Speaker 1: The place most people think is the end is actually
Speaker 1: just the beginning. People think you just have to dream it,
Speaker 1: think it, and then give it over to the universe
Speaker 1: and let them let the universe do its thing. It's
Speaker 1: actually not the case at all. That's just the seed
Speaker 1: being planted. At this point, you have to think, are
Speaker 1: you really ready for that desire to come true? Now,
Speaker 1: this is the most important part. I'm Ralei Wkah and
Speaker 1: on my podcast A Really Good Cry, we embrace the
Speaker 1: messy and the beautiful, providing a space for raw, unfiltered
Speaker 1: conversations that celebrate vulnerability and allow you to tune in
Speaker 1: to learn, connect and find comfort together. Hey everyone, and
Speaker 1: welcome back to this week's episode of A Really Good Cry. Now,
Speaker 1: today I'm going to talk about a topic that comes
Speaker 1: up a lot living in LA And honestly, I used
Speaker 1: to be a skeptic every single time I heard the
Speaker 1: word manifesting, especially here in LA, because everyone is manifesting
Speaker 1: everything from their boyfriends to their booties. But honestly, after
Speaker 1: becoming more intentional in my life and truly seeing and
Speaker 1: understanding the power of it, I realize it actually is
Speaker 1: pretty powerful and magical and incredible. If you are able
Speaker 1: to do it right. I think there's this woo woo
Speaker 1: idea of manifestation these days that is this magical thing
Speaker 1: that happens. And like I said, I do think it
Speaker 1: is quite magical, but not in the mystical way that
Speaker 1: you might think. It's not just wishing or hoping for
Speaker 1: it to come true or come into existence, or waiting
Speaker 1: for the very manifestation Godmother to come and give you
Speaker 1: all your heart desires. It's actually way more.
Speaker 2: Practical than that.
Speaker 1: How do I change my lifestyle and the things that
Speaker 1: I'm doing daily to support and move towards achieving this
Speaker 1: goal that I want. Achieving a goal requires clear intention,
Speaker 1: actionable planning, and consistent effort, and manifesting is simply using
Speaker 1: tools and systems to bring your goals into reality. So
Speaker 1: you're focusing your energy, your thoughts, and your actions into
Speaker 1: achieving your desired outcome, bringing something really tangible into your
Speaker 1: life through attraction and belief. When I started researching it,
Speaker 1: reading about it, and listening to people speak about it,
Speaker 1: I actually realized that so much of my life has
Speaker 1: been a result of this process, and that's what it is.
Speaker 1: It actually is a process. I chose a goal. I
Speaker 1: refine my intention and my desire around it.
Speaker 2: I imagine what it.
Speaker 1: Would feel like, what it would be like to achieve
Speaker 1: it or have the thing that I wanted. I changed
Speaker 1: and I adapted my lifestyle, my habits, and my routine
Speaker 1: to be conducive to the desire and believed every single
Speaker 1: day that it was for me. Now, I believe in God,
Speaker 1: and I have since I was very young, and so
Speaker 1: I also believe that it's so much more than just
Speaker 1: a mething. Actually it's never really just an eye. It's
Speaker 1: always a wee. And I read this in Gabby Bernstein's
Speaker 1: book All about Manifestation. It's called the super Attractor, and
Speaker 1: she says that manifesting is known as co creating, and
Speaker 1: I really loved that definition. It's a collaboration between you
Speaker 1: and the universe, between you and God. And the truth
Speaker 1: is that sometimes when you do end up thinking it's
Speaker 1: a me thing, it's actually what limits us from opening
Speaker 1: ourselves to the opportunities or the possibility of more than
Speaker 1: what we even believe we are capable of.
Speaker 2: So believing it's a.
Speaker 1: Team effort with you and God or you and the
Speaker 1: universe makes it feel like more is possible. More than
Speaker 1: you could even imagine, more than you even think. It's
Speaker 1: part of your reality, more than you could even foresee
Speaker 1: for yourself. You believe more could be possible because it's
Speaker 1: not just you. It's not you and your limited capabilities.
Speaker 1: It's you plus something or someone that is capable of
Speaker 1: doing anything and everything. And so actually believing that it's
Speaker 1: a we and not me makes so much more possible.
Speaker 1: The first time that I can really think back to
Speaker 1: when I did feel like I had manifested something in
Speaker 1: my life was when I was deeply seeking a spiritual community.
Speaker 1: And this was about, gosh, maybe like fifteen years ago now,
Speaker 1: maybe just under and I had such a deep desire to.
Speaker 2: Have a meaningful spiritual practice in my life.
Speaker 1: I just graduated from college or from university, and I
Speaker 1: was feeling a little bit lost. I never felt like
Speaker 1: I found a group of people that I really felt
Speaker 1: connected to through my university days. I did, I had
Speaker 1: made really good friends, but I still felt like I
Speaker 1: was lacking something. And I think a big part of
Speaker 1: that was this deep desire to feel connected to God
Speaker 1: and understand find a community that also felt that way.
Speaker 1: And so the desire was already there in me and
Speaker 1: had been for a while, and somehow through my mum,
Speaker 1: I actually got introduced to a spiritual youth group. And
Speaker 1: at that time, my routine or my lifestyle really was
Speaker 1: not conducive to what they were doing. They'd all have
Speaker 1: met ups on Fridays, and I'd have plans to go
Speaker 1: out with my friends to a bar or to hang
Speaker 1: out as SSHA place that night, or they'd do early
Speaker 1: morning prayers and I would have late nights the day before,
Speaker 1: so I wouldn't make it or wake up in time
Speaker 1: for it. So I really had to create space in
Speaker 1: my life. I created space. I created an environment that
Speaker 1: didn't just let me receive what I'd been asking for,
Speaker 1: but also allowed me to maintain it and keep it.
Speaker 1: And honestly, at the time it was really hard. My
Speaker 1: friends were confused, my family were confused. I suddenly decided
Speaker 1: to shift my whole reality into something new, and so
Speaker 1: it was really difficult for me to shift. But also
Speaker 1: the shift was difficult for other people around me, and
Speaker 1: they did not fail to let me know it. And
Speaker 1: so I had made a decision that I would go
Speaker 1: to the temple every single morning before I went to work.
Speaker 1: Now that meant I had to wake up at about
Speaker 1: four am, to get there for four thirty, to stay
Speaker 1: there till about six thirty seven, go home, get ready
Speaker 1: for work, and leave, and then to be able to
Speaker 1: do that all over again the next day, which I
Speaker 1: was trying to do. I really wanted to commit to
Speaker 1: just investing as much time and energy into something that
Speaker 1: I'd been wanting for so long, and so to be
Speaker 1: able to do that, I had to sacrifice certain things,
Speaker 1: so that meant no social life after work. I had
Speaker 1: made a decison that for my own consciousness, I didn't
Speaker 1: want to eat out in places that served me, and
Speaker 1: so that restricted my social life even more. And I
Speaker 1: just became very aware of being in environments that were
Speaker 1: supporting that life I wanted, and that weren't. And there
Speaker 1: were so many other things that I had to change.
Speaker 1: But I'm telling you all this to say that it
Speaker 1: did come to me, and it took work to keep
Speaker 1: it in my life, and it has every day since.
Speaker 1: And so manifestation is not just dreaming, it's not just
Speaker 1: envisioning what you want. It's not a woo woo experience.
Speaker 1: It's a full on process. And honestly, that's just one
Speaker 1: example I've seen it happen professionally and personally in my
Speaker 1: life over and over again. So before I share some
Speaker 1: tips on how to start manifesting in your life, I'm
Speaker 1: actually going to share some warnings for you, some of
Speaker 1: the mistakes that I've made along this process, that I've
Speaker 1: heard other people make or I've seen for myself, because
Speaker 1: sometimes we can be desiring something consciously or subconsciously and
Speaker 1: not even realizing that we're doing it. I'm going to
Speaker 1: share these with you because it will save you from
Speaker 1: making these mistakes and you can just learn from mind
Speaker 1: instead of making them yourself. So the first thing is
Speaker 1: to make sure you know exactly what it is that
Speaker 1: you want. Be so careful about what you ask for,
Speaker 1: because the fact is the universe is listening at every moment.
Speaker 1: God is listening at every moment, and so you really
Speaker 1: need to know what is it that I'm asking for.
Speaker 1: You're the only one that knows your dreams that you're
Speaker 1: dreaming of every single day, so you have to refine
Speaker 1: those dreams, become so clear about what it is that
Speaker 1: you really want, Be aware of all the possible challenges,
Speaker 1: the changes that might happen, and the outcomes of that
Speaker 1: choice that you are making of that desire that you have,
Speaker 1: you have to get really specific about it. Some of
Speaker 1: my friends right now are trying to find their partners
Speaker 1: in life, and I've been saying this to my friend
Speaker 1: over and over again because she keeps telling me the
Speaker 1: type of person she wants. She really wants to be
Speaker 1: financially stable. It's something that she didn't have when she
Speaker 1: was younger, and she experienced her mum struggling with it,
Speaker 1: and so that's something she really wants. And so a
Speaker 1: lot of her focus and energy when it comes to
Speaker 1: having a partner is focusing on that is financially stable,
Speaker 1: that's able to look after her and care for her.
Speaker 1: But I keep saying to him, like, you better be
Speaker 1: careful what you keep asking for and be really specific,
Speaker 1: because if you're saying you want to be supported and
Speaker 1: looked after, that may come to you financially, but what
Speaker 1: about emotionally? What about mentally? And I've seen this happen.
Speaker 1: When the focus is financial stability, for example, and you're
Speaker 1: only focusing on that one thing, you may end up
Speaker 1: getting someone who is exactly that, but who's too busy
Speaker 1: working to be there for you, who is emotionally unavailable
Speaker 1: or emotionally abusive. And so all that to say, you
Speaker 1: have to be very careful what you are asking for.
Speaker 1: So when you're trying to manifest something, develop a detailed
Speaker 1: description from the qualities, to the values, to the characteristics,
Speaker 1: not just based on your immediate desires that come to mind,
Speaker 1: but whether it's a partner or a professional goal or
Speaker 1: a life goal, make sure you know exactly what you
Speaker 1: are asking for. I have definitely experienced this professionally. I
Speaker 1: really wanted this one thing, and I kept thinking about it,
Speaker 1: I kept speaking about it. I was putting in a
Speaker 1: lot of effort to receive that, putting in a lot
Speaker 1: of energy towards it without truly thinking it through. And
Speaker 1: it did come to me, but not in the way
Speaker 1: that I wanted it to, and it didn't actually make
Speaker 1: me feel the way that I thought it would. And
Speaker 1: after all that, I realized I actually didn't want it
Speaker 1: at all, and it wasn't what was going to help
Speaker 1: me in my life, and it wasn't what was going
Speaker 1: to bring me the joy that I thought it would.
Speaker 1: So remember that where your thoughts flow and your energy
Speaker 1: goes is where you.
Speaker 2: Will end up.
Speaker 1: It's what you will become in your life. So do
Speaker 1: it intentionally and thoughtfully. And now once you figured out
Speaker 1: what it is that you actually want, you then need
Speaker 1: to start the process of bringing it into existence.
Speaker 2: So what does that actually mean.
Speaker 1: It means taking it from your mind, from your dream
Speaker 1: and bringing out to God and to the universe. So
Speaker 1: whether that is writing out, praying it, vision boarding it,
Speaker 1: speaking it to yourself every single day, bringing it to life.
Speaker 1: And I actually read this about manifesting about writing down
Speaker 1: your goals, and it said that you are forty percent
Speaker 1: more likely to achieve your goal if you write it
Speaker 1: down because the active writing reinforces your commitment and keeps
Speaker 1: the goal at the top of your mind. And so
Speaker 1: ideally writing it down every single day, or seeing it
Speaker 1: in front of you every single day, having it stuck
Speaker 1: up on your bedroom more having it stuck up in
Speaker 1: your office, like having it at the top of your mind.
Speaker 2: It almost stops you.
Speaker 1: From making choices throughout the day that don't serve that
Speaker 1: goal or that purpose, because it's so easy to forget things.
Speaker 1: We have so many things running through our mind over
Speaker 1: and over again throughout the day, and so sometimes the
Speaker 1: big goals that we want to achieve they take a
Speaker 1: back seat. But if you are seeing it every day,
Speaker 1: writing it every day, it will help you to curate
Speaker 1: your life to meet that goal. It will make it
Speaker 1: more likely that you will do things and change your
Speaker 1: lifestyle and say yes to the right things that actually
Speaker 1: support the goal that you are trying to achieve. So
Speaker 1: then once you brought it into existence, you've moved it
Speaker 1: from your dreams or your subconscious to your reality. That
Speaker 1: is just the beginning. The place most people think is
Speaker 1: the end is actually just the beginning. People think you
Speaker 1: just have to dream it, think it, and then give
Speaker 1: it over to the universe and let them let the
Speaker 1: universe do it's thing. It's actually not the case at all.
Speaker 1: That's just the seed being planted. At this point, you
Speaker 1: have to think, are you really ready for that desire
Speaker 1: to come true? Now, this is the most important part.
Speaker 1: It's preparing for your prayers. It's preparing for what you
Speaker 1: are asking for when it comes. Are you going to
Speaker 1: be ready? Have you done the groundwork to plant the seed?
Speaker 1: Do you have the nutrients and the water you need
Speaker 1: to grow the seed? And then you have to keep
Speaker 1: the plant alive. Do you have the vision and the
Speaker 1: eyes to recognize it when it comes into your life.
Speaker 1: Do you have the space in your life to receive
Speaker 1: it and the lifestyle and the mindset to actually hold
Speaker 1: on to it and keep it. I once asked one
Speaker 1: of my close friends. I said to her, so, what
Speaker 1: have you been up to and she said, oh, you know,
Speaker 1: I've just been taking these dance lessons and I was like, oh, amazing.
Speaker 1: You know, she's a singer, and so I asked her.
Speaker 1: I said, oh, do you have a performance coming up
Speaker 1: or you know, are you shooting a music video or something?
Speaker 1: And she said no, I'm just preparing for my prayers.
Speaker 1: And I was like, what She's like, I'm just preparing
Speaker 1: for my prayers because the one day when it does
Speaker 1: come that I am on stage in front of thousands
Speaker 1: of people, the day that I get the call that
Speaker 1: I'm signed to this label, the day I get the call,
Speaker 1: I need to be ready to be able to get
Speaker 1: onto that stage. I need the dance moves ready, I
Speaker 1: need my singing voice to be ready. I need to
Speaker 1: be prepared so that when that day comes, I'm not
Speaker 1: getting ready from that moment. I don't start the preparations there.
Speaker 1: I don't start as a beginner I actually am already
Speaker 1: the expert. I'm ready to receive it. And that really
Speaker 1: shifted my mindset once I heard that, rather than thinking
Speaker 1: when is it coming? Why isn't it coming? To me?
Speaker 1: Changing that internal dialogue, am I ready for it?
Speaker 2: Whether it's in.
Speaker 1: Relationships where you're asking when will that person come? When
Speaker 1: will I find them? When will the right person walk
Speaker 1: into my life? That to am I ready to receive
Speaker 1: the man or woman that I'm dreaming about? Have I
Speaker 1: done the work to be worthy of that person? Have
Speaker 1: I done the work to maintain a relationship with them
Speaker 1: once I receive them? Have I cleansed my mind and
Speaker 1: my heart to be able to even recognize this person
Speaker 1: when they do come my way? So this next one
Speaker 1: I'm going to share with you is probably the thing
Speaker 1: I found the hardest about manifesting. And I read this
Speaker 1: one line and I realized that all these years I
Speaker 1: thought I was doing this process, but really and truly
Speaker 1: I was missing this key component, Are you ready for it?
Speaker 1: It's a pretty tough pill to swallow. The line says,
Speaker 1: you manifest what you subconsciously believe that you are worthy
Speaker 1: of receiving. I'm going to say that one more time,
Speaker 1: you manifest what you subconsciously believe you are worthy of receiving.
Speaker 1: So what do you believe you deserve? And are you
Speaker 1: talking to and treating yourself in that way too? My
Speaker 1: friend keeps saying she wants a certain type of guy,
Speaker 1: but she's still talking to the kind of guys who've
Speaker 1: always been good to her. She keeps going for the
Speaker 1: same type of guide that isn't emotionally available, that doesn't
Speaker 1: treat her well. They will look the same, they will
Speaker 1: act the same. There's no mystery about it. We know
Speaker 1: from the moment she's talking to them that they're going
Speaker 1: to be the same type of person. But that's not
Speaker 1: telling the universe or yourself that you deserve better. It's
Speaker 1: not telling the world that you're ready for new and improved.
Speaker 1: It's you saying you're happy with the stale and the old,
Speaker 1: and you don't really care whether it gets better or not,
Speaker 1: because you're choosing to continue the same pattern. You're choosing
Speaker 1: to tell yourself this is all I deserve, this is
Speaker 1: all I'm worthy of, and even professionally, this is honestly
Speaker 1: where I struggled the most. I always felt like I
Speaker 1: was not intelligent from a young age, from teachers telling
Speaker 1: me that to being the least intelligent person in my
Speaker 1: family academically. It was just something that I didn't really
Speaker 1: quite shake growing up, and I didn't realize how much
Speaker 1: it affected me until I started going into rooms and
Speaker 1: feeling like, why am I here?
Speaker 2: Have I just been invited? Out of pity?
Speaker 1: I wonder what got them to invite me to this
Speaker 1: from or oh my gosh, why do they want me
Speaker 1: to write a book? Like? All this doubt that used
Speaker 1: to keep coming into my mind over and over again,
Speaker 1: and honestly, all it did was hold me back. All
Speaker 1: it did was hold me back from dreaming bigger. All
Speaker 1: it did was hold me back from thinking I even
Speaker 1: deserved more or could do more. And I really had
Speaker 1: to work through it, and honestly, at times I still
Speaker 1: have to. But I started telling myself I do deserve better.
Speaker 1: Every time those thoughts came into my mind, I would
Speaker 1: switch it. You have to switch things up. If you
Speaker 1: notice a negative thought passion about yourself going on over
Speaker 1: and over again in your mind, it's disrupting your ability
Speaker 1: to dream bigger. And so if your minds telling you
Speaker 1: I'm not intelligent enough or that you don't deserve something,
Speaker 1: so I do deserve it, I do work hard, and
Speaker 1: it really did shift what came to me, or you know,
Speaker 1: maybe it is just it changed what I saw as
Speaker 1: opportunities or that I started saying yes to things. But
Speaker 1: either way, things started to change in my life and
Speaker 1: manifest in my life differently. So it's one thing asking
Speaker 1: for something that you want and trying to manifest it,
Speaker 1: But do you really believe to your core that you
Speaker 1: were worthy of receiving it? And that can be the
Speaker 1: one single difference between desiring something and thinking you're manifesting
Speaker 1: it to actually becoming true and real in your life,
Speaker 1: because if you don't believe it, no one else will.
Speaker 1: And if you don't believe that you're capable of receiving it,
Speaker 1: keeping it and working hard for it, what's the universe
Speaker 1: going to think. It's giving you exactly what you think
Speaker 1: you deserve, not what you're thinking about. It's giving you
Speaker 1: what you think you deserve in your life.
Speaker 2: Next.
Speaker 1: I constantly have received reminders that when you are trying
Speaker 1: to manifest things in your life, you may not get
Speaker 1: everything that you envision in the timeframe that you expect it,
Speaker 1: or even in the way that you expect it to
Speaker 1: get it, but having gratitude for every little step along
Speaker 1: the way is so key. You don't wait to be
Speaker 1: grateful for the large things that come around. And I
Speaker 1: remember Jay once said this to me, and it really
Speaker 1: stuck in my head. He said, the hard work that
Speaker 1: I do is the way I show gratitude for the
Speaker 1: things that have come into my life. So putting the
Speaker 1: work in every single day for the things that have
Speaker 1: already come into my life is showing gratitude and is
Speaker 1: also showing that I'm ready and prepared to work for
Speaker 1: more things that I want in my life. I thought
Speaker 1: that was really beautiful that doing the work is the
Speaker 1: form of gratitude to say I'm grateful, and I'm going
Speaker 1: to show I'm grateful by continually still putting in the
Speaker 1: work every single day. And my last one it would
Speaker 1: be make sure you're ready for all the tests that
Speaker 1: come to check you are actually ready to receive, because
Speaker 1: the test will come to see if you're actually ready
Speaker 1: for what you've asked for, whether it's your toxic X
Speaker 1: coming back into your life, or temptations from the habits
Speaker 1: that you're trying to leave behind. Because you can't just
Speaker 1: receive it when you ask for it. You do have
Speaker 1: to have little tests along the way to see if
Speaker 1: you're really about that life. God's not just going to
Speaker 1: give it to you because you ask for it. That's
Speaker 1: not real love. Real love is making sure you've got
Speaker 1: this before you get this. God will not give you
Speaker 1: anything that you cannot handle, whether it's good or bad.
Speaker 1: And so to make sure, the universe wants to make
Speaker 1: sure that you actually can receive it. You've got the
Speaker 1: space for it, you've got the mindset for it, and
Speaker 1: so little tests will come your way just before you
Speaker 1: probably get.
Speaker 2: The thing you've been wanting.
Speaker 1: Okay, So now that I've given you all my warnings
Speaker 1: and given you all the small print, and let me
Speaker 1: break down the manifesting process to you. And so this
Speaker 1: was the best version of the process that I've read.
Speaker 1: It breaks it down really well. There's three types of
Speaker 1: goals when you're manifesting, not just one. You've got your
Speaker 1: breakthrough goals, your result goals, and your process goals. So
Speaker 1: the first is breakthrough goals. These are your huge, magnificent
Speaker 1: dreams in your life, the epic ones, the game changes.
Speaker 1: You know. These are the goals and dreams that make
Speaker 1: you light up when you think or talk about them,
Speaker 1: the ones that excite you and invoke the feeling of
Speaker 1: hope in you. In this process, when you're thinking about
Speaker 1: those big goals, the why is really important. The intention
Speaker 1: is so important, if not more important than the goal.
Speaker 1: There may be multiple wise, some more feel superficial than others,
Speaker 1: but you do need to know your deep rooted why,
Speaker 1: and it needs to be refined and purified and really
Speaker 1: thought about, because if it's not strong enough, then you
Speaker 1: will not.
Speaker 2: Feel strong enough to get there.
Speaker 1: The why is actually a great indicator for you to
Speaker 1: know whether you should even be wanting this goal. So
Speaker 1: really breaking that down in your mind, like, what is
Speaker 1: the reason I want to do this? Is it because
Speaker 1: I want to prove something to someone that may not
Speaker 1: be a big enough Why is it because I want
Speaker 1: to help people that may be an amazing Why is
Speaker 1: it because I want to change the lives of these people?
Speaker 1: Is it because I want to do better for myself
Speaker 1: and I want to be better for other people? Whatever
Speaker 1: the goal is, know that it has to be big
Speaker 1: enough and deep enough, and usually has to involve some
Speaker 1: sort of service to somebody else, a benefit to somebody
Speaker 1: else to really make it a solid goal.
Speaker 2: That's what I found in my life.
Speaker 1: Especially if it's just just benefiting me, yeah, of course
Speaker 1: I might make it happen. But if it's something that
Speaker 1: I think is going to benefit other people and me,
Speaker 1: it just changes the goal to something bigger and better
Speaker 1: and helps you to stick to it more. The more
Speaker 1: positive outcomes that you can link to your goal, the
Speaker 1: more likely you will be to follow through. Now, the
Speaker 1: second that I said result goals, So you should write
Speaker 1: down these for yourself. Right now, we're just kind of
Speaker 1: going through it, but really you should write down these
Speaker 1: three goals and then work your way through them yourself
Speaker 1: because you'll need a lot more time than this. So
Speaker 1: the first one being the breakthrough goal, So that's your
Speaker 1: big goal that we just spoke about. Okay, So the
Speaker 1: second one we've already spoken.
Speaker 2: Abound breakthrough goals.
Speaker 1: Now that is your largest goal, like the end goal,
Speaker 1: essentially it's the endgame. This second part of manifestation is
Speaker 1: doing your result goals. Now, they are the milestones towards
Speaker 1: your breakthrough goals. So for example, let's say you want
Speaker 1: financial freedom, that is your breakthrough goal. Your result goal
Speaker 1: would put a number and a date on it. It's
Speaker 1: where you take your big dream and you turn into
Speaker 1: actual achievable goals. It's still big ones along the way,
Speaker 1: but it becomes more specific with numbers, timelines, and actual outcomes.
Speaker 1: They're the milestones between where you are now and where
Speaker 1: you want to go. So it's all the big steps
Speaker 1: that you're going to achieve, that you're going to tick
Speaker 1: off that you know will allow you to get to
Speaker 1: your end goal. These goals are actually so important because
Speaker 1: they give you an actual feeling of accomplishment. They also
Speaker 1: talk directly into your beliefs, showing your subconscious that it
Speaker 1: is actually possible. The little goals always feel way more
Speaker 1: achievable than the big, overpowering ones. So when you make
Speaker 1: your manifestation goals time bound, So when you put like
Speaker 1: a time frame on something, it forces your subconscious mind
Speaker 1: to start figuring out ways to achieve them. I'll begin
Speaker 1: to point out your new opportunities or avenues and will
Speaker 1: lead you to your desired outcome. So similar to what
Speaker 1: I said about writing your goals down before, when you
Speaker 1: end up putting specifics to things, it puts an urgency
Speaker 1: to it, right like when you have a time limb
Speaker 1: on something naturally you know that you need to pay
Speaker 1: attention and focus and not get distracted, and so it's
Speaker 1: similar in that way when you end up having goals
Speaker 1: and time frames and checklists. One pushes you to do
Speaker 1: things faster, but also make sure that you don't go
Speaker 1: off track and go on to another path. And the
Speaker 1: last one is your process goals.
Speaker 2: So you've had your breakthrough goals, your.
Speaker 1: Result goals, and now we have our process goals, and
Speaker 1: so they're really getting smaller and smaller with each category
Speaker 1: with each step, So the last one being your process goals.
Speaker 1: These are the daily actions and steps, all inspired obviously
Speaker 1: by your breakthrough goal, but they are the tiny steps,
Speaker 1: the little movements in between that get you to both
Speaker 1: your result goals and eventually the breakthrough goal. These are
Speaker 1: probably the most important, but the most overlooked. These are
Speaker 1: the steps that will help you to see if one
Speaker 1: you're really ready for the grind, and two there'll be
Speaker 1: the steps that keep momentum.
Speaker 2: They're the steps that.
Speaker 1: Really give you the boosts that you need to keep going,
Speaker 1: because completing things make you feel like things are possible,
Speaker 1: even if it's the first two steps or two months
Speaker 1: on a two year plan. Progress and movement towards a goal,
Speaker 1: and checking things off creates this positive feedback loop that
Speaker 1: in turn pushes you towards the next step and the
Speaker 1: next So these are really the everyday things that you're
Speaker 1: going to do to get you to your result goals,
Speaker 1: and then your result goals are the grander thing that
Speaker 1: you're going to do to get you to your ultimate
Speaker 1: breakthrough goal. So what I recommend is you writing down
Speaker 1: those three steps and filling them out. This may take
Speaker 1: you days, it may take you weeks, it may take
Speaker 1: you months. You're thinking about your entire life and deciding
Speaker 1: what is it that I want to do and achieve
Speaker 1: in my life. And so it doesn't even have to
Speaker 1: be a lifelong plan, by the way, These can be
Speaker 1: for specific things that you want to do over the
Speaker 1: next two years, over the next three years, over the
Speaker 1: next year. This can really help you to map out
Speaker 1: and encourage you to just start thinking and dreaming bigger.
Speaker 1: And I think that's a big part of it, you know.
Speaker 1: It's just when you end up planning your life, you
Speaker 1: feel like you've got a direction. And sometimes when we
Speaker 1: feel lost in life, it's not because nothing's going right
Speaker 1: for us. It's because we haven't sat down to think
Speaker 1: what it is we actually want, and this process can
Speaker 1: really help us to figure those things out. This last
Speaker 1: step I've added myself because I really think it's crucial
Speaker 1: to success in this whole process, and this is cleaning out.
Speaker 1: We're cleaning out to let the new and improved in.
Speaker 1: So physically we have to do this.
Speaker 2: What does that mean?
Speaker 1: It's what is physically limiting you, What is in your
Speaker 1: external environment that's preventing you from reaching your goal. It
Speaker 1: may be people, it may be things in your home,
Speaker 1: it may maybe parts of your daily routine. Find those
Speaker 1: and do a spring clean to maximize your chances of success.
Speaker 1: So really, what you're saying to yourself is what in
Speaker 1: my day is pushing me towards the goal and what's
Speaker 1: taking me away and making sure that the balance is
Speaker 1: right there. Mentally, we're getting rid of limiting beliefs. We
Speaker 1: don't have space for them anymore. We're not doing it anymore.
Speaker 1: Limiting beliefs are counterproductive to manifesting. They're literally doing the
Speaker 1: opposite thing. If you're trying to manifest something better, but
Speaker 1: you're still telling yourself that you're not good enough to
Speaker 1: get there. You're just sending mixed signals. It's like telling
Speaker 1: someone that you want to be with them, but also
Speaker 1: telling them that they're.
Speaker 2: Just not good enough for you. That's is so toxic.
Speaker 1: So during this process, search for your limiting beliefs and
Speaker 1: get them onto paper and reframe them to be positive.
Speaker 2: For example, if you're saying.
Speaker 1: I'm incomplete without a man in my life or a
Speaker 1: woman in my life, change that to I'm complete as
Speaker 1: I am. Or if you're thinking I'm not smart enough,
Speaker 1: change that to I'm an intelligent, badass human who is
Speaker 1: capable of anything and everything. That's my own one, but
Speaker 1: I'm going to loan it over to you because it's
Speaker 1: a great one. So now, over the years of manifesting
Speaker 1: things in my life, whether I realize in hindsight or
Speaker 1: whether I've consciously done it, I've noticed more and more
Speaker 1: that one thing that is necessary alongside manifesting is surrender.
Speaker 1: I think it has to come hand in hand. So
Speaker 1: many times I've asked for things and they've manifested in
Speaker 1: my life, only for me to realize it's not really
Speaker 1: what I needed in my life. It may have been
Speaker 1: what I wanted, but was it really what I needed?
Speaker 2: For my growth.
Speaker 1: I've come to the conclusion that because of our limited
Speaker 1: vision and this ability not to see like a bird's
Speaker 1: eye view of our life, we might not really know
Speaker 1: what we need or what's good or bad for us.
Speaker 1: So now, instead of trying to think of specific goals
Speaker 1: or specific things that I want in my life, I
Speaker 1: pray this one prayer and I believe that it will
Speaker 1: bring me everything that I need in my life that's
Speaker 1: going to benefit me to grow in every part of
Speaker 1: my life, professionally, personally, spiritually, emotionally, and I say, just
Speaker 1: give me what I need to purify my mind and
Speaker 1: my intentions, to serve others to my best ability, to
Speaker 1: give to others the best way I can, and to
Speaker 1: bring me closer to You God, or closer to living
Speaker 1: with authenticity and integrity. However I get there, really only
Speaker 1: you know, but I'm prepared to do the work on
Speaker 1: the journey there, and honestly, being able to have that
Speaker 1: in my mind, more so than a specific goal, has
Speaker 1: been the most powerful, more so than manifesting something professionally
Speaker 1: or personally or financially. Really and truly, the most content
Speaker 1: I felt is when I've had that prayer in my
Speaker 1: life more than anything else, And so really, I think
Speaker 1: that this is just a really great practice, like manifesting
Speaker 1: is a great practice to connect deeper to yourself, to
Speaker 1: understand yourself, better, understand your dreams, your desires, and connect
Speaker 1: to something more than you believe in, bigger and better,
Speaker 1: believing in God, believing in the universe. It's a practice
Speaker 1: to surrender and also know that I'm going to put
Speaker 1: in the work. But what the result is I can't
Speaker 1: attach myself to and it makes you remain hopeful and
Speaker 1: excited in life. And if a process is offering all
Speaker 1: of that to you, it feels like a pretty magical
Speaker 1: and wonderful thing to do. So I guess I'll end
Speaker 1: with saying why not why not try it? If it
Speaker 1: has the possibility of doing all those things for you,
Speaker 1: and on top of that the bonus of possibly making
Speaker 1: your wildest dreams of reality, why not give it a go.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening to a really good cry.
Speaker 1: I hope this episode was useful. Let me know if
Speaker 1: you give these tips a go or if you found
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