WEBVTT - Second Date Update PODCAST: I'll Have What She's Having

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<v Speaker 1>Looking jubiles. Second, d It's always going to pique my

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<v Speaker 1>interest in an email when you say something like we

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<v Speaker 1>shared an awkward kiss at the end. Oh gosh, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to know exactly what that means. We'll get

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<v Speaker 1>to that in a second. Chris is on the phone

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<v Speaker 1>with us. He emailed us about a girl. Name is

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<v Speaker 1>it Gianna or Gianna? Gianna? Gianna? Okay? Tell us about Gianna?

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<v Speaker 1>How did you meet her? We met her a mutual friend.

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<v Speaker 1>I emailed her and asked her if I could pick

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<v Speaker 1>her up or if she want to meet me somewhere okay,

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<v Speaker 1>And then she said I could pick her up and

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<v Speaker 1>we could go to dinner. Okay. And so when you

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<v Speaker 1>originally met her, what made you want to ask her

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<v Speaker 1>out on a date? She had like this really awesome

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<v Speaker 1>vibe about her, Like she was really positive, like a

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<v Speaker 1>positive personality and really outgoing. And I also got the

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<v Speaker 1>sense that she was a really stable girl, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I mean, Like came from a good family. I

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<v Speaker 1>thought you meant like she had good balance. That's important too.

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<v Speaker 1>So you felt like she kind of had her stuff together?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah I did. Okay, So how is the date? Would

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<v Speaker 1>you guys do basically on the way, I asked her

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<v Speaker 1>where she wanted to go, so she said cheesecake factory,

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<v Speaker 1>which would not have been my pick necessarily, but you know,

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<v Speaker 1>she wanted to go there, so and I'm pretty laid back,

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<v Speaker 1>so it's like, whatever, we'll go to the cheesecake factory.

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<v Speaker 1>You waited until you were going on the date to

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<v Speaker 1>ask her where you were going. You didn't plan anything,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I thought about some places, but then I thought, well,

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<v Speaker 1>let me not be selfish and just like let her pick.

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<v Speaker 1>For future reference and my experience, at least women like

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<v Speaker 1>you to at least make the decision on a first dat.

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<v Speaker 1>Here it's after a little while where you can be like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care where we go, but they usually like

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<v Speaker 1>you to just man up and make it as sick. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're the one asking out, did you have some

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<v Speaker 1>sort of plans, sort of idea, it didn't really matter.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think your intentions were good. They were to

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<v Speaker 1>let her pick and to be selfless. Yeah, yeah, exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>How was dinner? It was good, Not the food, Not

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<v Speaker 1>the food, I mean the conversation. Like, I know that

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<v Speaker 1>they have pretty decent food there. I've eaten there before,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm wondering is the interaction between you two. Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>thought it went really well. I thought we had a

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<v Speaker 1>lot to talk about. We both we talked about golf

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<v Speaker 1>a lot, because we both liked the golf, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>some of the various places we had been. And then

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<v Speaker 1>oddly we both ended up on this conversation about Disneyland

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<v Speaker 1>because we both liked Disneyland so much. Okay, that's cool.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you do anything else on the day or did

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<v Speaker 1>you guys just have dinner? I mean we had dessert

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<v Speaker 1>and she picked the strawberry cheesecake and after that I

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<v Speaker 1>just drove her home. Tell me about the awkward kiss

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<v Speaker 1>your email. Your email said that you shared an awkward kiss.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you mean by awkward? And and speaking to you,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how anything could ever come out of

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<v Speaker 1>your maid. When I say it was awkward, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>it was like we were in the car still and

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know if I could get out, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and like walker the door or something. So I kind

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<v Speaker 1>of stayed in the car because she was just kind

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<v Speaker 1>of opening the door to get out, and then I

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like reached across the kiss her. But you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just like a weird angle, um and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and I had to like stumble over the console, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and it was just like it was just like a

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<v Speaker 1>weird you know, the whole timing of it felt a

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<v Speaker 1>little bizarre. Chris. You always get out and let a

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<v Speaker 1>girl out of the car, always, Yes, No, I just

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<v Speaker 1>let him get out. Yeah, I'm not trying to walk

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<v Speaker 1>a girl to the doors. In the fifties, he just

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<v Speaker 1>lets them, He just lets them stumble out in a

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<v Speaker 1>drunken stupid lead over opened their door, hand before her

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<v Speaker 1>and say hey, see you later. Yeah, if he slows down,

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<v Speaker 1>that's something. So anyway, you tried to kiss her and

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<v Speaker 1>it went weird. Yeah, it was. It was a little weird,

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<v Speaker 1>but I mean but I thought it was good. And

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't feel like she resisted it, you know or anything.

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<v Speaker 1>You can back away from the air. You didn't have

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<v Speaker 1>to grab her arm and pull her in with all

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<v Speaker 1>your might. How long did the kiss last? Oh, I

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<v Speaker 1>mean it was really quick. You know. I didn't I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't try to linger did she just close the door,

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<v Speaker 1>walk up And that was the last few seen her.

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<v Speaker 1>Talk to her. I've you know, I've emailed her and

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<v Speaker 1>but you haven't tried to call her. Well, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't okay, and you can't think of anything that

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<v Speaker 1>would have gone wrong on the date other than you're

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<v Speaker 1>weird kiss and I thought it was I thought it

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<v Speaker 1>was good, Okay, I really did. All Right, Well, we're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna call her in three minutes and get your second

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<v Speaker 1>day update. Okay, okay, all right, just hang off Brooking

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<v Speaker 1>Jewil in the morning, Seate. Remember if you want a

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<v Speaker 1>second date update, I have to do his email us

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<v Speaker 1>Brook and Jewel at Moving nine two five dot com.

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<v Speaker 1>We will call the person that didn't call you back,

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<v Speaker 1>just like we're about to do for Chris, who was

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<v Speaker 1>on the phone with us right now. He went out

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<v Speaker 1>with a girl named Gianna. They had dinner and then

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<v Speaker 1>shared an awkward kiss at the end of the date.

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<v Speaker 1>He has no idea why she wants to take his

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<v Speaker 1>calls or set up a second date. Chris, have you

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<v Speaker 1>been thinking about anything that you want to say to

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<v Speaker 1>her when we get her on the phone. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'm actually starting to get a little bit nervous,

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<v Speaker 1>to be honest, are you? She just doesn't respond that,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. Now, I'm sitting here and I'm like on

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<v Speaker 1>the radio. I mean, I haven't really done this before,

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<v Speaker 1>so I'm just I don't know. I'm just I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>just feeling a little bitter all of a sudden. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like this is the craziest thing Chris has ever

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<v Speaker 1>done in his life. I can't really describe it, honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>but I just I'm feeling a little nervous. Okay. The

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<v Speaker 1>good thing is you don't sound nervous. Sounds like you're

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<v Speaker 1>ready to go all right. Man? Oh god, that's sarcasm.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah that was sarcasm. Not at all. Man, you sound

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<v Speaker 1>like a rock right now. Are you ready to call her? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm ready. Here we go, all right? Hello, Hi, can

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<v Speaker 1>I speak to Gianna? Is she? How are you? This

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<v Speaker 1>is Jewel from brook and Jewel in the morning. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>moving ninety two point five. Um, right, how you doing good?

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<v Speaker 1>You recently went out on a date with a friend

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<v Speaker 1>of mine. His name is Chris. Okay, you remember going

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<v Speaker 1>out to dinner with Chris? I doctor, It's a nice place.

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<v Speaker 1>I like it. Okay. Yeah, I'm calling because Chris really

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<v Speaker 1>enjoyed the date and he's wondering why you haven't called

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<v Speaker 1>him or text him or returned his email. Asking you

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<v Speaker 1>if you want to go out again. That's a little weird.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. He's a really nice guy. Yeah, really

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<v Speaker 1>really really really nice. Okay, all right, Usually that's not

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<v Speaker 1>a glowing review of the dude. I guess I figured

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<v Speaker 1>that when he asked me out, he would have a

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<v Speaker 1>plan of some sort. Okay, Yeah, was it just the

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<v Speaker 1>restaurant choice, because he did tell us that, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>he let you choose the restaurant. I mean, that can't

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<v Speaker 1>be that big of a deal. Oh well, it wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>just the restaurant. He didn't make a decision the entire date,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like, oh, well should I pick you up

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<v Speaker 1>or will you meet me? And you know, I ordered first,

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<v Speaker 1>and then Chris is like, oh, I'll have what she's having.

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<v Speaker 1>Really didn't even make a decision on his food. And

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<v Speaker 1>it goes like this all night. And I decided that

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<v Speaker 1>I want dessert, okay, and so I say, what dessert

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<v Speaker 1>would you like? I give him the opportunity to order something.

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<v Speaker 1>He goes, well, whatever you would like. I'm halfually surprised

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<v Speaker 1>that he didn't like ask me if he could go

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<v Speaker 1>to the bathroom. Hey, Chris, yeah, I'm here, Gianna, I

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<v Speaker 1>should probably tell you that. Chris is on the phone.

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<v Speaker 1>He's been listening the whole time. Here, what everything you

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<v Speaker 1>just said? Are you kidding me? Say Hi, Chris, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>Hey Gianna, Hi Chris. You know I was just trying

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<v Speaker 1>to think about your needs. You know, I was just

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<v Speaker 1>trying to be considerate because most guys don't do that. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>but you asked me out, dude, like you've got to

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<v Speaker 1>You got a man up, like you have a plan

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<v Speaker 1>when you ask a girl out on a date. If

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to date another girl, I date another girl.

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<v Speaker 1>I went out with you because I thought you were

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<v Speaker 1>a nice guy. But there's such a thing as just

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<v Speaker 1>being like too night. It's been a little bit of

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<v Speaker 1>a while since I've been with a woman. So you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just not good at these things. I'm not. I'm not.

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<v Speaker 1>It's I'm not you to it. You're okay. Yeah, that

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<v Speaker 1>was a weird way of saying it, Chris. I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>gonna tell you that right now. So you haven't been

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<v Speaker 1>out on a date in a long time, that's what

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<v Speaker 1>you were saying. My job is just so demanding, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>So I just I don't get a lot of climbs

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<v Speaker 1>generally be gone dates. Can I hear it? Can I

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<v Speaker 1>hear Gianna's interpretation of the kiss at the end of

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<v Speaker 1>the night? Oh yeah, oh god? Okay? Um? Can we

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<v Speaker 1>can we actually not do that? No? Not embarrassing? Gianna

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<v Speaker 1>tell us about the kiss? You know, he drops me

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<v Speaker 1>up at home. I'm going to leave the car and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm opening up the door, and I guess like this

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<v Speaker 1>was his time to like finally like be a man.

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<v Speaker 1>He one is his over this like consul and I

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<v Speaker 1>thought he was gonna fall into my lap. It's I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>it's it's hard to do that in a car. You're right, Chris,

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<v Speaker 1>it is very difficult get that kiss in the car.

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<v Speaker 1>Were you just nervous? Man? Is that what happened? I

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<v Speaker 1>just feel like the expectations are too high, Like what

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<v Speaker 1>do you want from me? You know, I want you

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<v Speaker 1>to know where you want to go. I want you

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<v Speaker 1>to know what you're going to pick me up. I

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<v Speaker 1>want you to not fall into my lap. I want

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<v Speaker 1>you to know what kind of cheesecake you like. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't feel like I'm asking a whole lot from a

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<v Speaker 1>guy to know what okayaky would like to eat. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel I feel like I can do this, you do

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<v Speaker 1>I like, he says, I feel like I can do this.

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<v Speaker 1>Not I can do this. Okay, I can do this.

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<v Speaker 1>There you go get or can do attitude, And you

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<v Speaker 1>gotta think it took a lot of Cone's to call

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<v Speaker 1>a radio station to deal with it. Didn't to call me.

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<v Speaker 1>If we continue to go out, if every time something

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<v Speaker 1>goes wrong, you're gonna call Jewel. You know, personally, I

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<v Speaker 1>would love that, Janna. He has a hotline, he does charge,

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<v Speaker 1>he gives horrible relationship advice normally. Well, you did pick

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<v Speaker 1>up the phone, though, so this seems to be working

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<v Speaker 1>in some sense. Well, yes, I pick up my phone

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<v Speaker 1>when it rings. Chris, you didn't answer my email. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>you sent one email that was just a question mark,

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<v Speaker 1>like I don't know, Oh my god, Gianna, Sorry Gianna.

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<v Speaker 1>At this point, I would like to say, we will

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<v Speaker 1>send you out in a second day. We'll pay for it.

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<v Speaker 1>Chris obviously wants to go out again. Gianna, would you

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<v Speaker 1>go out with him? See if you guys could send

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<v Speaker 1>me like our project plan. So I haven't like in

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<v Speaker 1>my emails, I have an idea of what it is

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<v Speaker 1>that we're doing. Is that I do know there is

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<v Speaker 1>a plan? Oh god? Um sure yeah, yeah Chris, you

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<v Speaker 1>got your second date. Man, I'm so excited. I can't wait.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow you can you can tell ye? Come on, Chris,

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<v Speaker 1>any idea where you want to go? Um? Well I

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<v Speaker 1>hadn't really thought about it, honestly, in the morning