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Speaker 1: Praise going to their first ever number one Billboard Top

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Speaker 1: Gospel Airplay chart hit with their single you Deserve It

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Speaker 1: In He's John on the show today with his wife

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Speaker 1: to discuss their book A Miracle Marriage, I Forgive You,

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Speaker 1: I Trust You, I Believe You, Volume one. They state

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Speaker 1: that marriage is sacred, marriage is powerful, but marriage has

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Speaker 1: also been under attack for quite some time. So on

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Speaker 1: Money Making Conversations today, we would discuss these things I

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Speaker 1: JJ and Trina Hashton. How are you pretty good? My friend?

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Speaker 1: Pretty good? Welcome back to the show. Thank you for

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Speaker 1: having me. I'm always whether you are well? Uh training

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Speaker 1: you there, Yes, I'm here. Thank you for having us. Absolutely,

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Speaker 1: as you saw, I made some comments about myself and

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Speaker 1: People are living their dreams and their dreams are being

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Speaker 1: we honestly believe that your family comes first. Believe families

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Speaker 1: But we believe that God there's things in order to

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Speaker 1: when things were not in order in our households. Uh,

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Speaker 1: Moneymaking Conversations. Were on the phone talking to the Trina

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