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And that's 0:00:36.520 --> 0:00:38.960 apparently what happened to Dave, who was on the phone 0:00:38.960 --> 0:00:40.320 with us right now. He wants to do a second 0:00:40.360 --> 0:00:43.480 date update to a girl named Hannah. What happened, Dave? 0:00:45.479 --> 0:00:47.960 I don't know, man, I'm really confused by what was 0:00:48.000 --> 0:00:49.960 going on. You said your email said that at the 0:00:50.000 --> 0:00:51.360 end of your date you texted her and said I'd 0:00:51.360 --> 0:00:52.919 love to see you again, and she texted you back 0:00:52.920 --> 0:00:55.200 and said, don't ever text me again. You don't know 0:00:55.240 --> 0:00:59.200 what went wrong on your date. I really don't. I'm 0:00:59.240 --> 0:01:01.600 with a little nerves that could be it, but I 0:01:01.720 --> 0:01:04.759 really don't know what happened. How could you possibly think 0:01:04.800 --> 0:01:07.480 that doing a second date is a good idea? Then 0:01:07.600 --> 0:01:12.399 if she said, never talk to me again, you know, 0:01:13.040 --> 0:01:15.240 just to show her, you know, I was just nerves 0:01:15.280 --> 0:01:18.160 and I'm really a cooler person than she may think 0:01:18.200 --> 0:01:20.840 I am. I think another shot and I might get 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:23.120 it okay. So you just you just want to basically 0:01:23.160 --> 0:01:24.880 call up and beg her for a second date when 0:01:24.880 --> 0:01:27.720 you know she's not interested. When you put it like that, 0:01:28.920 --> 0:01:31.480 it doesn't sound desperate at all. Why don't you tell 0:01:31.560 --> 0:01:34.320 us a little bit about your date? Well, I just 0:01:34.400 --> 0:01:37.520 got out of a long relationship and a friend who 0:01:37.600 --> 0:01:41.640 a friend told me that this girl, Hannah, she just 0:01:41.680 --> 0:01:44.920 got out of a long relationship too. When I checked 0:01:44.920 --> 0:01:47.680 her out on Facebook and she seemed pretty cool, and 0:01:48.160 --> 0:01:51.640 the date got set up and we went out, I 0:01:51.800 --> 0:01:54.320 might have been a little shaky, a little jittery, because 0:01:54.400 --> 0:01:57.240 you know, it's my first date after so long. Did 0:01:57.280 --> 0:02:00.000 you did you talk about how you had just got 0:02:00.080 --> 0:02:02.560 out of the long relationship a lot? It might have 0:02:02.600 --> 0:02:04.680 referenced it once or twice, but I don't think it 0:02:04.800 --> 0:02:06.840 was that much. But you didn't sit across to the 0:02:06.840 --> 0:02:08.480 table from her and go, oh, you remind me so 0:02:08.560 --> 0:02:11.600 much of my ag We used to have so much 0:02:11.639 --> 0:02:14.400 fun together. No, I wouldn't. I wouldn't do that. Okay, 0:02:14.639 --> 0:02:17.120 we laugh and joke, but that has happened on second 0:02:17.200 --> 0:02:20.640 date updates. That is a real struggle out there. It 0:02:20.800 --> 0:02:23.359 is hard, you know, after being with someone for so 0:02:23.400 --> 0:02:25.480 long and trying to start over. But I made an 0:02:25.520 --> 0:02:28.360 active effort to just be focused on her. How was 0:02:28.400 --> 0:02:31.920 the conversation on the date, It was pretty good. It 0:02:32.000 --> 0:02:35.399 was light. Um, I might have been talking a little 0:02:35.440 --> 0:02:37.400 bit of a higher register. When I get nervous. My 0:02:37.440 --> 0:02:40.720 point always kind of changes and raises, though, and I 0:02:40.840 --> 0:02:43.160 did talk a little jittery. I'm a little nervous right 0:02:43.200 --> 0:02:46.600 now calling into you guys. It's it's a little it's 0:02:46.600 --> 0:02:49.400 a little hard. I'm not I'm not a good public speaker. 0:02:49.600 --> 0:02:53.520 And it takes you give it a speech to this. 0:02:55.400 --> 0:02:57.280 When you get to know new people, you know how 0:02:57.320 --> 0:02:59.519 hard it is to make that connection, and it takes 0:02:59.520 --> 0:03:01.760 a little bit of work and trying to figure out 0:03:01.960 --> 0:03:04.280 how to say things the right way. But she must 0:03:04.320 --> 0:03:07.880 have done something though, to make her angry to give 0:03:07.919 --> 0:03:11.320 you a response like that right after the day. Don't 0:03:11.360 --> 0:03:13.560 you think all I know is at one point I 0:03:13.600 --> 0:03:15.600 went to the bathroom, and when I came back, things 0:03:15.720 --> 0:03:18.440 was totally different. Oh what do you mean? It was different? 0:03:18.919 --> 0:03:20.960 Like before I went to the bathroom. You know, we 0:03:20.960 --> 0:03:23.600 were talking, laughing, she was making jokes and we were 0:03:23.639 --> 0:03:26.000 having a good time. But when I came back from 0:03:26.040 --> 0:03:28.880 the bathroom, she was just cold and distant, like a 0:03:28.960 --> 0:03:32.679 completely different person. Oh yeah, it was like a personality change. 0:03:32.680 --> 0:03:35.000 It was like she was replaced with a robot. Maybe 0:03:35.040 --> 0:03:37.440 she's possessed by a demon. Oh yeah, that should be 0:03:37.480 --> 0:03:41.160 your automatic job to conclusion. She sounds like a crazy 0:03:41.200 --> 0:03:45.240 person to me. Did you spend like an uncomfortable amount 0:03:45.240 --> 0:03:48.760 of time in the bathroom? I don't think so. I don't. 0:03:49.040 --> 0:03:55.720 I don't like what you're implying. Minutes. Maybe things got weird, 0:03:55.800 --> 0:03:59.280 I don't know. And you know, I was nervous beforehand, 0:03:59.280 --> 0:04:01.640 but when I came back, she was totally silent. I 0:04:01.680 --> 0:04:04.160 got more nervous. I got shaky. I was trying to 0:04:04.680 --> 0:04:09.640 really force the conversation and my boy Scott really high. 0:04:09.800 --> 0:04:13.520 It felt so uncomfortable. How long after you came back 0:04:13.560 --> 0:04:18.280 from the bathroom did the date continue? Five minutes? Maybe 0:04:18.440 --> 0:04:22.080 that's it. Yeah, it wasn't that long, Like it was 0:04:22.120 --> 0:04:24.520 awkward for like a minute, and then she told me 0:04:24.560 --> 0:04:26.719 she had to go. Do you know is she over 0:04:26.800 --> 0:04:28.920 her AX? Because you said they were together a long time. 0:04:29.320 --> 0:04:31.960 I don't know. It didn't come up much in the conversation. 0:04:32.240 --> 0:04:33.760 I mean, like if I was on a date and 0:04:33.839 --> 0:04:37.400 like my ex boyfriend texted me, it definitely changed my mood. Yeah, 0:04:37.440 --> 0:04:39.760 but you wouldn't say never call me again. You wouldn't 0:04:39.760 --> 0:04:42.200 have Yeah, you might be like, I'm kind of busy, 0:04:42.200 --> 0:04:43.920 we can't go out again, not like, hey, you're an 0:04:43.920 --> 0:04:49.440 a hole ever contact me. I want to know why. 0:04:49.839 --> 0:04:53.000 It just the finality of it, That's just all I want. 0:04:53.040 --> 0:04:55.039 I just want to know why. All right, Well, we'll 0:04:55.040 --> 0:04:58.040 play a song, come back, call her and find out 0:04:58.040 --> 0:05:05.040 why she hates you. Okay, we'll get your second date 0:05:05.080 --> 0:05:12.520 update right after your thank you looking jubil in the morning. 0:05:15.120 --> 0:05:17.280 Dave is on the phone with us right now. We're 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:19.440 about to call a girl named Hannah who he went 0:05:19.440 --> 0:05:21.839 out on a date with. We know that Hannah doesn't 0:05:21.839 --> 0:05:24.800 like Dave very much at all, but what we don't 0:05:24.839 --> 0:05:27.840 know is why she doesn't like him. Apparently the date 0:05:27.920 --> 0:05:30.240 was going fine, and then at some point he got 0:05:30.320 --> 0:05:31.760 up to go to the bathroom, came back and she 0:05:31.839 --> 0:05:34.599 was very cold. The date ended shortly after that. He 0:05:34.680 --> 0:05:36.400 even texted her after the date was like, we should 0:05:36.440 --> 0:05:38.320 totally hang out again, and she texted him back saying, 0:05:38.360 --> 0:05:42.320 don't ever text me again. You know that's so mean 0:05:42.400 --> 0:05:45.000 to laugh. But Dave, I think I figured out why 0:05:45.000 --> 0:05:48.080 she might be mad at you. Really. Yeah, I think 0:05:48.279 --> 0:05:50.400 the mistake you made was you didn't invite her to 0:05:50.440 --> 0:05:54.240 the bathroom with you. That's a little trick that not 0:05:54.279 --> 0:05:57.400 a lot of guys know. Chicks dig it when you 0:05:57.440 --> 0:05:59.000 look at them across the table, go hey, I gotta 0:05:59.000 --> 0:06:00.320 go to the bathroom. You want to come with me 0:06:00.320 --> 0:06:02.520 and do stuff? What are we gonna do? Hold it 0:06:02.600 --> 0:06:05.320 for you while you go? Sure, whatever you want, I said, 0:06:05.400 --> 0:06:07.919 I said do stuff. It could be anything. So maybe 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:10.039 she's upset because you didn't invite her to the bathroom 0:06:10.080 --> 0:06:14.360 with you. I don't think. Okay, I'm a dollar phone 0:06:14.400 --> 0:06:22.680 umber right now, you're ready? I'm ready? Okay, here we go, 0:06:23.120 --> 0:06:29.320 fancy I got a nice ring tone? Yeah? Hello, Hi, 0:06:29.400 --> 0:06:33.000 can I speak to Hannah please? This is Hannah, Hey, Hannah, 0:06:33.040 --> 0:06:34.640 how are you doing? This is Jewil from Brook and 0:06:34.680 --> 0:06:40.600 Jewel in the morning. The radio show. Okay, how are 0:06:40.640 --> 0:06:46.640 you today, I'm fine. I'm calling you because we recently 0:06:46.640 --> 0:06:49.039 got an email from someone who listens to our show 0:06:49.520 --> 0:06:53.520 asking if we could get you on the phone. Okay, 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:58.120 his name is Dave, and you two recently went out 0:06:58.160 --> 0:07:03.360 on a date. I don't quite understand. It's a segment 0:07:03.400 --> 0:07:05.039 we do on our show called the Second Date Update, 0:07:05.080 --> 0:07:10.440 and that's why Dave emailed us. Ah, and Dave told 0:07:10.520 --> 0:07:13.280 us a little bit about your date and how at 0:07:13.280 --> 0:07:15.000 the end of it he texted you saying you should 0:07:15.000 --> 0:07:16.640 hang out again, and you told him you never wanted 0:07:16.640 --> 0:07:21.760 to talk to him again. Essentially, that's correct. Yes, do 0:07:21.840 --> 0:07:23.280 you have a few minutes to talk to us, because 0:07:23.360 --> 0:07:25.200 Dave really wants to know what he did wrong? Can 0:07:25.240 --> 0:07:28.520 you tell us what happened? I kind of thought he 0:07:28.520 --> 0:07:31.040 would have figured it out by now. Oh really, so 0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:33.960 he should know how he screwed up. He really should. 0:07:35.000 --> 0:07:36.680 He told us we talked to him about your date, 0:07:36.800 --> 0:07:39.000 and he said that everything seemed fine and that you 0:07:39.040 --> 0:07:40.840 two were hitting it off. And then he says he 0:07:40.880 --> 0:07:42.640 went to the bathroom and came back and you seemed 0:07:42.760 --> 0:07:45.120 very cold and distant, and then the date ended shortly 0:07:45.120 --> 0:07:50.120 after that. Yes, it did. He kept saying how nervous 0:07:50.120 --> 0:07:53.280 and shy he was. But I got a feeling after 0:07:53.360 --> 0:07:56.000 he went to the bathroom that he's not always that way. 0:07:56.760 --> 0:08:00.320 Who did Was he making like weird noises in there 0:08:00.400 --> 0:08:05.720 or something that would have been even better? But everything 0:08:05.920 --> 0:08:10.240 was going fine. He'd excuse himself, and as I was 0:08:10.280 --> 0:08:13.440 sitting there, I got a stopchat message from him. Okay, 0:08:13.480 --> 0:08:18.760 he was snapchatting you from the bathroom, right. That was 0:08:18.800 --> 0:08:21.360 a little odd in the first place. Okay, but I 0:08:21.440 --> 0:08:24.960 don't think that he meant to snapchat me. What what 0:08:25.000 --> 0:08:27.400 do you mean by that? I think he meant to 0:08:27.440 --> 0:08:30.080 send it to a friend or a group of friends, 0:08:30.120 --> 0:08:35.079 and I accidentally got included. What did he say? Well, 0:08:35.320 --> 0:08:37.679 I understand, I'm sitting at a table in a restaurant 0:08:37.720 --> 0:08:40.960 and I opened this video and as it starts playing, 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:46.760 there he is with urinals behind him, and he says, hey, guys, 0:08:47.600 --> 0:08:49.960 in the middle of the state, and this guy's about 0:08:50.000 --> 0:08:58.000 to bang his first telling years. Are you serious? Oh, 0:08:58.080 --> 0:09:00.560 I'm serious? And that it didn't stop. He kept going. 0:09:02.040 --> 0:09:03.760 I mean when we talked to him, he sounded like 0:09:03.760 --> 0:09:07.720 the most conservative, nervous dude on the planet. Yeah, and 0:09:07.840 --> 0:09:10.439 maybe one of his faces, but he's definitely got two 0:09:10.480 --> 0:09:13.800 sides to him. What else did he say in his snapchat? 0:09:14.440 --> 0:09:18.040 The next one was something like is she having down there? 0:09:18.480 --> 0:09:24.560 Or report back later because this guy's getting some God wow, 0:09:25.160 --> 0:09:28.880 no wonder you were annoyed when he came back. Yeah, 0:09:29.040 --> 0:09:31.560 you shouldn't have snapped him back, been like, hey, don't 0:09:31.559 --> 0:09:35.200 come back to the table. I'm leaving. Honestly, I could 0:09:35.200 --> 0:09:38.400 not believe when I was watching the video and trying 0:09:38.400 --> 0:09:40.760 to remember that this was the sweet guy that was 0:09:40.800 --> 0:09:44.360 sitting across from the table telling me how nervous he was, 0:09:45.000 --> 0:09:47.960 And then I see this video and I literally I 0:09:48.000 --> 0:09:50.920 wanted to get up a run. I can't believe you 0:09:50.920 --> 0:09:53.640 didn't unleash on him when he came back to the table. 0:09:54.120 --> 0:09:56.120 I was so shocked. I didn't even know what to do. 0:09:56.200 --> 0:09:58.760 I looked up and he was walking out. Yeah, just 0:09:58.880 --> 0:10:02.000 stabbed him with your butter. I came back exactly where 0:10:02.000 --> 0:10:05.800 I would have gone with it. I never use snapchat before. 0:10:05.920 --> 0:10:08.120 Isn't that obvious to like make that big of a 0:10:08.200 --> 0:10:10.679 mistake and not realize you're sending it to some It 0:10:10.720 --> 0:10:12.360 is because there's a lot of recent so you can 0:10:12.400 --> 0:10:14.640 accidentally click on the last person that I wonder if 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:16.480 that's what he did. So who knows how many people 0:10:16.520 --> 0:10:18.160 he sent that too? So you think it was just 0:10:18.200 --> 0:10:20.440 like him bragging to his friends about something that he 0:10:20.559 --> 0:10:23.160 thought was going to happen. I have no idea what 0:10:23.240 --> 0:10:26.640 would possess anybody to send something like that. I don't 0:10:26.640 --> 0:10:28.680 think he has any idea that he sent that snapchat 0:10:28.679 --> 0:10:31.720 to you. There's no way. Maybe he needs to learn 0:10:31.720 --> 0:10:35.960 how to use Snapchat better. Maybe I'd love to find 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:39.520 out if he knows that he sent that snapchat to you. Yeah, 0:10:39.640 --> 0:10:41.440 I don't really care. I don't ever really want to 0:10:41.440 --> 0:10:44.160 talk to him again. Oh that's too bad, because Hannah, 0:10:44.160 --> 0:10:48.679 he's actually on the other line listening right now. Seriously, 0:10:49.120 --> 0:10:52.320 if he hasn't hung up yet, Dave, are you there? 0:10:52.920 --> 0:10:59.280 Oh my Dave, you're an idiot. Seriously, you're out on 0:10:59.320 --> 0:11:00.839 a nice date and you decide to go to the 0:11:00.880 --> 0:11:06.600 bathroom and call your data and stuff like that's your friends. Honestly, 0:11:07.640 --> 0:11:11.600 I wasn't being serious. I'm so sorry, but you weren't 0:11:11.640 --> 0:11:15.800 being serious. Well what did you go think? What happening? Well, yeah, 0:11:15.800 --> 0:11:17.320 I'm gonna go out with this guy again, and I'm 0:11:17.320 --> 0:11:19.720 gonna meet your friends who got this video? I don't 0:11:19.720 --> 0:11:23.719 think so, go on. I'm so sorry. I did not 0:11:23.920 --> 0:11:27.520 mean to do that. I'm sure you didn't, but you did. 0:11:27.840 --> 0:11:30.000 You did do it. Yeah, it's it's a tough place 0:11:30.040 --> 0:11:34.240 to come back from when you call your data and 0:11:34.280 --> 0:11:35.719 then talk about it. If you're going to discover it 0:11:35.800 --> 0:11:38.959 for another reasons or if or not, you know, there's 0:11:39.000 --> 0:11:43.160 something he will never find out. You was just me 0:11:43.440 --> 0:11:46.559 being messaging my friends. It was just boys being boys. 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:50.160 I really didn't mean anything. Vite, oh, boys being boys, 0:11:50.200 --> 0:11:52.480 but you obviously tended to more than just your boys 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:54.680 because I got it. Yeah, where were you sending it 0:11:54.679 --> 0:11:58.160 to your whole contact list, Dave? I didn't mean to. 0:11:58.320 --> 0:12:00.000 I meant to just send it to a few friend. 0:12:00.280 --> 0:12:03.439 Do you always call your dates at when you're talking 0:12:03.480 --> 0:12:08.000 to your buddies? I mean, that's the real problem here. No, god, No, 0:12:08.600 --> 0:12:10.520 I was only joking. I haven't been out on a 0:12:10.600 --> 0:12:16.760 date in six years. I wonder why. I really don't. 0:12:16.800 --> 0:12:19.120 But I don't think you're at It doesn't matter if 0:12:19.120 --> 0:12:24.400 you're not. If you great, Oh my god, I really 0:12:24.440 --> 0:12:27.960 don't care what you meant or didn't mean, the fact. 0:12:28.000 --> 0:12:30.280 If you set this out there's nothing you could do 0:12:30.360 --> 0:12:34.880 to change that, you know, Hannah, I promised if you 0:12:35.000 --> 0:12:37.440 gave me one chance, I can prove that I'm not 0:12:37.520 --> 0:12:40.120 that guy. I really am not that guy. You are 0:12:40.200 --> 0:12:43.880 that guy? Yeah, I'm really No. I think Dave you 0:12:43.880 --> 0:12:47.280 are that guy because you did it. But I would 0:12:47.320 --> 0:12:48.720 still love to ask Hannah if you will go out 0:12:48.760 --> 0:12:50.280 with Dave on a second date. Hannah, we will pay 0:12:50.280 --> 0:12:53.960 for it. It's not gonna happen, Dave, not now, not ever. 0:12:54.240 --> 0:12:59.560 This isn't sexy. I'm over it. Please just just just 0:12:59.640 --> 0:13:07.760 what seriously? All right? Well, Hannah, thank you for your time, 0:13:07.800 --> 0:13:10.440 and I appreciate you staying on with us and telling 0:13:10.480 --> 0:13:14.240 us what happened. You're welcome. Also, I would like to 0:13:14.240 --> 0:13:17.480 answer his question, though, Hannah, And which question is that? 0:13:17.720 --> 0:13:27.320 Then things go? I'm just fine broken jewel in the morning, 0:13:28.559 --> 0:13:30.400 just got a text message in at seven eight five 0:13:30.559 --> 0:13:34.760 nine two says my friend accidentally snapchatted his junk to 0:13:34.840 --> 0:13:37.800 his whole contact list shut on when he meant to 0:13:37.840 --> 0:13:40.840 send it to his girlfriend. Oh my god, that's so amazing. 0:13:41.000 --> 0:13:43.560 How much would you pay to accessdently get one of those? 0:13:43.559 --> 0:13:46.120 Said to you? Amazing? If I also, I opened up 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:48.320 a friend snapchat and it was that they would never 0:13:48.480 --> 0:13:51.000 hear the end of it. Why did they text that end? Well, 0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:53.120 because of case you missed the second date update. Dave 0:13:53.480 --> 0:13:55.560 wanted us to call this girl named Hannah because she 0:13:55.600 --> 0:13:58.000 wasn't calling him back after their date. Actually, she was 0:13:58.080 --> 0:14:00.440 pretty blunt that you never wanted to see him again. 0:14:00.920 --> 0:14:03.280 Dave went to the bathroom during their date sent a 0:14:03.320 --> 0:14:06.200 snapchat to his friends saying like, Oh, I'm totally gonna 0:14:06.280 --> 0:14:09.200 nail her right after, you know, things like that, and 0:14:09.360 --> 0:14:11.320 he accidentally sent it to Hannah, who was sitting at 0:14:11.320 --> 0:14:14.040 the table, got the text that he or the snapchat 0:14:14.080 --> 0:14:15.400 that he had sent from the bathroom, and decided that 0:14:15.440 --> 0:14:16.719 she didn't want to go out with him again. Yeah, 0:14:16.720 --> 0:14:19.360 because he was like an undercover douchebag, like he was 0:14:19.440 --> 0:14:22.359 playing nice guy the whole time and then in reality, 0:14:22.520 --> 0:14:25.000 oh you're that guy. No, no, no, I think he 0:14:25.160 --> 0:14:27.400 is a nice guy and he was excited just trying 0:14:27.440 --> 0:14:29.280 to show off to his friends and it made him 0:14:29.400 --> 0:14:32.240 look like a bad guy. Yeah, one guy who always 0:14:32.280 --> 0:14:39.440 refers to his dates as salutes. The only thing that 0:14:39.520 --> 0:14:43.800 we did learn is make sure you check your snapchats 0:14:44.080 --> 0:14:48.000 or text messages a couple of times before you send it. Yeah, 0:14:48.320 --> 0:14:50.080 only send that type of stuff to the people you 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:52.080 want to send it to and not the person that 0:14:52.080 --> 0:14:54.720 you're out on a date with because it won't end 0:14:54.920 --> 0:14:56.800 well for you, all right. Remember if you want a 0:14:56.800 --> 0:14:58.120 second day up, they don't have to do his email 0:14:58.120 --> 0:15:00.040 the show Brooke and Jubileet movie to five com. You 0:15:00.080 --> 0:15:01.880 will call the person who didn't call you back.