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Speaker 1: All right now, guys, it is time for the Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: We got it for you. Here it is the Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. Subject. I can't call her husband daddy. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. I am a twenty eight year old female

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Speaker 1: and I have a fifty seven year old male mentor

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Speaker 1: and helped me through some obstacles in my life. This

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Speaker 1: is the first man that has ever treated me with

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Speaker 1: is like a father figure to me, and I call

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Speaker 1: myself his play daughter. The only problem is his wife.

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Speaker 1: He knew that I should not have. The only problem

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Speaker 1: is his wife. He knew that I did not have

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Speaker 1: any plans for Thanksgiving dinner, so he invited me to

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Speaker 1: his home. He never talked much about his wife, but

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Speaker 1: I figured she would be just as sweet as he is.

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Speaker 1: I took a bottle of moscato with me as a

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Speaker 1: thank you for the dinner invitation. His wife greeted me,

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Speaker 1: and she was polite, but not very talkative. She was

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Speaker 1: finishing up dinner while my play dad and I had

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Speaker 1: a glass of wine and watched the game in the din.

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Speaker 1: I must have given off the wrong vibes because his

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Speaker 1: wife seemed to get irritated with me quickly. It didn't

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Speaker 1: help that I had on a crop top and leggings

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Speaker 1: and they were dressed nicely. The next thing I knew,

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Speaker 1: his wife stormed into the din and started going off.

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Speaker 1: She started with what is this playdoor to mess? It

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Speaker 1: went downhill from there. My play dad did not defend me. Instead,

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Speaker 1: he fixed me a to go plate and asked me

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Speaker 1: to leave. I was shocked and hurt, and I can't

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Speaker 1: believe he let her go off on us like that.

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Speaker 1: I think she owes me in age. Now he's been

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Speaker 1: distant at work and I don't know what to say

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Speaker 1: to him. I hope that we can still have a

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Speaker 1: cool relationship. Steven Shirley, how should I handle this all? Right? Now? Listen,

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Speaker 1: I know you're young, You're only twenty eight years old,

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Speaker 1: but really though. You know, the letter you wrote made

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Speaker 1: you sound pretty innocent and sincere in the fact that

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Speaker 1: you feel he's a play dad to you. I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: give you the benefit of the of the doubt for that,

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Speaker 1: but you're going about this in the entire wrong way. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you don't go to another woman's house dressed like that,

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Speaker 1: a crop top and leggings. I mean, it was dinner,

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Speaker 1: Come on, not just any dinner. This was Thanksgiving dinner.

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Speaker 1: People usually dress up, you know, if they invite you out,

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Speaker 1: you look presentable. Haven't you heard the saying first impressions

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Speaker 1: or lasting and all of that. What was his wife

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Speaker 1: supposed to think? Which you looking like that? I mean,

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Speaker 1: as my mother would say, fanning around her husband. And

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Speaker 1: then you go into the din with him to watch

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Speaker 1: the game, just the two of you. No, no, well,

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Speaker 1: why weren't you in the kitchen with her, you know,

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Speaker 1: at least trying to help her out? Why didn't you

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Speaker 1: offer even if she said no, you stay with her,

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Speaker 1: you know, And what she did is what a lot

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Speaker 1: of wives would have done, quite frankly in this situation,

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Speaker 1: because it just doesn't look right. You guys in the

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Speaker 1: den watching the game while she she owes you nothing.

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Speaker 1: She doesn't owe you an apology. You're not going to

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Speaker 1: get one, so stop looking for that. And you can

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Speaker 1: believe he got an earful after you left about who

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Speaker 1: are you? What's his play daughter? Mess? I bet you

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Speaker 1: are playing with her, you all of that, playing around,

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Speaker 1: all of that. That's why he's been distant at work. Okay,

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Speaker 1: And he will probably say that way if he knows

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Speaker 1: what's good for him. So for your sake, I hope

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Speaker 1: this was a lesson learned about you know how to

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Speaker 1: act around someone's wife. Okay, Steve, Okay, Shirley. Everything you

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Speaker 1: say it is as a matter of fact, you told

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Speaker 1: her the correct way to behave all right, Come on, now,

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Speaker 1: let's just go on. Tell the truth. This old ass,

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Speaker 1: the leggings she can't find. No leggings that she can't

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Speaker 1: well that look like the ones you had her, she

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Speaker 1: can't find it. You know about your ass over here

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Speaker 1: own thanksgiving? He like a father figure to you, A

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Speaker 1: little out of shape. Ain't what she was mad about it?

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Speaker 1: So now he invited you to his home. He ain't

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Speaker 1: said nothing about his wife. Most men don't bring up

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Speaker 1: crazy people. Yeah, we don't go man and show enjoy

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Speaker 1: talking to you because this helper I live with. But

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Speaker 1: I figured she would be just as sweet as he was.

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Speaker 1: I took a lobott of Moscotto with me to took

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Speaker 1: a botta mascot out with me as a thank you

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Speaker 1: for the dinner invitation. Let me explain something to hood.

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Speaker 1: People ain't really up on muscago. You had to take

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Speaker 1: something else, Mogen David Man of chev and the Greens,

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Speaker 1: Harvey's Bristol Creek. Yeah, something like that, yet takes some spanyarding.

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Speaker 1: Oh that spanyard. You had to take something that's really

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Speaker 1: cool somewhere. She would go, Oh, but you know you

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Speaker 1: over there with your little up in the cute as

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Speaker 1: talking about some bottle of muscato. Don't nobody in here

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Speaker 1: drank musquito. What she gotta be that from up and

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Speaker 1: drink this in a cheap as bottle of musquete them?

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Speaker 1: You know you rug, why don't you ja brain some

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Speaker 1: off with it? His wife greeted me, and she was

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Speaker 1: light but not very talking. She was finishing up dinner

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Speaker 1: while my playdad and I see now listen to me

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Speaker 1: key words she was finishing up dinner. Yes, listen to me.

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Speaker 1: She wasn't in that washing dishes. Her big ass was

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Speaker 1: still at the table eating everybody else too. She and

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Speaker 1: that finishing up dinner. Yeah, oh, I thought she meant

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Speaker 1: she was still cooking it. Yeah, she was still cooking it.

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Speaker 1: She was putting purposes. She was finishing up dinner with

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Speaker 1: my play dad. I had a glass of wine and

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Speaker 1: watched the game in the day. You don't watch the

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Speaker 1: game after you eat. All right, hang on, Steve, all right,

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Speaker 1: we'll come back from Pert two. I think at twenty

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Speaker 1: three after the hour. The subject is I can't call

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Speaker 1: her husband daddy right after this. You're listening. This holiday

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Speaker 1: Target dot com. All right, Steve, Come on, let's recap

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Speaker 1: today's Strawberry letters. Subject I can't attitude is about nasty.

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Speaker 1: This letter is about nasty attitude from a certain woman.

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Speaker 1: And I'm just trying to draw attention to what I

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Speaker 1: think this attitude is. Young girl, still got it going on,

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Speaker 1: Steve Steele, sitting up old and lady at the house.

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Speaker 1: Everything that fail. So don't get mad at me, because

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Speaker 1: I'm in here giving you another angle. This is the

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Speaker 1: angle of a strawberry ladder that I'm doing. And my

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Speaker 1: mama was a full figured woman, so that ain't what

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Speaker 1: this is about. I loved my mama before I loved anybody.

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Speaker 1: This is about this evil health for right here, j

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Speaker 1: because this lady thought that he was gonna be sweet

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Speaker 1: just like her play daddy chief in to be your

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Speaker 1: play mama though should be here. The only problem his

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Speaker 1: wife had invited y'all the things. Never dinner he did

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Speaker 1: because he ain't. Never talked about his wife because he's

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Speaker 1: scared he lived. Why would you bring that up? Why

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Speaker 1: is he afraid of his wife, Steve? Because something wrong

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Speaker 1: with him. She's been sliding off as the years go back.

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Speaker 1: She's only fifty seven, Seve you've seen some fifty seven

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Speaker 1: year olds that look eighty eight. You haven't seen a

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Speaker 1: lot of fifty seven year olds look seventy. I think

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Speaker 1: that's the case. I took a battle of Muscott over there.

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Speaker 1: That's way too bushe for hood people. And she come

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Speaker 1: in here with this bottle of musquito, Scott his muscatto.

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Speaker 1: Ain't nobody bought you no damn bottle of Mosquitoless she

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Speaker 1: thinking all the wine she could have had, any green

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Speaker 1: ball of coat, could have bought a forty of Mickey's

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Speaker 1: all up. Bit you set up and bought this cheap musquito.

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Speaker 1: His wife greeted me. She was polite, but not very talking.

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Speaker 1: She was finishing up dinner while my play Dann and

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Speaker 1: I had a glass of wine and watched the game.

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Speaker 1: And it did you know, we don't watch the game

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Speaker 1: after we eat, and you know, got a glass of

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Speaker 1: wine and that watching the game. She adn't that finishing

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Speaker 1: up dinner. She was sitting there at the table eating

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Speaker 1: another plate. This is my husband, herman. No, I had

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Speaker 1: three servings, three servings. Now he didn't took your skin

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Speaker 1: Steve leggings, and she leggings and the crop top to her,

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Speaker 1: tell me where her belly was out. She's sitting up

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Speaker 1: in there and got a housecoat on from Walmart. Than yeah,

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Speaker 1: that you just slide over your head. It's a one piece.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes it's a tent. Did she take them curlers out?

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Speaker 1: And then called that now she are and she tried

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Speaker 1: your play dad had a glass of wine watching the

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Speaker 1: game in the den, just the two of them. But

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Speaker 1: they ended then they wasn't in the bedroom. They ended

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Speaker 1: damn dead. Well. Then she said, I must have given

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Speaker 1: off the wrong vibe them tight ass pants. You damn right,

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Speaker 1: you sitting up in here with these leggings on, because

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Speaker 1: she's sitting over there with a pair of dockers on

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Speaker 1: looking just light leggings. Doctor I. She said they were

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Speaker 1: dressed nicely. She said, I had on a crop top

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Speaker 1: Because his wife seemed to get irritated with me quickly.

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Speaker 1: It didn't help that I had on a crop top

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Speaker 1: she stomed to the den and going off, she stayed

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Speaker 1: with what is this play? Daughter? Man? Yes, I'm not

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Speaker 1: in the den. She didn't what she say and it

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Speaker 1: went down. What is this play? Daughter? Sugar Honey iced

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Speaker 1: team sugar honey iced team you ain't no, damn played

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Speaker 1: daughter with your own ass playing. It went down here

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Speaker 1: from there, your play. Dad did not defend me. He

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Speaker 1: can't can't take her for you in her house Tilda

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Speaker 1: and came up and hit raising hell what's her name? Tilda?

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Speaker 1: Till Tilling came in here damn. Then then instead he

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Speaker 1: right there. I told you the food would Finnish. He didn't,

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Speaker 1: shocked and hurt and can't believe he let her go

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Speaker 1: off on on on us like that. Wait a minute, no, no,

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Speaker 1: it was you. He can't stop at what you cannot

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Speaker 1: do is defending another woman to your wife. Thank you?

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Speaker 1: I think she owes me an apology and where you

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Speaker 1: think she gonna give you this apology because you're better

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Speaker 1: not take your head back over there, because all this

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Speaker 1: was was a warning shot. You just set that long enough.

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Speaker 1: You be on the news. Yes, you'd have been on

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Speaker 1: the ten o'clock news that night. This is Houston letter

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Speaker 1: right here. Now, he'd been distant at work, told you

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Speaker 1: have a cool relationship. That's over you, Stephen Sherley, How

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Speaker 1: should I handle this? Don't go back over the time

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Speaker 1: about she owe you an apologize. I've very rarely ever

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Speaker 1: seen old black people apologize in they house. My mama

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Speaker 1: I ain't, Felisha. Look, we gotta get out of here. Steve, please,

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Speaker 1: how you asked me? No sugar hunting iced tea? Please

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