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Speaker 2: Am I the a whole? I destroyed my whole family?

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Speaker 2: Am I the a ole? I lit my family on

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Speaker 2: Am I a terrible guy? I feel like getting a

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Speaker 2: be so ready. You have to be so ready. Is

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Speaker 1: Like?

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Speaker 2: Twenty three meters is not fun? Twenty three twenty three

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Speaker 2: Is there is there?

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Speaker 1: Like, because I'm wanting to I see most people do.

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Speaker 1: They'll post like, uh, they're like a heritage in city,

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Speaker 1: not the people, but like the percentage like forty like

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Speaker 2: But is there a way like Chinese? Yeah? Dude, whoa?

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Speaker 2: I'm joking.

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Speaker 1: Although although when I lived in the Bay Area, everyone

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I got it all the time, all the time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, But I wonder if there's a way to like,

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Speaker 2: You just go in and you just know everything you

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Speaker 1: It's like playing volleyball with a land Yeah, that is

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Speaker 1: Let's set a folly right now, ladies and gentlemen, all right,

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Speaker 1: I did an ancestry test. My family immigrated here, and

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Speaker 1: I was curious what our background looked like. I had

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Speaker 2: oh that is fucking crazy. He used to do a

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Speaker 1: My man just like walked into a Chipotle expecting to

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Speaker 2: And they're like quick cut the red wire cut.

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Speaker 1: So I referred them to my mother and answered what

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Speaker 2: He could count ten years and she didn't find out.

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Speaker 2: you think the grandma never knew? I don't know, way,

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Speaker 1: Last week, my maternal grandfather received a knock on his

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Speaker 2: I mean it is, And like I said, you you

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Speaker 1: Let me ce seventeen man, he doesn't the opening Pandora's

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Speaker 1: If this hadn't happened, then maybe life would be okay,

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Speaker 2: All right, just to absolve opl of a little bit

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Speaker 2: But it is like like, you didn't do anything wrong,

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Speaker 2: Just like no, it's it's not his fault. It's it's

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Speaker 2: You weren't born, your family would still be together. Oh

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Speaker 2: my goodness. Anyway, if you want to submit your crazy

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Speaker 1: Fed up by finding my boyfriend's bank bank the update,

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Speaker 1: So first little context from op. I wanted to break

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Speaker 2: So we talked. I came clean.

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Speaker 1: I told him that I know I violated his trust

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Speaker 2: So I was breaking up with him. Damn. It's an

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Speaker 2: Fed up because like she snooped, so she's like she

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Speaker 2: When she when he says capa abilities like the first post,

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Speaker 2: he was like, yeah, I can work things out on

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Speaker 2: the internet. She likes something like crazy hacker.

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Speaker 1: Yeah maybe she yeah, maybe she's like yeah, some sort

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Speaker 1: this time we turned the other direction.

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Speaker 2: The white turned into black hair. Bless you, thank you.

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Speaker 1: That's why I didn't just ask him, and I told

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Speaker 1: He asked if I ever felt like he lied, and

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Speaker 1: I told him about a few things. Yeah, but yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think I think you lied about a thing or two.

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Speaker 2: My friends. He didn't lie. He said he had his

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Speaker 2: spank bank.

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Speaker 1: He's but he was fucking his boss so who demoted her,

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Speaker 1: like like fucked her over.

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Speaker 2: But it sounds like he was. He was doing that

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Speaker 2: before they were together. Oh, it was like a past relationship.

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Speaker 2: With an ex boss. I mean, like.

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Speaker 1: That's icy because it happened the the the boss uh

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Speaker 2: During the relationship maybe maybe during during Oh it sounded

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Speaker 2: you're not gonna get like it seems at the very least,

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Speaker 2: there was some intentional uh things left out that he

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Speaker 2: didn't come forward with full omission, Yes, thoughtful emissions.

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Speaker 1: I brought up some of my findings and he said

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Speaker 2: Oh like like all the sexual partners he had in

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Speaker 2: his spank bank, He's like, oh, like, you know, it

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Speaker 2: doesn't really count because I'm not Bro. That's not sexual experience.

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Speaker 2: This seems like a lie. The logic, Yeah, that's a lie, dude,

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Speaker 2: that's a lie. Bro. I mean if you ask like

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Speaker 2: if your partners been in like I feel like, uh like,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like like like you you uh you know,

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Speaker 1: I didn't like it.

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Speaker 2: It wasn't good. It wasn't cheating. It was I wasn't cheating.

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Speaker 1: He said he didn't want to break up and felt

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Speaker 2: I feel like, oh, he is way too hard on

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Speaker 2: herself and not hard enough on the boyfriend. Bing go, yes, absolutely, bingo,

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Speaker 2: fuck yourself boyfriend right. He said he didn't know he

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Speaker 2: all of my crazy because of his use only in

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Speaker 2: like white blonde girls before. Yeah, apparently he told me

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Speaker 2: he thought those girls he dated before was what he

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Speaker 2: was supposed to like because of where he grew up. Hmmm,

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Speaker 2: I don't know, man, this guy's This guy is getting

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Speaker 2: worse and worse in my house. He says he wasn't

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Speaker 2: settling me because of his reasons that I'm not writing out. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 2: I asked him to I read. I asked him to

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Speaker 2: all my face, and it was all better. It was

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Speaker 1: I asked him to sit in on my first therapy

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Speaker 1: from COVID.

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Speaker 2: Wow, this is a train wreck. Crazy. Everything's just going

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Speaker 2: wrong for API. Uh. He said he's thinking about it

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Speaker 2: because it's not his thing. Yeah. Well, it's also a

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Speaker 2: little odd to go to someone else's therapy session, isn't it.

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Speaker 1: Ah Y, Yeah, I mean I mean if it's in

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Speaker 1: a couples therapy. Yeah, that is a little bit. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: my personal thing. Let me dish my dirt out. I

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Speaker 1: guess we're not broken up, but only time will tell

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Speaker 1: you broke up with him? Yeah, if that's what you want,

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Speaker 1: then then this is weird. I'm not into it. I'm

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Speaker 1: not into it. There's so many things are going wrong.

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Speaker 1: I still efft up, though I'm not dismissing it. I

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Speaker 1: should probably add it here that I eft up by

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Speaker 1: posting this on effing Reddit.

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Speaker 2: No op, No, no, you are not in like you

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Speaker 2: are the wrong a little bit, A little bit, not

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Speaker 2: the most by far, I mean, by far you are.

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Speaker 1: Giving him way too and he's he's just he's taking

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Speaker 1: but you know, like I'll be okay, like we can still.

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Speaker 2: You know, this is messed up, dude. This is messed up,

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Speaker 2: not it