WEBVTT - TRENDING- Reese Witherspoon

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<v Speaker 1>Tanya. We're in the middle of the trending zone with

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<v Speaker 1>the training report, and these are two types of people

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<v Speaker 1>in your life according to Reese Witherspoon. Yes, so you

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<v Speaker 1>should deal with.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well deal with or not deal with. So it's

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<v Speaker 2>the start of the new year, and I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>there's always advice to get from Reese Witherspoon. She always

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<v Speaker 2>has those little nuggets, and this life lesson came from

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<v Speaker 2>her grandmother. She said, people are either radiators or their drains,

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<v Speaker 2>and you need to spend time around the radiators, the

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<v Speaker 2>people who radiate goodness and light and positivity, not the drains,

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<v Speaker 2>the people who drag you down. So I thought this

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<v Speaker 2>was a really great exercise seeing that it is the

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<v Speaker 2>beginning of a brand new year, a fresh start. Step

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<v Speaker 2>one is to identify the drains and the radiators in

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<v Speaker 2>your life right identify who they are. Step two is

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<v Speaker 2>to recognize who those people are in your life and

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<v Speaker 2>what role they play. And then step three is to

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<v Speaker 2>create boundaries because maybe you have somebody in your family

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<v Speaker 2>that's a drain. You obviously can't get rid of that

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<v Speaker 2>person there in your family, but creating healthy boundaries so

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<v Speaker 2>that you don't let that drainness get into your radiator ness.

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<v Speaker 3>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>I like to think that it can't be distilled down

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<v Speaker 1>to such simplicity and black or white, but I actually agree.

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<v Speaker 1>If you can't even think about it, and I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>through names in my head and I'm associating certain feelings

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm thinking, Okay, that person, while I really like

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<v Speaker 1>them more times than not, it's like a drain.

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<v Speaker 3>You know how the conversation's gonna go. If you pick

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<v Speaker 3>up the phone to call them, or if they're gonna

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<v Speaker 3>come over to your house, you know that all they're

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<v Speaker 3>gonna do is talk about themselves and all they wanted advice,

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<v Speaker 3>and they just you don't even they don't even ask

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<v Speaker 3>you a question about your life, And it's a drain.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, I'm fine if you don't ask a question about

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<v Speaker 1>my life, matter of fact everything, Yeah, don't. But every

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<v Speaker 1>to me like it's it could be it could be that,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's also no.

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<v Speaker 3>But I can't be a therapist. I can't sit there

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<v Speaker 3>and fix your life.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I can't do that. The drains that just wanna

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<v Speaker 2>They ask you so many things and like why aren't

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<v Speaker 2>you doing this? What are you doing this? Why haven't

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<v Speaker 2>you done this?

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<v Speaker 1>And it's like like they walk into your world and

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<v Speaker 1>think they can solve every one of your problems. It's like, bro,

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<v Speaker 1>it's complicated right right.

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<v Speaker 3>It needs to be a.

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<v Speaker 1>Balance trains and radiators. Yeah, people either they either suck

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<v Speaker 1>it out or give it out. Right, they either suck

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<v Speaker 1>stuff from you or they they're either yeah, that's the

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<v Speaker 1>same thing. I'm thinking the same thing, say, basically synonyms

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<v Speaker 1>of that which.

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<v Speaker 3>You need to radiate that person a little bit and

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<v Speaker 3>they need to radiate you back.

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<v Speaker 1>Givers are suckers, yeah, and suckers are givers, right, Suckers

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<v Speaker 1>are not givers, are not givers. It's what givers or

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<v Speaker 1>suckers

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<v Speaker 3>In the words of Snoop Dogg Puff Puff give