WEBVTT - Community Equals Connection 0:00:04.880 --> 0:00:20.240 Hey, hey, hey, we're back. We're black, were brown ambition, ambition, ambition, ambition, ambition. 0:00:21.320 --> 0:00:27.800 It's me, Tiffany. I'm here flying solo solo. Manny will 0:00:27.800 --> 0:00:30.800 be back. She's just navigating some family stuff, but she 0:00:30.840 --> 0:00:33.800 will be back and black and a neverhunting. But while 0:00:33.840 --> 0:00:38.599 she's going, let me act bad. Oh. If you are 0:00:38.680 --> 0:00:43.120 new to the shows, show, we talk about money, personal 0:00:43.159 --> 0:00:47.040 finance and lifting this brown skin in our brown lives, okay, 0:00:48.040 --> 0:00:51.239 in business. So I wanted to kind of give you 0:00:51.280 --> 0:00:53.120 like a rundown of Like, so y'all know, I went 0:00:53.159 --> 0:00:54.960 on vacation. I don't know if you know, but I did. 0:00:55.640 --> 0:00:58.480 And every quarter I try to take about a month off. 0:00:58.520 --> 0:01:01.600 So February I've been taking pretty light. And I just 0:01:01.640 --> 0:01:06.640 got back yesterday from Dubai and Tanzania or Tanzania dependent 0:01:06.720 --> 0:01:08.800 if you want to get well. Actually, I would say 0:01:09.520 --> 0:01:12.000 I didn't go to mainland Tanzania. I went to Zanzibar, 0:01:12.040 --> 0:01:15.160 which is still part of Tanzania, and it was amazing 0:01:15.280 --> 0:01:17.080 and I learned some amazing lessons that I wanted to 0:01:17.080 --> 0:01:19.720 share with you. Actually, I think I want to call 0:01:20.640 --> 0:01:25.319 this episode It's all about the Community, Baby, because that 0:01:25.560 --> 0:01:28.160 was the reason why I initially went to Dubai. So 0:01:28.720 --> 0:01:33.680 some months ago or some weeks ago, I had prayed 0:01:33.720 --> 0:01:35.959 and said, hey, you know, I've got such good family 0:01:36.000 --> 0:01:37.800 and friends and people that I care about in my 0:01:38.200 --> 0:01:41.520 kind of like personal community, but I had not done 0:01:41.560 --> 0:01:44.920 the work to develop a professional community, if you will. 0:01:45.400 --> 0:01:48.680 And I'm realizing all things community is critical. Like me 0:01:48.920 --> 0:01:50.840 and our producer in Minding, she and I were just 0:01:50.880 --> 0:01:53.800 talking about like getting cue leaning into our feminine and 0:01:53.840 --> 0:01:56.800 I was like, girl, I got my lash. Lady, Hey, 0:01:56.920 --> 0:02:00.440 Jessica a Springfield spa in Springfield, New Jury. I mean 0:02:00.520 --> 0:02:02.920 the lastes be lashing, not too much. Jessicause is a 0:02:03.000 --> 0:02:05.320 queen of natural lash. So if you're watching me on video, 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:07.920 you're like, she got lashes on exactly. I woke up 0:02:07.960 --> 0:02:10.360 like this as far as you know, right, and then 0:02:10.400 --> 0:02:12.360 I got my brow. Lady, you already know I love. 0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:17.120 Oh where's Sarah from Pharah of whole splash of what 0:02:17.200 --> 0:02:19.480 this guy gotta shot her out? She's a sister and 0:02:19.560 --> 0:02:24.200 she is amazing, and oh what is Sarah's I gotta 0:02:24.200 --> 0:02:26.760 find it because she I like to shot Pharah out? 0:02:26.880 --> 0:02:31.200 Oh secret to plush right, So she's right here and 0:02:31.320 --> 0:02:33.560 is that Newark. I think that's New Work's secret of Plush. 0:02:33.680 --> 0:02:37.040 Her name is Sarah. Don't nobody do brows like Pharah. 0:02:37.200 --> 0:02:40.519 If you when you find someone in your community of 0:02:40.560 --> 0:02:43.120 people that you know, keep up your physical upkeep, like 0:02:43.160 --> 0:02:45.200 you know how men are with their barbers. When you 0:02:45.280 --> 0:02:48.640 find someone who not only does the thing, but also 0:02:48.840 --> 0:02:50.760 loves to do the thing, and then on top of that, 0:02:50.960 --> 0:02:52.640 educates about the thing, that's how you know you found 0:02:52.639 --> 0:02:55.000 a winter rent a chicken dinner, honey. So I'll be 0:02:55.040 --> 0:02:58.000 talking about secrets to Plush and Pharah because I want 0:02:58.000 --> 0:03:01.040 her to stay open, okay, because I need these brows done, 0:03:01.120 --> 0:03:02.960 Don't nobody. I have never had my brows done like 0:03:02.960 --> 0:03:05.239 this before. I've been going to the same lady Lisa 0:03:05.960 --> 0:03:08.400 and a nail salon since I was fourteen years old 0:03:08.639 --> 0:03:10.960 in Plainfield, New Jersey. Shout out to Nails three thousand. 0:03:11.160 --> 0:03:13.200 But anybody trying to drive forty five minutes all the 0:03:13.200 --> 0:03:15.520 way the plain Field to get their brows done and 0:03:15.560 --> 0:03:18.680 to get cussed out in Chinese cat Lisa, that's my 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:20.200 own girl, But she'd be cussing me out because I 0:03:20.200 --> 0:03:23.160 would take so long. If farre is super closed. But 0:03:23.440 --> 0:03:25.440 also it's nice to support like a black woman own 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:29.160 business and secrets. And plus she's just really kind, really nice, 0:03:29.200 --> 0:03:32.680 does a great job. Sore on the brows. My skin 0:03:32.760 --> 0:03:37.760 been skinning lately, Okay, go ahead all over to YouTube 0:03:38.120 --> 0:03:43.080 and so like, I just been taking care of my skin, okay, 0:03:43.560 --> 0:03:44.920 And if you're watching now, it looks like I cut 0:03:44.920 --> 0:03:46.920 my hair. I did not. For the first time, I 0:03:46.960 --> 0:03:51.600 am trying something called what are those things called the 0:03:51.640 --> 0:03:54.320 pipe cleaner curls because one thing I learned because I 0:03:54.320 --> 0:03:58.400 have a naturally long, beautiful face and with a long face, 0:03:58.480 --> 0:04:01.600 I learned from the YouTube girlies that long hair sometimes 0:04:01.680 --> 0:04:04.560 elongates your face is not as flattering. So instead I 0:04:04.640 --> 0:04:07.360 learned that like ooh, hair up, which you guys see 0:04:07.400 --> 0:04:10.160 me put my hair up a lot, or hair big 0:04:10.560 --> 0:04:13.080 to give you volume, actually is more flattering. I was 0:04:13.120 --> 0:04:17.279 like em. And so another part of my beauty community, Leela, 0:04:17.360 --> 0:04:21.599 who does my beat whenever I'm on TV. Leila Nima, 0:04:21.680 --> 0:04:24.040 also does hair. So she came to my house before 0:04:24.040 --> 0:04:26.640 I left for vacation put the pipe cleaner. I bought 0:04:26.640 --> 0:04:29.560 some black pipe cleaners off of Amazon. She put them in. 0:04:29.600 --> 0:04:32.560 So I'm walking like the little Literally they're almost like enrollers, 0:04:32.560 --> 0:04:34.400 but it looks really cute and then I'm gonna take 0:04:34.440 --> 0:04:37.000 them out tomorrow or she gonna because I'm speaking at 0:04:37.000 --> 0:04:41.200 a meta event meta as in Facebook International Women's Day Breakfast, 0:04:41.240 --> 0:04:44.200 so they want me to speak, okay, and so she's 0:04:44.200 --> 0:04:45.719 gonna take my curls out and do my face for 0:04:45.760 --> 0:04:47.680 that event. So I just heare all that to say 0:04:47.680 --> 0:04:51.360 that in all areas, having community is critical. That as 0:04:51.440 --> 0:04:54.760 y'all know, I'm leaning into my feminine even more and 0:04:55.400 --> 0:04:58.080 or just in general because I could be rough and 0:04:58.080 --> 0:05:00.800 tumple tom boy, and so I have I gathered a 0:05:00.880 --> 0:05:04.200 community of people that I lean into for I just 0:05:04.400 --> 0:05:05.800 someone hit me the other day was like, I'd love 0:05:05.800 --> 0:05:07.560 to do your nails. I see you never have them done. 0:05:07.640 --> 0:05:10.480 I was like, first of all, shady, but you're right, 0:05:10.520 --> 0:05:14.560 I don't. So I had them done now, thanks girl. 0:05:15.760 --> 0:05:18.440 So community in all areas of your life is important. 0:05:18.640 --> 0:05:21.080 So all I've been really good for the last few 0:05:21.160 --> 0:05:25.040 years of the community of my sisters and staying connected there. 0:05:25.080 --> 0:05:27.279 You know, I have four sisters, my parents who are 0:05:27.360 --> 0:05:30.880 called regularly my neighbors, Like this morning before I went 0:05:30.880 --> 0:05:33.919 for my walk, like sometimes after trash day. You know 0:05:34.000 --> 0:05:36.839 how like sometimes there's just garbage on the street because 0:05:38.279 --> 0:05:41.400 your garbage can is knocked over, and just like I 0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:42.919 hate that look. I don't want to come home and 0:05:42.960 --> 0:05:46.320 see not a piece of straw on the ground. So 0:05:46.440 --> 0:05:48.279 I woke up this morning and I cleaned the front 0:05:48.279 --> 0:05:50.480 of my house, my neighbor's house and house across the 0:05:50.480 --> 0:05:53.680 street and put some gloves on because that's part of community. 0:05:54.120 --> 0:05:57.159 And it is not possible, especially in this day and age, 0:05:57.160 --> 0:05:59.760 to navigate without community. And so that's what brought me 0:05:59.800 --> 0:06:01.920 to do by because I said, I prayed that I 0:06:01.960 --> 0:06:05.279 want professional community because I've got my beauty community, I've 0:06:05.320 --> 0:06:10.000 got my personal community, my family community, but I didn't 0:06:10.040 --> 0:06:12.719 really have people in the professional space that I could 0:06:12.720 --> 0:06:14.120 really go to like I used to. I mean, I 0:06:14.200 --> 0:06:19.080 certainly have some mentors, but community community. And I had 0:06:19.120 --> 0:06:24.640 my first Mastermind session at my friend's house in Dallas. 0:06:24.760 --> 0:06:27.279 She's been very successful in business, and it was like 0:06:27.320 --> 0:06:30.400 a black girl business session. Is six of us. Let 0:06:30.440 --> 0:06:32.440 me see, I'm not gonna name names because I don't 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:35.280 know everybody wants to be named. So I'm like r 0:06:35.520 --> 0:06:40.880 D D T me T. I feel like I'm missing 0:06:40.880 --> 0:06:42.760 somebody else. So yeah, I want to say, oh an, 0:06:42.880 --> 0:06:46.120 m okay, so five success seven of us. So seven 0:06:46.560 --> 0:06:49.200 dope black girls, some of them in the financial space, 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:51.680 some of them not who've been slaying. And it was 0:06:51.800 --> 0:06:55.080 just it was awesome because no one understands you in 0:06:55.120 --> 0:06:58.240 business like a sister who's also in business. I mean, 0:06:58.320 --> 0:07:01.440 we shared everything from like what's going right in business, 0:07:01.440 --> 0:07:04.320 what's going wrong, but also our personal lives, the things 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:08.320 that we're wanting for ourselves as women, as mothers, as wives, 0:07:08.120 --> 0:07:10.720 as everything. It was just amazing. I did that in 0:07:10.800 --> 0:07:14.400 Dallas in January December, and it totally changed the trajectory 0:07:14.640 --> 0:07:17.000 of how I look at my business and even myself. 0:07:18.560 --> 0:07:21.760 Some of the advice they gave me has just shifted 0:07:21.760 --> 0:07:24.880 me and my business dramatically in a way that's so 0:07:25.160 --> 0:07:29.440 positive and upflifting. I'm excited about. And then as results 0:07:29.480 --> 0:07:32.120 of meeting up with those women in December, one of 0:07:32.120 --> 0:07:35.760 those women had had a conference in January and Puerto 0:07:35.840 --> 0:07:38.240 Rico and she said come and so she was like, 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:39.840 you got worried about like me and all this conference 0:07:39.880 --> 0:07:42.120 course cooling. She said, you got worried about all that, 0:07:42.200 --> 0:07:44.520 Just get yourself down to Puerto Rico. So I flew 0:07:44.520 --> 0:07:46.880 to Puerto Rico. Some other of the women from the 0:07:46.920 --> 0:07:50.800 Black Girl we actually call ourselves. We called the Bad 0:07:50.800 --> 0:07:53.320 Bitch Collective. I think the Bad Bitch collected something like that, 0:07:53.840 --> 0:07:57.640 and so we have like a text group and everything, 0:07:57.720 --> 0:08:00.480 and so some of us came down to support her 0:08:00.760 --> 0:08:07.000 her conference. It was amazing. I met even more amazing people, 0:08:07.240 --> 0:08:09.920 two of which I'm hiring to do some like business 0:08:09.920 --> 0:08:11.920 things for me that I've been looking for, and so 0:08:11.920 --> 0:08:14.280 it was amazing to support her, but also it was 0:08:14.320 --> 0:08:17.480 amazing to enhance my community with other women. So that 0:08:17.640 --> 0:08:20.080 was awesome. And then I got an invite to go 0:08:20.120 --> 0:08:22.720 to Dubai for another Mastermind. And at first I didn't 0:08:22.720 --> 0:08:24.559 want to go to Dubai because y'all know, I didn't 0:08:24.560 --> 0:08:26.920 have the greatest time the first time went a year 0:08:27.000 --> 0:08:30.880 or so ago for my sister's birthday. But I decided, well, 0:08:30.920 --> 0:08:33.679 I'm not going, you know, for partying. We're going to Mastermind. 0:08:34.200 --> 0:08:37.520 And it was really interesting because it wasn't black women. 0:08:38.040 --> 0:08:40.120 There was one black women there, but it was a 0:08:40.160 --> 0:08:43.040 wider swathe. Like the woman who invited us, she's Japanese. 0:08:43.360 --> 0:08:46.960 One of the most follow up people on TikTok on 0:08:47.040 --> 0:08:52.640 comes to personal finance. I'm trying to think Ali he's Pakistani. 0:08:53.120 --> 0:08:57.280 Other one was Chinese herself. Another person he's I think 0:08:57.320 --> 0:09:01.400 Carlos is Latina. So it was an amazing group, a 0:09:01.600 --> 0:09:09.040 mixed like group of very successful entrepreneurs and to be 0:09:09.120 --> 0:09:12.439 able to kind of learn from them. So I learned 0:09:12.480 --> 0:09:14.640 a lot about some things that I could be doing better. 0:09:14.800 --> 0:09:16.600 But also it was a great highlight to see how 0:09:16.640 --> 0:09:19.520 well I was doing, because sometimes you don't know, and 0:09:19.720 --> 0:09:22.160 just to hear how they were blown away by some 0:09:22.200 --> 0:09:24.480 of the things I'd accomplished. Because there's some of the 0:09:24.480 --> 0:09:26.480 biggest in their space. You know, if I said their name, 0:09:26.559 --> 0:09:29.480 you'd be like, what you know? And so to hear 0:09:29.520 --> 0:09:32.640 that they were like, wait whatan that's incredible. I'm like, okay, 0:09:33.160 --> 0:09:36.040 my numbers are incredible, but your numbers are incredible too. 0:09:36.360 --> 0:09:40.439 So it was just really amazing to each of these masterminds. 0:09:41.040 --> 0:09:43.319 It was two ways. One, I love the fact that 0:09:43.360 --> 0:09:46.520 they were free. I had never paid for a mastermind. 0:09:46.559 --> 0:09:48.280 I'm not opposed to it, but a lot of folks 0:09:48.320 --> 0:09:50.920 there had paid for masterminds up to sixty thousand dollars, 0:09:51.120 --> 0:09:54.320 and they said like this is way better, you know 0:09:54.520 --> 0:09:56.840 than the paid masterminds that they've been a part of. 0:09:57.400 --> 0:10:00.000 And so what I loved about these masterminds is usually 0:10:00.200 --> 0:10:02.679 for both of them, day one, it's the day that 0:10:02.720 --> 0:10:05.320 you give here is what I know, This is what 0:10:05.360 --> 0:10:07.400 I can teach you. And so I taught how to 0:10:07.400 --> 0:10:09.520 build community, you know, because you know I have my 0:10:09.600 --> 0:10:12.439 dream catchers, and how to build and monetize your community 0:10:12.520 --> 0:10:16.120 ethically and with integrity. So that's what I taught. And 0:10:16.160 --> 0:10:18.480 then on the second day, you got to say, here's 0:10:18.480 --> 0:10:20.960 where I'm struggling, and they got to pour into you 0:10:21.040 --> 0:10:23.880 to give you their tools, tips and resources about what 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:25.760 you can do to make things better, I mean, And 0:10:26.440 --> 0:10:28.520 some of the feedback I got was just so incredible. 0:10:28.559 --> 0:10:30.800 I was literally talking to my team today excitedly, like, Yo, 0:10:30.800 --> 0:10:33.720 we're switching up all these things and to take our 0:10:33.760 --> 0:10:36.640 business to the next level. And so I just share 0:10:36.679 --> 0:10:40.760 all that to say that you only can know and 0:10:40.880 --> 0:10:44.199 do what you know how to know and do, and 0:10:45.320 --> 0:10:49.640 sometimes what you've been really good at is no longer 0:10:49.679 --> 0:10:52.960 good to the world, meaning like you might do business, 0:10:53.200 --> 0:10:56.440 or you might in your job, or even skincare or 0:10:56.480 --> 0:10:59.480 health care, whatever it is that it worked once upon 0:10:59.559 --> 0:11:02.240 a time, but you got stuck there, and I know 0:11:02.360 --> 0:11:04.920 I have and so many of us have. And you 0:11:05.000 --> 0:11:07.960 become good at a bad thing? Did you do what 0:11:08.000 --> 0:11:13.319 I said? You become good at a bad thing? And 0:11:13.559 --> 0:11:17.360 I was getting really good because I work hard at 0:11:17.440 --> 0:11:20.400 bad things and bad not as in judgment bad, but 0:11:20.480 --> 0:11:23.760 as in not effective. You know, Like when I was 0:11:23.800 --> 0:11:27.280 in high school, I used to use Apricot scrub for 0:11:27.320 --> 0:11:29.600 my skin. Remember that Apricot scrub, child, That stuff used 0:11:29.640 --> 0:11:31.840 to turn your skin up. But at the time I 0:11:31.840 --> 0:11:33.719 thought I was doing like such a good job and 0:11:33.920 --> 0:11:36.280 my skin was glowing or whatever. That stuff was terrible 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:40.160 for you. But as I grew and learned, I realized, 0:11:40.240 --> 0:11:41.800 especially as you get older, you really don't want to 0:11:41.800 --> 0:11:44.360 be harsh to your skin. And so the only way 0:11:44.360 --> 0:11:46.640 for me to learn that is I had to introduce 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:49.319 a dermatologist to my team. I had to ask other 0:11:49.320 --> 0:11:51.760 people who had great skin to my team. I followed 0:11:52.040 --> 0:11:55.400 skin influencers on social media, and so I started to 0:11:55.440 --> 0:11:58.400 build my community so I can learn something new, so 0:11:58.440 --> 0:12:01.160 I can do something new. So many of us are 0:12:01.240 --> 0:12:04.040 not getting the success, whether it's the way you look, 0:12:04.640 --> 0:12:07.680 whether it's your business where you work. So many of 0:12:07.720 --> 0:12:10.560 you are stuck not because you're not hard workers. It's 0:12:10.600 --> 0:12:14.959 because you don't have any new information. You are good 0:12:15.080 --> 0:12:18.280 at the bad things, things that maybe used to be good, 0:12:18.960 --> 0:12:23.280 no longer work, no longer viable, no longer helpful. And 0:12:23.320 --> 0:12:26.160 it's not because you do anything wrong. The world evolves 0:12:26.200 --> 0:12:30.600 and changes and you need to as well. And before 0:12:30.640 --> 0:12:33.439 my husband passed away, I was really good at pre 0:12:33.559 --> 0:12:36.440 pivoting seeing like this, I'm working no more, or this 0:12:36.480 --> 0:12:38.079 is not going to work in two years, let's put 0:12:38.120 --> 0:12:40.720 in work now. But after he passed away, I'm being honest, 0:12:40.800 --> 0:12:44.800 I just was not. I just was not present in 0:12:44.840 --> 0:12:47.720 the business rightfully. So you know, I'm just kind of 0:12:47.720 --> 0:12:49.720 coming back to a place where I'm like in the 0:12:49.760 --> 0:12:54.640 business now. And so normally it wouldn't have gone this far, 0:12:55.320 --> 0:12:57.240 like as far as like my business being really good 0:12:57.240 --> 0:12:59.280 at bad things, because I would have picked up on 0:12:59.320 --> 0:13:01.560 it sooner and pivoted. But I did it. But so 0:13:01.640 --> 0:13:06.000 here we are. And but as a result, I have 0:13:06.200 --> 0:13:08.600 done as much as I know how to do, and 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:11.920 so I realized it is beyond what I know to do. 0:13:12.679 --> 0:13:15.720 It is let me ask for advice from people who 0:13:15.760 --> 0:13:20.680 are doing, you know, and inject new ideas, new thoughts, 0:13:20.800 --> 0:13:23.720 new ways, so I could become good at good things. Again, 0:13:24.160 --> 0:13:27.520 does that make sense? I just think about that, like 0:13:27.600 --> 0:13:29.600 in all areas, like the way I used to do 0:13:29.640 --> 0:13:32.440 my brows before. I remember, like I used to be 0:13:32.520 --> 0:13:35.280 really passive in so many areas of my life, certainly 0:13:35.280 --> 0:13:37.800 not in business. But I'll give you like a beauty example, right, 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:41.719 So I was like passive in like my brows. I 0:13:41.760 --> 0:13:43.240 would get them done. They would look cute for a 0:13:43.240 --> 0:13:45.040 week and then start to look raggedy, and then after 0:13:45.200 --> 0:13:48.440 two weeks you get them done. Then one day I said, Tiffany, 0:13:48.480 --> 0:13:50.760 why don't you ask Pharah what is it that thing 0:13:50.760 --> 0:13:52.679 that you use in my brows? And She's like, oh, 0:13:52.679 --> 0:13:55.520 this is a penzil, this is the gel, this is 0:13:55.520 --> 0:13:58.840 the So all of a sudden, no, I'm not doing 0:13:58.880 --> 0:14:01.480 my own brows, but I would able to maintain and 0:14:01.720 --> 0:14:05.400 upkeep them longer so they look like how Farah had 0:14:05.400 --> 0:14:08.880 done them longer, just by asking what are you doing? Sis? 0:14:09.640 --> 0:14:12.880 Who are you using? Okay, I just I mean in 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:16.280 all areas, you know, so many times we don't ask 0:14:16.320 --> 0:14:19.600 those questions, how did you do that? What are you doing? 0:14:20.280 --> 0:14:23.320 You know? You know, what should I be doing? What 0:14:23.360 --> 0:14:25.880 are your thoughts. You know, what are you reading, what 0:14:25.920 --> 0:14:29.360 podcasts are you listening to? How are you bringing in 0:14:29.680 --> 0:14:33.600 new thoughts or ideas into your life? You know, everything 0:14:33.720 --> 0:14:36.600 from lashes right, Like I was going to this last 0:14:36.840 --> 0:14:38.880 that I really love it. I asked Leela who does 0:14:38.920 --> 0:14:41.200 my face? And she said, you know whose lashes are 0:14:41.200 --> 0:14:43.960 actually really nice? I said who? She said, Alissa. Now 0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:45.880 if y'all know all listen, is my seventeen year old 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:49.960 sassy pants stepdaughter. And I was like really last, She's like, yeah, 0:14:50.000 --> 0:14:52.120 I did, because Alyssa had asked me. She said, Tippy, 0:14:52.320 --> 0:14:54.040 I want to. She wanted to do her senior pictures 0:14:54.040 --> 0:14:56.080 and she wanted to get her makeup done and I 0:14:56.080 --> 0:14:58.280 said okay, and she asked Leela could do it? Aka, 0:14:58.360 --> 0:15:00.280 Can I pay for it? And I said, of course. 0:15:00.720 --> 0:15:03.920 Plus I knew Leela is. She knew I'd rather Leila 0:15:04.040 --> 0:15:07.760 do Alyssa's makeup because she knows that have her look 0:15:07.840 --> 0:15:09.920 like the seventeen year old beautiful girl. She is not 0:15:10.040 --> 0:15:13.520 like some grown woman so light because Alyssa's beautiful anyway, right, 0:15:13.600 --> 0:15:15.720 she don't need all that? But I said sure. So 0:15:15.920 --> 0:15:18.240 she came to the house. Lida had done her makeup. 0:15:18.360 --> 0:15:21.360 I guess Leila had seen how like Alyssa gets lashes 0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:24.280 because you know, she's seventeen going on forty five, but 0:15:24.280 --> 0:15:26.400 they're natural looking. And I didn't even know she was 0:15:26.400 --> 0:15:29.200 getting lashes uptown natural And Leila said, you know, Alisa 0:15:29.240 --> 0:15:31.480 gets lashes and I can tell by who's doing them 0:15:31.720 --> 0:15:34.600 that they know what they're doing. And I was like, really, 0:15:34.960 --> 0:15:36.960 but I could not have known that because when I 0:15:36.960 --> 0:15:38.920 didn't know and Listen was doing last, had I not 0:15:39.080 --> 0:15:43.680 asked Leela, Hey, I'm struggling with getting the right natural 0:15:43.760 --> 0:15:49.000 looking lash. Any suggestions, she said, Ask Alissa, I asked 0:15:49.040 --> 0:15:51.400 a list. Of course Alyiza knows, she said, ask my mama. 0:15:51.480 --> 0:15:53.000 So I hit up Sean Tables, Like, girl, where did 0:15:53.000 --> 0:15:54.800 you take a listen to get her lashes? She told 0:15:54.800 --> 0:15:58.120 me Springfield spog Or hit up Jessica in Springfield, New Jersey. 0:15:58.160 --> 0:16:01.600 There was a group on and I did it, honey, 0:16:02.440 --> 0:16:04.480 like I love it. I mean, I don't want stuff 0:16:04.480 --> 0:16:06.840 of love with gas slashes. I want you to be like, 0:16:06.880 --> 0:16:13.440 are those herbs exactly? Exactly? So if you are feeling stuck, 0:16:14.200 --> 0:16:16.280 if you are like I don't know the way to go, 0:16:16.720 --> 0:16:21.360 it means that you have maximized your options based upon 0:16:21.520 --> 0:16:25.160 your current library of knowledge. There's nothing wrong with that, 0:16:25.640 --> 0:16:29.440 great congratulations. It means you have to introduce new books, 0:16:29.800 --> 0:16:34.960 new thoughts, new theories into your circle so you can 0:16:35.080 --> 0:16:39.560 do something new. Ask The question hasis what are you 0:16:39.680 --> 0:16:43.120 for your skin? Hasis what podcasts are you listen to 0:16:43.160 --> 0:16:46.160 that really transformed the way you did your business? Hasis 0:16:46.360 --> 0:16:50.240 what books are you reading that help with your relationship? Hey? Bro? 0:16:50.800 --> 0:16:53.040 You know, like, you know, how did you get your 0:16:53.040 --> 0:16:55.760 back like that? You know what exercises the gym are 0:16:55.760 --> 0:17:00.760 you using? You know? Are you asking for like more 0:17:00.880 --> 0:17:05.320 information so you can act upon this new stuff. So 0:17:05.520 --> 0:17:07.479 the other day I had like this like aha moment 0:17:07.680 --> 0:17:10.680 when I thought to myself, I said, because, like I said, 0:17:10.680 --> 0:17:12.840 I went to Dubai. I went to this mastermind. It 0:17:12.880 --> 0:17:14.280 was only like two or three days. And I said, 0:17:14.280 --> 0:17:16.000 I'm not flying all the way to Dubai for two 0:17:16.080 --> 0:17:18.560 or three days, you thought. So my friend who came 0:17:18.600 --> 0:17:20.760 with me, well, she was there because she's friends with 0:17:20.800 --> 0:17:23.600 the woman who hosted the mastermind. She said she was 0:17:23.640 --> 0:17:25.720 going to go someplace after I said, girl, I'll roll 0:17:25.720 --> 0:17:28.160 with you wherever that is. So we went back and forth, 0:17:28.200 --> 0:17:32.520 maybe Singapore, maybe Rwanda, and we decided on Zanzibar, which 0:17:32.600 --> 0:17:36.479 is an island right outside of Tanzania. So Zanza Bar 0:17:36.600 --> 0:17:38.520 is part of Tanzania, but it used to be two separate. 0:17:38.560 --> 0:17:40.600 It used to be Tanka, Nika and Zanza Bar. And 0:17:40.640 --> 0:17:44.280 then they, the presidents of those two countries, sat down 0:17:44.280 --> 0:17:47.920 and said let's be one. And so anyway, Zanzibar is 0:17:47.960 --> 0:17:52.560 an island right outside of mainland Tanzania and a friend 0:17:52.560 --> 0:17:56.480 of mine. Again I reached out to my community. I said, hey, Avida, 0:17:56.560 --> 0:17:59.720 she owns a company called No Madness, which is a 0:18:00.040 --> 0:18:03.119 She is the grandmother of black travel and so No 0:18:03.200 --> 0:18:07.840 Madness not just black people weren't traveling before, but she 0:18:08.080 --> 0:18:10.280 started No Madness right when social media was becoming a 0:18:10.280 --> 0:18:14.080 thing and really helped to elevate and expose black travel 0:18:14.200 --> 0:18:17.720 for the amazing opportunity that it was. So anyway, I 0:18:17.800 --> 0:18:20.760 called a vita because community, I said, why should I 0:18:20.800 --> 0:18:23.240 figure this out myself? Girl Avida literally does this for 0:18:23.280 --> 0:18:25.399 a living. And I said where should I go? She 0:18:25.480 --> 0:18:30.320 said maybe Thailand Rwanda than Zanza Bar. And she gave 0:18:30.400 --> 0:18:34.080 me like these voice notes explaining each place and what 0:18:34.119 --> 0:18:36.159 I can expect. I was like, this is great. So 0:18:36.200 --> 0:18:37.760 I hit up my friend who I was traveling with. 0:18:37.800 --> 0:18:39.800 I said, here are the three places that my friend 0:18:39.800 --> 0:18:43.960 A Vita suggested, and she said, let's do Zanzabar because 0:18:44.000 --> 0:18:45.880 it's very beachy. And I said, okay, let's do that, 0:18:46.400 --> 0:18:50.000 and we went to Zanzabar again. The beautiful thing about 0:18:50.000 --> 0:18:54.160 community is not just the knowledge, but the connection. Avida said, 0:18:54.760 --> 0:18:57.400 let me connect you to my girl homegirl that lives 0:18:57.440 --> 0:19:01.440 in Zanzibar. I said, okay, Avida, send the WhatsApp message 0:19:01.480 --> 0:19:05.560 between me and this girl named Justa, another sister, and 0:19:05.640 --> 0:19:09.879 she said, this is Justa's website curious on Tanzania. And 0:19:09.920 --> 0:19:12.160 I said, wait a minute, that looks familiar. I went 0:19:12.200 --> 0:19:15.040 to the website. I said, I remember this lady I 0:19:15.080 --> 0:19:18.159 met Justa some years ago. She had to pop up 0:19:18.200 --> 0:19:21.120 shop in Brooklyn and I bought some African print clothing 0:19:21.600 --> 0:19:24.000 and if I remember, we took a picture Chaw. I 0:19:24.160 --> 0:19:27.840 ran to the Googles, my Google Photos typed in African 0:19:27.840 --> 0:19:32.439 print clothing two thousand and thirteen. I have a picture 0:19:32.480 --> 0:19:35.479 of me Justa and I don't know her niece or nephew, 0:19:35.880 --> 0:19:39.159 and like taking a picture inside her apartment. I posted 0:19:39.200 --> 0:19:41.399 in the WhatsApp group. I said, oh my gosh, justa 0:19:41.480 --> 0:19:42.760 I don't know if you remember me, but I came 0:19:42.800 --> 0:19:45.480 to your house ten years ago, over ten years ago, 0:19:46.000 --> 0:19:48.919 and I told you I remember now. I told you 0:19:48.960 --> 0:19:50.600 I was going to come to Tanzania. She said, you 0:19:50.640 --> 0:19:53.119 know what she said, She said, Tiffany. I was just 0:19:53.160 --> 0:19:55.960 typing this to a Vida separately outside of this group chat. 0:19:56.200 --> 0:19:59.480 She said, Avida, I love Tiffany. She won't remember me, 0:20:00.000 --> 0:20:02.600 but years some years ago she came to my apartment 0:20:02.800 --> 0:20:05.840 for a pop up and she told me. She was 0:20:05.840 --> 0:20:07.880 wearing her green bracelets and told me that one day 0:20:07.880 --> 0:20:10.280 she was going to be big and certain personal finance. 0:20:10.880 --> 0:20:14.280 And you look at she's done it. And she said, 0:20:14.320 --> 0:20:15.960 and here you are. Not only do you remember me, 0:20:16.119 --> 0:20:18.600 but you came with receipts with this picture. So it 0:20:18.680 --> 0:20:22.119 was so wonderful. Just within a couple of days, planned 0:20:22.160 --> 0:20:26.119 a whole Zanza bar itinerary for myself and my friend. 0:20:26.600 --> 0:20:29.760 We stayed in Stonetown at the Park Hyatt, which is 0:20:29.760 --> 0:20:32.399 this luxurious hotel in the middle of town by all 0:20:32.440 --> 0:20:35.720 the markets and food and whatever, and then we drove 0:20:35.800 --> 0:20:38.440 to I don't even know, like what that part of 0:20:39.040 --> 0:20:42.760 Zanzibar's carter, but Stonetown is like in a town, the city, 0:20:42.800 --> 0:20:45.280 if you will. And then we stayed there one night 0:20:45.320 --> 0:20:48.200 and then two nights, and the most luxurious it's called 0:20:48.240 --> 0:20:51.200 the Zawabi I think it was called hotel. There's only 0:20:51.280 --> 0:20:55.200 twelve bungalows and so my friend had one, I had one, 0:20:55.240 --> 0:20:58.200 and then you know, the ten other ones were rented out, 0:20:58.200 --> 0:21:02.040 I guess. So the serve impeccable, every server near your name, 0:21:02.800 --> 0:21:06.439