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Speaker 3: If you're on a metro, don't trust you and mustle
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Speaker 3: Like music?
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Speaker 1: Mustard on the beat. If you metro, don't trust you? Okay,
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Speaker 3: I see Mike Will made it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, tagline is, Oh lord, Justin made another one.
Speaker 2: They don't need to make it. I'll be hearing it
Speaker 2: on a lot.
Speaker 3: DA got that dope. Weezy out of.
Speaker 1: Here, just blaze take Keith. Fuck these niggas up.
Speaker 3: That was a goode. I do like that one. But
Speaker 3: when I hear that this is.
Speaker 1: The song I think of, I just get the switch
Speaker 1: Metro women was everyone let me see south Side on
Speaker 1: the track. I can't hear that.
Speaker 3: Either way.
Speaker 4: There's a whole producer's tag directory on genius dot com.
Speaker 3: What the fuck? Oh I forgot listen?
Speaker 2: You know technically we saw our tagline.
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh I know. It's not stolen.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean kind of okay. We didn't steal it, guys,
Speaker 4: we just kind of borrowed it without permission. They know
Speaker 4: they all got of course.
Speaker 3: They know that's juicy j. Yeah.
Speaker 4: No, yeah, do not make this the clip, y'all, because
Speaker 4: we don't need him coming after us, all right, I
Speaker 4: don't need to come after it, but I thought it.
Speaker 3: Was like because it was under a certain abount of seconds.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, no, none of that matters, bitch.
Speaker 4: Did you not see the recent clip of Cisco explaining
Speaker 4: how he didn't make no money from Thong song because
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Speaker 2: Linda will come.
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Speaker 2: Changed, Alex, you did like did are you thinking?
Speaker 3: A lot of comment on the audiobook? Comment?
Speaker 1: Excuse me on the audiobook and where it wasn't like
Speaker 1: my priority to like an audiobook. I'm not gonna hold you.
Speaker 1: I didn't realize how much better we are at audiobooks
Speaker 1: because we already podcasts for sure.
Speaker 2: I mean it washed, it was hard.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was hard.
Speaker 4: Shout out uh to Nicole who who worked with us
Speaker 4: on that.
Speaker 3: But it wasn't a cale yeah right, Nicole Shelton.
Speaker 4: Yes, yeah, yeah, shout out to Nicole Shelton.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: It was an interesting process.
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Speaker 2: Now, this week we have a question y'all know if.
Speaker 4: You want to send it in, it's Decisions Pod at
Speaker 4: gmail dot com. Okay, so the subject line for this
Speaker 4: already lets me know we're gonna say yes, bitch.
Speaker 3: Okay. The question is, am I tripping? Yep?
Speaker 2: Please help ladies if you have to ask, keep you're tripping?
Speaker 4: Okay, nine times out of ten you are, But there
Speaker 4: are some instances where it'd be like, no, bitch, you right.
Speaker 1: Actually, before we get into this, uh, I had a
Speaker 1: girl that was doing a service on me.
Speaker 3: Was hair not that asked me if she.
Speaker 4: Was not your cheating on your I wonder if it's
Speaker 4: cause you know how like men be talking about cheating
Speaker 4: on their barbers.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I know, couse my makeup.
Speaker 4: Oh do you know how many people are trying to
Speaker 4: get me to go to another blonde specialist?
Speaker 2: And I'm like, Nope, out them, Brooklyn. I'll keep traveling
Speaker 2: to New York.
Speaker 4: Bro, don't disrespect my hairstyle, is bitch, I'm gonna go
Speaker 4: get my blonde from outtha until I'm done being blinde
Speaker 4: ho damn.
Speaker 3: Okay, So this is division telling me she was treating
Speaker 3: my hair.
Speaker 1: I was just getting a little carrots and joint and
Speaker 1: she was like, so, I want to ask you some advice.
Speaker 1: She was visiting a guy in Atlanta and they've been
Speaker 1: dating each other. It's been a few months.
Speaker 3: He hits her up.
Speaker 1: She went out there to do some hair, Okay, she
Speaker 1: they weren't covering the flight, so he covered the flight.
Speaker 1: He's like, come see me whatever. So while she was
Speaker 1: in Atlanta, or while she was going to Atlanta, one
Speaker 1: of her gay homies invited her for a dinner party Saturday.
Speaker 3: On a rooftop.
Speaker 1: Okay, I hit her boom was like, hey, by the way,
Speaker 1: I have plans Saturday eight, And he was like, why
Speaker 1: would you make plans when I'm flying you down here
Speaker 1: for us to hang out.
Speaker 3: You said you had to work.
Speaker 1: Now you about to step out, So he's like, you
Speaker 1: leave it on Sunday, like you just thought making plans
Speaker 1: on Saturday night. She's like, oh, well, I didn't invite
Speaker 1: you because it was a gay party. I know you
Speaker 1: probably ain't want to go. He's like, yeah, but you
Speaker 1: didn't even like I'm flying you out here to do
Speaker 1: up party on Saturday night.
Speaker 3: So she was like, am I wrong? Because he already
Speaker 3: said to me I'm in chill mood.
Speaker 1: She's like, so basically, because he flies me out, I
Speaker 1: can't do anything else. And I'm like, you know what,
Speaker 1: I get what you're saying, because I don't think she's
Speaker 1: wrong either, but I do think she's wrong for not
Speaker 1: considering telling him first.
Speaker 4: Hey, do you think she's wrong or not wrong? I
Speaker 4: don't said you don't think she's wrong, but you do
Speaker 4: think she's I don't think.
Speaker 1: She's wrong for wanting to make a plan for a
Speaker 1: friend or having the idea that seeing a friend while
Speaker 1: in Atlanta is normal, But at the same time, it's like,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna hold you. I would tell mania, like, hey,
Speaker 1: did you want to would it be cool if would
Speaker 1: you like to come and or.
Speaker 3: Would you be okay with this? Or do we have plans?
Speaker 4: Like I ain't gonna hold you. If I'm dating somebody
Speaker 4: dating not doesn't live it hold on if I'm dating
Speaker 4: someone and he does not live in my city and
Speaker 4: he buys my flight to come to his city to
Speaker 4: make money because I'm working, essentially I'm coming there for work.
Speaker 4: If he covers that and I make plans outside, bitch,
Speaker 4: I don't really like you because I'm believing that No,
Speaker 4: well this is this is my opinion.
Speaker 3: You don't have to think it's true.
Speaker 4: But bitch, if I like, I know how I've acted
Speaker 4: when I traveled to see niggas. If I'm making plans
Speaker 4: to see someone else, mind you say I'm coming in Friday,
Speaker 4: I have to work maybe Saturday after work. Hair braiding
Speaker 4: can sometimes take a day or two, so if I'm
Speaker 4: working all this time, and he's covering my flight no no, no,
Speaker 4: no no, and leaving and if I'm leaving on Sunday,
Speaker 4: If I'm leaving on Sunday, he's clearly probably expecting at
Speaker 4: least a night with her.
Speaker 3: I think that she's long in.
Speaker 1: Four nights there, what that's a lot. I didn't hear
Speaker 1: four nights. I did not hear shot flying in for
Speaker 1: the day. She's flying in for the weekend. I think
Speaker 1: it's Thursday to Sunday, three or four nights, right, But
Speaker 1: here's what I'm thinking.
Speaker 4: Yeah, three or four nights wasn't given. That's a detail.
Speaker 4: I mean, that matters.
Speaker 3: So let's just say it was.
Speaker 1: I'm definitely not about to not see Vinnie when I
Speaker 1: come to Atlanta. I always see either Toya or Rashida.
Speaker 1: Matter of fact, when I was my nigga brought me
Speaker 1: to Atlanta to meet his family. His cousin was out there,
Speaker 1: and mind you, we live in New York. But he
Speaker 1: was like, oh, I want you to meet some of
Speaker 1: my Atlanta family. I still was like, okay, let me
Speaker 1: set up my time with so and so.
Speaker 3: Well.
Speaker 2: I mean, I have a completely different take if it's
Speaker 2: four days.
Speaker 3: Like Thursday to Sunday. I was wrong Thursday.
Speaker 4: I mean, if it's four days, like yeah, like nigga,
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna be That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I spill spend every single night with you. But also
Speaker 1: I feel what he's saying. I think that that's also
Speaker 1: something that should have been discussed. I mean, I think
Speaker 1: if someone spends their money, like, I ain't gonna hold you.
Speaker 1: If I fly a nigga in I'm expecting time, bro,
Speaker 1: I don't give a fook like, so I think you
Speaker 1: have to consider, like a lot of times you covering
Speaker 1: someone's flight, there's kind of.
Speaker 2: Entitlement there, yeah to the first DIBs.
Speaker 4: So like if you want to have your own little trip,
Speaker 4: bitch by your own flight, don't accept it. Or if
Speaker 4: I'm offering off rip, let me know, like, hey, I
Speaker 4: know that you're getting my flight and I'm excited to
Speaker 4: see you, but I have other plans outside of work.
Speaker 3: Just letting you know, like that.
Speaker 2: Needs to be set off the rip.
Speaker 3: I agree.
Speaker 4: If I'm flying again, that nigga my sex slave, bitch,
Speaker 4: fuck out of here.
Speaker 3: That nigga I own.
Speaker 4: I bought your flight, even if it's main cabin nigga,
Speaker 4: even if it's a middle seat, you better not go
Speaker 4: see nobody else without let me know first and let
Speaker 4: me say you can't.
Speaker 1: I understand the entire entitlement of buying the flight, but
Speaker 1: I also was like, damn, I see where he's coming from.
Speaker 1: He's like, damn, I feel you out to make weekend plans.
Speaker 1: But I was like, exactly like I do either, even
Speaker 1: if it is four days, like you could at least
Speaker 1: been like, hey, I'm staying with you.
Speaker 3: We're dating, We got our shit going.
Speaker 1: So for me, I'm at the point in my relationship
Speaker 1: where when weekend shit comes up that I want to
Speaker 1: do or that he wants to do, we tell each
Speaker 1: other like.
Speaker 4: Now I ain't gonna hold you. I just think that
Speaker 4: as a woman, if you have other plans and you're
Speaker 4: dating somebody and clearly like there needs to be an
Speaker 4: open line of communication on expectations or bitch by your
Speaker 4: own flight so you don't feel like you don't feel guilty.
Speaker 3: Or knows because then a nigga's like he's slaying with me.
Speaker 3: Niggas be doing that too.
Speaker 1: But that's what I'm saying now, bro, if I sit
Speaker 1: here and save you money too, I think you do.
Speaker 1: Like telling someone your plans is fair. I totally get it.
Speaker 1: They're not in a serious relationship with the point you're
Speaker 1: flying to somebody's city. That was literally that I am wrong,
Speaker 1: Like that was in my head.
Speaker 4: I'm gonna save you money on a flight, and I'm
Speaker 4: offering you.
Speaker 2: To stay with me.
Speaker 3: Fuck nigga.
Speaker 2: Oh listen, you don't getting all the plan.
Speaker 1: But then it literally said to her, I appreciate that
Speaker 1: you're doing shit so that you're not cooped up under him.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Cool, It sounds good that she should have bought her
Speaker 2: own flight.
Speaker 3: Bitch, I don't want to just buy anything. Let me
Speaker 3: jase me. I don't want to shit about her own flight.
Speaker 4: And now the nigga's probably not gonna date you anymore
Speaker 4: after the train.
Speaker 1: By the way, speaking of buying your own I did
Speaker 1: date night this month. Y'all know I planned date night
Speaker 1: once a month or no one of us does it.
Speaker 1: So this last month was my month and it ended
Speaker 1: at bath house. Why my nigga was downstairs. He goes
Speaker 1: this where you and Mandy got fingered. I didn't know
Speaker 1: no one got fingered in a bathroom.
Speaker 3: She was like this the one y'all talk.
Speaker 2: No one got bath house.
Speaker 3: Oh no, they have the one in fight Eye. Oh no, girl,
Speaker 3: the one that we went to is now two floors rooftop.
Speaker 3: It's crazy. Oh wow, it's really fire now. I know.
Speaker 1: There was that New York Post article that said there
Speaker 1: were ship stains, but boy, that motherfucker was not. I was.
Speaker 4: Oh no, I love bath House. I mean there could
Speaker 4: be a bad experience.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 1: Now you can really love it like I love I
Speaker 1: I love it was one of the best views y'all.
Speaker 3: Bath house. Whoever working over there?
Speaker 2: Why are we even pro both in bath house?
Speaker 3: Bitch?
Speaker 2: It's already small.
Speaker 3: No, it's not anymore.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it still is because it's New York City.
Speaker 1: But y'all be just get us. A little day passed
Speaker 1: because that pool was hitting better than soho ol, oh
Speaker 1: my god, even the day pass. No, girls, stop telling people.
Speaker 4: All right, well, let's see if this listener this week
Speaker 4: is tripping again. If you want to send your letter
Speaker 4: in and get your advice from us, the unofficial experts
Speaker 4: at all.
Speaker 2: This shit is decisions pod at gmail dot com, not.
Speaker 3: The unofficial experts. Shout out.
Speaker 4: I don't know why people even ask us questions anymore.
Speaker 4: All Right, Well, hey Mandy and Weezy. I'm a huge
Speaker 4: fan of the pod and a recently divorced thirty one
Speaker 4: year old bisexual woman who has now been given the
Speaker 4: freedom to truly explore myself sexually.
Speaker 2: This podcast and O holds Bard have been instrumental in
Speaker 2: guiding me on this journey. I appreciate y'all for the
Speaker 2: sake of the pod. You can call me Karmen. She
Speaker 2: also added her picture for reference.
Speaker 3: Oh let me talk. I need help.
Speaker 4: I am currently dating and it has been hell and
Speaker 4: recently met a man who is checking all the boxes.
Speaker 4: Great personality, educated, no kids, me neither homeowner, good sex, etc.
Speaker 4: The issue is he was engaged and broke it off
Speaker 4: three years ago, but they are still co parenting their dog.
Speaker 4: It is important to note that their engagement and died
Speaker 4: due to family cultural differences, and they were damn near
Speaker 4: forced to break up because her family wasn't accepting of
Speaker 4: a black man. They meet up and trade their dog
Speaker 4: on a monthly schedule, and they even communicate and trade
Speaker 4: their dog when they are traveling for work, vacation, etc.
Speaker 4: At first, I thought I'd be okay with it, but
Speaker 4: when I was around the dog for the first time.
Speaker 4: I knew this wasn't gonna work for me. The dog
Speaker 4: was grimming me a what a God. All I could
Speaker 4: think about was just ex fiance and also some of
Speaker 4: the trauma he had experienced due to the way her
Speaker 4: family handled things. I suspect that they are both still
Speaker 4: emotionally attached and using this dog as a way to
Speaker 4: stay connected.
Speaker 2: Of course, he said that that's not the case, but you.
Speaker 4: Can't believe these niggas. This is also one of those
Speaker 4: very small, very busy dogs. I did my best to
Speaker 4: be kind and welcoming, but it was a lot to
Speaker 4: handle with him jumping all over me.
Speaker 2: I recently decided that the best thing to do was
Speaker 2: break it off.
Speaker 4: I was really feeling him, but I didn't want to
Speaker 4: lead him on because I know the feeling was mutual
Speaker 4: and he really liked me too. But when we discussed this,
Speaker 4: he didn't offer any compromise and said that we need
Speaker 4: to be locked in before he made any moves regarding
Speaker 4: his dog.
Speaker 2: Did I make the right decision or am I trick?
Speaker 3: Yeah? You're sure.
Speaker 4: You think she's tripp because she don't want to paring
Speaker 4: a dog with a nigga.
Speaker 1: I think exactly what he said at then, like being
Speaker 1: locked in, like that's not your nigga. You're feeling him,
Speaker 1: You're finding this flaw and the dog thing, but you
Speaker 1: really don't have room to.
Speaker 3: Be demanding shit yet.
Speaker 1: I can completely understand and thinking it's emotional attachment, but
Speaker 1: be real with you, the way that Obay and ar
Speaker 1: were trading Nina was an emotional attachment because we were
Speaker 1: using that as an excuse too, but.
Speaker 3: We weren't doing monthly, we were doing more than that.
Speaker 4: And well, yeah, and she's saying she feels like this
Speaker 4: is their emotional on.
Speaker 3: So I'm gonna be real.
Speaker 1: If me and him just had a chill relationship, he'd
Speaker 1: still be watching Nina like dad nigga on some real shit.
Speaker 1: We were just so we had such an easy schedule.
Speaker 1: I mean even remember we were driving off to Roofs picnic.
Speaker 3: I dropped the dog off like it was just easy.
Speaker 1: And if you purchase a dog together, Now, Nina wasn't
Speaker 1: his dog.
Speaker 3: Nina was my dog.
Speaker 1: But when you purchase a dog together, it's kind of difficult.
Speaker 1: And I can understand people not wanting to break up
Speaker 1: that time. I know a lot of people have talked
Speaker 1: about Kaitlin Nicole because she's got the dog when her
Speaker 1: and Travis broke up, and.
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, I don't think I knew about it. Oh,
Speaker 3: people like.
Speaker 1: Talk about it and her comments and shit, and I
Speaker 1: just be like, Bro, people are obsessed, But I get it.
Speaker 1: I don't know how long she's got that dog, but
Speaker 1: she was with Travis five years. I'm only speaking on
Speaker 1: this because it's a public relationship with public commentary. By
Speaker 1: the way, for everyone listen, this is not personal conversations
Speaker 1: I have with her about the dogs ever. But when
Speaker 1: I saw people chatting about it, I was like, damn,
Speaker 1: I feel for her because it's like, fuck, this.
Speaker 3: Whole shit is going on, everybody talking about me. These
Speaker 3: are my children. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think if someone was my man, then I would
Speaker 1: get to the point where I would maybe start making
Speaker 1: demands on what makes me comfortable what doesn't.
Speaker 3: But at the end of the day, you're still a
Speaker 3: new person.
Speaker 1: The dog might always fucking growled at you and look
Speaker 1: at you funny until they like you, Like I don't know,
Speaker 1: Like people really love their pets, bro, they do. They
Speaker 1: love they pets like they love they kids.
Speaker 4: I know if y'all are on Patreon, So I'm about
Speaker 4: to tell her she not tripping and here's why.
Speaker 2: Okay, if y'all are on the Patreon.
Speaker 4: Y'all know, Wheezy and ed Ands and dan Meyer told
Speaker 4: me I can't date no nigga with kids because I don't.
Speaker 3: Want a co parent, right.
Speaker 2: So to me, this is almost.
Speaker 4: A non compromised force to be in a poly relationship.
Speaker 2: Essentially, hear me out.
Speaker 4: She didn't she didn't agree to kind of sign up
Speaker 4: for the dog because she brought up that both of
Speaker 4: them do not have kids. I didn't agree, for a
Speaker 4: like to deal with a baby mama. And so if
Speaker 4: the kid is coming in, if the dog is coming
Speaker 4: in essentially acting like a kid, and now you still
Speaker 4: have ties with your ex fiance, to me, this is
Speaker 4: giving like I now have to accept this other person
Speaker 4: being a part of our relationship, of our schedule, of
Speaker 4: our dynamic.
Speaker 3: Would mind you?
Speaker 2: I thought you were perfect because you ain't had kids,
Speaker 2: which meant I didn't have to.
Speaker 4: Deal with another woman or another schedule. And so if
Speaker 4: this dog is now taking place like that, mind y'all,
Speaker 4: it's fucked them kids, Well, bitch, just for them animals
Speaker 4: sometimes too, because bitch is a dog. So to me,
Speaker 4: I actually don't think you're tripping if this is like
Speaker 4: a situation where not only that, it's forcing you to
Speaker 4: feel insecure about your relationship because however much he's shared
Speaker 4: about his previous relationship, you know it ended because of
Speaker 4: her family, not because of their decision. It was kind
Speaker 4: of forced upon them. So to me, if he's not
Speaker 4: also reassuring you in your emotions or how you feel,
Speaker 4: I absolutely don't think you're tripping.
Speaker 2: I think that you didn't sign.
Speaker 4: Up to be what a partner who has the co
Speaker 4: parent and having that dog even though it's not a
Speaker 4: human being child, there's a co parenting dynamic.
Speaker 3: Once a month.
Speaker 2: Bitch, you're not tripping.
Speaker 4: Go on to the next nigga who is single with
Speaker 4: no kids, with good dick and.
Speaker 2: All the other things you have to know kids and
Speaker 2: no dogs?
Speaker 3: Girl, Well, well to me, you gonna have a pet.
Speaker 2: You can have a pet, but I you know the
Speaker 2: co parenting is a lot.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying your vice is bad either. I honestly
Speaker 1: see both. The reason the reason I think is tripping
Speaker 1: is because you cut him off over the dog. That's
Speaker 1: why I think it's tripping.
Speaker 4: I would cut a nigga off over his kids or
Speaker 4: his baby mama. And at this point, to me, I
Speaker 4: think that it wasn't just a dog. It's the fact
Speaker 4: that there's a co parenting situation. If that nigga just
Speaker 4: had a dog that just lived in his apartment all
Speaker 4: the time, I don't think there will be iss.
Speaker 2: You know what, I'm reading this the co parenting element.
Speaker 1: I'm reading one in Kennedy Ryan's book, shouting right now,
Speaker 1: shout out to Kennedy Ryan.
Speaker 3: She she fucks with us.
Speaker 1: We gotta high around sometime soon I fell out New
Speaker 1: York Times bestseller and it's before I Let Go, and
Speaker 1: a lot of y'all have read this book, and I
Speaker 1: think that John legends turning it into a TV series.
Speaker 1: The long story short reading about co parenting where people
Speaker 1: still want to fuck each other and they don't know
Speaker 1: they want to fuck each other, but they feel tied
Speaker 1: to each other in the way that she's writing about
Speaker 1: how people are feeling like jealous and like thinking about
Speaker 1: the other person. I'm like, I literally was reading the book,
Speaker 1: put the book down, looked at my I said, we
Speaker 1: ain't never leave the jail nay, because I ain't gonna
Speaker 1: do this. We ain't already tattooed my deck. We are not,
Speaker 1: and I like hand it in the book.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I can't.
Speaker 1: It really reconfirmed for me what I used to be
Speaker 1: insecure about when dating men with children. And the fact
Speaker 1: of the matter is, y'all, so both have moved on,
Speaker 1: but you still feeling I don't meant to that other person,
Speaker 1: like it's.
Speaker 3: A weird how do you let go? So?
Speaker 1: I don't know, But anyway, bitch, yeah, I would, I
Speaker 1: think unless you all.
Speaker 4: I mean, but to me if you're dating with intention,
Speaker 4: but you you though so you could do it if
Speaker 4: you saw like long term reasons to be with this
Speaker 4: guy and this was a deal breaker. I think you
Speaker 4: did the right thing. Don't waste your time. That wasn't
Speaker 4: a situation you wanted to deal with. And the fact
Speaker 4: that he wasn't willing to bend or compromise or consider
Speaker 4: how you feel about it, he's not he's not off
Speaker 4: of that.
Speaker 2: Relationship yet enough to consider you. So I think you
Speaker 2: did the right thing.
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Speaker 2: And we would love to hear y'all's thoughts.
Speaker 3: On all the things.
Speaker 4: On the braider who got fluid out and so's not regular.
Speaker 2: I don't want she'd be Brighten.
Speaker 4: She'd be Brighten who decided to take a free flight
Speaker 4: and hang out with her gay homeboys even though she
Speaker 4: was dating a nigga. And also drop your thoughts on
Speaker 4: this woman who left her nigga for co parenting a
Speaker 4: dog with his ex fiance. If you guys have questions
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