1 00:00:18,239 --> 00:00:20,919 Speaker 1: Happy five Minute Friday, y'all. I'm reading a body here. 2 00:00:21,160 --> 00:00:25,320 Speaker 1: You are listening to Hurdle. Good to have you. I know, 3 00:00:25,560 --> 00:00:28,640 Speaker 1: I know, don't come at me. Summer is not over yet. 4 00:00:28,760 --> 00:00:31,040 Speaker 1: I believe it goes until the end of September. But 5 00:00:31,800 --> 00:00:35,360 Speaker 1: I am leaving on Tuesday to go to Tokyo for 6 00:00:35,400 --> 00:00:39,840 Speaker 1: two weeks and when I return, it will officially be fall. 7 00:00:40,040 --> 00:00:42,159 Speaker 2: So I'm kind of in my feels. 8 00:00:42,159 --> 00:00:45,839 Speaker 1: I'm thinking about how I want to spend my final 9 00:00:46,040 --> 00:00:50,960 Speaker 1: weekend of summer, aside from of course packing for the 10 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:51,960 Speaker 1: foreseeable future. 11 00:00:52,479 --> 00:00:53,080 Speaker 2: I digress. 12 00:00:53,280 --> 00:00:56,480 Speaker 1: Last weekend, I was soaking in all the seasonal vibes. 13 00:00:56,520 --> 00:00:59,000 Speaker 1: I went back to Connecticut to hang out with my 14 00:00:59,080 --> 00:01:02,560 Speaker 1: family and see them before I start traveling, and we 15 00:01:02,600 --> 00:01:06,240 Speaker 1: went to the beach and I did something that I 16 00:01:06,280 --> 00:01:10,600 Speaker 1: have a confession I have never done before, and that is, 17 00:01:11,200 --> 00:01:13,560 Speaker 1: this is going to sound so crazy to some of you, 18 00:01:13,959 --> 00:01:18,800 Speaker 1: wear a triangle bikini top. I know, I know it's 19 00:01:18,800 --> 00:01:21,360 Speaker 1: not a big deal. I see women wearing triangle bikini 20 00:01:21,400 --> 00:01:23,959 Speaker 1: tops all the time, but this is kind of My 21 00:01:24,000 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 1: relationship with triangle bikini tops is similar to the relationship 22 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:30,480 Speaker 1: that I have with denim, and that when I was younger, 23 00:01:30,800 --> 00:01:34,000 Speaker 1: I had a really hard time finding denim that made 24 00:01:34,040 --> 00:01:39,720 Speaker 1: me feel comfortable and at the same to the same effect, 25 00:01:39,959 --> 00:01:44,760 Speaker 1: I never really felt comfortable wearing that style bathing suit, 26 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:46,640 Speaker 1: regardless of what bottoms. 27 00:01:46,200 --> 00:01:46,880 Speaker 2: I was wearing. 28 00:01:47,080 --> 00:01:50,680 Speaker 1: I never really felt as though I had the quote 29 00:01:50,760 --> 00:01:55,600 Speaker 1: unquote right body for a triangle bathing suit top. And 30 00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:58,080 Speaker 1: I know this is silly. It's like that saying that 31 00:01:58,120 --> 00:02:00,360 Speaker 1: we hear at the top of every summer. If you 32 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:03,800 Speaker 1: have a body, your body is a bikini body, right, 33 00:02:03,920 --> 00:02:05,200 Speaker 1: that's what we're talking about. 34 00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:08,960 Speaker 2: Still, it just never felt right for me. 35 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:12,680 Speaker 1: But over the summer, I saw a woman wearing a 36 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:17,800 Speaker 1: super cute triangle top with a very similar bottom style 37 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:21,680 Speaker 1: like high leg, high waisted to what I like to wear, 38 00:02:22,160 --> 00:02:24,240 Speaker 1: and I said, you know what, I'm going to buy one. 39 00:02:24,280 --> 00:02:28,720 Speaker 1: And well, that triangle top sat in my bathing suit 40 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:34,000 Speaker 1: drawer for the past three months, and for some reason 41 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:37,760 Speaker 1: I decided that I was going to finally wear it 42 00:02:37,800 --> 00:02:41,360 Speaker 1: over the weekend. It's so funny because something can be 43 00:02:41,440 --> 00:02:45,200 Speaker 1: such a big deal to you, but the people around you. 44 00:02:45,120 --> 00:02:47,080 Speaker 2: Have no concept of what's going on. 45 00:02:47,720 --> 00:02:50,160 Speaker 1: I know that my mom and one of my oldest 46 00:02:50,160 --> 00:02:51,920 Speaker 1: friends that I was at the beach with had no 47 00:02:52,880 --> 00:02:56,200 Speaker 1: context thought, second thought about the fact that I was 48 00:02:56,240 --> 00:02:58,800 Speaker 1: sitting there wearing that bathing suit top. But for me, 49 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:06,000 Speaker 1: it was very liberating and yeah, just worth commemorating for me. 50 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 1: I share this story with you because there are so 51 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:11,040 Speaker 1: many times where we just have this assumption about other people, 52 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:14,600 Speaker 1: and sometimes it helps to paint a little bit of color, 53 00:03:15,440 --> 00:03:19,000 Speaker 1: to provide a little bit of context on where I'm at, 54 00:03:19,200 --> 00:03:21,880 Speaker 1: in hopes that maybe if you've experienced something similar, you 55 00:03:21,919 --> 00:03:24,320 Speaker 1: feel a little less alone in whatever it is that 56 00:03:24,360 --> 00:03:27,440 Speaker 1: you're going through. Now, do I think that many people 57 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:29,680 Speaker 1: feel this way about triangle bathing suit tops? I have 58 00:03:29,800 --> 00:03:33,200 Speaker 1: no clue, And candidly, I'm sure there are many male 59 00:03:33,240 --> 00:03:35,640 Speaker 1: listeners that are like, Wow, what an episode Emily. 60 00:03:36,360 --> 00:03:39,800 Speaker 2: To that, I say, thank you for listening. My listener 61 00:03:39,920 --> 00:03:41,240 Speaker 2: question for. 62 00:03:41,320 --> 00:03:45,280 Speaker 1: You this week, what's a story that you're telling yourself 63 00:03:45,320 --> 00:03:49,000 Speaker 1: that you've allowed yourself to believe to be true for 64 00:03:49,160 --> 00:03:53,000 Speaker 1: probably way too long right now, a la me being, 65 00:03:53,480 --> 00:03:56,880 Speaker 1: I don't have that type of body for this. What 66 00:03:57,040 --> 00:03:59,440 Speaker 1: is a story that you have been telling yourself for 67 00:03:59,600 --> 00:04:05,320 Speaker 1: way too long that it's time to dispel? And now 68 00:04:05,840 --> 00:04:10,680 Speaker 1: a listener question, Hey, Emily, It's Joe from NYC. My 69 00:04:10,800 --> 00:04:13,280 Speaker 1: question for you this week is how do you respond 70 00:04:13,280 --> 00:04:18,440 Speaker 1: to negative comments, both psychologically and logistically, i e. Do 71 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:22,000 Speaker 1: you delete them, respond to them and leave them up, etc. 72 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:25,400 Speaker 1: Thanks so much and love your show. You are incredibly 73 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:28,400 Speaker 1: inspiring to me. This is a good question, Joe, so 74 00:04:29,120 --> 00:04:32,080 Speaker 1: I'll be I'll be upfront. I don't get a lot 75 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:34,600 Speaker 1: of negative comments, and for that I'm very grateful. I 76 00:04:34,640 --> 00:04:38,360 Speaker 1: also don't go to seek them out. So while I 77 00:04:38,480 --> 00:04:41,520 Speaker 1: don't get push notifications about things that happen on Instagram 78 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:44,680 Speaker 1: to my phone, I do get all the notifications when 79 00:04:44,720 --> 00:04:46,840 Speaker 1: I open the app, and I'll look through them and 80 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:51,040 Speaker 1: answer what I answer. I believe that you teach people 81 00:04:51,040 --> 00:04:54,160 Speaker 1: how to treat you, and as kindness is one of 82 00:04:54,200 --> 00:04:56,320 Speaker 1: my values, I would like to think that that is 83 00:04:56,440 --> 00:04:58,719 Speaker 1: the energy that I'm putting out into the world, and 84 00:04:58,720 --> 00:05:00,080 Speaker 1: so that energy is coming back to me. 85 00:05:00,600 --> 00:05:03,159 Speaker 2: With that said, that doesn't mean. 86 00:05:02,960 --> 00:05:07,160 Speaker 1: That I don't get the sporadic, negative, hurtful comment, and 87 00:05:08,240 --> 00:05:12,919 Speaker 1: I'll usually do my best to respond instead of reacts. 88 00:05:12,960 --> 00:05:15,640 Speaker 1: So I know that when someone has something negative to 89 00:05:15,680 --> 00:05:19,120 Speaker 1: say to me about me, oftentimes that has more to 90 00:05:19,160 --> 00:05:20,680 Speaker 1: do with them than it has to do with me. 91 00:05:20,839 --> 00:05:23,920 Speaker 2: That is a fact. However, there are going to. 92 00:05:23,839 --> 00:05:26,680 Speaker 1: Be times where maybe someone just doesn't agree with what 93 00:05:26,720 --> 00:05:30,120 Speaker 1: I'm saying, and when I feel this stirs something up 94 00:05:30,200 --> 00:05:32,520 Speaker 1: in me when I read it, I make sure to 95 00:05:32,560 --> 00:05:36,440 Speaker 1: take a step back first and think about it for 96 00:05:36,480 --> 00:05:38,920 Speaker 1: a second. So I don't want to be reactive on 97 00:05:38,960 --> 00:05:43,719 Speaker 1: social media. That is never ever my goal. Sometimes I 98 00:05:43,760 --> 00:05:46,400 Speaker 1: will respond and leave a comment there if something is 99 00:05:46,520 --> 00:05:50,640 Speaker 1: just plain nasty, which again so few and far between. 100 00:05:50,760 --> 00:05:56,640 Speaker 1: I can't remember the last time someone simply just wrote 101 00:05:57,360 --> 00:06:02,640 Speaker 1: something targeting like my appearance or something on my page, thankfully, 102 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:05,720 Speaker 1: But if something is just like absolutely unecessary, I have 103 00:06:05,839 --> 00:06:09,479 Speaker 1: no plot problem at all, deleting it, blocking them whatever. 104 00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:11,800 Speaker 1: It's just that something I have to do often, and 105 00:06:11,839 --> 00:06:14,600 Speaker 1: for that I am very grateful. But yeah, if there's 106 00:06:14,640 --> 00:06:17,760 Speaker 1: a takeaway from this answer, it's that I often I 107 00:06:17,800 --> 00:06:20,160 Speaker 1: do believe that you can disagree with people and still 108 00:06:20,279 --> 00:06:22,839 Speaker 1: orbit around them. I think what's been quite difficult over 109 00:06:22,880 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 1: the last few years, especially with the I'm gesturing loosely 110 00:06:26,480 --> 00:06:31,120 Speaker 1: here political climate, is that there are such intense beliefs, 111 00:06:31,720 --> 00:06:34,800 Speaker 1: but there are also good people on both sides, and 112 00:06:35,240 --> 00:06:40,920 Speaker 1: many are prone to writing people off a lah cancel culture, 113 00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:43,800 Speaker 1: and so I am of the mindset that I can 114 00:06:43,839 --> 00:06:45,919 Speaker 1: disagree with someone but still. 115 00:06:45,640 --> 00:06:47,159 Speaker 2: Believe that they're a good person. 116 00:06:47,839 --> 00:06:52,640 Speaker 1: And I try to approach a lot of the situations 117 00:06:52,640 --> 00:06:55,240 Speaker 1: that come my way with this mindset and assume good 118 00:06:55,240 --> 00:06:59,839 Speaker 1: intent until perhaps I am shown otherwise. 119 00:07:00,040 --> 00:07:02,240 Speaker 2: Yes, that's it for this week. 120 00:07:02,600 --> 00:07:04,839 Speaker 1: Make sure you're following along on social It's over at 121 00:07:04,920 --> 00:07:08,760 Speaker 1: Hurdle podcast, I'm over at Emily a Body, Another hurdle 122 00:07:09,360 --> 00:07:10,880 Speaker 1: conquered to Tokyo. 123 00:07:11,080 --> 00:07:13,520 Speaker 2: I go catch you guys next week.