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Speaker 1: Hi, and welcome to the aicro Podcast. We are back

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Speaker 1: with another episode. Ironically, this episode is about confidence, and

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Speaker 1: I just got my brows tinted and laminated, and I

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Speaker 1: think I'm gonna have done too much. I'm really not

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Speaker 1: adjusting to it. Well, I did not want them so dark.

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Speaker 1: So I'm not feeling so confident today because I feel

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Speaker 1: like my eyelashes are too much, and I feel like

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Speaker 1: and I don't have makeup on. So I feel like

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Speaker 1: that's the perfect time to make a confidence episode because

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Speaker 1: it's about going forward anyways, you know, that's what confidence is.

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Speaker 1: It's about not caring and just like doing what you

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Speaker 1: have to do. Oh my gosh, the cutest little bird,

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, it's so cute. Okay, anyways, getting to

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Speaker 1: your questions. So I asked you, guys, questions and like

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Speaker 1: things that you wanted answered about confidence specifically and what

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Speaker 1: would be helpful. So let's dive in to the questions.

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Speaker 1: And this is just my advice. I would say I'm

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Speaker 1: not a very confident person when it comes to my

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Speaker 1: physical appearance. But I'm an incredibly confident person when it

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Speaker 1: comes to anything work related or like getting things done,

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Speaker 1: I have absolutely Oh my gosh, there's a whole bird, feelmily,

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Speaker 1: there's a mom and a dad in a baby bird.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I was stinky cute. Is it looking

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Speaker 1: at me? Oh no, it's looking the other way I

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Speaker 1: thought it was. I was like, never mind, it's making

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Speaker 1: eye contact with me. It's trying to tell me something. Okay,

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Speaker 1: back to what we were doing. I really, really, really

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Speaker 1: have zero fear when it comes to anything career or

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Speaker 1: hobby or what like. If I want to do something,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to do it. If I'm like, you know what,

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Speaker 1: I want to go to timbucktoo today, I'll be on

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Speaker 1: the next light to Timbuck two. I'm not even worried,

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Speaker 1: no problem, no stress, I will do that kind of stuff.

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Speaker 1: But of course, like I do struggle with feeling good

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Speaker 1: about myself and body issues and all that, so I

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Speaker 1: know there's questions about both. So that's kind of where

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Speaker 1: I stand on both sides of the spectrum when it

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Speaker 1: comes to confidence in those areas. So when person said

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Speaker 1: I really feel I really struggle to feel worthy of

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Speaker 1: the things that I want. See, this is one that's

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Speaker 1: like I don't struggle with this, like I feel worthy

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Speaker 1: of anything that I want. I think because I think

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Speaker 1: my mindset is no one is coming to stop it.

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Speaker 1: You know, no one is trying to, for the most part,

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Speaker 1: hinder your blessings or what you receive. It really doesn't

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Speaker 1: affect anyone. If I go, if I want a vacation,

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Speaker 1: or I want to move, or I want a Louisvuitton bag,

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Speaker 1: who does it affect It doesn't affect anyone. You don't

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Speaker 1: need to prove your worth to do what you want

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Speaker 1: because it affects no one. You're not It doesn't mean

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Speaker 1: anything to anyone else. It means something to you. That

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Speaker 1: vacation means something to you. No one's coming to go, No,

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Speaker 1: you're not worthy, Like who's in charge of that? I

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Speaker 1: just don't feel like what I want should be positive

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Speaker 1: for everybody around me. And I feel like if everybody's

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Speaker 1: getting the things that they want and going after the

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Speaker 1: things that I want that they want, everyone wins. People

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Speaker 1: are happier, people are more positive. I just don't think

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Speaker 1: who is deeming you not worthy? Who is it affecting?

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Speaker 1: Who is it It's not like a job where you're

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Speaker 1: up against other people and you're all competing. What's the competition.

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Speaker 1: There's enough to go around. So if you want a

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Speaker 1: Louis Vuaton bag, it's not like you get the only

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Speaker 1: one in the world. You go on a vacation. It's

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Speaker 1: not Oh, you got to go on a vacation this year,

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Speaker 1: so every four million other people didn't. What difference does

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Speaker 1: it make? Who are you affecting? Who are you taking

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Speaker 1: away from? Who are you costing? You're not costing anyone anything.

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Speaker 1: And if you work for something, I do feel you're worthy.

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Speaker 1: If you worked hard enough to be able to afford

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Speaker 1: what you want, or you lived in the same place

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Speaker 1: leave and you don't feel worthy according to who, You're

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Speaker 1: not stopping anybody else. You're not taking anything from anyone else.

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Speaker 1: And I think if everyone is getting what they want,

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Speaker 1: You will be a happier person. You will be a

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Speaker 1: more positive person. You will make the world a better

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Speaker 1: place because you will be a happier individ Jewel. I

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Speaker 1: think denying yourself things you want and feeling shame and

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Speaker 1: feeling guilt for it makes you, whether purposefully or inadvertently,

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Speaker 1: it makes you a worse person. You're deprived, you are unfulfilled,

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Speaker 1: you're not giving yourself the things you want. You're operating

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Speaker 1: be not a good as good of a person to

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Speaker 1: and you're chasing the things you want, you're just a

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Speaker 1: better person on a daily basis. You're a more likable

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Speaker 1: person on a daily basis being the best version of

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Speaker 1: yourself and giving yourselves the thing that things that you

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Speaker 1: want and shifting your mindset. Who says you're not worthy? Truly?

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Speaker 1: I could do a whole episode just on self. Who

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Speaker 1: says that I don't struggle with imposter syndrome? I don't

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Speaker 1: struggle who Who gets to decide that? Who decides I'm

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Speaker 1: not taking anything from anybody else? I have no interest

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Speaker 1: go around. There's enough abundance to go around. There's enough joy,

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Speaker 1: there is enough positivity, There is enough stuff there's enough stuff,

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Speaker 1: you know, if it's stuff that you want, Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: the world has too much of it. There is enough

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Speaker 1: to go around. Do the things that make you happier, fulfilled, energetic, excited, joyous,

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Speaker 1: even walking down the street. You'll be someone who smiles

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Speaker 1: care if they go on a vacation? Are you going?

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Speaker 1: That person just is not worthy of that vacation. She

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Speaker 1: not really, it's not really occupying your mind. You know,

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Speaker 1: are some ways you express self love to keep your

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Speaker 1: confidence up? So this is something new that I've been doing.

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Speaker 1: Hence the brow lamination. Is I have been I've been

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Speaker 1: And the past month, if you're watching this on video,

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Speaker 1: you can literally see like my skin is glowing. The

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Speaker 1: past month, I have shifted spending my money on things

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Speaker 1: at any celebrity and you look at them eight years ago,

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Speaker 1: You're like, WHOA, what happened to them? They got money

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Speaker 1: And I'm only going to Ingest healthy ingredients today. And

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Speaker 1: like it is its own form of self love. But

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Speaker 1: I'm such like a worker, analytic person. I'm like, well,

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Speaker 1: make you feel light, do things that make you feel happy.

425
00:20:05,480 --> 00:20:09,119
Speaker 1: It's okay to see something about yourself that you don't love.

426
00:20:09,160 --> 00:20:10,879
Speaker 1: I don't think the key to confidence is just oh

427
00:20:10,960 --> 00:20:13,120
Speaker 1: I love everything about myself and I'm perfect and I'm flawless.

428
00:20:13,160 --> 00:20:16,240
Speaker 1: I don't think that's necessarily it. It's like, figure out

429
00:20:15,840 --> 00:20:21,560
Speaker 1: what you in your head don't love or want to

430
00:20:21,560 --> 00:20:24,399
Speaker 1: see a change and work on yourself. I think that's okay.

431
00:20:24,520 --> 00:20:27,480
Speaker 1: Like I think after I had a bad relationship where

432
00:20:27,520 --> 00:20:29,119
Speaker 1: my self esteem was just shorted, I do think there

433
00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:30,720
Speaker 1: were things I learned about myself that I was like,

434
00:20:30,720 --> 00:20:32,920
Speaker 1: you know what I do do that, I do rush

435
00:20:32,960 --> 00:20:36,080
Speaker 1: to conclusions. I do do this, and the delivery of

436
00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:37,879
Speaker 1: how I received it was horrible, but I think it

437
00:20:37,960 --> 00:20:40,480
Speaker 1: was on some level good for me. Not like the

438
00:20:40,520 --> 00:20:42,959
Speaker 1: things like you're ugly and fat. That was not helpful,

439
00:20:43,119 --> 00:20:45,119
Speaker 1: not helpful at all. But there were things that I

440
00:20:45,200 --> 00:20:48,159
Speaker 1: like reflected on and made changes towards and went to

441
00:20:48,200 --> 00:20:50,560
Speaker 1: therapy forums, like, hey, there's some things about my personality

442
00:20:50,560 --> 00:20:51,720
Speaker 1: that I think i'd like to change it. There's some

443
00:20:51,760 --> 00:20:53,520
Speaker 1: things about how I operate in relationships that I'd like

444
00:20:53,560 --> 00:20:58,000
Speaker 1: to change. It's okay, It's okay now. The physical apparent

445
00:20:58,080 --> 00:21:00,400
Speaker 1: stuff that was just like mean and unhelpful, and that

446
00:21:00,520 --> 00:21:01,920
Speaker 1: just took me a long time to heal. The only

447
00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:04,439
Speaker 1: thing with that was like time and just knowing like

448
00:21:04,600 --> 00:21:07,160
Speaker 1: I got a gym membership and I got a new

449
00:21:07,240 --> 00:21:10,480
Speaker 1: hair girl, and like I took the steps to feel

450
00:21:10,520 --> 00:21:13,440
Speaker 1: better about myself, and the thing I love about that

451
00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:17,040
Speaker 1: while it is like you're conforming to beauty standards, you're

452
00:21:17,040 --> 00:21:19,400
Speaker 1: doing something for yourself. And that also made me feel

453
00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:21,399
Speaker 1: more confident. I was like, you know what I can

454
00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:23,719
Speaker 1: change that you're stuck being a shitty person. I can

455
00:21:23,800 --> 00:21:26,440
Speaker 1: change these little things and make myself feel better. You're

456
00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:38,640
Speaker 1: stuck like that. How to be confident in what you're

457
00:21:38,680 --> 00:21:42,399
Speaker 1: choosing for your career? With this, I would say again,

458
00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:44,480
Speaker 1: like I said in the beginning, please keep in mind

459
00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:47,080
Speaker 1: that it's okay to make a change. If you pick

460
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Speaker 1: a career and you don't like it, it is okay

461
00:21:48,840 --> 00:21:51,119
Speaker 1: to change. It is okay to switch it up. So

462
00:21:51,200 --> 00:21:52,960
Speaker 1: don't put so much pressure, like if this is what

463
00:21:53,040 --> 00:21:54,840
Speaker 1: I choose, this is what I have to do for

464
00:21:54,880 --> 00:21:57,040
Speaker 1: the rest of my life. We don't have to do things,

465
00:21:57,080 --> 00:21:59,800
Speaker 1: and I feel like it's just this headspace that everybody's

466
00:21:59,800 --> 00:22:01,679
Speaker 1: in where it's like we get conditioned to feeling like

467
00:22:01,760 --> 00:22:03,800
Speaker 1: we have to do things and we have to fulfill

468
00:22:03,840 --> 00:22:06,240
Speaker 1: a certain standard and we have to follow a certain path.

469
00:22:06,560 --> 00:22:09,040
Speaker 1: You can do whatever you want. So if you try

470
00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:11,000
Speaker 1: a career and you don't like it, it is okay

471
00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:13,640
Speaker 1: to make a change. It all comes back to being

472
00:22:13,680 --> 00:22:16,199
Speaker 1: the best, happiest version of yourself, and you will be

473
00:22:16,359 --> 00:22:19,800
Speaker 1: a better asset to this world, to your community, to

474
00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:24,320
Speaker 1: your friends, to your family, to the energy of the universe.

475
00:22:24,760 --> 00:22:27,440
Speaker 1: If you are a happy, joyous person and If you're

476
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Speaker 1: a lawyer and you hate it, you're not going to

477
00:22:29,840 --> 00:22:31,920
Speaker 1: be a happy, joyous person. You're going to bring negativity,

478
00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:33,240
Speaker 1: and it's going to have a trickle down effect, and

479
00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:34,920
Speaker 1: you're going to affect the lives of others by being

480
00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:37,480
Speaker 1: unhappy in what you're doing. If you want to go

481
00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:39,600
Speaker 1: quit being a lawyer and work in a retail store,

482
00:22:39,640 --> 00:22:42,399
Speaker 1: so it's going to make you a happier person, fabulous,

483
00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:46,000
Speaker 1: perfect Do it make the world a better place by

484
00:22:46,000 --> 00:22:48,840
Speaker 1: being the most joyous, light, positive version of yourself, the

485
00:22:48,840 --> 00:22:51,680
Speaker 1: most fulfilled version of yourself. Find your fulfillment. So I

486
00:22:51,680 --> 00:22:54,520
Speaker 1: would say give yourself grace and choosing what you're doing.

487
00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:57,879
Speaker 1: But also if you want, like if you feel drawn

488
00:22:57,960 --> 00:23:01,040
Speaker 1: to it, that's power and you should find confidence in that.

489
00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:05,360
Speaker 1: If you feel deeply drawn to something and pulled to something,

490
00:23:05,880 --> 00:23:09,040
Speaker 1: how often does that happen in this world? I felt deeply,

491
00:23:09,119 --> 00:23:12,879
Speaker 1: deeply connected and pulled to two hot things in my life,

492
00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:15,600
Speaker 1: two jobs too hot. Like, there's so few times where

493
00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:18,520
Speaker 1: I'm like this really clicks for me. I really thrive

494
00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:21,680
Speaker 1: in this, I really my brain understands this. I work

495
00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:24,919
Speaker 1: well in this, I'm able to create this, I get

496
00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:27,639
Speaker 1: this me and this are on the safe wave, like

497
00:23:27,760 --> 00:23:31,000
Speaker 1: me and this job we work. Be confident in that.

498
00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:33,440
Speaker 1: It's like a gift, you know, when you find it.

499
00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:37,480
Speaker 1: Be confident that, be relish in that, absorb that, take

500
00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:40,960
Speaker 1: that in, take in that you found something that feels

501
00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:43,720
Speaker 1: so right for you, and be confident in that. And

502
00:23:43,720 --> 00:23:47,920
Speaker 1: then no, if it doesn't work out, no one cares.

503
00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:51,800
Speaker 1: It's okay and not everything's forever. Maybe with something you

504
00:23:51,800 --> 00:23:53,960
Speaker 1: did for a little bit, loved it at the time.

505
00:23:54,119 --> 00:23:58,399
Speaker 1: Now I'm ready to move on. Life is cyclical and

506
00:23:58,440 --> 00:24:01,639
Speaker 1: things change and it's moving. You should always be moving forward,

507
00:24:01,680 --> 00:24:05,080
Speaker 1: and I think change is nothing but a blessing. The

508
00:24:05,160 --> 00:24:07,800
Speaker 1: world is always moving forward. When you get stagnant, I

509
00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:11,680
Speaker 1: think that's when you lose life. I think that's when

510
00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:16,159
Speaker 1: you lose joy. Just don't get flat, keep going, keep moving,

511
00:24:16,560 --> 00:24:19,399
Speaker 1: keep changing, and you will just discover so much And

512
00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:21,440
Speaker 1: I really think you'll become the best version of yourself.

513
00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:25,119
Speaker 1: How do you beat imposter syndrome? Again? I am so sorry.

514
00:24:25,160 --> 00:24:28,080
Speaker 1: I do not have flat. I have like the literal opposite.

515
00:24:28,119 --> 00:24:30,960
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm entitled everything. I feel I should

516
00:24:30,960 --> 00:24:33,639
Speaker 1: have whatever I want whenever I want, and should be

517
00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:36,200
Speaker 1: able to be anything I want to be Like literally,

518
00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:38,040
Speaker 1: I feel like I should win an oscar, never been

519
00:24:38,080 --> 00:24:40,120
Speaker 1: in a movie, just feel like I deserve one. So

520
00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:42,959
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry I can't be of help there. But

521
00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:48,800
Speaker 1: it's a good mindset. I don't know. I feel like

522
00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:51,840
Speaker 1: I'm I'm letting my lack of self confidence hinder my

523
00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:55,280
Speaker 1: ability to really live life. Help. Oh my god, I

524
00:24:55,280 --> 00:25:00,920
Speaker 1: hate to hear this. This kills me. You cannot just oh,

525
00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:02,720
Speaker 1: I wish I'm like trying to get in that. I've

526
00:25:02,720 --> 00:25:05,080
Speaker 1: just not been in that headspace in so long. Like

527
00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:07,480
Speaker 1: I have definitely had times where I've like I was

528
00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:10,199
Speaker 1: really beat down and I let it like remove me

529
00:25:10,240 --> 00:25:13,040
Speaker 1: from situations or like social settings. I can be really

530
00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:17,040
Speaker 1: insecure in social settings, as people have told me a

531
00:25:17,080 --> 00:25:20,080
Speaker 1: thousand times. But I don't know why I still go

532
00:25:20,240 --> 00:25:23,879
Speaker 1: for it. I think just taking a step back and like,

533
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:29,960
Speaker 1: don't try too hard, don't overdo it, just like step

534
00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:33,159
Speaker 1: into that person. Like, Okay, the guy that would go

535
00:25:33,200 --> 00:25:35,359
Speaker 1: to that party, how would he feel when he walked in?

536
00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:38,240
Speaker 1: What would he say to the guy standing at the door,

537
00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:41,640
Speaker 1: what would he chat about with those other people? What

538
00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:45,080
Speaker 1: would the version of me that goes skydiving? What would

539
00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:47,800
Speaker 1: he like do this morning. Ooh, he would probably drink

540
00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:49,800
Speaker 1: a protein shake. Okay, I'm gonna go do that. Like,

541
00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:54,280
Speaker 1: just step into that person. What would the confident version

542
00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:57,280
Speaker 1: of me, the version I want to be, what would

543
00:25:57,320 --> 00:25:59,439
Speaker 1: they do this morning? What would they do in this setting?

544
00:25:59,760 --> 00:26:03,600
Speaker 1: And do your best to like not only physically act

545
00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:07,679
Speaker 1: like that, but to spiritually and mentally step into that place,

546
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:11,200
Speaker 1: and you get one life. I am so afraid of regret.

547
00:26:11,359 --> 00:26:15,399
Speaker 1: Regret terrifies me. So if you one day are like,

548
00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:17,560
Speaker 1: oh my god, I wasn't confident and I let it

549
00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:20,520
Speaker 1: stop me from doing everything I want to do too late,

550
00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:23,080
Speaker 1: you know, And no one was judging, No one was

551
00:26:23,119 --> 00:26:25,640
Speaker 1: thinking you suck, No one was thinking you were unworthy.

552
00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:29,120
Speaker 1: No one was watching every single move you make in life.

553
00:26:29,119 --> 00:26:30,679
Speaker 1: The only person that knows every single move that you

554
00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:33,399
Speaker 1: do on a daily basis is you. So you're gonna

555
00:26:33,680 --> 00:26:36,560
Speaker 1: get old and be like, oh, no one cared if

556
00:26:36,560 --> 00:26:40,000
Speaker 1: I was a little annoying at that party or went

557
00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:44,160
Speaker 1: skydiving that day, or took that new job, or went

558
00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:47,320
Speaker 1: on that trip no one. No one was cheering for

559
00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:48,960
Speaker 1: me when I got back, and no one was yelling

560
00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:51,320
Speaker 1: at me that I shouldn't have gone. No one cares,

561
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:55,760
Speaker 1: you know, think less about what other people are thinking

562
00:26:55,800 --> 00:26:58,040
Speaker 1: about you, because they're thinking about you so much less

563
00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:02,359
Speaker 1: than you think they are. Just do what you wanted

564
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:05,400
Speaker 1: to Nike, just do it, Hilda buff just do it.

565
00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:10,480
Speaker 1: Just do it. Literally. I'm go back to Shia. Just

566
00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:14,040
Speaker 1: do it. Just do it. Literally, do it. And I

567
00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 1: promise at the end, you're not going to get a

568
00:27:15,800 --> 00:27:18,159
Speaker 1: letter in the mail that says, by the way, you

569
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:20,800
Speaker 1: were so unworthy of that opportunity that you received. I'm

570
00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:23,240
Speaker 1: so upset about it. You should have lacked the confidence

571
00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:26,359
Speaker 1: to do it. I cannot believe you even attempted. No

572
00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:29,160
Speaker 1: one is going to say that. I like, literally promise you.

573
00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 1: No one's going to say that. No one's going to

574
00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:35,560
Speaker 1: say you were terrible. You shouldn't have done it. This

575
00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:40,879
Speaker 1: is a huge mistake. Pay me money like nothing's gonna happen,

576
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:44,280
Speaker 1: literally nothing. And even if you are like annoying or

577
00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:47,359
Speaker 1: embarrass yourself in a social situation like I do, I

578
00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:51,000
Speaker 1: don't know. The world keeps turning, the world keeps moving.

579
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:53,200
Speaker 1: It's just of all the things to worry about in life,

580
00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:55,960
Speaker 1: letting oh, I don't feel like I'm good enough to

581
00:27:55,960 --> 00:27:59,560
Speaker 1: do This is just so crazy to me. It's just

582
00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:03,040
Speaker 1: so crazy to me. How many times do you see

583
00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 1: somebody doing something and you're like, I bet they're the greatest, smartest,

584
00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:11,960
Speaker 1: most capable person to be doing that. No, people are

585
00:28:12,000 --> 00:28:14,399
Speaker 1: just doing stuff. They're just making their own confidence and

586
00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:18,840
Speaker 1: just doing it. Newly single friend gone from confident to arrogant.

587
00:28:18,880 --> 00:28:20,840
Speaker 1: How do I tell her to reflect on it nicely?

588
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:25,560
Speaker 1: I mean, maybe let her be arrogant, let her enjoy.

589
00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:27,800
Speaker 1: I don't know. When I meet arrogant people, I'm kind

590
00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:29,760
Speaker 1: of like, good for you. You think you're the shit

591
00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:31,640
Speaker 1: that must be awesome. I bet you get a lot done.

592
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:33,720
Speaker 1: That's what I always think. I'm always like, good for you.

593
00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:38,320
Speaker 1: Arrogance doesn't like and other people doesn't bother me because

594
00:28:38,320 --> 00:28:41,320
Speaker 1: I'm like, you really think you're the shit, must be nice.

595
00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:44,440
Speaker 1: So I don't know, is she hurting you by thinking

596
00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:47,040
Speaker 1: she's awesome and like being arrogant and being too full

597
00:28:47,080 --> 00:28:49,800
Speaker 1: of herself? Like, I don't see how she is unless

598
00:28:49,800 --> 00:28:51,920
Speaker 1: she's like insulting you. If she's insulting you, be like,

599
00:28:52,000 --> 00:28:53,720
Speaker 1: you don't have to beat me down to be confident.

600
00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:55,240
Speaker 1: But I would just try to get on her level.

601
00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:57,080
Speaker 1: I'd be like, I want to be arrogant too. I

602
00:28:57,120 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 1: want to. I feel like arrogance is like manifestation. You're like,

603
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:03,760
Speaker 1: oh my god, she thought she was the prettiest girl

604
00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:05,640
Speaker 1: in the room, and now she's in a magazine. Goddamn.

605
00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:07,280
Speaker 1: Like I just feel like if you just kind of

606
00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:10,640
Speaker 1: believe it, it happens. So get arrogant with her and

607
00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:13,960
Speaker 1: be like, yeah, we can pull anybody we want. We

608
00:29:14,040 --> 00:29:16,080
Speaker 1: can get any man in this world. Hell yeah, Like,

609
00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:18,320
Speaker 1: I don't know. I would say get on her wavelength. Personally,

610
00:29:18,920 --> 00:29:22,520
Speaker 1: I like that wavelength, But if she's being mean about it,

611
00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:25,400
Speaker 1: I would bring that up. But she's not hurting anybody

612
00:29:25,480 --> 00:29:28,680
Speaker 1: by inherently thinking she's dope. I don't feel like she's

613
00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:32,600
Speaker 1: hurting anybody. Tips on feeling comfortable and confident in your body.

614
00:29:32,960 --> 00:29:35,120
Speaker 1: I struggle with my body, but I do all the

615
00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:37,520
Speaker 1: things I said. I envision myself as the perfect body

616
00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:40,840
Speaker 1: that I want. I go to the gym, I invest

617
00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:43,400
Speaker 1: in things that are like healthy foods. I'll spend the

618
00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:45,560
Speaker 1: fourteen dollars on chea seeds and be like, Oh, at

619
00:29:45,640 --> 00:29:47,720
Speaker 1: least I'm doing something for myself today. I'm doing something

620
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:50,280
Speaker 1: for my skin. I'm doing something for my body. I

621
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:54,040
Speaker 1: don't just like sit back and do nothing, but I

622
00:29:54,040 --> 00:29:55,560
Speaker 1: struggle with being confident in my body, and there's a

623
00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:58,280
Speaker 1: lot of things I wish I could change, So I

624
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:00,640
Speaker 1: just I don't let it stop me. I've never let

625
00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:01,960
Speaker 1: it to me. There are a million times where I've

626
00:30:01,960 --> 00:30:04,240
Speaker 1: literally like cried because I felt fat and then walked

627
00:30:04,240 --> 00:30:06,440
Speaker 1: out onto a red carpet and been like, Okay, I'm

628
00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:08,720
Speaker 1: going to serve I do not let it stop me

629
00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:12,040
Speaker 1: because those opportunities don't come around again, and no one's

630
00:30:12,080 --> 00:30:13,400
Speaker 1: going to be like, oh, she didn't come because she

631
00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:15,360
Speaker 1: felt fat, but trust me, she was supposed to be here.

632
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:19,080
Speaker 1: Trust me, she would have looked great. Like no, whatever, again,

633
00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:21,280
Speaker 1: the only person you're hurting is yourself by doing that.

634
00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:25,600
Speaker 1: So yeah, how do you establish confidence enough to not

635
00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:28,600
Speaker 1: worry about what others are saying? I mean, I definitely

636
00:30:28,600 --> 00:30:30,640
Speaker 1: think it always hurts when other people say stuff, But

637
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:32,720
Speaker 1: I'm like, only you're talking about me. When I see

638
00:30:32,760 --> 00:30:34,640
Speaker 1: people talking about me, it like genuinely doesn't hurt me

639
00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:38,560
Speaker 1: because I'm like, you're talking about me. You get so

640
00:30:38,680 --> 00:30:41,280
Speaker 1: much time of this life on this earth, and you're

641
00:30:41,360 --> 00:30:43,600
Speaker 1: using it to talk about me. Honored, I don't know.

642
00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:46,000
Speaker 1: I think it's an honor. It doesn't bother me. This

643
00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:48,400
Speaker 1: is again, it's just a headspace thing. This is just

644
00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:49,959
Speaker 1: a mindset that had to click for me, like it

645
00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:51,920
Speaker 1: used to bother me so much more. And I'm like,

646
00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:56,120
Speaker 1: how embarrassing you're talking about me. I spend very little

647
00:30:56,160 --> 00:30:57,880
Speaker 1: time talking about people they don't give a shit about

648
00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:00,440
Speaker 1: so if I if they don't give a shit about me,

649
00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:02,160
Speaker 1: they wouldn't be talking about me. So I'm just like,

650
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:05,360
Speaker 1: honored that I crossed your mind, Honored that I bothered

651
00:31:05,360 --> 00:31:08,000
Speaker 1: you so much. I always feel that way when people

652
00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:09,320
Speaker 1: are like, you need to do this, you need to

653
00:31:09,360 --> 00:31:10,880
Speaker 1: die your hair, you need to do that. I'm like,

654
00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:13,480
Speaker 1: I love that this is bothering you so much, because

655
00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:15,080
Speaker 1: I just can't even believe I take up this much

656
00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 1: headspace in your mind. Like the fact that you even

657
00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:20,440
Speaker 1: have time to think of this is it an honor?

658
00:31:20,640 --> 00:31:22,920
Speaker 1: I don't know. That's how I think of it. Like

659
00:31:23,640 --> 00:31:24,960
Speaker 1: what do they say, if you don't have haters, you

660
00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:29,080
Speaker 1: ain't popping. That's what I think. If you don't have haters,

661
00:31:29,080 --> 00:31:30,640
Speaker 1: you ain't popping. If you want to be popping, you

662
00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:32,720
Speaker 1: gotta have haters. So I like I'm like, oh, I'm popping.

663
00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 1: I'm just God, that's what I think. I've never once

664
00:31:35,840 --> 00:31:37,440
Speaker 1: cried over. I mean comment someone's left me on the

665
00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:42,920
Speaker 1: internet because I'm like, list, I'm popping. Umm, Okay, we're

666
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:47,080
Speaker 1: getting to the end of the questions. How can we

667
00:31:47,120 --> 00:31:52,160
Speaker 1: help our friends who lack confidence without overwhelming them? I

668
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:54,440
Speaker 1: this is the this is my last question. But I

669
00:31:54,440 --> 00:31:59,560
Speaker 1: would say be gentle. Hopefully I was gentle in my advice.

670
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:04,920
Speaker 1: But it's again, it's just a headspace. It's really just

671
00:32:04,960 --> 00:32:07,320
Speaker 1: a headspace most things in life. I've even gotten to

672
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:09,600
Speaker 1: the point where I'm like, my anxiety that I've suffered

673
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:12,800
Speaker 1: from for so long, I'm like, it's really just a headspace.

674
00:32:13,320 --> 00:32:16,440
Speaker 1: You have to rewire your brain. I think of it

675
00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:17,960
Speaker 1: like it this is going to sound silly, but I

676
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:19,880
Speaker 1: think if it like an office building that needs to

677
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:25,080
Speaker 1: be remodeled, I'm like, this is just a shitty rundown

678
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:29,719
Speaker 1: building that I'm living in. In here, and if I

679
00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:34,240
Speaker 1: don't want to walk into the same shitty building every

680
00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:37,920
Speaker 1: time I have to go in here, I have to

681
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:42,640
Speaker 1: create new pathways, renovate, Like I need to redo what's

682
00:32:42,680 --> 00:32:44,160
Speaker 1: in my mind. So when I think about my anxiety.

683
00:32:44,160 --> 00:32:46,000
Speaker 1: I'm like, I just need to renovate this whole space

684
00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:48,240
Speaker 1: because it is bad. This is walking into a room

685
00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:50,160
Speaker 1: that I do not like. It's ugly and dark and

686
00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:53,440
Speaker 1: scary and gross in here, and it's like, renovate that

687
00:32:53,440 --> 00:32:56,480
Speaker 1: that headspace. So when you're thinking, when you're talking to

688
00:32:56,480 --> 00:32:59,480
Speaker 1: your friends about confidence, it's like, we just got to

689
00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:03,400
Speaker 1: renovate that headspace. It's not actually about being prettier or

690
00:33:03,400 --> 00:33:06,720
Speaker 1: smarter or better. It's literally just about changing your mindset.

691
00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:12,080
Speaker 1: Everyone has value in something to offer everyone. Everyone has

692
00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:19,760
Speaker 1: attractive qualities and unattractive qualities. Everyone has some kind of

693
00:33:19,840 --> 00:33:23,360
Speaker 1: glory to offer. You know. It's like if you're talking

694
00:33:23,360 --> 00:33:25,800
Speaker 1: about your friend, I bet they're your favorite person to

695
00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 1: call or your favorite person to spend time with, and

696
00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:31,360
Speaker 1: I bet they're really funny, and I bet they're really

697
00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:35,480
Speaker 1: loyal and really cool, and it's like they just need

698
00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:37,600
Speaker 1: to shift the mind They don't need to become cooler,

699
00:33:37,840 --> 00:33:40,000
Speaker 1: they don't need to become funnier. They just need to

700
00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:46,120
Speaker 1: shift their mindset to discover that and to discover what

701
00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:48,840
Speaker 1: they have to offer. There's no one on this earth

702
00:33:48,880 --> 00:33:51,720
Speaker 1: that I really feel is like okay, maybe like some

703
00:33:52,080 --> 00:33:55,760
Speaker 1: evil politicians, but there's no one that is just like

704
00:33:56,760 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 1: a lost cause you know, everyone has something. So it's like,

705
00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:02,840
Speaker 1: you don't need to be necessarily become anything that you

706
00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:05,600
Speaker 1: aren't already. You just need to change your mindset. I

707
00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:09,880
Speaker 1: didn't become better at anything. I just shifted my mindset

708
00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:11,520
Speaker 1: to be like I can actually do whatever I want.

709
00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:15,759
Speaker 1: No one's actually going to stop me. I can chase

710
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:17,640
Speaker 1: it all I want. Okay, I'm going to do that.

711
00:34:17,880 --> 00:34:20,960
Speaker 1: You know, it's just a it's like a flip of

712
00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:23,799
Speaker 1: the brain. I used to be like, oh my god,

713
00:34:23,800 --> 00:34:25,080
Speaker 1: I look so bad, I'm going to stay in. And

714
00:34:25,120 --> 00:34:26,439
Speaker 1: then I'd be like, yeah, I look fat, I'm gonna

715
00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:30,000
Speaker 1: go anyways, twenty minutes and I forgot how I felt fat. Literally,

716
00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:34,239
Speaker 1: it's a shift. It's just a mindset. So just nurture there,

717
00:34:34,440 --> 00:34:37,000
Speaker 1: they're shifting mindset. That's what I'm trying to do right now.

718
00:34:37,040 --> 00:34:38,319
Speaker 1: But I don't know if I'm being very nurturing souse.

719
00:34:38,320 --> 00:34:39,680
Speaker 1: I fel like I'm being very blunt about it. But

720
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:42,239
Speaker 1: just nurture a shift in mindset, be like, what can

721
00:34:42,320 --> 00:34:44,560
Speaker 1: we do to make ourselves feel more confident? What can

722
00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:48,520
Speaker 1: we do to it? Like infuriates me when I see

723
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:51,200
Speaker 1: people that I know are capable not do things because

724
00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:54,440
Speaker 1: they think they can't. Like, it infuriates me. If I

725
00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:56,279
Speaker 1: have a friend who's like, I have this idea for

726
00:34:56,320 --> 00:34:57,759
Speaker 1: a business, but I just don't have this and I

727
00:34:57,760 --> 00:34:59,080
Speaker 1: don't have that, and I don't have that, I'm like,

728
00:34:59,560 --> 00:35:03,759
Speaker 1: do it, Like, do it? What do you mean? Do

729
00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:07,239
Speaker 1: it like? You can? Absolutely? It is so frustrating to

730
00:35:07,239 --> 00:35:09,799
Speaker 1: believe in someone more than they believe in themselves. So

731
00:35:09,920 --> 00:35:13,520
Speaker 1: just where I would be like, get the fuck up

732
00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:16,600
Speaker 1: and do this because you are smart and you are capable,

733
00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:18,000
Speaker 1: and I know you can do this, and I know

734
00:35:18,120 --> 00:35:20,600
Speaker 1: you have the idea, and I know you have what

735
00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:22,520
Speaker 1: you need to do to get this started. Do it

736
00:35:22,640 --> 00:35:25,640
Speaker 1: like go And honestly, maybe it just takes another person

737
00:35:25,719 --> 00:35:27,480
Speaker 1: tell them that they can do whatever they want to do.

738
00:35:27,520 --> 00:35:29,279
Speaker 1: Tell them they can be whoever they want to be.

739
00:35:30,480 --> 00:35:32,319
Speaker 1: If they want to change something about themselves, you say,

740
00:35:32,320 --> 00:35:33,560
Speaker 1: you know what, I'll go with you. I'm gonna go

741
00:35:33,600 --> 00:35:35,480
Speaker 1: with you to the doctor and we'll go see what

742
00:35:35,480 --> 00:35:38,239
Speaker 1: we can do. Like, let's make you feel good. Actively

743
00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:41,719
Speaker 1: work on it, actively pursue it, actively be chasing the

744
00:35:41,800 --> 00:35:44,520
Speaker 1: version that you want to be, Spend the money to

745
00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:46,239
Speaker 1: be the person that you want to be. You want

746
00:35:46,239 --> 00:35:48,120
Speaker 1: to start a business, invest in it, you want to

747
00:35:48,200 --> 00:35:50,719
Speaker 1: change something, go change it. You have something on your

748
00:35:50,719 --> 00:35:53,319
Speaker 1: face you don't like, call the dermatologist, Like, go do

749
00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:57,000
Speaker 1: it and actively be working towards this version of yourself

750
00:35:57,040 --> 00:36:02,799
Speaker 1: that you see as the success full, perfect idealation of

751
00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:06,200
Speaker 1: yourself and just be like, what would she drink in

752
00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:09,600
Speaker 1: the morning, what would she have in the afternoon? Where

753
00:36:09,600 --> 00:36:12,279
Speaker 1: would she go if she has an hour to spare? Oh,

754
00:36:12,320 --> 00:36:13,719
Speaker 1: I feel like she would go stretch in the park.

755
00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:17,000
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go do that. Nurture that in them, and

756
00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:20,080
Speaker 1: be like, Okay, when you see the CEO version of yourself,

757
00:36:20,080 --> 00:36:22,560
Speaker 1: who did start this business? Where did they start? What

758
00:36:22,640 --> 00:36:24,640
Speaker 1: was the first thing they did? Who did they call,

759
00:36:24,920 --> 00:36:27,160
Speaker 1: who did they talk to about it? Who did they consult?

760
00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:29,040
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's a really good idea. Let's just

761
00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:33,680
Speaker 1: go try it. Give yourself permission to try things. Lighten

762
00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:37,000
Speaker 1: the pressure. And if you have a friend that you're like,

763
00:36:37,880 --> 00:36:40,440
Speaker 1: you should be more confident. You have so much to offer,

764
00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:45,359
Speaker 1: do what you can to nurture them becoming that person. Like, Hey,

765
00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:47,319
Speaker 1: I know you said you really you're really insecure about

766
00:36:47,360 --> 00:36:48,680
Speaker 1: the fack that you can't cook. I think we should

767
00:36:48,680 --> 00:36:50,239
Speaker 1: go to a cooking class on Tuesday. I think that

768
00:36:50,239 --> 00:36:51,640
Speaker 1: would be so fun. I'd love to go with you

769
00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:54,680
Speaker 1: make them more confident in it. Hey, I know you're

770
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:56,560
Speaker 1: really afraid to apply to that job because you don't

771
00:36:56,600 --> 00:36:58,440
Speaker 1: think that you can do it. But I'd love to

772
00:36:58,480 --> 00:37:00,640
Speaker 1: like run through some ideas that I have you about

773
00:37:01,320 --> 00:37:03,960
Speaker 1: how you could train or how you can impress in

774
00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:06,239
Speaker 1: an interview, or why don't we talk out how that

775
00:37:06,280 --> 00:37:10,680
Speaker 1: interview should go, like nurture it and always keep that

776
00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 1: mindset of like who's the perfect me? What am I

777
00:37:14,120 --> 00:37:16,640
Speaker 1: doing to work towards that? How am I chasing that?

778
00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:18,719
Speaker 1: Am I getting a facial Am I getting a massage?

779
00:37:18,760 --> 00:37:20,759
Speaker 1: Am I going to a confidence seminar? Am I going

780
00:37:20,800 --> 00:37:23,480
Speaker 1: to a speaking seminar? Am I learning another language? Am

781
00:37:23,520 --> 00:37:26,080
Speaker 1: I taking a cooking class? What am I doing to

782
00:37:26,239 --> 00:37:29,360
Speaker 1: just work towards that? To be that woman, to be

783
00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:32,560
Speaker 1: that man? And if it's a friend, I feel like

784
00:37:33,760 --> 00:37:37,120
Speaker 1: it is. I feel confident in the fact that if

785
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:41,520
Speaker 1: you asked any friend that I have, like what a

786
00:37:41,640 --> 00:37:44,400
Speaker 1: quality I have or like probably my best quality as

787
00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:47,439
Speaker 1: a friend, they will tell you that I would do

788
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:50,040
Speaker 1: anything to support them, and I would do anything to

789
00:37:50,080 --> 00:37:51,919
Speaker 1: see them succeed, and I will help them in any

790
00:37:51,920 --> 00:37:57,360
Speaker 1: way possible, any way possible. If they need to impress

791
00:37:57,440 --> 00:38:00,680
Speaker 1: a client, I will get them a reservation at whatever

792
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:04,759
Speaker 1: restaurant I have a pull at, and I will say

793
00:38:04,760 --> 00:38:07,239
Speaker 1: I'm going and then give it to them and set

794
00:38:07,320 --> 00:38:09,440
Speaker 1: them up and pay for it. If they want to

795
00:38:09,480 --> 00:38:11,040
Speaker 1: meet someone that I think they think is going to

796
00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:13,520
Speaker 1: further their career, like, I would do anything to help

797
00:38:13,560 --> 00:38:16,920
Speaker 1: my friends become the best versions of themselves, because I

798
00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:21,440
Speaker 1: just think taking the wave, you're like on this wavelength

799
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 1: with everybody that you hang out with and everybody that

800
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 1: you spend time with, in all of your friends, and

801
00:38:24,680 --> 00:38:27,640
Speaker 1: if you bring the wavelength up, you're all just going

802
00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:29,480
Speaker 1: to go up. You're all just going to go up.

803
00:38:29,520 --> 00:38:32,000
Speaker 1: It's all going to come back to you. Your circle

804
00:38:32,080 --> 00:38:34,000
Speaker 1: is going to be happy. You're going to be happier.

805
00:38:34,080 --> 00:38:39,280
Speaker 1: You're all going to attract abundance and positivity and opportunity

806
00:38:39,280 --> 00:38:41,480
Speaker 1: for each other. And then one day that person's going

807
00:38:41,560 --> 00:38:44,160
Speaker 1: to go, oh my god, my company made a billion

808
00:38:44,239 --> 00:38:46,360
Speaker 1: dollars and I would I cannot believe you help me

809
00:38:46,400 --> 00:38:49,200
Speaker 1: start That was so amazing let's go on vacation. You know,

810
00:38:50,200 --> 00:38:52,160
Speaker 1: when everybody goes up, you go up. So that friend

811
00:38:52,160 --> 00:38:54,239
Speaker 1: that you have that's struggling with confidence, whatever you can

812
00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:56,919
Speaker 1: do to help nurture it and shift their mindset when

813
00:38:56,920 --> 00:38:59,600
Speaker 1: they are confident in getting out of the house and

814
00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:03,200
Speaker 1: talking people and making new friends and doing all of that.

815
00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:07,880
Speaker 1: Your whole you're all here together on this wavelength. The

816
00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:10,959
Speaker 1: whole thing's going to rise. You're all gonna rise because

817
00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 1: you're all going to be doing better. So yeah, that's

818
00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:17,759
Speaker 1: my advice, my very very long winded advice. I kind

819
00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:19,040
Speaker 1: of want to do another. I feel like I could

820
00:39:19,080 --> 00:39:20,960
Speaker 1: do a whole episode on self worth and like shifting

821
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:22,720
Speaker 1: that mindset, but I want to. I want to also

822
00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:26,520
Speaker 1: say I have read probably forty self help books in

823
00:39:26,560 --> 00:39:29,040
Speaker 1: the last year. When I went through my Treacher's breakup,

824
00:39:29,120 --> 00:39:32,840
Speaker 1: I literally read like twenty nine books. I read some

825
00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:35,600
Speaker 1: of them many times. I read The Mountains You one

826
00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:37,879
Speaker 1: hundred times. I read You Are Not What You Think

827
00:39:37,920 --> 00:39:41,719
Speaker 1: one hundred times. I read this book on codependence multiple times.

828
00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:46,360
Speaker 1: I read The Body Keep Score I multiple times. I

829
00:39:46,480 --> 00:39:50,960
Speaker 1: highlighted these books like I really went on a journey

830
00:39:51,280 --> 00:39:53,560
Speaker 1: of like, Okay, there's a mindset that I am not

831
00:39:53,719 --> 00:39:57,799
Speaker 1: in because I am not speaking this language. And I

832
00:39:57,800 --> 00:40:02,080
Speaker 1: did therapy and I I take anti depressants, Like there

833
00:40:02,320 --> 00:40:04,080
Speaker 1: there has been a journey to get me to a

834
00:40:04,120 --> 00:40:07,520
Speaker 1: place where I'm like, yeah, I can actually achieve anything

835
00:40:07,560 --> 00:40:10,360
Speaker 1: I want anytime, and I'm not really worried about it.

836
00:40:10,360 --> 00:40:13,480
Speaker 1: It's a journey, it's a path. But once you get there,

837
00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:16,200
Speaker 1: it like floors me that people don't feel confident enough

838
00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:18,320
Speaker 1: to go after what they want. Like if I wanted

839
00:40:18,360 --> 00:40:23,200
Speaker 1: to be the next movie star in the world, I

840
00:40:23,239 --> 00:40:26,719
Speaker 1: would go do it tomorrow. I would literally have no hesitations.

841
00:40:26,760 --> 00:40:28,479
Speaker 1: I've never acted, I'm never doing to it. I would

842
00:40:28,480 --> 00:40:32,480
Speaker 1: literally be like, put me in the new Marvel movie,

843
00:40:32,840 --> 00:40:35,359
Speaker 1: make me the lead. I can handle it. I'll make

844
00:40:35,360 --> 00:40:38,040
Speaker 1: you a billion Like I would be so confident because

845
00:40:38,080 --> 00:40:41,920
Speaker 1: I just I believe in my work ethic. I believe

846
00:40:42,080 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 1: in myself. I believe in my capabilities. I believe in

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Speaker 1: putting good energy into things. I believe that sending your

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Speaker 1: if it fails, so fucking what. At least I tried.

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Speaker 1: At least I did it. And if you can get

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Speaker 1: into that mindset, so many people, especially women listening, you'll

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Speaker 1: become unstoppable, unfreaking stoppable, unstoppable. So recapping my confidence advice,

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Speaker 1: always be doing stuff that works towards the version of

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Speaker 1: you that you want to look like. It is okay

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Speaker 1: to work on your appearance. It is okay to change things.

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Speaker 1: It is okay to look the way you want to look.

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Speaker 1: It is okay to spend money on a facial It

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Speaker 1: is okay to spend money on a lymphatic drainage. It

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Speaker 1: is okay to buy healthier food. It is okay to

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Speaker 1: dye your hair. It's okay to cut your hair. It's

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Speaker 1: okay to not cut your hair. It's okay to do

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Speaker 1: what you need to do to feel good. It is

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Speaker 1: okay to spend six bucks on a coconut water sometimes

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Speaker 1: because you want to feel hydrated and have cooly, fucking skin.

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Speaker 1: If you have one hundred and fifty dollars and you

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Speaker 1: want to buy one hundred and fifty dollars face scream

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Speaker 1: so that you look young for the next ten years,

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Speaker 1: you fucking do it. There's that, and there's change your mindset.

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Speaker 1: It's a mindset. It's a headspace. It's just a headspace.

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Speaker 1: And three step into that perfect version of yourself. Mentally

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Speaker 1: visualize yourself all the time. I literally will lay in bed.

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Speaker 1: I'm not joking and be like, I'm getting skinnier. I

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Speaker 1: feel it. I feel my stomach flattening, I feel my

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Speaker 1: hip shrinking. I feel it, and I will like sense

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Speaker 1: it and feel it on a molecular level. I will

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Speaker 1: be like, I feel it. I feel myself getting toler

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Speaker 1: I feel my posture getting better. I feel like I'm

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Speaker 1: slimming out. And just feel it, like you're already living it.

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Speaker 1: Feel the feeling of being skinnier, and it will slowly manifest.

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Speaker 1: I swear to God. I swear to God. And at

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Speaker 1: one point I did lose fifty five pounds, so I

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Speaker 1: could also talk about that. I've never really talked about it,

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Speaker 1: but I do feel like I've lost a ton of weight,

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Speaker 1: and like I know the tricks and I know the headspace.

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Speaker 1: And when I have a friend who's trying to lose

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Speaker 1: a lot of weight after having a baby, and I'm like,

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Speaker 1: it's freaking mental, man, it's in your head, like the

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Speaker 1: fact that your body is not letting you lose weight.

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Speaker 1: This is a total nother tangent, but it's a headspace.

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Speaker 1: Everything is a headspace. So if you take the time

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Speaker 1: to like dedicate to yourself and you turn being more

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Speaker 1: confident and looking better and feeling better into a job.

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Speaker 1: Make it a hobby. Looks maxing, life maxing. Make it

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Speaker 1: a hobby. I'm dead serious, feel no shame about it.

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Speaker 1: In two months you will be like, holy shit, I

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Speaker 1: look amazing, Holy shit, I feel amazing. Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: I've accomplished everything I want to accomplish. I cannot believe it.

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Speaker 1: Just do it. Just try that, and then hit me

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Speaker 1: up in two months and be like, wow, I literally

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Speaker 1: spent five thousand dollars on treatments for myself instead of

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Speaker 1: going on a vacation or blowing it on food or

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Speaker 1: whatever it might be. And just be like, I feel amazing.

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Speaker 1: And if you can't do that, tea, healthy foods, walking, sunlight, moisturizes, cleanse,

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Speaker 1: clean your face, wash your sheets, wash your pillowcases, make

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Speaker 1: your bed, clean your house. Buy some incense. Buy things

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Speaker 1: that make you feel good, that give you Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 1: When I bring these incense, I can meditate longer. Buy

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Speaker 1: the ten dollars lipstick, by the sixty dollars lipstick. Whatever

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Speaker 1: you you can do. Oh, I'm gonna buy this healthy

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna go to this expensive health food sort of

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Speaker 1: find the cheapest thing I can because then when I

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Speaker 1: go home today, I'll feel good that I'm like eating

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Speaker 1: this specially sourced Dirk chocolate, and I feel better about

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Speaker 1: my dessert decision today, and I feel like this is

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Speaker 1: the dessert that the perfect meat would have chosen, and

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Speaker 1: she invested in herself today. It can be three dollars. Oh,

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Speaker 1: I went and bought this luxurious tea and now I'm

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Speaker 1: just detoxaying headspace. I bought a three dollars face and

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Speaker 1: hausket cvs. I'm going to do one of these as

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Speaker 1: many times a week as I can do it. Do

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Speaker 1: the things that make you look better and feel better. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna shut up now because this is a really

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Speaker 1: long tangent. But be confident and DM me if you

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Speaker 1: listen to this and it made any difference, because I

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Speaker 1: wanted to help and I want to know that I

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Speaker 1: made a difference. Mind Space, min mindset, headspace, mindset people, headspace,

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Speaker 1: Get there, get on, get on my head space, Get

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Speaker 1: on my wavelength. Guys, it's so good here. My instagram

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Speaker 1: the series and we will be back next week with

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Speaker 1: hopefully an It Girl and not just me, but love

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Speaker 1: you guys and be confident you can do anything you want.