Speaker 1: Hi, and welcome back to the Carol Markowitz Show on iHeartRadio.
Speaker 1: It's not a great time for Jews. After the slaughter
Speaker 1: in Israel on October seventh, every Jew hater in the
Speaker 1: world decided now is the time to let us all
Speaker 1: know how they feel. Spare me the talk of a
Speaker 1: free Palestine. Anyone who cares about the Palestinians would not
Speaker 1: let them continue in their delusion that they could someday
Speaker 1: get rid of Israel. And let's be real, all Jews,
Speaker 1: if they just continue pushing, that's just not going to happen.
Speaker 1: And if you're listening and you care about the Palestinian cause,
Speaker 1: you should let them know. But look, this is not
Speaker 1: a monologue about Israel, because this isn't a political show.
Speaker 1: It's about being a Jew in America, because this is
Speaker 1: a show about life, and that's my life right now.
Speaker 1: Jews are scared. In response to being scared, there's a
Speaker 1: trend online where Jews posts this image that says, would
Speaker 1: you hide me, and non Jews are posting I would.
Speaker 1: I understand why people are doing it. It's comforting to
Speaker 1: know that people stand with you. I get it, I
Speaker 1: really do, but I don't like it. I don't like
Speaker 1: it because, first of all, I'm not hiding. I'm not
Speaker 1: saying I don't have a plan B in case things
Speaker 1: go left. We do, of course we do, but that
Speaker 1: plan involves getting to my friend's house. Shout out to John,
Speaker 1: who has the most guns and AMMO of anyone. I'm
Speaker 1: not cowering in your attic. I don't want to be
Speaker 1: in a perpetual victim state. I'm a free person in
Speaker 1: the free world. I'm not hiding. The Jews of the
Speaker 1: early nineteen forties in Europe were not armed, but I am.
Speaker 1: If this moment has been an eye opener for you,
Speaker 1: whether or not you're Jewish, get armed. If you live
Speaker 1: somewhere you can't be armed, and you're posting memes about
Speaker 1: people hiding you, you have to move. Living in this
Speaker 1: kind of fear is no way to live. The truth
Speaker 1: is that people are drawn to strength, not weakness, and
Speaker 1: our weakness will not endear people to our cause. It
Speaker 1: will have the opposite effect of people joining with the
Speaker 1: strong to harm us. We're seeing that happen. Get strong
Speaker 1: and fast. But the other reason I don't like this
Speaker 1: campaign is not about the Jewish part. It's about the
Speaker 1: America part. If a Jewish family is hiding in your house,
Speaker 1: America has probably fallen. That's a bigger problem than whose
Speaker 1: attic I'm in. I'm talking to the wider west here.
Speaker 1: I appreciate your agreement to hide us, But how about
Speaker 1: we join together so that nobody needs to be hid,
Speaker 1: or do the hiding and defend what we have. How
Speaker 1: About I will never let it reach the point where
Speaker 1: my attic would ever even be in use. We're in
Speaker 1: a pivotal moment right now where we can see where
Speaker 1: these bad ideas have led us. If you're seeing college
Speaker 1: kids marching around and chanting for genocide, supporting peopleeople who
Speaker 1: would put their head on a pike, that didn't begin
Speaker 1: this morning. Our schools are giant factor, but also parents
Speaker 1: who have let their kids hate America and believe we're
Speaker 1: just not that good. Our ideals have built civilization, but
Speaker 1: we've surrendered so much to people who want to destroy
Speaker 1: that civilization. We've let them take control of our schools,
Speaker 1: and they've produced kids who have largely been lied to
Speaker 1: about what the world is like. I mean, have you
Speaker 1: seen the whole turkeys for Thanksgiving? I mean queers for Palestine?
Speaker 1: We mock them, sure, but they're a glaring sign telling
Speaker 1: us that there's something big we need to fix, and
Speaker 1: there's something wrong with society that we need to make
Speaker 1: better before it's too late. We're not going to get
Speaker 1: there by being offered attic space. These people believe that
Speaker 1: they'll have freedom to be themselves in Gaza, and many
Speaker 1: people believe they don't have these freedoms in America. How
Speaker 1: warped is that? Where did it come from to have
Speaker 1: such insane backwards ideas that are fully entertained. Free people
Speaker 1: need to be strong and fight for Western values, for
Speaker 1: American values specifically, and they need to challenge those who
Speaker 1: would crush those values in pursuit of something else. If
Speaker 1: you're motivated to tell your Jewish friends that you stand
Speaker 1: with them, thank you. We appreciate it. We do. It's
Speaker 1: been horrible, and non Jews reaching out to say they
Speaker 1: have our back really has been a bright spot. But
Speaker 1: the actual best thing we can all do is defend
Speaker 1: what we've built in America, the greatest country in the
Speaker 1: history of the world, where we can all be safe
Speaker 1: in this nation we've made. Tell your kids the truth
Speaker 1: about how lucky they are to live in this country,
Speaker 1: how blessed they are, and let's defend this place not
Speaker 1: just for the Jews, but for all of us. Coming
Speaker 1: up next an interview with Kyle Smith. Join us after
Speaker 1: the break. Hi, and welcome back to the Carol Marcowitch Show.
Speaker 1: I'm the Clay Travis and Buck Sexton podcast network on iHeartRadio.
Speaker 1: My guest today is Kyle Smith, film critic for Wall
Speaker 1: Street Journal and theater critic for New Critarion and a
Speaker 1: longtime friend of mine. Kyle, Hi, thanks for being here, Hi, Carol,
Speaker 1: how are you doing good?
Speaker 2: So?
Speaker 1: You like a lot of things that I don't like,
Speaker 1: and that's sort of been a theme in our friendship.
Speaker 1: You like fruity drinks, you like going to the movies.
Speaker 1: I don't like any of that. I super rarely actually
Speaker 1: enjoy a movie. So I wanted to ask you what
Speaker 1: percentage of movies as a film critic would you say
Speaker 1: that you like?
Speaker 2: Well?
Speaker 3: I try to correct for that by only seeing like
Speaker 3: the top hundred or so movies, only reviewing like the
Speaker 3: top hunderds out, but even those, about forty percent of them?
Speaker 1: I guess forty percent. Hi, I think I like like
Speaker 1: five percent.
Speaker 3: Maybe, Yeah, I sort of feel like I'm a consumer advocate, like,
Speaker 3: it's my job to steer you away from movies that
Speaker 3: are a complete waste of time and money, particularly time.
Speaker 2: I'm right and right, you know. The wayst example is
Speaker 2: this Scarcezi movie, which I think is terrible.
Speaker 3: Killers of the Flower Moon, universally praised because it's supposedly
Speaker 3: shows the dark side of American history. To me, three
Speaker 3: and a half hours of brutality, it's very monotonous. It's
Speaker 3: like the same musical score is kind of going for
Speaker 3: three and a half hours. Indians getting killed, Indians getting tricked,
Speaker 3: Indians getting poisoned, Indians getting defrauded.
Speaker 2: It's so dispiriting to watch. I can't believe anyone actually
Speaker 2: enjoys this movie.
Speaker 1: So would you say that, I'm like, at my low
Speaker 1: percentage of movies I enjoy, and I really like I try.
Speaker 1: I'm a happy, optimistic person. I go into movies being like,
Speaker 1: I am going to love this, and I'm inevitably like,
Speaker 1: oh that was awful, awful, awful, awful. So am I
Speaker 1: just watching the wrong things? Or are movies generally bad?
Speaker 2: Yeah? I think most of them are bad.
Speaker 3: The problem is that movies are kind of the top
Speaker 3: of the pyramid for sure. It's like the thing everyone
Speaker 3: wants to do. Taylor Swift, right, she's the biggest pop
Speaker 3: star on earth, and she wants to make movies. Everybody
Speaker 3: wants to make movies. If you're a novelist, want to
Speaker 3: make movies. You're in TV, you want to make movies. Uh,
Speaker 3: you know, Daily Wire is getting into movies. But you know,
Speaker 3: there's there's so much action in the movie space that
Speaker 3: you know, too many of them are just not great ideas.
Speaker 3: And uh, one one bad influence I think is we
Speaker 3: have the tech companies Netflix, Apple and Amazon are just flooding,
Speaker 3: absolutely flooding Hollywood with money to to invite filmmakers, very
Speaker 3: often prestige filmmakers to make movies that are just not
Speaker 3: very good. The studios wouldn't have made because they would say, well,
Speaker 3: the script isn't good, it's not gonna make any money,
Speaker 3: it's not gonna win the Oscar. No, make sure it's this.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 3: I saw this Netflix movie The Killer yesterday, David Fincher,
Speaker 3: very highly claimed director.
Speaker 2: It's just a terrible script. It shouldn't have been made.
Speaker 2: But Netflix was like, David Fincher wants to make a
Speaker 2: movie with us Okay, here's a check. Right.
Speaker 1: So you're a film critic, but you've also been a
Speaker 1: culture columnist, politics. You write about a lot of different stuff.
Speaker 1: I think you've written on some really controversial stuff over
Speaker 1: the years, like I remember the anti waiter column that
Speaker 1: got you banned from New York City restaurants, and then
Speaker 1: the women don't Understand Goodfella's column, which you know I
Speaker 1: personally took offense to. But I still like you. Any regrets,
Speaker 1: any thing that you would not write again?
Speaker 3: No, to me, everything I write is obviously true, and
Speaker 3: everything is obviously wrong. You have to have a lot
Speaker 3: of confidence in being a writer. You almost have to
Speaker 3: be arrogant, don't you think to be a writer?
Speaker 1: Almost? Almost?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 2: And you must have listened to me.
Speaker 3: And I'm the one who's on the page five of
Speaker 3: this newspaper and you're not. So my opinion matter is
Speaker 3: more than yours does. So I guess I'm sufficiently arrogant
Speaker 3: enough to think that I have confidence and whatever I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So you you stand by it all. It's yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: that's bold. I mean, are you back in New York
Speaker 1: City restaurants or still using an alias?
Speaker 2: I was never banned. I've never stopped going to restaurants.
Speaker 3: All I needed was make fun of unctuous waiters who
Speaker 3: you know, you know how they are, it's particularly true,
Speaker 3: and you're like, they get down on their haunches and like, Hi,
Speaker 3: my name is Jason.
Speaker 2: Have you ever been to this restaurant before.
Speaker 3: I'm thinking I'm pretty sure I ordered food and you
Speaker 3: have some you know, minimum wage person to bring it
Speaker 3: to me, and I won't see you again till it's
Speaker 3: time to pay a check. Yeah, I know how this
Speaker 3: restaurant works, probably right right, you know, it's pretty easy
Speaker 3: to make fun of waiters.
Speaker 2: But you know I wrote this comment.
Speaker 3: Every waiter waitress in the world wrote in to tell
Speaker 3: me how horrible it was that one of the big
Speaker 3: things that problem was. One of the big things they
Speaker 3: had a problem with was I referred to them as servants,
Speaker 3: and he said, no, we're not servants with servers, big
Speaker 3: different servers, not servants. Still tell us servants or servers,
Speaker 3: and I mean one lady wrote in to tell me,
Speaker 3: I'm a nurse and in an r room and if
Speaker 3: I see you, I mean, I will let you die
Speaker 3: rather than.
Speaker 1: I'm sure she's got you know, a very healthy life
Speaker 1: to put.
Speaker 3: Various body uh uh things into my food if they saw.
Speaker 1: Me coming, right, So you, I mean, and so you
Speaker 1: got some pushback, but you're you kind of shrugged it off.
Speaker 1: Anything worse than that.
Speaker 2: Well, you must get pushed back all the time.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, but I don't. But I'm a nice person
Speaker 1: who does not criticize waiters. So I was just I
Speaker 1: was wondering, how well, but they deserve it.
Speaker 2: They deserve I think Jason is not very dangerous. That
Speaker 2: could be wrong. Maybe it's been poisoning.
Speaker 1: I have a friend actually who had this line where
Speaker 1: she said, when the waiter comes over and says like,
Speaker 1: have you been to this restaurant before? And starts explaining
Speaker 1: the menu, She's like, no, but I have been two
Speaker 1: restaurants before, and I feel like it's going to go
Speaker 1: you know similar, right?
Speaker 2: Is that what you do here?
Speaker 1: But like the top is usually smaller plates, and as
Speaker 1: you get you know, lower in the menu, it's the
Speaker 1: bigger plates. So it might get confusing for you.
Speaker 2: Oh well, I think I can handle that. Okay.
Speaker 1: So you once had a column. I actually couldn't find
Speaker 1: it as I was looking for it, but it was
Speaker 1: about how much you love what you do. And I
Speaker 1: think you call people who aren't writers, like, you know,
Speaker 1: new suckers or something. I was trying to find it.
Speaker 1: So you love being a writer, and obviously that the
Speaker 1: suckers was jokingly. Do you feel like you've made it?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely. I mean continuing where I came from. I'm
Speaker 3: basically a blue collar shmow. I should be like a carpenter,
Speaker 3: you know, a plumber or something, you know, truck driver.
Speaker 2: My brother puts roofs on houses. That's the kind of
Speaker 2: thing I was made for.
Speaker 3: I should have wound up doing that, but I would
Speaker 3: have been terrible at it.
Speaker 2: Like I'm really bad at building.
Speaker 3: I'm building out those like heat, furniture and stuff, and
Speaker 3: I always build it wrong. I put the thing on back. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I would have been a terrible blue collar worker. But
Speaker 3: I somehow walked into being able to sell words for
Speaker 3: a living.
Speaker 2: How great is that?
Speaker 3: I can just say, awesome, there's more to me money,
Speaker 3: and but they come to me and offered to buy
Speaker 3: my words.
Speaker 2: It's just amazing. It's just such a scam. It feels
Speaker 2: like a grift.
Speaker 3: I'm very grateful for, you know, not having to get
Speaker 3: my hands dirty and I have to work on my feet.
Speaker 2: My dad worked on his feet.
Speaker 3: Six days a week. He was a dog groomer. He
Speaker 3: sometimes worked even on Sunday. He worked literally every Saturday.
Speaker 2: My entire childhood.
Speaker 3: And he was on his feet the whole time. He's
Speaker 3: doing manual labor. And it was in the basement of
Speaker 3: our house and it was really hot down there in
Speaker 3: the summer, so he was kind of boiling hot dogs everywhere,
Speaker 3: dog hair everywhere. Just a miserable job. And that's the
Speaker 3: kind of thing I could easily have fallen into. That's
Speaker 3: what he was made for. That's who my people are.
Speaker 3: As the first person in my family to go to college.
Speaker 1: Wow, I didn't know that. It's amazing. And you were
Speaker 1: also in the military.
Speaker 2: Right, yeah, that was the pay for college.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so yeah, I signed up for what I was ORFTC,
Speaker 3: and then I wound up going on active duty in
Speaker 3: Germany and I made to Saudi Arabia for the Gulf War.
Speaker 1: How was it.
Speaker 2: Boring? But also interesting?
Speaker 3: War in general is very interesting and strategically, but the
Speaker 3: day to day reality of being in a personnel service
Speaker 3: company thirty miles and back is just kind of like you,
Speaker 3: you know, a military is like a snake, right, there's
Speaker 3: a deadly head and then there's a long long tail.
Speaker 3: That's probably that long tail that kind of doesn't. So
Speaker 3: it's basically just getting through every day, you know, getting
Speaker 3: meals and delivering mail and stuff like that. That's yeah, keeping records,
Speaker 3: that's that's what we did. So it wasn't particularly exciting
Speaker 3: on a day to day level.
Speaker 1: Do you consider that you're living a public life, like,
Speaker 1: do you get recognized?
Speaker 2: Not really, No, I'm not really on TV that much
Speaker 2: unlike you.
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, now you're going to be recognized all
Speaker 1: over the place after this, you know.
Speaker 3: As you know, I wasn't aware until five minutes ago
Speaker 3: that we're going to do video here.
Speaker 2: I thought it was just a phone call.
Speaker 1: Here we are doing the video. It's going to be
Speaker 1: everywhere and people are going to stop you in the
Speaker 1: street and say, hey, you're that Kyle Smith.
Speaker 2: Is any be famous that I picture?
Speaker 3: Like? I know Maggie Harman pretty well to me. She's
Speaker 3: famous enough that might actually be annoying. Maybe you're not
Speaker 3: that famous where it's annoying you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not.
Speaker 1: I'm in I love my level of fame. If I
Speaker 1: could keep it at this level. I definitely would because
Speaker 1: the only people who recognize me like me. I'm not
Speaker 1: big enough for paters or I mean I have had
Speaker 1: a lot of hate. I had, you know, a note
Speaker 1: left on my door in Brooklyn. I mean, I've definitely
Speaker 1: had that. But I on the street or like in public,
Speaker 1: I've never had somebody be like, you know, I know
Speaker 1: who you are, and I'm going to like try to
Speaker 1: do something to you. The people who recognize me recognize
Speaker 1: me because they've seen me on a you know, a
Speaker 1: podcast that they watch or Fox or any number of places,
Speaker 1: or they read the Post that's a big one. Ever
Speaker 1: since moving to South Florida, I've discovered that everybody reads
Speaker 1: a Post in South Florida. It is the official newspaper,
Speaker 1: so I can recognize a lot from there. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I like this level of fame. I think it's like
Speaker 1: I wouldn't want to be.
Speaker 3: More famous, right, but there's probably a time when only
Speaker 3: conservatives knew who Sean Head he was, and then he
Speaker 3: kind of weaked.
Speaker 1: Out and he got right right, So like, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm going to try to keep it right here and
Speaker 1: not like I don't know, being famous without a lot
Speaker 1: of money coming with It makes no sense to me.
Speaker 1: It never made sense to me, like fame for the
Speaker 1: hell of it, like influencers and all of that. It
Speaker 1: just it seems like hell to me. Like to be
Speaker 1: famous and not make a lot of money from it.
Speaker 1: Just I don't get it.
Speaker 3: I was reading Matthew Perry's memoir, very interesting book, and
Speaker 3: there's the point in the book where he's just about
Speaker 3: to audition for Friends. The only reason he got the
Speaker 3: audition for Friends was because his friend Craig Burgo turned
Speaker 3: it down.
Speaker 1: Oh, really jewish.
Speaker 2: Sitcoms, and you picked the other one.
Speaker 3: They were really good friends at the time, and everyone's
Speaker 3: trying Craig Burgo, you know, take this opportunity.
Speaker 1: What was the one that he picked?
Speaker 2: The show that the lasted duct six weeks?
Speaker 3: I think it also called like just Friends or my
Speaker 3: other Friends, you know, have friends at the title, I
Speaker 3: believe totally forgotten show that it's on.
Speaker 2: I believe ABC.
Speaker 3: Right before he did this audition, Matthew Perry prayed to God.
Speaker 3: He said, please, God, you can do whatever you want
Speaker 3: to me, but just make me famous. That was a
Speaker 3: curse because he was he's been an addict.
Speaker 1: Yeah, thirty years. I feel like, I'm going to teach
Speaker 1: my kids at being famous is not good and that
Speaker 1: they should not strive for it. Of course, my middle
Speaker 1: son already has a YouTube channel and he really wants
Speaker 1: it to blow up. So yeah, it's it's already a
Speaker 1: hard road to teach the kids. Are your kids into that.
Speaker 2: No, not at the moment. Now.
Speaker 3: They're both kind of more shy than uh, you know,
Speaker 3: eager to perform in public, So I think that's good.
Speaker 1: Yeah. So a question that I ask all of my guests,
Speaker 1: and you know it's an easy one, but what do
Speaker 1: you think is our largest cultural or societal problem in America?
Speaker 1: And do you think it's solvable.
Speaker 3: It's kind of a trap because when you answer that question,
Speaker 3: you automatically sound really grouchy.
Speaker 2: But it's okay, I am grouchy.
Speaker 1: You sound really grouchy all the time. I think it's
Speaker 1: fine to be funny. Oh you're funny, funny, groucy for sure.
Speaker 3: To me, the biggest problem we have is everyone wants
Speaker 3: something for nothing. We have lost track of this idea
Speaker 3: that if you want to get something, you've got to
Speaker 3: pay for it one way or another. It goes all
Speaker 3: the way up and down the line it starts at
Speaker 3: the bottom level. You've seen this TikTok video where there's
Speaker 3: this twenty four year old women in a car and
Speaker 3: she says, I'm going to my service job and I
Speaker 3: hate it in marketing. I have a marketing degree.
Speaker 2: Damn it. I should be making one hundred and fifty
Speaker 2: to two hundred per a year. I'm twenty four years old.
Speaker 2: I have no.
Speaker 3: Experience except my work at Starbucks or whatever. No, you
Speaker 3: don't start one hundred.
Speaker 2: And fifty thousand dollars a year. Why do people think
Speaker 2: that that that you get to start rich?
Speaker 3: And on the other end, we have the Paul Krugman's
Speaker 3: of the World, World's Leading Calmness, the World's Smartest Man,
Speaker 3: Nobel Prize winner telling us debt doesn't matter because it's
Speaker 3: money we owe ourselves, so we can spend as much
Speaker 3: as we want on the social safety net, which is
Speaker 3: always fraying and tattered. No matter how many trillions of
Speaker 3: dollars are spending on welfare and everything else. We're just
Speaker 3: spend as much money as we want. It doesn't matter.
Speaker 3: That doesn't matter, if you know, don't worry debt and deficit.
Speaker 3: And now we're going to a point we're gonna have
Speaker 3: I think trillion dollar payments just for interest. Now, that's
Speaker 3: that's milestone, trillion dollars worth of interest in.
Speaker 1: My personal favorite of the Paul Krugman nonsense right now
Speaker 1: is when he puts up the charts that show that
Speaker 1: there's no inflation if you take out like food and
Speaker 1: housing and cars and like you know, all the things
Speaker 1: that you buy those if you just remove those things, wah,
Speaker 1: no inflation at all. But yeah, I've seen those videos
Speaker 1: where the young people are expecting to make six figures
Speaker 1: out of college. There was one a few days ago
Speaker 1: that was, like, I work nine to five and I
Speaker 1: live in New York and I have to commute for
Speaker 1: like an hour, and I have never worked nine to five.
Speaker 1: I didn't even like at my very first job out
Speaker 1: of college was nine to six. I have no concept
Speaker 1: of nine to five. That's amazing, Like, you're so lucky.
Speaker 1: But they, you know, I think that their expectations are
Speaker 1: completely out of whack, and you know, they're young, So
Speaker 1: I end up thinking, like who lied to them? Was
Speaker 1: it their college who lied to them? Was it their parents?
Speaker 1: Like who told them that life was going to be
Speaker 1: six figures out of college? And no commute, Like where
Speaker 1: did that come from? Yeah?
Speaker 3: I know, I have to think social media is a
Speaker 3: big part of it. I think people are under the
Speaker 3: impression that everybody else is having a better time than
Speaker 3: they are because people, of course they're only putting their
Speaker 3: best selves on Instagram or whatever. Yeah, and it's a
Speaker 3: very distorted view. And we've seen, particularly younger else, very
Speaker 3: high rates with depression, suicidal, idiation and stuff, and I
Speaker 3: think the evidence is pretty strong that that's social media driven.
Speaker 1: Right, So is there I mean, is there a fix?
Speaker 1: Like what are we telling our children? Like how do
Speaker 1: we make them have kind of rational expectations. I mean,
Speaker 1: my seven year old, who's like fifth percentile, thinks he's
Speaker 1: going to the NFL. But I don't want to like
Speaker 1: ruin his dreams yet. I like, you know, give him
Speaker 1: a minute of believing he's going to be a wide
Speaker 1: receiver and then you know, let him figure it out
Speaker 1: on his own. But I don't know how to you know,
Speaker 1: at the same time, like dream big, do it. You
Speaker 1: could do whatever you want, but also be like, you know,
Speaker 1: live in reality. I don't know how to straddle that line.
Speaker 1: Any ideas I.
Speaker 3: Don't know to me there's you know, the old fashioned
Speaker 3: maxims whatnot.
Speaker 2: There's no substitute for hard work really.
Speaker 3: If you you know, I tell my kids if you
Speaker 3: if you're smart and you work hard, there's no stopping you.
Speaker 2: But it's got to be both of those things, and goodbye.
Speaker 1: Just being smart, right or just working hard? You could
Speaker 1: actually do either one.
Speaker 2: Both?
Speaker 1: Yeah, both is great. Yeah, So end here with your
Speaker 1: best tip for my listeners on how they can improve
Speaker 1: their lives.
Speaker 3: Okay, my idea I've always wanted to tell married people
Speaker 3: this or people who are thinking about getting married, is uh,
Speaker 3: think of marriage or your relationship. Let's say you're in
Speaker 3: a committed relationship. Think of it as a job, right,
Speaker 3: It's it's a good job. Maybe it's the best job
Speaker 3: you'll ever had, but think of it as something you
Speaker 3: have to work at every day.
Speaker 2: Like every day you should be thinking of a way
Speaker 2: to please your partner. Do something over in above what's
Speaker 2: a normal? Uh? Just the way you try to you know,
Speaker 2: impress your boss.
Speaker 3: Right, You're you're always sucking up the boss, right if
Speaker 3: you get some FaceTime to your boss and so put
Speaker 3: the effort into it. And also, don't worry about the
Speaker 3: blame chain I think a big part of the successful
Speaker 3: relationship is something goes wrong. You're instinct to say you
Speaker 3: screwed this up, and your partner's going to go, well,
Speaker 3: you screwed up this.
Speaker 2: Underlying thing, and you go, oh wow, well that kind
Speaker 2: blows me away. But then you go, well, you screwed
Speaker 2: up the underlying thing. Of the underlying thing.
Speaker 3: To me, you should just cut the blame chain when
Speaker 3: something goes wrong, you should just acknowledge. Okay, we both
Speaker 3: have our problem. We forgot our passports. Okay, now what
Speaker 3: do we do. I'm not going to say, yeah, no,
Speaker 3: your fault, you forgot that, but well it's your fault
Speaker 3: because they weren't in the place they were supposed to be.
Speaker 3: And right, don't worry about whose fault it is. Just
Speaker 3: worry about how we're going to advance. And I think
Speaker 3: if you don't blame your partner, you make a habit
Speaker 3: of not always blaming your partner for things that you're wrong,
Speaker 3: your partner will respond and not blame you, and you
Speaker 3: don't have a much more solid relationship.
Speaker 1: Kyla, I love that so much. That's like, really not
Speaker 1: where I was expecting you to go. I thought you
Speaker 1: were going to like lay a lashing on people and
Speaker 1: you know, tell them all the ways that they need
Speaker 1: to improve their lives like otherwise. But I love that
Speaker 1: you did a relationship that's really really awesome. Thank you
Speaker 1: so much for being on. You were amazing and I
Speaker 1: can't wait to see you over fruity drinks and you know,
Speaker 1: not movies very soon. Okay, thanks so much for joining
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