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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is Arber left.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, nephew. Subject. I need more than hugging and hunching.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I am engaged to a sixty three

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Speaker 1: His thoughts on sex and life in general shock me,

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Speaker 1: and I need some advice. I'm only fifty nine years

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Speaker 1: old and I still enjoy sex, and I have tried

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Speaker 1: to be patient with my man. He thinks I'm a

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Speaker 1: freak because I try to initiate sex daily. He likes

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Speaker 1: to grind and do a lot of kissing, but we

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Speaker 1: of him in other ways, if you know what I mean,

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Speaker 1: But when it comes to me, he says that his

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Speaker 1: mouth is designed to eat food and nothing else. He

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Speaker 1: won't even kiss around it. I'm in love with this

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Speaker 1: but I am going to need sex often. He says

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Speaker 1: be freaky with me. So I've stopped him from hunting

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Speaker 1: am letting you all know that I feel like cheating

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Speaker 1: afraid he may never change his ways and I may

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Speaker 1: So should I marry him or move on and find

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Speaker 1: myself in a more compatible find myself a more compatible mate. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think you need to find yourself a more compatible mate.

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Speaker 1: You and this guy don't add up sexually, and you

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Speaker 1: about this is that you know this before you're married.

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Speaker 1: You you've found this out before you got married. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he may never change his ways, and we as women

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Speaker 1: always want the man to change. But it doesn't look

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Speaker 1: to show you. He's already told you that a great

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Speaker 1: sixty three, you're fifty nine. You try to initiate sex

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Speaker 1: and he has stop pressuring him. Please stop pressuring him.

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Speaker 1: No one wants to feel pressured. No one wants to

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Speaker 1: be pressured. I think if you, if you get with

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Speaker 1: this man, if you marry him, you'll be settling and

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Speaker 1: you shouldn't settle. Steve, well, well, will I need more

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Speaker 1: that's full play, but we rarely go all the way

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Speaker 1: full play with no payoff. It's what we're talking about. Now.

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Speaker 1: I get you all worked up for no damn reason

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Speaker 1: what's wrong with it? Hell? Yeah, yeah, go ahead. See

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Speaker 1: What's wrong with it? It was wrong with it? I'm

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Speaker 1: not because she Shelly, Shelly, You listen to me, I'm

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Speaker 1: to be freaking no, I want you to hear what

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Speaker 1: Wrong with it? You all are not gonna yeah, her fault.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I'm sorry. No, I don't. I don't see it.

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Speaker 1: wrong with it? I'm wrong with it? Couldn't be a problem,

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Speaker 1: there's nothing. He's a man that stay ready all the time,

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Speaker 1: with it? No? No, why Shirley, Why there's something wrong

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Speaker 1: with it? Always no, he's always ready, so she don't

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