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Speaker 1: It is time for Steve's favorite segment, Ask the CLO

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Speaker 1: Chief Love Officer, Steve, are we ready for your love questions?

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Speaker 1: And this one is from Corey in Orlando. Corey writes

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Speaker 1: him thirty three and my older brother is thirty seven.

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Speaker 1: He's coming to town for the holidays and he wants

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Speaker 1: to bring a female that's not his girlfriend. I told

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Speaker 1: my parents that they shouldn't allow him to do it,

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Speaker 1: but my dad said it's fine. His girlfriend stuck by

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Speaker 1: his side while he was in law school and helped

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Speaker 1: him out financially. Now that he's passed the bar, he's

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Speaker 1: parading around this little white attorney he works with. Should

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Speaker 1: I confront him or avoid family time with him?

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Speaker 2: Wow?

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Speaker 3: Well bruh oh that's you know. Look man, your brother

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Speaker 3: gets to make the decisions for his life what he wanted. Mate,

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Speaker 3: he's bringing somebody else at dinner and it ain't his girlfriend?

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Speaker 2: Who now? I mean?

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Speaker 3: I mean, okay, Sureley? Did they say this is for Christmas?

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Speaker 1: For the holidays?

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Speaker 3: Uh?

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Speaker 1: Huh?

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Speaker 2: So now let me ask you a question.

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Speaker 3: How do you leave your girlfriend at home for the

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Speaker 3: holidays and bring another girl? Have you ever thought, younger

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Speaker 3: brother that the girlfriend ain't in the picture. No more

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Speaker 3: could that be because when you do, you ain't coming

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Speaker 3: around for the holidays, and you bringing one over for

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Speaker 3: the holidays, that's a change. You got another problem cause

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Speaker 3: the girl white. That's because you wrote that in the letter. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: that's what's really wrong. And the sister helped him out.

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Speaker 3: But that don't mean you got you get that, That

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Speaker 3: doesn't mean that don't mean you're gonna make the whole cut.

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Speaker 3: You know now, I know it be out that. Well,

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Speaker 3: that's the one that stuck with what you want. That

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Speaker 3: ain't the one you like. Now the problem is he

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Speaker 3: brings me white girl over. You got a problem. You

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Speaker 3: to know your parents not to let him do that.

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Speaker 3: He thirty seven. Your daddy has said let him do

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Speaker 3: what he want to do and brouh, it's your brother's business.

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Speaker 2: Now I would avoid. Yeah, there you don't.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, probably the white christ house. He heard the song

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Speaker 3: and he's having it obviously been dreaming about it. Just

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Speaker 3: like the song. So now you're welcome. You know you

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Speaker 3: saw the movie Guess Who's coming to dinner?

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Speaker 2: Well, t I.

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Speaker 1: He wants to know, confront his brother or avoid family.

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Speaker 3: Ain't non confront your brother about what it's your brother,

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Speaker 3: business man you bring who you are.

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Speaker 2: Over for holidays? Quit tripping? He your brother? He tripping?

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Speaker 2: All right?

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Speaker 1: Moving on, Desan Little Rock says, I listen to you

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Speaker 1: guys online, and you have said that men and women

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Speaker 1: cannot be best friends unless sex is involved. I want

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Speaker 1: clarification because I've.

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Speaker 2: Had what I said. Go ahead.

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Speaker 1: I've had a male best friend for almost ten years,

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Speaker 1: and now that he is divorced, he wants to stay

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Speaker 1: overnight at my house on the weekends. I am not

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Speaker 1: attracted to him at all. Do you think he's trying

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Speaker 1: to sleep with me? What is going on?

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Speaker 2: What you think?

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Speaker 1: What?

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Speaker 3: Ever?

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Speaker 2: What'd you want?

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Speaker 3: He asked to spend a night at your house. Folk

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Speaker 3: his hotels, he can stay in his house. Now, what

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Speaker 3: I did not say is you can't be best friends

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Speaker 3: without sex involved.

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Speaker 2: I didn't say that. I said it's hard for a

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Speaker 2: man to.

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Speaker 3: Be best friends with the woman he's attracted to. Thus,

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Speaker 3: this man is attracted to you, and now that he

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Speaker 3: got a divorce, he don't want to be your friend

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Speaker 3: no more.

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Speaker 2: He want to sleep with you. He want to slumber

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Speaker 2: part Yeah, acted at all?

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Speaker 3: Okay, then now we have a problem. But I told

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Speaker 3: you how men are. I didn't tell you how women are.

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Speaker 3: I said, if a man is attracted to you, he

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Speaker 3: will lay and wait till there's a.

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Speaker 2: Crack in the door.

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Speaker 3: He got a divorce, he thinks that's the crack.

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Speaker 2: In the door.

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Speaker 3: Now all of a sudden, y'all, friendship, He won't sleep

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Speaker 3: with you.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 3: That's what I said, and what I stand by what

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Speaker 3: I say, And all these men out here, no man,

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Speaker 3: I have very attractive women that I'm not. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 3: but you would if you could. Dog So now listen

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Speaker 3: in that conversation. Next question, Shirley.

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Speaker 1: All right, Monee, I said that I.

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Speaker 2: Know what I'm talking about.

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Speaker 1: Monette in Greenville says, my mother and I have dated

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Speaker 1: the same man in the past, and now he's married

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Speaker 1: to a lady we go to church with. I don't

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Speaker 1: talk to my mother anymore, and I don't fool with

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Speaker 1: this woman. I want to know why he felt the

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Speaker 1: need to cheat on me with my mom and then

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Speaker 1: this older lady at the church. I could see if

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Speaker 1: it was a sugar mama situation, but it wasn't. Why

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Speaker 1: did he feel like she should be a better wife

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Speaker 1: than me? It's eating at me. How do I get closure.

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Speaker 2: You're not gonna get no closure from him.

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Speaker 3: You need closure with yourself, You and your mama dating

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Speaker 3: a man with wish tendencies, a man with holish tendencies

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Speaker 3: has dated you, your mama and now another woman at

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Speaker 3: the church.

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Speaker 2: What what is it? You need closure?

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Speaker 3: Home? Y'all was all attracted to a wish man, not

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Speaker 3: a man that took his.

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Speaker 2: Act somewhere else.

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Speaker 3: He don't want you, and why would you want him?

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Speaker 3: He then slept with your mama and the other woman

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Speaker 3: at the church. And I can promise you it's some

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Speaker 3: more church.

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Speaker 2: It's okay, it's some more.

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Speaker 3: You pull off a stunt like this, it's because you

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Speaker 3: good at it.

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Speaker 2: It's some more. Why am I not good enough? You?

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Speaker 2: You dodged a bullet?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, be grateful?

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Speaker 2: Man, Get out, lady, Come on, give yourself break.

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Speaker 1: He's married anything?

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Speaker 2: What church?

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Speaker 3: Y'all go to man great into the past office about this?

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Speaker 3: What's happened? I ain't nobody pulled into the office about

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Speaker 3: this one right here, y'all had no church counseling.

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Speaker 2: Is just popping off passages.

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Speaker 3: Mad him how many times he'd married him?

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Speaker 2: Alright, let's go on, all right?

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Speaker 1: Janette in Michigan says, I'm fifty seven years young and

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Speaker 1: I have a weight loss surgery and I got a

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Speaker 1: nose job. I was dating a man that didn't mind

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Speaker 1: my weight and said he loved my big old nose.

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Speaker 1: Now that I've healed a bit, I tried to rekindle

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Speaker 1: the flame with him, but he said he's only attracted

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Speaker 1: to big girls. I've done online dating and I had

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Speaker 1: a blind date. But nobody turns me on like my ex.

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Speaker 1: If it's real love, Why does size matter? Is he

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Speaker 1: making up excuses because he's moved on?

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Speaker 3: Wow? He making up excuses because he liked what he liked.

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Speaker 3: He like them thick you the lost weight, He like thick,

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Speaker 3: big nose women wide. No, now you the wist weight

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Speaker 3: and got your nose cut down? Now he do thee

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Speaker 3: went from Dayton Nail Carter to Michael Jackson. He don't

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Speaker 3: want that, and she put that nose back on the

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Speaker 3: old Is that you know? You know you know how

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Speaker 3: they put the makeup on your nose to make it

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Speaker 3: look thinner. Yeah, you probably widened that brushstroke out a

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Speaker 3: little bit trying to make your nose look wider.

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Speaker 1: We'll just forget about him to move on. But as

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Speaker 1: long as you feel good about yourself, all right, Thank you, CLO,

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Speaker 1: you're listening hard.

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Speaker 2: Morning Show