1 00:00:20,760 --> 00:00:23,840 Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Emily a baddie here. Yeah, listening to a 2 00:00:23,880 --> 00:00:30,960 Speaker 1: five Minute Friday man. Admittedly, I'm recording this probably not 3 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:33,280 Speaker 1: all that long before you listen to it, which is 4 00:00:33,320 --> 00:00:36,600 Speaker 1: a little out of character for me. But it's been 5 00:00:36,840 --> 00:00:40,280 Speaker 1: a hectic week, and when I thought about what I 6 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:44,000 Speaker 1: wanted to talk about for five Minute Friday earlier in 7 00:00:44,040 --> 00:00:48,880 Speaker 1: the week, I realized that I knew it would come 8 00:00:48,920 --> 00:00:53,360 Speaker 1: to me after the day's events on Thursday. And that's 9 00:00:53,400 --> 00:00:56,800 Speaker 1: because yesterday I had the opportunity to go to the 10 00:00:57,280 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 1: espn W Summit. It's been something that's on It's been 11 00:01:01,480 --> 00:01:04,760 Speaker 1: on my bucket list for a really long time. I 12 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:07,080 Speaker 1: just it was one of those events that when it 13 00:01:07,080 --> 00:01:09,920 Speaker 1: would happen a year after year, I would make note 14 00:01:09,920 --> 00:01:11,600 Speaker 1: of it, a mental note, and I would write it 15 00:01:11,640 --> 00:01:14,000 Speaker 1: down and I would say, Okay, next year, I'm going 16 00:01:14,040 --> 00:01:16,119 Speaker 1: to figure out how to get myself into the espn 17 00:01:16,319 --> 00:01:18,200 Speaker 1: W summit. Next year, I'm going to figure out how 18 00:01:18,240 --> 00:01:21,880 Speaker 1: to make this happen. And finally, this year, as I 19 00:01:21,959 --> 00:01:24,680 Speaker 1: was setting my goals, which is something I will talk 20 00:01:24,760 --> 00:01:29,160 Speaker 1: about shortly answering the listener question, I made a note 21 00:01:29,319 --> 00:01:31,560 Speaker 1: to check in when it was and figure out how 22 00:01:31,560 --> 00:01:33,640 Speaker 1: to get myself in and so that's exactly what I did. 23 00:01:34,160 --> 00:01:37,240 Speaker 1: And let me tell you what an inspiring day it is. 24 00:01:37,400 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 1: So you know, as a solo entrepreneur, I feel like 25 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:44,039 Speaker 1: that's like a jazzy term, But I do a lot 26 00:01:44,080 --> 00:01:47,240 Speaker 1: of this stuff on my own right, and it can 27 00:01:47,400 --> 00:01:50,440 Speaker 1: feel really lonely. And I know that I'm not the 28 00:01:50,440 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 1: only woman who wants to tell the stories of women 29 00:01:54,240 --> 00:01:57,680 Speaker 1: in wellness and woman in sport and push for more 30 00:01:57,760 --> 00:02:02,120 Speaker 1: coverage of women in sport. But sometimes when I'm at 31 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 1: my desk and I'm doing this solo and I'm making 32 00:02:04,080 --> 00:02:06,960 Speaker 1: this podcast, I can feel really alone in my mission. 33 00:02:07,360 --> 00:02:09,440 Speaker 1: And today I was reminded that that is not the 34 00:02:09,520 --> 00:02:12,919 Speaker 1: case at all. To be in a room surrounded by 35 00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:17,040 Speaker 1: so many powerful, awesome women, it was just such a 36 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:23,000 Speaker 1: really beautiful, beautiful day to hear the stories of rock 37 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:27,280 Speaker 1: star athletes and women telling their stories and to just 38 00:02:27,840 --> 00:02:30,800 Speaker 1: be surrounded with motivation and good vibes. I felt so 39 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:34,280 Speaker 1: grateful to be in that room. And I left the 40 00:02:34,360 --> 00:02:38,359 Speaker 1: conference and I do this thing after moments, kind of 41 00:02:38,360 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 1: bucket list moments for me, and I said that this 42 00:02:40,280 --> 00:02:43,240 Speaker 1: was on my bucket list, and I always take myself 43 00:02:43,520 --> 00:02:45,880 Speaker 1: out to reflect and I take myself on a date. 44 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:47,760 Speaker 1: And so I was sitting at a bar down the 45 00:02:47,800 --> 00:02:50,520 Speaker 1: street after the summit, and I was writing in my 46 00:02:50,639 --> 00:02:52,560 Speaker 1: journal and I feel like I should grab it right 47 00:02:52,600 --> 00:02:57,200 Speaker 1: now because it really sums up what I was thinking. Okay, 48 00:02:57,720 --> 00:03:00,840 Speaker 1: I just plopped it on my desk. Okay, I wrote, 49 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:04,920 Speaker 1: I'm sitting here looking out the window at the sunset 50 00:03:04,960 --> 00:03:08,880 Speaker 1: that's going down beyond the Brooklyn Bridge, and thinking to myself, 51 00:03:08,960 --> 00:03:11,560 Speaker 1: when exactly did I get here? When did I get 52 00:03:11,560 --> 00:03:14,240 Speaker 1: this seat at the table? And now I feel as 53 00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:16,400 Speaker 1: though it is important to ask myself what is it 54 00:03:16,440 --> 00:03:19,400 Speaker 1: that I will do with this seat. I dreamt of 55 00:03:19,480 --> 00:03:22,359 Speaker 1: being in this position. And although I don't have everything 56 00:03:22,400 --> 00:03:25,200 Speaker 1: that I've ever wanted, and I don't expect to just 57 00:03:25,320 --> 00:03:28,920 Speaker 1: yet and maybe never will, I understand that what I 58 00:03:29,080 --> 00:03:32,040 Speaker 1: want is within my reach, maybe now more than ever, 59 00:03:32,120 --> 00:03:38,600 Speaker 1: and it is my opportunity and obligation to go after it. Wow, okay, 60 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:44,360 Speaker 1: am oka m I just felt it was so serendipitous, 61 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:46,200 Speaker 1: Like I was just sitting there and literally thinking of 62 00:03:46,240 --> 00:03:49,480 Speaker 1: that quote that's on the little letter board that's sitting 63 00:03:49,480 --> 00:03:52,800 Speaker 1: behind me in my office, and it says, remember when 64 00:03:52,800 --> 00:03:55,960 Speaker 1: you wanted what you have now and there are so 65 00:03:56,040 --> 00:03:59,040 Speaker 1: many more things that I want. But Emily, when she 66 00:03:59,200 --> 00:04:02,880 Speaker 1: moved to New York back in god twenty and twelve, 67 00:04:03,320 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 1: yes twenty twelve, never could have, in her wildest dreams 68 00:04:08,320 --> 00:04:11,520 Speaker 1: thought that she'd be doing what she's doing. My dreams 69 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:14,720 Speaker 1: at that point, like they weren't even to where I am. 70 00:04:15,040 --> 00:04:18,480 Speaker 1: And it's a reminder for me, and in turn now 71 00:04:18,520 --> 00:04:21,039 Speaker 1: as I record this, or reminder for you, to not 72 00:04:21,160 --> 00:04:24,960 Speaker 1: only dream big, but to remember when you want it 73 00:04:25,040 --> 00:04:28,360 Speaker 1: exactly that what you have right now. And it can 74 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:31,200 Speaker 1: be both right. You can be grateful for where you've 75 00:04:31,240 --> 00:04:34,919 Speaker 1: come from and grateful for all that you have, while 76 00:04:35,000 --> 00:04:38,160 Speaker 1: also recognizing that there is more that you want, and 77 00:04:38,200 --> 00:04:41,320 Speaker 1: that's okay, right. That's why we continue to set goals, 78 00:04:41,400 --> 00:04:44,080 Speaker 1: we continue to go after the things that we want 79 00:04:44,240 --> 00:04:49,680 Speaker 1: because we have that chance and we can always level up. 80 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:51,880 Speaker 1: Every day is a new opportunity. And yeah, that might 81 00:04:51,960 --> 00:04:55,520 Speaker 1: sound a little cliche, but it is so dang true, 82 00:04:56,560 --> 00:04:59,039 Speaker 1: and so a huge thank you to the folks at 83 00:04:59,080 --> 00:05:01,760 Speaker 1: the espnW and I had such an amazing time today. 84 00:05:02,040 --> 00:05:05,280 Speaker 1: It's a really really special moment for me, and I'm 85 00:05:05,320 --> 00:05:08,720 Speaker 1: excited to dream big and think about how I can 86 00:05:09,200 --> 00:05:12,839 Speaker 1: come back, maybe in a different capacity in the years 87 00:05:12,839 --> 00:05:17,120 Speaker 1: to come. My problem for you this week, hit me 88 00:05:17,160 --> 00:05:20,560 Speaker 1: with your goals. What's one thing that you are after 89 00:05:20,760 --> 00:05:23,080 Speaker 1: and what's one thing that you have right now that 90 00:05:23,120 --> 00:05:27,560 Speaker 1: you dreamt of years ago? What is one thing that 91 00:05:27,600 --> 00:05:30,719 Speaker 1: you are after and what is one thing you have 92 00:05:31,000 --> 00:05:36,159 Speaker 1: now that you dreamt of years ago? And now a 93 00:05:36,240 --> 00:05:37,040 Speaker 1: listener question. 94 00:05:38,160 --> 00:05:41,760 Speaker 2: Hey, Hamiy, Recently on your Instagram stories, you had posted 95 00:05:41,760 --> 00:05:44,560 Speaker 2: that you were doing some Q two goal setting. I'd 96 00:05:44,560 --> 00:05:47,240 Speaker 2: love to hear about your quarterly goal setting process, how 97 00:05:47,279 --> 00:05:50,200 Speaker 2: you hold yourself accountable, and how you track your progress. 98 00:05:50,560 --> 00:05:52,560 Speaker 1: All right, all right, I told you that we would 99 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:55,520 Speaker 1: be talking about goals, so here I am. I break 100 00:05:55,560 --> 00:06:00,000 Speaker 1: down my goals every year into a myriad of category. 101 00:06:00,240 --> 00:06:04,520 Speaker 1: We've got health, finance, working career, which yes, working career 102 00:06:04,600 --> 00:06:09,480 Speaker 1: can be tied at times into finance, relationships, personal growth. 103 00:06:09,160 --> 00:06:10,480 Speaker 2: And travel. 104 00:06:10,839 --> 00:06:14,120 Speaker 1: I set goals for the entire year at the top 105 00:06:14,160 --> 00:06:16,760 Speaker 1: of the year, and then I break them up into 106 00:06:16,960 --> 00:06:21,360 Speaker 1: thirteen week increments. I use a journal, and I've talked 107 00:06:21,400 --> 00:06:23,240 Speaker 1: about this on the show before, but it is the 108 00:06:23,279 --> 00:06:27,840 Speaker 1: best self co journal. I use their thirteen week journal 109 00:06:28,040 --> 00:06:31,520 Speaker 1: to really dive into this. I find it extremely helpful 110 00:06:31,520 --> 00:06:34,000 Speaker 1: and I'll link it in the show notes. And as 111 00:06:34,040 --> 00:06:36,400 Speaker 1: a part of this process, I roped in one of 112 00:06:36,440 --> 00:06:40,600 Speaker 1: my dearest friends and not only did we both set goals, 113 00:06:40,920 --> 00:06:43,400 Speaker 1: but then at the time she was visiting family in 114 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:45,719 Speaker 1: Arizona at the top of the year, we hopped on 115 00:06:45,800 --> 00:06:48,600 Speaker 1: a zoom and we talked about our goals. And then 116 00:06:49,120 --> 00:06:53,880 Speaker 1: at the a few weeks into Q two recently and 117 00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:56,400 Speaker 1: this is the story that you're referencing from my instagram, 118 00:06:56,720 --> 00:06:59,320 Speaker 1: we sat back down and we went over the progress 119 00:06:59,320 --> 00:07:03,120 Speaker 1: of our goals. We reevaluated and got honest about where 120 00:07:03,360 --> 00:07:06,560 Speaker 1: we are in the progress, and then if there was 121 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:08,960 Speaker 1: any pivoting that needs to happen, or perhaps a shift 122 00:07:08,960 --> 00:07:11,760 Speaker 1: in priorities, we address that and set new goals. And 123 00:07:12,080 --> 00:07:14,680 Speaker 1: I think that's my biggest tip when it comes to 124 00:07:15,400 --> 00:07:19,280 Speaker 1: setting goals. Two tips. One break them into quarters. So 125 00:07:19,320 --> 00:07:22,000 Speaker 1: I said, I have this thirteen week journal. It's so helpful. 126 00:07:22,280 --> 00:07:25,320 Speaker 1: I literally just ordered my second installment of this journal. 127 00:07:25,400 --> 00:07:29,240 Speaker 1: Because the journal itself only lasts you for thirteen weeks. 128 00:07:29,520 --> 00:07:32,320 Speaker 1: I would say for thirty dollars. It is an amazing 129 00:07:32,440 --> 00:07:36,880 Speaker 1: investment in myself. And the second tip, aside from breaking 130 00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:40,800 Speaker 1: them up into quarters and revisiting them every quarter is 131 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:43,520 Speaker 1: to pull in a buddy. So I'm so lucky that 132 00:07:43,680 --> 00:07:48,239 Speaker 1: I surround myself with a lot of outrageously awesome women 133 00:07:48,680 --> 00:07:52,040 Speaker 1: who are driven and excited and motivated and make me 134 00:07:52,160 --> 00:07:54,480 Speaker 1: feel seen by the way that I like to do 135 00:07:54,520 --> 00:07:58,720 Speaker 1: my goal setting, including my friend Ashley calling you out, 136 00:07:58,760 --> 00:08:01,200 Speaker 1: who is the one that I have been doing this 137 00:08:01,280 --> 00:08:05,120 Speaker 1: exercise with for twenty twenty three So by pulling in 138 00:08:05,120 --> 00:08:08,280 Speaker 1: a friend, it keeps me accountable. And then as the 139 00:08:08,360 --> 00:08:10,760 Speaker 1: days go on and I feel like I may be 140 00:08:10,840 --> 00:08:13,880 Speaker 1: struggling with my goals or I could really use a lifeline, 141 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:17,440 Speaker 1: so to speak, I know that my friend has got 142 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:21,080 Speaker 1: my back. So break it up into quarters, pull a 143 00:08:21,120 --> 00:08:24,480 Speaker 1: friend into the mix for that extra level of accountability, 144 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:27,080 Speaker 1: and trust me, he won't reg at it. If you 145 00:08:27,120 --> 00:08:29,920 Speaker 1: have any other questions about goal setting, tips, tricks, whatever 146 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:32,120 Speaker 1: I can help you with, I am here as well 147 00:08:32,360 --> 00:08:34,840 Speaker 1: as all the other topics. My dms are open, and 148 00:08:35,000 --> 00:08:38,680 Speaker 1: so is the hurdle voicemailed. Leave me a voice message 149 00:08:38,720 --> 00:08:41,160 Speaker 1: and ask me a question to get answered on an 150 00:08:41,240 --> 00:08:43,640 Speaker 1: upcoming episode of the show. You know how to reach me. 151 00:08:43,720 --> 00:08:47,640 Speaker 1: The link is in the show notes another hurdle conquered. 152 00:08:48,080 --> 00:08:49,120 Speaker 1: Catch you guys next time.