WEBVTT - Ep 9: The Guy Who Slid Into My DMs 0:00:06.160 --> 0:00:06.520 Novel. 0:00:09.920 --> 0:00:14.000 This show contains adult material and swearing. You have been warned. 0:00:14.840 --> 0:00:17.759 Oh my god, I feel so bad for him, Like, 0:00:18.079 --> 0:00:20.720 I know, such a sad story. 0:00:20.920 --> 0:00:23.640 I mean, I quite respect your on dates people going 0:00:23.680 --> 0:00:24.160 that deep. 0:00:24.200 --> 0:00:27.000 He gets extra brainy points in his random because that 0:00:27.160 --> 0:00:29.600 was awful. That's like nightmare of stuff. 0:00:31.240 --> 0:00:39.640 I'm a savage. Are you bored of modern dating? 0:00:39.880 --> 0:00:42.360 Meeting the same people from the same apps in the 0:00:42.400 --> 0:00:45.159 same bar You've only chosen because it's close to your 0:00:45.159 --> 0:00:48.480 house and you can make your usual quick getaway. It's 0:00:48.520 --> 0:00:50.920 time to change the narrative on how we find love. 0:00:51.080 --> 0:00:53.880 It's time to start looking for love in all the 0:00:53.920 --> 0:00:59.000 wrong places. I'm going on a wild dating adventure, only 0:00:59.040 --> 0:01:01.560 picking people who are the total opposite of my type. 0:01:01.600 --> 0:01:05.360 And after twenty eight of these dates in two months. 0:01:05.280 --> 0:01:07.240 Will I find that special someone? 0:01:07.520 --> 0:01:10.280 Or well, this experiment proved that I should just give 0:01:10.360 --> 0:01:12.000 up on dating altogether. 0:01:13.040 --> 0:01:14.240 It's time to find out. 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:19.240 I'm Grace Campbell and this is twenty eight dates later. 0:01:23.560 --> 0:01:25.120 Hi, Hi rods. 0:01:25.280 --> 0:01:28.039 Okay, Grace, I'm excited about today's date. Did he energize 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:31.280 you at all? Because this guy sitting into DMS this. 0:01:31.280 --> 0:01:34.760 Rose is the modern day meet you it's the modern 0:01:34.840 --> 0:01:40.279 day bumping into someone in a corridor. Yeah, now, listen, 0:01:40.319 --> 0:01:42.240 I'm not gonna lie. Yeah, Like, I've had a lot 0:01:42.280 --> 0:01:44.320 of men, not to brag, like, slide into my DMS, 0:01:44.319 --> 0:01:46.520 which is an art form. By the way, I've actually 0:01:46.600 --> 0:01:48.800 dated a few guys with into my DMS and it's gone. 0:01:49.120 --> 0:01:52.680 One of the worst relationships I've had began from somebody 0:01:52.720 --> 0:01:56.080 sliding into my DMS. So it's given me a bit 0:01:56.120 --> 0:02:00.280 of trauma, right, And I worry about men who's sideing 0:02:00.320 --> 0:02:02.760 to my DMS because I feel that they have a 0:02:02.800 --> 0:02:04.480 sort of warped idea of what is going to be 0:02:04.520 --> 0:02:06.200 like going on a date with me, and then it 0:02:06.240 --> 0:02:09.000 just gets a bit confused. So I was a bit 0:02:09.080 --> 0:02:11.440 worried about this, if I'm going to be honest. 0:02:11.720 --> 0:02:13.960 So I actually before we started this, I was like, 0:02:13.960 --> 0:02:15.760 oh my god, a guy's sitting into a DMS like 0:02:16.000 --> 0:02:18.480 this is how so many of my relationships happened. But 0:02:18.520 --> 0:02:20.160 then no one you're saying that, I'm like, oh, yeah, 0:02:20.200 --> 0:02:23.000 mine didn't last either, Yeah, so maybe that isn't a 0:02:23.040 --> 0:02:23.400 good thing. 0:02:23.760 --> 0:02:25.400 The one thing I'll say, right, and this is what 0:02:25.440 --> 0:02:28.600 I have realized, is that men who like slide into 0:02:28.639 --> 0:02:32.320 your dms. They are doing that with so many women, 0:02:32.760 --> 0:02:35.160 Like it's not just you that they're doing that with. 0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:37.840 That's a tactic that they're not all of them, right. 0:02:38.000 --> 0:02:40.960 But one guy I dated who's sitting into my DMS 0:02:41.040 --> 0:02:43.880 I then later realized that literally, and I only realized 0:02:43.880 --> 0:02:45.760 this from looking at who else he was following on 0:02:45.800 --> 0:02:48.799 Instagram every week when we were dating. Is he would 0:02:48.800 --> 0:02:50.880 always be following your girls and always be stiding into 0:02:50.919 --> 0:02:52.600 their dms. So I think it's it's a bit of 0:02:52.600 --> 0:02:54.920 a some men, it's you know, it's their form of 0:02:54.960 --> 0:02:57.720 being a player, and that's what it bit gets my 0:02:57.760 --> 0:02:59.760 back up. But i'd actually met this guy before, we'd 0:02:59.800 --> 0:03:02.040 met on the Canal and Hackney on like a really 0:03:02.080 --> 0:03:04.680 sunny day last year, and then he followed me on 0:03:04.680 --> 0:03:06.920 Instagram and never messaged me, and then messaged me like 0:03:07.160 --> 0:03:09.120 seven months later being like do you want to go 0:03:09.160 --> 0:03:09.640 for a drink? 0:03:10.240 --> 0:03:12.639 And like, Grace, you know that you're saying, low's a 0:03:12.680 --> 0:03:16.440 guy signing two dms. Has anyone famous ever slid into dms? 0:03:16.919 --> 0:03:19.000 No, And I will say way less people slided into 0:03:19.000 --> 0:03:21.280 my dms now. It used it was like it was 0:03:21.280 --> 0:03:21.960 like a year ago. 0:03:22.120 --> 0:03:23.400 That's because they don't want to be part of your 0:03:23.400 --> 0:03:25.079 comedy show. No, I think it is that. 0:03:25.160 --> 0:03:27.400 I think there was a really peak moment for me 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:31.200 when no one really famous. A few comedians have slidden 0:03:31.240 --> 0:03:34.040 to my dms, like sort of mildly known comedians. 0:03:34.080 --> 0:03:40.840 But you know, ck, you look really. 0:03:40.800 --> 0:03:42.280 Nice to like. And also you did have like eight 0:03:42.320 --> 0:03:43.720 people here trying to get you ready, which I thought 0:03:43.760 --> 0:03:44.280 was a bit weird. 0:03:48.320 --> 0:03:50.360 Okay, so if you if you had to be played 0:03:50.360 --> 0:03:53.480 in the movie where anyone who would have been joy? 0:03:54.640 --> 0:03:55.800 Oh, that's really true. 0:03:55.880 --> 0:04:01.160 Actually, yeah, that's really true. True, that's really true. 0:04:01.240 --> 0:04:06.480 Actually, when I met him last summer, I hadn't quite 0:04:06.560 --> 0:04:09.520 recalled how posh she was, Like he was really posh, 0:04:10.000 --> 0:04:12.840 which it wasn't an it at all, because he was. 0:04:12.920 --> 0:04:16.160 He had good chat, but his voice was quite posh. 0:04:16.320 --> 0:04:17.440 I like his accent. 0:04:17.920 --> 0:04:19.599 No, he's posh. But he was good looking. 0:04:19.600 --> 0:04:21.760 He looked he did look like Joseph Gordon Levitt, like 0:04:21.800 --> 0:04:22.919 that is actually what he looks like. 0:04:23.160 --> 0:04:25.080 I'm actually googling him right now because I can't. 0:04:25.200 --> 0:04:29.640 He was in Ten Things I Hate About You Love Him? 0:04:29.960 --> 0:04:31.280 Yeah, did he look like him? 0:04:31.360 --> 0:04:32.040 He looked like him. 0:04:32.120 --> 0:04:34.680 You know, he's one of those actors that like, I 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:36.719 love him in movies and afterwards I'm like, I'm in 0:04:36.760 --> 0:04:37.360 love with him. 0:04:37.560 --> 0:04:40.839 No, I know, because he's so cute, he's so nice, 0:04:41.120 --> 0:04:42.040 he's so nice. 0:04:42.160 --> 0:04:43.160 Yeah. Great. 0:04:43.360 --> 0:04:46.760 I actually think your accent is pastial than his. It's 0:04:46.800 --> 0:04:50.720 definitely noting from all your Irish listeners right now, and 0:04:50.760 --> 0:04:54.080 they're like, I know, because that's the thing, but I 0:04:54.160 --> 0:04:56.960 don't actually for someone from London like I'm posh, definitely, 0:04:57.560 --> 0:05:00.320 but I don't have like he spoke like that. 0:05:00.520 --> 0:05:03.240 It's more of a sort of BBC accent. 0:05:03.560 --> 0:05:07.200 Okay, expecting when the clip I was expecting like the 0:05:07.240 --> 0:05:11.440 Crown right, No he doesn't. Okay, well you know what 0:05:11.440 --> 0:05:13.599 I wasn't on a date with King Charles. Can I 0:05:13.680 --> 0:05:15.960 just say instantly I like him? 0:05:16.160 --> 0:05:16.400 Yes? 0:05:16.760 --> 0:05:19.520 He was good vibes, He was good vibes. We actually 0:05:19.600 --> 0:05:21.680 had fun, like it was a really fun date. 0:05:22.080 --> 0:05:23.119 He had great chat. 0:05:23.560 --> 0:05:25.560 He sat down and the first thing he said was 0:05:25.600 --> 0:05:27.640 you look amazing, and I was like, that's so funny 0:05:27.640 --> 0:05:30.720 because it's like you're trying really hard. Yeah, that's nice 0:05:30.720 --> 0:05:32.640 to Also, he follows me on Instagram. 0:05:32.640 --> 0:05:33.000 Obviously. 0:05:33.120 --> 0:05:36.000 On my Instagram, I do all these things where I 0:05:36.040 --> 0:05:38.560 talk about things that give people the it and get 0:05:38.560 --> 0:05:41.159 people's like some bit their things. And he said that 0:05:41.279 --> 0:05:45.120 he'd like thought about coming and basically encompassing like all 0:05:45.160 --> 0:05:47.279 of the biggest ins. So he was like he wanted 0:05:47.320 --> 0:05:48.880 to come and like wear all different things that he 0:05:48.960 --> 0:05:50.200 was like, I didn't want to put you off. So 0:05:50.240 --> 0:05:52.000 now I'm trying to be like the opposite of a nick. 0:05:52.480 --> 0:05:55.080 Well, it's also you know, a lot is to go 0:05:55.120 --> 0:05:57.120 on a date with a girl, but beforehand, so you know, 0:05:57.200 --> 0:05:59.600 she puts like fifty it's up and you're walking through 0:05:59.600 --> 0:06:01.120 a mind for on the date, making sure you don't 0:06:01.120 --> 0:06:05.920 mention all the stupid shit she's the night before also 0:06:06.080 --> 0:06:07.760 was thinking about compiling like seven of them and just 0:06:07.760 --> 0:06:11.400 wearing whatever. Yeah, that would have been really drink at 0:06:11.400 --> 0:06:12.720 the bar and at one point come on to people like, 0:06:12.760 --> 0:06:14.200 oh my god, I can't leave you're hair. I just 0:06:14.440 --> 0:06:16.600 to say thank you so much. Saved my life, your massive, 0:06:16.680 --> 0:06:21.039 massive dick. You're the best person. If I thought best lot. 0:06:22.160 --> 0:06:23.400 You know what, that's kind of night. 0:06:23.680 --> 0:06:25.000 He seemed a bit nervous. 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:27.640 Yeah, I actually think that that shows that he's able 0:06:27.640 --> 0:06:30.120 to make fun of himself, that he follows you that 0:06:30.200 --> 0:06:31.960 he was going to make fun of your whole acting, 0:06:32.040 --> 0:06:34.560 but then was like, Okay, she might actually think I'm 0:06:34.560 --> 0:06:35.160 being serious. 0:06:35.240 --> 0:06:36.000 And yeah. 0:06:36.120 --> 0:06:37.680 It's like, if I was going on a date with someone, 0:06:37.760 --> 0:06:40.160 I would stop them on social media, Like how much 0:06:40.200 --> 0:06:42.320 research do you usually do on guys before? 0:06:42.760 --> 0:06:44.560 If I can find their social media, then I will 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:46.720 stalk them heavily. But sometimes when you match someone on 0:06:46.760 --> 0:06:49.520 a dating app, you don't have their social media before 0:06:49.520 --> 0:06:51.200 you meet them, and I don't really want to ask 0:06:51.360 --> 0:06:53.520 because my fear is if I stalk someone too much 0:06:53.520 --> 0:06:54.880 before I meet them and they give me the egg, 0:06:54.920 --> 0:06:55.920 then I'm not going to go on the date. 0:06:56.000 --> 0:06:57.239 That's happened to me in the past. 0:06:57.440 --> 0:06:59.120 What's the deepest dive you've done? 0:06:59.680 --> 0:07:01.640 Oh, I would just go really really far back on 0:07:01.640 --> 0:07:02.440 the instagrams. 0:07:02.520 --> 0:07:06.880 You wouldn't check out like LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter, Like you 0:07:07.320 --> 0:07:08.599 learn a lot for someone's Twitter. 0:07:08.800 --> 0:07:09.400 That's true. 0:07:09.480 --> 0:07:11.280 I just don't ever think to do that because I 0:07:11.280 --> 0:07:13.160 forget that, like people have LinkedIn because I don't have 0:07:13.160 --> 0:07:13.520 a job. 0:07:13.640 --> 0:07:15.960 And like you know, if you've ever done a deep 0:07:16.000 --> 0:07:17.600 dive or you follow them on social media, as you said, 0:07:17.640 --> 0:07:20.200 you've gone back really far on Instagram, Like on a date, 0:07:20.280 --> 0:07:22.040 will you let them know or like will you be 0:07:22.160 --> 0:07:24.480 like a surprise and they tell you that they have 0:07:24.520 --> 0:07:25.560 a dog named Daisy. 0:07:25.840 --> 0:07:27.920 I don't know if if we followed each other on 0:07:27.960 --> 0:07:29.840 Instagram already, then I'd be like, oh, yeah, I saw 0:07:29.880 --> 0:07:32.320 your dog on Instagram. But if we haven't, then I 0:07:32.360 --> 0:07:33.240 probably would not. 0:07:33.280 --> 0:07:35.480 Say to be honest, yeah yeah yeah. 0:07:35.520 --> 0:07:37.960 And you know one thing I've never seen on your 0:07:38.000 --> 0:07:41.040 profile what so like anytime you've been in a relationship, 0:07:41.200 --> 0:07:43.640 you've come out of a relationship, gone into one, you 0:07:43.680 --> 0:07:45.960 never really posted it on social media, Like you never 0:07:45.960 --> 0:07:47.760 make it into official or anythink. 0:07:47.880 --> 0:07:48.320 No I would. 0:07:48.360 --> 0:07:50.120 I don't think I would ever post my boyfriend on 0:07:50.160 --> 0:07:51.720 the internet and my partner. 0:07:51.440 --> 0:07:52.280 Does it give you the ick? 0:07:52.480 --> 0:07:54.960 It just feels a bit like intense, And I feel 0:07:55.000 --> 0:07:56.640 like I would post it maybe on my like close 0:07:56.720 --> 0:07:58.640 friends or on like a personal Instagram, But it just 0:07:58.640 --> 0:08:01.400 feels intense, like all these people who follow me I 0:08:01.440 --> 0:08:03.800 who don't know me, like knowing about my relationship. 0:08:03.920 --> 0:08:06.360 Like I just don't like that idea. Wow, I feel 0:08:06.400 --> 0:08:08.640 like you're quite like private about your relationship. 0:08:08.680 --> 0:08:11.360 I am, Yeah, but like before, like I would have 0:08:11.480 --> 0:08:13.840 posted about boyfriends. Yeah, And I kind of learned the 0:08:13.840 --> 0:08:16.040 hard way that like then you're giving people. 0:08:15.880 --> 0:08:18.840 A right to have an opinion one, and then once 0:08:18.920 --> 0:08:21.280 you have that, it's almost like it's not your relationship. 0:08:21.520 --> 0:08:23.800 When break up you're going through a breakup, you're also 0:08:23.840 --> 0:08:26.120 going through like everybody knowing. 0:08:26.200 --> 0:08:29.960 And having theories about it and deciding like I just been. 0:08:29.800 --> 0:08:33.080 Boring breakup, nothing geese happened, Okay. 0:08:32.880 --> 0:08:34.800 I know, and they're making up all of these Honestly, 0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:36.840 I've seen it with so many people that go through 0:08:36.880 --> 0:08:39.000 like public breakups, and it's just like I would just 0:08:39.080 --> 0:08:39.440 rather not. 0:08:52.480 --> 0:08:53.920 So how long have you been single? 0:08:54.679 --> 0:08:54.760 For? 0:08:54.880 --> 0:09:01.240 About twenty six years now? Really, I've had a lot 0:09:01.280 --> 0:09:03.240 of fun with a lot of girls. Neverbody found one 0:09:03.240 --> 0:09:05.240 that I really want to settle down with, like yet 0:09:05.800 --> 0:09:11.000 may have already met her. Not too sure. You are 0:09:11.080 --> 0:09:14.600 really funny, really really funny. But no, Yeah, I mean 0:09:14.760 --> 0:09:16.960 I had rationships in school and at sixth form. But 0:09:17.000 --> 0:09:20.120 I say, since I have sixth form, yeah, only like 0:09:20.160 --> 0:09:22.439 long term buddies. 0:09:23.800 --> 0:09:29.520 Sewhere Yeah of course yeah buddies right? Okay, But is 0:09:29.600 --> 0:09:30.600 that is that because? 0:09:31.520 --> 0:09:34.079 Is that because like is it just a mutual thing 0:09:34.160 --> 0:09:35.959 or if you have girls like wanting it to be more? 0:09:36.040 --> 0:09:37.640 No, I've had a lot of girls told me to 0:09:37.720 --> 0:09:37.959 love me. 0:09:38.559 --> 0:09:45.960 Yeah, well I'm at an age now where whoever I 0:09:46.000 --> 0:09:48.800 get with NEX is going to have a significant X. 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:50.640 They're going to be divorced. 0:09:51.320 --> 0:09:52.520 No, I know exactly. 0:09:52.720 --> 0:09:55.560 And I'm like, but even I've got like a significant X, 0:09:55.640 --> 0:09:58.960 and it's like there's no purity like anymore when you 0:09:59.000 --> 0:10:01.559 meet someone, they've always got someone else that's going to 0:10:01.640 --> 0:10:04.600 be like a bit of a soft spot in your relationship. 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:07.320 So that's nice, but it's funny when men are. 0:10:07.200 --> 0:10:10.280 Like, yeah, I've had so many girls like really wanting 0:10:10.320 --> 0:10:12.240 to be serious with me, and I'm just like, nope, 0:10:12.360 --> 0:10:13.240 not found the one. 0:10:13.400 --> 0:10:14.760 That's when I'm not a grow up. 0:10:15.040 --> 0:10:17.840 Yeah, it does give that kind of complex that he's 0:10:17.960 --> 0:10:21.240 just like everything's revolving around him, like nothing's wrong with him. 0:10:21.440 --> 0:10:22.280 It's everyone else. 0:10:22.360 --> 0:10:24.800 But also it sounds like not necessarily him. But you know, 0:10:24.800 --> 0:10:26.960 when people are like that, it's a bit like, Okay, well, 0:10:27.000 --> 0:10:29.679 why are you misleading so many people into thinking you're 0:10:29.720 --> 0:10:31.040 going to be in a relationship with them? 0:10:31.160 --> 0:10:33.840 Okay, great, Sorry, I do think we're sending We're actually 0:10:33.880 --> 0:10:35.720 saying like he forgets because you're going on twenty eight 0:10:35.800 --> 0:10:42.040 days to find the one. So it's like yeah. 0:10:42.120 --> 0:10:44.600 So there was this weird moment, right, I brought Eddie 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:46.400 my dog on the day, and he just wasn't really 0:10:46.440 --> 0:10:48.320 acknowledging her or looking at her, and so I called 0:10:48.360 --> 0:10:49.040 him out for it. 0:10:49.880 --> 0:10:50.679 I don't think you liked that. 0:10:50.800 --> 0:10:53.120 I don't like dogs. I don't do oh, I don't 0:10:53.200 --> 0:10:56.000 like dogs, know, are you joking? I had a bit 0:10:56.040 --> 0:10:58.080 there was a whole thing when I was younger, we 0:10:58.080 --> 0:11:03.280 had a dog and it all went went it's up 0:11:03.400 --> 0:11:08.960 potentially I I left a washing basket on the hob 0:11:10.080 --> 0:11:12.840 and the house went up and the dog was in 0:11:12.880 --> 0:11:17.240 the house just like that was bad. I got back, 0:11:18.120 --> 0:11:20.120 I saw that there was like smoke coming for the window, 0:11:20.160 --> 0:11:23.800 so like ran inside like whole places of fire, like 0:11:24.000 --> 0:11:30.520 grabbed grabbed him like right out of the door, like 0:11:30.720 --> 0:11:34.120 passed out fire fire and grabbed me. Took me to 0:11:34.120 --> 0:11:37.400 the hospital. Obviously dog was long dead. So since then, 0:11:37.559 --> 0:11:40.960 never been a fan. But you that's a reasonable reason 0:11:41.000 --> 0:11:41.320 to not like. 0:11:41.400 --> 0:11:43.360 Yeah, but that's also it's not that you're not a fan. 0:11:43.440 --> 0:11:44.599 It's not normatized. 0:11:44.679 --> 0:11:46.960 Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, but it's just not saying like 0:11:47.280 --> 0:11:48.720 when I look at when I look at your dogs. 0:11:48.559 --> 0:11:53.920 And laugh, whoa, oh my god, number one. Can I 0:11:54.000 --> 0:11:56.199 just say that's such a like he's no, look, I'm 0:11:56.240 --> 0:11:59.640 not a psychologist, but like he definitely has allowed it 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:01.679 like that. That's like a very traumatic thing to go through. 0:12:01.760 --> 0:12:04.920 That's so traumatic. Can you imagine killing your family dog? 0:12:05.440 --> 0:12:07.040 Yeah? And also I know he's like, oh I look 0:12:07.080 --> 0:12:08.679 at dogs, and I'm like, oh no. But it's like 0:12:08.720 --> 0:12:10.640 if you had a really bad experience with men, you 0:12:10.720 --> 0:12:12.280 might be like, oh, I never want a date. I 0:12:12.280 --> 0:12:13.520 don't want to like, do you get me? 0:12:13.679 --> 0:12:13.920 Yeah. 0:12:14.000 --> 0:12:17.680 I think it's definitely not because actually, after a while 0:12:17.720 --> 0:12:20.040 spending time with him, we actually hung out for like 0:12:20.040 --> 0:12:23.839 the whole evening. Yeah, he actually liked the dog and 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:26.160 then was like cuddling the dog at the end. But 0:12:26.720 --> 0:12:29.400 I think just had, like you said, been so traumatized 0:12:29.440 --> 0:12:31.520 by this experience that he couldn't even look at dogs 0:12:31.520 --> 0:12:33.000 because he would be reminded of it. 0:12:33.120 --> 0:12:35.240 Oh my god. You kind of want to give him 0:12:35.240 --> 0:12:35.959 a hug, don't you. 0:12:36.120 --> 0:12:39.240 I know, I know, And I felt like that's such 0:12:39.240 --> 0:12:40.079 a sad story. 0:12:40.160 --> 0:12:43.240 And I was like, wow, such a sad story. 0:12:43.440 --> 0:12:46.160 I mean, I quite respect you on dates people going 0:12:46.200 --> 0:12:49.000 that deep and like telling stories like that. I sort 0:12:49.000 --> 0:12:51.800 of appreciated it because I was like, oh, you're not 0:12:51.880 --> 0:12:53.839 just giving me surface level stuff, do you know what 0:12:53.840 --> 0:12:54.160 I mean? 0:12:54.280 --> 0:12:57.560 No? And it gives context because if he just turned 0:12:57.559 --> 0:12:59.199 around into and said no, I'm just not into them, 0:12:59.200 --> 0:13:01.160 you'd be like, Okay, that's a bit of a red flag. 0:13:01.200 --> 0:13:03.079 But now these given context, you're actually like, I can 0:13:03.200 --> 0:13:06.760 understand why you're not cuddling my dog right now. I 0:13:06.800 --> 0:13:10.640 feel so bad for him. He gets extra band points 0:13:10.679 --> 0:13:12.760 in this round because that is awful. 0:13:17.600 --> 0:13:19.800 So is this whole podcast dates to try and maybe 0:13:20.400 --> 0:13:21.640 get your limit better flirting? 0:13:21.760 --> 0:13:24.160 No, it's not because I've never had any desire to 0:13:24.200 --> 0:13:24.880 be going to flying. 0:13:25.040 --> 0:13:28.600 That's good. Everyone wants they can't help. 0:13:28.559 --> 0:13:30.719 Do not like flying? No, I think I think it's 0:13:30.720 --> 0:13:31.200 so it's. 0:13:31.080 --> 0:13:34.320 Like I hate small tool nice absolutely. 0:13:37.600 --> 0:13:40.200 I think the best flirting is when like it doesn't 0:13:40.480 --> 0:13:41.680 the girl doesn't think it's flirting. 0:13:41.760 --> 0:13:42.240 You know, you don't. 0:13:42.320 --> 0:13:44.480 You don't, you don't acknowledge it's flirting. It's just a 0:13:44.520 --> 0:13:47.680 subtle I think it's more about like small body language 0:13:47.679 --> 0:13:50.080 and grace. Please put your top back on. Okay, I 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:52.240 to hear that's really appropriate. 0:13:54.960 --> 0:13:57.760 You know what I've never thought about, like what is 0:13:57.800 --> 0:14:00.560 flourishing before but like he said it right there, it 0:14:00.640 --> 0:14:04.599 kind of is like half what you say, but your body. 0:14:04.400 --> 0:14:06.720 Language it is. And that's why a lot of flirting 0:14:06.760 --> 0:14:07.520 is eye contact. 0:14:07.720 --> 0:14:11.160 Yeah, I'm really bad at flirting because I think my 0:14:11.360 --> 0:14:14.199 style of flirting is like almost ripping the piss out 0:14:14.200 --> 0:14:17.800 of people. And I also find it really awkward to 0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:20.280 keep eye contact. So I say, people go away, and 0:14:20.320 --> 0:14:24.240 they go, she's a fucking bitch, she hates me, and 0:14:24.320 --> 0:14:26.520 I like them. 0:14:26.720 --> 0:14:29.240 Yeah, it is. 0:14:29.280 --> 0:14:32.320 It's so much about your physical language, like I think, 0:14:32.480 --> 0:14:35.440 because I could say something that's not flirty, but then 0:14:35.480 --> 0:14:37.480 if I said it in a certain tone and look 0:14:37.520 --> 0:14:39.480 to you in a certain way, it would be obvious 0:14:39.520 --> 0:14:40.400 that I'm flirting with you. 0:14:40.680 --> 0:14:43.280 And also like you know, putting your hand on their 0:14:43.320 --> 0:14:47.120 shoulder kind of like laughing and like making contact with 0:14:47.200 --> 0:14:50.480 them while you're talking. That is, Yeah, that's flirting, to 0:14:50.480 --> 0:14:50.880 be honest. 0:14:51.120 --> 0:14:53.120 My main tip for flirting on a day if it's 0:14:53.160 --> 0:14:54.920 just like all about how you look at them, Like 0:14:55.280 --> 0:14:56.800 I just feel like when I'm on a day and 0:14:56.840 --> 0:14:58.560 I like want to get with the person and like 0:14:58.600 --> 0:15:00.520 I'm attracted to them, I would just make a very 0:15:00.560 --> 0:15:02.400 specific type of eye contact to them, which is like, 0:15:02.440 --> 0:15:04.760 I want to have sex with you with my eyes. 0:15:04.880 --> 0:15:06.960 So I have a question, though, have you ever been 0:15:06.960 --> 0:15:09.320 around someone that they're so good looking and you like 0:15:09.400 --> 0:15:11.360 them so much that you can flir properly? 0:15:11.800 --> 0:15:12.040 Yes? 0:15:12.200 --> 0:15:13.480 When I was younger, definitely. 0:15:14.160 --> 0:15:15.840 It hasn't happened since you were in I don't. 0:15:15.720 --> 0:15:18.000 Know, yeah, yeah, when I was in my early twenties, 0:15:18.040 --> 0:15:18.360 I don't know. 0:15:18.400 --> 0:15:19.640 Like, I went on a date with a guy like 0:15:19.640 --> 0:15:22.200 not long ago, and he was so fair, and I 0:15:22.200 --> 0:15:24.160 remember being like, oh my god, like I was obviously 0:15:24.200 --> 0:15:25.600 him and I was like, oh my god, like I 0:15:25.600 --> 0:15:27.880 actually can't believe I'm oppositely someone this hot. 0:15:28.240 --> 0:15:31.080 But I was still capable of flying. But I was like, 0:15:31.160 --> 0:15:32.160 I kept. 0:15:31.960 --> 0:15:34.640 Being like sort of checking to see if he was blind, 0:15:38.440 --> 0:15:42.680 think holding off? Wait can you see that flying into 0:15:42.680 --> 0:15:49.240 your face? So we were deciding what to have next 0:15:49.240 --> 0:15:51.080 to drink, and while I was getting up to go 0:15:51.120 --> 0:15:54.040 and get them, he left a little note on the recording. 0:15:54.920 --> 0:15:57.120 So Grace is at the bar. So I thought, I 0:15:57.200 --> 0:16:00.480 take this time to just deeply from the it's going 0:16:00.480 --> 0:16:02.920 pretty well. She's great, and she has come back. 0:16:02.960 --> 0:16:05.320 I was gonna shot, Oh, he's so cute. 0:16:05.520 --> 0:16:07.240 He's very cute. I like him. 0:16:07.280 --> 0:16:08.280 That's really cute. 0:16:08.800 --> 0:16:11.160 Yeah, and like you know what, obviously we've we've run 0:16:11.200 --> 0:16:16.000 through like him and there hasn't really been any red 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:17.400 flags ranting that you. 0:16:17.440 --> 0:16:20.040 Know there was. There was nothing that bothered me. No, 0:16:20.600 --> 0:16:22.760 not even the dead dog. That wasn't his fault. 0:16:22.960 --> 0:16:26.240 He just seems like super honest, really nice. Obviously. I 0:16:26.280 --> 0:16:28.560 know you said the accent was a bit whatever, but 0:16:28.680 --> 0:16:33.600 like Grace, it's not a big deal in fairness if 0:16:33.800 --> 0:16:35.720 coming over from Ireland, like that's a bit. That's an 0:16:35.720 --> 0:16:36.880 attractive accent, you know. 0:16:36.960 --> 0:16:37.640 Yeah, that's true. 0:16:37.680 --> 0:16:39.680 It's h m it is Hugh Grant. 0:16:39.920 --> 0:16:41.040 Yeah. 0:16:41.120 --> 0:16:45.160 Yeah, we're doing on Saturday night. 0:16:46.440 --> 0:16:47.920 Why ask me out? 0:16:49.120 --> 0:16:52.200 No, there's a there's for this event on Saturday. 0:16:52.920 --> 0:16:55.640 I'm around, I've got a gig at five. 0:16:56.000 --> 0:16:56.640 Where's the gig? 0:16:59.400 --> 0:16:59.720 Really? 0:17:01.400 --> 0:17:09.119 Really, Grace, Grace, I know my mum says I have 0:17:09.119 --> 0:17:11.359 a real issue. I yawn all the time. It's a 0:17:11.400 --> 0:17:13.200 nerve thing. I yawn when I'm like. 0:17:13.200 --> 0:17:15.640 Nerv Even talking about yawning though, it makes me want 0:17:15.680 --> 0:17:17.119 toy on, like hearing you y on. 0:17:17.840 --> 0:17:22.439 So before a gig, I yawn like unbelievable amounts I 0:17:22.480 --> 0:17:27.800 have to even on on dates date, so you're quite 0:17:27.800 --> 0:17:30.360 a lot because but it's not because I'm tired, it's 0:17:30.400 --> 0:17:31.240 because I'm anxious. 0:17:31.280 --> 0:17:32.960