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Speaker 1: You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Garth. Hello, friends,

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Speaker 1: welcome to I Choose Me. I'm really happy to be

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Speaker 1: here with you. Thanks for tuning in. Okay, I believe

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Speaker 1: in journaling. I've talked about it. You may already know that.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes I do it just to empty my ramp at mine.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes I do it to get the feelings out of

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Speaker 1: my body and it helps me see things more clearly

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Speaker 1: and my body just feels lighter. I need that sometimes.

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Speaker 1: The other day I sat down with a stack of

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Speaker 1: old journals I found in a drawer and I ended

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Speaker 1: up getting super sucked in. They were all kinds of

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Speaker 1: ramblings on those pages. There was a lot of blah

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Speaker 1: blah blah stuff. There was some big ideas for my

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Speaker 1: future pages and pages of notes that I take from

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Speaker 1: my Buddhist teachings class, which I can tell you guys,

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Speaker 1: if you want me to. But there was also a

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Speaker 1: lot of pain and loneliness and heartbreak, because yeah, that's

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Speaker 1: pretty much what journals are for. So I thought I

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Speaker 1: would share another journal entry with you. Who knows, maybe

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Speaker 1: some of these crazy words will resonate with you on

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Speaker 1: some level. This is what we are calling Jenny's journals.

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Speaker 1: Here is one from see here. Oh, this is a

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Speaker 1: good one. You know what. I'm sorry In advance there

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Speaker 1: might be a couple of f words, just saying May

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Speaker 1: twenty fifth, twenty nineteen. Oof, Am I stuck? I feel

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Speaker 1: this energy literally stuck inside me. I can actually close

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Speaker 1: my eyes and visualize it. I can see a giant

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Speaker 1: boulder wedged in a crevice. I can also see beautiful

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Speaker 1: nature all around as far as the eye can see

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Speaker 1: a lake, a waterfall, a deer sipping from a creek. Oh.

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Speaker 1: I just painted such a lovely picture anyway, But this

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Speaker 1: rock is stuck. Nothing I do seems to affect it.

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Speaker 1: I exercise, I spend time in nature. I have a

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Speaker 1: healthy family and a loving husband. We're still in our

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Speaker 1: honeymoon phase. I think, Ah, yes, this was twenty nineteen.

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Speaker 1: Even all that good stuff isn't dislodging it. I am

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Speaker 1: doing every single thing I have learned that's supposed to

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Speaker 1: help me out of a dip. That's what I call

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Speaker 1: a depression. They can kind of come and go for me.

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Speaker 1: I've returned to my Buddha classes. I'm trying to eat less,

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Speaker 1: sugar less, drinking, connect more with my family, trying to

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Speaker 1: stay focused on what brings others joy, trying to be

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Speaker 1: more gentle and kind with myself. This feeling of being

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Speaker 1: stuck isn't new. I've wandered so many times what is

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Speaker 1: wrong with me? I feel pretty sure that the problem

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Speaker 1: is all me and my brain. I've turned so far

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Speaker 1: inward that I'm isolating and keeping everyone from loving me. Earlier,

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Speaker 1: my daughter told me I was a narcissist. Oh and

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Speaker 1: h is that true? Or was she just trying to

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Speaker 1: hurt me? Because she's hurting. As I'm writing this, I

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Speaker 1: can actually feel a weird rumbling inside me. The rumbling

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Speaker 1: is moving the boulder ever so gently. I feel sad. Stella,

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Speaker 1: this is the healer that I was working with at

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Speaker 1: the time. Stella told me this would happen, that grief

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Speaker 1: would start bubbling up in me and play a big

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Speaker 1: part in this excavation process, the excavation of this rock

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Speaker 1: inside me. This morning, it was my dad's death. I

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Speaker 1: was thrust right into reliving it in my mind, reliving

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Speaker 1: all of those horrible visuals and memories. Tears streamed down

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Speaker 1: my face. Out of nowhere and now here I am.

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Speaker 1: I snuck out of bed trying not to wake anyone,

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Speaker 1: especially the dogs. They would attack me thinking I was

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Speaker 1: an intruder and wake up everybody. So yeah, here I

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Speaker 1: am on the green couch in my living room, just writing.

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Speaker 1: Is this a journal or a diary? I don't even

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Speaker 1: know whatever it is. I feel closer to this pen

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Speaker 1: and paper than I do anyone on this earth right now,

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Speaker 1: not including horses or dogs, or cats or any cute

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Speaker 1: little animals. Really sorry, snakes, I just can't love you.

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Speaker 1: You know what. I probably could if I tried, but

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Speaker 1: I don't want to. Okay, let's stay on topic. As

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Speaker 1: I'm sitting here on this couch writing what my daughter

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Speaker 1: said about me, I'm feeling the rock shifting as I

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Speaker 1: I'm feeling a torrent of pain come over me. There

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Speaker 1: is no fighting it off. But you know what, that's okay.

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Speaker 1: I need to feel this stuff. I rush and worry

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Speaker 1: over again. This is hard. I am learning to be

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Speaker 1: She's feeling so scared and afraid right now. Ooh, that's

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Speaker 1: a heavy one, you guys. But that's what journaling is for.

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Speaker 1: You're supposed to take those moments when there are no

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Speaker 1: and you're supposed to write it down and get it

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Speaker 1: out so you can maybe feel better. So that was

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Speaker 1: a journal entry from twenty nineteen, and that was clearly

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Speaker 1: a rough period for me. Leaving through those old journals

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Speaker 1: has got me feeling them all over a little bit again,

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Speaker 1: so that doesn't feel very good. It also made me

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Speaker 1: feel grateful, though, for all the ups and the downs

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Speaker 1: that I've been through, because every one of them has

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Speaker 1: made me stronger and more resilient. Growth is painful. Change

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Speaker 1: is hard, but it's actually not as painful as feeling stuck,

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Speaker 1: feeling loaded down, like there's a giant rock inside of you.

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Speaker 1: I want to say this to you, don't give up.

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Speaker 1: Everything happens for a reason in our lives, even if

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Speaker 1: it doesn't make sense right now. You never know what

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Speaker 1: you're going to learn along the way. You have to

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Speaker 1: be ready for. You have to tackle it head on

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Speaker 1: version of yourselves. I don't remember this day. I do

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Speaker 1: remember writing all this, and I don't remember my daughter

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Speaker 1: it's kind of weird to not remember these things, you know,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I think my brain has selective memory.

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Speaker 1: So Stella was this world famous woman in La that

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Speaker 1: my Buddha classes. I'm not a Buddhist, I'm not really

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you about where to go. I was referencing

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Speaker 1: And I really didn't like that feeling of that boulder

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