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Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, we're back. We're black, were brown ambition, ambition, ambition, ambition, ambition.

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Speaker 1: It's me, Tiffany. I'm here flying solo solo. Manny will

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Speaker 1: be back. She's just navigating some family stuff, but she

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Speaker 1: will be back and black and a neverhunting. But while

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Speaker 1: she's going, let me act bad. Oh. If you are

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Speaker 1: new to the shows, show, we talk about money, personal

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Speaker 1: finance and lifting this brown skin in our brown lives, okay,

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Speaker 1: in business. So I wanted to kind of give you

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Speaker 1: on vacation. I don't know if you know, but I did.

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Speaker 1: And every quarter I try to take about a month off.

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Speaker 1: So February I've been taking pretty light. And I just

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Speaker 1: got back yesterday from Dubai and Tanzania or Tanzania dependent

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Speaker 1: I didn't go to mainland Tanzania. I went to Zanzibar,

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Speaker 1: and I learned some amazing lessons that I wanted to

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Speaker 1: share with you. Actually, I think I want to call

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Speaker 1: this episode It's all about the Community, Baby, because that

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Speaker 1: was the reason why I initially went to Dubai. So

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Speaker 1: some months ago or some weeks ago, I had prayed

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Speaker 1: and said, hey, you know, I've got such good family

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Speaker 1: And I'm realizing all things community is critical. Like me

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Speaker 1: I was like, girl, I got my lash. Lady, Hey,

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Speaker 1: I got my brow. Lady, you already know I love.

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Speaker 1: Oh where's Sarah from Pharah of whole splash of what

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Speaker 1: Her name is Sarah. Don't nobody do brows like Pharah.

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Speaker 1: If you when you find someone in your community of

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Speaker 1: Don't nobody. I have never had my brows done like

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Speaker 1: If you ever think about thinking about going to Tanzania

426
00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:29,400
Speaker 1: or a Zanzabar curious on Tanzania. She's on ig as well.

427
00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:31,280
Speaker 1: But also I think that's her website shout out to

428
00:22:31,480 --> 00:22:37,000
Speaker 1: justa another sister. Amazing. I just want us to understand that,

429
00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:42,959
Speaker 1: like it is not possible to navigate this world successfully alone.

430
00:22:43,920 --> 00:22:46,280
Speaker 1: I had this aha moment when I realized is that

431
00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:50,480
Speaker 1: there are people who live in the studio apartment of

432
00:22:50,520 --> 00:22:53,000
Speaker 1: their life in their head, you know, what I mean,

433
00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:56,080
Speaker 1: meaning that like this limiting belief is like not me

434
00:22:56,720 --> 00:22:58,399
Speaker 1: my skin, this is just how my skin is. My

435
00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:01,040
Speaker 1: mama's skin is like this. Oh you know, like this

436
00:23:01,119 --> 00:23:03,320
Speaker 1: is the size I am. You know I've been tried

437
00:23:03,320 --> 00:23:06,400
Speaker 1: to lose weight, or like, oh my hair just doesn't grow,

438
00:23:06,840 --> 00:23:08,520
Speaker 1: you know, like I have four seeds, so my hair

439
00:23:08,560 --> 00:23:11,000
Speaker 1: grows out. It'd be very easy for me must say,

440
00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:13,359
Speaker 1: oh my haircrone, grow long. Meanwhile, my hair is the

441
00:23:13,359 --> 00:23:16,240
Speaker 1: middle of my back. Now, you know, like we live

442
00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:23,520
Speaker 1: in this studio like apartment version of our life of limitations,

443
00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:26,760
Speaker 1: and you are arguing for your own limitations and winning

444
00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:29,200
Speaker 1: because you always gonna win the argument when you argue

445
00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:32,920
Speaker 1: for your own limitations. And then there are some people who,

446
00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:39,040
Speaker 1: by luck or advocacy for themselves say maybe there is more,

447
00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:41,800
Speaker 1: Maybe there is a one bedroom of life I can

448
00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:44,560
Speaker 1: live in. And they get to the one bedroom they're like, oh,

449
00:23:45,200 --> 00:23:47,360
Speaker 1: this is available to me, and maybe there's a two

450
00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 1: bedroom of life. There are some people who are living

451
00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:53,840
Speaker 1: in the mansion of life, like the fullness of what

452
00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:58,200
Speaker 1: life has to offer, from love to health, to wealth,

453
00:23:58,640 --> 00:24:03,000
Speaker 1: to connection to family to friends. There are people who

454
00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:06,359
Speaker 1: are living in the fullness of their life only because

455
00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:11,040
Speaker 1: they asked the questions of how and who who do

456
00:24:11,119 --> 00:24:13,840
Speaker 1: I need to lean into? My mentor said that best

457
00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:17,399
Speaker 1: Lynette cowed finding Coxy. She said, so many of us

458
00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:20,960
Speaker 1: are so stuck on Piggie, thinking that we have to

459
00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:23,359
Speaker 1: do the how all alone. And she said, it's not

460
00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:26,119
Speaker 1: so much that how, it's the who can connect us.

461
00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:31,280
Speaker 1: A Vida connected me to justa like Leela connect told

462
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:33,840
Speaker 1: me about Alyssa's last lady. Alissa told me to ask

463
00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:37,480
Speaker 1: my mama. Her mama told me, Jessica, the reason why

464
00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:40,720
Speaker 1: I found my brow Lady Pharaoh from Secret to Splash

465
00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:43,720
Speaker 1: is my sister Carol. She came to the house, her lasses,

466
00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:45,760
Speaker 1: her brows were looking amazing. We're like, where you get

467
00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:47,600
Speaker 1: Joe brows from? And she was like, oh, I found

468
00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:50,600
Speaker 1: this place on groupon you know, Secret to Plush, I

469
00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:53,639
Speaker 1: mean Secret to Plush and Pharaoh was so amazing all

470
00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:55,760
Speaker 1: of a sudden, now me, not only me, the whole neighborhood.

471
00:24:56,119 --> 00:24:58,520
Speaker 1: We all go. All the ladies in the neighborhood that

472
00:24:58,560 --> 00:24:59,840
Speaker 1: we all hang out with, we all go to Phara

473
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:02,879
Speaker 1: now you know. And I just love that that like

474
00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:06,920
Speaker 1: community equals connection. When I first got on TV for

475
00:25:07,000 --> 00:25:09,160
Speaker 1: the first time. You know, I had never I didn't

476
00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:12,639
Speaker 1: know how to get on TV. Literally, Lynette was like

477
00:25:13,400 --> 00:25:15,719
Speaker 1: my mentor. She was giving me a ride home from

478
00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:17,440
Speaker 1: this event. She said, have you ever been on TV?

479
00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:19,800
Speaker 1: I said no. She made a phone call to a

480
00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 1: producer at Picks eleven and said, hey, I know. I

481
00:25:22,800 --> 00:25:24,200
Speaker 1: said I was going to come on next week, but

482
00:25:24,240 --> 00:25:26,280
Speaker 1: I have somebody who should come on instead. Her name

483
00:25:26,400 --> 00:25:29,920
Speaker 1: is Tiffany, the producer because it was her and Lynette

484
00:25:29,920 --> 00:25:32,040
Speaker 1: had been doing TV for many, many years, said okay,

485
00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:36,600
Speaker 1: and then she coached me that is a who, not

486
00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:42,320
Speaker 1: a how. And so we are not meant to navigate

487
00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:48,159
Speaker 1: the challenges by ourselves, not financially, not personally, not anything.

488
00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:53,120
Speaker 1: We are meant to live in a collective. And if

489
00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:56,959
Speaker 1: you can't lean on your family, you could create your

490
00:25:57,040 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 1: own collective. Do you speak to your neighbors? Do you

491
00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:04,359
Speaker 1: join groups like there's a great group called Girl Trek

492
00:26:04,680 --> 00:26:07,760
Speaker 1: where women, especially black women walk every week. So you're

493
00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:10,119
Speaker 1: not going to be by yourself? Do you? Are you

494
00:26:10,240 --> 00:26:13,440
Speaker 1: a DreamCatcher? All these free groups that I have for

495
00:26:13,520 --> 00:26:17,040
Speaker 1: people who are on their financial journey, the dreamcatchersgroup dot com,

496
00:26:17,160 --> 00:26:20,359
Speaker 1: it's free. Are you there, like you don't have to

497
00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:22,879
Speaker 1: navigate this place by yourself, and you ought not to

498
00:26:23,520 --> 00:26:25,720
Speaker 1: because it's going to be through someone that you realize

499
00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:29,960
Speaker 1: that there's more available. I don't want to look at

500
00:26:30,080 --> 00:26:32,440
Speaker 1: my life when I'm eighty years old and think, wow,

501
00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:35,200
Speaker 1: I could have had more and I was too scared

502
00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:38,119
Speaker 1: or I had already I had accepted that life is

503
00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:41,639
Speaker 1: going to be less. I refuse, you know, after my

504
00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:44,440
Speaker 1: husband passed away, after Durrell died, I didn't want to

505
00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:47,800
Speaker 1: be here anymore, you know, I just was like, why

506
00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:50,399
Speaker 1: what does it all matter? It's all going to be

507
00:26:50,480 --> 00:26:55,960
Speaker 1: done anyway. And now I just realized that, like, eventually

508
00:26:56,040 --> 00:26:58,440
Speaker 1: we all do go. And I don't know when that

509
00:26:58,520 --> 00:27:00,240
Speaker 1: time is going to be for me. I don't know

510
00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:01,639
Speaker 1: what that time is going to be for you. But

511
00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:07,120
Speaker 1: in the meantime, I want to maximize love and family

512
00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:12,760
Speaker 1: and life and business and health and wealth and beauty.

513
00:27:12,960 --> 00:27:15,160
Speaker 1: I want to get all that life has to offer.

514
00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:19,880
Speaker 1: I do, and you can do that too. I want

515
00:27:19,960 --> 00:27:22,520
Speaker 1: that for you. And so if you're not sure where

516
00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:26,080
Speaker 1: to start, you know, start by building community around you.

517
00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:29,719
Speaker 1: Do you leave the house, do you you know, can

518
00:27:29,760 --> 00:27:32,040
Speaker 1: you work at a coworking space? You see people enough times.

519
00:27:32,080 --> 00:27:33,600
Speaker 1: Hey girl, hey girl, her hair and now that's your

520
00:27:33,600 --> 00:27:37,119
Speaker 1: best sie. Okay. You know, like do you talk to

521
00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:39,560
Speaker 1: the cashier at the Whole Foods or the shopwright or

522
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:43,560
Speaker 1: the or wherever? You know? Do you you know, are

523
00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:49,720
Speaker 1: you part of your church group? Build intentional community and

524
00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:53,119
Speaker 1: see how that totally transform your life. See how like

525
00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:54,720
Speaker 1: you know, you can go from wherever you are to

526
00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:58,680
Speaker 1: wherever you want to be, you know. And so yeah,

527
00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:03,760
Speaker 1: I just wanted to share that community. I'm telling you, wait,

528
00:28:04,400 --> 00:28:06,080
Speaker 1: give me a year. You gonna be like, oh, look

529
00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:08,240
Speaker 1: at Tiffany, not even because girl, I'm fine now, but

530
00:28:09,280 --> 00:28:14,320
Speaker 1: I'm getting my whole life together. Oh. So we're gonna

531
00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:15,879
Speaker 1: take a quick break and I'm coming back and do

532
00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:18,280
Speaker 1: something be a oh no, we don't do b a

533
00:28:18,359 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 1: QAUI until Friday. Well, I'm gonna come back with a

534
00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:29,000
Speaker 1: brown boost brown break. We're gonna pay some bills. I

535
00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:36,919
Speaker 1: am back and blacker than ever. Let's see brown boost

536
00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:38,960
Speaker 1: it is time. How does a brown boots brown break?

537
00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:43,920
Speaker 1: So I always forget wait it, Choe, I forgot bron

538
00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:46,840
Speaker 1: Boosts brown Break. I can't remember that that on the

539
00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:48,960
Speaker 1: flock manage used to here to like help drop my

540
00:28:49,080 --> 00:28:55,480
Speaker 1: memory time. Oh yeah, there you minding. My producer is

541
00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:59,160
Speaker 1: like she reminded me, and now it's time to boost up.

542
00:28:59,240 --> 00:29:02,400
Speaker 1: Break up, boost up, breakup, boost up? Break Are you

543
00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:06,800
Speaker 1: gonna boost? Are you gonna break? What you're gonna do?

544
00:29:07,960 --> 00:29:16,040
Speaker 1: What you're gonna think? Okay, am I gonna boosty or baregie?

545
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:20,760
Speaker 1: I actually am going to hm, I'm trying to think.

546
00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 1: What am I gonna do? Boot a breakoos A break?

547
00:29:25,480 --> 00:29:27,880
Speaker 1: I am going to do a quick break and then

548
00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:29,160
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do a boost because we got to end

549
00:29:29,160 --> 00:29:34,240
Speaker 1: in a high note, so quick break, yeah, child. It

550
00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 1: was ghetto when I came back to the OOSAF, the

551
00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 1: United States of America because when I landed in JMK,

552
00:29:39,080 --> 00:29:40,560
Speaker 1: I mean I usually land in Newark because I live

553
00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:43,880
Speaker 1: in Newark. You know, I have a what is it

554
00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:47,880
Speaker 1: called not clear but a global entry. So it was

555
00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:51,880
Speaker 1: literally minutes, you know, like they just you glide right in.

556
00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:53,520
Speaker 1: But then they pulled me to the side talking about

557
00:29:53,520 --> 00:29:55,000
Speaker 1: they gotta check through my bag cause I'm thinking, okay,

558
00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 1: they're gonna open it. I mean it was a brother,

559
00:29:57,160 --> 00:29:59,959
Speaker 1: he was nice, but they went through not I mean

560
00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:04,120
Speaker 1: every bag, every piece of lotion, open up lipstick opened up.

561
00:30:04,440 --> 00:30:07,040
Speaker 1: I was like, what are you looking for? The muffin? Man?

562
00:30:07,600 --> 00:30:10,560
Speaker 1: It was crazy. I was like, I've never been. I mean,

563
00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:12,640
Speaker 1: it got down to, like, you know, on vacation, I

564
00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:15,520
Speaker 1: don't do laundry. I just bring if it's ten days,

565
00:30:15,800 --> 00:30:19,840
Speaker 1: I'm bringing twenty days worth of underweary. So you know,

566
00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:21,480
Speaker 1: there was one of that he was opened. I said,

567
00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:23,320
Speaker 1: before you opened it, I'm just letting you know those

568
00:30:23,480 --> 00:30:26,520
Speaker 1: that's my underwear, do with that with the information, and

569
00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:29,240
Speaker 1: I ain't do no laundry, Like how you want? That

570
00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:30,640
Speaker 1: was the one bag. He was like, I'm gonna let

571
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:32,600
Speaker 1: that go. I said, yeah, you might want, you might

572
00:30:32,720 --> 00:30:36,240
Speaker 1: want to let that go. I don't know. It just

573
00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:37,959
Speaker 1: felt so invasive, but I guess they have to keep

574
00:30:38,000 --> 00:30:40,920
Speaker 1: the people safe or whatever. I mean. They was opening up.

575
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:43,240
Speaker 1: I mean when I literally i've never seen that before,

576
00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:46,600
Speaker 1: opened jars, squeezing stuff out. He said he got a

577
00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:48,520
Speaker 1: lot of makeup. I'm like, first of all, sir, mind

578
00:30:48,560 --> 00:30:50,960
Speaker 1: your business is not a lot of makeup. And I

579
00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:52,480
Speaker 1: was sure how I was gonna step out. He was

580
00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:54,920
Speaker 1: bending up shoes, he said, because people high stuff in

581
00:30:54,920 --> 00:30:56,880
Speaker 1: their shoes. And I was like, I'm glad they bring

582
00:30:56,920 --> 00:31:00,320
Speaker 1: my Jordan's because you had been increasing them up. But

583
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:02,160
Speaker 1: I mean the officers are really nice, but it was

584
00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:04,800
Speaker 1: just a little ghetto. You know, y'all be talking about Nork,

585
00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:07,560
Speaker 1: but they don't do all that. Mm hm honey. So

586
00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:11,120
Speaker 1: that was my that's my travel break. But my travel

587
00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:15,040
Speaker 1: boost is this. So for the first time, I flew

588
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:20,760
Speaker 1: Qatar Airways business class, business and first. And I had

589
00:31:20,840 --> 00:31:22,720
Speaker 1: flown a lot of business in first in the last

590
00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:25,840
Speaker 1: couple of years, y'all know. I just started because you know,

591
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:28,160
Speaker 1: I was like, if the flight is over three hours,

592
00:31:28,480 --> 00:31:31,200
Speaker 1: then it's worth it for me, especially if it's business.

593
00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:33,560
Speaker 1: And I was flying for business because I was doing

594
00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:36,560
Speaker 1: the Mastermind. It's worth it to get to pay for

595
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:41,040
Speaker 1: a business class because now that I have it to

596
00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:43,040
Speaker 1: be able to do it. And so I've flown business

597
00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:45,640
Speaker 1: class before. I'd even flown to Dubai before. I forget

598
00:31:45,680 --> 00:31:48,600
Speaker 1: what I flew. It was like United and Luftanza Child,

599
00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:52,560
Speaker 1: the airlines is ghetto because that oil money that Qatar.

600
00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:56,080
Speaker 1: I was like, it was like a room. I said,

601
00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:59,240
Speaker 1: this is business class. I mean it was so spacious.

602
00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:02,640
Speaker 1: It's like a seat and another little mini seat. Child.

603
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:05,040
Speaker 1: I mean, they were like hear your pajamas, and I've

604
00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:07,400
Speaker 1: gotten pajamas on the airlines. But they even had like

605
00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:10,440
Speaker 1: this kit with perfume and all this stuff in it. Baseball.

606
00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 1: They knew when you got on your name, if you

607
00:32:12,800 --> 00:32:15,640
Speaker 1: are a woman or man, you know, basically I guess

608
00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:17,440
Speaker 1: what you filled out. It's a kind of kit, like

609
00:32:17,480 --> 00:32:21,640
Speaker 1: the kind of like bath kit or whatever that you

610
00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:24,680
Speaker 1: had in your little room. You can actually close the door, honey.

611
00:32:25,160 --> 00:32:27,760
Speaker 1: I never was able to close the door before. I mean,

612
00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:31,200
Speaker 1: the menu that they gave it was like, you know,

613
00:32:31,400 --> 00:32:33,560
Speaker 1: you could eat whenever. There's no oh, we serve at

614
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:35,400
Speaker 1: breakfast at this time and this at that kind Now

615
00:32:35,760 --> 00:32:38,520
Speaker 1: you could order whenever however how much youever you wanted.

616
00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 1: I don't drink alcohol, but they had all the mocktails, honey.

617
00:32:42,320 --> 00:32:44,800
Speaker 1: And it was just an experience like none other. And

618
00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:47,200
Speaker 1: I told myself like I want to I wanted to

619
00:32:47,240 --> 00:32:50,400
Speaker 1: fly either Qatar or Emirates because I'd never flown. And

620
00:32:50,600 --> 00:32:53,400
Speaker 1: I mean to the point where there was like a

621
00:32:53,480 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 1: separate bus, so like they will like let the plane board,

622
00:32:57,400 --> 00:32:59,520
Speaker 1: and then they were like, okay, if your business class

623
00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:02,480
Speaker 1: or first clars, he is a separate bus. Some people

624
00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:04,600
Speaker 1: even had a car that took him from the terminal

625
00:33:05,080 --> 00:33:07,160
Speaker 1: to the plane and we got to board last because

626
00:33:07,160 --> 00:33:08,520
Speaker 1: they're like, you bored right when we're about to say go,

627
00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:12,719
Speaker 1: I was like, excuse night. I mean, I'm gonna tell

628
00:33:12,720 --> 00:33:14,360
Speaker 1: you the risk. People are living a whole nother life.

629
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:17,680
Speaker 1: You know, I consider myself a new Roch, a new rich,

630
00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:21,680
Speaker 1: a whole nother life in in actual Dubai. So I

631
00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 1: did not know this because last time I did fly business,

632
00:33:23,920 --> 00:33:27,360
Speaker 1: it was just ghetto business. Apparently that when you fly

633
00:33:27,640 --> 00:33:31,000
Speaker 1: out of if you're flying Emirates, Emirates actually has a

634
00:33:32,400 --> 00:33:38,480
Speaker 1: VIP terminal. Listen to me, well, so you know how

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Speaker 1: you go to the airport and it's like, oh, terminal one,

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Speaker 1: and you go in, you check your bags, you check in,

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Speaker 1: you get your ticket whatever. They have a VIP terminal

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Speaker 1: for anyone flying Emirates business or first class. That first

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Speaker 1: of all, Emirates is already a beautiful and like you know,

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Speaker 1: airport child. The way they treat you like an AMORTI

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Speaker 1: the way they treat you like a queen. I was like,

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Speaker 1: wasn't no lines, wasn't no, I mean the way they

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Speaker 1: I't never seen nothing like it. And then the lounge. Hey,

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Speaker 1: I said, what in the dog food have they been

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Speaker 1: serving me before? And these lounges, the lounge was, I mean,

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Speaker 1: they're like you want. There was stations, an Indian station, well,

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00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:21,880
Speaker 1: an Asian station that had Indian food like Japanese and

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00:34:21,960 --> 00:34:26,799
Speaker 1: Chinese food, an American station, Arabic station, I mean, there

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00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:31,600
Speaker 1: was a spa in the lounge, places to sleep, a git,

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Speaker 1: I mean it in the hotel. The airport, it telf

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Speaker 1: looked like a mall. If you weren't really present, you're like,

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Speaker 1: is this a beautiful high end mall? Right? And then

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Speaker 1: the business class lounge in Doha. So the way I flew,

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Speaker 1: I had to go from JFK, which is in New

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Speaker 1: York to Doha, which is in the Middle East, and

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Speaker 1: then Doha is like a forty five minute flight to Dubai,

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Speaker 1: so it was like two flights, right. So the Doha Lounge,

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00:34:57,400 --> 00:35:02,120
Speaker 1: the Qatar Lounge in Doha was spec tackle. It was

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00:35:02,200 --> 00:35:05,040
Speaker 1: the biggest WoT I've ever seen, the cleanest of I

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00:35:05,160 --> 00:35:09,920
Speaker 1: can't even it was like, I don't, I don't have

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Speaker 1: the word to describe. It was a twenty out of ten.

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00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:16,759
Speaker 1: I've never like they had like a five star restaurant there,

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Speaker 1: and I was like, this is a lounge. It was

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00:35:18,760 --> 00:35:23,360
Speaker 1: so huge, so much food, so much it was beyond

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00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:27,120
Speaker 1: And what it showed me is that there are people

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Speaker 1: living a parallel life. You know. It wasn't too long anger,

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00:35:30,080 --> 00:35:32,400
Speaker 1: I'll talk to teach a preschool and before that, I

668
00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:35,359
Speaker 1: was struggling. After that, I was struggling business owner. It's

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Speaker 1: only just now been stepping into my rich and even then, girl,

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00:35:39,719 --> 00:35:43,560
Speaker 1: my little panties next to these people, honey, honey. But

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00:35:43,840 --> 00:35:47,879
Speaker 1: it just was the level of service that you get

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00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:51,759
Speaker 1: at that level made me feel both bad and good, like, dang,

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Speaker 1: everybody should be treated like this, But the way they

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Speaker 1: treat you at that level when you're in that lounge

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Speaker 1: or you're flying business class on a you know, on

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Speaker 1: a top airline like that, and you know, like the

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00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:06,720
Speaker 1: way you're treated, the way you're spoken to, the space

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00:36:06,800 --> 00:36:10,200
Speaker 1: that's made for you, you know, it's just it goes,

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00:36:10,440 --> 00:36:12,640
Speaker 1: it just goes to show you have badly treated any

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Speaker 1: other time. That wealth really does open up certain like

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00:36:20,239 --> 00:36:22,839
Speaker 1: levels of doors. You know. It was just a real

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Speaker 1: eye opener. So I don't know if that's a boost

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Speaker 1: to break. It's a boost either way. And like it's

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00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:30,279
Speaker 1: a it's a something. And I just wanted to share

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Speaker 1: that experience because I said, I wanted to fly Guitar

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Speaker 1: or Emirates, but Emerts was way too expensive to fly

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Speaker 1: out there. Guitar was half the price, And I said,

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00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:39,800
Speaker 1: because I wanted to just have that experience. And I

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Speaker 1: had it and it was beautiful and it was amazing.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna do it again, ad jod you've ever flown

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00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:51,520
Speaker 1: guitar Airways or Emirates, let me know how. It was

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Speaker 1: the one thing I heard about Emerts. This is why

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00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:54,840
Speaker 1: they charged so much, is they will come pick you

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00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:57,960
Speaker 1: up from your house and drive you onto the tarmac. Honey.

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Speaker 1: But I wasn't gonna pay all that for Emirates. I said, Yah,

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00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:03,719
Speaker 1: it was too much. But yeah, it just was like

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00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:08,360
Speaker 1: an amazing experience all around. And like I said, I

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Speaker 1: am leaning in, fully leaning and fully to my feminine

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00:37:13,640 --> 00:37:16,680
Speaker 1: leaning and fully to my success. Like my condo is

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Speaker 1: almost ready. When I tell you I went by the

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Speaker 1: visit today, it is I can't believe that I get

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00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:25,920
Speaker 1: to live there. It looks like somebody else, somebody rich

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00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:28,320
Speaker 1: and wealthy. My sister said something funny. She said, for

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00:37:28,360 --> 00:37:31,719
Speaker 1: the first time where you live actually matches your your

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00:37:31,760 --> 00:37:35,080
Speaker 1: bank account. Ah, it looks I told myself, I'm going

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00:37:35,120 --> 00:37:37,400
Speaker 1: to have all the good things now, you know, I

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Speaker 1: don't know how long life will have me. And so

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Speaker 1: while I'm here, I still look after my family, I

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00:37:43,560 --> 00:37:47,400
Speaker 1: still look after my friends. I look after y'all, you know,

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00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:51,520
Speaker 1: through financial education and otherwise. But while I'm here, I'm

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00:37:51,520 --> 00:37:54,400
Speaker 1: also going to look after myself because we are deserving

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Speaker 1: of that too. That I too am part of the community.

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Speaker 1: As doctor Green, my therapist always reminds me. While we

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Speaker 1: were looking after the community, Tiffany, remember that you are

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Speaker 1: also part of the community. So if you need that

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Speaker 1: reminder from me and doctor Green, you are also part

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Speaker 1: of the community. You are worthy and deserving of all

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Speaker 1: the good things. Well that's today's episode, but don't forget

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Speaker 1: we have BAQA that will be on Friday. Until then,

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Speaker 1: love y'all. Bye,