Speaker 1: Tanya. We're in the middle of the trending zone with
Speaker 1: the training report, and these are two types of people
Speaker 1: in your life according to Reese Witherspoon. Yes, so you
Speaker 1: should deal with.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well deal with or not deal with. So it's
Speaker 2: the start of the new year, and I feel like
Speaker 2: there's always advice to get from Reese Witherspoon. She always
Speaker 2: has those little nuggets, and this life lesson came from
Speaker 2: her grandmother. She said, people are either radiators or their drains,
Speaker 2: and you need to spend time around the radiators, the
Speaker 2: people who radiate goodness and light and positivity, not the drains,
Speaker 2: the people who drag you down. So I thought this
Speaker 2: was a really great exercise seeing that it is the
Speaker 2: beginning of a brand new year, a fresh start. Step
Speaker 2: one is to identify the drains and the radiators in
Speaker 2: your life right identify who they are. Step two is
Speaker 2: to recognize who those people are in your life and
Speaker 2: what role they play. And then step three is to
Speaker 2: create boundaries because maybe you have somebody in your family
Speaker 2: that's a drain. You obviously can't get rid of that
Speaker 2: person there in your family, but creating healthy boundaries so
Speaker 2: that you don't let that drainness get into your radiator ness.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 1: I like to think that it can't be distilled down
Speaker 1: to such simplicity and black or white, but I actually agree.
Speaker 1: If you can't even think about it, and I'm going
Speaker 1: through names in my head and I'm associating certain feelings
Speaker 1: and I'm thinking, Okay, that person, while I really like
Speaker 1: them more times than not, it's like a drain.
Speaker 3: You know how the conversation's gonna go. If you pick
Speaker 3: up the phone to call them, or if they're gonna
Speaker 3: come over to your house, you know that all they're
Speaker 3: gonna do is talk about themselves and all they wanted advice,
Speaker 3: and they just you don't even they don't even ask
Speaker 3: you a question about your life, And it's a drain.
Speaker 1: Now, I'm fine if you don't ask a question about
Speaker 1: my life, matter of fact everything, Yeah, don't. But every
Speaker 1: to me like it's it could be it could be that,
Speaker 1: but it's also no.
Speaker 3: But I can't be a therapist. I can't sit there
Speaker 3: and fix your life.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't do that. The drains that just wanna
Speaker 2: They ask you so many things and like why aren't
Speaker 2: you doing this? What are you doing this? Why haven't
Speaker 2: you done this?
Speaker 1: And it's like like they walk into your world and
Speaker 1: think they can solve every one of your problems. It's like, bro,
Speaker 1: it's complicated right right.
Speaker 3: It needs to be a.
Speaker 1: Balance trains and radiators. Yeah, people either they either suck
Speaker 1: it out or give it out. Right, they either suck
Speaker 1: stuff from you or they they're either yeah, that's the
Speaker 1: same thing. I'm thinking the same thing, say, basically synonyms
Speaker 1: of that which.
Speaker 3: You need to radiate that person a little bit and
Speaker 3: they need to radiate you back.
Speaker 1: Givers are suckers, yeah, and suckers are givers, right, Suckers
Speaker 1: are not givers, are not givers. It's what givers or
Speaker 1: suckers
Speaker 3: In the words of Snoop Dogg Puff Puff give