Speaker 1: I was just thinking to myself, the best revenge is
Speaker 1: success and happiness.
Speaker 2: Calm down with Erin and Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio.
Speaker 3: I don't care see I love it. That's awesome.
Speaker 1: All of it our theme in life and good for her.
Speaker 1: We will talk all things Taylor Swift, Kansas City Chiefs,
Speaker 1: back to back super Bowl champions, and so much more.
Speaker 1: Aaron is wearing the jacket. I hope you guys all saw.
Speaker 1: I'm so proud of my gal. We'll get into it
Speaker 1: on the big show as well. But Taylor Swift wearing
Speaker 1: her wear by Aaron Andrews Chiefs jacket yesterday incredible. I
Speaker 1: just I will go on and on about this, but
Speaker 1: we'll save it for the big show. I'm just very
Speaker 1: proud of you. I hope you guys got a chance
Speaker 1: to watch the Super Bowl lots to discuss their But
Speaker 1: second only to our love of Taylor Swift is our
Speaker 1: love for the holiday that is Valentine's Day.
Speaker 3: I love Valentine.
Speaker 2: Where you're going with this? You do love live, You're
Speaker 2: very cute, and I love you're in love.
Speaker 1: I just, well, there's a first. I just like Taylor Swift,
Speaker 1: you know, and I once you finally find to die.
Speaker 1: I love it. Now, you guys have submitted some questions
Speaker 1: because this week is Valentine's whatever was it Wednesday? Valentine's Day? Yeah,
Speaker 1: on top of it. So here we go. This first
Speaker 1: question is not Valentine's Day themed, but we will get
Speaker 1: to those in the second. First up, Melaniede ten twelve.
Speaker 1: How do you deal with people who have zero's social awareness?
Speaker 1: I get so annoyed by the way Melani annoyed speaking
Speaker 1: my language because this is on a daily basis, and
Speaker 1: for those of you guys that listen to the podcast,
Speaker 1: you know we've discussed talking too loud on an airplane,
Speaker 1: facetiming on an airplane, talking too loud in a waiting room,
Speaker 1: having no understanding that there's other people in the world
Speaker 1: other than yourself. So how do I deal with this?
Speaker 1: Not very well? Clearly, I get annoyed. Aaron calls people out.
Speaker 2: I call you, I call you and be like, I
Speaker 2: can't take this. What is wrong with these people? Are
Speaker 2: you insane?
Speaker 3: Like that's what I do? Or here's another one. Are
Speaker 3: we okay?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Exactly? Maybe we're the problem. It's me, Hi, I'm
Speaker 1: the problem. It's me so I don't know. I don't
Speaker 1: really have a good answer for you, Melanie, because I'm
Speaker 1: not very good at tempering my disdain for people that
Speaker 1: have zero awareness. I think what's actually a really good
Speaker 1: approach is when you just go instead of like meeting
Speaker 1: them at their like annoying level, just like what you
Speaker 1: just said, like are you okay? You good? Like you know,
Speaker 1: it's like you go the opposite of what somebody does
Speaker 1: and yeah, they're like, I don't know.
Speaker 2: Kevin, for cart and I have a couple, well we have, yeah,
Speaker 2: we have two.
Speaker 3: I'm going to add another one.
Speaker 2: I think a couple of good comebacks are for yourself
Speaker 2: and like just your mental state.
Speaker 3: Huh, Like you could just make that noise, Oh that's good.
Speaker 2: Or Kevin and I have started man oh man, man
Speaker 2: oh man man.
Speaker 3: O man like that mayn't go to for so many things.
Speaker 2: Yep. And then there's another one. It goes back to
Speaker 2: when we did the Super Bowl last year. We were
Speaker 2: talking about something, he and I in a meeting room
Speaker 2: with somebody who didn't have social awareness, and all of
Speaker 2: a sudden, they had the Nature channel on and there
Speaker 2: was this huge crab, like literally a crab like it
Speaker 2: was like National Geographic. Why we weren't watching the NFL
Speaker 2: network or something to do with the Super Bowl, not sure,
Speaker 2: but it was on and this person in the meeting
Speaker 2: room made a very weird comment, and Kevin looked over
Speaker 2: at the television and goes, wow, that's some crab. So
Speaker 2: now your emotives are a crab. Yeah that's cute, really cute.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think just any or all of the above.
Speaker 2: Girl, I find starcasm and humor the best thing to do.
Speaker 1: And by the way, these people who are not socially
Speaker 1: aware don't get it, so it's even better. It just
Speaker 1: went right over there, freaking head.
Speaker 2: Good.
Speaker 1: All right, Next up.
Speaker 3: We're anonymous. We love you. Thanks so much for calling
Speaker 3: and writing advice for dealing with a mean.
Speaker 2: Girl at work. Ooh, Carissa, I'll send it over to you.
Speaker 2: Bye oh bye man man oh man man oh.
Speaker 1: Man exactly let me go. Wow that's some crab. Maybe
Speaker 1: she has crabs, I don't know. Wow.
Speaker 2: Okay again with these anonymous submissions, we would love any
Speaker 2: sort of details and feedback about how it goes. I
Speaker 2: mean again, I hate to stay Taylor Swift, but why
Speaker 2: I gotta be so be so mean?
Speaker 1: You read my mind because I was just thinking to myself,
Speaker 1: the best revenge is success and happiness. So for you,
Speaker 1: anonymous advice dealing with a mean girl at work. Again,
Speaker 1: we don't have the full context, but I would say
Speaker 1: this because Aaron and I have dealt with a few
Speaker 1: of these situations before in our life, and I think
Speaker 1: the best way to handle this is with grace and
Speaker 1: just know that be bigger than that person in a sense, like,
Speaker 1: don't when they the Michelle Obama quote, when they go
Speaker 1: low go high. Just know that it's temporary and a
Speaker 1: lot of in my personal opinion, a lot of the
Speaker 1: stuff that I've dealt with when it comes to mean
Speaker 1: girls is their own insecurities projected and they want to
Speaker 1: try to make me feel bad and they're going to
Speaker 1: tear me down. And so if I allow them to
Speaker 1: do that, if I give them that power, then they
Speaker 1: can then they win. I try to always remember that
Speaker 1: if I am staying true to myself, I'm on a
Speaker 1: real ted talk here. If I stay true to myself
Speaker 1: and I don't and I know who I am and
Speaker 1: don't feel like I'm being ashamed of my behavior or
Speaker 1: whatever it is, then it's fine. I don't know. I
Speaker 1: just think that take the high road it you'll always
Speaker 1: be happy that you did, because it's very easy to
Speaker 1: go the other way, and then you'll regret it and
Speaker 1: then you're just as bad as them. Yeah, that's my
Speaker 1: long winded answer to that.
Speaker 3: Why you gotta be so mean?
Speaker 1: Anonymous? Tips for getting out there while struggling with confidence all.
Speaker 1: First of all, this hurts my heart anybody that struggles
Speaker 1: with insecurities or not feeling like they have the confidence,
Speaker 1: or if you're bullied. I just want to one hundred
Speaker 1: and I want to march into the workplace, the school,
Speaker 1: the home, wherever you're feeling this, and I want to
Speaker 1: stand up and stand by your side and stand with
Speaker 1: you and just fight that battle with you, because it
Speaker 1: hurts my heart that anyone is feeling this way. As
Speaker 1: far as tips for getting out there when you struggle
Speaker 1: with the confidence, instead of focusing on areas that you
Speaker 1: feel deficient in, make a list of all the things
Speaker 1: that you do like about yourself and all the things
Speaker 1: that you are proud of. And I think that if
Speaker 1: you put it down on paper, you'll it's not arrogant,
Speaker 1: it's not conceded. It's just focusing more on the positive
Speaker 1: instead of on the negative. I think that you'll see
Speaker 1: very quickly that you have a lot of things to
Speaker 1: be happy about. And it's just hard sometimes because we
Speaker 1: want to focus on negative more than positive. But I
Speaker 1: would say, make a list of all the things that
Speaker 1: you like about yourself or all the things that people
Speaker 1: have said that they like about you, and you'll find
Speaker 1: that you'll have more confidence that way. In my opinion, Wow,
Speaker 1: what do you think? You're really on one right now?
Speaker 3: Loving it?
Speaker 1: Just very internalizing. I'm internalizing a lot of my feelings,
Speaker 1: you know. Now that's the off season. I'm really getting
Speaker 1: into myself. Actually, I'm reading Ryan Holliday do you know who?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, he's so great. The book I'm reading
Speaker 1: right now is called Ego is the Enemy. He also
Speaker 1: wrote Stillness is the Key. It's just they're really really
Speaker 1: great books on just recognizing like deficiencies in yourself and
Speaker 1: also some like along those all those same lines, like
Speaker 1: how to continue to be successful without being arrogant. I
Speaker 1: don't know, anyways, they're really good. Did you finish the
Speaker 1: book Stillness is a Key? Because I feel like that's
Speaker 1: a key. You're not really you're one hundred percent right.
Speaker 1: I got halfway through it and then I started ego
Speaker 1: as the enemy, and I I have to finish the
Speaker 1: book exactly because I wasn't still enough and I.
Speaker 3: Were an animal animal.
Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, next step, Okay, here's our Valentine's say.
Speaker 2: Hey, hey, go deta our roses? Overrated? I don't think,
Speaker 2: so I listen. I like all kinds of flowers. I
Speaker 2: love getting flowers. They make me so happy, so I
Speaker 2: don't think they're overrated. But if you're getting a p
Speaker 2: and eies or a hydrangs. Carissa taught me this back
Speaker 2: in the day. Absolutely no carnations and no baby's breath. No, nope,
Speaker 2: can't I say that with every floral arrangement I order
Speaker 2: because of Carissa.
Speaker 1: And by the way, I've got a whole rant on
Speaker 1: this that we can save for the fiction. Because of
Speaker 1: when you're sending flowers. Someone said flowers to someone. I mean,
Speaker 1: I sent flowers to someone I know, but they spelled
Speaker 1: grateful wrong on the card, so it looked like I
Speaker 1: spelled grateful wrong, and I was like, no, I didn't
Speaker 1: do that. The floor is spelled grateful wrong. And so
Speaker 1: when the person sent me a picture of the flower arrangement.
Speaker 1: They're like, oh, thank you so much. And I saw
Speaker 1: the card and I zoomed in grateful was spelled wrong.
Speaker 1: I was mortified. I was like, no, no, no, that
Speaker 1: wasn't neat that I didn't do that. Goodness florist is
Speaker 1: an idiot. No, yeah, not good any who. I don't
Speaker 1: think any flowers are overrated, but no carnations and no
Speaker 1: baby's with Yes. I just think that's really nice. And
Speaker 1: it reminds me of that scene in the breakup with
Speaker 1: Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughnd where he's like, you told
Speaker 1: me you didn't want flowers and she's like, Gary, everybody
Speaker 1: likes flowers. You told me on our first date that
Speaker 1: you didn't want me to buy you flowers. By the flowers,
Speaker 1: gentlemen always buy the Her body was banging in that,
Speaker 1: by the way, thank god. Yeah it was. She had
Speaker 1: that on that one PROD address too. I remember the
Speaker 1: white one. I remember looking it up and seeing the
Speaker 1: price tag and I was like, where's the knockoff version
Speaker 1: of this bad boy? All at thirty three? What to
Speaker 1: do if you're recently single, don't have friends yet in
Speaker 1: a city, and move to might you just go somewhere
Speaker 1: with my dog, but need ideas here? Oh okay, Well,
Speaker 1: first of all, good for you from moving to a
Speaker 1: new place. Aaron and I have talked about this before,
Speaker 1: since we've traveled so much for our jobs that we
Speaker 1: are alone a lot until the other people in our
Speaker 1: career or whatever get into town. I love saddling right
Speaker 1: up to a bar by myself and ordering a drink
Speaker 1: and just chatting up the people around me. So yeah,
Speaker 1: I say, get out there, like wherever you're at, just
Speaker 1: you never know you're going to meet. And I also
Speaker 1: love not even just looking for like a significant other.
Speaker 1: I love just chatting people up and figuring out their
Speaker 1: story and like why they live there and what they
Speaker 1: do for a living. I don't know, so just putting
Speaker 1: yourself out there. As for the dog, I say, I
Speaker 1: think dog parks are a good way to meet other
Speaker 1: people because if you have a dog, then you want
Speaker 1: to be with someone who likes So what do you think?
Speaker 3: I like that.
Speaker 2: The only thing I've learned about myself that this isn't
Speaker 2: about myself, So stop making it about myself.
Speaker 3: Why do you always do that?
Speaker 2: While internalizing stop, I've decided, Yeah, but one thing I
Speaker 2: would say is if you really really love football and
Speaker 2: you don't want people to give their opinions about it,
Speaker 2: don't go to a bar and sit there by yourself
Speaker 2: with a football game on, because people think they know
Speaker 2: and they don't know, and that is very frustrating.
Speaker 1: So you know what I'm saying that I know exactly
Speaker 1: what you're saying because I almost got into a fight
Speaker 1: one time at the airport bar. Yeah, as the game's
Speaker 1: on and you're traveling back and like you say something
Speaker 1: and they're like, what do you know about football? And
Speaker 1: You're like, oh, here we go. Now I'm going to
Speaker 1: have to say something, and now I'm going to be
Speaker 1: the asshole. Actually, at this point in my life, I
Speaker 1: just buy my tongue, which is weird, but I hate
Speaker 1: when I buy my tongue. Any Who, we could keep going.
Speaker 1: There's so many more questions, but apparently we're all our time.
Speaker 3: I miss that. Okay, ten minutes are up.
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