Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, we're back. We're black, were brown ambition, ambition, ambition, ambition, ambition.
Speaker 1: It's me, Tiffany. I'm here flying solo solo. Manny will
Speaker 1: be back. She's just navigating some family stuff, but she
Speaker 1: will be back and black and a neverhunting. But while
Speaker 1: she's going, let me act bad. Oh. If you are
Speaker 1: new to the shows, show, we talk about money, personal
Speaker 1: finance and lifting this brown skin in our brown lives, okay,
Speaker 1: in business. So I wanted to kind of give you
Speaker 1: like a rundown of Like, so y'all know, I went
Speaker 1: on vacation. I don't know if you know, but I did.
Speaker 1: And every quarter I try to take about a month off.
Speaker 1: So February I've been taking pretty light. And I just
Speaker 1: got back yesterday from Dubai and Tanzania or Tanzania dependent
Speaker 1: if you want to get well. Actually, I would say
Speaker 1: I didn't go to mainland Tanzania. I went to Zanzibar,
Speaker 1: which is still part of Tanzania, and it was amazing
Speaker 1: and I learned some amazing lessons that I wanted to
Speaker 1: share with you. Actually, I think I want to call
Speaker 1: this episode It's all about the Community, Baby, because that
Speaker 1: was the reason why I initially went to Dubai. So
Speaker 1: some months ago or some weeks ago, I had prayed
Speaker 1: and said, hey, you know, I've got such good family
Speaker 1: and friends and people that I care about in my
Speaker 1: kind of like personal community, but I had not done
Speaker 1: the work to develop a professional community, if you will.
Speaker 1: And I'm realizing all things community is critical. Like me
Speaker 1: and our producer in Minding, she and I were just
Speaker 1: talking about like getting cue leaning into our feminine and
Speaker 1: I was like, girl, I got my lash. Lady, Hey,
Speaker 1: Jessica a Springfield spa in Springfield, New Jury. I mean
Speaker 1: the lastes be lashing, not too much. Jessicause is a
Speaker 1: queen of natural lash. So if you're watching me on video,
Speaker 1: you're like, she got lashes on exactly. I woke up
Speaker 1: like this as far as you know, right, and then
Speaker 1: I got my brow. Lady, you already know I love.
Speaker 1: Oh where's Sarah from Pharah of whole splash of what
Speaker 1: this guy gotta shot her out? She's a sister and
Speaker 1: she is amazing, and oh what is Sarah's I gotta
Speaker 1: find it because she I like to shot Pharah out?
Speaker 1: Oh secret to plush right, So she's right here and
Speaker 1: is that Newark. I think that's New Work's secret of Plush.
Speaker 1: Her name is Sarah. Don't nobody do brows like Pharah.
Speaker 1: If you when you find someone in your community of
Speaker 1: people that you know, keep up your physical upkeep, like
Speaker 1: you know how men are with their barbers. When you
Speaker 1: find someone who not only does the thing, but also
Speaker 1: loves to do the thing, and then on top of that,
Speaker 1: educates about the thing, that's how you know you found
Speaker 1: a winter rent a chicken dinner, honey. So I'll be
Speaker 1: talking about secrets to Plush and Pharah because I want
Speaker 1: her to stay open, okay, because I need these brows done,
Speaker 1: Don't nobody. I have never had my brows done like
Speaker 1: this before. I've been going to the same lady Lisa
Speaker 1: and a nail salon since I was fourteen years old
Speaker 1: in Plainfield, New Jersey. Shout out to Nails three thousand.
Speaker 1: But anybody trying to drive forty five minutes all the
Speaker 1: way the plain Field to get their brows done and
Speaker 1: to get cussed out in Chinese cat Lisa, that's my
Speaker 1: own girl, But she'd be cussing me out because I
Speaker 1: would take so long. If farre is super closed. But
Speaker 1: also it's nice to support like a black woman own
Speaker 1: business and secrets. And plus she's just really kind, really nice,
Speaker 1: does a great job. Sore on the brows. My skin
Speaker 1: been skinning lately, Okay, go ahead all over to YouTube
Speaker 1: and so like, I just been taking care of my skin, okay,
Speaker 1: And if you're watching now, it looks like I cut
Speaker 1: my hair. I did not. For the first time, I
Speaker 1: am trying something called what are those things called the
Speaker 1: pipe cleaner curls because one thing I learned because I
Speaker 1: have a naturally long, beautiful face and with a long face,
Speaker 1: I learned from the YouTube girlies that long hair sometimes
Speaker 1: elongates your face is not as flattering. So instead I
Speaker 1: learned that like ooh, hair up, which you guys see
Speaker 1: me put my hair up a lot, or hair big
Speaker 1: to give you volume, actually is more flattering. I was
Speaker 1: like em. And so another part of my beauty community, Leela,
Speaker 1: who does my beat whenever I'm on TV. Leila Nima,
Speaker 1: also does hair. So she came to my house before
Speaker 1: I left for vacation put the pipe cleaner. I bought
Speaker 1: some black pipe cleaners off of Amazon. She put them in.
Speaker 1: So I'm walking like the little Literally they're almost like enrollers,
Speaker 1: but it looks really cute and then I'm gonna take
Speaker 1: them out tomorrow or she gonna because I'm speaking at
Speaker 1: a meta event meta as in Facebook International Women's Day Breakfast,
Speaker 1: so they want me to speak, okay, and so she's
Speaker 1: gonna take my curls out and do my face for
Speaker 1: that event. So I just heare all that to say
Speaker 1: that in all areas, having community is critical. That as
Speaker 1: y'all know, I'm leaning into my feminine even more and
Speaker 1: or just in general because I could be rough and
Speaker 1: tumple tom boy, and so I have I gathered a
Speaker 1: community of people that I lean into for I just
Speaker 1: someone hit me the other day was like, I'd love
Speaker 1: to do your nails. I see you never have them done.
Speaker 1: I was like, first of all, shady, but you're right,
Speaker 1: I don't. So I had them done now, thanks girl.
Speaker 1: So community in all areas of your life is important.
Speaker 1: So all I've been really good for the last few
Speaker 1: years of the community of my sisters and staying connected there.
Speaker 1: You know, I have four sisters, my parents who are
Speaker 1: called regularly my neighbors, Like this morning before I went
Speaker 1: for my walk, like sometimes after trash day. You know
Speaker 1: how like sometimes there's just garbage on the street because
Speaker 1: your garbage can is knocked over, and just like I
Speaker 1: hate that look. I don't want to come home and
Speaker 1: see not a piece of straw on the ground. So
Speaker 1: I woke up this morning and I cleaned the front
Speaker 1: of my house, my neighbor's house and house across the
Speaker 1: street and put some gloves on because that's part of community.
Speaker 1: And it is not possible, especially in this day and age,
Speaker 1: to navigate without community. And so that's what brought me
Speaker 1: to do by because I said, I prayed that I
Speaker 1: want professional community because I've got my beauty community, I've
Speaker 1: got my personal community, my family community, but I didn't
Speaker 1: really have people in the professional space that I could
Speaker 1: really go to like I used to. I mean, I
Speaker 1: certainly have some mentors, but community community. And I had
Speaker 1: my first Mastermind session at my friend's house in Dallas.
Speaker 1: She's been very successful in business, and it was like
Speaker 1: a black girl business session. Is six of us. Let
Speaker 1: me see, I'm not gonna name names because I don't
Speaker 1: know everybody wants to be named. So I'm like r
Speaker 1: D D T me T. I feel like I'm missing
Speaker 1: somebody else. So yeah, I want to say, oh an,
Speaker 1: m okay, so five success seven of us. So seven
Speaker 1: dope black girls, some of them in the financial space,
Speaker 1: some of them not who've been slaying. And it was
Speaker 1: just it was awesome because no one understands you in
Speaker 1: business like a sister who's also in business. I mean,
Speaker 1: we shared everything from like what's going right in business,
Speaker 1: what's going wrong, but also our personal lives, the things
Speaker 1: that we're wanting for ourselves as women, as mothers, as wives,
Speaker 1: as everything. It was just amazing. I did that in
Speaker 1: Dallas in January December, and it totally changed the trajectory
Speaker 1: of how I look at my business and even myself.
Speaker 1: Some of the advice they gave me has just shifted
Speaker 1: me and my business dramatically in a way that's so
Speaker 1: positive and upflifting. I'm excited about. And then as results
Speaker 1: of meeting up with those women in December, one of
Speaker 1: those women had had a conference in January and Puerto
Speaker 1: Rico and she said come and so she was like,
Speaker 1: you got worried about like me and all this conference
Speaker 1: course cooling. She said, you got worried about all that,
Speaker 1: Just get yourself down to Puerto Rico. So I flew
Speaker 1: to Puerto Rico. Some other of the women from the
Speaker 1: Black Girl we actually call ourselves. We called the Bad
Speaker 1: Bitch Collective. I think the Bad Bitch collected something like that,
Speaker 1: and so we have like a text group and everything,
Speaker 1: and so some of us came down to support her
Speaker 1: her conference. It was amazing. I met even more amazing people,
Speaker 1: two of which I'm hiring to do some like business
Speaker 1: things for me that I've been looking for, and so
Speaker 1: it was amazing to support her, but also it was
Speaker 1: amazing to enhance my community with other women. So that
Speaker 1: was awesome. And then I got an invite to go
Speaker 1: to Dubai for another Mastermind. And at first I didn't
Speaker 1: want to go to Dubai because y'all know, I didn't
Speaker 1: have the greatest time the first time went a year
Speaker 1: or so ago for my sister's birthday. But I decided, well,
Speaker 1: I'm not going, you know, for partying. We're going to Mastermind.
Speaker 1: And it was really interesting because it wasn't black women.
Speaker 1: There was one black women there, but it was a
Speaker 1: wider swathe. Like the woman who invited us, she's Japanese.
Speaker 1: One of the most follow up people on TikTok on
Speaker 1: comes to personal finance. I'm trying to think Ali he's Pakistani.
Speaker 1: Other one was Chinese herself. Another person he's I think
Speaker 1: Carlos is Latina. So it was an amazing group, a
Speaker 1: mixed like group of very successful entrepreneurs and to be
Speaker 1: able to kind of learn from them. So I learned
Speaker 1: a lot about some things that I could be doing better.
Speaker 1: But also it was a great highlight to see how
Speaker 1: well I was doing, because sometimes you don't know, and
Speaker 1: just to hear how they were blown away by some
Speaker 1: of the things I'd accomplished. Because there's some of the
Speaker 1: biggest in their space. You know, if I said their name,
Speaker 1: you'd be like, what you know? And so to hear
Speaker 1: that they were like, wait whatan that's incredible. I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: my numbers are incredible, but your numbers are incredible too.
Speaker 1: So it was just really amazing to each of these masterminds.
Speaker 1: It was two ways. One, I love the fact that
Speaker 1: they were free. I had never paid for a mastermind.
Speaker 1: I'm not opposed to it, but a lot of folks
Speaker 1: there had paid for masterminds up to sixty thousand dollars,
Speaker 1: and they said like this is way better, you know
Speaker 1: than the paid masterminds that they've been a part of.
Speaker 1: And so what I loved about these masterminds is usually
Speaker 1: for both of them, day one, it's the day that
Speaker 1: you give here is what I know, This is what
Speaker 1: I can teach you. And so I taught how to
Speaker 1: build community, you know, because you know I have my
Speaker 1: dream catchers, and how to build and monetize your community
Speaker 1: ethically and with integrity. So that's what I taught. And
Speaker 1: then on the second day, you got to say, here's
Speaker 1: where I'm struggling, and they got to pour into you
Speaker 1: to give you their tools, tips and resources about what
Speaker 1: you can do to make things better, I mean, And
Speaker 1: some of the feedback I got was just so incredible.
Speaker 1: I was literally talking to my team today excitedly, like, Yo,
Speaker 1: we're switching up all these things and to take our
Speaker 1: business to the next level. And so I just share
Speaker 1: all that to say that you only can know and
Speaker 1: do what you know how to know and do, and
Speaker 1: sometimes what you've been really good at is no longer
Speaker 1: good to the world, meaning like you might do business,
Speaker 1: or you might in your job, or even skincare or
Speaker 1: health care, whatever it is that it worked once upon
Speaker 1: a time, but you got stuck there, and I know
Speaker 1: I have and so many of us have. And you
Speaker 1: become good at a bad thing? Did you do what
Speaker 1: I said? You become good at a bad thing? And
Speaker 1: I was getting really good because I work hard at
Speaker 1: bad things and bad not as in judgment bad, but
Speaker 1: as in not effective. You know, Like when I was
Speaker 1: in high school, I used to use Apricot scrub for
Speaker 1: my skin. Remember that Apricot scrub, child, That stuff used
Speaker 1: to turn your skin up. But at the time I
Speaker 1: thought I was doing like such a good job and
Speaker 1: my skin was glowing or whatever. That stuff was terrible
Speaker 1: for you. But as I grew and learned, I realized,
Speaker 1: especially as you get older, you really don't want to
Speaker 1: be harsh to your skin. And so the only way
Speaker 1: for me to learn that is I had to introduce
Speaker 1: a dermatologist to my team. I had to ask other
Speaker 1: people who had great skin to my team. I followed
Speaker 1: skin influencers on social media, and so I started to
Speaker 1: build my community so I can learn something new, so
Speaker 1: I can do something new. So many of us are
Speaker 1: not getting the success, whether it's the way you look,
Speaker 1: whether it's your business where you work. So many of
Speaker 1: you are stuck not because you're not hard workers. It's
Speaker 1: because you don't have any new information. You are good
Speaker 1: at the bad things, things that maybe used to be good,
Speaker 1: no longer work, no longer viable, no longer helpful. And
Speaker 1: it's not because you do anything wrong. The world evolves
Speaker 1: and changes and you need to as well. And before
Speaker 1: my husband passed away, I was really good at pre
Speaker 1: pivoting seeing like this, I'm working no more, or this
Speaker 1: is not going to work in two years, let's put
Speaker 1: in work now. But after he passed away, I'm being honest,
Speaker 1: I just was not. I just was not present in
Speaker 1: the business rightfully. So you know, I'm just kind of
Speaker 1: coming back to a place where I'm like in the
Speaker 1: business now. And so normally it wouldn't have gone this far,
Speaker 1: like as far as like my business being really good
Speaker 1: at bad things, because I would have picked up on
Speaker 1: it sooner and pivoted. But I did it. But so
Speaker 1: here we are. And but as a result, I have
Speaker 1: done as much as I know how to do, and
Speaker 1: so I realized it is beyond what I know to do.
Speaker 1: It is let me ask for advice from people who
Speaker 1: are doing, you know, and inject new ideas, new thoughts,
Speaker 1: new ways, so I could become good at good things. Again,
Speaker 1: does that make sense? I just think about that, like
Speaker 1: in all areas, like the way I used to do
Speaker 1: my brows before. I remember, like I used to be
Speaker 1: really passive in so many areas of my life, certainly
Speaker 1: not in business. But I'll give you like a beauty example, right,
Speaker 1: So I was like passive in like my brows. I
Speaker 1: would get them done. They would look cute for a
Speaker 1: week and then start to look raggedy, and then after
Speaker 1: two weeks you get them done. Then one day I said, Tiffany,
Speaker 1: why don't you ask Pharah what is it that thing
Speaker 1: that you use in my brows? And She's like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is a penzil, this is the gel, this is
Speaker 1: the So all of a sudden, no, I'm not doing
Speaker 1: my own brows, but I would able to maintain and
Speaker 1: upkeep them longer so they look like how Farah had
Speaker 1: done them longer, just by asking what are you doing? Sis?
Speaker 1: Who are you using? Okay, I just I mean in
Speaker 1: all areas, you know, so many times we don't ask
Speaker 1: those questions, how did you do that? What are you doing?
Speaker 1: You know? You know, what should I be doing? What
Speaker 1: are your thoughts. You know, what are you reading, what
Speaker 1: podcasts are you listening to? How are you bringing in
Speaker 1: new thoughts or ideas into your life? You know, everything
Speaker 1: from lashes right, Like I was going to this last
Speaker 1: that I really love it. I asked Leela who does
Speaker 1: my face? And she said, you know whose lashes are
Speaker 1: actually really nice? I said who? She said, Alissa. Now
Speaker 1: if y'all know all listen, is my seventeen year old
Speaker 1: sassy pants stepdaughter. And I was like really last, She's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I did, because Alyssa had asked me. She said, Tippy,
Speaker 1: I want to. She wanted to do her senior pictures
Speaker 1: and she wanted to get her makeup done and I
Speaker 1: said okay, and she asked Leela could do it? Aka,
Speaker 1: Can I pay for it? And I said, of course.
Speaker 1: Plus I knew Leela is. She knew I'd rather Leila
Speaker 1: do Alyssa's makeup because she knows that have her look
Speaker 1: like the seventeen year old beautiful girl. She is not
Speaker 1: like some grown woman so light because Alyssa's beautiful anyway, right,
Speaker 1: she don't need all that? But I said sure. So
Speaker 1: she came to the house. Lida had done her makeup.
Speaker 1: I guess Leila had seen how like Alyssa gets lashes
Speaker 1: because you know, she's seventeen going on forty five, but
Speaker 1: they're natural looking. And I didn't even know she was
Speaker 1: getting lashes uptown natural And Leila said, you know, Alisa
Speaker 1: gets lashes and I can tell by who's doing them
Speaker 1: that they know what they're doing. And I was like, really,
Speaker 1: but I could not have known that because when I
Speaker 1: didn't know and Listen was doing last, had I not
Speaker 1: asked Leela, Hey, I'm struggling with getting the right natural
Speaker 1: looking lash. Any suggestions, she said, Ask Alissa, I asked
Speaker 1: a list. Of course Alyiza knows, she said, ask my mama.
Speaker 1: So I hit up Sean Tables, Like, girl, where did
Speaker 1: you take a listen to get her lashes? She told
Speaker 1: me Springfield spog Or hit up Jessica in Springfield, New Jersey.
Speaker 1: There was a group on and I did it, honey,
Speaker 1: like I love it. I mean, I don't want stuff
Speaker 1: of love with gas slashes. I want you to be like,
Speaker 1: are those herbs exactly? Exactly? So if you are feeling stuck,
Speaker 1: if you are like I don't know the way to go,
Speaker 1: it means that you have maximized your options based upon
Speaker 1: your current library of knowledge. There's nothing wrong with that,
Speaker 1: great congratulations. It means you have to introduce new books,
Speaker 1: new thoughts, new theories into your circle so you can
Speaker 1: do something new. Ask The question hasis what are you
Speaker 1: for your skin? Hasis what podcasts are you listen to
Speaker 1: that really transformed the way you did your business? Hasis
Speaker 1: what books are you reading that help with your relationship? Hey? Bro?
Speaker 1: You know, like, you know, how did you get your
Speaker 1: back like that? You know what exercises the gym are
Speaker 1: you using? You know? Are you asking for like more
Speaker 1: information so you can act upon this new stuff. So
Speaker 1: the other day I had like this like aha moment
Speaker 1: when I thought to myself, I said, because, like I said,
Speaker 1: I went to Dubai. I went to this mastermind. It
Speaker 1: was only like two or three days. And I said,
Speaker 1: I'm not flying all the way to Dubai for two
Speaker 1: or three days, you thought. So my friend who came
Speaker 1: with me, well, she was there because she's friends with
Speaker 1: the woman who hosted the mastermind. She said she was
Speaker 1: going to go someplace after I said, girl, I'll roll
Speaker 1: with you wherever that is. So we went back and forth,
Speaker 1: maybe Singapore, maybe Rwanda, and we decided on Zanzibar, which
Speaker 1: is an island right outside of Tanzania. So Zanza Bar
Speaker 1: is part of Tanzania, but it used to be two separate.
Speaker 1: It used to be Tanka, Nika and Zanza Bar. And
Speaker 1: then they, the presidents of those two countries, sat down
Speaker 1: and said let's be one. And so anyway, Zanzibar is
Speaker 1: an island right outside of mainland Tanzania and a friend
Speaker 1: of mine. Again I reached out to my community. I said, hey, Avida,
Speaker 1: she owns a company called No Madness, which is a
Speaker 1: She is the grandmother of black travel and so No
Speaker 1: Madness not just black people weren't traveling before, but she
Speaker 1: started No Madness right when social media was becoming a
Speaker 1: thing and really helped to elevate and expose black travel
Speaker 1: for the amazing opportunity that it was. So anyway, I
Speaker 1: called a vita because community, I said, why should I
Speaker 1: figure this out myself? Girl Avida literally does this for
Speaker 1: a living. And I said where should I go? She
Speaker 1: said maybe Thailand Rwanda than Zanza Bar. And she gave
Speaker 1: me like these voice notes explaining each place and what
Speaker 1: I can expect. I was like, this is great. So
Speaker 1: I hit up my friend who I was traveling with.
Speaker 1: I said, here are the three places that my friend
Speaker 1: A Vita suggested, and she said, let's do Zanzabar because
Speaker 1: it's very beachy. And I said, okay, let's do that,
Speaker 1: and we went to Zanzabar again. The beautiful thing about
Speaker 1: community is not just the knowledge, but the connection. Avida said,
Speaker 1: let me connect you to my girl homegirl that lives
Speaker 1: in Zanzibar. I said, okay, Avida, send the WhatsApp message
Speaker 1: between me and this girl named Justa, another sister, and
Speaker 1: she said, this is Justa's website curious on Tanzania. And
Speaker 1: I said, wait a minute, that looks familiar. I went
Speaker 1: to the website. I said, I remember this lady I
Speaker 1: met Justa some years ago. She had to pop up
Speaker 1: shop in Brooklyn and I bought some African print clothing
Speaker 1: and if I remember, we took a picture Chaw. I
Speaker 1: ran to the Googles, my Google Photos typed in African
Speaker 1: print clothing two thousand and thirteen. I have a picture
Speaker 1: of me Justa and I don't know her niece or nephew,
Speaker 1: and like taking a picture inside her apartment. I posted
Speaker 1: in the WhatsApp group. I said, oh my gosh, justa
Speaker 1: I don't know if you remember me, but I came
Speaker 1: to your house ten years ago, over ten years ago,
Speaker 1: and I told you I remember now. I told you
Speaker 1: I was going to come to Tanzania. She said, you
Speaker 1: know what she said, She said, Tiffany. I was just
Speaker 1: typing this to a Vida separately outside of this group chat.
Speaker 1: She said, Avida, I love Tiffany. She won't remember me,
Speaker 1: but years some years ago she came to my apartment
Speaker 1: for a pop up and she told me. She was
Speaker 1: wearing her green bracelets and told me that one day
Speaker 1: she was going to be big and certain personal finance.
Speaker 1: And you look at she's done it. And she said,
Speaker 1: and here you are. Not only do you remember me,
Speaker 1: but you came with receipts with this picture. So it
Speaker 1: was so wonderful. Just within a couple of days, planned
Speaker 1: a whole Zanza bar itinerary for myself and my friend.
Speaker 1: We stayed in Stonetown at the Park Hyatt, which is
Speaker 1: this luxurious hotel in the middle of town by all
Speaker 1: the markets and food and whatever, and then we drove
Speaker 1: to I don't even know, like what that part of
Speaker 1: Zanzibar's carter, but Stonetown is like in a town, the city,
Speaker 1: if you will. And then we stayed there one night
Speaker 1: and then two nights, and the most luxurious it's called
Speaker 1: the Zawabi I think it was called hotel. There's only
Speaker 1: twelve bungalows and so my friend had one, I had one,
Speaker 1: and then you know, the ten other ones were rented out,
Speaker 1: I guess. So the serve impeccable, every server near your name,
Speaker 1: everything was included. It was right on my bungalow was
Speaker 1: on this cliff, and you could see the beach below
Speaker 1: sunset and sunrise was oh, just amazing. And then you
Speaker 1: could walk down to the beach, which I did. If
Speaker 1: you saw any of my stories, I mean, you largely
Speaker 1: had this private beach almost always to yourself because only
Speaker 1: twelve people child. It was visually beautiful and stunning, and
Speaker 1: they painted everything these muted colors, so it was just
Speaker 1: so calming and it was just incredible. And we spent
Speaker 1: three days there, two nights there, and then the next
Speaker 1: day we went to go visit the Massai, which is
Speaker 1: this amazing African tribe and got to learn about their
Speaker 1: tribe and their culture and did a spice tour, and
Speaker 1: I don't know what I thought the spice tore was
Speaker 1: going to be. Like they walked us through the woods.
Speaker 1: It was like, smell us leaf. You're like, that smells
Speaker 1: like cinnamon, That is cinnamon. Smell this leep that smells
Speaker 1: like vanilla, that is vanilla, that is ginger, that is tumoric.
Speaker 1: Literally walking through this farm and seeing like all the
Speaker 1: spices that we love so much and what plant it
Speaker 1: actually grew from, and then the ability to buy you know,
Speaker 1: the dried ground fresh spices about cinnamon, tea, ginger tea,
Speaker 1: tumor tea. So that was an amazing experience because of
Speaker 1: what communit tea community and it was just an amazing experience.
Speaker 1: If you ever think about thinking about going to Tanzania
Speaker 1: or a Zanzabar curious on Tanzania. She's on ig as well.
Speaker 1: But also I think that's her website shout out to
Speaker 1: justa another sister. Amazing. I just want us to understand that,
Speaker 1: like it is not possible to navigate this world successfully alone.
Speaker 1: I had this aha moment when I realized is that
Speaker 1: there are people who live in the studio apartment of
Speaker 1: their life in their head, you know, what I mean,
Speaker 1: meaning that like this limiting belief is like not me
Speaker 1: my skin, this is just how my skin is. My
Speaker 1: mama's skin is like this. Oh you know, like this
Speaker 1: is the size I am. You know I've been tried
Speaker 1: to lose weight, or like, oh my hair just doesn't grow,
Speaker 1: you know, like I have four seeds, so my hair
Speaker 1: grows out. It'd be very easy for me must say,
Speaker 1: oh my haircrone, grow long. Meanwhile, my hair is the
Speaker 1: middle of my back. Now, you know, like we live
Speaker 1: in this studio like apartment version of our life of limitations,
Speaker 1: and you are arguing for your own limitations and winning
Speaker 1: because you always gonna win the argument when you argue
Speaker 1: for your own limitations. And then there are some people who,
Speaker 1: by luck or advocacy for themselves say maybe there is more,
Speaker 1: Maybe there is a one bedroom of life I can
Speaker 1: live in. And they get to the one bedroom they're like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is available to me, and maybe there's a two
Speaker 1: bedroom of life. There are some people who are living
Speaker 1: in the mansion of life, like the fullness of what
Speaker 1: life has to offer, from love to health, to wealth,
Speaker 1: to connection to family to friends. There are people who
Speaker 1: are living in the fullness of their life only because
Speaker 1: they asked the questions of how and who who do
Speaker 1: I need to lean into? My mentor said that best
Speaker 1: Lynette cowed finding Coxy. She said, so many of us
Speaker 1: are so stuck on Piggie, thinking that we have to
Speaker 1: do the how all alone. And she said, it's not
Speaker 1: so much that how, it's the who can connect us.
Speaker 1: A Vida connected me to justa like Leela connect told
Speaker 1: me about Alyssa's last lady. Alissa told me to ask
Speaker 1: my mama. Her mama told me, Jessica, the reason why
Speaker 1: I found my brow Lady Pharaoh from Secret to Splash
Speaker 1: is my sister Carol. She came to the house, her lasses,
Speaker 1: her brows were looking amazing. We're like, where you get
Speaker 1: Joe brows from? And she was like, oh, I found
Speaker 1: this place on groupon you know, Secret to Plush, I
Speaker 1: mean Secret to Plush and Pharaoh was so amazing all
Speaker 1: of a sudden, now me, not only me, the whole neighborhood.
Speaker 1: We all go. All the ladies in the neighborhood that
Speaker 1: we all hang out with, we all go to Phara
Speaker 1: now you know. And I just love that that like
Speaker 1: community equals connection. When I first got on TV for
Speaker 1: the first time. You know, I had never I didn't
Speaker 1: know how to get on TV. Literally, Lynette was like
Speaker 1: my mentor. She was giving me a ride home from
Speaker 1: this event. She said, have you ever been on TV?
Speaker 1: I said no. She made a phone call to a
Speaker 1: producer at Picks eleven and said, hey, I know. I
Speaker 1: said I was going to come on next week, but
Speaker 1: I have somebody who should come on instead. Her name
Speaker 1: is Tiffany, the producer because it was her and Lynette
Speaker 1: had been doing TV for many, many years, said okay,
Speaker 1: and then she coached me that is a who, not
Speaker 1: a how. And so we are not meant to navigate
Speaker 1: the challenges by ourselves, not financially, not personally, not anything.
Speaker 1: We are meant to live in a collective. And if
Speaker 1: you can't lean on your family, you could create your
Speaker 1: own collective. Do you speak to your neighbors? Do you
Speaker 1: join groups like there's a great group called Girl Trek
Speaker 1: where women, especially black women walk every week. So you're
Speaker 1: not going to be by yourself? Do you? Are you
Speaker 1: a DreamCatcher? All these free groups that I have for
Speaker 1: people who are on their financial journey, the dreamcatchersgroup dot com,
Speaker 1: it's free. Are you there, like you don't have to
Speaker 1: navigate this place by yourself, and you ought not to
Speaker 1: because it's going to be through someone that you realize
Speaker 1: that there's more available. I don't want to look at
Speaker 1: my life when I'm eighty years old and think, wow,
Speaker 1: I could have had more and I was too scared
Speaker 1: or I had already I had accepted that life is
Speaker 1: going to be less. I refuse, you know, after my
Speaker 1: husband passed away, after Durrell died, I didn't want to
Speaker 1: be here anymore, you know, I just was like, why
Speaker 1: what does it all matter? It's all going to be
Speaker 1: done anyway. And now I just realized that, like, eventually
Speaker 1: we all do go. And I don't know when that
Speaker 1: time is going to be for me. I don't know
Speaker 1: what that time is going to be for you. But
Speaker 1: in the meantime, I want to maximize love and family
Speaker 1: and life and business and health and wealth and beauty.
Speaker 1: I want to get all that life has to offer.
Speaker 1: I do, and you can do that too. I want
Speaker 1: that for you. And so if you're not sure where
Speaker 1: to start, you know, start by building community around you.
Speaker 1: Do you leave the house, do you you know, can
Speaker 1: you work at a coworking space? You see people enough times.
Speaker 1: Hey girl, hey girl, her hair and now that's your
Speaker 1: best sie. Okay. You know, like do you talk to
Speaker 1: the cashier at the Whole Foods or the shopwright or
Speaker 1: the or wherever? You know? Do you you know, are
Speaker 1: you part of your church group? Build intentional community and
Speaker 1: see how that totally transform your life. See how like
Speaker 1: you know, you can go from wherever you are to
Speaker 1: wherever you want to be, you know. And so yeah,
Speaker 1: I just wanted to share that community. I'm telling you, wait,
Speaker 1: give me a year. You gonna be like, oh, look
Speaker 1: at Tiffany, not even because girl, I'm fine now, but
Speaker 1: I'm getting my whole life together. Oh. So we're gonna
Speaker 1: take a quick break and I'm coming back and do
Speaker 1: something be a oh no, we don't do b a
Speaker 1: QAUI until Friday. Well, I'm gonna come back with a
Speaker 1: brown boost brown break. We're gonna pay some bills. I
Speaker 1: am back and blacker than ever. Let's see brown boost
Speaker 1: it is time. How does a brown boots brown break?
Speaker 1: So I always forget wait it, Choe, I forgot bron
Speaker 1: Boosts brown Break. I can't remember that that on the
Speaker 1: flock manage used to here to like help drop my
Speaker 1: memory time. Oh yeah, there you minding. My producer is
Speaker 1: like she reminded me, and now it's time to boost up.
Speaker 1: Break up, boost up, breakup, boost up? Break Are you
Speaker 1: gonna boost? Are you gonna break? What you're gonna do?
Speaker 1: What you're gonna think? Okay, am I gonna boosty or baregie?
Speaker 1: I actually am going to hm, I'm trying to think.
Speaker 1: What am I gonna do? Boot a breakoos A break?
Speaker 1: I am going to do a quick break and then
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do a boost because we got to end
Speaker 1: in a high note, so quick break, yeah, child. It
Speaker 1: was ghetto when I came back to the OOSAF, the
Speaker 1: United States of America because when I landed in JMK,
Speaker 1: I mean I usually land in Newark because I live
Speaker 1: in Newark. You know, I have a what is it
Speaker 1: called not clear but a global entry. So it was
Speaker 1: literally minutes, you know, like they just you glide right in.
Speaker 1: But then they pulled me to the side talking about
Speaker 1: they gotta check through my bag cause I'm thinking, okay,
Speaker 1: they're gonna open it. I mean it was a brother,
Speaker 1: he was nice, but they went through not I mean
Speaker 1: every bag, every piece of lotion, open up lipstick opened up.
Speaker 1: I was like, what are you looking for? The muffin? Man?
Speaker 1: It was crazy. I was like, I've never been. I mean,
Speaker 1: it got down to, like, you know, on vacation, I
Speaker 1: don't do laundry. I just bring if it's ten days,
Speaker 1: I'm bringing twenty days worth of underweary. So you know,
Speaker 1: there was one of that he was opened. I said,
Speaker 1: before you opened it, I'm just letting you know those
Speaker 1: that's my underwear, do with that with the information, and
Speaker 1: I ain't do no laundry, Like how you want? That
Speaker 1: was the one bag. He was like, I'm gonna let
Speaker 1: that go. I said, yeah, you might want, you might
Speaker 1: want to let that go. I don't know. It just
Speaker 1: felt so invasive, but I guess they have to keep
Speaker 1: the people safe or whatever. I mean. They was opening up.
Speaker 1: I mean when I literally i've never seen that before,
Speaker 1: opened jars, squeezing stuff out. He said he got a
Speaker 1: lot of makeup. I'm like, first of all, sir, mind
Speaker 1: your business is not a lot of makeup. And I
Speaker 1: was sure how I was gonna step out. He was
Speaker 1: bending up shoes, he said, because people high stuff in
Speaker 1: their shoes. And I was like, I'm glad they bring
Speaker 1: my Jordan's because you had been increasing them up. But
Speaker 1: I mean the officers are really nice, but it was
Speaker 1: just a little ghetto. You know, y'all be talking about Nork,
Speaker 1: but they don't do all that. Mm hm honey. So
Speaker 1: that was my that's my travel break. But my travel
Speaker 1: boost is this. So for the first time, I flew
Speaker 1: Qatar Airways business class, business and first. And I had
Speaker 1: flown a lot of business in first in the last
Speaker 1: couple of years, y'all know. I just started because you know,
Speaker 1: I was like, if the flight is over three hours,
Speaker 1: then it's worth it for me, especially if it's business.
Speaker 1: And I was flying for business because I was doing
Speaker 1: the Mastermind. It's worth it to get to pay for
Speaker 1: a business class because now that I have it to
Speaker 1: be able to do it. And so I've flown business
Speaker 1: class before. I'd even flown to Dubai before. I forget
Speaker 1: what I flew. It was like United and Luftanza Child,
Speaker 1: the airlines is ghetto because that oil money that Qatar.
Speaker 1: I was like, it was like a room. I said,
Speaker 1: this is business class. I mean it was so spacious.
Speaker 1: It's like a seat and another little mini seat. Child.
Speaker 1: I mean, they were like hear your pajamas, and I've
Speaker 1: gotten pajamas on the airlines. But they even had like
Speaker 1: this kit with perfume and all this stuff in it. Baseball.
Speaker 1: They knew when you got on your name, if you
Speaker 1: are a woman or man, you know, basically I guess
Speaker 1: what you filled out. It's a kind of kit, like
Speaker 1: the kind of like bath kit or whatever that you
Speaker 1: had in your little room. You can actually close the door, honey.
Speaker 1: I never was able to close the door before. I mean,
Speaker 1: the menu that they gave it was like, you know,
Speaker 1: you could eat whenever. There's no oh, we serve at
Speaker 1: breakfast at this time and this at that kind Now
Speaker 1: you could order whenever however how much youever you wanted.
Speaker 1: I don't drink alcohol, but they had all the mocktails, honey.
Speaker 1: And it was just an experience like none other. And
Speaker 1: I told myself like I want to I wanted to
Speaker 1: fly either Qatar or Emirates because I'd never flown. And
Speaker 1: I mean to the point where there was like a
Speaker 1: separate bus, so like they will like let the plane board,
Speaker 1: and then they were like, okay, if your business class
Speaker 1: or first clars, he is a separate bus. Some people
Speaker 1: even had a car that took him from the terminal
Speaker 1: to the plane and we got to board last because
Speaker 1: they're like, you bored right when we're about to say go,
Speaker 1: I was like, excuse night. I mean, I'm gonna tell
Speaker 1: you the risk. People are living a whole nother life.
Speaker 1: You know, I consider myself a new Roch, a new rich,
Speaker 1: a whole nother life in in actual Dubai. So I
Speaker 1: did not know this because last time I did fly business,
Speaker 1: it was just ghetto business. Apparently that when you fly
Speaker 1: out of if you're flying Emirates, Emirates actually has a
Speaker 1: VIP terminal. Listen to me, well, so you know how
Speaker 1: you go to the airport and it's like, oh, terminal one,
Speaker 1: and you go in, you check your bags, you check in,
Speaker 1: you get your ticket whatever. They have a VIP terminal
Speaker 1: for anyone flying Emirates business or first class. That first
Speaker 1: of all, Emirates is already a beautiful and like you know,
Speaker 1: airport child. The way they treat you like an AMORTI
Speaker 1: the way they treat you like a queen. I was like,
Speaker 1: wasn't no lines, wasn't no, I mean the way they
Speaker 1: I't never seen nothing like it. And then the lounge. Hey,
Speaker 1: I said, what in the dog food have they been
Speaker 1: serving me before? And these lounges, the lounge was, I mean,
Speaker 1: they're like you want. There was stations, an Indian station, well,
Speaker 1: an Asian station that had Indian food like Japanese and
Speaker 1: Chinese food, an American station, Arabic station, I mean, there
Speaker 1: was a spa in the lounge, places to sleep, a git,
Speaker 1: I mean it in the hotel. The airport, it telf
Speaker 1: looked like a mall. If you weren't really present, you're like,
Speaker 1: is this a beautiful high end mall? Right? And then
Speaker 1: the business class lounge in Doha. So the way I flew,
Speaker 1: I had to go from JFK, which is in New
Speaker 1: York to Doha, which is in the Middle East, and
Speaker 1: then Doha is like a forty five minute flight to Dubai,
Speaker 1: so it was like two flights, right. So the Doha Lounge,
Speaker 1: the Qatar Lounge in Doha was spec tackle. It was
Speaker 1: the biggest WoT I've ever seen, the cleanest of I
Speaker 1: can't even it was like, I don't, I don't have
Speaker 1: the word to describe. It was a twenty out of ten.
Speaker 1: I've never like they had like a five star restaurant there,
Speaker 1: and I was like, this is a lounge. It was
Speaker 1: so huge, so much food, so much it was beyond
Speaker 1: And what it showed me is that there are people
Speaker 1: living a parallel life. You know. It wasn't too long anger,
Speaker 1: I'll talk to teach a preschool and before that, I
Speaker 1: was struggling. After that, I was struggling business owner. It's
Speaker 1: only just now been stepping into my rich and even then, girl,
Speaker 1: my little panties next to these people, honey, honey. But
Speaker 1: it just was the level of service that you get
Speaker 1: at that level made me feel both bad and good, like, dang,
Speaker 1: everybody should be treated like this, But the way they
Speaker 1: treat you at that level when you're in that lounge
Speaker 1: or you're flying business class on a you know, on
Speaker 1: a top airline like that, and you know, like the
Speaker 1: way you're treated, the way you're spoken to, the space
Speaker 1: that's made for you, you know, it's just it goes,
Speaker 1: it just goes to show you have badly treated any
Speaker 1: other time. That wealth really does open up certain like
Speaker 1: levels of doors. You know. It was just a real
Speaker 1: eye opener. So I don't know if that's a boost
Speaker 1: to break. It's a boost either way. And like it's
Speaker 1: a it's a something. And I just wanted to share
Speaker 1: that experience because I said, I wanted to fly Guitar
Speaker 1: or Emirates, but Emerts was way too expensive to fly
Speaker 1: out there. Guitar was half the price, And I said,
Speaker 1: because I wanted to just have that experience. And I
Speaker 1: had it and it was beautiful and it was amazing.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do it again, ad jod you've ever flown
Speaker 1: guitar Airways or Emirates, let me know how. It was
Speaker 1: the one thing I heard about Emerts. This is why
Speaker 1: they charged so much, is they will come pick you
Speaker 1: up from your house and drive you onto the tarmac. Honey.
Speaker 1: But I wasn't gonna pay all that for Emirates. I said, Yah,
Speaker 1: it was too much. But yeah, it just was like
Speaker 1: an amazing experience all around. And like I said, I
Speaker 1: am leaning in, fully leaning and fully to my feminine
Speaker 1: leaning and fully to my success. Like my condo is
Speaker 1: almost ready. When I tell you I went by the
Speaker 1: visit today, it is I can't believe that I get
Speaker 1: to live there. It looks like somebody else, somebody rich
Speaker 1: and wealthy. My sister said something funny. She said, for
Speaker 1: the first time where you live actually matches your your
Speaker 1: bank account. Ah, it looks I told myself, I'm going
Speaker 1: to have all the good things now, you know, I
Speaker 1: don't know how long life will have me. And so
Speaker 1: while I'm here, I still look after my family, I
Speaker 1: still look after my friends. I look after y'all, you know,
Speaker 1: through financial education and otherwise. But while I'm here, I'm
Speaker 1: also going to look after myself because we are deserving
Speaker 1: of that too. That I too am part of the community.
Speaker 1: As doctor Green, my therapist always reminds me. While we
Speaker 1: were looking after the community, Tiffany, remember that you are
Speaker 1: also part of the community. So if you need that
Speaker 1: reminder from me and doctor Green, you are also part
Speaker 1: of the community. You are worthy and deserving of all
Speaker 1: the good things. Well that's today's episode, but don't forget
Speaker 1: we have BAQA that will be on Friday. Until then,
Speaker 1: love y'all. Bye,