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Speaker 2: Guess what you've got decisions. You've got decision.

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Speaker 3: That's our jingle, y'all.

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Speaker 4: That was a different cadence. That ain't really the jingle.

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Speaker 3: It's gonna be right about no?

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Speaker 2: Or what's the other drop side of you knowing?

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Speaker 3: If you're on a metro, don't trust you and mustle

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Speaker 4: Hope wait, let me google most famous drops. Well, they're

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Speaker 4: they're like producer tagline.

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Speaker 1: with most famous like beat drops?

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, not it's producer tag line? Rought about No,

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Speaker 4: that's my friend. Tryan he beat.

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Speaker 1: Mustard on the beat. If you metro, don't trust you? Okay,

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Speaker 3: Not so nice, Yo, Pierre, you want to come out here?

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, wait, what's hip makers? Because his is on

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Speaker 3: I see Mike Will made it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, tagline is, Oh lord, Justin made another one.

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Speaker 2: They don't need to make it. I'll be hearing it

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Speaker 3: DA got that dope. Weezy out of.

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Speaker 1: Here, just blaze take Keith. Fuck these niggas up.

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Speaker 3: That was a goode. I do like that one. But

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Speaker 4: There's a whole producer's tag directory on genius dot com.

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Speaker 3: What the fuck? Oh I forgot listen?

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Speaker 2: You know technically we saw our tagline.

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Speaker 1: To read another company. But that's where y'all leave them,

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Speaker 4: She says nobody else could have told this story quite

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Speaker 4: like them. This book is truly like nothing else you've

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Speaker 4: It's bold, it's bringing. It invites you to unlock parts

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Speaker 4: If I'm flying again, that nigga my sex slave, bitch,

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Speaker 3: That nigga I own.

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Speaker 4: I bought your flight, even if it's main cabin nigga,

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Speaker 4: Now I ain't gonna hold you. I just think that

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Speaker 3: Or knows because then a nigga's like he's slaying with me.

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Speaker 1: But that's what I'm saying now, bro, if I sit

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Speaker 1: Like telling someone your plans is fair. I totally get it.

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna save you money on a flight, and I'm

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Speaker 2: To stay with me.

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Speaker 1: But then it literally said to her, I appreciate that

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Speaker 3: Bitch, I don't want to just buy anything. Let me

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Speaker 4: And now the nigga's probably not gonna date you anymore

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Speaker 1: So this last month was my month and it ended

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Speaker 1: at bath house. Why my nigga was downstairs. He goes

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Speaker 1: this where you and Mandy got fingered. I didn't know

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Speaker 1: no one got fingered in a bathroom.

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Speaker 3: She was like this the one y'all talk.

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Speaker 2: No one got bath house.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, they have the one in fight Eye. Oh no, girl,

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Speaker 3: the one that we went to is now two floors rooftop.

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Speaker 3: It's crazy. Oh wow, it's really fire now. I know.

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Speaker 1: There was that New York Post article that said there

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Speaker 4: Oh no, I love bath House. I mean there could

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Now you can really love it like I love I

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Speaker 3: Bath house. Whoever working over there?

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Speaker 2: Why are we even pro both in bath house?

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Speaker 3: Bitch?

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Speaker 2: It's already small.

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Speaker 3: No, it's not anymore.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but it still is because it's New York City.

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Speaker 1: But y'all be just get us. A little day passed

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Speaker 1: because that pool was hitting better than soho ol, oh

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Speaker 1: my god, even the day pass. No, girls, stop telling people.

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Speaker 4: All right, well, let's see if this listener this week

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Speaker 4: is tripping again. If you want to send your letter

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Speaker 4: in and get your advice from us, the unofficial experts

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Speaker 4: at all.

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Speaker 2: This shit is decisions pod at gmail dot com, not.

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Speaker 3: The unofficial experts. Shout out.

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Speaker 4: I don't know why people even ask us questions anymore.

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Speaker 4: All Right, Well, hey Mandy and Weezy. I'm a huge

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Speaker 2: This podcast and O holds Bard have been instrumental in

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Speaker 3: Oh let me talk. I need help.

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Speaker 4: I am currently dating and it has been hell and

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Speaker 4: recently met a man who is checking all the boxes.

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Speaker 4: Great personality, educated, no kids, me neither homeowner, good sex, etc.

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Speaker 4: The issue is he was engaged and broke it off

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Speaker 2: Of course, he said that that's not the case, but you.

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Speaker 4: Can't believe these niggas. This is also one of those

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Speaker 2: I recently decided that the best thing to do was

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Speaker 4: I was really feeling him, but I didn't want to

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Speaker 4: and he really liked me too. But when we discussed this,

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Speaker 2: Did I make the right decision or am I trick?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? You're sure.

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Speaker 4: You think she's tripp because she don't want to paring

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Speaker 1: I think exactly what he said at then, like being

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Speaker 1: You're finding this flaw and the dog thing, but you

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Speaker 1: really don't have room to.

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Speaker 3: Be demanding shit yet.

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Speaker 1: I can completely understand and thinking it's emotional attachment, but

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Speaker 1: be real with you, the way that Obay and ar

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Speaker 1: were trading Nina was an emotional attachment because we were

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Speaker 3: We weren't doing monthly, we were doing more than that.

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Speaker 4: And well, yeah, and she's saying she feels like this

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Speaker 3: So I'm gonna be real.

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Speaker 1: If me and him just had a chill relationship, he'd

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Speaker 1: still be watching Nina like dad nigga on some real shit.

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Speaker 1: We were just so we had such an easy schedule.

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Speaker 3: I dropped the dog off like it was just easy.

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Speaker 1: And if you purchase a dog together, Now, Nina wasn't

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Speaker 3: Nina was my dog.

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Speaker 1: But when you purchase a dog together, it's kind of difficult.

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Speaker 3: I was like, oh, I don't think I knew about it. Oh,

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Speaker 1: Talk about it and her comments and shit, and I

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Speaker 1: I don't know how long she's got that dog, but

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Speaker 1: I have with her about the dogs ever. But when

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Speaker 1: I feel for her because it's like, fuck, this.

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Speaker 3: Whole shit is going on, everybody talking about me. These

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Speaker 1: I think if someone was my man, then I would

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Speaker 3: But at the end of the day, you're still a

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Speaker 1: The dog might always fucking growled at you and look

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Speaker 1: at you funny until they like you, Like I don't know,

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Speaker 1: Like people really love their pets, bro, they do. They

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Speaker 4: I know if y'all are on Patreon, So I'm about

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Speaker 2: Okay, if y'all are on the Patreon.

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Speaker 4: Y'all know, Wheezy and ed Ands and dan Meyer told

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Speaker 3: Want a co parent, right.

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Speaker 2: So to me, this is almost.

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Speaker 4: A non compromised force to be in a poly relationship.

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Speaker 2: Essentially, hear me out.

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Speaker 4: She didn't she didn't agree to kind of sign up

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Speaker 4: like to deal with a baby mama. And so if

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Speaker 3: Would mind you?

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Speaker 2: I thought you were perfect because you ain't had kids,

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Speaker 4: it's fucked them kids, Well, bitch, just for them animals

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Speaker 4: I actually don't think you're tripping if this is like

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Speaker 4: a situation where not only that, it's forcing you to

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Speaker 4: also reassuring you in your emotions or how you feel,

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Speaker 4: I absolutely don't think you're tripping.

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Speaker 2: I think that you didn't sign.

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Speaker 4: Up to be what a partner who has the co

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Speaker 4: parent and having that dog even though it's not a

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Speaker 4: human being child, there's a co parenting dynamic.

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Speaker 3: Once a month.

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Speaker 2: Bitch, you're not tripping.

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Speaker 4: Go on to the next nigga who is single with

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Speaker 4: no kids, with good dick and.

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Speaker 2: All the other things you have to know kids and

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Speaker 2: no dogs?

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Speaker 3: Girl, Well, well to me, you gonna have a pet.

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Speaker 2: You can have a pet, but I you know the

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Speaker 2: co parenting is a lot.

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying your vice is bad either. I honestly

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Speaker 1: see both. The reason the reason I think is tripping

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Speaker 1: is because you cut him off over the dog. That's

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Speaker 1: why I think it's tripping.

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Speaker 4: I would cut a nigga off over his kids or

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Speaker 4: his baby mama. And at this point, to me, I

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Speaker 4: think that it wasn't just a dog. It's the fact

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Speaker 4: that there's a co parenting situation. If that nigga just

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Speaker 4: had a dog that just lived in his apartment all

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Speaker 4: the time, I don't think there will be iss.

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Speaker 2: You know what, I'm reading this the co parenting element.

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Speaker 1: I'm reading one in Kennedy Ryan's book, shouting right now,

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Speaker 1: shout out to Kennedy Ryan.

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Speaker 3: She she fucks with us.

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Speaker 1: We gotta high around sometime soon I fell out New

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Speaker 1: York Times bestseller and it's before I Let Go, and

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Speaker 1: a lot of y'all have read this book, and I

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Speaker 1: think that John legends turning it into a TV series.

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Speaker 1: The long story short reading about co parenting where people

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Speaker 1: still want to fuck each other and they don't know

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Speaker 1: they want to fuck each other, but they feel tied

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Speaker 1: to each other in the way that she's writing about

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Speaker 1: how people are feeling like jealous and like thinking about

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Speaker 1: the other person. I'm like, I literally was reading the book,

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Speaker 1: put the book down, looked at my I said, we

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Speaker 1: ain't never leave the jail nay, because I ain't gonna

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Speaker 1: do this. We ain't already tattooed my deck. We are not,

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Speaker 1: and I like hand it in the book.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, I can't.

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Speaker 1: It really reconfirmed for me what I used to be

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Speaker 1: insecure about when dating men with children. And the fact

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Speaker 1: of the matter is, y'all, so both have moved on,

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Speaker 1: but you still feeling I don't meant to that other person,

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Speaker 1: like it's.

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Speaker 3: A weird how do you let go? So?

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Speaker 1: I don't know, But anyway, bitch, yeah, I would, I

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Speaker 1: think unless you all.

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Speaker 4: I mean, but to me if you're dating with intention,

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Speaker 4: but you you though so you could do it if

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Speaker 4: you saw like long term reasons to be with this

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Speaker 4: guy and this was a deal breaker. I think you

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Speaker 4: did the right thing. Don't waste your time. That wasn't

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Speaker 4: a situation you wanted to deal with. And the fact

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Speaker 4: that he wasn't willing to bend or compromise or consider

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Speaker 4: how you feel about it, he's not he's not off

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Speaker 4: of that.

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Speaker 2: Relationship yet enough to consider you. So I think you

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Speaker 2: did the right thing.

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Speaker 4: Let us know in the comments if you go on

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Speaker 4: right on Patreon.

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Speaker 2: And we would love to hear y'all's thoughts.

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Speaker 3: On all the things.

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Speaker 4: On the braider who got fluid out and so's not regular.

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Speaker 2: I don't want she'd be Brighten.

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Speaker 4: She'd be Brighten who decided to take a free flight

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Speaker 4: and hang out with her gay homeboys even though she

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Speaker 4: was dating a nigga. And also drop your thoughts on

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Speaker 4: this woman who left her nigga for co parenting a

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Speaker 4: dog with his ex fiance. If you guys have questions

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Speaker 4: like this, make sure you send it over to us Decisions.

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Speaker 2: Pod at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 4: We want to hear from you and we will give

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Speaker 4: you our our goddamn advice and clearly you gonna get

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Speaker 4: both sides of the coin from us.

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Speaker 2: And we will see y'all next week.

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Speaker 3: He's Hames