Speaker 1: You feel like more of a failure than you do
Speaker 1: a winner. So it's really nice when you can bitch
Speaker 1: to your friends. And I'm so grateful for you about that,
Speaker 1: because Chris knows I'm so high strong right now with
Speaker 1: just shiz in my life, trying to keep it all together.
Speaker 1: Here Calm Down with Aaron and Chrissa is a production
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Speaker 3: Sometimes, and we have said this before, we're going to
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Speaker 2: an update from some questions that we've answered along the way,
Speaker 2: Like where are we at now?
Speaker 3: Like where are they now? Questions?
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what I also want to follow up
Speaker 1: on and I feel like I haven't And that could
Speaker 1: be an inside joke, but I'm not going to say it.
Speaker 1: It's inappropriate that I want to follow up on us
Speaker 1: being matchmakers to the people at home, to the listeners,
Speaker 1: there's there's a person in my life that I want
Speaker 1: to be a matchmaker for. We were talking about him
Speaker 1: last night. He works on my crew. I'd love to
Speaker 1: put his info out for, you know, to match him
Speaker 1: to one of you ladies out there that's ready to
Speaker 1: get serious and you're done looking. I also feel like
Speaker 1: the listeners are they want some help. I would love this,
Speaker 1: and then I would love it to be a show
Speaker 1: called Matchmakers. Let's do the Aaron Carissa addition Carissa, Aaron whatever,
Speaker 1: and then Mac Wway and we call mac Makers. We
Speaker 1: need to discuss this on the big show because I
Speaker 1: want to put out an instead of talking about it,
Speaker 1: let's actually put it into action.
Speaker 3: We're action gals.
Speaker 1: You know. I got a couple of d ms from
Speaker 1: women that were like, here's my info, Like, this is
Speaker 1: what I'm looking for, perfran, We need to get this sponsored.
Speaker 3: Pen to paper.
Speaker 2: Nosy Rosie reporter, noepet in hand, she's writing down.
Speaker 3: No one loves it to do listener than Aaron. Yea,
Speaker 3: she was so accurate. No, I don't.
Speaker 1: I'm looking for people to help me do that though.
Speaker 1: Apply Now, what was I going to say, how about
Speaker 1: I sent you Aaron sent me this DM of this
Speaker 1: guy in his driveway vacuuming the concrete as he's looking
Speaker 1: at all the police cars and the ambulances next door.
Speaker 1: And it was Aaron pretending not to be nosy vacuuming
Speaker 1: the concrete.
Speaker 3: It was really funny.
Speaker 2: So for those of you that are new to the podcast,
Speaker 2: that's Aaron's alter ego, nosy Rosie. She needs to know
Speaker 2: what's happening at all times. She's waving for those of
Speaker 2: you that can't see her. Okay, here we go. First
Speaker 2: question is from far from Caitlin adorable name. What is
Speaker 2: your favorite dessert? I love a loaf, you know, a
Speaker 2: pumpkin loaf, a chocolate loaf.
Speaker 3: The joke heres again.
Speaker 1: We had Max's birthday party and Aaron got a loaf
Speaker 1: and kept walking around with the loaf asking if anyone
Speaker 1: had had a bite of the loaf.
Speaker 2: It was amazing, So no, but for real, my favorite
Speaker 2: dessert pumpkin pie. I had one year at Thanksgiving. All
Speaker 2: I all I wanted Thanksgiving is a pumpkin pie. And
Speaker 2: Sarah Walsh, if you're listening, Sarah, I had a full
Speaker 2: meltdown at her house one Thanksgiving in Connecticut when we
Speaker 2: were working at ESPN together.
Speaker 3: She had set aside the pumpkin pie for me.
Speaker 2: Someone else had gotten into it, and I just went ballistic.
Speaker 2: I mean we're talking like death com five, like no
Speaker 2: return or no Aaron, don't ask questions you already know
Speaker 2: the answers too, Okay please. I had a full freaking meltdown.
Speaker 3: All I've ever wanted in life is pompkay bye. And
Speaker 3: then it's like it turns a no and this and
Speaker 3: I don't have this and I ate my boyfriend.
Speaker 2: Yeah, anyways, pumpkin pie is sports that one you.
Speaker 1: The loaf, by the way, was a gluten free chocolate loaf,
Speaker 1: a shout out to cake monkeys, not an ad, and
Speaker 1: I didn't get it for free, but the loaf went
Speaker 1: over great. I had a few gluten free people at
Speaker 1: my house my dad kept and Burkhard included, so that
Speaker 1: was that. My favorite dessert is yellow cake with chocolate
Speaker 1: frosting from a Duncan Hinds box name it's so good.
Speaker 1: Name somebody that does it as well as that. And yes,
Speaker 1: we will accept your recipes and your deliveries. We will
Speaker 1: eat them.
Speaker 2: I love after this many years of friendship, learning something
Speaker 2: new about you. I had no idea yellow cake with
Speaker 2: a chocolate Does it have to be Duncan Hines or
Speaker 2: if I like any Crockers perfect perfect up or Psycho
Speaker 2: Lindsay wall Raven, how do I get my husband and
Speaker 2: go to the Era's tour?
Speaker 1: I would tell him everyone's doing it because they are.
Speaker 1: I would point out all the men that you know,
Speaker 1: people have uh shown.
Speaker 3: Their land to go to the Eras tour. Don't do that.
Speaker 1: It's a time like I mean yesterday at Max party,
Speaker 1: everybody was asking Chris about it. People were asking Jared
Speaker 1: about it. It is a great time and make it fun.
Speaker 1: You can be a girl and he can be a guy,
Speaker 1: and it's a great people watching. Go get your drinks,
Speaker 1: make an event out it. It's a time.
Speaker 3: Go ask Jared. It's a very romantic experience.
Speaker 2: Aaron will not meet you halfway at that romantic experience
Speaker 2: because she's watching the concert. For those of you didn't
Speaker 2: hear that part of the episode last week, Jarrett was
Speaker 2: very sweet and wanted to give Erin a kiss during
Speaker 2: the concert.
Speaker 3: She said, Nana watching the choreography.
Speaker 2: But I think, look, I think this speaks to a
Speaker 2: bigger part of a relationship is that line in the
Speaker 2: breakup like.
Speaker 3: I want to go to the ballet.
Speaker 2: Well, I don't know, but where Vince Bond's characters like,
Speaker 2: I'm not going. I'll go anywhere with you, but I'm
Speaker 2: not going to the ballet. She's like, you should want
Speaker 2: to go to the ballet because that's what I like.
Speaker 2: And the whole idea is that maybe it's not your
Speaker 2: thing husband in this scenario, but if it makes your
Speaker 2: wife happy, go do that. And then conversely, if there's
Speaker 2: something you want to go to and she doesn't want to,
Speaker 2: she'll meet you halfway and go as well. Anonymous, how
Speaker 2: do you deal with losing a great lifelong friend to
Speaker 2: their toxic, narcissistic significant other?
Speaker 1: Ooh, narcissist has been a big word coming at because
Speaker 1: it's a big word. It's been a big word coming
Speaker 1: out of my mouth lately. Really take a narcissust never
Speaker 1: taking the blame and always blaming it on something else,
Speaker 1: and believe, are you insane?
Speaker 3: I've read a lot of books on narcissists.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you, Yeah, I could actually saved a
Speaker 2: lot of money on therapy had I just dove into
Speaker 2: those books before that. However, I would say this, and
Speaker 2: we've talked about it before, right where if you have
Speaker 2: a friend that has the boyfriend or the husband that
Speaker 2: you don't want, I don't think sometimes you got to
Speaker 2: take inventory of your life and if you're going to
Speaker 2: lose that friend because of their significant other, then it sucks.
Speaker 2: But like that also means that their friend is choosing, which,
Speaker 2: let's be honest, you should choose your spouse probably more
Speaker 2: times than not over your friend. However, if that person,
Speaker 2: I don't know how to describe it, but like you know,
Speaker 2: when you never there was a Sex in the City
Speaker 2: episode about this thing where it's like, you never are
Speaker 2: too honest about the significant other when they're breaking up
Speaker 2: because then if they get back to.
Speaker 3: It's like, oh now I know how you really feel.
Speaker 3: But in this case, stay on task.
Speaker 2: Carrissa Squirrel, I think it's okay to lose the friendship
Speaker 2: if you have vocalized, like you had done many times
Speaker 2: to me that you don't think this relationship is good
Speaker 2: for me. You think I should get out, but if
Speaker 2: I choose to stay, then you're like, I'm sorry, I
Speaker 2: can't be your friend. And Aarin was very honest with
Speaker 2: me about that, not because she didn't want to be
Speaker 2: my friend, but because she was so protective of me.
Speaker 3: She couldn't stand.
Speaker 2: By and watch that toxic relationship and me in that
Speaker 2: toxic relationship anymore for a lot of different reasons.
Speaker 3: So as someone who gave me.
Speaker 2: The ultimatum, I think it's really good and you'll find
Speaker 2: out ultimately who your friends are or if that relationship
Speaker 2: is worth staying in.
Speaker 3: So bye. With that said, I answer that question.
Speaker 1: I was just finishing up a swimming lesson and two people,
Speaker 1: three people that were in the pool with is were
Speaker 1: part of our little party yesterday and couldn't stop talking
Speaker 1: about Steve and how one wonderful he is. So oh,
Speaker 1: there's that, Yeah, Steve. Everyone loves Steve every time. If
Speaker 1: I broke up with Steve, you definitely would stay with
Speaker 1: friends with Steve over me.
Speaker 2: Aaron calls Steve, and she calls me because Steve answers me.
Speaker 2: I'm busy answering the questions from our listeners. Go ahead,
Speaker 2: Tay Ryan twelve. Question for Aaron, what have you learned
Speaker 2: about yourself in the first year of motherhood? I feel
Speaker 2: like I'm going to get emotional, not because of motherhood,
Speaker 2: but because of how stressful it's been. But I because
Speaker 2: it's not just the baby, it's everything else with the baby.
Speaker 2: It's you know, managing your life, your job, You're making
Speaker 2: sure he's okay. Dealing with my insecurity is about I'm
Speaker 2: not doing enough. We have full time help trying to
Speaker 2: gel with that. One thing I have learned is you
Speaker 2: need your friends more than ever. I bitch to Chrissa
Speaker 2: more than I do, probably say positive things to her
Speaker 2: because I'm like, I just have to talk to you
Speaker 2: about this. Sometimes it's easier to say things to her
Speaker 2: versus my husband. My sister is amazing about it. It
Speaker 2: is so nice when your friends Carissa Sam Phipps write
Speaker 2: you notes and they're like, you're doing an amazing job, sweetie,
Speaker 2: balancing it all together. You feel like you never are,
Speaker 2: so I feel like that's the same stuff you hear
Speaker 2: from all mothers. But yeah, you feel like more of
Speaker 2: a failure than you do a winner. So it's really
Speaker 2: nice when you can bitch your friends. And I'm so
Speaker 2: grateful for you about that, because Chris knows I'm so
Speaker 2: high strung right now with just shiz in my life,
Speaker 2: trying to keep it all together here. If there's a
Speaker 2: line from Beetlejuice, Ryan, You're so good that Catherine O'Hara says,
Speaker 2: is like, I'm losing my mind now I'm going to
Speaker 2: take you all down with me. I don't know what
Speaker 2: the line is. I'm actually like butchering it, but it's
Speaker 2: so perfect. Lean on your friends, whether they have kids
Speaker 2: or not. Well, I love you, and that's very sweet.
Speaker 2: But I think that's what friendship and I appreciate you
Speaker 2: saying that, but that's what friendship is. Is that how
Speaker 2: many times have I leaned on you? None a mother,
Speaker 2: but for everything else, you know, different parts of your life.
Speaker 2: Is that you have to have that support group and
Speaker 2: a non judgmental easy for me to say group, but
Speaker 2: you also have to and I know it's easier said
Speaker 2: than done, but you have to give yourself grace. I mean,
Speaker 2: this is a new thing, and it's because you're perfection
Speaker 2: is not in a bad way, but you're highly competitive
Speaker 2: and that is what's made you very successful in life
Speaker 2: in any venture that you've taken on. But there's a
Speaker 2: lot to be said about this venture is not something
Speaker 2: that you have to be perfect at, and in fact,
Speaker 2: if you are, then you're doing something wrong because that
Speaker 2: human being doesn't.
Speaker 3: Need you to be perfect.
Speaker 2: He needs you to keep him alive and loved and happy.
Speaker 2: And those three criterias are being met and you're crushing it.
Speaker 2: And I'm really proud of you, and no one gives
Speaker 2: you a handbook on how to do it.
Speaker 3: So what are laughing at Ryan?
Speaker 1: I'm laughing because Ryan just texted us, I will go
Speaker 1: insane and I will take you with me.
Speaker 3: It is such a great line from Beetle Juice. My
Speaker 3: sister and I say it often. What a great movie
Speaker 3: that is? I forgot how you don't.
Speaker 2: Is it weird that I still think if you say
Speaker 2: it three times, like something's gonna happen. Wait, why like
Speaker 2: say Beetlejuice, beetle Juice, And I don't want to say
Speaker 2: it the third time because I'm superstitious about that.
Speaker 1: What was the gremlin thing? You couldn't say and it
Speaker 1: would happen? Ryan, feel free to.
Speaker 2: Tell you know, the bright light like if you like right.
Speaker 2: You don't know if there was a phrase, but like
Speaker 2: if you if you turn the light on. Gremlin's were
Speaker 2: so cute.
Speaker 1: They were so cute, but when they like changed into
Speaker 1: the evil one fucking gross was that. Remember it was
Speaker 1: like this weird like hemorrhoid that would shoot up their
Speaker 1: back and pulsatan. And I remember Gremlin's the first one
Speaker 1: they made disgusting. Don't feed them after midnight.
Speaker 3: Don't feed me after midnight either.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and they No, I'm not I'm not agreeing to that.
Speaker 1: I just laughed about that. But it would pulsate. And
Speaker 1: the music on Gremlins was like like this sound. It
Speaker 1: was so disguss anyways, take that out. No one needs
Speaker 1: to hear me do that. No, absolutely, not right, you're
Speaker 1: so so.
Speaker 3: I like this question because I love it too.
Speaker 2: Missus Stormer. Want my haircut like CT? What should I
Speaker 2: ask my stylists? No layers down to I like that, okay,
Speaker 2: miss cut Missus Stormer. I would love to know which
Speaker 2: cut you're referring to, because right now I look like
Speaker 2: I have taken scissors with my left hand and cut
Speaker 2: my hair. And this is not an indictment on bow
Speaker 2: my wonderful hair sys.
Speaker 3: It's not that. It's that you girl.
Speaker 2: Over here who loved cutting bangs, and I might bring
Speaker 2: the bangs back, but I have so many different layers
Speaker 2: in my hair that I'm I can't wait until it
Speaker 2: gets all one length. But the problem is that's short
Speaker 2: on the top and long on the bottom. So there's
Speaker 2: a bit of a mullet situation happening. So miss lying it,
Speaker 2: I'm not this is this is if I take this down. Well,
Speaker 2: first of all, there's point of no return. I mean,
Speaker 2: this is hair from yesterday at Max party. But Missus Stormer,
Speaker 2: thank you. I would love to get my hair. Let's
Speaker 2: take a poll. Steve told me no extensions this year
Speaker 2: for all season.
Speaker 1: He said, what about clipping him in? No, he said
Speaker 1: he he thinks I should keep my hair short.
Speaker 3: I agree.
Speaker 1: I didn't know if you were doing them like I keep.
Speaker 1: I clip them in just for fullness.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's what I'm thinking, because I'm like, I look
Speaker 2: at it and it's like four strings of hair in
Speaker 2: my you know, I feel like on TV you need
Speaker 2: a little bit money need, but keep it short. Okay,
Speaker 2: we can make the decision right now, Missus Stormer, we're
Speaker 2: going collarbone a few layers. Now, what do you tell
Speaker 2: the hairstylists. I'll DM you a picture of what I
Speaker 2: think that you should send to your stylist. I love
Speaker 2: a visual going to a stylist and the designer in
Speaker 2: me also has to say this. Don't try to describe it,
Speaker 2: just give a picture. It's the best roadmap on anything.
Speaker 2: So Missus Stormer, I got you check your DM.
Speaker 3: That's comentarily you're up.
Speaker 1: Jillian journ Dt. What's the number one item on your
Speaker 1: bucket list? Not to take everything so personal in care,
Speaker 1: but I don't think that's a bucket list.
Speaker 2: Huh, but that's been I'm thinking, Okay, you think number
Speaker 2: one item on my bucket list? Things I want to
Speaker 2: do in live. I have been in my full ranch mode,
Speaker 2: which nothing makes me happier. But as soon as I
Speaker 2: recover from the debt that I put myself in trying
Speaker 2: to transform this place, I'm going to save my pennies
Speaker 2: up and I am going to travel some more. I
Speaker 2: want to go back to South Africa with Steve and
Speaker 2: do a like full on safari wasteil will you come?
Speaker 1: Yeah? But I you know how I want to do it.
Speaker 1: I want to do it four seasons ten. No. I know.
Speaker 2: That's why I'm saying we have to save our pennies,
Speaker 2: because the safari you want is like the elephant will
Speaker 2: carry you on the tusk, like I mean there's no like,
Speaker 2: there's no like we'll see him from like two miles away. Okay,
Speaker 2: So yeah, I want to travel more. There's so many
Speaker 2: place your dad and I were actually talking about this yesterday.
Speaker 2: You know, I've never been to the Grand Canyon. I
Speaker 2: don't think I have either.
Speaker 3: I mean there's places like I want to go. I've
Speaker 3: never been to Charleston.
Speaker 2: Like, there's so many places domestically I want to go
Speaker 2: and internationally. So bucket list is travel more. But that'll
Speaker 2: be later on down the road. Did you think of yours?
Speaker 1: I want to host a morning talk show or a
Speaker 1: morning show or afternoon talk show with you. Oh, I'm
Speaker 1: manifesting that. I'm putting that out. I said it in
Speaker 1: an interview the other day. I think calm Down could
Speaker 1: be part of a morning show, or I think it
Speaker 1: could be an afternoon show. I'm sorry, but it could.
Speaker 3: I got it.
Speaker 1: Okay, I love you. Here's the thing. I hope I
Speaker 1: have one option on the.
Speaker 2: Ranch when you call me and say we got the deal,
Speaker 2: because that's going to be a hard phone called the
Speaker 2: miss actually called Steve, he'll have reception.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I call him.
Speaker 1: Anyways, Hey, we got a morning show not you, Steve,
Speaker 1: Chrissa and I j Ford.
Speaker 3: What you get five five knee high folks in the summer?
Speaker 3: Yay or Nate?
Speaker 1: No, I don't give it a beat.
Speaker 3: Yeah, aren't we sweating? We can't have boots on, baby girl.
Speaker 1: No.
Speaker 2: The only time I think that the boots are acceptable
Speaker 2: is if we're going like cuge geen shorts and like
Speaker 2: a cowboy boot. It like makes sense for the event
Speaker 2: or wherever you're going, Like cowboy boots are fine. But
Speaker 2: knee high boots, no, it just feels like you don't
Speaker 2: know what season it is.
Speaker 1: I say, I got a real struggle right now about
Speaker 1: shoes because you know, I don't want to wear I
Speaker 1: don't want to wear sneakers to everything, and you know me,
Speaker 1: I'm not a heel girl. I just really really struggle
Speaker 1: in the summer.
Speaker 3: What are we in?
Speaker 1: Are we not to bring up the word loaf?
Speaker 3: Are we loafering it?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 3: What is a shoe? Apparently a kitten? The heel is
Speaker 3: very in, you know, the ones, the ones that Gillian wears.
Speaker 3: I don't know what it is with my.
Speaker 1: White T shirt and jean soccer mom outfit that I'm
Speaker 1: always in.
Speaker 3: What am I wearing, by the way, said that comment,
Speaker 3: you have not read a charge. I hate.
Speaker 2: By the way, there's nothing more classic in life than
Speaker 2: a white T shirt and jean, So we need to
Speaker 2: knock it off on the soccer momb and your retort
Speaker 2: was perfect.
Speaker 3: David Beckham's mom Ronald, that best to be fun.
Speaker 1: Sure, But like Cindy Crawford always talks about how a
Speaker 1: blazer is your go to like to dress up a
Speaker 1: simple outfit. What's my shoe right now in the summer?
Speaker 1: What am I wearing? Because I can't do a heel?
Speaker 3: What am I doing? You know some people off for
Speaker 3: the wedge. I can't do the wedge. I can't do
Speaker 3: the wedge. You know what the wedge is to me?
Speaker 2: The wedge is like, hey, I can't handle a heel
Speaker 2: and I'm not cool enough. Not cool enough is not
Speaker 2: the right word, and I'm not I don't want to
Speaker 2: be so comfortable in a tennis shoe. The wedge, it
Speaker 2: is not for me. I don't like a wedge salad.
Speaker 2: I got to do the work there. A wedge is
Speaker 2: not committing fully to the heel. I just started watching
Speaker 2: the Seleine Deon documentary and I'm already, like I'm only
Speaker 2: twenty minutes in, I'm already crying. But this angel sent
Speaker 2: from heaven talks in the documentary She's got this whole
Speaker 2: warehouse of all of her archives of outfits and all
Speaker 2: these amazing menas of her life that are just like
Speaker 2: documented like front of the plastic box picture what's in there,
Speaker 2: the whole thing. And she starts talking about her shoes,
Speaker 2: and she talks about how she didn't care when she'd
Speaker 2: go to the store or somebody would bring her shoes.
Speaker 2: She didn't even care what size they were. If she
Speaker 2: loved them, she'd cram her foot into it. That's me
Speaker 2: on the regular. I am the stepsister in Cinderella. I
Speaker 2: don't care what size that shoe is if it looks good.
Speaker 2: Mama's jam and her toes in there, and they look
Speaker 2: so gnarly. I'm not getting any kind of OnlyFans steal
Speaker 2: for my feet. No, no, but the shoes look great.
Speaker 2: She's great, your shoes that you should be wearing in
Speaker 2: the summertime. Tennis shoe to.
Speaker 1: A am doing the kitten heel. You can get away
Speaker 1: with the kitten heel.
Speaker 3: I can't do.
Speaker 1: Pointon the pointed kitten heel.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 1: And then these shoes there's not even the full heel
Speaker 1: and they're twelve hundred dollars.
Speaker 3: No, I know they're stupid. I was thinking about that.
Speaker 1: We can talk this on the big show, you know
Speaker 1: what to be continued on some things we spend money on,
Speaker 1: but also then I'm very frivolous with other things. I'm like,
Speaker 1: we'll am not spending twenty dollars on that, and then
Speaker 1: I'm spending an x amount on the stupid thing, and
Speaker 1: you agree. We love you guys for the questions and
Speaker 1: miss so much Stromer. I'm going to send you what
Speaker 1: my ideal length is for you.
Speaker 3: Missus Stromer. Can we stop saying missus Stromer? How many
Speaker 3: times have I said that? Okay, love you? Bye?
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