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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha, and welcome to stuff

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Speaker 1: I ever told your protection of iHeart radio, and it's

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Speaker 1: time for another happy hour and this one's gonna be

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Speaker 1: mostly happy, although there will be some unhappy parts of it.

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Speaker 1: But mostly happy? Is that another segment? Mostly happy? Mostly

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Speaker 1: it's just me. I like it. I think that's more

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Speaker 1: accurate to most of you, probably probably as always. If

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Speaker 1: you are choosing to drink, please do so responsibly. Uh, Samantha,

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Speaker 1: what are you sipping on? Uh? You know, I discovered

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Speaker 1: the Brooklyn Summer pale Ill and it's nice and crisp

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Speaker 1: in low a b b Uh. It's called the Sunny

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Speaker 1: Pale l and thoroughly. So that's what I'm drinking on today.

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Speaker 1: What about you? Yeah? Well, I just lamented to you

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Speaker 1: that I have no cold drinks available to me right now,

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Speaker 1: so I am drinking boxed red wine in my delicious

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Speaker 1: hot hot studio closet. You can, you know, fancy it up,

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Speaker 1: but I think ice. I've never added ice to straight

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Speaker 1: boxed red wine, and I have to say my immediate

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Speaker 1: reaction is like recoiling drinking box wine, baby bou. I

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Speaker 1: mean no hate on boxed wine. I love some boxed wine.

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Speaker 1: I'm just saying, that's what's making you recoil. I think

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Speaker 1: you'll be okay. But I get you. I get you. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: like saying yeah, I get it. I mean it's true,

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Speaker 1: You're right. Maybe I'm drawing lines where they don't need

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Speaker 1: to thank you, thank you. It's not bad, but it

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Speaker 1: is quite hot and I would love a refreshing, cool beverage. Right. Well,

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Speaker 1: so today's Julife fifth. Um, so we're out of Pride month.

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Speaker 1: But I did want to do kind of a little

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Speaker 1: update that I shared with Samantha because it's sort of

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Speaker 1: a powerful moment I experienced recently. Uh, and it happened

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Speaker 1: after we had are now real friends. I r L

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Speaker 1: friend Kay Osborne, who was a guest on this show

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Speaker 1: a couple whiles back. We met at a restaurant. We

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Speaker 1: had a lovely lunch together. Delicious. We did We made

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Speaker 1: a friend as an adult, Samantha, we did it. We

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Speaker 1: did that too. You and I were yes. I mean

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Speaker 1: I like a few of them, and it's nice to have.

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Speaker 1: It is funny though, because it feels like a set

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Speaker 1: up in a weird way. You and I kind of

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Speaker 1: happened naturally, but a lot of times when I've personally

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Speaker 1: made friends as an adult, it's felt kind of like

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Speaker 1: a setup or something. What if they don't like me? Sure?

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Speaker 1: I mean, to be fair, we did sit like we

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Speaker 1: were interviewing Kate at one point, so that was super awkward.

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Speaker 1: It was awkward, but it was it turned up to

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Speaker 1: be love plate and it was great. I think we're

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Speaker 1: gonna hang out again, you know, fingers crossed. I don't

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Speaker 1: think she's lying to us, but I hope not. But

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Speaker 1: she posted about, uh, the episode we did together on

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Speaker 1: a D H D in sex and also the episode

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Speaker 1: I was on on her show about just D and

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Speaker 1: D and fangirl stuff. And after that I got a

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Speaker 1: lot of followers. Um a lot. I mean for me

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Speaker 1: a lot. It's like five to ten and that's essentially happened,

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Speaker 1: but yeah, that's a lot mm hmm. And a lot

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Speaker 1: of them we're ACE. They were a sexual uh, and

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Speaker 1: they kind of reached out to me and we're like, oh, hi,

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Speaker 1: I see, you know, nice to meet another person who's ACE.

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Speaker 1: And I broke down into tears about the started crying

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Speaker 1: because I just like it felt like a belonging I

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Speaker 1: haven't felt because I've been I've told people I was

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Speaker 1: queer since high school, but it's always been something where

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Speaker 1: I had no right to claim the label, and like,

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Speaker 1: I don't know, like if I went to a Pride event,

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Speaker 1: they'd see me be like, no, you don't belong here.

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Speaker 1: You are fake. And as I said in many of

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Speaker 1: these episodes, I didn't know a sexuality was a thing

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Speaker 1: until two thousand eleven when I was working on this show.

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Speaker 1: I didn't know like there was a romantic spectrum until

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Speaker 1: even later, I think, And I pretty much came out

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Speaker 1: to you all on this podcast like that was my experience.

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Speaker 1: I have come out to people in person since then,

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Speaker 1: but everyone I've come out to you and this is

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Speaker 1: this is gonna sound kind of bad, but I think

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Speaker 1: it's true. It's partly my fault because I've done it

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Speaker 1: in sort of a cowardly way, like a little back doorway,

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Speaker 1: like I don't like sex and that's how identify and

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Speaker 1: a sexuality is a thing, right, And then they'll be

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Speaker 1: like yeah, sure. So it's sort of been like that

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Speaker 1: So what I'm saying is basically, I've done it in

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Speaker 1: a kind of an isolated environment, kind of a strange,

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Speaker 1: strange way to do it, but you know, every fretty

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Speaker 1: story is different. I'm a big believer in that. But

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I just felt very I'm not sure

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Speaker 1: lonely is the right word. But I've still felt very

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Speaker 1: or someone would tell me I'm wrong, and like that's

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Speaker 1: not a thing which people have. But but after I

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Speaker 1: got all these people and I saw these people following

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Speaker 1: me back or following me, and I was like, oh

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Speaker 1: my god, this is a thing and I've along and

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Speaker 1: I could like meet people who are like me and

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Speaker 1: it's not just me, and oh my god, I sobbed.

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Speaker 1: I saw the way and then like I found out,

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Speaker 1: I was so excited it. I almost sent you this

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Speaker 1: very long text and I deleted it because I was like,

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Speaker 1: you need to calm down and think about this first.

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Speaker 1: Come on. This is how I found out about twittles,

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Speaker 1: because I was like, oh, I could put the flag

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Speaker 1: on mine and then on my Twitter account and then

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Speaker 1: I could they would know. But twitterles is a whole thing,

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Speaker 1: that's what they're called. Yeah, you told me about it,

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Speaker 1: so we're gonna actually planning an episode on that. But

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Speaker 1: those are basically the icons you can have uh in

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Speaker 1: your Twitter bio and it's kind of a politics game,

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Speaker 1: sort of similar to like emojis about which ones are made,

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Speaker 1: aren't um, But I found like the a sexual flag

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Speaker 1: with a bi romantic heart, and it just so happened

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Speaker 1: that night one of my very favorite fan fiction authors

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Speaker 1: wrote a story about someone who is a sexual viromantic

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Speaker 1: and it was so sweet. Oh my gosh. But like

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Speaker 1: I know, the capitalization of Pride month is a whole

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Speaker 1: thing and it's a problem. But I bought a shirt, everybody,

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Speaker 1: I bought a shirt, a sexual Pride shirt, and I

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Speaker 1: bought some pins and I bought a flag. Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: and it was so nice. It was like something was

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Speaker 1: clicking into place where it's sort of just been slightly

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Speaker 1: out of place this whole time. Um and I all

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Speaker 1: so many of you have written in and you've been

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Speaker 1: so welcoming, and you've told me about your own experience. Um,

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Speaker 1: and even some of you specifically a sexual by romantic

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Speaker 1: experience or a sexual spectrum at all. And it's been

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Speaker 1: so nice. But I've still always felt like I haven't

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Speaker 1: So it's it was just it felt good. It felt good.

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Speaker 1: I got a bunch of pins. We're gonna put them

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Speaker 1: all over. Yeah, it was. It was really nice. It

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Speaker 1: was like an easing of tension, I guess. And all

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Speaker 1: this just came from seeing other people who are identify

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Speaker 1: the same way. UM, so thank you. If you're listening,

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Speaker 1: thank you. I'm sure you had no idea that's impact

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Speaker 1: very excited. My shirts coming in today. Okay, I was

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Speaker 1: gonna say when is it coming in? It's coming in today,

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Speaker 1: and I'm gonna rocket at the beach because I'm about

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Speaker 1: to go to the beach. You got like an ACE

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Speaker 1: card on it. You can take the flag to, yeah, probably,

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Speaker 1: but the whole the flag is a lot of drama people.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure you can imagine why. But I have family

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Speaker 1: members who are not as cool with queer people and

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Speaker 1: it caused there's a lot of gossip in trauma, but

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Speaker 1: wonder how many people would know what it is. I

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Speaker 1: don't think they would know, but they would ask whatever.

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Speaker 1: We'll see how much drama I want to cause on

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Speaker 1: my reach? Oh oh I will, Oh, I will. I'm

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Speaker 1: excited for you to see the shirt. Pretty cool. I

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Speaker 1: think it's pretty cool. I did want to mention very briefly,

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Speaker 1: there has been a lot of sad stuff during Pride

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Speaker 1: this year, where there's violence at Pride events and now

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Speaker 1: great reaction. But um, I don't know. I'm just we

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Speaker 1: those things. But it is nice to know. But there's

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Speaker 1: a community and there is belonging. And thank you, just

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Speaker 1: thank you, thank you to you Samantha for being so

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Speaker 1: supportive on this whole thing with me listening to we're

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Speaker 1: I'm sure you're like, what is she talking about But

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you it's good. Yes. So, and thank you

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Speaker 1: to all your your listeners because he really helped me

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Speaker 1: and it's just like that get to share this story

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Speaker 1: with all of you. So cheers, cheers, Ran, cheers yes

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Speaker 1: um and as always, we do love hearing from you. UM.

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