WEBVTT - Trading Passcodes 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:10.920 Hell I suck a darn I heard radio podcast. What's 0:00:11.000 --> 0:00:13.399 up everyone, and welcome to an all new episode of 0:00:13.560 --> 0:00:16.760 Help I Suck at Dating. As always, I'm de Gungler 0:00:16.960 --> 0:00:21.599 joined in his luxury apartment with wait no, in Jared's 0:00:21.640 --> 0:00:25.240 luxury apartment. Jared have ben I have a luxury apartment. 0:00:25.320 --> 0:00:27.560 This is news to me, dude. Look at all the 0:00:27.600 --> 0:00:30.639 pigs on the wall. It's definitely luxury. That defines luxury. 0:00:30.880 --> 0:00:32.960 I mean, if that defines luxury, then I'm living in 0:00:33.040 --> 0:00:36.120 a mansion. Yeah, you got a lot of pigs there. Anyways, 0:00:36.120 --> 0:00:37.640 we've got a great episode for you guys today. Be 0:00:37.720 --> 0:00:39.159 sure to stick around for all of it. We have 0:00:39.280 --> 0:00:41.720 Jen Kirsh who's gonna be calling in later on. She's 0:00:41.760 --> 0:00:43.440 got a sweet new podcast. We want you to all 0:00:43.520 --> 0:00:46.600 hear all about it. Um. We also have Jared fresh 0:00:46.720 --> 0:00:50.280 off of a steamy workout, sweaty and stinky as can be, 0:00:50.760 --> 0:00:52.720 just as we like him. Um. And then we can 0:00:52.800 --> 0:00:56.520 get some listeners listener emails later on, because we have 0:00:56.680 --> 0:00:58.400 been doing such a good job of putting that off 0:00:58.440 --> 0:01:02.240 for so long. But first and foremost, Jared, you update 0:01:02.320 --> 0:01:03.800 us with your life. We know you're back in l 0:01:03.880 --> 0:01:06.760 a back in l A. Oh yeah, man, Like I said, 0:01:06.760 --> 0:01:09.800 I'm stinky. Do you guys ever, like get concerned that 0:01:09.880 --> 0:01:12.920 if you sit in a chair after working out in 0:01:12.959 --> 0:01:16.200 your sweaty that the chair is gonna start smelling. I'm 0:01:16.280 --> 0:01:19.000 concerned that the chair is gonna stink. I've absolutely never 0:01:19.080 --> 0:01:22.280 thought of that once. Is that a fact? Eastern you're 0:01:22.280 --> 0:01:25.160 nodding ahead your head. Well, I mean, I worry about it. 0:01:25.200 --> 0:01:27.720 I don't know if it's a fact. I think you'll 0:01:27.760 --> 0:01:29.960 be okay as long as you don't sit there for 0:01:30.720 --> 0:01:32.480 a long time. But you're gonna be there for an 0:01:32.520 --> 0:01:36.399 hour and a half, so I will say similar similar wavelength. 0:01:36.480 --> 0:01:38.400 I'm worried sometimes when I'm sitting in my car and 0:01:38.440 --> 0:01:40.520 I fart into my seat that the fart you get 0:01:40.600 --> 0:01:42.760 stuck in the seat for longer than it should and 0:01:42.800 --> 0:01:45.679 then my car smells like fart for longer than it should. Well, 0:01:45.720 --> 0:01:47.520 don't you want, like I guess, if you're in the 0:01:47.560 --> 0:01:49.000 car by yourself, you want the fart out. But if 0:01:49.000 --> 0:01:50.400 you're in the car with Kalin, don't you want the 0:01:50.440 --> 0:01:52.440 far to stay in there just so he doesn't smell it? 0:01:53.320 --> 0:01:55.920 I mean I would prefer not to, you know, do 0:01:56.000 --> 0:01:57.560 you guys, pull the move. Like when I'm on a 0:01:57.640 --> 0:01:59.680 plane and I have to fart, I will you like 0:02:00.560 --> 0:02:02.840 you push your weight down on the sea as if 0:02:02.880 --> 0:02:06.440 you're smothering the fart. I have no scientific knowledge if 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:09.400 that actually works, but I do it every time. You 0:02:09.480 --> 0:02:12.080 figured that making it louder. Yeah, that sounds like gonna 0:02:12.080 --> 0:02:13.720 get louder. I've never thought of that before. What I 0:02:13.800 --> 0:02:15.400 do when I need to fart on an airplane is 0:02:15.480 --> 0:02:18.080 I just uh, well, this is gonna be a little 0:02:18.080 --> 0:02:20.960 too much information here, guys. But the reason that parts 0:02:21.120 --> 0:02:24.280 parts make noises is because it's your butt cheeks flapping together. 0:02:24.360 --> 0:02:27.040 So if you just spread your butt cheeks apart and 0:02:27.120 --> 0:02:28.960 you little go a little fart, it's not gonna make 0:02:28.960 --> 0:02:32.040 any noise. Use that as you will. But if you're 0:02:32.080 --> 0:02:33.720 in public and you get a fart out, just spread 0:02:33.760 --> 0:02:35.519 your butt cheeks apart and you're not gonna make a noise. 0:02:35.680 --> 0:02:38.720 How do you do that discreetly? Well, like if you're 0:02:38.720 --> 0:02:40.360 sitting on the airplane, just like say, you move your 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:42.280 hand down and you grab the outside of your butt 0:02:42.400 --> 0:02:44.560 cheek and then just kind of like discreetly pull it 0:02:45.440 --> 0:02:46.919 and then go ahead and push the fart. Out, So 0:02:47.000 --> 0:02:48.639 it just looks like you gotta like a little itch 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:52.720 down there when you're actually spreading your ass cheeks. Yeah, yeah, 0:02:52.840 --> 0:02:54.840 I mean, And let's be honest, it's not like anyone's 0:02:54.840 --> 0:02:57.720 really like Hawkeye watching what I'm doing with my hands. 0:02:59.040 --> 0:03:03.160 I don't know, you're very You're a public figure. I 0:03:03.320 --> 0:03:06.400 literally just far didn't nobody even noticed. Well, it's because 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:09.440 you're under this blanket. So Dean was I don't know, 0:03:09.560 --> 0:03:13.320 like twenty minutes late, as per usual, and he had 0:03:13.400 --> 0:03:17.560 to set up. And actually, interestingly enough, you couldn't use 0:03:17.600 --> 0:03:22.639 your phone, Dean, because you came obviously unprepared for the 0:03:22.680 --> 0:03:25.400 podcast with seven percent on power on your phone, so 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:27.359 you had to use Kalen's phone. And you got up 0:03:27.880 --> 0:03:31.359 and I realized, Tory, and I realized that you and 0:03:31.520 --> 0:03:36.120 Caitlin know each other's passwords, phone passwords. Yeah, well, not 0:03:36.200 --> 0:03:39.000 only our phone passwords. We have each other's like Facebook password, 0:03:39.080 --> 0:03:42.760 Instagram password, every password you can imagine. We have each 0:03:42.760 --> 0:03:45.000 other's passwords. I have like my face on her phone. 0:03:45.040 --> 0:03:46.720 She has her face on my phone little log in 0:03:47.200 --> 0:03:50.000 is that intend Well, not the face like obviously Ashley's 0:03:50.040 --> 0:03:52.760 face on my phone, but with the passwords? Is that intentional? 0:03:52.840 --> 0:03:54.520 Where you got Is this like a trust thing or 0:03:54.640 --> 0:03:57.840 did that? Is it coincidental? I think it's just a 0:03:57.880 --> 0:04:00.200 thing that's like hey, over time, it's like, hey, I 0:04:00.200 --> 0:04:02.920 need to get into your Facebook for something, what's your password? Oh, 0:04:03.000 --> 0:04:05.720 here's my password? Or I need to get onto your 0:04:06.000 --> 0:04:08.360 PayPal account? What's your password? Here's my password? And then 0:04:08.640 --> 0:04:11.480 you just memorize it over time. You know Eastern do 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:14.320 you uh and your wife exchange passwords? Do you know 0:04:14.400 --> 0:04:18.800 your wife's your I do? I know the code for 0:04:18.800 --> 0:04:21.960 her phone, I know her her passwords to everything she know. 0:04:22.520 --> 0:04:25.360 We've started just we just used the same This is 0:04:25.400 --> 0:04:27.040 probably bad, but we use this a lot of the 0:04:27.080 --> 0:04:30.360 same passwords for almost everything. Oh yeah, absolutely, you know. 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:33.440 So it makes it easier, but so is your Is 0:04:33.480 --> 0:04:35.840 your like Instagram loggan password the same as her Instagram 0:04:35.920 --> 0:04:40.440 loggan password? At this point it is okay, got youa 0:04:40.480 --> 0:04:43.800 got you? So Caitlin and I are different, but we 0:04:43.920 --> 0:04:46.240 use the same password that that we use for that 0:04:46.360 --> 0:04:48.200 for most things, Like I think a lot of people 0:04:48.279 --> 0:04:50.720 do you know what I mean? Very insecure, but it 0:04:50.920 --> 0:04:53.400 is what a lot of people do. The hackers Paradise 0:04:53.880 --> 0:04:56.680 Tory would you ever go through a guy's phone. I'm 0:04:56.760 --> 0:04:58.799 trying to think if I ever had in the past, 0:04:59.800 --> 0:05:02.680 And I don't think I've ever been like hand over 0:05:02.720 --> 0:05:06.200 your phone. But then again, I mean I dated cheaters, 0:05:06.440 --> 0:05:09.560 so I must have just been oblivious to it. What 0:05:09.839 --> 0:05:12.000 stage do you do that? Yeah, I think if you 0:05:12.080 --> 0:05:14.960 were ever to go through someone's phone, the relationships are 0:05:14.960 --> 0:05:16.920 already over. Like if you go through someone's phone with 0:05:17.000 --> 0:05:19.840 the intent of like finding something bad, not like just 0:05:19.960 --> 0:05:21.320 to go through the phone because you need to use 0:05:21.360 --> 0:05:24.400 it to call or text someone, then the relationships basically 0:05:24.480 --> 0:05:27.039 run its course at that point. Have you two ever 0:05:27.240 --> 0:05:30.080 gone through your significant other's phone and asked them to 0:05:30.160 --> 0:05:34.600 delete something like a picture or maybe you mean like, hey, 0:05:34.640 --> 0:05:36.480 you still follow this person? I don't really like it. 0:05:36.560 --> 0:05:40.960 Can you one follow? Probably? I do remember for some 0:05:41.080 --> 0:05:42.680 reason this thing that sticks out to me. When I 0:05:42.720 --> 0:05:44.760 was in college, I was dating a girl and she 0:05:45.000 --> 0:05:47.480 posted an album on Facebook, and I think like in 0:05:47.560 --> 0:05:50.200 one of the pictures, like her top row down a 0:05:50.240 --> 0:05:51.839 little too much and so like like part of her 0:05:51.880 --> 0:05:54.760 nip was sticking out, and as a courtesy, I was like, hey, 0:05:54.839 --> 0:05:56.520 just so you know, your nipples like kind of sticking 0:05:56.520 --> 0:05:58.680 out in this picture, and she like immediately deleted it. 0:05:58.720 --> 0:05:59.800 But that was like the only time I think I've 0:05:59.839 --> 0:06:02.640 ever just as a heads up, you went full Janet 0:06:02.760 --> 0:06:05.800 Jackson super Bowl two thousand five. Yeah, you might want 0:06:05.839 --> 0:06:08.440 to delete that photo. I never asked Ashley to delete 0:06:08.440 --> 0:06:11.800 a photo, but she did delete one because she knew 0:06:12.640 --> 0:06:15.560 that it really pissed me off. So I didn't ask 0:06:15.600 --> 0:06:16.920 her to do it, but she just knew how I 0:06:17.000 --> 0:06:19.600 felt about it, so she did it voluntarily, which was 0:06:19.760 --> 0:06:21.880 very sweet of her. I don't know if I've ever deleted, 0:06:22.080 --> 0:06:24.440 if she's ever asked me to delete photos on my Instagram. 0:06:24.480 --> 0:06:26.919 I don't think there's like anything. I never really dated anybody, 0:06:27.000 --> 0:06:28.800 so I don't have like any ex girl friend on 0:06:28.800 --> 0:06:31.120 my Instagram's just Facebook and my facebooks private, and then 0:06:31.560 --> 0:06:33.960 I never checked Facebook. That's funny. I think I know 0:06:34.040 --> 0:06:36.120 exactly what picture you're talking about. I think you probably do. 0:06:38.320 --> 0:06:42.679 Really was that like there was a movie reference towards 0:06:42.720 --> 0:06:47.160 another man, and uh, you know, a big movie guy, 0:06:47.440 --> 0:06:49.640 big movie guy. So that was less of her to 0:06:49.720 --> 0:06:51.600 not require you to ask, and she just did it 0:06:51.680 --> 0:06:56.160 on her own free will. Uh, I think once, but 0:06:56.320 --> 0:06:58.320 because I think we probably were talking about it one 0:06:58.400 --> 0:07:02.960 time one we were, you know, in our relationship, uncomfortable, 0:07:03.360 --> 0:07:06.680 you know, talking about like the past, and when certain 0:07:06.800 --> 0:07:09.960 situations came up that made her upset or situations that 0:07:10.040 --> 0:07:12.000 made me upset, and I probably brought it up and 0:07:12.000 --> 0:07:14.480 it was like, you know, one time I was really 0:07:14.600 --> 0:07:17.720 piste off, and you know it was when this got posted, 0:07:17.920 --> 0:07:19.520 and I never said anything because it wasn't my place. 0:07:19.640 --> 0:07:21.360 And then I think she deleted after that because she 0:07:21.520 --> 0:07:23.120 it just didn't really you know, I mean it, well, 0:07:23.400 --> 0:07:27.280 you would actually just celebrated an anniversary, right, well, we 0:07:27.400 --> 0:07:29.440 had it was one year since our engagement. This was 0:07:30.080 --> 0:07:32.760 like two or three weeks ago. I think it was 0:07:32.840 --> 0:07:34.960 more recent one year, two years since your first date 0:07:35.080 --> 0:07:37.480 or something. Oh, it was no. So when we first 0:07:37.480 --> 0:07:41.440 started dating in two I was in eighteen we um. 0:07:42.440 --> 0:07:46.680 We we went on a date to Griffith Park because 0:07:47.080 --> 0:07:49.720 I love La La Land and that's where Ryan Gosling 0:07:50.600 --> 0:07:54.240 and Emma Stone go in the movie Sorry my dog 0:07:54.360 --> 0:07:56.600 is barking in the background. If you're can hear little Lowest. 0:07:57.240 --> 0:07:59.080 She gets very excited any time I talked about La 0:07:59.160 --> 0:08:03.520 La Land. What we they went to Griffith Park and 0:08:03.600 --> 0:08:05.760 emmistone in the movie Where's the Yellow Dress? And so 0:08:06.560 --> 0:08:08.480 our first like official date as a couple, we went 0:08:08.560 --> 0:08:11.960 there where they went. Ashley wore yellow dress, We listened 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:14.400 to music, like, had drinks a out of like a 0:08:14.440 --> 0:08:16.360 little picnic, and then so we did the same thing 0:08:16.400 --> 0:08:18.160 because you know, there's nothing else to do right now, 0:08:18.280 --> 0:08:19.600 so we did the exact same thing. We went to 0:08:19.640 --> 0:08:21.200 Griffith Park, went to the same place. She wore the 0:08:21.280 --> 0:08:23.480 exact same dress. It was just a nice moment. It's 0:08:23.480 --> 0:08:25.160 been like, you know, over two and a half years 0:08:25.160 --> 0:08:28.400 since our first date as a couple, like in a relationship. 0:08:29.040 --> 0:08:31.360 So we just documented it because it's just, you know, 0:08:31.480 --> 0:08:34.480 it was cute. It was cute. You can do that 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:37.199 every year from here on until you die. Every year. 0:08:37.240 --> 0:08:40.680 But the thing is, I don't want too many anniversaries. 0:08:41.040 --> 0:08:43.600 You know, there's too many anniversaries. Anniversary of first date, 0:08:43.840 --> 0:08:48.319 anniversary of engagement, anniversary of marriage, anniversary of like the 0:08:48.400 --> 0:08:50.920 first time we saw a movie together, the anniversary of 0:08:51.000 --> 0:08:52.839 the first time we cooked together. And then you know, 0:08:52.920 --> 0:08:55.319 it's just like I was telling Ashley because there was 0:08:55.400 --> 0:08:57.240 some anniversary. She was like, oh my god, this is 0:08:58.040 --> 0:09:00.360 oh it was the anniversary when we first met in 0:09:00.679 --> 0:09:03.000 paradise and tell us a fifteen and I was like, 0:09:03.080 --> 0:09:05.640 all right, there's too many anniversaries. There's too much. It's 0:09:05.679 --> 0:09:08.280 getting diluted. It doesn't mean as much. I want to 0:09:08.320 --> 0:09:11.400 celebrate our wedding anniversary, which is coming up. That's the 0:09:11.480 --> 0:09:14.880 anniversary moving forward that we should celebrate together once a year, 0:09:15.000 --> 0:09:19.200 between birthdays, holidays, anniversaries. It's too much. We need one anniversary. 0:09:19.200 --> 0:09:22.000 And I'm settling right now. And it's almost like streams 0:09:22.200 --> 0:09:23.880 right now, because the day that we met is a 0:09:24.040 --> 0:09:26.199 very important anniversary and the only one that I will 0:09:26.600 --> 0:09:31.240 I will have to stick up for her. That was actually, hih, 0:09:31.280 --> 0:09:38.520 ladies and gentlemen, you forget everything I said. I apologize. 0:09:38.559 --> 0:09:43.520 I didn't mean, oh my god, every anniversary. The whip 0:09:43.640 --> 0:09:46.040 is so strong. The whip is so strong. I celebrate 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:51.040 every anniversary. I see so many people celebrating anniversary of engagement, 0:09:51.160 --> 0:09:53.079 and I was like, should I have been celebrating that 0:09:53.200 --> 0:09:55.800 the whole time? I'm like behind like three years, but 0:09:55.920 --> 0:10:00.640 I think the wedding isn't the wedding celebrating the engagement technically, yeah, well, 0:10:01.040 --> 0:10:04.240 I mean they're on two different days. Yes. The only 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:06.040 reason I posted about it was because it was it 0:10:06.160 --> 0:10:08.959 was well, I guess it was. It's a cute moment. 0:10:12.480 --> 0:10:14.920 Maybe you're sucking. Have you guys ever seen Parks and 0:10:14.960 --> 0:10:17.840 Record when Leslie Nope, is like the exact same as 0:10:17.840 --> 0:10:19.679 Actually it sounds like where she has like all these 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:21.840 anniversaries like first time we ate at J J Stein 0:10:21.960 --> 0:10:24.599 or first time that we said we're best friends, and 0:10:24.720 --> 0:10:27.800 then yeah, that sounds like it's you just need to 0:10:27.840 --> 0:10:29.800 have like a couple of anniversaries you got like that, 0:10:30.160 --> 0:10:33.959 maybe the wedding anniversary, maybe the first kiss anniversary, and 0:10:34.040 --> 0:10:36.040 then that's it. Well, it depends on on your stage 0:10:36.080 --> 0:10:38.400 in relationship. Like Dean, you, you and Calin have to 0:10:38.400 --> 0:10:42.440 celebrate when you guys like officially became a couple. That's 0:10:42.440 --> 0:10:44.439 like your anniversary. I feel like, yeah, we have that 0:10:44.480 --> 0:10:47.200 anniversary of the day that I dumped her as an anniversary. 0:10:49.320 --> 0:10:52.880 Oh my gosh. No, yeah, we've got all the great anniversaries. 0:10:53.000 --> 0:10:55.800 So well, I will say, though, I wonder why, like 0:10:55.880 --> 0:10:58.400 I feel like anniversaries do mean more And maybe you 0:10:58.440 --> 0:11:00.800 guys can find me on this, but I feel like 0:11:00.880 --> 0:11:04.480 the anniversaries do mean more to women than men. Yeah, 0:11:04.520 --> 0:11:08.640 I think that's probably pretty accurate, but why, Like, why 0:11:08.760 --> 0:11:10.959 doesn't that excite you as much as us? You know, 0:11:11.040 --> 0:11:13.400 it's funny we get more excited than you got. You 0:11:13.440 --> 0:11:16.199 know why that's funny You bring that up because we 0:11:16.280 --> 0:11:17.960 got a d M on help I such a dating 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:22.000 instagram and I won't say who it is, but the 0:11:22.120 --> 0:11:26.959 title is Universal Truth about Men, and so it kind 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:32.480 of segways nicely. Why maybe maybe why men don't love 0:11:32.559 --> 0:11:35.559 anniversaries as much? It says Hi Dean, Jared Tory and 0:11:35.640 --> 0:11:37.920 hopefully Mark and Easton. I am playing catch up on 0:11:38.000 --> 0:11:40.840 my podcast since Quarantine hit. Unfortunately, I have had plenty 0:11:40.880 --> 0:11:42.560 of work to keep me busy, so it has been 0:11:42.559 --> 0:11:44.440 difficult to keep up. I just listened to the episode 0:11:44.920 --> 0:11:46.959 with the first Universal Truth about men and women, and 0:11:47.040 --> 0:11:49.280 I thought I would share Universal truth about men that 0:11:49.440 --> 0:11:51.760 my mom shared with me when I was thirteen or fourteen. 0:11:52.320 --> 0:11:55.559 Men never mature past the age of twelve. Now, before 0:11:55.600 --> 0:11:58.040 you deny it and get offended like so many guys 0:11:58.120 --> 0:12:00.520 have when I said this, please hear me out. While 0:12:00.600 --> 0:12:02.800 men never mature past the age of twelve, they do 0:12:03.080 --> 0:12:07.640 learn and adapt to act age appropriately and make appropriate decisions. However, 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:10.360 they can only maintain their cover for so long, and 0:12:10.440 --> 0:12:14.079 we'll always have a friend, group of friends, video game, movie, band, 0:12:14.200 --> 0:12:16.240 or something that brings out the twelve year old. They 0:12:16.320 --> 0:12:20.079 really are, often with alcohol involved. I have headed this 0:12:20.160 --> 0:12:23.360 advice and believe it has saved me many nights of 0:12:23.400 --> 0:12:26.480 confusion and questioning the male gender. It has not, though, 0:12:26.559 --> 0:12:29.800 saved my fiance from numerous eye rolls when his twelve 0:12:29.880 --> 0:12:33.240 year old and his friends appear. Thanks for always keeping 0:12:33.280 --> 0:12:36.520 it interesting and provided professor perspectives from daters and those 0:12:36.520 --> 0:12:40.320 of his committed relationships to universal truth. Uh. If universal 0:12:40.360 --> 0:12:43.040 Truce were a one hit wonder, than please disregard love 0:12:43.120 --> 0:12:47.839 you all. Uh. So this woman thinks that men don't age, 0:12:48.440 --> 0:12:51.640 don't mature past the past the age of twelve. I 0:12:51.720 --> 0:12:54.679 think twelve is a little Uh, she's short changing us 0:12:54.679 --> 0:12:57.480 a little bit. Maybe they just sixteen. I wish people 0:12:57.600 --> 0:12:59.760 could see Dean right now and what he looks like, 0:13:00.240 --> 0:13:07.319 because he looks like you guessed it. I'm trying to 0:13:07.440 --> 0:13:09.880 provide the best audio for you guys out here. Okay, 0:13:09.920 --> 0:13:11.840 I'm trying to. I'm working with different things, but I'm 0:13:11.880 --> 0:13:15.719 not blanket. By the way, it's a frozen blanket, rosen blanket. Yeah. No, 0:13:15.880 --> 0:13:19.320 we really mature past the age of twelve. We're listen. 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:23.079 I do think though, this is my universal truth. You 0:13:23.160 --> 0:13:26.720 always subtract four years when dating a man. So I'm 0:13:26.800 --> 0:13:29.600 twenty five, if I date another twenty five year old, 0:13:29.600 --> 0:13:32.760 I'm technically dating a twenty one year old. Well wise, 0:13:32.880 --> 0:13:35.160 not technically, it's definitely it's kind of like the opposite 0:13:35.200 --> 0:13:39.719 of whatever technically is what says the men wearing. And 0:13:40.760 --> 0:13:45.439 you add years to a woman's age for maturity, then like, no, 0:13:45.600 --> 0:13:49.120 I think we're pretty like when you guys are perfect right, Yes, 0:13:49.200 --> 0:13:51.680 women don't need any work. I forgot about that that too, 0:13:51.880 --> 0:13:54.959 But also scientifically, like men's like frontal lobes and like 0:13:55.120 --> 0:13:58.319 neurons don't fully connect until they're twenty six or twenty eight, 0:13:58.800 --> 0:14:01.240 and women are as connect at the age of eighteen. 0:14:01.320 --> 0:14:03.800 So I feel like after eighteen, we're pretty much like 0:14:04.160 --> 0:14:09.160 maturity wise there at the same age that we are. 0:14:09.520 --> 0:14:12.560 For men, You guys, you got to subtract four years, 0:14:12.679 --> 0:14:16.480 Like I dating is actually really hard because you're technically 0:14:16.559 --> 0:14:17.959 dating the guy who still would love to be like 0:14:18.040 --> 0:14:19.800 drunk at a club, maybe taking a line of coke. 0:14:20.480 --> 0:14:23.240 So when you're like so, when you're sixty five, though 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:24.960 you're going to really be dating the sixty one year 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:29.440 old and that's when it really that's full stride. Maybe. Um, 0:14:29.600 --> 0:14:31.920 that's interesting. Yeah, I think that really only applies to 0:14:32.040 --> 0:14:34.920 like late twenties and before, because once you get to 0:14:35.000 --> 0:14:37.560 like forty four or thirty six, really isn't that big 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:39.560 of a difference. I guess I do agree that men. 0:14:40.040 --> 0:14:42.720 I think it's pretty universally understood that men take a 0:14:42.760 --> 0:14:47.160 little bit longer to mature than women do. Uh. Speaking 0:14:47.200 --> 0:14:49.760 from my personal experience, I still think that I have 0:14:49.880 --> 0:14:52.720 got some ways to go here obviously, But it did, 0:14:52.800 --> 0:14:56.440 it did. It did come in more force in my 0:14:56.600 --> 0:14:59.160 late twenties. Uh. And so I do agree with you 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:00.560 when I was twenty five, if I was acting like 0:15:00.640 --> 0:15:04.000 I was twenty one. Still. Um, But I don't know 0:15:04.000 --> 0:15:05.440 about the twelve year old thing. I don't know if 0:15:05.440 --> 0:15:07.320 we stayed twelve forever, Jared, what do you think? I 0:15:07.320 --> 0:15:08.720 don't know. There is a part of me that's twelve 0:15:08.800 --> 0:15:10.400 years old. Like I always say, I'm a kid at heart. 0:15:10.880 --> 0:15:12.200 I mean, talk to me when I go to like 0:15:12.320 --> 0:15:15.520 Disney World, I'm I'm not even twelve. I'm seven when 0:15:15.560 --> 0:15:17.360 I go to Disney World. Or how I talk about 0:15:17.400 --> 0:15:19.400 Tom Brady, I mean that is a twelve year old. 0:15:19.520 --> 0:15:22.600 When I talk about Tom Brady, I am twelve years old, 0:15:22.840 --> 0:15:24.720 So I don't know. There's a part of me that 0:15:24.800 --> 0:15:27.160 agrees with it. Um, But we do have to get 0:15:27.200 --> 0:15:30.720 to Jen Kirsh. That's what I was gonna segway too. Yeah, 0:15:31.000 --> 0:15:33.040 Jen Kersh is not twelve years old, and we will 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:34.800 not talk to her like twelve year old side there, 0:15:34.920 --> 0:15:36.920 So quick wrap up with the first one. Uh, you 0:15:37.000 --> 0:15:41.040 should have passwords to your significant others phones. We're all 0:15:41.080 --> 0:15:47.640 in agreeance on that one. Yeah, yes and no. All right, 0:15:47.640 --> 0:15:49.120 maybe we can pick that up at a later time. 0:15:50.280 --> 0:15:52.280 If you have to go through your significant other's phone, 0:15:53.360 --> 0:15:56.840 probably some bigger issues there, so maybe get out of 0:15:56.880 --> 0:15:59.840 that relationship. Hopefully it doesn't come to that. Yeah, I 0:16:00.000 --> 0:16:03.080 think that's tattoo and men. Uh don't mature past the 0:16:03.120 --> 0:16:04.760 age of twelve. Alright, so we're all in agreeance on 0:16:04.880 --> 0:16:06.680 that one. We have Jen Kirsh coming up. She's calling 0:16:06.720 --> 0:16:09.440 in right now. But before we talk to her, let's 0:16:09.480 --> 0:16:23.040 take a quick break. Welcome back to help I suck 0:16:23.120 --> 0:16:25.160 at dating. We have very special guests who's on the 0:16:25.240 --> 0:16:28.000 line right now. She's the host of the podcast lock 0:16:28.320 --> 0:16:30.760 Down Love and if you're looking for love during Quarantine, 0:16:30.840 --> 0:16:33.520 this is the podcast to listen to. Also our podcast 0:16:33.560 --> 0:16:36.240 obviously we have Jen Kersch on the line. Jen thanks 0:16:36.240 --> 0:16:38.360 for so much for joining us. Yeah, thank you guys 0:16:38.400 --> 0:16:42.920 for having me on here. Oh you're welcome. I gotta 0:16:43.000 --> 0:16:45.640 tell you, guys, I was listening to the to a 0:16:45.720 --> 0:16:48.160 recent episode of Yours where you had some singles on 0:16:48.280 --> 0:16:52.440 talking about their quarantine dating experiences. What do you think? 0:16:52.800 --> 0:16:55.440 I was like, I probably look like a crazy person 0:16:55.640 --> 0:16:59.640 walking down the street talking to them. Like my I 0:16:59.760 --> 0:17:02.400 had like my head set in and I'm literally talking 0:17:02.440 --> 0:17:04.320 to them. I wanted to give them all advice and 0:17:04.400 --> 0:17:07.520 tell them what they were doing right and wrong, especially 0:17:07.640 --> 0:17:10.600 the ones that we're talking about hitting up x is 0:17:13.560 --> 0:17:17.800 yet not acute. Look, it's so easy. It's so easy. 0:17:17.920 --> 0:17:20.560 We want to be like validated and loved and cared 0:17:20.640 --> 0:17:23.960 for and connecting with someone during these times when it's 0:17:24.000 --> 0:17:27.640 such a challenge to find connection when we're all locked 0:17:27.680 --> 0:17:30.240 down at our homes. But like the ex is, there's 0:17:30.280 --> 0:17:33.760 a reason it ended. I like to think, like, let's 0:17:33.800 --> 0:17:35.480 not go back and do a way back. Like I 0:17:35.560 --> 0:17:38.359 agree with what you saying it's almost it's like lazy almost. Yeah, 0:17:38.760 --> 0:17:42.399 like people do. I think they glorify their relationship and 0:17:42.480 --> 0:17:44.320 so when they look back on it, they only think 0:17:44.320 --> 0:17:46.400 of the good times and then they forget about all 0:17:46.400 --> 0:17:48.359 the bad times. And then when they get back together 0:17:48.480 --> 0:17:52.920 with their X, they realized, oh, that's right, we have 0:17:53.080 --> 0:17:58.399 more differences than we do similarities, right. And then there's 0:17:58.440 --> 0:18:01.800 a thing that comes with comfort of an X is 0:18:02.040 --> 0:18:04.680 that there's a comfort of getting back into the bad 0:18:04.760 --> 0:18:09.360 habits of fighting or arguing. So it's just a dangerous 0:18:09.640 --> 0:18:11.960 area and territory. It's I feel like we need to 0:18:12.040 --> 0:18:16.000 like treat ourselves better and you know, reach higher and 0:18:16.160 --> 0:18:18.760 challenge ourselves to get to know other people during this 0:18:18.960 --> 0:18:21.600 time because a lot of us, dependent on where we're living, 0:18:21.640 --> 0:18:24.200 are still stuck indoors. All right, gen, let me ask 0:18:24.240 --> 0:18:25.680 you how are we going to do that? Though? That's 0:18:25.720 --> 0:18:28.159 the question at hand right now, is because even in 0:18:28.280 --> 0:18:30.600 your podcast you talk about like you want to meet 0:18:30.600 --> 0:18:33.000 new people, but you want to do it smartly. And 0:18:33.200 --> 0:18:36.080 so what advice do you have for single people out 0:18:36.119 --> 0:18:39.359 there who are going through a period of loneliness and 0:18:39.440 --> 0:18:42.959 don't want to text their X. But also, how can 0:18:43.000 --> 0:18:45.960 you safely meet someone new. I mean, you've got to 0:18:46.000 --> 0:18:49.040 put yourself out there a bit. And I mean I 0:18:49.200 --> 0:18:51.840 used to always say to people for advice, like prince 0:18:51.960 --> 0:18:54.960 charming or Princess charming, whatever you want to say is 0:18:55.040 --> 0:18:56.719 not going to show up in your den or your 0:18:56.760 --> 0:18:59.359 bedroom while you're sitting at home like eating Derrito's. But 0:18:59.520 --> 0:19:02.840 now they can visa VR phone, which is really great, 0:19:03.240 --> 0:19:05.960 So like shoot your shot. If you're interested in someone 0:19:06.000 --> 0:19:08.560 of someone's future interest, now it was a great time 0:19:08.640 --> 0:19:11.000 to see if there's something there because you're not going 0:19:11.080 --> 0:19:14.080 to mess around with hooking up to student and all 0:19:14.160 --> 0:19:16.840 these other things that get in the way. So slide 0:19:16.880 --> 0:19:19.800 into the d m s. Maybe go on dating apps 0:19:19.880 --> 0:19:21.440 if you haven't tried them and you want to meet 0:19:21.480 --> 0:19:25.080 someone outside your circle, or maybe there's someone inside your 0:19:25.160 --> 0:19:27.480 circle or someone that's caught your eye that you could 0:19:27.520 --> 0:19:30.119 reach out to. And I think the d m s, 0:19:30.280 --> 0:19:32.119 I mean, I know you guys have talked about d 0:19:32.320 --> 0:19:34.480 m s and getting d ms from people and other 0:19:34.560 --> 0:19:37.320 guests talking about them, but it's such a great way 0:19:37.440 --> 0:19:39.600 to connect with someone and see if there's an interest 0:19:39.680 --> 0:19:42.480 there because you're making yourself known right off the bat. 0:19:43.680 --> 0:19:47.320 I gotta say just uh kind of on topics. Kaitlin 0:19:47.359 --> 0:19:49.399 and I went out to dinner last week and we 0:19:49.760 --> 0:19:52.840 we sat outside as other restaurants in Santa Monica allow, 0:19:53.480 --> 0:19:55.440 and I feel like we saw a lot of people 0:19:55.800 --> 0:19:58.199