WEBVTT - Manifesting is Not Woo Woo – Practical Tools to Making Your Goals a Reality 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:03.239 The place most people think is the end is actually 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:05.080 just the beginning. People think you just have to dream it, 0:00:05.160 --> 0:00:07.720 think it, and then give it over to the universe 0:00:07.760 --> 0:00:09.719 and let them let the universe do its thing. It's 0:00:09.760 --> 0:00:13.280 actually not the case at all. That's just the seed 0:00:13.280 --> 0:00:15.440 being planted. At this point, you have to think, are 0:00:15.480 --> 0:00:17.959 you really ready for that desire to come true? Now, 0:00:18.120 --> 0:00:21.520 this is the most important part. I'm Ralei Wkah and 0:00:21.600 --> 0:00:24.320 on my podcast A Really Good Cry, we embrace the 0:00:25.000 --> 0:00:28.440 messy and the beautiful, providing a space for raw, unfiltered 0:00:28.440 --> 0:00:32.199 conversations that celebrate vulnerability and allow you to tune in 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:36.199 to learn, connect and find comfort together. Hey everyone, and 0:00:36.240 --> 0:00:39.159 welcome back to this week's episode of A Really Good Cry. Now, 0:00:39.200 --> 0:00:41.920 today I'm going to talk about a topic that comes 0:00:42.000 --> 0:00:44.400 up a lot living in LA And honestly, I used 0:00:44.400 --> 0:00:47.600 to be a skeptic every single time I heard the 0:00:47.640 --> 0:00:53.280 word manifesting, especially here in LA, because everyone is manifesting 0:00:53.280 --> 0:00:57.480 everything from their boyfriends to their booties. But honestly, after 0:00:57.520 --> 0:01:00.680 becoming more intentional in my life and truly seeing and 0:01:00.760 --> 0:01:04.600 understanding the power of it, I realize it actually is 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:09.119 pretty powerful and magical and incredible. If you are able 0:01:09.160 --> 0:01:11.760 to do it right. I think there's this woo woo 0:01:11.760 --> 0:01:15.240 idea of manifestation these days that is this magical thing 0:01:15.280 --> 0:01:17.680 that happens. And like I said, I do think it 0:01:17.720 --> 0:01:20.240 is quite magical, but not in the mystical way that 0:01:20.280 --> 0:01:23.720 you might think. It's not just wishing or hoping for 0:01:23.760 --> 0:01:27.040 it to come true or come into existence, or waiting 0:01:27.080 --> 0:01:30.160 for the very manifestation Godmother to come and give you 0:01:30.200 --> 0:01:34.000 all your heart desires. It's actually way more. 0:01:33.800 --> 0:01:34.560 Practical than that. 0:01:35.280 --> 0:01:37.399 How do I change my lifestyle and the things that 0:01:37.440 --> 0:01:40.680 I'm doing daily to support and move towards achieving this 0:01:40.760 --> 0:01:44.720 goal that I want. Achieving a goal requires clear intention, 0:01:45.200 --> 0:01:49.640 actionable planning, and consistent effort, and manifesting is simply using 0:01:49.680 --> 0:01:53.680 tools and systems to bring your goals into reality. So 0:01:53.720 --> 0:01:57.120 you're focusing your energy, your thoughts, and your actions into 0:01:57.160 --> 0:02:01.400 achieving your desired outcome, bringing something really tangible into your 0:02:01.440 --> 0:02:06.240 life through attraction and belief. When I started researching it, 0:02:06.400 --> 0:02:09.079 reading about it, and listening to people speak about it, 0:02:09.160 --> 0:02:12.600 I actually realized that so much of my life has 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:15.480 been a result of this process, and that's what it is. 0:02:15.600 --> 0:02:18.800 It actually is a process. I chose a goal. I 0:02:18.840 --> 0:02:21.400 refine my intention and my desire around it. 0:02:21.520 --> 0:02:22.480 I imagine what it. 0:02:22.480 --> 0:02:24.840 Would feel like, what it would be like to achieve 0:02:24.880 --> 0:02:28.040 it or have the thing that I wanted. I changed 0:02:28.080 --> 0:02:30.959 and I adapted my lifestyle, my habits, and my routine 0:02:31.280 --> 0:02:34.960 to be conducive to the desire and believed every single 0:02:35.040 --> 0:02:38.520 day that it was for me. Now, I believe in God, 0:02:38.600 --> 0:02:40.880 and I have since I was very young, and so 0:02:41.200 --> 0:02:43.920 I also believe that it's so much more than just 0:02:43.960 --> 0:02:47.079 a mething. Actually it's never really just an eye. It's 0:02:47.200 --> 0:02:50.399 always a wee. And I read this in Gabby Bernstein's 0:02:50.400 --> 0:02:55.000 book All about Manifestation. It's called the super Attractor, and 0:02:55.080 --> 0:02:59.120 she says that manifesting is known as co creating, and 0:02:59.160 --> 0:03:03.799 I really loved that definition. It's a collaboration between you 0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:06.960 and the universe, between you and God. And the truth 0:03:07.120 --> 0:03:09.079 is that sometimes when you do end up thinking it's 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:12.240 a me thing, it's actually what limits us from opening 0:03:12.280 --> 0:03:15.960 ourselves to the opportunities or the possibility of more than 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:18.160 what we even believe we are capable of. 0:03:18.560 --> 0:03:19.480 So believing it's a. 0:03:19.440 --> 0:03:21.680 Team effort with you and God or you and the 0:03:21.760 --> 0:03:25.560 universe makes it feel like more is possible. More than 0:03:25.600 --> 0:03:28.440 you could even imagine, more than you even think. It's 0:03:28.520 --> 0:03:31.240 part of your reality, more than you could even foresee 0:03:31.280 --> 0:03:34.800 for yourself. You believe more could be possible because it's 0:03:34.800 --> 0:03:37.720 not just you. It's not you and your limited capabilities. 0:03:37.920 --> 0:03:41.520 It's you plus something or someone that is capable of 0:03:41.520 --> 0:03:45.640 doing anything and everything. And so actually believing that it's 0:03:45.680 --> 0:03:48.320 a we and not me makes so much more possible. 0:03:49.080 --> 0:03:51.040 The first time that I can really think back to 0:03:51.080 --> 0:03:54.680 when I did feel like I had manifested something in 0:03:54.720 --> 0:03:58.080 my life was when I was deeply seeking a spiritual community. 0:03:58.120 --> 0:04:01.040 And this was about, gosh, maybe like fifteen years ago now, 0:04:01.080 --> 0:04:04.560 maybe just under and I had such a deep desire to. 0:04:04.520 --> 0:04:06.560 Have a meaningful spiritual practice in my life. 0:04:06.600 --> 0:04:11.400 I just graduated from college or from university, and I 0:04:11.400 --> 0:04:13.080 was feeling a little bit lost. I never felt like 0:04:13.120 --> 0:04:16.880 I found a group of people that I really felt 0:04:16.880 --> 0:04:20.680 connected to through my university days. I did, I had 0:04:20.720 --> 0:04:22.960 made really good friends, but I still felt like I 0:04:23.080 --> 0:04:25.680 was lacking something. And I think a big part of 0:04:25.720 --> 0:04:28.160 that was this deep desire to feel connected to God 0:04:28.279 --> 0:04:31.200 and understand find a community that also felt that way. 0:04:31.640 --> 0:04:34.359 And so the desire was already there in me and 0:04:34.480 --> 0:04:36.920 had been for a while, and somehow through my mum, 0:04:36.920 --> 0:04:40.200 I actually got introduced to a spiritual youth group. And 0:04:40.279 --> 0:04:43.359 at that time, my routine or my lifestyle really was 0:04:43.400 --> 0:04:46.400 not conducive to what they were doing. They'd all have 0:04:46.440 --> 0:04:48.479 met ups on Fridays, and I'd have plans to go 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:50.240 out with my friends to a bar or to hang 0:04:50.240 --> 0:04:53.359 out as SSHA place that night, or they'd do early 0:04:53.400 --> 0:04:56.120 morning prayers and I would have late nights the day before, 0:04:56.200 --> 0:04:58.480 so I wouldn't make it or wake up in time 0:04:58.520 --> 0:05:01.800 for it. So I really had to create space in 0:05:01.839 --> 0:05:04.720 my life. I created space. I created an environment that 0:05:04.720 --> 0:05:07.320 didn't just let me receive what I'd been asking for, 0:05:07.400 --> 0:05:10.040 but also allowed me to maintain it and keep it. 0:05:10.600 --> 0:05:13.359 And honestly, at the time it was really hard. My 0:05:13.440 --> 0:05:17.640 friends were confused, my family were confused. I suddenly decided 0:05:17.640 --> 0:05:21.480 to shift my whole reality into something new, and so 0:05:21.520 --> 0:05:24.040 it was really difficult for me to shift. But also 0:05:24.360 --> 0:05:26.479 the shift was difficult for other people around me, and 0:05:26.560 --> 0:05:29.320 they did not fail to let me know it. And 0:05:29.360 --> 0:05:31.000 so I had made a decision that I would go 0:05:31.400 --> 0:05:33.800 to the temple every single morning before I went to work. 0:05:34.040 --> 0:05:35.640 Now that meant I had to wake up at about 0:05:35.640 --> 0:05:38.719 four am, to get there for four thirty, to stay 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:42.000 there till about six thirty seven, go home, get ready 0:05:42.040 --> 0:05:44.320 for work, and leave, and then to be able to 0:05:44.320 --> 0:05:46.000 do that all over again the next day, which I 0:05:46.040 --> 0:05:48.000 was trying to do. I really wanted to commit to 0:05:48.600 --> 0:05:50.800 just investing as much time and energy into something that 0:05:50.839 --> 0:05:52.719 I'd been wanting for so long, and so to be 0:05:52.720 --> 0:05:56.039 able to do that, I had to sacrifice certain things, 0:05:56.400 --> 0:05:59.440 so that meant no social life after work. I had 0:05:59.440 --> 0:06:02.200 made a decison that for my own consciousness, I didn't 0:06:02.200 --> 0:06:04.240 want to eat out in places that served me, and 0:06:04.279 --> 0:06:07.039 so that restricted my social life even more. And I 0:06:07.120 --> 0:06:09.680 just became very aware of being in environments that were 0:06:10.040 --> 0:06:13.800 supporting that life I wanted, and that weren't. And there 0:06:13.839 --> 0:06:15.599 were so many other things that I had to change. 0:06:15.640 --> 0:06:17.680 But I'm telling you all this to say that it 0:06:17.720 --> 0:06:20.320 did come to me, and it took work to keep 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:22.760 it in my life, and it has every day since. 0:06:23.160 --> 0:06:26.520 And so manifestation is not just dreaming, it's not just 0:06:26.839 --> 0:06:30.080 envisioning what you want. It's not a woo woo experience. 0:06:30.160 --> 0:06:33.280 It's a full on process. And honestly, that's just one 0:06:33.320 --> 0:06:36.440 example I've seen it happen professionally and personally in my 0:06:36.520 --> 0:06:39.520 life over and over again. So before I share some 0:06:39.600 --> 0:06:42.000 tips on how to start manifesting in your life, I'm 0:06:42.040 --> 0:06:44.600 actually going to share some warnings for you, some of 0:06:44.640 --> 0:06:47.560 the mistakes that I've made along this process, that I've 0:06:47.560 --> 0:06:50.719 heard other people make or I've seen for myself, because 0:06:50.720 --> 0:06:53.880 sometimes we can be desiring something consciously or subconsciously and 0:06:53.960 --> 0:06:56.320 not even realizing that we're doing it. I'm going to 0:06:56.320 --> 0:06:58.560 share these with you because it will save you from 0:06:58.600 --> 0:07:01.080 making these mistakes and you can just learn from mind 0:07:01.080 --> 0:07:04.680 instead of making them yourself. So the first thing is 0:07:04.880 --> 0:07:07.640 to make sure you know exactly what it is that 0:07:07.720 --> 0:07:11.000 you want. Be so careful about what you ask for, 0:07:11.160 --> 0:07:13.800 because the fact is the universe is listening at every moment. 0:07:14.160 --> 0:07:16.440 God is listening at every moment, and so you really 0:07:16.440 --> 0:07:18.440 need to know what is it that I'm asking for. 0:07:18.840 --> 0:07:21.440 You're the only one that knows your dreams that you're 0:07:21.480 --> 0:07:24.120 dreaming of every single day, so you have to refine 0:07:24.160 --> 0:07:27.200 those dreams, become so clear about what it is that 0:07:27.280 --> 0:07:30.640 you really want, Be aware of all the possible challenges, 0:07:30.800 --> 0:07:34.200 the changes that might happen, and the outcomes of that 0:07:34.640 --> 0:07:36.960 choice that you are making of that desire that you have, 0:07:37.360 --> 0:07:40.200 you have to get really specific about it. Some of 0:07:40.240 --> 0:07:42.080 my friends right now are trying to find their partners 0:07:42.120 --> 0:07:44.160 in life, and I've been saying this to my friend 0:07:44.200 --> 0:07:46.040 over and over again because she keeps telling me the 0:07:46.080 --> 0:07:47.880 type of person she wants. She really wants to be 0:07:47.920 --> 0:07:50.320 financially stable. It's something that she didn't have when she 0:07:50.400 --> 0:07:53.120 was younger, and she experienced her mum struggling with it, 0:07:53.200 --> 0:07:55.560 and so that's something she really wants. And so a 0:07:55.560 --> 0:07:57.800 lot of her focus and energy when it comes to 0:07:57.840 --> 0:08:01.680 having a partner is focusing on that is financially stable, 0:08:01.760 --> 0:08:03.760 that's able to look after her and care for her. 0:08:04.120 --> 0:08:05.720 But I keep saying to him, like, you better be 0:08:05.720 --> 0:08:08.400 careful what you keep asking for and be really specific, 0:08:08.720 --> 0:08:10.800 because if you're saying you want to be supported and 0:08:10.840 --> 0:08:14.160 looked after, that may come to you financially, but what 0:08:14.200 --> 0:08:18.120 about emotionally? What about mentally? And I've seen this happen. 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:21.840 When the focus is financial stability, for example, and you're 0:08:21.840 --> 0:08:23.720 only focusing on that one thing, you may end up 0:08:23.760 --> 0:08:27.800 getting someone who is exactly that, but who's too busy 0:08:27.880 --> 0:08:31.720 working to be there for you, who is emotionally unavailable 0:08:31.760 --> 0:08:35.160 or emotionally abusive. And so all that to say, you 0:08:35.200 --> 0:08:38.160 have to be very careful what you are asking for. 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:41.959 So when you're trying to manifest something, develop a detailed 0:08:42.000 --> 0:08:46.199 description from the qualities, to the values, to the characteristics, 0:08:46.600 --> 0:08:49.240 not just based on your immediate desires that come to mind, 0:08:49.840 --> 0:08:52.560 but whether it's a partner or a professional goal or 0:08:52.559 --> 0:08:55.440 a life goal, make sure you know exactly what you 0:08:55.480 --> 0:08:59.400 are asking for. I have definitely experienced this professionally. I 0:08:59.440 --> 0:09:01.960 really wanted this one thing, and I kept thinking about it, 0:09:02.000 --> 0:09:04.400 I kept speaking about it. I was putting in a 0:09:04.400 --> 0:09:06.840 lot of effort to receive that, putting in a lot 0:09:06.840 --> 0:09:10.160 of energy towards it without truly thinking it through. And 0:09:10.240 --> 0:09:12.000 it did come to me, but not in the way 0:09:12.040 --> 0:09:15.040 that I wanted it to, and it didn't actually make 0:09:15.080 --> 0:09:17.200 me feel the way that I thought it would. And 0:09:17.280 --> 0:09:19.240 after all that, I realized I actually didn't want it 0:09:19.280 --> 0:09:21.320 at all, and it wasn't what was going to help 0:09:21.320 --> 0:09:22.920 me in my life, and it wasn't what was going 0:09:22.960 --> 0:09:24.560 to bring me the joy that I thought it would. 0:09:25.440 --> 0:09:27.920 So remember that where your thoughts flow and your energy 0:09:27.960 --> 0:09:28.800 goes is where you. 0:09:28.800 --> 0:09:29.600 Will end up. 0:09:29.679 --> 0:09:32.480 It's what you will become in your life. So do 0:09:32.520 --> 0:09:35.440 it intentionally and thoughtfully. And now once you figured out 0:09:35.480 --> 0:09:38.240 what it is that you actually want, you then need 0:09:38.280 --> 0:09:40.959 to start the process of bringing it into existence. 0:09:41.120 --> 0:09:42.240 So what does that actually mean. 0:09:42.360 --> 0:09:45.520 It means taking it from your mind, from your dream 0:09:45.960 --> 0:09:49.040 and bringing out to God and to the universe. So 0:09:49.080 --> 0:09:52.480 whether that is writing out, praying it, vision boarding it, 0:09:52.720 --> 0:09:56.640 speaking it to yourself every single day, bringing it to life. 0:09:57.640 --> 0:10:00.760 And I actually read this about manifesting about writing down 0:10:00.800 --> 0:10:03.800 your goals, and it said that you are forty percent 0:10:03.920 --> 0:10:06.360 more likely to achieve your goal if you write it 0:10:06.440 --> 0:10:10.240 down because the active writing reinforces your commitment and keeps 0:10:10.240 --> 0:10:12.120 the goal at the top of your mind. And so 0:10:12.440 --> 0:10:14.960 ideally writing it down every single day, or seeing it 0:10:15.080 --> 0:10:16.960 in front of you every single day, having it stuck 0:10:17.040 --> 0:10:19.000 up on your bedroom more having it stuck up in 0:10:19.000 --> 0:10:21.760 your office, like having it at the top of your mind. 0:10:22.559 --> 0:10:24.200 It almost stops you. 0:10:24.080 --> 0:10:26.920 From making choices throughout the day that don't serve that 0:10:27.000 --> 0:10:29.480 goal or that purpose, because it's so easy to forget things. 0:10:29.520 --> 0:10:31.120 We have so many things running through our mind over 0:10:31.160 --> 0:10:33.920 and over again throughout the day, and so sometimes the 0:10:33.960 --> 0:10:36.880 big goals that we want to achieve they take a 0:10:36.880 --> 0:10:39.480 back seat. But if you are seeing it every day, 0:10:39.640 --> 0:10:42.480 writing it every day, it will help you to curate 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:44.960 your life to meet that goal. It will make it 0:10:44.960 --> 0:10:47.280 more likely that you will do things and change your 0:10:47.320 --> 0:10:50.920 lifestyle and say yes to the right things that actually 0:10:50.960 --> 0:10:53.840 support the goal that you are trying to achieve. So 0:10:53.880 --> 0:10:56.360 then once you brought it into existence, you've moved it 0:10:56.400 --> 0:10:59.640 from your dreams or your subconscious to your reality. That 0:10:59.760 --> 0:11:03.080 is just the beginning. The place most people think is 0:11:03.559 --> 0:11:05.640 the end is actually just the beginning. People think you 0:11:05.679 --> 0:11:07.920 just have to dream it, think it, and then give 0:11:07.960 --> 0:11:09.960 it over to the universe and let them let the 0:11:10.000 --> 0:11:12.840 universe do it's thing. It's actually not the case at all. 0:11:13.760 --> 0:11:16.280 That's just the seed being planted. At this point, you 0:11:16.280 --> 0:11:18.000 have to think, are you really ready for that desire 0:11:18.040 --> 0:11:21.720 to come true? Now, this is the most important part. 0:11:21.920 --> 0:11:25.040 It's preparing for your prayers. It's preparing for what you 0:11:25.080 --> 0:11:27.920 are asking for when it comes. Are you going to 0:11:27.960 --> 0:11:30.760 be ready? Have you done the groundwork to plant the seed? 0:11:31.040 --> 0:11:33.200 Do you have the nutrients and the water you need 0:11:33.240 --> 0:11:35.880 to grow the seed? And then you have to keep 0:11:35.880 --> 0:11:38.520 the plant alive. Do you have the vision and the 0:11:38.600 --> 0:11:41.319 eyes to recognize it when it comes into your life. 0:11:41.480 --> 0:11:43.400 Do you have the space in your life to receive 0:11:43.440 --> 0:11:46.880 it and the lifestyle and the mindset to actually hold 0:11:46.920 --> 0:11:50.080 on to it and keep it. I once asked one 0:11:50.120 --> 0:11:52.160 of my close friends. I said to her, so, what 0:11:52.200 --> 0:11:54.840 have you been up to and she said, oh, you know, 0:11:54.920 --> 0:11:57.720 I've just been taking these dance lessons and I was like, oh, amazing. 0:11:58.040 --> 0:12:00.480 You know, she's a singer, and so I asked her. 0:12:00.480 --> 0:12:02.199 I said, oh, do you have a performance coming up 0:12:02.320 --> 0:12:04.640 or you know, are you shooting a music video or something? 0:12:04.720 --> 0:12:07.560 And she said no, I'm just preparing for my prayers. 0:12:08.120 --> 0:12:11.040 And I was like, what She's like, I'm just preparing 0:12:11.080 --> 0:12:13.880 for my prayers because the one day when it does 0:12:13.960 --> 0:12:16.920 come that I am on stage in front of thousands 0:12:16.960 --> 0:12:19.680 of people, the day that I get the call that 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:22.880 I'm signed to this label, the day I get the call, 0:12:23.520 --> 0:12:25.080 I need to be ready to be able to get 0:12:25.080 --> 0:12:27.560 onto that stage. I need the dance moves ready, I 0:12:27.559 --> 0:12:29.720 need my singing voice to be ready. I need to 0:12:29.720 --> 0:12:33.160 be prepared so that when that day comes, I'm not 0:12:33.240 --> 0:12:36.520 getting ready from that moment. I don't start the preparations there. 0:12:36.520 --> 0:12:39.040 I don't start as a beginner I actually am already 0:12:39.040 --> 0:12:42.840 the expert. I'm ready to receive it. And that really 0:12:42.880 --> 0:12:46.720 shifted my mindset once I heard that, rather than thinking 0:12:46.760 --> 0:12:49.080 when is it coming? Why isn't it coming? To me? 0:12:49.600 --> 0:12:52.120 Changing that internal dialogue, am I ready for it? 0:12:52.600 --> 0:12:53.280 Whether it's in. 0:12:53.200 --> 0:12:56.400 Relationships where you're asking when will that person come? When 0:12:56.440 --> 0:12:58.600 will I find them? When will the right person walk 0:12:58.640 --> 0:13:02.120 into my life? That to am I ready to receive 0:13:02.200 --> 0:13:05.120 the man or woman that I'm dreaming about? Have I 0:13:05.160 --> 0:13:08.120 done the work to be worthy of that person? Have 0:13:08.200 --> 0:13:10.360 I done the work to maintain a relationship with them 0:13:10.360 --> 0:13:14.520 once I receive them? Have I cleansed my mind and 0:13:14.679 --> 0:13:17.280 my heart to be able to even recognize this person 0:13:17.360 --> 0:13:19.760 when they do come my way? So this next one 0:13:19.760 --> 0:13:22.079 I'm going to share with you is probably the thing 0:13:22.080 --> 0:13:25.160 I found the hardest about manifesting. And I read this 0:13:25.200 --> 0:13:27.319 one line and I realized that all these years I 0:13:27.360 --> 0:13:30.400 thought I was doing this process, but really and truly 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:34.000 I was missing this key component, Are you ready for it? 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:37.720 It's a pretty tough pill to swallow. The line says, 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:42.240 you manifest what you subconsciously believe that you are worthy 0:13:42.280 --> 0:13:44.200 of receiving. I'm going to say that one more time, 0:13:44.960 --> 0:13:48.880 you manifest what you subconsciously believe you are worthy of receiving. 0:13:49.400 --> 0:13:51.720 So what do you believe you deserve? And are you 0:13:51.840 --> 0:13:55.000 talking to and treating yourself in that way too? My 0:13:55.040 --> 0:13:56.880 friend keeps saying she wants a certain type of guy, 0:13:57.280 --> 0:13:59.360 but she's still talking to the kind of guys who've 0:13:59.360 --> 0:14:02.400 always been good to her. She keeps going for the 0:14:02.400 --> 0:14:06.080 same type of guide that isn't emotionally available, that doesn't 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:08.000 treat her well. They will look the same, they will 0:14:08.040 --> 0:14:11.320 act the same. There's no mystery about it. We know 0:14:11.360 --> 0:14:13.080 from the moment she's talking to them that they're going 0:14:13.120 --> 0:14:15.840 to be the same type of person. But that's not 0:14:15.880 --> 0:14:19.000 telling the universe or yourself that you deserve better. It's 0:14:19.040 --> 0:14:22.040 not telling the world that you're ready for new and improved. 0:14:22.440 --> 0:14:24.800 It's you saying you're happy with the stale and the old, 0:14:24.920 --> 0:14:26.920 and you don't really care whether it gets better or not, 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:31.120 because you're choosing to continue the same pattern. You're choosing 0:14:31.120 --> 0:14:32.960 to tell yourself this is all I deserve, this is 0:14:33.000 --> 0:14:36.360 all I'm worthy of, and even professionally, this is honestly 0:14:36.400 --> 0:14:39.000 where I struggled the most. I always felt like I 0:14:39.120 --> 0:14:42.080 was not intelligent from a young age, from teachers telling 0:14:42.080 --> 0:14:44.720 me that to being the least intelligent person in my 0:14:44.760 --> 0:14:47.560 family academically. It was just something that I didn't really 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:49.440 quite shake growing up, and I didn't realize how much 0:14:49.480 --> 0:14:52.920 it affected me until I started going into rooms and 0:14:52.960 --> 0:14:54.200 feeling like, why am I here? 0:14:54.640 --> 0:14:56.200 Have I just been invited? Out of pity? 0:14:56.480 --> 0:14:59.280 I wonder what got them to invite me to this 0:14:59.320 --> 0:15:01.120 from or oh my gosh, why do they want me 0:15:01.160 --> 0:15:03.120 to write a book? Like? All this doubt that used 0:15:03.160 --> 0:15:05.160 to keep coming into my mind over and over again, 0:15:05.720 --> 0:15:07.600 and honestly, all it did was hold me back. All 0:15:07.600 --> 0:15:10.120 it did was hold me back from dreaming bigger. All 0:15:10.160 --> 0:15:11.680 it did was hold me back from thinking I even 0:15:11.760 --> 0:15:14.200 deserved more or could do more. And I really had 0:15:14.200 --> 0:15:16.040 to work through it, and honestly, at times I still 0:15:16.080 --> 0:15:19.120 have to. But I started telling myself I do deserve better. 0:15:19.320 --> 0:15:21.240 Every time those thoughts came into my mind, I would 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:23.440 switch it. You have to switch things up. If you 0:15:23.520 --> 0:15:26.720 notice a negative thought passion about yourself going on over 0:15:26.760 --> 0:15:29.840 and over again in your mind, it's disrupting your ability 0:15:29.840 --> 0:15:33.440 to dream bigger. And so if your minds telling you 0:15:33.480 --> 0:15:36.240 I'm not intelligent enough or that you don't deserve something, 0:15:36.240 --> 0:15:38.920 so I do deserve it, I do work hard, and 0:15:38.960 --> 0:15:42.040 it really did shift what came to me, or you know, 0:15:42.160 --> 0:15:44.480 maybe it is just it changed what I saw as 0:15:44.520 --> 0:15:48.000 opportunities or that I started saying yes to things. But 0:15:48.120 --> 0:15:50.440 either way, things started to change in my life and 0:15:50.520 --> 0:15:54.160 manifest in my life differently. So it's one thing asking 0:15:54.200 --> 0:15:56.400 for something that you want and trying to manifest it, 0:15:56.600 --> 0:15:59.280 But do you really believe to your core that you 0:15:59.320 --> 0:16:02.280 were worthy of receiving it? And that can be the 0:16:02.360 --> 0:16:06.320 one single difference between desiring something and thinking you're manifesting 0:16:06.360 --> 0:16:09.680 it to actually becoming true and real in your life, 0:16:09.760 --> 0:16:11.600 because if you don't believe it, no one else will. 0:16:11.720 --> 0:16:13.920 And if you don't believe that you're capable of receiving it, 0:16:14.080 --> 0:16:17.160 keeping it and working hard for it, what's the universe 0:16:17.200 --> 0:16:19.840 going to think. It's giving you exactly what you think 0:16:19.880 --> 0:16:23.880 you deserve, not what you're thinking about. It's giving you 0:16:23.920 --> 0:16:25.880 what you think you deserve in your life. 0:16:26.240 --> 0:16:26.520 Next. 0:16:26.560 --> 0:16:30.760 I constantly have received reminders that when you are trying 0:16:30.760 --> 0:16:32.360 to manifest things in your life, you may not get 0:16:32.400 --> 0:16:35.400 everything that you envision in the timeframe that you expect it, 0:16:35.720 --> 0:16:37.400 or even in the way that you expect it to 0:16:37.440 --> 0:16:41.240 get it, but having gratitude for every little step along 0:16:41.320 --> 0:16:44.120 the way is so key. You don't wait to be 0:16:44.160 --> 0:16:46.760 grateful for the large things that come around. And I 0:16:46.800 --> 0:16:48.640 remember Jay once said this to me, and it really 0:16:48.680 --> 0:16:51.120 stuck in my head. He said, the hard work that 0:16:51.200 --> 0:16:53.840 I do is the way I show gratitude for the 0:16:53.880 --> 0:16:56.160 things that have come into my life. So putting the 0:16:56.360 --> 0:16:59.440 work in every single day for the things that have 0:16:59.480 --> 0:17:02.400 already come into my life is showing gratitude and is 0:17:02.440 --> 0:17:04.760 also showing that I'm ready and prepared to work for 0:17:05.000 --> 0:17:07.200 more things that I want in my life. I thought 0:17:07.240 --> 0:17:09.480 that was really beautiful that doing the work is the 0:17:09.520 --> 0:17:12.240 form of gratitude to say I'm grateful, and I'm going 0:17:12.280 --> 0:17:14.920 to show I'm grateful by continually still putting in the 0:17:14.960 --> 0:17:17.400 work every single day. And my last one it would 0:17:17.440 --> 0:17:19.359 be make sure you're ready for all the tests that 0:17:19.400 --> 0:17:22.320 come to check you are actually ready to receive, because 0:17:22.359 --> 0:17:24.320 the test will come to see if you're actually ready 0:17:24.320 --> 0:17:26.359 for what you've asked for, whether it's your toxic X 0:17:26.400 --> 0:17:29.360 coming back into your life, or temptations from the habits 0:17:29.359 --> 0:17:31.800 that you're trying to leave behind. Because you can't just 0:17:31.920 --> 0:17:33.760 receive it when you ask for it. You do have 0:17:33.840 --> 0:17:35.840 to have little tests along the way to see if 0:17:35.880 --> 0:17:38.960 you're really about that life. God's not just going to 0:17:39.040 --> 0:17:40.880 give it to you because you ask for it. That's 0:17:40.920 --> 0:17:43.400 not real love. Real love is making sure you've got 0:17:43.400 --> 0:17:46.240 this before you get this. God will not give you 0:17:46.320 --> 0:17:48.560 anything that you cannot handle, whether it's good or bad. 0:17:48.840 --> 0:17:51.600 And so to make sure, the universe wants to make 0:17:51.600 --> 0:17:53.879 sure that you actually can receive it. You've got the 0:17:53.880 --> 0:17:55.879 space for it, you've got the mindset for it, and 0:17:55.920 --> 0:17:57.960 so little tests will come your way just before you 0:17:58.040 --> 0:17:58.679 probably get. 0:17:58.520 --> 0:17:59.399 The thing you've been wanting. 0:18:00.000 --> 0:18:01.879 Okay, So now that I've given you all my warnings 0:18:01.960 --> 0:18:04.080 and given you all the small print, and let me 0:18:04.160 --> 0:18:08.000 break down the manifesting process to you. And so this 0:18:08.320 --> 0:18:10.360 was the best version of the process that I've read. 0:18:10.440 --> 0:18:13.119 It breaks it down really well. There's three types of 0:18:13.160 --> 0:18:16.320 goals when you're manifesting, not just one. You've got your 0:18:16.320 --> 0:18:20.080 breakthrough goals, your result goals, and your process goals. So 0:18:20.119 --> 0:18:24.320 the first is breakthrough goals. These are your huge, magnificent 0:18:24.520 --> 0:18:28.280 dreams in your life, the epic ones, the game changes. 0:18:28.320 --> 0:18:30.600 You know. These are the goals and dreams that make 0:18:30.640 --> 0:18:32.760 you light up when you think or talk about them, 0:18:32.960 --> 0:18:35.240 the ones that excite you and invoke the feeling of 0:18:35.320 --> 0:18:37.880 hope in you. In this process, when you're thinking about 0:18:37.880 --> 0:18:41.080 those big goals, the why is really important. The intention 0:18:41.320 --> 0:18:44.560 is so important, if not more important than the goal. 0:18:45.080 --> 0:18:48.520 There may be multiple wise, some more feel superficial than others, 0:18:49.119 --> 0:18:51.520 but you do need to know your deep rooted why, 0:18:52.200 --> 0:18:55.800 and it needs to be refined and purified and really 0:18:55.840 --> 0:18:58.600 thought about, because if it's not strong enough, then you 0:18:58.640 --> 0:18:59.080