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Speaker 1: let's do it. Scrubbing in with Becca Tilly and I

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Speaker 1: Heart Radio Podcast. Um, we are so excited to be here.

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Speaker 1: We have one of my very favorite people in the studio,

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Speaker 1: Robin Lively. She brought McDonald's French fries. Well you know

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Speaker 1: it because we share a love for um Mickey D's.

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Speaker 1: That's how we knew we were like meant for each other.

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Speaker 1: I know, I feel like you're one of my soul

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Speaker 1: but I haven't seen you in so long, So I

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Speaker 1: got a good one today. Well, the guy at the

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Speaker 1: door almost got a really good A guy was walking

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Speaker 1: he's ready for it. I was like, sorry, guy behind you,

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Speaker 1: I just can't believe I was When Amy was like,

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Speaker 1: we should have Robin on, I couldn't believe that we

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Speaker 1: hadn't thought about this before. What are you thinking. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. You're everything. We need your everything we need

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Speaker 1: on this podcast. We need advice from you. Tony and

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Speaker 1: I are struggling. And just like dating in general and

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Speaker 1: you go to Disneyland together, that's the goal. Yeah, we're

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Speaker 1: trying to find that. I'm going to help you. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: He was a hockey player on Hinge and I'm talking

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Speaker 1: But I thought, I'll make good use of my time today,

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Speaker 1: and so he asked that this guy was like, what

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Speaker 1: out my office space catching up on Gray's Anatomy, Like

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Speaker 1: And I was like, that's suspicious, Like, first of all,

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Speaker 1: you're on random dating apps. So you're just yeah, so

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Speaker 1: dating apps? I said, him from Louisiana, but I live

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Speaker 1: when you had that epiphany that bart Okay, we're a

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Speaker 1: little bit past that. It's okay, don't be disaccard. You

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Speaker 1: played in this scene. Happened. She's shuffling through, moving on

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Speaker 1: to something a little more smiley. Yeah, smiley, let's talk

427
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Speaker 1: about smiley thing. You were you prepared for that long story?

428
00:22:52,280 --> 00:22:54,359
Speaker 1: I don't know how to give the short bird. So

429
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Speaker 1: I think it's like, I think that you learned something

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Speaker 1: new from every you know what I mean. Like you're

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Speaker 1: in a successful like happy relation and ship. That's cool

432
00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:03,639
Speaker 1: to like hear people's stories and our listeners like to

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Speaker 1: hear how people meant. I'll tell you our marriage is

434
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Speaker 1: so great, and we've been married for eighteen years, and

435
00:23:12,680 --> 00:23:15,720
Speaker 1: it's not without we haven't certainly have had our challenges,

436
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Speaker 1: and you have to go through those things, like honestly,

437
00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:21,240
Speaker 1: but because we've stuck it out. I mean, there were

438
00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:24,040
Speaker 1: definitely times where you know, listen, we've been through it,

439
00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:27,880
Speaker 1: but because we didn't say, oh, forget it, like there's

440
00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:31,159
Speaker 1: something better or and we we we've stuck through it.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I can't imagine, you know, having said

442
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Speaker 1: forget this, like this isn't what I wanted. Because now

443
00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:42,200
Speaker 1: we've gone through so many things and now it's like

444
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Speaker 1: I just have such a I still have such a

445
00:23:44,160 --> 00:23:47,600
Speaker 1: crush on him, you know, like we've gone through so much.

446
00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:50,440
Speaker 1: It's true. But also because and I will tell you this,

447
00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:53,399
Speaker 1: you you need to look for someone who has a

448
00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:58,760
Speaker 1: great family because that is so key, because that really

449
00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:02,520
Speaker 1: makes up who the person is. That's who their family is.

450
00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:08,200
Speaker 1: And he's got the most extraordinary family, the most. I

451
00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:10,639
Speaker 1: feel like you both do. I do have both have

452
00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:13,520
Speaker 1: like strong close family. Yeah. It's like, look at who

453
00:24:13,560 --> 00:24:16,600
Speaker 1: their friends are, their family is, and you're going to

454
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Speaker 1: know a lot about who they are. Yeah, for sure.

455
00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:23,880
Speaker 1: Well that gives me a lot of hope. I feel

456
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Speaker 1: bad about this. I needed that. I needed that story

457
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Speaker 1: me too. You never know, you know, took her a

458
00:24:29,359 --> 00:24:37,440
Speaker 1: couple of years to come around, yeah, timund Yeah, but

459
00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:40,880
Speaker 1: he will. Yeah, well maybe you should just meet him first, Yeah,

460
00:24:41,440 --> 00:24:45,520
Speaker 1: because you might not what if you know and they're like, oh, yeah,

461
00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:49,679
Speaker 1: you never know. I liked it better, but I had

462
00:24:49,720 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 1: in my head. Um, let's talk about quip. Have you

463
00:24:53,600 --> 00:24:58,440
Speaker 1: ever heard a quip toothbrush? It's an electric toothbrush. Nod, Like,

464
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Speaker 1: I mean, I just her feet, I don't yeh Um, well,

465
00:25:07,119 --> 00:25:10,080
Speaker 1: quip is an electric toothbrush, and it is it has

466
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Speaker 1: like a it's a vibrating toothbrush, so it gives you

467
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Speaker 1: a very thorough clean whilst brushing your teeth whilst that's

468
00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:22,399
Speaker 1: my word I've been trying to incorporate and then like

469
00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:25,280
Speaker 1: vibrates when you're supposed to change sections. Oh yeah, so

470
00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:27,639
Speaker 1: like times it out for you. I mean they have

471
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Speaker 1: just like yeah they do, but are they this good looking?

472
00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:35,120
Speaker 1: They look like apple designed to them. It's so it's

473
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Speaker 1: so pretty. I'm proud to take my toothbrush out. Like

474
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Speaker 1: you have to brush your teeth in public a lot

475
00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:45,080
Speaker 1: because all the time, like brushing my teeth in my braces,

476
00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:47,920
Speaker 1: it's really hot. You'd be proud to pull out the

477
00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:52,119
Speaker 1: clip for sure. Um. I think my biggest problem before

478
00:25:52,160 --> 00:25:54,880
Speaker 1: I got quipped was not brushing my teeth long enough.

479
00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:58,959
Speaker 1: Like I didn't realize how much longer I was supposed

480
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Speaker 1: to be brushing. And tell Robin about how they send

481
00:26:01,480 --> 00:26:04,399
Speaker 1: you a new uh oh yeah, how often do you

482
00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:08,960
Speaker 1: change out your brushhead? Oh, be honest, be honest. I

483
00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 1: thought it was like every six months. Yeah, because every

484
00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:15,639
Speaker 1: three months, um and Equip send you they have a

485
00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:18,760
Speaker 1: subscription plan and they'll send you new brusheads every three

486
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Speaker 1: months for just five dollars, and it includes free shipping

487
00:26:23,400 --> 00:26:25,000
Speaker 1: to go out and buy it. Yeah, I wish I

488
00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:27,520
Speaker 1: can pull it up for you. You can pull it up,

489
00:26:27,680 --> 00:26:29,159
Speaker 1: but why why don't I pull it up and you

490
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Speaker 1: tell them what they need to do to get it?

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Speaker 1: Um to get a clip? True, I don't go six months.

492
00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:37,440
Speaker 1: I'm just saying I thought it was six months, but

493
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Speaker 1: I do. I probably do six months. I mean honestly,

494
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Speaker 1: before they start, I don't even know. It's probably gross,

495
00:26:45,359 --> 00:26:47,520
Speaker 1: Like it makes me feel gross, and I feel like

496
00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:50,920
Speaker 1: we last week we did like a friend test, like

497
00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:52,960
Speaker 1: how well we know each other, and it was like,

498
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Speaker 1: what's your favorite what Speccy's favorite feature about herself? And

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Speaker 1: I said my teeth And apparently I haven't even been

500
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Speaker 1: taking as good care of them as I need to.

501
00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:11,840
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, try to do that. Yeah yeah, it wouldn't

502
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Speaker 1: be embarrassed. Comes in all sorts of colors too. Yeah. Nice.

503
00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 1: Basically it's the Tesla of toothbrush. It really is. Dang

504
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:24,960
Speaker 1: um So clip starts at just twenty five dollars if

505
00:27:25,000 --> 00:27:27,639
Speaker 1: you go to get quip dot com slashed. Becca right now,

506
00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:32,840
Speaker 1: you'll get your first refill pack free with equip Electric toothbrush. Um,

507
00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:38,560
Speaker 1: Robin's looking at photos all right now she's really annoying. Um,

508
00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:42,320
Speaker 1: that's your first refill pack free at get quip dot com.

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Speaker 1: Slash Becca. That's spelled g E T q U I

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Speaker 1: P dot com slash Becca. All right, harmonized. Yeah, it's

511
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:55,119
Speaker 1: a thing. I go up, she goes down. Yeah. I

512
00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:57,520
Speaker 1: guess we had switched it and we were both going up.

513
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Speaker 1: And one of our listeners is like, you used to

514
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Speaker 1: harmon eyes and now you all are doing the same.

515
00:28:02,920 --> 00:28:06,600
Speaker 1: I know. They really keep us in check. Um, we

516
00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:08,880
Speaker 1: need to do a three part harmony if I yeah,

517
00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:15,240
Speaker 1: next one, so you go high ye be ready to

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Speaker 1: go Becca or something like that. Great, Yeah, let's do

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Speaker 1: that when we do wink okay, yeah, well we have

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Speaker 1: two more lass we have link and we have bark

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Speaker 1: box though should we do yeah? Okay, okay, So let

522
00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:35,560
Speaker 1: me preface with this. We have the best listeners ever

523
00:28:35,680 --> 00:28:38,280
Speaker 1: in the world. We have a Facebook group and we talked,

524
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:40,440
Speaker 1: we've we just had it for the past couple of weeks.

525
00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:43,960
Speaker 1: But it is the like if I'm having a bad day,

526
00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:46,240
Speaker 1: I'll go on the Facebook group because everyone talks to

527
00:28:46,320 --> 00:28:48,280
Speaker 1: each other and they're from all over the country to

528
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:52,160
Speaker 1: different countries, and they are like, anyone from here, or

529
00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:54,800
Speaker 1: I'm struggling with this, what do you think? And people respond,

530
00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:58,040
Speaker 1: It's like they respond to each other. It's so everything.

531
00:28:58,720 --> 00:29:02,560
Speaker 1: But they also send us else and ask for our guidance,

532
00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:05,480
Speaker 1: which when it comes to dating stuff, it's actually hilarious.

533
00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:07,160
Speaker 1: But we try to do our best. I feel like

534
00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:10,520
Speaker 1: we give good advice even though we're single. Yeah, because

535
00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:14,160
Speaker 1: like we've been through it maybe, yeah, And you know

536
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:17,520
Speaker 1: from the outside it's easy from the outside, So now

537
00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 1: you're going to help, okay, and you're going to give

538
00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:25,320
Speaker 1: a different perspective. So Mark's not here today. We miss him.

539
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:29,480
Speaker 1: But since Mark's not here, with your permission, I'd like

540
00:29:29,560 --> 00:29:31,880
Speaker 1: to step in and be the email reader. I've been

541
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:36,400
Speaker 1: practicing for this question. First. Well, I mean, there's so

542
00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:39,080
Speaker 1: many good ones. There's there's one about the last name.

543
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 1: So I feel very bad for this person because this

544
00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:46,920
Speaker 1: is a real, real tough situation. This is This is

545
00:29:47,000 --> 00:29:49,880
Speaker 1: from Kelsey. She says, I'm in love with my boyfriend

546
00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:51,960
Speaker 1: and I know he's the one. The only thing I

547
00:29:52,080 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 1: don't love is his last name. I've talked to him

548
00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:56,520
Speaker 1: about it without trying to offend him, which he understands.

549
00:29:56,640 --> 00:29:58,840
Speaker 1: But he's traditional and he knows he wants to keep it.

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00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:01,480
Speaker 1: His hope is that I'll change mind, and he understands

551
00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:03,000
Speaker 1: if I want to do you understand if I want

552
00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 1: to keep it. I love the idea of taking someone's

553
00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 1: last name. I just struggle so much with this. He

554
00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:08,920
Speaker 1: has told me before that he was made fun of

555
00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:10,680
Speaker 1: for his last name several times in school, and he

556
00:30:10,760 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 1: was younger. Cashiers and waitresses also comment on it when

557
00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:15,640
Speaker 1: they see his name on his credit card. I hate

558
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:18,160
Speaker 1: just sounds so harsh about someone I love everything about.

559
00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:20,320
Speaker 1: But it's just how I feel. What do you think.

560
00:30:20,560 --> 00:30:22,800
Speaker 1: Is it possible I'll get over get over it if

561
00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:24,440
Speaker 1: I take his name? Or should I stick with my own?

562
00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 1: I love listening to your podcast, Lots of Love and

563
00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:31,400
Speaker 1: Luck in the Dating world from Kelsey YEA A good job.

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00:30:32,040 --> 00:30:34,440
Speaker 1: We get to know the last name. I'm so I'll

565
00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:36,080
Speaker 1: show it to you, but I can't say. I can't

566
00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:42,800
Speaker 1: say it, okay, I mean, in my opinion, it's not

567
00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:46,880
Speaker 1: that bad. There's a lot worse last name. I take it.

568
00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:49,080
Speaker 1: If you found a good guy take the last name

569
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:52,880
Speaker 1: and wear with pride. Girl. That is my advice. Robin

570
00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 1: seems to think, No, okay, here's the other thing we have. Um.

571
00:30:57,480 --> 00:30:59,600
Speaker 1: I just recently heard a story about someone who just

572
00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:02,160
Speaker 1: reas only got married and she's going through the process

573
00:31:02,200 --> 00:31:04,880
Speaker 1: of changing the last name. And it's been a nightmare,

574
00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:07,040
Speaker 1: just the process of trying to change the last name,

575
00:31:07,040 --> 00:31:11,280
Speaker 1: one identification, passport, all that, and so now she wanted

576
00:31:11,320 --> 00:31:13,560
Speaker 1: to just be like, I forget it, I don't even care,

577
00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:15,320
Speaker 1: I'm not going to change it. But now she's too

578
00:31:15,440 --> 00:31:17,560
Speaker 1: far in to back out, so she has to go

579
00:31:17,640 --> 00:31:21,480
Speaker 1: through with it. So not only is it like so

580
00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:24,400
Speaker 1: much work to do it, but if you really don't

581
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:29,320
Speaker 1: like it or feel embarrassed by it, it's like, this

582
00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:32,120
Speaker 1: is such a tough one. I have to say, are

583
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:38,440
Speaker 1: you legal? Because I know on your show, because yeah, yeah,

584
00:31:39,240 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 1: I would really have to think about this because oh gosh,

585
00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:45,840
Speaker 1: well my last name. What we're asking I was going

586
00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:48,360
Speaker 1: to ask, I know you're Robin Lively, but are you

587
00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:51,959
Speaker 1: legally yeah Johnson. But what I did was I kind

588
00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:54,360
Speaker 1: of moved my my last name to my middle name

589
00:31:54,440 --> 00:31:57,200
Speaker 1: because I'm still Lively. That's my main name and my

590
00:31:57,280 --> 00:32:02,120
Speaker 1: professional name. Yeah, so it just keeps it simple, simplifies everything.

591
00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:05,960
Speaker 1: But because I have kids and we're a family, I

592
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:08,760
Speaker 1: want us to be one unit, you know, So I

593
00:32:08,760 --> 00:32:10,440
Speaker 1: don't want them to be like, oh, you're Lively and

594
00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:15,240
Speaker 1: we'd Johnson. That's weird. So I get it. This is

595
00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:19,240
Speaker 1: really Oh this is a tough one. So on, but

596
00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:24,640
Speaker 1: on all your legal documents and your kids, you're it's Johnson,

597
00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:28,920
Speaker 1: but professionally it's Lively. But Lively is still on my

598
00:32:29,080 --> 00:32:32,720
Speaker 1: legal documents, so it is there is So I you know,

599
00:32:32,840 --> 00:32:36,280
Speaker 1: I didn't totally lose my name. My whole identity is

600
00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:39,360
Speaker 1: you know, growing up with Lively. So that is kind

601
00:32:39,400 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 1: of hard, you know. I understand that because this is

602
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 1: who you are. So I did kind of just slid

603
00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:46,920
Speaker 1: it into the middle name. That's what I'm doing, and

604
00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:48,959
Speaker 1: I too, because I love my last name. I love

605
00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:51,080
Speaker 1: it too. I think it's cute and I feel like

606
00:32:51,160 --> 00:32:54,440
Speaker 1: it can like stand on its own as a middle

607
00:32:54,560 --> 00:33:00,200
Speaker 1: name if or you know, maiden name. But I I

608
00:33:00,360 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 1: see the struggle. I see it too because I'm traditional

609
00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 1: and I'm the same way like I want to take

610
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:10,160
Speaker 1: my be so proud to take my husband. But this

611
00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:13,200
Speaker 1: is a tough last name. The one thing I kind

612
00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:14,800
Speaker 1: of like about this is that it doesn't sound like

613
00:33:14,960 --> 00:33:18,920
Speaker 1: he's pressing her either way. That would cause more problems.

614
00:33:19,000 --> 00:33:20,760
Speaker 1: That he's leaving it up to her, and because he

615
00:33:21,120 --> 00:33:25,520
Speaker 1: kind of understands his last name is somewhat problematic, but

616
00:33:25,640 --> 00:33:28,200
Speaker 1: he's probably been so insecure about his last name his

617
00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:31,280
Speaker 1: whole life, Like how amazing is that if she's like,

618
00:33:31,680 --> 00:33:34,120
Speaker 1: don't you know what, I love you so much, Like

619
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Speaker 1: I will take that last name and I will wrap

620
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:41,040
Speaker 1: it with pride and we will make a blank family

621
00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:44,520
Speaker 1: full of this last name, like he's that's probably going

622
00:33:44,600 --> 00:33:46,800
Speaker 1: to make him feel so good. He's never probably felt

623
00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:52,400
Speaker 1: that way ever about his last name. The thing that

624
00:33:52,480 --> 00:33:54,440
Speaker 1: I'm thinking of is like the kids, and then the

625
00:33:54,560 --> 00:33:56,000
Speaker 1: kids are going to have to grow up with the name.

626
00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:57,880
Speaker 1: And then what was it like for him growing up

627
00:33:57,920 --> 00:33:59,680
Speaker 1: with the name? Was? He said it was awful, That's

628
00:33:59,680 --> 00:34:02,080
Speaker 1: where I'm saying. And then then then the kids are

629
00:34:02,080 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 1: going to have to go through that. That's embarrassing, I know,

630
00:34:04,760 --> 00:34:06,400
Speaker 1: But then the kids don't have a weird last name,

631
00:34:06,400 --> 00:34:07,880
Speaker 1: and they're gonna have a weird ZiT on. There Fore

632
00:34:08,040 --> 00:34:09,440
Speaker 1: that they're going to get made fun of you know

633
00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:10,920
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like they're gonna get made fun of

634
00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:16,400
Speaker 1: for something. I don't know if I mean, what would you?

635
00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:19,680
Speaker 1: I mean, what's what's the solution here? Though? You know,

636
00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:22,279
Speaker 1: like he's not going to change his last name. Maybe

637
00:34:22,360 --> 00:34:25,360
Speaker 1: he takes hers. He would never do that, don't we

638
00:34:25,480 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 1: talking about? Like he would never do that. He would

639
00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:36,200
Speaker 1: he would never do that. But yeah, I don't know.

640
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:43,080
Speaker 1: Maybe she maybe she just uses like maybe I'm I'm

641
00:34:43,160 --> 00:34:45,640
Speaker 1: now I'm less concerned about her having the last name.

642
00:34:45,640 --> 00:34:47,560
Speaker 1: It's like the future kids, That's what That's what I

643
00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:49,880
Speaker 1: was thinking. That's what I'm saying. She could have her

644
00:34:49,920 --> 00:34:52,200
Speaker 1: maiden name and use that for professional you know, like

645
00:34:52,480 --> 00:34:55,000
Speaker 1: she could use her main name for professional reasons and

646
00:34:55,120 --> 00:34:58,520
Speaker 1: have that on legal stuff. But her kids, that's what

647
00:34:58,640 --> 00:35:05,160
Speaker 1: I'm saying, that's going to be their maiden name. I

648
00:35:05,200 --> 00:35:07,680
Speaker 1: don't know what the solution is here. This is this

649
00:35:07,840 --> 00:35:10,880
Speaker 1: is a sticky situation. I love what you're saying. It

650
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:13,399
Speaker 1: sounds great, Like I grew up with the last name

651
00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:15,880
Speaker 1: though my last name is Roddy say Beach. It's like

652
00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 1: a tongue twister, but is different. Yeah, and it was

653
00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:22,960
Speaker 1: still hard. Everybody would butcher at the first day school.

654
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:24,719
Speaker 1: I was always the one they would get the paper

655
00:35:24,760 --> 00:35:28,839
Speaker 1: and they go and they butcher it and everybody would laugh.

656
00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:30,960
Speaker 1: So it's like, I totally know what it's like to like,

657
00:35:31,200 --> 00:35:34,839
Speaker 1: you know, this is a little different. My wife's maiden

658
00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:37,400
Speaker 1: name is Drinker, and uh so you know it sounds

659
00:35:37,400 --> 00:35:39,840
Speaker 1: like Drinker and her actually her email was when she

660
00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:42,279
Speaker 1: was at UC Santa Cruz was a drinker at US

661
00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:45,200
Speaker 1: was the first name is Allison, and there wasn't enough

662
00:35:45,239 --> 00:35:48,160
Speaker 1: characters to have that extra T, so that was problem.

663
00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 1: So she was thrilled to get and get rid of

664
00:35:53,719 --> 00:35:56,000
Speaker 1: the last name. I think, you know, if I have

665
00:35:56,160 --> 00:35:59,680
Speaker 1: to render a verdict here, I say, I say, take

666
00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:03,520
Speaker 1: the name, take the name. Ohone it and when you

667
00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:06,279
Speaker 1: raise your children, kind of make it like you're gonna

668
00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:08,279
Speaker 1: you might have some problems with this name, but no,

669
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:11,560
Speaker 1: that that's not who you are. You're proud Schwarzenegger in

670
00:36:11,600 --> 00:36:16,280
Speaker 1: this case. Uh, but it's something kind of builds character.

671
00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:18,080
Speaker 1: I don't think there's a lot worse last names than

672
00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:20,840
Speaker 1: this one. Okay, you know what. Yeah, after hearing that,

673
00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:22,799
Speaker 1: I agree. I think it's like you raise your kids

674
00:36:22,840 --> 00:36:26,000
Speaker 1: saying like this is who you are, We're proud. We're

675
00:36:26,080 --> 00:36:33,480
Speaker 1: a strong family of these people. If anyone has a

676
00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:37,520
Speaker 1: problem with it, yeah, I mean, I really don't think

677
00:36:37,560 --> 00:36:39,640
Speaker 1: there's any way around this because it's going to create

678
00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:42,920
Speaker 1: a divide when you don't want your kids to have

679
00:36:43,040 --> 00:36:44,719
Speaker 1: a lot like a separate last name. I don't know

680
00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:47,359
Speaker 1: because she would be the only one without the name

681
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:49,399
Speaker 1: because the kids are going to have his last name

682
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:52,320
Speaker 1: because it's the way it is. What are they gonna do?

683
00:36:52,400 --> 00:36:55,080
Speaker 1: Take her last name? That's that's not gonna happen, right,

684
00:36:57,280 --> 00:37:02,360
Speaker 1: take it? Take it, Kelseie, that's the verdict. Take it? Yeah?

685
00:37:03,840 --> 00:37:07,640
Speaker 1: Oh can we do Aaron's email? Yes. Robin, by the way,

686
00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 1: is not a fan. I think, don't take the last name.

687
00:37:15,680 --> 00:37:17,520
Speaker 1: At least he's a great guy, because really that's all

688
00:37:17,600 --> 00:37:22,120
Speaker 1: that matters. And he's with whatever. He's not cool with it.

689
00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:24,319
Speaker 1: A Rose by any of her name, he's at least

690
00:37:24,640 --> 00:37:27,040
Speaker 1: acting like he would not be cool with it if

691
00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:30,400
Speaker 1: she did. So. This is Aaron who is in love

692
00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:33,319
Speaker 1: with their physical therapist. If you're looking for the heading there,

693
00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:37,840
Speaker 1: Uh so, she says Becca Tania Mark in Easton. I

694
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:40,120
Speaker 1: love your podcast, and especially love when you offer advice

695
00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:42,560
Speaker 1: to your listeners. I'm almost twenty nine years old, have

696
00:37:42,680 --> 00:37:44,400
Speaker 1: been single for two plus years, and I'm not a

697
00:37:44,520 --> 00:37:46,400
Speaker 1: huge fan of the guy. I'm not a huge fan

698
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:48,600
Speaker 1: of the whole dating app thing. In January, I met

699
00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 1: a cute guy who happens to be my physical therapist.

700
00:37:51,440 --> 00:37:53,120
Speaker 1: He treat me for a hip injury for a few

701
00:37:53,160 --> 00:37:55,040
Speaker 1: weeks until I found out that I needed surgery to

702
00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:57,440
Speaker 1: fix it. I sent him an email from my personal

703
00:37:57,520 --> 00:37:59,520
Speaker 1: email address, which includes my cell phone number in the

704
00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:02,600
Speaker 1: signature after we pause physical therapy, informing him that my

705
00:38:02,760 --> 00:38:06,480
Speaker 1: orthopedes or decided surgery would be the next step. I

706
00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:08,319
Speaker 1: was hoping he takes that opportunity to put my number

707
00:38:08,360 --> 00:38:10,120
Speaker 1: in his phone to reach out, but maybe he's just

708
00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:13,880
Speaker 1: really honoring patient doctor confidentiality, or maybe wishful thinking. So

709
00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:16,200
Speaker 1: now I'm two weeks outpost surgery and have resumed physical

710
00:38:16,239 --> 00:38:18,600
Speaker 1: therapy with him. I have five more weeks with him.

711
00:38:19,040 --> 00:38:20,960
Speaker 1: So my question is, how do I know if he's interested?

712
00:38:21,200 --> 00:38:23,279
Speaker 1: If he doesn't make a move, how do I want

713
00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:26,239
Speaker 1: physical therapy is officially done? Help please anxious to hear

714
00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:28,879
Speaker 1: what all of you would recommend, because I love hearing

715
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:32,120
Speaker 1: what Mark and Easton have to contribute, especially Easton thanks

716
00:38:32,239 --> 00:38:36,080
Speaker 1: ps Kanya. Data for a lifetime, t l am, I

717
00:38:36,080 --> 00:38:40,600
Speaker 1: don't know what it means data, love and mind. It's

718
00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:42,759
Speaker 1: like our thing put your star in the sky. Yeah.

719
00:38:45,880 --> 00:38:50,840
Speaker 1: I had a very like very college college experience, like sorority, bobcat,

720
00:38:50,920 --> 00:38:52,480
Speaker 1: the whole thing. Do you know what a bobcat is?

721
00:38:53,480 --> 00:38:55,239
Speaker 1: Not only people that went to my school know what

722
00:38:55,360 --> 00:38:59,880
Speaker 1: that is. It is a distinctly Yeah. I think it

723
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:02,279
Speaker 1: was like Tanya's club, like she had the John mayor

724
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:08,919
Speaker 1: I make my made up things. Thet um who wants

725
00:39:08,960 --> 00:39:11,439
Speaker 1: to take the lead on this one? This is tough

726
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:14,239
Speaker 1: because I mean, I don't know, are there are there

727
00:39:14,400 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 1: laws against this kind of thing? I'm sure? But do

728
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:23,440
Speaker 1: you remember my knee doctor? Oh Denny is he that's

729
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:27,160
Speaker 1: as the TV show? He's not about to do anything

730
00:39:27,200 --> 00:39:29,880
Speaker 1: while she's a patient. Well, definitely, I don't think, especially

731
00:39:29,920 --> 00:39:32,719
Speaker 1: working on the hip, Like he's not going to be

732
00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:35,279
Speaker 1: like stretching the hip. Remember the creepy guy that was,

733
00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 1: you know, creeping out on all the gymnasts. Yeah, definitely

734
00:39:39,680 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 1: he's not about to do he can't. Now is not

735
00:39:42,600 --> 00:39:44,680
Speaker 1: the time for him to make moves. So I don't

736
00:39:44,680 --> 00:39:47,960
Speaker 1: look for any signs right now. But I think when

737
00:39:48,120 --> 00:39:51,920
Speaker 1: the first stup that you should do aaron is um,

738
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:55,560
Speaker 1: figure out if he's seeing somebody. So I actually had

739
00:39:55,560 --> 00:39:59,239
Speaker 1: a knee doctor that I thought was super hot and

740
00:39:59,360 --> 00:40:01,040
Speaker 1: I've gone him twice and I was like how do

741
00:40:01,080 --> 00:40:02,680
Speaker 1: I kind of got a little bit of flirty vibes,

742
00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:04,239
Speaker 1: but I couldn't tell he didn't have a ring on.

743
00:40:04,760 --> 00:40:06,239
Speaker 1: But then I was like does he you know? And

744
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:09,520
Speaker 1: we've learned that some men don't wear rings. Yeah, Um,

745
00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:12,759
Speaker 1: so I shoot. Now I'm trying to remember how I

746
00:40:12,880 --> 00:40:14,759
Speaker 1: did it. But I figured out how to find out

747
00:40:14,800 --> 00:40:18,000
Speaker 1: if he had he had a girlfriend, But I can't

748
00:40:18,040 --> 00:40:20,839
Speaker 1: remember how I did it. It was something like, um,

749
00:40:22,040 --> 00:40:24,000
Speaker 1: he asked me a question. I said, oh, yeah, that's

750
00:40:24,040 --> 00:40:26,480
Speaker 1: a really great spot to bring your significant other. Are

751
00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:28,319
Speaker 1: you seeing someone? Or like do you know what I mean?

752
00:40:28,360 --> 00:40:31,319
Speaker 1: Like what was it? Do you remember this? I don't

753
00:40:31,320 --> 00:40:37,320
Speaker 1: remember this. Shoot, I love that cologne. No, no, no.

754
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:39,840
Speaker 1: But it was something like oh that's a really It

755
00:40:39,960 --> 00:40:41,640
Speaker 1: was something about like a place in l A. And

756
00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:43,080
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, that's a really good place to

757
00:40:43,120 --> 00:40:45,480
Speaker 1: go on a date, like you should bring your girlfriend.

758
00:40:45,520 --> 00:40:47,080
Speaker 1: Oh do you have a girlfriend? And he was like

759
00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:50,000
Speaker 1: I do? And then I found out he had a girlfriend,

760
00:40:50,040 --> 00:40:51,960
Speaker 1: so then I didn't take any further. But there might

761
00:40:52,040 --> 00:40:55,160
Speaker 1: be an easier way to go about that kind I

762
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:59,040
Speaker 1: feel like you could just be like, we just ask him. Yeah,

763
00:40:59,280 --> 00:41:02,239
Speaker 1: sometimes it's just ask, but I mean there may be

764
00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:04,440
Speaker 1: a way that you could just be like, oh, what

765
00:41:04,560 --> 00:41:06,880
Speaker 1: are you doing this? Do you have plans this weekend?

766
00:41:06,920 --> 00:41:09,279
Speaker 1: As he's working on your hip and you're just like,

767
00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:13,920
Speaker 1: he's working on here. You know what, at the end

768
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:16,080
Speaker 1: of the day, when you're done with your physical therapy,

769
00:41:16,719 --> 00:41:19,160
Speaker 1: you can leave a little note with the nurse and

770
00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:21,320
Speaker 1: say this is my number, give it to the doctor

771
00:41:21,680 --> 00:41:25,160
Speaker 1: and leave it to him. If he likes you, he'll

772
00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:28,080
Speaker 1: contact you. But you're saying there's nothing in the five

773
00:41:28,160 --> 00:41:31,279
Speaker 1: weeks that she can do, So I think what now

774
00:41:31,480 --> 00:41:37,960
Speaker 1: she es she can put out? I think like noncommittal

775
00:41:38,040 --> 00:41:42,279
Speaker 1: gentle vibes like oh, you're a really good therapist. I

776
00:41:42,320 --> 00:41:47,480
Speaker 1: don't know, your hands are so firm. It's it's just

777
00:41:47,560 --> 00:41:52,759
Speaker 1: going to make every every um subsequent appointment awkward. Yeah,

778
00:41:54,200 --> 00:41:56,879
Speaker 1: if you do it like right now, the next five

779
00:41:56,920 --> 00:41:59,839
Speaker 1: weeks could be really awkward. The thing I'm concerned about

780
00:41:59,840 --> 00:42:02,239
Speaker 1: for is after the five weeks, like, because you could

781
00:42:02,280 --> 00:42:03,879
Speaker 1: leave in it with the nurse. That's that's a good one.

782
00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:06,960
Speaker 1: But like if she's not comfortable including his coworkers in it,

783
00:42:07,480 --> 00:42:10,560
Speaker 1: Like do you look for him on Facebook? She has

784
00:42:10,600 --> 00:42:13,279
Speaker 1: her she has his email. Oh she could just see

785
00:42:13,280 --> 00:42:16,399
Speaker 1: in an email. Then that's that's what she should really

786
00:42:16,520 --> 00:42:19,840
Speaker 1: enjoyed getting to know you. I didn't know if you

787
00:42:19,960 --> 00:42:22,880
Speaker 1: were I felt she needs to find out somehow if

788
00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:26,040
Speaker 1: he's single. I'm just saying I don't know if you're

789
00:42:26,760 --> 00:42:29,480
Speaker 1: my first suggestion, but your story about it made it

790
00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:33,000
Speaker 1: seem like it wasn't as like natural like it was. Oh,

791
00:42:33,040 --> 00:42:36,680
Speaker 1: it's super easy. Okay, so let's just pretend there. Okay,

792
00:42:36,719 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 1: you be the physical therapist and I'm Aaron in a situation. Okay,

793
00:42:39,600 --> 00:42:46,720
Speaker 1: hey Aaron, how are you so great? Okay, hey Aaron,

794
00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:49,919
Speaker 1: great to see you again. How how's the hip? It's

795
00:42:50,000 --> 00:42:51,920
Speaker 1: so good. Can you do what you've been doing the

796
00:42:52,040 --> 00:42:55,680
Speaker 1: last couple of weeks? Yeah, I've never been a physical

797
00:42:55,680 --> 00:42:59,560
Speaker 1: therapy how this works? But yeah? Perfect? Would you do

798
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:05,239
Speaker 1: this week end? Dr? Hot? Uh? Doctor? Oh you know,

799
00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:09,719
Speaker 1: I went out with some friends and just had a

800
00:43:09,719 --> 00:43:13,680
Speaker 1: pretty low key weekend. Oh that's awesome. Yeah, a lot

801
00:43:13,719 --> 00:43:15,680
Speaker 1: of my friends actually because it was you know, St.

802
00:43:15,719 --> 00:43:18,000
Speaker 1: Patrick's Day. They were all out with their their boyfriends

803
00:43:18,040 --> 00:43:19,839
Speaker 1: this weekend. Did you did you go out with your

804
00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:26,120
Speaker 1: girlfriend this weekend or were you with the guys? I

805
00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:29,040
Speaker 1: don't even think you need to do that. That was good.

806
00:43:29,160 --> 00:43:31,879
Speaker 1: I think he'll he'll offer it up. I think you're

807
00:43:31,920 --> 00:43:34,120
Speaker 1: going to find out. But she's got five weeks. I

808
00:43:34,160 --> 00:43:36,640
Speaker 1: think just casual conversation she's going to find out. Yeah,

809
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:39,560
Speaker 1: and he I feel like even if he's not going

810
00:43:39,640 --> 00:43:43,480
Speaker 1: to make any like questionable moves because of his job,

811
00:43:43,640 --> 00:43:47,200
Speaker 1: she'll get a vibe you know, when someone's like kind

812
00:43:47,280 --> 00:43:52,120
Speaker 1: of at least flirty with you, Yes, flirty with me,

813
00:43:52,320 --> 00:43:54,520
Speaker 1: and then he had a girlfriend. But I'm saying if

814
00:43:54,680 --> 00:43:55,960
Speaker 1: if he gets to the point where you feel like

815
00:43:56,000 --> 00:43:58,000
Speaker 1: he's flirty, it kind of opens up to where you

816
00:43:58,080 --> 00:43:59,920
Speaker 1: can be like, oh are you saying? Like if he's

817
00:44:00,000 --> 00:44:03,960
Speaker 1: acting like he's single, allows that question. If he's like

818
00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:10,000
Speaker 1: very professional, doesn't even or yeah, sorry just hadhany or

819
00:44:10,480 --> 00:44:12,440
Speaker 1: you could say if he's asking you, like how your

820
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:15,520
Speaker 1: week was, you can be like, ah, Aaron, this is

821
00:44:15,560 --> 00:44:18,959
Speaker 1: you again, So I'm you. I just had the most

822
00:44:19,040 --> 00:44:23,160
Speaker 1: horrific Tinder date. I can't believe I'm on those dating apps?

823
00:44:23,320 --> 00:44:29,520
Speaker 1: Are you on any of those dating apps that that's

824
00:44:29,600 --> 00:44:34,239
Speaker 1: so like, No, I'm in a relationship. Or I'll be like, yeah,

825
00:44:35,239 --> 00:44:41,920
Speaker 1: so much better. That's the other one was not dating

826
00:44:41,960 --> 00:44:47,600
Speaker 1: app date and you're just need yeah consoling. Yea he

827
00:44:47,640 --> 00:44:49,960
Speaker 1: didn't know if anyone else is in the same boat

828
00:44:50,320 --> 00:44:54,400
Speaker 1: that we got there. That felt like we did that

829
00:44:54,600 --> 00:44:58,920
Speaker 1: with air. But Aaron, please keep us posting. Email us

830
00:44:58,960 --> 00:45:03,080
Speaker 1: back if it were five weeks. Yeah, um, okay, Eastern,

831
00:45:03,160 --> 00:45:05,279
Speaker 1: what's your next one? You know? I kind of like

832
00:45:05,400 --> 00:45:09,360
Speaker 1: this the three D minimum from from another Kelsey spelled differently,

833
00:45:10,200 --> 00:45:14,600
Speaker 1: but but at Kelsey nonetheless. Kelsey writes, Hi, Becca, Tanya,

834
00:45:14,680 --> 00:45:17,920
Speaker 1: Mark Easton, and Robin. First of all, and not that

835
00:45:18,000 --> 00:45:19,960
Speaker 1: you haven't heard this before, but I love the podcast

836
00:45:20,040 --> 00:45:21,839
Speaker 1: and I look forward to listening to you all every week.

837
00:45:21,880 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 1: I hope you guys can give me some advice or

838
00:45:23,840 --> 00:45:26,120
Speaker 1: thoughts on this topic. So recently I tried to get

839
00:45:26,120 --> 00:45:28,400
Speaker 1: back into the dating arena through dating apps. I was

840
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:30,520
Speaker 1: in and on again, off again relationship for the course

841
00:45:30,560 --> 00:45:32,600
Speaker 1: of four years. I've since moved on and want to

842
00:45:32,640 --> 00:45:35,520
Speaker 1: get myself back out there. Dating apps have been interesting

843
00:45:35,640 --> 00:45:37,759
Speaker 1: to say the least. I've gone on a handful of

844
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:39,440
Speaker 1: dates but have not felt they need to pursue a

845
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:41,920
Speaker 1: second date with anyone so far. My friends have told me,

846
00:45:41,960 --> 00:45:43,680
Speaker 1: they say it takes three dates to find out if

847
00:45:43,719 --> 00:45:45,680
Speaker 1: you're really interested in a person. I want to know

848
00:45:45,800 --> 00:45:47,440
Speaker 1: your thoughts on this. Where do you think it's true

849
00:45:47,520 --> 00:45:48,640
Speaker 1: or if I should be able to get a good

850
00:45:48,680 --> 00:45:50,680
Speaker 1: feel on the first date. Is there something wrong with me?

851
00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:52,000
Speaker 1: Or am I just near to this and I should

852
00:45:52,000 --> 00:45:53,480
Speaker 1: be giving these guys more of a chance to get

853
00:45:53,520 --> 00:45:58,960
Speaker 1: to know them much love? Mhm. I mean Robin took

854
00:45:59,000 --> 00:46:03,359
Speaker 1: a few years to know that she was interested. Um,

855
00:46:04,600 --> 00:46:10,800
Speaker 1: I don't I personally think you Listen, I kind of

856
00:46:10,880 --> 00:46:15,560
Speaker 1: feel like you know, yeah, on the first date, I mean,

857
00:46:15,640 --> 00:46:17,040
Speaker 1: I'm with you, I was gonna say the same thing.

858
00:46:17,200 --> 00:46:19,880
Speaker 1: I really do. You could give it a second date,

859
00:46:19,920 --> 00:46:22,359
Speaker 1: but I always kind of do on a first date

860
00:46:22,400 --> 00:46:25,320
Speaker 1: if it was if something was there, if it wasn't.

861
00:46:25,480 --> 00:46:29,279
Speaker 1: Don't you guys feel that way? I mean, I feel

862
00:46:29,280 --> 00:46:32,040
Speaker 1: like I'm so harsh and like right off about him,

863
00:46:32,080 --> 00:46:34,640
Speaker 1: like I write people off. I think that's the problem too.

864
00:46:34,680 --> 00:46:36,399
Speaker 1: And I say this to my brothers in law as well,

865
00:46:36,520 --> 00:46:39,560
Speaker 1: Like you're too quick to write women off, like you

866
00:46:39,680 --> 00:46:41,760
Speaker 1: need to give them a little bit because maybe you're nervous,

867
00:46:41,800 --> 00:46:44,520
Speaker 1: maybe they're nervous, maybe they're not completely comfortable. But it

868
00:46:44,640 --> 00:46:48,080
Speaker 1: always kind of felt like you know, don't you? Yeah,

869
00:46:48,520 --> 00:46:51,360
Speaker 1: I always felt that way. The thing with dating apps

870
00:46:51,440 --> 00:46:56,120
Speaker 1: now is there's a lot of preliminary events before you

871
00:46:56,239 --> 00:46:58,480
Speaker 1: meet them. Usually there's a lot of messaging and textings

872
00:46:58,520 --> 00:47:00,799
Speaker 1: and stuff. I feel like you've almost in on two dates,

873
00:47:01,200 --> 00:47:04,399
Speaker 1: so now more than ever, the first date's fine when

874
00:47:04,480 --> 00:47:08,239
Speaker 1: you meet someone just in general, you know, like I'm

875
00:47:08,520 --> 00:47:10,680
Speaker 1: I have chemistry with a person or I don't like

876
00:47:11,200 --> 00:47:12,759
Speaker 1: I mean, I even feel that way. It was just

877
00:47:12,960 --> 00:47:15,520
Speaker 1: friends and people in I either like click with him

878
00:47:15,600 --> 00:47:18,000
Speaker 1: or I don't like somebody. You know, a second date

879
00:47:18,040 --> 00:47:20,320
Speaker 1: isn't going to change. Yeah, somebody once told me that

880
00:47:20,400 --> 00:47:25,840
Speaker 1: you can go on six days or something like totally like,

881
00:47:26,440 --> 00:47:28,719
Speaker 1: I'm yeah, if I'm going on six dates of someone,

882
00:47:28,760 --> 00:47:32,640
Speaker 1: that's giving my husband, I'm married, our six days schedule

883
00:47:32,680 --> 00:47:35,440
Speaker 1: for this weekend. Yeah. I remember I went on a

884
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:37,719
Speaker 1: date with some guy and his grammar was so bad.

885
00:47:37,760 --> 00:47:42,359
Speaker 1: I'm like, you're done. I had things to a date

886
00:47:42,400 --> 00:47:43,960
Speaker 1: with a guy and his nails were so long. I

887
00:47:44,120 --> 00:47:49,880
Speaker 1: was like, no, yeah, but you know what I do

888
00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:55,920
Speaker 1: before every date, I have a glass of wine. Oh wow,

889
00:47:56,440 --> 00:48:01,640
Speaker 1: me to the edge off onto where any social outing

890
00:48:01,719 --> 00:48:03,680
Speaker 1: I do. I'm like, I think I didn't. I don't

891
00:48:03,719 --> 00:48:06,759
Speaker 1: even Like I'm not someone who drinks often and like

892
00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:09,759
Speaker 1: needs alcohol to calmda. Like, I'm not someone who goes

893
00:48:09,800 --> 00:48:12,839
Speaker 1: home after a long day. But before I'm going out

894
00:48:12,920 --> 00:48:15,440
Speaker 1: on a date or have an event, I'm gonna have

895
00:48:15,560 --> 00:48:19,719
Speaker 1: some wine. Just at I put I put some rose

896
00:48:20,080 --> 00:48:25,879
Speaker 1: in a McDonald's because I was getting in an uber

897
00:48:25,920 --> 00:48:30,800
Speaker 1: and I was like, I gotta he can't know. I

898
00:48:31,200 --> 00:48:34,800
Speaker 1: loved it. Um, But you know what the best place

899
00:48:35,000 --> 00:48:37,800
Speaker 1: to get your wine where? Yeah? I do know. Actually

900
00:48:38,200 --> 00:48:40,320
Speaker 1: it's a Wink with sea. Yeah. And do you know

901
00:48:40,360 --> 00:48:44,520
Speaker 1: why we love it so much Robin Pop quiz because

902
00:48:44,560 --> 00:48:48,960
Speaker 1: they deliver it straight to you. Yeah. We're all about

903
00:48:49,080 --> 00:48:52,000
Speaker 1: staying at home, not leaving the house here. Um, it's

904
00:48:52,320 --> 00:48:54,880
Speaker 1: part of the problem with our dating life. But also

905
00:48:55,520 --> 00:48:57,520
Speaker 1: you know, it gives us a lot of time of

906
00:48:57,719 --> 00:49:02,480
Speaker 1: um learning independence, um, while also being on the others,

907
00:49:03,200 --> 00:49:06,400
Speaker 1: depending on others to bring things to us. But I'm

908
00:49:06,440 --> 00:49:08,480
Speaker 1: like that person, like whenever I go to buy wine.

909
00:49:08,640 --> 00:49:12,600
Speaker 1: I'm not a Somalia. I'm not a Somalia, so I

910
00:49:12,640 --> 00:49:14,560
Speaker 1: don't really know much about wine. So I get there

911
00:49:14,560 --> 00:49:16,560
Speaker 1: and I'm like, there's so many options. I just never

912
00:49:16,640 --> 00:49:17,719
Speaker 1: know what to do. All you have to do with

913
00:49:17,800 --> 00:49:20,120
Speaker 1: Wink is they like they have a little test where

914
00:49:20,120 --> 00:49:22,040
Speaker 1: it kind of matches you up. They ask you questions

915
00:49:22,320 --> 00:49:24,359
Speaker 1: so they're like, no, your palette and then they send

916
00:49:24,400 --> 00:49:27,000
Speaker 1: you the wine based off of your palette. So if

917
00:49:27,040 --> 00:49:29,279
Speaker 1: you don't know exactly what you like, they'll do it

918
00:49:29,400 --> 00:49:31,080
Speaker 1: for you. Which I'm the same way. I go to

919
00:49:31,120 --> 00:49:33,200
Speaker 1: the store and I'm like, what price point am I

920
00:49:33,239 --> 00:49:37,439
Speaker 1: supposed to get? To be respectful? Um? Respectful in each

921
00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:43,440
Speaker 1: month to myself? Am I'm worth? I'm saying if I'm

922
00:49:43,480 --> 00:49:47,200
Speaker 1: like buying it to go or something like what am I?

923
00:49:47,280 --> 00:49:51,239
Speaker 1: Work and wine dollars UM so they match it to

924
00:49:51,280 --> 00:49:53,040
Speaker 1: your taste. They ship it right to your door and

925
00:49:53,120 --> 00:49:57,080
Speaker 1: it starts at just thirteen dollars a bottle. Um. They

926
00:49:57,520 --> 00:50:01,440
Speaker 1: have new delicious wines they have UM. The super popular

927
00:50:01,520 --> 00:50:03,440
Speaker 1: one is the Summer Water Rose. That's what we had

928
00:50:03,480 --> 00:50:06,880
Speaker 1: at Stage Coach last year. Are refrigerator was like stocked

929
00:50:06,920 --> 00:50:10,200
Speaker 1: with I want to try that it's delightful. Um. There's

930
00:50:10,239 --> 00:50:12,640
Speaker 1: no membership fees. You can skip it any you can

931
00:50:12,680 --> 00:50:14,640
Speaker 1: skip any month, and you can cancel it any time,

932
00:50:14,680 --> 00:50:17,440
Speaker 1: which is nice to know you're not trapped, but this

933
00:50:17,520 --> 00:50:19,440
Speaker 1: would be something you'd want to be trapped in. Or

934
00:50:19,440 --> 00:50:20,800
Speaker 1: if like you're going out of town and you just

935
00:50:20,840 --> 00:50:22,799
Speaker 1: want to pause it for a month, yeah, or if

936
00:50:22,840 --> 00:50:25,800
Speaker 1: you're doing a clanse or something. UM shipping is covered

937
00:50:25,840 --> 00:50:27,480
Speaker 1: and if you don't like a bottle that they send

938
00:50:27,520 --> 00:50:29,719
Speaker 1: to you, they'll replace it with something you love, which

939
00:50:29,840 --> 00:50:32,200
Speaker 1: is awesome, but it is it's like a little wine

940
00:50:32,280 --> 00:50:34,160
Speaker 1: club that you get to be a part of when

941
00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:36,759
Speaker 1: you join week UM. They do all the work, They

942
00:50:36,880 --> 00:50:40,200
Speaker 1: match the wines based on your taste. All you have

943
00:50:40,320 --> 00:50:43,520
Speaker 1: to do is go to triwink dot com slash Becca.

944
00:50:43,680 --> 00:50:46,680
Speaker 1: You'll get twenty dollars off your first shipment. I don't

945
00:50:46,680 --> 00:50:48,560
Speaker 1: know if you'll heard me. That's twenty dollars off your

946
00:50:48,600 --> 00:50:52,239
Speaker 1: first shipment. That's t R y w I n C

947
00:50:52,640 --> 00:50:55,880
Speaker 1: dot com slash Becca b E C C A for

948
00:50:56,040 --> 00:50:59,759
Speaker 1: twenty dollars off one more time. Try wink dot com

949
00:51:00,040 --> 00:51:10,440
Speaker 1: slash back. I was trying. I don't try wink dot

950
00:51:10,520 --> 00:51:17,160
Speaker 1: com slash Wow, pretty good, pretty good. True. So basically

951
00:51:17,200 --> 00:51:19,680
Speaker 1: what we told what we told Kelsey is you know,

952
00:51:19,800 --> 00:51:23,120
Speaker 1: on the first date and get a wink membership. Yeah.

953
00:51:23,960 --> 00:51:26,560
Speaker 1: But also I think you have to know yourself to

954
00:51:26,640 --> 00:51:29,120
Speaker 1: know if that's like, if you know, if you're able

955
00:51:29,200 --> 00:51:32,040
Speaker 1: to get it, judge, if you're what am I trying

956
00:51:32,040 --> 00:51:34,719
Speaker 1: to say a character? Yeah, and if it's like a

957
00:51:34,760 --> 00:51:36,359
Speaker 1: big deal breaker, and then you know what I mean,

958
00:51:36,440 --> 00:51:38,479
Speaker 1: like if you're kind of wishy washing on someone, maybe

959
00:51:38,520 --> 00:51:40,960
Speaker 1: give it a second date. But I know, we had

960
00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:43,399
Speaker 1: a dating coach call in on our podcast and she said,

961
00:51:43,440 --> 00:51:46,040
Speaker 1: at least like you should at least give someone two days.

962
00:51:47,600 --> 00:51:50,600
Speaker 1: I mean, you probably should, I know, but it's hard

963
00:51:50,680 --> 00:51:52,359
Speaker 1: enough to get. But there are some that I think

964
00:51:52,719 --> 00:51:54,640
Speaker 1: when you know you know, yeah, yeah, I mean I

965
00:51:54,680 --> 00:51:57,080
Speaker 1: think there's some that are within the first five minutes,

966
00:51:57,400 --> 00:51:59,960
Speaker 1: Like how do I get out of this? Yeah, You're

967
00:52:00,040 --> 00:52:04,520
Speaker 1: nail is a really good Yeah, it's called Kiss the Bride.

968
00:52:04,840 --> 00:52:09,719
Speaker 1: Really pretty Thank you, Becca, Thank you. I got some

969
00:52:09,880 --> 00:52:13,719
Speaker 1: little jazz to mine. Oh wow, letter on the nails. Yeah,

970
00:52:13,800 --> 00:52:18,399
Speaker 1: shout out to nail Swag for that. Um, anyways, three

971
00:52:18,480 --> 00:52:20,840
Speaker 1: date minimum, we already did that. Kelsey hoped that was

972
00:52:20,880 --> 00:52:24,040
Speaker 1: helpful for you. So what do we say? You should

973
00:52:24,120 --> 00:52:27,000
Speaker 1: maybe give him a second day. Don't feel bad about

974
00:52:27,040 --> 00:52:31,520
Speaker 1: cutting him off after the first day if you don't,

975
00:52:31,560 --> 00:52:35,160
Speaker 1: My sister, there's no minimum, so just follow your heart.

976
00:52:35,280 --> 00:52:38,120
Speaker 1: This next one I really like. This is a from

977
00:52:38,440 --> 00:52:42,839
Speaker 1: Anonymous who works at a hospital. We love her already. Yes,

978
00:52:44,160 --> 00:52:46,160
Speaker 1: at work, I work at a hospital. Go figure. I

979
00:52:46,239 --> 00:52:48,120
Speaker 1: meet people all the time. But this one guy I

980
00:52:48,280 --> 00:52:50,920
Speaker 1: just recently met suddenly stat to me and I'm pretty

981
00:52:50,920 --> 00:52:52,640
Speaker 1: content in life where I'm not really looking for a

982
00:52:52,680 --> 00:52:55,040
Speaker 1: relationship nor need one. Who wouldn't mind if it happened,

983
00:52:55,080 --> 00:52:57,359
Speaker 1: you know. Well, I keep running into him, which I'm

984
00:52:57,400 --> 00:52:59,000
Speaker 1: not sure that even means, or if I should take

985
00:52:59,040 --> 00:53:01,360
Speaker 1: it as a sign or whatever. But anyways, he's super cute,

986
00:53:01,400 --> 00:53:03,000
Speaker 1: and I come to find out through some friends that

987
00:53:03,040 --> 00:53:06,520
Speaker 1: work at the hospital he's actually thirty five. He looks

988
00:53:06,600 --> 00:53:09,440
Speaker 1: nowhere near that age. Well it obviously it obviously took

989
00:53:09,440 --> 00:53:11,520
Speaker 1: me by surprise, and for the record, I'm only twenty three.

990
00:53:11,960 --> 00:53:14,160
Speaker 1: We've sparked up great conversations at times we've run into

991
00:53:14,200 --> 00:53:16,239
Speaker 1: each other, and all before I came to even find

992
00:53:16,280 --> 00:53:18,040
Speaker 1: out how old he was, and he just seems like

993
00:53:18,040 --> 00:53:20,080
Speaker 1: a great guy in general. He intrigues me so much.

994
00:53:20,200 --> 00:53:21,920
Speaker 1: But I should be thinking about this because of the

995
00:53:21,960 --> 00:53:24,160
Speaker 1: age difference. I've asked some of my friends about it.

996
00:53:24,160 --> 00:53:25,839
Speaker 1: They all seem to be fifty fifty on the whole

997
00:53:25,880 --> 00:53:28,200
Speaker 1: age thing. I'm not sure whether I should be freaked

998
00:53:28,200 --> 00:53:30,480
Speaker 1: out or not. But I mean, people are always dating

999
00:53:30,520 --> 00:53:32,239
Speaker 1: people that are nowhere near their age. I don't know

1000
00:53:32,239 --> 00:53:34,560
Speaker 1: if I'm thinking too much into it mainly thing come

1001
00:53:34,600 --> 00:53:35,680
Speaker 1: of it, but I just want to get you all

1002
00:53:35,760 --> 00:53:38,920
Speaker 1: perspective help. So I don't know where you get to

1003
00:53:38,920 --> 00:53:41,520
Speaker 1: stand on this. I uh. I mean the thing is

1004
00:53:41,640 --> 00:53:44,480
Speaker 1: is that may not look that's a preconservable age difference.

1005
00:53:44,719 --> 00:53:50,400
Speaker 1: I think twenty three to thirty years ah, And I

1006
00:53:50,520 --> 00:53:52,879
Speaker 1: think when you're that part of your life, you're going

1007
00:53:52,960 --> 00:53:56,840
Speaker 1: through a lot of changes and you know, just an

1008
00:53:56,880 --> 00:53:58,480
Speaker 1: old aspects of your life. I don't know how well

1009
00:53:58,480 --> 00:54:02,120
Speaker 1: you're gonna be able to relate to each. So I'm

1010
00:54:02,120 --> 00:54:03,640
Speaker 1: not saying run away from it. I'm just saying that,

1011
00:54:03,719 --> 00:54:06,840
Speaker 1: like it's it's probably going to be an issue. Yeah,

1012
00:54:06,880 --> 00:54:08,759
Speaker 1: if it's not right off the bat, maybe down the

1013
00:54:08,840 --> 00:54:10,640
Speaker 1: road there might. I mean, I've always been a person

1014
00:54:10,640 --> 00:54:13,000
Speaker 1: who says age is just a number, Like I've never

1015
00:54:13,160 --> 00:54:15,680
Speaker 1: been like I've always been attracted to older men because

1016
00:54:15,920 --> 00:54:18,520
Speaker 1: I'm like a little bit of a grandma, like better early,

1017
00:54:18,640 --> 00:54:22,640
Speaker 1: and I just it depends on So I've always been

1018
00:54:22,640 --> 00:54:24,799
Speaker 1: like a fan of dating older. But I will say

1019
00:54:24,960 --> 00:54:27,920
Speaker 1: I think I was twenty six and I went out

1020
00:54:27,960 --> 00:54:32,000
Speaker 1: with like a forty three year old and he looked

1021
00:54:32,040 --> 00:54:35,239
Speaker 1: really good, Like he looked super hot. Yeah, it was

1022
00:54:35,280 --> 00:54:38,520
Speaker 1: a big age and it was everything was we totally

1023
00:54:38,560 --> 00:54:41,080
Speaker 1: were clicking, like vibing. The only thing is, like he

1024
00:54:41,200 --> 00:54:44,080
Speaker 1: kept saying, I lived in Asia for eight years. I

1025
00:54:44,160 --> 00:54:46,520
Speaker 1: did this for ten years. I did, and I kind

1026
00:54:46,560 --> 00:54:48,960
Speaker 1: of was like fresh out of you know, I've been

1027
00:54:49,000 --> 00:54:51,520
Speaker 1: out of college for three or four years, you know.

1028
00:54:52,040 --> 00:54:54,160
Speaker 1: And that's where I think, like you start to run

1029
00:54:54,200 --> 00:54:56,600
Speaker 1: into the like you've had so much more life experience

1030
00:54:56,640 --> 00:54:58,439
Speaker 1: than me. And not that he ever made me feel

1031
00:54:58,520 --> 00:55:01,680
Speaker 1: like I was like dumb or you know what I mean,

1032
00:55:01,680 --> 00:55:03,560
Speaker 1: Like you never made me feel inferior because of it,

1033
00:55:03,640 --> 00:55:05,560
Speaker 1: But I was always just kind of like we're not

1034
00:55:05,800 --> 00:55:08,400
Speaker 1: really lined up in our lives. So I think, like,

1035
00:55:08,680 --> 00:55:10,560
Speaker 1: you know, age is an age is just number, and

1036
00:55:10,600 --> 00:55:12,239
Speaker 1: I think you can click with people that are older.

1037
00:55:12,280 --> 00:55:13,600
Speaker 1: But I think when it really gets down to it

1038
00:55:13,600 --> 00:55:15,719
Speaker 1: and you get into a relationship, there's going to be

1039
00:55:15,960 --> 00:55:21,400
Speaker 1: that kind of not mesh. Well yeah, I mean he

1040
00:55:21,719 --> 00:55:25,600
Speaker 1: it kind of depends on her and who she like,

1041
00:55:25,719 --> 00:55:27,520
Speaker 1: what are her hobbies, what is she like doing? Like

1042
00:55:27,600 --> 00:55:31,160
Speaker 1: what is she interested in right now? Because is really

1043
00:55:31,239 --> 00:55:32,960
Speaker 1: young and I know, I mean I know people who

1044
00:55:33,040 --> 00:55:37,760
Speaker 1: got married younger than twenty three, and um, we're ready

1045
00:55:37,800 --> 00:55:40,280
Speaker 1: for it. However, I think there's a lot that happened

1046
00:55:40,320 --> 00:55:43,200
Speaker 1: to me from twenty three to nine where I am

1047
00:55:43,239 --> 00:55:46,640
Speaker 1: now that at three I was like, oh, I'm I

1048
00:55:46,719 --> 00:55:50,040
Speaker 1: could be ready to settle down and you know, I

1049
00:55:50,120 --> 00:55:52,880
Speaker 1: have kids and everything. But in my life now, I'm like,

1050
00:55:53,920 --> 00:55:58,920
Speaker 1: I can't imagine having done that. And but I also

1051
00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:01,200
Speaker 1: feel like maybe he he's in a place where he's

1052
00:56:02,239 --> 00:56:05,160
Speaker 1: maybe he's a young thirty five and hasn't hasn't done

1053
00:56:05,160 --> 00:56:07,520
Speaker 1: a lot as far as experience, and they don't have

1054
00:56:07,680 --> 00:56:09,880
Speaker 1: that much of a disconnect in that area, right right,

1055
00:56:09,960 --> 00:56:13,400
Speaker 1: I mean he, I know, without knowing either of them,

1056
00:56:14,000 --> 00:56:17,200
Speaker 1: hard to even say, she's just have to feel it

1057
00:56:17,280 --> 00:56:19,719
Speaker 1: out for real, because if he is, if he isn't

1058
00:56:20,040 --> 00:56:22,040
Speaker 1: you see a doctor at the hospital, I mean, aren't

1059
00:56:22,080 --> 00:56:24,600
Speaker 1: you like in what's it called residency until you're like

1060
00:56:24,840 --> 00:56:27,040
Speaker 1: thirty two or something, So he might just be like

1061
00:56:27,640 --> 00:56:33,480
Speaker 1: that's all he's ever done. Yeah, yeah, I mean she

1062
00:56:33,600 --> 00:56:36,359
Speaker 1: should if she likes him, I say, get to know him.

1063
00:56:37,080 --> 00:56:40,520
Speaker 1: Don't don't write it off immediately, write off immediately, be prepared.

1064
00:56:41,080 --> 00:56:43,520
Speaker 1: I mean, it doesn't sound like she's someone who's like

1065
00:56:43,760 --> 00:56:45,919
Speaker 1: desperate for a relationship. E there. It sounds like she's

1066
00:56:46,000 --> 00:56:48,160
Speaker 1: kind of like, oh, is something if someone interests me,

1067
00:56:48,600 --> 00:56:52,680
Speaker 1: then I'll I'll consider it. And so the fact that

1068
00:56:52,760 --> 00:56:55,640
Speaker 1: this guy intrigues her enough and has held her attention

1069
00:56:55,719 --> 00:56:58,399
Speaker 1: at this point, it's like, I don't think that comes

1070
00:56:58,440 --> 00:57:00,520
Speaker 1: at least for me. And if she's seems like she's

1071
00:57:00,520 --> 00:57:02,640
Speaker 1: a little bit more like me, Like, I don't think

1072
00:57:02,680 --> 00:57:05,000
Speaker 1: that comes around so often where you're like that intrigued

1073
00:57:05,040 --> 00:57:06,840
Speaker 1: with someone to just write it off because of an

1074
00:57:06,880 --> 00:57:10,880
Speaker 1: age gap. Yeah, well, I hope there was some help. Anonymous.

1075
00:57:11,800 --> 00:57:14,800
Speaker 1: Go for it, Go for it, go for it. This

1076
00:57:15,200 --> 00:57:17,480
Speaker 1: this one, I think you guys really dig that should

1077
00:57:17,480 --> 00:57:19,240
Speaker 1: be at the bottom of your stack. It's from L

1078
00:57:19,960 --> 00:57:27,200
Speaker 1: and she was an extra on Gray's Anatomy. So L says,

1079
00:57:27,680 --> 00:57:29,520
Speaker 1: after the last episode, I thought I'd reach out and

1080
00:57:29,560 --> 00:57:32,120
Speaker 1: give some insight into being an extra on Gray's Anatomy

1081
00:57:32,480 --> 00:57:34,240
Speaker 1: a few years ago. I had the pleasure of being

1082
00:57:34,280 --> 00:57:36,680
Speaker 1: in a couple of scenes, yes, including one with our

1083
00:57:36,720 --> 00:57:40,360
Speaker 1: Delie beloved Derek Shephard and Meredith Gray. That's for your

1084
00:57:40,440 --> 00:57:42,200
Speaker 1: question of how the surgeries go on the table, It's

1085
00:57:42,200 --> 00:57:44,840
Speaker 1: actually a plastic mannequin. It doesn't even have a head,

1086
00:57:44,840 --> 00:57:46,600
Speaker 1: and the insides are covered in fake blood that are

1087
00:57:46,600 --> 00:57:49,560
Speaker 1: squirted on by makeup artists in between each take. Crazy right,

1088
00:57:49,800 --> 00:57:51,800
Speaker 1: It really is a testament to how incredible the actor

1089
00:57:51,880 --> 00:57:53,600
Speaker 1: is on the show. Are to get so emotional and

1090
00:57:53,760 --> 00:57:58,440
Speaker 1: raw lots of love, l I know, I wonder what

1091
00:57:58,560 --> 00:58:01,200
Speaker 1: episode she was in. I will feel free to reach

1092
00:58:01,280 --> 00:58:03,360
Speaker 1: back in with the exact episode in time stamp that

1093
00:58:03,400 --> 00:58:06,320
Speaker 1: you're like to review it. Have you ever watched Crazy Anatomy?

1094
00:58:06,440 --> 00:58:08,840
Speaker 1: It's been so long. I did, and then I just

1095
00:58:08,960 --> 00:58:11,520
Speaker 1: kind of I mean, but yeah, when did you stop?

1096
00:58:11,600 --> 00:58:14,919
Speaker 1: Like season seven? Don't remember, but I loved it. Yeah

1097
00:58:15,440 --> 00:58:17,720
Speaker 1: it did, and then life got so busy and then

1098
00:58:17,760 --> 00:58:22,960
Speaker 1: I just fell off. But it was so good, I

1099
00:58:23,040 --> 00:58:27,040
Speaker 1: mean the beginning season. Yeah, it got kind of bad

1100
00:58:27,160 --> 00:58:30,760
Speaker 1: for a little bit, maybe perfect. That's where probably where

1101
00:58:30,760 --> 00:58:32,720
Speaker 1: you fell off. A lot of people fell off. You

1102
00:58:32,800 --> 00:58:35,720
Speaker 1: like staying strong. But it's in a place now where

1103
00:58:35,720 --> 00:58:39,240
Speaker 1: I'm a little bit angry. But really I didn't even

1104
00:58:39,280 --> 00:58:44,440
Speaker 1: watch the one from this week yet. Wow. Um, okay,

1105
00:58:44,720 --> 00:58:48,600
Speaker 1: let's do another email. Uh, let's see how I like

1106
00:58:48,920 --> 00:58:54,480
Speaker 1: this one from Cassandra U on your stomach issues, telling

1107
00:58:54,520 --> 00:58:59,480
Speaker 1: your stomach issues GI issues. Oh do you? Yeah? So,

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00:59:00,040 --> 00:59:03,439
Speaker 1: Cassandra writes in saying can I just start by saying

1109
00:59:03,440 --> 00:59:05,440
Speaker 1: I love you all? Back An Tania. You two are

1110
00:59:05,440 --> 00:59:07,680
Speaker 1: amazing role models for women, and I love the friendship

1111
00:59:07,720 --> 00:59:10,160
Speaker 1: you two share. Mark and Eastern You two are so awesome.

1112
00:59:10,200 --> 00:59:13,439
Speaker 1: I could listen to you talk both all day. I'm

1113
00:59:13,480 --> 00:59:15,520
Speaker 1: happy that Becca posted a picture in the Facebook group

1114
00:59:15,560 --> 00:59:17,720
Speaker 1: so I could put a face to everyone's name. My

1115
00:59:17,880 --> 00:59:20,400
Speaker 1: question is for Tanya. I know you have stomach issues

1116
00:59:20,440 --> 00:59:22,680
Speaker 1: like I do. I get anxiety about going out for

1117
00:59:22,760 --> 00:59:25,360
Speaker 1: dinner at restaurants or friends houses because of how unpredictable

1118
00:59:25,560 --> 00:59:27,800
Speaker 1: I'm predictable my stomach is. Do you ever feel this

1119
00:59:27,880 --> 00:59:29,800
Speaker 1: way too? How do I get over it? Thanks? Guys,

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00:59:29,880 --> 00:59:32,600
Speaker 1: love you so much. Cassandra from Canada. I love this

1121
00:59:32,680 --> 00:59:38,160
Speaker 1: email so much because it's a daily battle. Because sometimes

1122
00:59:38,520 --> 00:59:41,560
Speaker 1: cheese can have no effect on me, and in other days,

1123
00:59:42,120 --> 00:59:45,120
Speaker 1: most days it can really steer me the wrong direction.

1124
00:59:45,400 --> 00:59:47,840
Speaker 1: And I feel like I'm always constantly like dealing with

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00:59:49,000 --> 00:59:54,000
Speaker 1: my issues. So, um, well she's anxiety. When she was

1126
00:59:54,080 --> 00:59:57,360
Speaker 1: like yeah, so I say, Cassandra, um, figure out what

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00:59:57,480 --> 01:00:00,320
Speaker 1: your triggers are with your stomach. I feel like you

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01:00:00,400 --> 01:00:02,080
Speaker 1: have to really be aware of like what you're eating

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01:00:02,080 --> 01:00:04,640
Speaker 1: and how you feel after you eat it. Um. I

1130
01:00:04,760 --> 01:00:09,600
Speaker 1: always have gas X with me. It's another tip. And um,

1131
01:00:10,520 --> 01:00:12,360
Speaker 1: I say, like, I have a really bad anxiety when

1132
01:00:12,360 --> 01:00:14,040
Speaker 1: I go on dates because a lot of guys will

1133
01:00:14,120 --> 01:00:16,320
Speaker 1: just like order for the table and You're like, I

1134
01:00:16,440 --> 01:00:18,760
Speaker 1: can't have that that has like so much dairy in

1135
01:00:18,840 --> 01:00:21,320
Speaker 1: And I was just like and then they think you

1136
01:00:21,600 --> 01:00:24,680
Speaker 1: you don't eat yeah, and it's not bad. Yeah, it's

1137
01:00:24,760 --> 01:00:29,760
Speaker 1: like a whole thing. Um. So I say, um, if

1138
01:00:29,840 --> 01:00:31,640
Speaker 1: you have anxiety, like when you're going out to eat

1139
01:00:31,680 --> 01:00:35,240
Speaker 1: with somebody, always order like something very um that you

1140
01:00:35,280 --> 01:00:38,080
Speaker 1: know it's going to be good with your stomach. Always

1141
01:00:38,160 --> 01:00:42,080
Speaker 1: order that, have a bite of whatever he orders, and

1142
01:00:42,480 --> 01:00:44,720
Speaker 1: just you just have to know your triggers and stay

1143
01:00:44,960 --> 01:00:47,240
Speaker 1: far away from them. That's how I love my life.

1144
01:00:47,240 --> 01:00:49,560
Speaker 1: I got to build that stomach of steel with McDonald's

1145
01:00:51,240 --> 01:00:55,120
Speaker 1: like fast food, I mean, can really get me. Yeah,

1146
01:00:55,160 --> 01:00:56,640
Speaker 1: I mean I would assume if you don't eat it

1147
01:00:56,720 --> 01:00:59,240
Speaker 1: on a semiregular basis. But she needs she just needs

1148
01:00:59,320 --> 01:01:01,520
Speaker 1: to start a McDonald's every day. Yeah, you just got

1149
01:01:01,640 --> 01:01:06,560
Speaker 1: build your build, that's right. Yeah, Cassandra, take whoever's advice

1150
01:01:06,640 --> 01:01:08,840
Speaker 1: you want here. No, I do. I know. I have

1151
01:01:08,880 --> 01:01:10,520
Speaker 1: a lot of friends and they've had to figure out,

1152
01:01:10,600 --> 01:01:14,040
Speaker 1: like what what makes it bad? And actually like cut

1153
01:01:14,120 --> 01:01:17,560
Speaker 1: it out. Do it like the most random things too,

1154
01:01:17,600 --> 01:01:19,080
Speaker 1: Like one of my friends gets like a really bad

1155
01:01:19,120 --> 01:01:25,520
Speaker 1: reaction sheets Bell Peppers, minds, dairy, dairy. Just I feel

1156
01:01:25,560 --> 01:01:29,000
Speaker 1: like dairy is pretty common. Sends me. Do you guys

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01:01:29,200 --> 01:01:32,120
Speaker 1: order for you a lot, like out to dinner, That's

1158
01:01:32,160 --> 01:01:35,720
Speaker 1: the thing. Yeah, I've never done. I've never done been.

1159
01:01:35,960 --> 01:01:38,640
Speaker 1: I've never you never had someone say the lady will

1160
01:01:38,640 --> 01:01:44,760
Speaker 1: have the Linquini and White Clan sauce, and I d

1161
01:01:46,720 --> 01:01:48,600
Speaker 1: I'd walk I think I'd get up and walk out.

1162
01:01:48,840 --> 01:01:50,680
Speaker 1: I have ordered for male friends of mine, just like

1163
01:01:50,840 --> 01:01:52,200
Speaker 1: when we go around the table, Hey, what do you

1164
01:01:52,240 --> 01:01:53,800
Speaker 1: think about getting Like I think I'm gonna have the

1165
01:01:53,840 --> 01:01:56,240
Speaker 1: stake Madera like cool, and then I'll order mine before

1166
01:01:56,240 --> 01:01:57,680
Speaker 1: you can say something like and the gentleman will have

1167
01:01:57,720 --> 01:02:00,480
Speaker 1: to stake mederia please. It's a fun parlor trick. I

1168
01:02:00,560 --> 01:02:02,200
Speaker 1: feel like if I'm on a date with a guy

1169
01:02:02,240 --> 01:02:04,240
Speaker 1: and he's been to the restaurant before and he's like, um,

1170
01:02:04,320 --> 01:02:06,080
Speaker 1: do you want me to just order some things I've had?

1171
01:02:06,160 --> 01:02:09,880
Speaker 1: And I'm like it's cool. But if he's like, I'll

1172
01:02:09,960 --> 01:02:13,400
Speaker 1: handle this, no, I never had any of a chance then,

1173
01:02:13,720 --> 01:02:15,440
Speaker 1: because I'm kind of picky. I know what I like.

1174
01:02:16,960 --> 01:02:20,680
Speaker 1: But um, yeah, I could see where if you had

1175
01:02:20,720 --> 01:02:23,880
Speaker 1: stomach problems that would definitely give me anxiety totally. He's like,

1176
01:02:24,040 --> 01:02:26,280
Speaker 1: you have the clan. If Sdy ordered me linguini with

1177
01:02:26,320 --> 01:02:34,960
Speaker 1: clam sauce, I'd be like, oh, mac and cheese and pizza.

1178
01:02:36,160 --> 01:02:39,200
Speaker 1: That's delight and delightful. Yeah. So I think you got

1179
01:02:39,240 --> 01:02:41,280
Speaker 1: some good advice there, Cassandra. I hope you were taking notes.

1180
01:02:41,600 --> 01:02:48,680
Speaker 1: Yeahs X is your friend? Is your friend? Get the kidding.

1181
01:02:49,800 --> 01:02:51,920
Speaker 1: I won't initiate anything. I was looking at that one too.

1182
01:02:52,000 --> 01:02:54,240
Speaker 1: I like this. This is from Becky and Rachel. They

1183
01:02:54,240 --> 01:02:57,320
Speaker 1: were sitting side by side, each typing with one hand. Dear,

1184
01:02:57,440 --> 01:03:00,360
Speaker 1: Becca Antonia, My best friend Reachel and I love listening

1185
01:03:00,400 --> 01:03:03,080
Speaker 1: to your podcast. We're always discussing the weekly content and

1186
01:03:03,080 --> 01:03:05,560
Speaker 1: love getting your dating advice. We have a situation that

1187
01:03:05,640 --> 01:03:07,560
Speaker 1: we have been going back and forth on quite frequently

1188
01:03:07,640 --> 01:03:09,800
Speaker 1: for the last few months. Rachel has a crush on

1189
01:03:09,840 --> 01:03:11,560
Speaker 1: this guy who is a friend of a friend. We've

1190
01:03:11,600 --> 01:03:13,400
Speaker 1: been seeing him on occasion in group settings for the

1191
01:03:13,400 --> 01:03:14,960
Speaker 1: past nine months and they seem to have a lot

1192
01:03:15,000 --> 01:03:16,920
Speaker 1: of chemistry. They seems to give off the vibe that

1193
01:03:16,920 --> 01:03:19,680
Speaker 1: he could be interested. He's great in person, but then

1194
01:03:19,720 --> 01:03:22,160
Speaker 1: never reaches out or makes an effort. Rachel seems to

1195
01:03:22,200 --> 01:03:25,320
Speaker 1: be the one always initiating things. Recently, Rachel reached out

1196
01:03:25,360 --> 01:03:26,920
Speaker 1: and set up plans for just the two of them.

1197
01:03:27,000 --> 01:03:29,160
Speaker 1: She felt in the connection, but nothing romantic came of it.

1198
01:03:29,600 --> 01:03:31,000
Speaker 1: Now keep in mind this guy is known to be

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01:03:31,080 --> 01:03:33,880
Speaker 1: bad at making plans in with communication. We couldn't help

1200
01:03:33,880 --> 01:03:36,200
Speaker 1: but think what would beck in Tanya do? Should Rachel

1201
01:03:36,240 --> 01:03:37,600
Speaker 1: just tell him how she feels? Or is this a

1202
01:03:37,640 --> 01:03:42,560
Speaker 1: classic He's just not that into you? Thanks to advance, Tanny,

1203
01:03:42,640 --> 01:03:45,600
Speaker 1: I think you need we need to discuss what you

1204
01:03:45,720 --> 01:03:48,880
Speaker 1: don't get. You know what you don't get that we

1205
01:03:48,920 --> 01:03:51,160
Speaker 1: talked about on the other party. Yeah, why guys want

1206
01:03:51,160 --> 01:03:56,240
Speaker 1: to be friends? So annoying? I don't want to Why

1207
01:03:56,280 --> 01:03:58,480
Speaker 1: do you guys want to be friends? I want to

1208
01:03:58,560 --> 01:04:00,160
Speaker 1: date you. I don't want to be your friend. You

1209
01:04:00,160 --> 01:04:01,520
Speaker 1: don't want to date me. I don't want to be

1210
01:04:01,600 --> 01:04:05,480
Speaker 1: your friend, right right? Exactly? You got enough friends? But

1211
01:04:05,600 --> 01:04:08,680
Speaker 1: do you have guy friends? Like? Did you? I'm sorry,

1212
01:04:09,160 --> 01:04:10,840
Speaker 1: I mean, especially before you were married, did you have

1213
01:04:10,920 --> 01:04:27,280
Speaker 1: guy friends? I mean not like no, yeah, ish not

1214
01:04:27,440 --> 01:04:31,520
Speaker 1: really to be honest with you, because you were interested

1215
01:04:31,600 --> 01:04:35,040
Speaker 1: and they were I wouldn't have guy friends that I

1216
01:04:35,080 --> 01:04:38,480
Speaker 1: thought were attractive. Would be the point of that, you

1217
01:04:38,520 --> 01:04:40,040
Speaker 1: know what I mean? Like that would just be weird

1218
01:04:40,320 --> 01:04:43,640
Speaker 1: and annoying. Yeah, I mean if I was if I

1219
01:04:43,720 --> 01:04:47,520
Speaker 1: thought they were cute, I don't know, that would be weird. Yeah,

1220
01:04:47,920 --> 01:04:51,360
Speaker 1: you're saying for her to make it what do you

1221
01:04:51,400 --> 01:04:52,840
Speaker 1: want to do? No? No, No, I was just and

1222
01:04:53,000 --> 01:04:55,919
Speaker 1: I was also thinking about the text you got from. Oh,

1223
01:04:57,080 --> 01:05:00,360
Speaker 1: I feel like we need to address that. Yeah, let's

1224
01:05:00,360 --> 01:05:04,920
Speaker 1: answer this and then we'll address up. Um. Oh, I

1225
01:05:05,160 --> 01:05:10,320
Speaker 1: feel like if this is me, can I just say, like,

1226
01:05:10,920 --> 01:05:13,040
Speaker 1: if there's a guy that I'm interested in, I want

1227
01:05:13,120 --> 01:05:15,240
Speaker 1: him to be crazy about me. I don't want a

1228
01:05:15,280 --> 01:05:17,360
Speaker 1: guy to be lukewarm about me. I don't care if

1229
01:05:17,440 --> 01:05:21,840
Speaker 1: he's bad at communicating or whatever. No, next, like, if

1230
01:05:21,880 --> 01:05:24,560
Speaker 1: you're not crazy about me and excited about me, and

1231
01:05:25,280 --> 01:05:28,120
Speaker 1: you know, forget it and make me question it. Right,

1232
01:05:28,560 --> 01:05:31,320
Speaker 1: there's not There's no better feeling than being with somebody

1233
01:05:31,360 --> 01:05:34,240
Speaker 1: who just can't wait to see you, so excited to

1234
01:05:34,280 --> 01:05:37,040
Speaker 1: talk to You're so excited for that next day. That's

1235
01:05:37,160 --> 01:05:39,760
Speaker 1: really the feeling that you want to have. You don't

1236
01:05:39,800 --> 01:05:43,160
Speaker 1: want to be like guesswork like m hm, I don't know, Well,

1237
01:05:43,320 --> 01:05:45,400
Speaker 1: I need to reach out to him. I need to try.

1238
01:05:46,600 --> 01:05:49,840
Speaker 1: Every woman wants to be wanted and desired. It's like

1239
01:05:50,040 --> 01:05:52,920
Speaker 1: human nature for the guy to be the one that

1240
01:05:53,080 --> 01:05:55,320
Speaker 1: makes the move and is the aggressor. You know, I

1241
01:05:55,360 --> 01:05:58,000
Speaker 1: don't know what our society has become where now we

1242
01:05:58,120 --> 01:06:01,080
Speaker 1: as women are like having to reach out. But you know,

1243
01:06:01,160 --> 01:06:03,880
Speaker 1: it's all the texting, and it's this and that. Before

1244
01:06:03,960 --> 01:06:06,720
Speaker 1: it was like they would call, they would make the plans,

1245
01:06:06,760 --> 01:06:09,080
Speaker 1: they would set up the dates. It was so much better.

1246
01:06:09,280 --> 01:06:11,560
Speaker 1: It was so much more. There was so much more chivalry.

1247
01:06:12,040 --> 01:06:14,880
Speaker 1: You know. Now it's like I don't I don't like

1248
01:06:15,120 --> 01:06:18,240
Speaker 1: where it's where it's become you know, what's happened. I

1249
01:06:18,280 --> 01:06:20,720
Speaker 1: think they say that, like just guys are also a

1250
01:06:20,760 --> 01:06:22,920
Speaker 1: little bit shy. Guys need like more a little more

1251
01:06:22,960 --> 01:06:26,240
Speaker 1: affirmation that like they should make the move. Yeah, because

1252
01:06:26,320 --> 01:06:28,240
Speaker 1: it's not the way it used to be. Women are

1253
01:06:28,360 --> 01:06:32,800
Speaker 1: so much more forward now. I just have always felt

1254
01:06:32,880 --> 01:06:34,760
Speaker 1: like and it was just maybe it's just the way

1255
01:06:34,840 --> 01:06:37,200
Speaker 1: I was raised, but it was like, if a guy

1256
01:06:37,400 --> 01:06:40,920
Speaker 1: wants you, he's you're going to know, like even if

1257
01:06:40,960 --> 01:06:43,480
Speaker 1: you don't like, you're going to know that he wants you.

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Speaker 1: And I've never really like I've I've always been able

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01:06:49,360 --> 01:06:51,600
Speaker 1: to tell if a guy likes me, you're not the

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01:06:51,640 --> 01:06:54,480
Speaker 1: guys that like me and want me, it's very obvious.

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01:06:54,520 --> 01:06:56,680
Speaker 1: I don't have to question it, And don't we like that?

1262
01:06:57,600 --> 01:07:00,480
Speaker 1: As women? We like that, And I think you like

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01:07:00,560 --> 01:07:02,800
Speaker 1: the guests work if you have to question it, he's

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01:07:02,800 --> 01:07:04,240
Speaker 1: not trying to flirt with you. I mean, how many

1265
01:07:04,240 --> 01:07:05,920
Speaker 1: times have come to you and been like, is this

1266
01:07:06,040 --> 01:07:08,560
Speaker 1: guy like hitting on me? Or it is just not

1267
01:07:09,200 --> 01:07:13,160
Speaker 1: And I'm like if I'm even questioning it? Right? Yeah, Yeah,

1268
01:07:13,560 --> 01:07:15,360
Speaker 1: Like there's a scenario where this guy is really into it,

1269
01:07:15,400 --> 01:07:17,760
Speaker 1: but he's just super shy. And if that's the case, like,

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01:07:18,720 --> 01:07:20,919
Speaker 1: I mean, he needs to I don't like this phrase.

1271
01:07:21,040 --> 01:07:24,360
Speaker 1: He is a man Like I'm a very nervous person.

1272
01:07:24,480 --> 01:07:27,280
Speaker 1: But when I was involved with a lady I liked,

1273
01:07:27,280 --> 01:07:29,439
Speaker 1: I would spend my entire day thinking of a reason

1274
01:07:29,520 --> 01:07:31,960
Speaker 1: to call her, like, yeah, I saw this cloud that

1275
01:07:32,000 --> 01:07:35,360
Speaker 1: reminded me of you, something like that. Even that was

1276
01:07:35,480 --> 01:07:37,160
Speaker 1: a like that desire is able to break through any

1277
01:07:37,200 --> 01:07:40,600
Speaker 1: type of shyness or nervousness, you know, So he's probably

1278
01:07:40,640 --> 01:07:44,400
Speaker 1: not that indo Rachel, Rachel. Watch the movie. It'll give

1279
01:07:44,440 --> 01:07:51,560
Speaker 1: you some tips. I watch it weekly. Yeah, I do

1280
01:07:51,960 --> 01:07:55,640
Speaker 1: the Yeah, but like I relate to the character Gigi

1281
01:07:55,800 --> 01:07:58,040
Speaker 1: so much that I'm just like, like, I don't know,

1282
01:07:58,080 --> 01:08:00,880
Speaker 1: it just makes me feel good. Watch that movie and

1283
01:08:00,960 --> 01:08:03,960
Speaker 1: move on from this loser. Yeah, move on. Yeah, but

1284
01:08:04,120 --> 01:08:06,640
Speaker 1: it doesn't. I mean, it doesn't mean that he's a loser.

1285
01:08:06,760 --> 01:08:08,960
Speaker 1: Just means you want to be with someone who you

1286
01:08:09,120 --> 01:08:12,120
Speaker 1: deserve to not have to question if someone's Yeah, but

1287
01:08:12,160 --> 01:08:14,640
Speaker 1: if he's not into Rachel, I already know I like Rachel,

1288
01:08:14,760 --> 01:08:17,439
Speaker 1: then he's a loser. Oh I see, Yeah, move on

1289
01:08:17,560 --> 01:08:21,360
Speaker 1: from that loser time. It's not it's not worth like

1290
01:08:22,160 --> 01:08:25,519
Speaker 1: having to question things, and I wonder if you're supposed

1291
01:08:25,520 --> 01:08:29,240
Speaker 1: to say something no, no, what is it is exhausting?

1292
01:08:29,439 --> 01:08:34,160
Speaker 1: Like men should be men, and you know, so after

1293
01:08:34,240 --> 01:08:36,280
Speaker 1: what they want. I don't. I don't like this whole

1294
01:08:36,400 --> 01:08:38,439
Speaker 1: thing now where it's like you're having a question. I'm

1295
01:08:38,479 --> 01:08:42,040
Speaker 1: a big fan of dropping the handkerchief, meaning like sure,

1296
01:08:42,400 --> 01:08:44,680
Speaker 1: like drop a little hint that you're attracted to them,

1297
01:08:45,240 --> 01:08:47,960
Speaker 1: want them, that's fine, But then pick up the hanker. Yeah,

1298
01:08:47,960 --> 01:08:49,360
Speaker 1: they need to pick it out, they need to pick

1299
01:08:49,400 --> 01:08:53,920
Speaker 1: him up. Just drop the handkerp it. I can't put

1300
01:08:54,000 --> 01:08:56,400
Speaker 1: it in your back pocket, right, these guys want you

1301
01:08:56,400 --> 01:08:58,000
Speaker 1: to put in a T shirt cannon. Just be fine

1302
01:08:59,600 --> 01:09:04,840
Speaker 1: on account you want to be pursued special Yeah you

1303
01:09:04,920 --> 01:09:10,760
Speaker 1: know yeah? Do you know who was pursued Phoebe Phoebe Chilly? Yeah?

1304
01:09:11,160 --> 01:09:16,080
Speaker 1: Because have you seen my dog Phoebe. Yes, She's the

1305
01:09:16,200 --> 01:09:19,400
Speaker 1: greatest thing in my life, the biggest love in my life. Literally,

1306
01:09:20,439 --> 01:09:24,800
Speaker 1: she um is a queen. Everyone knows and love. Everyone

1307
01:09:24,880 --> 01:09:27,240
Speaker 1: who knows her loves her, Like I would be jealous

1308
01:09:27,280 --> 01:09:29,439
Speaker 1: of how much time Becca spends with Phoebe if I

1309
01:09:29,479 --> 01:09:32,000
Speaker 1: didn't love Phoebe as much as I. But Phoebe's okay.

1310
01:09:32,280 --> 01:09:35,120
Speaker 1: Phoebe likes everyone else kind of more than me, and

1311
01:09:35,200 --> 01:09:37,120
Speaker 1: I'm just having to accept it. I feel like I'm

1312
01:09:37,479 --> 01:09:40,200
Speaker 1: mom and she's like hanging out with all her friends

1313
01:09:40,240 --> 01:09:44,519
Speaker 1: and she's like mom like friends and then eventually she's

1314
01:09:44,520 --> 01:09:47,720
Speaker 1: going to appreciate me more. Yeah, I've just like taken it.

1315
01:09:47,800 --> 01:09:49,479
Speaker 1: I'm not trying not to jump the gun, you know,

1316
01:09:50,040 --> 01:09:53,439
Speaker 1: not get jealous or weird. Um. But she got a

1317
01:09:53,520 --> 01:09:56,479
Speaker 1: bark Box a few weeks ago and she those are

1318
01:09:56,520 --> 01:10:02,240
Speaker 1: her favorite toys, but a golden retriever. Have you ever

1319
01:10:02,320 --> 01:10:05,720
Speaker 1: tried bark Box. It's a subscription box for dogs and

1320
01:10:05,800 --> 01:10:08,200
Speaker 1: they send you like treats and toys and it's like

1321
01:10:08,320 --> 01:10:11,720
Speaker 1: specified to the dog's size and their way. It is

1322
01:10:11,760 --> 01:10:14,599
Speaker 1: the cutest thing. And they have a theme every month,

1323
01:10:14,880 --> 01:10:17,040
Speaker 1: like I mean every box that they send out, there's

1324
01:10:17,040 --> 01:10:21,720
Speaker 1: a different theme. So hers was like, um, medieval time,

1325
01:10:21,800 --> 01:10:23,679
Speaker 1: so it was like a queen with like a crown

1326
01:10:23,800 --> 01:10:27,000
Speaker 1: and all the treats. It was everything to that. They

1327
01:10:27,040 --> 01:10:31,800
Speaker 1: have a p New York City, Brooklyn Hipster bark Ball

1328
01:10:32,680 --> 01:10:36,760
Speaker 1: country Fair. Yeah. Um, and so they, like I said,

1329
01:10:36,840 --> 01:10:39,439
Speaker 1: they I sent my mom and their puppy one two

1330
01:10:39,560 --> 01:10:43,080
Speaker 1: and my mom's like the treats that they had in

1331
01:10:43,160 --> 01:10:45,600
Speaker 1: there are her favorite ones to chew on. So I

1332
01:10:45,680 --> 01:10:49,080
Speaker 1: haven't had any one who knows what bark boxes say

1333
01:10:49,160 --> 01:10:51,920
Speaker 1: that they didn't love it. Um. So it's like new

1334
01:10:52,280 --> 01:10:55,760
Speaker 1: toys every month. Um. They have like squeaky toys which

1335
01:10:56,040 --> 01:10:59,200
Speaker 1: can be annoying, but she loves them, so I love her. Um.

1336
01:10:59,560 --> 01:11:01,840
Speaker 1: And if if your dog doesn't like something in the box,

1337
01:11:01,920 --> 01:11:04,719
Speaker 1: they'll send you something that they'll love for free because

1338
01:11:04,720 --> 01:11:07,519
Speaker 1: they're all about the dog's happiness and there's free shipping

1339
01:11:07,760 --> 01:11:12,160
Speaker 1: um on bark box within the US. Yeah, it says

1340
01:11:12,200 --> 01:11:14,679
Speaker 1: when I love this it does. When your dog falls

1341
01:11:14,720 --> 01:11:17,599
Speaker 1: in rove with something from the box, you can easily

1342
01:11:17,680 --> 01:11:20,760
Speaker 1: find it again on bark shop dot com, which is

1343
01:11:20,800 --> 01:11:23,560
Speaker 1: their app, or you can text them. Um. So you

1344
01:11:23,640 --> 01:11:26,160
Speaker 1: just choose your dog size, choose a plan, and then

1345
01:11:26,240 --> 01:11:29,200
Speaker 1: you circle the fifteen of the month on your calendar

1346
01:11:29,280 --> 01:11:31,920
Speaker 1: because that's when the bark box ship. So what do

1347
01:11:32,000 --> 01:11:34,120
Speaker 1: they have to do? Um? Well for a free extra

1348
01:11:34,280 --> 01:11:37,080
Speaker 1: month of bark box, you can visit bark box dot

1349
01:11:37,200 --> 01:11:40,000
Speaker 1: com slash s Becca when you subscribe to a six

1350
01:11:40,200 --> 01:11:44,160
Speaker 1: or twelvemonth plan. So once again, that's bark box dot

1351
01:11:44,280 --> 01:11:52,320
Speaker 1: Com slash Becca. That's bark box dot com slash Becca.

1352
01:11:54,360 --> 01:11:57,679
Speaker 1: I'm trying to get like the right note. Maybe maybe

1353
01:11:57,760 --> 01:11:59,639
Speaker 1: that's not it. Let's try it again. Let's let's focus

1354
01:11:59,720 --> 01:12:02,000
Speaker 1: and do the right Okay, you're going let me hear

1355
01:12:02,080 --> 01:12:09,839
Speaker 1: what your note is? Becca again? Becca? I go Becca, Becca,

1356
01:12:11,200 --> 01:12:20,840
Speaker 1: Go go Becca. Yeah, that's it. That's good. O bark

1357
01:12:20,920 --> 01:12:30,120
Speaker 1: box dot com slash Becca. Good, we got it. Oh

1358
01:12:30,560 --> 01:12:33,519
Speaker 1: that was great. Um. Yeah, so I want to talk.

1359
01:12:33,640 --> 01:12:35,599
Speaker 1: I wanted to talk about this earlier, but I forgotten

1360
01:12:35,640 --> 01:12:40,960
Speaker 1: until we got um Rachel and Becky's email. Oh wait,

1361
01:12:41,080 --> 01:12:42,560
Speaker 1: by the way, I had to shout out one of

1362
01:12:42,600 --> 01:12:45,680
Speaker 1: our listeners that obviously this is the podcast because this

1363
01:12:45,760 --> 01:12:47,360
Speaker 1: is the only place I've talked about my big love

1364
01:12:47,400 --> 01:12:49,519
Speaker 1: for Big Sean, like my crush on Big Sean. But

1365
01:12:49,600 --> 01:12:52,479
Speaker 1: I posted a video of me like saying I'm learning

1366
01:12:52,640 --> 01:12:55,000
Speaker 1: Big Seawan's wraps or whatever, and I tagged him in it,

1367
01:12:55,120 --> 01:12:58,560
Speaker 1: and she responded. She she said the very way of

1368
01:12:58,640 --> 01:13:04,920
Speaker 1: dropping the handkerchief was like, I love it. Nice it is.

1369
01:13:05,360 --> 01:13:07,639
Speaker 1: You're still moving in on Vic Sean. No, I mean

1370
01:13:07,760 --> 01:13:13,479
Speaker 1: he's got Jiang. Iico, how do you say her name? Yeah,

1371
01:13:13,479 --> 01:13:16,000
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to be a home wrecker. But in

1372
01:13:16,080 --> 01:13:19,240
Speaker 1: the off chance that he is ever single, it might

1373
01:13:19,280 --> 01:13:22,240
Speaker 1: be very soon. Yeah, I was gonna say, I don't

1374
01:13:22,280 --> 01:13:25,719
Speaker 1: know if we wanna talk about that very soon. Um. Okay,

1375
01:13:25,760 --> 01:13:27,640
Speaker 1: So you got a text from a guy that you

1376
01:13:27,760 --> 01:13:33,120
Speaker 1: went on like two dates with. Um, he lives in

1377
01:13:33,200 --> 01:13:37,560
Speaker 1: New York and he's sent you a text. I was

1378
01:13:37,600 --> 01:13:39,320
Speaker 1: going to preface it, but I want to. It's just

1379
01:13:39,439 --> 01:13:41,880
Speaker 1: so bizarre. So I went on, I've gone out with

1380
01:13:41,960 --> 01:13:45,799
Speaker 1: him like twice, and UM, he sent me a text message,

1381
01:13:47,280 --> 01:13:49,639
Speaker 1: very lengthy text message, basically saying and I'm not gonna

1382
01:13:49,680 --> 01:13:51,840
Speaker 1: say like what he does or whatever, but um, he's

1383
01:13:51,840 --> 01:13:54,600
Speaker 1: having a change of heart in terms of like profession

1384
01:13:55,120 --> 01:13:57,600
Speaker 1: and like wants to maybe start something new, moved to

1385
01:13:57,680 --> 01:14:00,679
Speaker 1: the West coast, you know, one to pick your brain.

1386
01:14:00,800 --> 01:14:05,840
Speaker 1: And I'm just like sitting here reading this thinking like

1387
01:14:06,080 --> 01:14:08,000
Speaker 1: I wanted to date you, Like I actually was like

1388
01:14:08,080 --> 01:14:10,200
Speaker 1: sad because I wanted to date him. I wanted to

1389
01:14:10,280 --> 01:14:12,280
Speaker 1: do like I was like down for a long distance,

1390
01:14:12,320 --> 01:14:13,840
Speaker 1: like I liked him, and I felt like sad that

1391
01:14:13,880 --> 01:14:16,320
Speaker 1: he didn't want to dick. I felt rejected. And now

1392
01:14:16,400 --> 01:14:20,439
Speaker 1: he's like asking me, like what I think to his life.

1393
01:14:20,479 --> 01:14:23,400
Speaker 1: I was like, this is so bizarre and it bugs

1394
01:14:23,479 --> 01:14:26,519
Speaker 1: me because like we have texted about this guy, and

1395
01:14:26,680 --> 01:14:30,160
Speaker 1: like your feelings were hurt by and how he handled

1396
01:14:30,200 --> 01:14:31,600
Speaker 1: after you all went on the dates and get it,

1397
01:14:31,680 --> 01:14:33,519
Speaker 1: like y'all live across the country, but he could have

1398
01:14:33,600 --> 01:14:36,920
Speaker 1: handled it much better. But to come and ask you

1399
01:14:37,080 --> 01:14:40,360
Speaker 1: for like how long did he text you after you

1400
01:14:40,520 --> 01:14:42,400
Speaker 1: date it? This has been a why I mean it's

1401
01:14:42,439 --> 01:14:44,200
Speaker 1: been like over a year. Do you think this is

1402
01:14:44,280 --> 01:14:49,880
Speaker 1: his name? Attempted trying to date you again. He's trying

1403
01:14:49,880 --> 01:14:56,280
Speaker 1: to get back in there here for no, I don't

1404
01:14:56,400 --> 01:15:00,400
Speaker 1: even like it. I mean, but he and he's just

1405
01:15:00,439 --> 01:15:04,519
Speaker 1: trying to conversation. Oh yeah. So then I sent back

1406
01:15:04,600 --> 01:15:07,600
Speaker 1: like a very thoughtful response, and I was like, you know,

1407
01:15:07,680 --> 01:15:09,599
Speaker 1: only you can make that decision for yourself. I don't

1408
01:15:09,600 --> 01:15:11,320
Speaker 1: I don't know what you should do with your life,

1409
01:15:11,400 --> 01:15:13,519
Speaker 1: but if you need to have recommendations with where to

1410
01:15:13,600 --> 01:15:15,439
Speaker 1: live when you move over here, like I can definitely

1411
01:15:15,479 --> 01:15:18,519
Speaker 1: help you out. And he basically responded to the very

1412
01:15:18,760 --> 01:15:21,000
Speaker 1: nice text back saying like when I, oh, you dinner,

1413
01:15:21,040 --> 01:15:23,360
Speaker 1: even if it's just friends, even if it's just friends

1414
01:15:23,760 --> 01:15:29,160
Speaker 1: Eastern head, even friends, this is this is because he's

1415
01:15:29,240 --> 01:15:31,960
Speaker 1: trying to just it's a it's a it's an easy out,

1416
01:15:32,080 --> 01:15:35,519
Speaker 1: like in case you rejected him. He's trying to save face.

1417
01:15:36,720 --> 01:15:41,120
Speaker 1: How do you guys? This bugs me because he like

1418
01:15:41,360 --> 01:15:45,559
Speaker 1: will respond to her, like if she posts a photo

1419
01:15:45,840 --> 01:15:48,040
Speaker 1: of like at an event or something, he'll be like

1420
01:15:48,280 --> 01:15:52,680
Speaker 1: whoa like comment on her Instagram. But he never like

1421
01:15:52,880 --> 01:15:56,719
Speaker 1: has made any initiative to like take her out again.

1422
01:15:57,000 --> 01:16:00,920
Speaker 1: Or it's weird, it's so bizary. Does he live New York?

1423
01:16:00,960 --> 01:16:02,160
Speaker 1: I mean, not that he can just take her out

1424
01:16:02,200 --> 01:16:05,599
Speaker 1: on Friday night, but like call her see how she's doing.

1425
01:16:05,640 --> 01:16:08,040
Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel like he's just squirm yeah,

1426
01:16:08,160 --> 01:16:11,920
Speaker 1: because not a fan squirm if this is the same

1427
01:16:11,960 --> 01:16:15,000
Speaker 1: person I'm thinking of the first time around, total squirm

1428
01:16:17,960 --> 01:16:21,040
Speaker 1: all right, he's out yeah, yeah, and the whole like

1429
01:16:21,160 --> 01:16:23,040
Speaker 1: I need some advice about moving to the West Coast.

1430
01:16:23,160 --> 01:16:25,599
Speaker 1: That's like on Seinfeld when the guy bet that Dustin

1431
01:16:25,680 --> 01:16:27,240
Speaker 1: Hoffman was in Star Wars or else you have to

1432
01:16:27,240 --> 01:16:29,080
Speaker 1: take him to dinner because then if you say no,

1433
01:16:29,520 --> 01:16:32,439
Speaker 1: it's not getting turned down for a day. This is

1434
01:16:32,520 --> 01:16:35,719
Speaker 1: exactly the same thing. So it's just a lame trojan

1435
01:16:35,760 --> 01:16:39,800
Speaker 1: horse to get into I know in my hard heart

1436
01:16:39,920 --> 01:16:41,960
Speaker 1: that if he moves out here and as Tawny to

1437
01:16:42,040 --> 01:16:43,920
Speaker 1: go out, she's probably going to go to dinner. One

1438
01:16:43,960 --> 01:16:52,439
Speaker 1: will no, because I have my eye on the prize bow. Okay, No,

1439
01:16:52,520 --> 01:16:54,040
Speaker 1: I'm not saying I'm not going to go with other guys,

1440
01:16:54,080 --> 01:16:56,160
Speaker 1: but like I think that, I think that, like maybe

1441
01:16:56,240 --> 01:16:59,280
Speaker 1: six months ago I would have she's already exclusive with him.

1442
01:17:01,000 --> 01:17:03,840
Speaker 1: We talked about them like their boyfriend, that I'm not

1443
01:17:03,840 --> 01:17:08,880
Speaker 1: going to go out with other guys. It's so embarrassing

1444
01:17:09,479 --> 01:17:13,400
Speaker 1: like this people listen to this. Hope you're not listen

1445
01:17:13,920 --> 01:17:20,160
Speaker 1: more than ever on that note. So, yeah, so you're

1446
01:17:20,200 --> 01:17:21,760
Speaker 1: saying you won't go out with him, and now I

1447
01:17:21,880 --> 01:17:24,880
Speaker 1: know now like I have such a clear like I'm

1448
01:17:24,920 --> 01:17:27,200
Speaker 1: not I'm not I know what I'm worth and I'm

1449
01:17:27,200 --> 01:17:33,439
Speaker 1: not giving discounts anymore. Oh that was good because he

1450
01:17:33,479 --> 01:17:35,560
Speaker 1: didn't treat me right, Like what am I doing? We

1451
01:17:35,680 --> 01:17:39,960
Speaker 1: are not giving discounts anymore. That's the Oprah line of

1452
01:17:40,120 --> 01:17:46,120
Speaker 1: the wheek. Yeah, there we go. No more discounts for

1453
01:17:46,240 --> 01:17:51,040
Speaker 1: the squirms. No. Oh, yeah, you were on medical dramas,

1454
01:17:51,560 --> 01:17:54,320
Speaker 1: which I thought of another one that I did hasn't

1455
01:17:54,360 --> 01:17:58,240
Speaker 1: even been on yet. What code Black. Oh yeah, you

1456
01:17:58,439 --> 01:18:01,680
Speaker 1: just recently did that one. Wow. Is it as glamorous

1457
01:18:01,720 --> 01:18:05,640
Speaker 1: as it seems? Watching medical shows? The love stories, the

1458
01:18:06,360 --> 01:18:13,040
Speaker 1: on call rooms? Everything m glamorous. I guess Chicago Hope

1459
01:18:13,120 --> 01:18:15,120
Speaker 1: was really fun. I know what, she's the girl that

1460
01:18:15,280 --> 01:18:18,680
Speaker 1: was emailing about the you know, the operating table. I

1461
01:18:18,760 --> 01:18:21,120
Speaker 1: know all of those things because I was right there

1462
01:18:21,320 --> 01:18:24,600
Speaker 1: doing all that stuff on Chicago Hope. And it's so

1463
01:18:24,720 --> 01:18:28,400
Speaker 1: cool because like they'll have um, the chest, you know,

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Speaker 1: like the I don't know what the chest cavity. I

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01:18:32,640 --> 01:18:34,960
Speaker 1: can't think of what. It's like kind of rubbery, and

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Speaker 1: they'll have it open, and then the body will go underneath.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how you can see what I'm doing,

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01:18:40,560 --> 01:18:43,439
Speaker 1: but the body, the head will go butt up against

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Speaker 1: the chest. So the head's here and the legs are

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Speaker 1: down here, and the table's here right so it looks

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01:18:49,800 --> 01:18:52,599
Speaker 1: like an actual human body underneath the light and then

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Speaker 1: they'll be able to cut it. It's so cool to

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01:18:56,560 --> 01:19:00,960
Speaker 1: her neck right about. Yeah, that's really cool. So I

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01:19:01,000 --> 01:19:04,760
Speaker 1: had scenes with like Mandy Ptinkin and he seemed like

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01:19:05,160 --> 01:19:07,680
Speaker 1: such a real doctor, you know, and I would have

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01:19:07,800 --> 01:19:10,800
Speaker 1: to hand him the tools exactly like the Scalpel in

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01:19:10,880 --> 01:19:12,760
Speaker 1: this and then if I did it wrong, he'd be

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01:19:12,800 --> 01:19:17,960
Speaker 1: like again, and I'm like, oh gosh, he's I loved

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01:19:18,000 --> 01:19:21,040
Speaker 1: him so much. No, but he convinced me that he was.

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01:19:21,120 --> 01:19:23,920
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm not really a nurse, Mandy, I

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01:19:24,120 --> 01:19:26,559
Speaker 1: don't really know what I'm doing. You have to hand

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01:19:26,640 --> 01:19:29,280
Speaker 1: them exactly like smack them in the hand exactly right,

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01:19:29,360 --> 01:19:31,439
Speaker 1: you know. Yeah. They I feel like they have like

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Speaker 1: medical professionals on set. Accurate. Yeah, I mean it makes sense.

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Speaker 1: I'll shout out to Linda Kline because she's actually she

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01:19:40,400 --> 01:19:42,400
Speaker 1: was on Chicago Hope and now she's a producer on

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01:19:43,040 --> 01:19:45,439
Speaker 1: Raised Anatomy, My Girl, and she was on Digie Houser.

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01:19:46,760 --> 01:19:49,280
Speaker 1: M Oh, we love her. What's your name? Linda Kline?

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Speaker 1: You should, She's amazing. You'd love her so much. She's

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01:19:53,479 --> 01:19:56,040
Speaker 1: the best. Um. We just want to be on a

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01:19:56,120 --> 01:19:58,720
Speaker 1: medical drama one day, even if I'm like in the background,

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01:19:58,880 --> 01:20:02,800
Speaker 1: just like Gray's that me shoot for the stars. Yeah, gys,

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01:20:02,880 --> 01:20:04,720
Speaker 1: not me. I want to be in the background, just

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01:20:04,800 --> 01:20:07,040
Speaker 1: like wheeling around the background. You want to be a

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01:20:07,080 --> 01:20:10,840
Speaker 1: guest star? No, I feel like so nervous. I want

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01:20:10,840 --> 01:20:14,560
Speaker 1: to like lines like, I just need to be like

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01:20:14,960 --> 01:20:22,960
Speaker 1: there so I can have background extra girl and wheelchair. Yeah,

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01:20:23,120 --> 01:20:24,760
Speaker 1: like in the room when they're like doing all the

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Speaker 1: like you know, like one of the weird random doctor

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01:20:28,040 --> 01:20:36,080
Speaker 1: Susan the gallery and you're like that stranger to me, stranger. Um, Okay,

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Speaker 1: we have to wrap, unfortunately, but I want to say

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01:20:38,400 --> 01:20:43,639
Speaker 1: thank you to our sponsors Um Bark Box, Wink and Quip,

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01:20:44,479 --> 01:20:50,639
Speaker 1: and thank you to our guest of honor best Ever.

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01:20:51,160 --> 01:20:55,799
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. UM, keep the emails coming. Scrubbing

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01:20:55,840 --> 01:20:59,200
Speaker 1: in at iHeart media dot com asked to join the

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01:20:59,280 --> 01:21:03,559
Speaker 1: Facebook group that's scrubbing in on Facebook? Um, is there

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01:21:03,560 --> 01:21:06,519
Speaker 1: anything else? And I'm missing anything? Uh no, but maybe

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01:21:06,560 --> 01:21:08,120
Speaker 1: we can each come up with a list of guys

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01:21:08,160 --> 01:21:11,439
Speaker 1: that we're going to use your Uh you're like being

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01:21:11,479 --> 01:21:16,040
Speaker 1: catfish thing with the clothes. Mine was real. I know,

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01:21:16,160 --> 01:21:17,880
Speaker 1: I know, but like I feel like that we should

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Speaker 1: each do it next week. We're just picking random guys.

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Speaker 1: Hell yeah, Like how though on our discover page, whoever

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01:21:25,400 --> 01:21:28,360
Speaker 1: we want we could reach out to. Chris Evans would

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01:21:28,360 --> 01:21:30,800
Speaker 1: be a great example. Chris Pine. Oh yeah, Chris No

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01:21:30,920 --> 01:21:34,760
Speaker 1: not for seventh Chain, No, no, no, Chris thinking I

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01:21:34,840 --> 01:21:39,519
Speaker 1: want Christmas? Yes, yes, I love Chris. Do you know

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01:21:39,640 --> 01:21:42,439
Speaker 1: Chris Pratt? But do we know anyone who knows him?

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01:21:43,120 --> 01:21:45,200
Speaker 1: I'm sure we do. Which one is the Chris that

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01:21:45,240 --> 01:21:53,439
Speaker 1: I liked with Wonder Woman Christmas Pratt? Chris Pratt, Yeah, Pratt, Pratt, Pratt, Yeah. Okay,

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Speaker 1: next week, stay tuned, Yeah, next week, I'm messaging. Okay.

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Speaker 1: So now, Robin, yes, you're going to call time of death.

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Speaker 1: What is that? It's the death of the podcast. So

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01:22:08,600 --> 01:22:10,519
Speaker 1: we've got a clock up here, and if you were

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01:22:10,560 --> 01:22:12,559
Speaker 1: in to call time of death and then read out

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01:22:12,600 --> 01:22:15,360
Speaker 1: the time, we can pronounce this podcast, do you You

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01:22:15,479 --> 01:22:18,920
Speaker 1: also have to do it in a military military time,

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01:22:18,960 --> 01:22:23,000
Speaker 1: as the doctors do, so it would be like fifteen

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Speaker 1: fifty three the time of death, Time of death fifteen

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Speaker 1: fifty I think you're hang on, oh no, what I haven't.

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01:22:38,479 --> 01:22:40,559
Speaker 1: I literally, But then I thought it was so dumb

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Speaker 1: that I was like, Robin, for sure it again.