WEBVTT - You've Got Decisions: Am I Tripping? 0:00:01.680 --> 0:00:04.320 If you would like to have us answer your questions. 0:00:04.559 --> 0:00:07.880 If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or 0:00:07.920 --> 0:00:09.360 a terrible throuffle. 0:00:09.760 --> 0:00:15.040 Guess what you've got decisions. You've got decision. 0:00:16.400 --> 0:00:17.599 That's our jingle, y'all. 0:00:18.720 --> 0:00:21.000 That was a different cadence. That ain't really the jingle. 0:00:21.040 --> 0:00:25.080 I still haven't locked it and secured it in. It 0:00:25.120 --> 0:00:27.400 ain't what it's supposed to be just yet. I want 0:00:27.520 --> 0:00:30.240 I want music behind it and all. I'm gonna hit 0:00:30.280 --> 0:00:32.840 up some of my little music industry friends. You're gonna 0:00:32.880 --> 0:00:40.280 get we don't get this jingle drum. It's gonna say 0:00:40.560 --> 0:00:42.159 you drop on wone's out of here. 0:00:42.800 --> 0:00:46.720 It's gonna be right about no? 0:00:47.760 --> 0:00:49.880 Or what's the other drop side of you knowing? 0:00:51.159 --> 0:00:54.200 If you're on a metro, don't trust you and mustle 0:00:54.280 --> 0:00:54.720 on the beat? 0:00:54.760 --> 0:01:00.640 Hope wait, let me google most famous drops. Well, they're 0:01:00.760 --> 0:01:02.400 they're like producer tagline. 0:01:02.800 --> 0:01:04.920 Oh wait now it's now you know what's coming up 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:06.600 with most famous like beat drops? 0:01:06.640 --> 0:01:07.279 Like music? 0:01:07.360 --> 0:01:13.320 Oh yeah, not it's producer tag line? Rought about No, 0:01:13.640 --> 0:01:15.200 that's my friend. Tryan he beat. 0:01:15.080 --> 0:01:18.720 Mustard on the beat. If you metro, don't trust you? Okay, 0:01:19.560 --> 0:01:20.720 murder on a beat. 0:01:20.600 --> 0:01:23.520 Not so nice, Yo, Pierre, you want to come out here? 0:01:23.959 --> 0:01:26.319 Oh yeah, wait, what's hip makers? Because his is on 0:01:26.680 --> 0:01:28.360 his is at the top of everything's too. 0:01:30.000 --> 0:01:32.240 I see Mike Will made it. 0:01:34.640 --> 0:01:39.360 Yeah, tagline is, Oh lord, Justin made another one. 0:01:40.640 --> 0:01:43.400 They don't need to make it. I'll be hearing it 0:01:43.400 --> 0:01:43.880 on a lot. 0:01:44.280 --> 0:01:46.399 DA got that dope. Weezy out of. 0:01:46.319 --> 0:01:51.320 Here, just blaze take Keith. Fuck these niggas up. 0:01:51.400 --> 0:01:53.520 That was a goode. I do like that one. But 0:01:53.560 --> 0:01:54.720 when I hear that this is. 0:01:54.640 --> 0:01:56.760 The song I think of, I just get the switch 0:01:59.240 --> 0:02:03.160 Metro women was everyone let me see south Side on 0:02:03.200 --> 0:02:04.600 the track. I can't hear that. 0:02:06.080 --> 0:02:06.480 Either way. 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:09.840 There's a whole producer's tag directory on genius dot com. 0:02:09.960 --> 0:02:12.400 What the fuck? Oh I forgot listen? 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:15.840 You know technically we saw our tagline. 0:02:16.560 --> 0:02:17.920 Yeah, oh I know. It's not stolen. 0:02:18.040 --> 0:02:20.560 Yeah, I mean kind of okay. We didn't steal it, guys, 0:02:20.600 --> 0:02:23.679 we just kind of borrowed it without permission. They know 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:26.720 they all got of course. 0:02:26.440 --> 0:02:29.440 They know that's juicy j. Yeah. 0:02:29.480 --> 0:02:32.800 No, yeah, do not make this the clip, y'all, because 0:02:32.800 --> 0:02:35.320 we don't need him coming after us, all right, I 0:02:35.320 --> 0:02:37.200 don't need to come after it, but I thought it. 0:02:37.160 --> 0:02:39.040 Was like because it was under a certain abount of seconds. 0:02:39.240 --> 0:02:41.120 No, no, no, no, no, none of that matters, bitch. 0:02:41.480 --> 0:02:44.960 Did you not see the recent clip of Cisco explaining 0:02:45.000 --> 0:02:47.440 how he didn't make no money from Thong song because 0:02:47.520 --> 0:02:50.480 Ricky Martin sued him for saying live in Levida look 0:02:50.840 --> 0:02:54.680 in the cadence of his song, bitch, cadence will get 0:02:54.720 --> 0:02:55.400 you seared. 0:02:55.680 --> 0:02:58.360 Okay, Oh no, y'all see. 0:02:58.200 --> 0:03:01.440 I've been living on the inter and speaking of living 0:03:01.480 --> 0:03:04.080 on the internet, y'all, I'm gonna read y'all one of 0:03:04.120 --> 0:03:08.200 our Amazon reviews because we are New York Times bestsellers. 0:03:09.320 --> 0:03:10.320 Linda will come. 0:03:10.240 --> 0:03:13.040 To read another company. But that's where y'all leave them, 0:03:13.080 --> 0:03:15.079 so shit, that's what we read it. 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:17.000 Well, it's that and Goodreads. 0:03:17.480 --> 0:03:20.080 If you guys want to leave us reviews on our book, 0:03:20.360 --> 0:03:23.240 please go over to Amazon and leave a book review 0:03:23.360 --> 0:03:25.359 or Goodreads. I have to look and see if there's 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:27.720 a way that we can read reviews from our audible, 0:03:28.040 --> 0:03:30.919 but people have actually been leaving reviews from the audiobook 0:03:30.960 --> 0:03:34.359 on Amazon as well. This one comes from Alex b. 0:03:35.000 --> 0:03:37.760 She says nobody else could have told this story quite 0:03:37.800 --> 0:03:40.960 like them. This book is truly like nothing else you've 0:03:41.000 --> 0:03:44.440 ever read. No Holds Bard is part memoir, part self help, 0:03:44.480 --> 0:03:47.440 part erotica, and somehow manages to be all three without 0:03:47.480 --> 0:03:50.480 losing an ounce of depth or intention. Mandy and Weezy 0:03:50.560 --> 0:03:54.920 hold nothing back. They are raw, hilarious, emotional, vulnerable, reflective, 0:03:55.000 --> 0:03:59.480 and wildly wise. It's educational, entertaining, and healing all at once. 0:03:59.840 --> 0:04:02.640 Nobody else could have told this story quite like them. 0:04:02.960 --> 0:04:05.160 You could feel how much thought and heart went into 0:04:05.240 --> 0:04:08.680 every chapter. This book deserves every award in accolade. 0:04:08.680 --> 0:04:09.240 It gets. 0:04:09.440 --> 0:04:11.960 It's bold, it's bringing. It invites you to unlock parts 0:04:11.960 --> 0:04:15.080 of yourself you might have been scared to touch. Even 0:04:15.120 --> 0:04:17.600 if your life looks nothing like theirs, even if you're 0:04:17.600 --> 0:04:21.200 not into the same kinks, curiosities or experiences, it's still 0:04:21.240 --> 0:04:23.720 worth the read just to witness two women telling their 0:04:23.760 --> 0:04:26.000 truth with this much courage and creativity. 0:04:26.320 --> 0:04:30.240 And honestly, you need both the book and the audiobook. 0:04:30.360 --> 0:04:33.680 The print version is visually alive with personality and clever design. 0:04:34.000 --> 0:04:38.480 The audiobook of full blown performance. The emotion, that tone, 0:04:38.480 --> 0:04:40.960 the delivery, you'll feel like you're right there with them. 0:04:41.000 --> 0:04:43.240 This is a muster read, no matter your genre, no 0:04:43.240 --> 0:04:46.640 matter your background, you'll laugh, reflect, clutch your pearls and 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:47.440 walk away. 0:04:47.920 --> 0:04:52.240 Changed, Alex, you did like did are you thinking? 0:04:52.279 --> 0:04:54.520 A lot of comment on the audiobook? Comment? 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:58.320 Excuse me on the audiobook and where it wasn't like 0:04:58.400 --> 0:05:02.520 my priority to like an audiobook. I'm not gonna hold you. 0:05:02.600 --> 0:05:06.280 I didn't realize how much better we are at audiobooks 0:05:06.279 --> 0:05:08.559 because we already podcasts for sure. 0:05:09.160 --> 0:05:12.680 I mean it washed, it was hard. 0:05:13.560 --> 0:05:15.400 Yeah, it was hard. 0:05:16.600 --> 0:05:20.040 Shout out uh to Nicole who who worked with us 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:20.360 on that. 0:05:21.880 --> 0:05:26.800 But it wasn't a cale yeah right, Nicole Shelton. 0:05:26.880 --> 0:05:30.200 Yes, yeah, yeah, shout out to Nicole Shelton. 0:05:31.560 --> 0:05:31.800 Yeah. 0:05:31.839 --> 0:05:33.080 It was an interesting process. 0:05:33.080 --> 0:05:34.640 But I do love this so much of the whore 0:05:34.720 --> 0:05:40.159 Hive like purchase the audiobook and the hard copy, just like, 0:05:40.279 --> 0:05:40.920 thank y'all. 0:05:41.400 --> 0:05:44.360 Now, this week we have a question y'all know if. 0:05:44.279 --> 0:05:47.080 You want to send it in, it's Decisions Pod at 0:05:47.120 --> 0:05:50.520 gmail dot com. Okay, so the subject line for this 0:05:51.480 --> 0:05:53.560 already lets me know we're gonna say yes, bitch. 0:05:53.760 --> 0:05:56.360 Okay. The question is, am I tripping? Yep? 0:05:56.480 --> 0:06:00.680 Please help ladies if you have to ask, keep you're tripping? 0:06:01.160 --> 0:06:04.560 Okay, nine times out of ten you are, But there 0:06:04.600 --> 0:06:08.720 are some instances where it'd be like, no, bitch, you right. 0:06:08.800 --> 0:06:13.279 Actually, before we get into this, uh, I had a 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:15.000 girl that was doing a service on me. 0:06:15.120 --> 0:06:20.080 Was hair not that asked me if she. 0:06:20.160 --> 0:06:22.240 Was not your cheating on your I wonder if it's 0:06:24.520 --> 0:06:26.400 cause you know how like men be talking about cheating 0:06:26.400 --> 0:06:27.080 on their barbers. 0:06:27.440 --> 0:06:28.799 Oh yeah, I know, couse my makeup. 0:06:28.839 --> 0:06:30.479 Oh do you know how many people are trying to 0:06:30.480 --> 0:06:33.280 get me to go to another blonde specialist? 0:06:33.320 --> 0:06:35.599 And I'm like, Nope, out them, Brooklyn. I'll keep traveling 0:06:35.640 --> 0:06:36.160 to New York. 0:06:36.560 --> 0:06:40.080 Bro, don't disrespect my hairstyle, is bitch, I'm gonna go 0:06:40.080 --> 0:06:43.000 get my blonde from outtha until I'm done being blinde 0:06:43.000 --> 0:06:43.719 ho damn. 0:06:44.120 --> 0:06:47.880 Okay, So this is division telling me she was treating 0:06:47.920 --> 0:06:48.080 my hair. 0:06:48.120 --> 0:06:50.159 I was just getting a little carrots and joint and 0:06:50.279 --> 0:06:54.359 she was like, so, I want to ask you some advice. 0:06:56.440 --> 0:07:01.800 She was visiting a guy in Atlanta and they've been 0:07:01.839 --> 0:07:03.640 dating each other. It's been a few months. 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:05.120 He hits her up. 0:07:05.279 --> 0:07:09.440 She went out there to do some hair, Okay, she 0:07:10.160 --> 0:07:12.120 they weren't covering the flight, so he covered the flight. 0:07:12.160 --> 0:07:15.680 He's like, come see me whatever. So while she was 0:07:15.680 --> 0:07:18.960 in Atlanta, or while she was going to Atlanta, one 0:07:19.000 --> 0:07:22.320 of her gay homies invited her for a dinner party Saturday. 0:07:22.000 --> 0:07:22.600 On a rooftop. 0:07:23.480 --> 0:07:25.600 Okay, I hit her boom was like, hey, by the way, 0:07:25.640 --> 0:07:30.760 I have plans Saturday eight, And he was like, why 0:07:30.760 --> 0:07:33.920 would you make plans when I'm flying you down here 0:07:34.040 --> 0:07:35.400 for us to hang out. 0:07:35.640 --> 0:07:36.560 You said you had to work. 0:07:36.720 --> 0:07:41.320 Now you about to step out, So he's like, you 0:07:41.480 --> 0:07:45.280 leave it on Sunday, like you just thought making plans 0:07:45.280 --> 0:07:48.440 on Saturday night. She's like, oh, well, I didn't invite 0:07:48.480 --> 0:07:49.720 you because it was a gay party. I know you 0:07:49.760 --> 0:07:51.880 probably ain't want to go. He's like, yeah, but you 0:07:51.920 --> 0:07:54.080 didn't even like I'm flying you out here to do 0:07:54.200 --> 0:07:55.360 up party on Saturday night. 0:07:56.240 --> 0:08:00.480 So she was like, am I wrong? Because he already 0:08:00.520 --> 0:08:05.360 said to me I'm in chill mood. 0:08:05.840 --> 0:08:07.720 She's like, so basically, because he flies me out, I 0:08:07.720 --> 0:08:10.440 can't do anything else. And I'm like, you know what, 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:13.920 I get what you're saying, because I don't think she's 0:08:13.920 --> 0:08:16.440 wrong either, but I do think she's wrong for not 0:08:16.680 --> 0:08:18.680 considering telling him first. 0:08:18.760 --> 0:08:20.680 Hey, do you think she's wrong or not wrong? I 0:08:20.680 --> 0:08:22.440 don't said you don't think she's wrong, but you do 0:08:22.480 --> 0:08:23.480 think she's I don't think. 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:24.960 She's wrong for wanting to make a plan for a 0:08:25.040 --> 0:08:27.720 friend or having the idea that seeing a friend while 0:08:27.760 --> 0:08:32.200 in Atlanta is normal, But at the same time, it's like, 0:08:32.800 --> 0:08:36.760 I'm not gonna hold you. I would tell mania, like, hey, 0:08:37.400 --> 0:08:39.320 did you want to would it be cool if would 0:08:39.360 --> 0:08:40.800 you like to come and or. 0:08:42.400 --> 0:08:46.000 Would you be okay with this? Or do we have plans? 0:08:46.040 --> 0:08:49.800 Like I ain't gonna hold you. If I'm dating somebody 0:08:50.320 --> 0:08:52.839 dating not doesn't live it hold on if I'm dating 0:08:52.880 --> 0:08:55.280 someone and he does not live in my city and 0:08:55.360 --> 0:08:58.360 he buys my flight to come to his city to 0:08:58.440 --> 0:09:01.520 make money because I'm working, essentially I'm coming there for work. 0:09:02.000 --> 0:09:06.120 If he covers that and I make plans outside, bitch, 0:09:06.200 --> 0:09:10.000 I don't really like you because I'm believing that No, 0:09:10.040 --> 0:09:11.560 well this is this is my opinion. 0:09:11.600 --> 0:09:12.720 You don't have to think it's true. 0:09:12.880 --> 0:09:15.840 But bitch, if I like, I know how I've acted 0:09:16.280 --> 0:09:19.280 when I traveled to see niggas. If I'm making plans 0:09:19.280 --> 0:09:21.960 to see someone else, mind you say I'm coming in Friday, 0:09:22.280 --> 0:09:24.960 I have to work maybe Saturday after work. Hair braiding 0:09:24.960 --> 0:09:27.320 can sometimes take a day or two, so if I'm 0:09:27.360 --> 0:09:31.040 working all this time, and he's covering my flight no no, no, 0:09:31.080 --> 0:09:35.400 no no, and leaving and if I'm leaving on Sunday, 0:09:35.520 --> 0:09:39.840 If I'm leaving on Sunday, he's clearly probably expecting at 0:09:39.920 --> 0:09:40.959 least a night with her. 0:09:41.520 --> 0:09:43.040 I think that she's long in. 0:09:43.040 --> 0:09:46.120 Four nights there, what that's a lot. I didn't hear 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:48.080 four nights. I did not hear shot flying in for 0:09:48.120 --> 0:09:49.720 the day. She's flying in for the weekend. I think 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:52.600 it's Thursday to Sunday, three or four nights, right, But 0:09:52.640 --> 0:09:53.440 here's what I'm thinking. 0:09:53.559 --> 0:09:55.840 Yeah, three or four nights wasn't given. That's a detail. 0:09:56.240 --> 0:09:57.080 I mean, that matters. 0:09:57.160 --> 0:09:59.880 So let's just say it was. 0:10:01.320 --> 0:10:03.720 I'm definitely not about to not see Vinnie when I 0:10:03.760 --> 0:10:06.760 come to Atlanta. I always see either Toya or Rashida. 0:10:07.520 --> 0:10:09.640 Matter of fact, when I was my nigga brought me 0:10:09.720 --> 0:10:12.959 to Atlanta to meet his family. His cousin was out there, 0:10:13.000 --> 0:10:14.480 and mind you, we live in New York. But he 0:10:14.520 --> 0:10:15.439 was like, oh, I want you to meet some of 0:10:15.440 --> 0:10:17.719 my Atlanta family. I still was like, okay, let me 0:10:17.760 --> 0:10:18.880 set up my time with so and so. 0:10:19.520 --> 0:10:19.679 Well. 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:22.199 I mean, I have a completely different take if it's 0:10:22.200 --> 0:10:23.200 four days. 0:10:23.080 --> 0:10:25.120 Like Thursday to Sunday. I was wrong Thursday. 0:10:25.160 --> 0:10:28.880 I mean, if it's four days, like yeah, like nigga, 0:10:28.880 --> 0:10:30.120 I'm not gonna be That's what I'm saying. 0:10:30.120 --> 0:10:35.000 I spill spend every single night with you. But also 0:10:35.160 --> 0:10:37.559 I feel what he's saying. I think that that's also 0:10:37.640 --> 0:10:39.559 something that should have been discussed. I mean, I think 0:10:39.600 --> 0:10:42.920 if someone spends their money, like, I ain't gonna hold you. 0:10:43.000 --> 0:10:47.280 If I fly a nigga in I'm expecting time, bro, 0:10:47.840 --> 0:10:50.280 I don't give a fook like, so I think you 0:10:50.360 --> 0:10:53.240 have to consider, like a lot of times you covering 0:10:53.240 --> 0:10:54.880 someone's flight, there's kind of. 0:10:54.960 --> 0:10:57.840 Entitlement there, yeah to the first DIBs. 0:10:58.120 --> 0:11:00.400 So like if you want to have your own little trip, 0:11:00.920 --> 0:11:03.559 bitch by your own flight, don't accept it. Or if 0:11:03.600 --> 0:11:07.320 I'm offering off rip, let me know, like, hey, I 0:11:07.360 --> 0:11:09.400 know that you're getting my flight and I'm excited to 0:11:09.440 --> 0:11:12.040 see you, but I have other plans outside of work. 0:11:12.400 --> 0:11:13.920 Just letting you know, like that. 0:11:13.840 --> 0:11:14.959 Needs to be set off the rip. 0:11:15.200 --> 0:11:15.640 I agree. 0:11:15.679 --> 0:11:19.319 If I'm flying again, that nigga my sex slave, bitch, 0:11:19.320 --> 0:11:20.080 fuck out of here. 0:11:20.559 --> 0:11:22.079 That nigga I own. 0:11:22.880 --> 0:11:26.560 I bought your flight, even if it's main cabin nigga, 0:11:26.920 --> 0:11:29.440 even if it's a middle seat, you better not go 0:11:29.480 --> 0:11:31.720 see nobody else without let me know first and let 0:11:31.880 --> 0:11:33.040 me say you can't. 0:11:33.160 --> 0:11:36.520 I understand the entire entitlement of buying the flight, but 0:11:36.600 --> 0:11:38.520 I also was like, damn, I see where he's coming from. 0:11:38.520 --> 0:11:40.480 He's like, damn, I feel you out to make weekend plans. 0:11:40.559 --> 0:11:43.160 But I was like, exactly like I do either, even 0:11:43.200 --> 0:11:45.360 if it is four days, like you could at least 0:11:45.360 --> 0:11:47.360 been like, hey, I'm staying with you. 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:49.560 We're dating, We got our shit going. 0:11:49.640 --> 0:11:52.200 So for me, I'm at the point in my relationship 0:11:52.240 --> 0:11:55.640 where when weekend shit comes up that I want to 0:11:55.640 --> 0:11:57.079 do or that he wants to do, we tell each 0:11:57.120 --> 0:11:58.360 other like. 0:11:58.559 --> 0:12:00.640 Now I ain't gonna hold you. I just think that 0:12:01.400 --> 0:12:03.640 as a woman, if you have other plans and you're 0:12:03.679 --> 0:12:07.679 dating somebody and clearly like there needs to be an 0:12:07.720 --> 0:12:11.199 open line of communication on expectations or bitch by your 0:12:11.240 --> 0:12:15.400 own flight so you don't feel like you don't feel guilty. 0:12:15.280 --> 0:12:17.480 Or knows because then a nigga's like he's slaying with me. 0:12:19.480 --> 0:12:20.600 Niggas be doing that too. 0:12:20.920 --> 0:12:23.120 But that's what I'm saying now, bro, if I sit 0:12:23.200 --> 0:12:27.000 here and save you money too, I think you do. 0:12:27.200 --> 0:12:30.760 Like telling someone your plans is fair. I totally get it. 0:12:30.800 --> 0:12:32.640 They're not in a serious relationship with the point you're 0:12:32.640 --> 0:12:35.760 flying to somebody's city. That was literally that I am wrong, 0:12:35.840 --> 0:12:36.640 Like that was in my head. 0:12:36.920 --> 0:12:40.880 I'm gonna save you money on a flight, and I'm 0:12:40.920 --> 0:12:41.480 offering you. 0:12:41.440 --> 0:12:42.040 To stay with me. 0:12:42.160 --> 0:12:42.760 Fuck nigga. 0:12:43.200 --> 0:12:45.360 Oh listen, you don't getting all the plan. 0:12:45.559 --> 0:12:48.160 But then it literally said to her, I appreciate that 0:12:48.200 --> 0:12:51.240 you're doing shit so that you're not cooped up under him. 0:12:52.960 --> 0:12:53.200 Yeah. 0:12:53.320 --> 0:12:54.960 Cool, It sounds good that she should have bought her 0:12:55.000 --> 0:12:55.520 own flight. 0:12:57.640 --> 0:12:59.360 Bitch, I don't want to just buy anything. Let me 0:12:59.440 --> 0:13:01.560 jase me. I don't want to shit about her own flight. 0:13:01.840 --> 0:13:04.240 And now the nigga's probably not gonna date you anymore 0:13:04.360 --> 0:13:04.960 after the train. 0:13:11.640 --> 0:13:14.079 By the way, speaking of buying your own I did 0:13:14.160 --> 0:13:17.160 date night this month. Y'all know I planned date night 0:13:17.200 --> 0:13:20.000 once a month or no one of us does it. 0:13:20.120 --> 0:13:22.960 So this last month was my month and it ended 0:13:22.960 --> 0:13:26.320 at bath house. Why my nigga was downstairs. He goes 0:13:26.880 --> 0:13:31.000 this where you and Mandy got fingered. I didn't know 0:13:31.200 --> 0:13:32.840 no one got fingered in a bathroom. 0:13:33.440 --> 0:13:35.120 She was like this the one y'all talk. 0:13:36.280 --> 0:13:37.839 No one got bath house. 0:13:39.920 --> 0:13:42.640 Oh no, they have the one in fight Eye. Oh no, girl, 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:45.960 the one that we went to is now two floors rooftop. 0:13:46.679 --> 0:13:50.600 It's crazy. Oh wow, it's really fire now. I know. 0:13:50.640 --> 0:13:52.600 There was that New York Post article that said there 0:13:52.600 --> 0:13:55.920 were ship stains, but boy, that motherfucker was not. I was. 0:13:56.040 --> 0:13:59.480 Oh no, I love bath House. I mean there could 0:13:59.480 --> 0:14:00.400 be a bad experience. 0:14:00.440 --> 0:14:00.760 I don't know. 0:14:01.160 --> 0:14:04.920 Now you can really love it like I love I 0:14:04.960 --> 0:14:07.600 I love it was one of the best views y'all. 0:14:07.640 --> 0:14:09.120 Bath house. Whoever working over there? 0:14:09.160 --> 0:14:10.800 Why are we even pro both in bath house? 0:14:10.840 --> 0:14:11.000 Bitch? 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:11.960 It's already small. 0:14:12.679 --> 0:14:13.559 No, it's not anymore. 0:14:14.160 --> 0:14:16.080 Yeah, but it still is because it's New York City. 0:14:17.960 --> 0:14:19.720 But y'all be just get us. A little day passed 0:14:19.720 --> 0:14:22.120 because that pool was hitting better than soho ol, oh 0:14:22.200 --> 0:14:24.960 my god, even the day pass. No, girls, stop telling people. 0:14:26.320 --> 0:14:29.840 All right, well, let's see if this listener this week 0:14:30.000 --> 0:14:32.720 is tripping again. If you want to send your letter 0:14:32.880 --> 0:14:37.520 in and get your advice from us, the unofficial experts 0:14:37.520 --> 0:14:37.880 at all. 0:14:37.880 --> 0:14:40.720 This shit is decisions pod at gmail dot com, not. 0:14:40.640 --> 0:14:42.240 The unofficial experts. Shout out. 0:14:42.960 --> 0:14:45.320 I don't know why people even ask us questions anymore. 0:14:45.640 --> 0:14:48.840 All Right, Well, hey Mandy and Weezy. I'm a huge 0:14:48.840 --> 0:14:52.320 fan of the pod and a recently divorced thirty one 0:14:52.400 --> 0:14:56.000 year old bisexual woman who has now been given the 0:14:56.000 --> 0:14:58.320 freedom to truly explore myself sexually. 0:14:58.880 --> 0:15:02.360 This podcast and O holds Bard have been instrumental in 0:15:02.400 --> 0:15:05.680 guiding me on this journey. I appreciate y'all for the 0:15:05.720 --> 0:15:10.040 sake of the pod. You can call me Karmen. She 0:15:10.160 --> 0:15:11.720 also added her picture for reference. 0:15:11.720 --> 0:15:13.080 Oh let me talk. I need help. 0:15:13.560 --> 0:15:16.960 I am currently dating and it has been hell and 0:15:17.200 --> 0:15:20.920 recently met a man who is checking all the boxes. 0:15:21.320 --> 0:15:25.920 Great personality, educated, no kids, me neither homeowner, good sex, etc. 0:15:26.640 --> 0:15:29.880 The issue is he was engaged and broke it off 0:15:29.880 --> 0:15:33.600 three years ago, but they are still co parenting their dog. 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:37.240 It is important to note that their engagement and died 0:15:37.320 --> 0:15:40.960 due to family cultural differences, and they were damn near 0:15:41.080 --> 0:15:44.240 forced to break up because her family wasn't accepting of 0:15:44.280 --> 0:15:47.480 a black man. They meet up and trade their dog 0:15:47.720 --> 0:15:51.560 on a monthly schedule, and they even communicate and trade 0:15:51.600 --> 0:15:54.600 their dog when they are traveling for work, vacation, etc. 0:15:55.440 --> 0:15:57.520 At first, I thought I'd be okay with it, but 0:15:57.600 --> 0:15:59.560 when I was around the dog for the first time. 0:16:00.120 --> 0:16:02.800 I knew this wasn't gonna work for me. The dog 0:16:03.400 --> 0:16:07.040 was grimming me a what a God. All I could 0:16:07.080 --> 0:16:09.280 think about was just ex fiance and also some of 0:16:09.320 --> 0:16:11.800 the trauma he had experienced due to the way her 0:16:11.800 --> 0:16:14.920 family handled things. I suspect that they are both still 0:16:14.920 --> 0:16:18.000 emotionally attached and using this dog as a way to 0:16:18.040 --> 0:16:18.720 stay connected. 0:16:19.320 --> 0:16:22.680 Of course, he said that that's not the case, but you. 0:16:22.640 --> 0:16:25.960 Can't believe these niggas. This is also one of those 0:16:26.040 --> 0:16:29.080 very small, very busy dogs. I did my best to 0:16:29.120 --> 0:16:31.600 be kind and welcoming, but it was a lot to 0:16:31.640 --> 0:16:33.480 handle with him jumping all over me. 0:16:34.280 --> 0:16:36.280 I recently decided that the best thing to do was 0:16:36.320 --> 0:16:36.920 break it off. 0:16:37.520 --> 0:16:40.040 I was really feeling him, but I didn't want to 0:16:40.080 --> 0:16:42.120 lead him on because I know the feeling was mutual 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:45.200 and he really liked me too. But when we discussed this, 0:16:45.720 --> 0:16:48.160 he didn't offer any compromise and said that we need 0:16:48.200 --> 0:16:51.520 to be locked in before he made any moves regarding 0:16:51.560 --> 0:16:51.960 his dog. 0:16:52.680 --> 0:16:56.040 Did I make the right decision or am I trick? 0:16:56.280 --> 0:16:57.200 Yeah? You're sure. 0:16:58.480 --> 0:17:00.400 You think she's tripp because she don't want to paring 0:17:00.440 --> 0:17:01.440 a dog with a nigga. 0:17:01.640 --> 0:17:03.680 I think exactly what he said at then, like being 0:17:03.720 --> 0:17:09.080 locked in, like that's not your nigga. You're feeling him, 0:17:09.680 --> 0:17:12.399 You're finding this flaw and the dog thing, but you 0:17:12.520 --> 0:17:13.880 really don't have room to. 0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:15.080 Be demanding shit yet. 0:17:15.760 --> 0:17:19.199 I can completely understand and thinking it's emotional attachment, but 0:17:20.080 --> 0:17:22.359 be real with you, the way that Obay and ar 0:17:22.359 --> 0:17:27.800 were trading Nina was an emotional attachment because we were 0:17:27.880 --> 0:17:30.040 using that as an excuse too, but. 0:17:30.040 --> 0:17:32.520 We weren't doing monthly, we were doing more than that. 0:17:33.359 --> 0:17:36.240 And well, yeah, and she's saying she feels like this 0:17:36.400 --> 0:17:37.560 is their emotional on. 0:17:37.960 --> 0:17:38.920 So I'm gonna be real. 0:17:39.000 --> 0:17:42.359 If me and him just had a chill relationship, he'd 0:17:42.440 --> 0:17:47.240 still be watching Nina like dad nigga on some real shit. 0:17:48.280 --> 0:17:50.240 We were just so we had such an easy schedule. 0:17:50.280 --> 0:17:52.639 I mean even remember we were driving off to Roofs picnic. 0:17:52.720 --> 0:17:54.720 I dropped the dog off like it was just easy. 0:17:55.280 --> 0:17:58.680 And if you purchase a dog together, Now, Nina wasn't 0:17:58.680 --> 0:17:59.080 his dog. 0:17:59.160 --> 0:17:59.960 Nina was my dog. 0:18:00.359 --> 0:18:04.240 But when you purchase a dog together, it's kind of difficult. 0:18:04.359 --> 0:18:06.639 And I can understand people not wanting to break up 0:18:06.640 --> 0:18:09.480 that time. I know a lot of people have talked 0:18:09.480 --> 0:18:13.040 about Kaitlin Nicole because she's got the dog when her 0:18:13.040 --> 0:18:14.200 and Travis broke up, and. 0:18:14.160 --> 0:18:16.040 I was like, oh, I don't think I knew about it. Oh, 0:18:16.080 --> 0:18:16.600 people like. 0:18:16.680 --> 0:18:18.600 Talk about it and her comments and shit, and I 0:18:18.720 --> 0:18:21.320 just be like, Bro, people are obsessed, But I get it. 0:18:21.359 --> 0:18:23.399 I don't know how long she's got that dog, but 0:18:23.480 --> 0:18:26.159 she was with Travis five years. I'm only speaking on 0:18:26.160 --> 0:18:28.320 this because it's a public relationship with public commentary. By 0:18:28.320 --> 0:18:31.400 the way, for everyone listen, this is not personal conversations 0:18:31.400 --> 0:18:33.280 I have with her about the dogs ever. But when 0:18:33.320 --> 0:18:34.920 I saw people chatting about it, I was like, damn, 0:18:35.000 --> 0:18:37.560 I feel for her because it's like, fuck, this. 0:18:37.600 --> 0:18:39.920 Whole shit is going on, everybody talking about me. These 0:18:39.920 --> 0:18:42.200 are my children. I don't know. 0:18:42.359 --> 0:18:46.920