.

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Speaker 1: I think it was an act to get off the topic.

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Speaker 1: My cousin says he's lying, and that's why her boyfriend

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Speaker 1: don't like it, because see the boyfriend the reason it

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Speaker 1: was tension because he know he'd to spread lies about

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Speaker 1: this girl before, and he setting up looking upside as

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Speaker 1: he if he slept with my cousin. Can our relationship

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Speaker 1: get past him? What relationship? Why are you in the

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Speaker 1: relationship with your Sorry? He ain't got no money. He

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Speaker 1: don't look like he ever had no money. He ain't

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Speaker 1: got no hopes of making no money. He ain't What

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Speaker 1: he's saying is in the band? What are you in

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Speaker 1: the relationship with him? For Get your standards back high

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Speaker 1: again because you're the lord them too low. Just you know,

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Speaker 1: got your little round, your y'all two feet are biting

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Speaker 1: step in the yard now. Please all right, leave your

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Speaker 1: comments on today's Strawberry Letter. Thank you Steve on Instagram

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