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Speaker 4: Oh you, I won't let my sister attend her own

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Speaker 4: son's wedding.

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Speaker 1: Can you break down that family tree for me again?

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Speaker 4: Trigger warning grief and substance abuse. I'm a forty seven female.

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Speaker 4: My nephew, Joey twenty one, is getting married in two

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Speaker 4: weeks and his mother, Judy, forty five, is trying to come,

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Speaker 4: but I've adamantly told her not to come because of

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Speaker 4: how much crap she's put him through in recent years.

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Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, I'm.

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Speaker 2: Riley, and I'm Keon. Introduced Chip and this is Jee.

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Speaker 4: You can't hear him though, and OHP says when Joey

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Speaker 4: was eighteen, he was in a car accident with his father.

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Speaker 4: His father passed away a few days later. I know

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Speaker 4: all of this was triggered by my sister's grief and

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Speaker 4: trying to be mindful of that. First, she purposely missed

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Speaker 4: his high school graduation because she couldn't imagine being there

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Speaker 4: without his father. So now he doesn't get either of

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's his fault.

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Speaker 4: Joey was understanding, and thankfully me and his girlfriend now

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Speaker 4: fiance's family were there for him. Judy insisted on still

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Speaker 4: hosting a graduation party a week or so later. I

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Speaker 4: until the end. When I got there, most of the

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Speaker 4: guests had left, and Judy was a wasted mess and

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Speaker 4: was wailing about her husband's passing. I told Joey to

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Speaker 4: pack a bag and to come to my house for

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Speaker 4: the week, which he did. Judy swore she would do

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Speaker 4: better and begged him to come back home, which again

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Speaker 4: he did. A couple months went by and Joey asked

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Speaker 4: had been totaled. He looked terrible when I got him,

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Speaker 4: so I asked him what was up. He said he

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Speaker 4: gotten laid off. I asked him how his car got

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Speaker 4: totaled and He said, Judy had crashed it driving intoxicated.

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Speaker 4: You gotta get him out of there. You have to

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Speaker 4: get him out of there. At that point, our mom

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Speaker 4: her into some sort of treatment or counseling, and she agreed,

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Speaker 4: but we later learned she never went. I take partial

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Speaker 4: responsibility for not following up. Yeah, you have to follow

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Speaker 4: up on those things.

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Speaker 1: In a way. I have to, Yeah, because now you

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Speaker 1: were basically his father figure and parent in a way

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Speaker 1: because this woman, he's a woman. Oh still be a

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Speaker 4: It's a woman.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well you're still you're a parent figure in this

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Speaker 1: child's life growing into an adult, and you probably need

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Speaker 1: to step up. You don't have to, but you can

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Speaker 4: Yeah. Some months later, Joey called me again, this time

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Speaker 4: didn't go into treatment, but he said things had calmed down.

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Speaker 4: After a few months, he stopped responding to calls and

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Speaker 4: Throughout all this he has been supported by his fiance.

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Speaker 4: her occasional social media posts. They got engaged, and her

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Speaker 4: they've chosen to have. As far as I knew, things

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Speaker 4: She said Joey needed my help and asked if she

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Speaker 4: This is concerning Get Joey out of there.

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Speaker 1: I get grieving. She needs a lot of help too.

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Speaker 4: I mean, she's clearly spiraling.

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Speaker 1: She's spiraling, she's being dependent on adult drinks.

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Speaker 4: She's also dependent on her son way more than she

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Speaker 4: Joey said, this has been going on for months, and

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Speaker 4: Joey told her not to come. She went all weepy

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 1: I imagine she gets through the wedding and they say

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Speaker 4: And she just goes off. Yeah, he doesn't want to

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Speaker 1: This is what Joey wants. And good on? Is that right? Chip?

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Speaker 2: That's what it made? A noise chip made like a

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Speaker 4: I don't know if he wants.

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Speaker 1: I think he's comfortable.

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Speaker 2: I think he likes that. He does have a lot

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Speaker 2: of Actually.

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Speaker 1: Take a little line, anyway.

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Speaker 2: You've been yawning a bunch, buddy. Have you not been sleeping?

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Speaker 1: All he has been every time I see was on

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Speaker 1: drunk like But good on you, Yes by Joey. Because

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Speaker 1: Joey needs some unconditional love. I don't. I wouldn't say

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Speaker 4: She's just she's not she's not stable, you know what? Actual,

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Speaker 4: And he needs a stable parental figure in his life.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and loving someone is stabilized.

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Speaker 4: Anyway, comments not the Ahle. Judy has proven time and

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Speaker 4: His mother should be ashamed of herself, as should all

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Speaker 4: Joey deserves a happy wedding. Thank you for helping him

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Speaker 4: and his fiance. CO two, I'm with you. She doesn't

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Speaker 4: bite me. Where were you when I was dealing with

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Speaker 4: this crap show for the last three years? Yeah, dude,

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Speaker 4: hold on Comma three. You've mentioned trying to get your

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Speaker 1: That's I've never really thought of that.

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Speaker 4: I agree with that commentary, he says. I'm not sure.

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Speaker 4: I know when he was working every waking hour of

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Speaker 4: the day, he probably wasn't and there is an update,

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Speaker 4: But yeah, absolutely get this kid into therapy.

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Speaker 1: He needs it.

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Speaker 4: He needs it.

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Speaker 1: I mean, he's.

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Speaker 4: Lost kind of a lot in the past couple of years.

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Speaker 1: And he's working himself too.

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Speaker 4: And also trying to take care of his mom. Like

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Speaker 4: it's not even you haven't lost your mom, but because

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Speaker 4: your life much much harder, you know, I think you've

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you haven't lost the person, but you have

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Speaker 4: Well, My point though, is like it's a little bit

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Speaker 4: different than him losing his dad because she's still there

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Speaker 4: making his life harder.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I meant like, you lost the support of

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Speaker 1: a mother, but you didn't your mom's still there, but

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Speaker 1: you lost your mother. No.

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Speaker 4: I agree, update, things have still been hard, but I'll

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Speaker 4: try to be brief.

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Speaker 1: Oh boy.

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Speaker 4: First, joe spent two days stomach sick, but kept working

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, this poor kid.

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Speaker 4: So that was lovely for him. Judy and I went

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Speaker 4: I was planning on going with Joey to get his

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Speaker 1: Agreed. But guys, we got another very happy story.

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Speaker 1: I left my best friend's wedding halfway through.

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Speaker 1: I twenty five female have been best friends with Kara

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Speaker 1: I'm Riley.

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Speaker 2: I'm Sophia, and I'm Keon.

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Speaker 1: We have Chip here with us, and oh Pie says,

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Speaker 1: He didn't mention me at all. I laughed it off

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Speaker 4: and you do that like that. If my friends said that,

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Speaker 4: No, dang, you don't have a lot of work with

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Speaker 4: She's jealous of you.

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Speaker 1: Well I got home, my phone blew up with text

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Speaker 4: Hey, are you okay? You said you weren't feeling well?

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Speaker 4: The a hole. No, No, she was mean. She bullied

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Speaker 4: Yeah, she just wants you to look bad.

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Speaker 1: You have no way of knowing what she said about you,

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Speaker 1: but you do have an inkling, giving that her mother

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Speaker 1: that's a good point.

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Speaker 1: If you're if, like you know, someone's your your significant

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Speaker 4: Mm hmm wit what yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, uh huh what did you mean?

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, okay, exactly all right then period? I agree,

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Speaker 2: sure precisely gladly cleared that up.

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Speaker 1: if she had an issue with your behavior, she should

441
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Speaker 1: have sat down like an adult with you and explained

442
00:19:28,000 --> 00:19:30,760
Speaker 1: what a problem was, not send her flying monkey mom

443
00:19:30,800 --> 00:19:32,840
Speaker 1: and brother in law to tell you, she said, then

444
00:19:32,880 --> 00:19:34,679
Speaker 1: blow you off when you try to talk to her

445
00:19:34,720 --> 00:19:37,000
Speaker 1: about it. Notice she didn't say she was hurt or

446
00:19:37,080 --> 00:19:39,679
Speaker 1: upset that you left. She said it made her look bad. Yep,

447
00:19:39,840 --> 00:19:43,560
Speaker 1: and it should. But she wasn't concern about anyone's feeling

448
00:19:43,760 --> 00:19:46,879
Speaker 1: or stay of your friendship. She was concerned about a reputation.

449
00:19:47,160 --> 00:19:50,000
Speaker 1: You have a friend problem here, not a friend husband problem.

450
00:19:50,040 --> 00:19:53,080
Speaker 1: If she valued your friendship, she wouldn't let him treat

451
00:19:53,119 --> 00:19:56,359
Speaker 1: you so crappy or make digs at you in front

452
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Speaker 1: of an audience. It doesn't matter at least it's someone's

453
00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:03,240
Speaker 1: else this time. She should have told him that you

454
00:20:03,359 --> 00:20:06,320
Speaker 1: were off limits, and she should have talked to you

455
00:20:06,480 --> 00:20:09,359
Speaker 1: if she was insecure about something. If you want to

456
00:20:09,440 --> 00:20:12,600
Speaker 1: try savaging this friendship, invite her to coffee and clear

457
00:20:12,640 --> 00:20:15,680
Speaker 1: the air. Explain to her that you're not her husband's

458
00:20:15,720 --> 00:20:18,360
Speaker 1: emotional one. Toing bag, you were not in love with him,

459
00:20:18,560 --> 00:20:20,639
Speaker 1: and you were not putting up with the scrap. And

460
00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:23,320
Speaker 1: if she has a problem, she needs to cowgrow up

461
00:20:23,440 --> 00:20:26,320
Speaker 1: and tell you herself and explain what exactly is going on,

462
00:20:26,600 --> 00:20:29,399
Speaker 1: and not to involve a multiple third party or which

463
00:20:29,680 --> 00:20:32,600
Speaker 1: about you behind your back. This isn't elementary school and

464
00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:34,800
Speaker 1: you aren't playing telephone. If she can't handle an adult

465
00:20:34,920 --> 00:20:38,520
Speaker 1: relationship where everyone is treated with courtesy and people communicate,

466
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Speaker 1: then you're moving on. Thanks for the memories, but you're

467
00:20:41,520 --> 00:20:44,520
Speaker 1: an adult and you can socialize with adults. Yeah we

468
00:20:44,560 --> 00:20:45,119
Speaker 1: have an update.

469
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I agree, I agree. I mean you can tell

470
00:20:47,960 --> 00:20:50,639
Speaker 4: her again and be like, hey, you know, didn't appreciate

471
00:20:50,680 --> 00:20:52,240
Speaker 4: I don't care if it was your wedding day. Can't

472
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Speaker 4: treat me like that and expect that I'm just gonna

473
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Speaker 4: take it.

474
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Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, and how was somehow this day about Uopie,

475
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Speaker 1: it's wild.

476
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Speaker 4: Like you didn't do anything wrong. You did so much work,

477
00:21:03,440 --> 00:21:06,720
Speaker 4: and she was like, you're making solid about yourself. How oh, how.

478
00:21:06,920 --> 00:21:08,160
Speaker 1: Are morning weddings bad?

479
00:21:08,520 --> 00:21:11,960
Speaker 2: Upends what time? Morning?

480
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Speaker 4: Yeah, like ten thirty was like I've been to some

481
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Speaker 4: like after like ten afternoon.

482
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Speaker 2: Weddings church service.

483
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I've been to like something that starts at ten

484
00:21:19,280 --> 00:21:21,200
Speaker 4: thirty and then like the wedding is like afternoon.

485
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Speaker 2: Yeah, this afternoon. I mean, are you thinking are you

486
00:21:23,840 --> 00:21:26,480
Speaker 2: talking about like the wedding, like the parties at ten thirty?

487
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Speaker 1: No, No, no, the things at like ten thirty and

488
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Speaker 1: then you have lunch.

489
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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that's happened. I don't think that's something. Yeah,

490
00:21:32,400 --> 00:21:32,840
Speaker 2: that's fine.

491
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Speaker 1: So we have an update. After the wedding incident, I

492
00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:38,760
Speaker 1: decided to take a step back from Kara completely. I

493
00:21:38,800 --> 00:21:42,040
Speaker 1: didn't block her, but I stopped initiating any contact. Probably

494
00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:45,879
Speaker 1: realized you were the only one initiating contacts. Caro wanted something.

495
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I missed that sentence. What is say?

496
00:21:50,600 --> 00:21:54,000
Speaker 1: I said, I didn't block her, but I stopped initiating

497
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Speaker 1: any contact.

498
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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, and this whole time, Yeah, you've been putting

499
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Speaker 4: in all the work of this friendship.

500
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Speaker 1: She eventually called me a few hours after I made

501
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Speaker 1: the post, literally trying to play the victim. She said

502
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Speaker 1: she couldn't believe I left her wedding over nothing, and

503
00:22:07,440 --> 00:22:10,960
Speaker 1: that she's never been so humiliated by a friend. I

504
00:22:11,040 --> 00:22:13,680
Speaker 1: told her very calmly that I did not appreciate being

505
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Speaker 1: told multiple times throughout her wedding day that I was

506
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Speaker 1: outshining her when all I was doing was existing. I

507
00:22:19,680 --> 00:22:22,600
Speaker 1: pointed out that I followed the dress code, danced like

508
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Speaker 1: everyone else, and never once try to make the event

509
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Speaker 1: about me, to try to say it was just banter

510
00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:30,440
Speaker 1: when she made that comment about me never getting married,

511
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Speaker 1: but never remind her it wasn't just that. It was

512
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Speaker 1: her mom warning me before the wedding not to steal

513
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Speaker 1: the spotlight, her sending her husband to tell me to

514
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Speaker 1: stop dancing so much, and then blowing up my phone

515
00:22:40,119 --> 00:22:41,960
Speaker 1: the moment I left. I told her, if she really

516
00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:45,400
Speaker 1: believed I was stealing the spotlight simply by being there,

517
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Speaker 1: she needs to look inward and figure out why she

518
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Speaker 1: feels so insecure.

519
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Speaker 4: Yeah.

520
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Speaker 2: All I gotta say good like stuff like weddings are

521
00:22:53,640 --> 00:22:56,280
Speaker 2: supposed to be fun. Yeah, and there's the fun. Please

522
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Speaker 2: at a wedding. Literally, I'm gonna do it.

523
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Speaker 4: Yeah, someone's coming up to me and being like, you're

524
00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:01,760
Speaker 4: dancing too much, I'd be like.

525
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Speaker 2: What, I love dancing, guy, wedding me too.

526
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Speaker 4: Don't tell me how to dance at a wedding. I'm

527
00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:08,800
Speaker 4: gonna boogie down down.

528
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Speaker 2: If someone tells me to stop dancing or like, stop

529
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Speaker 2: being yourself at an event, I'll be like, no, I'm

530
00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:15,920
Speaker 2: gonna keep.

531
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Speaker 4: Doing God, that's so funny. I won't be doing that.

532
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Speaker 2: I'm gonna set up a dance party right now.

533
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Speaker 4: On the dance everyone's I'm gonna poach all of your

534
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Speaker 4: guests and we're gonna go to my dance party.

535
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Speaker 2: Yeah, we're gonna footloose.

536
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Speaker 4: Yeah you know. But Op, that was a great response.

537
00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:32,600
Speaker 4: Good job, Yeah, stand up for yourself, do a girl.

538
00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:35,080
Speaker 4: The conversation didn't go well. She accused me of being

539
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Speaker 4: jealous of her marriage, which is laughable because I would

540
00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:40,760
Speaker 4: never want to marry someone like her husband, who didn't

541
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Speaker 4: even have the decency to mention his wife's best friend

542
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Speaker 4: in his speech. After a decade of friendship, I told

543
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Speaker 4: her I don't want to be in a relationship where

544
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Speaker 4: I have to shrink myself to make her feel better.

545
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Speaker 4: We haven't spoken since. From what I've heard through mutual friends,

546
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Speaker 4: she's been telling people that I stormed out of her

547
00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:59,240
Speaker 4: wedding to call uge drama. Luckily most people were there

548
00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:02,040
Speaker 4: and saw howard that is. The comments on my original

549
00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:05,960
Speaker 4: post really solidified that I wasn't crazy for feeling humiliated.

550
00:24:06,119 --> 00:24:09,119
Speaker 4: I'm glad I walked away because if someone's wedding is

551
00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:11,879
Speaker 4: the peak of their self esteem and they can't handle

552
00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:14,840
Speaker 4: someone else existing in the same room, that's their issue,

553
00:24:15,000 --> 00:24:17,000
Speaker 4: not mine, Savia. We got a little bit left here.

554
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Speaker 1: We haven't ed it. Yeah, any other thoughts.

555
00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:22,199
Speaker 4: I think that you just gotta cut the ties with,

556
00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:25,760
Speaker 4: you know, with your friend? Does she sucks? Kara? She

557
00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:28,320
Speaker 4: made a fuss about her wedding. She clearly has some

558
00:24:28,359 --> 00:24:31,879
Speaker 4: insecurity about you being into her husband. I don't know

559
00:24:31,920 --> 00:24:35,960
Speaker 4: where that's coming from. Probably something the husband's saying about you. Yeah,

560
00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:38,960
Speaker 4: and she feels a little jealous now more than a little.

561
00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:41,080
Speaker 4: But I think that you know you told her how

562
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Speaker 4: you feel. She still refuses to own up to her actions.

563
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Speaker 1: So by audios, peace out, huh at it? A lot

564
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Speaker 1: of people are asking me why the husband would have

565
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Speaker 1: to mention me in his wedding speech. He doesn't. It

566
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Speaker 1: makes a lot of sense why so many people are

567
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Speaker 1: asking this. It was mentioned in the first post, but

568
00:24:57,240 --> 00:24:59,360
Speaker 1: the quote Evan gave a speech and thanks to his

569
00:24:59,359 --> 00:25:01,800
Speaker 1: brother we said, was basically the best man and made

570
00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:04,720
Speaker 1: of honor combined. Ope, this clears any doubts. Another thing

571
00:25:04,800 --> 00:25:07,119
Speaker 1: a lot of people were questioning was why her family

572
00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:09,119
Speaker 1: was asking me not to dim her light. I have

573
00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:12,720
Speaker 1: no idea. I'm an introvert and almost always hate it

574
00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:14,680
Speaker 1: when the attention is on me. A lot of people

575
00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:17,359
Speaker 1: assumed I was in an attention hogger or something. I

576
00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:22,359
Speaker 1: cannot imagine anything worse. Kara is honestly super insecure, and

577
00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:25,760
Speaker 1: even though I think she's beautiful. During our friendship, she

578
00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:29,160
Speaker 1: always compared her looks to mine. There it is, yep.

579
00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:33,400
Speaker 4: She is always been jealous of you. You're gorgeous.

580
00:25:33,800 --> 00:25:37,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, God forbid, she got one pimble. She would constantly

581
00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:39,520
Speaker 1: talk about it and compare herself to me.

582
00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:44,600
Speaker 4: Exhausting, exhausting type of friendship. That's good riddance.

583
00:25:44,760 --> 00:25:47,159
Speaker 1: That makes sense. Why there's so many they went up

584
00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:48,720
Speaker 1: to you so many times.

585
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Speaker 4: She's trying to compete with you, and You're like you

586
00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:54,080
Speaker 4: don't even know about the competition. Yeah, like huh and

587
00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:55,520
Speaker 4: being your friend.

588
00:25:56,000 --> 00:25:58,280
Speaker 1: And the part that sucks is like the Kara got

589
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Speaker 1: what she wanted out of you.

590
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Speaker 4: Yeah, all, I got your plan her wedding. She got

591
00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:05,240
Speaker 4: you to leave her wedding. Yeah, she only cared that

592
00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:07,240
Speaker 4: you left the wedding because other people were like, where'd

593
00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:08,040
Speaker 4: your maid of honor go?

594
00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:10,240
Speaker 1: And she got you to be the villain of the wedding. Yep,

595
00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 1: perfect trifecta.

596
00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 4: Perfect, That's all she wanted. But uh, boil boy. That's

597
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:18,399
Speaker 4: the end of that story. My sister told me to

598
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:20,440
Speaker 4: remove my bridesmaid or else.

599
00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:23,000
Speaker 1: She won't come bridesmaid versus sister.

600
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Speaker 4: Shortly after my fiance and I twenty three got engaged

601
00:26:26,960 --> 00:26:30,400
Speaker 4: and decided on a traditional wedding, my sister, Ashley twenty one,

602
00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:32,800
Speaker 4: came over to my house after hanging out for a

603
00:26:32,880 --> 00:26:35,400
Speaker 4: few minutes. I asked if she wanted to help finalize

604
00:26:35,440 --> 00:26:38,120
Speaker 4: my bridesmaids and look at venues as her first maid

605
00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:42,040
Speaker 4: of honor task. She immediately perked up with excitement, clapping

606
00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:44,240
Speaker 4: her hands as she grinned and asked if this was

607
00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:46,720
Speaker 4: me officially asking her to be my maid of honor.

608
00:26:46,840 --> 00:26:49,680
Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from Eldicist on the r

609
00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:51,800
Speaker 4: slash Charlotte Joe Bray youtubees. I read it and if

610
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Speaker 4: you want to spit your own stories, go to the

611
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Speaker 4: r slash. Okay, storytime separate it. So I'm Sophia, I'm Riley,

612
00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:00,639
Speaker 4: and op says. She asked where her get was, and

613
00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:03,560
Speaker 4: I apologized that her maid of honor gift box hadn't

614
00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:06,680
Speaker 4: been delivered yet. I could tell she was disappointed, so

615
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:09,000
Speaker 4: I joked that I didn't think I needed to officially

616
00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:11,120
Speaker 4: ask her, since it was always a given that we'd

617
00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:12,920
Speaker 4: be each other's made of honors one day.

618
00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 1: Well, how am I supposed to tell all of my

619
00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:16,640
Speaker 1: ten thousand followers on Instagram?

620
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Speaker 4: Well, I feel like that's I think it's kind of

621
00:27:19,240 --> 00:27:22,000
Speaker 4: a sweet gesture to be like, hey, I got you know,

622
00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 4: make it a little more ceremonial.

623
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Speaker 1: But Britney's sister asked her to be a maid of

624
00:27:27,280 --> 00:27:30,160
Speaker 1: honor and she got a really cool bouquet of flowers

625
00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:30,920
Speaker 1: and I get nothing.

626
00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:31,960
Speaker 4: They get nothing.

627
00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:33,679
Speaker 1: This is this is what it is.

628
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:36,439
Speaker 4: She didn't give any kind of reaction, just asked what

629
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:39,359
Speaker 4: I was thinking for bride'smaids. I named two of her

630
00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:42,359
Speaker 4: close cousins and my fiance's cousin. Then I mentioned wanting

631
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:45,560
Speaker 4: my future brother in law's girlfriend, Hannah to gauge Ashley's

632
00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:47,520
Speaker 4: reaction and see if this would be a problem for

633
00:27:47,520 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 4: her My future brother in law. It's been in a

634
00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:52,679
Speaker 4: relationship with Hannah for three years. My fiance and I

635
00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:55,359
Speaker 4: have grown very close to both of them. The problem

636
00:27:55,680 --> 00:27:59,000
Speaker 4: Hannah was friends with my sister's ex boyfriend while we

637
00:27:59,040 --> 00:27:59,960
Speaker 4: were all in high school.

638
00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:01,080
Speaker 1: Hmm.

639
00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:05,080
Speaker 4: Ashley hated this and frequently accused her acts of flirting

640
00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:07,840
Speaker 4: and cheating with Hannah. Ashley hesitated when I said I

641
00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:10,359
Speaker 4: wanted Hannah in the bridal party. She said it was

642
00:28:10,560 --> 00:28:13,119
Speaker 4: my decision, but she was afraid that Hannah would cause

643
00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:14,360
Speaker 4: problems and drama.

644
00:28:14,560 --> 00:28:17,560
Speaker 1: Okay, to be fair, if my brother, yeah, this is

645
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:19,840
Speaker 1: a situation, I'll be like, dude, can we not? Can

646
00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:20,680
Speaker 1: we kick someone else?

647
00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:25,119
Speaker 4: Yeah? I feel like if you already knew that it

648
00:28:25,359 --> 00:28:28,080
Speaker 4: might cause trouble, I wouldn't even like, if you wanted

649
00:28:28,080 --> 00:28:29,720
Speaker 4: to be your maid of honor, why even put that

650
00:28:29,760 --> 00:28:32,640
Speaker 4: person in the party. You know, if you know it's

651
00:28:32,640 --> 00:28:33,800
Speaker 4: going to be a problem.

652
00:28:33,560 --> 00:28:34,760
Speaker 1: Unless you guys are really that tired.

653
00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:38,479
Speaker 4: Yeah, which it doesn't like your brother in law's girlfriend.

654
00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:40,800
Speaker 1: That's three years yeah, my wife, Yeah, I.

655
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Speaker 4: Don't know if you want your sister to be made

656
00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:43,479
Speaker 4: of honor and you know it's going to be a problem.

657
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:45,600
Speaker 4: I just wouldn't have done it. I had to stop

658
00:28:45,600 --> 00:28:48,960
Speaker 4: myself from rolling my eyes because that's not Hannah's style,

659
00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:51,280
Speaker 4: but it is Ashley's. Do you even want this girl

660
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:52,160
Speaker 4: to be your maid of honor?

661
00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:55,320
Speaker 1: I think she likes drama. I like, girl, this, what's happening?

662
00:28:55,360 --> 00:28:57,680
Speaker 4: Do you even like your sister? The visit continued to

663
00:28:57,680 --> 00:29:00,240
Speaker 4: go downhill from there, as she questioned my bride made

664
00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:03,280
Speaker 4: choices and suggested others. Fast forward, a few weeks of

665
00:29:03,320 --> 00:29:06,080
Speaker 4: booking the venue and some vendors, I coordinated with my

666
00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:09,200
Speaker 4: mom and Ashley to schedule a wedding dress shopping appointment.

667
00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 4: Two days before the appointment, I got a call from

668
00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:14,200
Speaker 4: my sister telling me that she couldn't go because she

669
00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:16,840
Speaker 4: had too many chores to do. What are you serious,

670
00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:20,440
Speaker 4: I asked, carefully. Yeah, you know we're still organizing the apartment.

671
00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:23,320
Speaker 4: We only moved in a couple of weeks ago. She explained, Well,

672
00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:25,840
Speaker 4: I really want you there and this is important to me.

673
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:28,240
Speaker 4: It's a morning appointment. Can you still come if I

674
00:29:28,280 --> 00:29:31,360
Speaker 4: help you? Afterwards, I asked, well, it's my first appointment

675
00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:34,560
Speaker 4: with my boyfriend. This is important to me too, Ashley asserted,

676
00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:36,520
Speaker 4: and I feel like this is something you and mom

677
00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:37,680
Speaker 4: need to do alone together.

678
00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:39,120
Speaker 1: Oh okay.

679
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:45,280
Speaker 4: I've spent my entire life walking on eggshells around Ashley's

680
00:29:45,320 --> 00:29:48,920
Speaker 4: explosive tendencies, and I wasn't about to stop now. I

681
00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:50,600
Speaker 4: was hurt that she didn't want to see me try

682
00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:52,760
Speaker 4: on wedding dresses, but I knew better than to push

683
00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:55,760
Speaker 4: her buttons and start an argument. But by the time

684
00:29:55,840 --> 00:29:58,400
Speaker 4: my second wedding dress appointment came up, I was in

685
00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:01,120
Speaker 4: a pettier mood. Ashley. She texted me and asked if

686
00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 4: I wanted her to go. I said I wanted her

687
00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:05,280
Speaker 4: to go to the first one. Ashley repeated her reasons,

688
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:07,080
Speaker 4: but I told her that didn't make sense to me,

689
00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:09,280
Speaker 4: and I didn't understand what was going on. Why she

690
00:30:09,320 --> 00:30:11,240
Speaker 4: didn't want to go to the first appointment, why she

691
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:13,320
Speaker 4: had been so short with me lately, why she was

692
00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:15,960
Speaker 4: so excited for wedding planning at first but now didn't

693
00:30:16,000 --> 00:30:17,920
Speaker 4: want any part of it. I said, I felt like

694
00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:20,080
Speaker 4: she didn't even want to be my maid of honor anymore,

695
00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:22,400
Speaker 4: and she said that needed to be a face to

696
00:30:22,440 --> 00:30:25,800
Speaker 4: face conversation, so I drove to her apartment to talk

697
00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:26,160
Speaker 4: with her.

698
00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:28,840
Speaker 1: Interesting definitely about Hannah.

699
00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:31,880
Speaker 4: Yep, it's pretty obviously about Hannah.

700
00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 1: Also, if someone says they'll help me organize my apartment,

701
00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:37,560
Speaker 1: if I just go to appointment, come on, that'd be

702
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:39,160
Speaker 1: I would totally take her up on that.

703
00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:41,960
Speaker 4: Earlier she was like, oh, oh, yeah, yeah, going to

704
00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:45,200
Speaker 4: the appointment. Yeah, come on, yeah.

705
00:30:44,880 --> 00:30:46,360
Speaker 2: Hey y'all, it's John og Host here.

706
00:30:46,360 --> 00:30:47,360
Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to the story.

707
00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:49,000
Speaker 2: But here's a quick three minute break from ask for

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Speaker 2: more sponsors.

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Speaker 4: She ripped into me in every way she could, how

710
00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:55,960
Speaker 4: spoiled and entitled I was for letting our parents pay

711
00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 4: for some wedding vendors, how hard it's going to be

712
00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:00,400
Speaker 4: for her to plan my bachelorette party with her cousin

713
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:03,600
Speaker 4: who's under twenty one and Hannah. And she was most

714
00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:05,440
Speaker 4: upset at how I asked her to be my maid

715
00:31:05,440 --> 00:31:08,120
Speaker 4: of honor and basically said that I expected to be

716
00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:10,440
Speaker 4: your maid of honor one day when she didn't want that.

717
00:31:10,880 --> 00:31:14,000
Speaker 4: Her words shocked me to my core. And hit harder

718
00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:17,280
Speaker 4: than the biggest title wave. I couldn't believe I didn't

719
00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:20,719
Speaker 4: see it coming. Ashley's mo o is to create drama

720
00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:23,040
Speaker 4: so you figure out she's upset with you. I felt

721
00:31:23,040 --> 00:31:25,880
Speaker 4: stupid for not recognizing that's why she didn't want to

722
00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:28,480
Speaker 4: go to my wedding dress shopping appointment. I felt like

723
00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:31,280
Speaker 4: she didn't care how she hurt me, so I took

724
00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:34,480
Speaker 4: off my filter and didn't handle the situation like I

725
00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:36,520
Speaker 4: should have. I told her I was sorry about the

726
00:31:36,600 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 4: joke I made about how us being each other's maid

727
00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:40,920
Speaker 4: of honor was a given, but I never would have

728
00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:43,280
Speaker 4: made it if I didn't think that was true. I'd

729
00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 4: admitted even though we weren't best friends in the way

730
00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:48,440
Speaker 4: a lot of sisters are, we had been through everything

731
00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:51,320
Speaker 4: together and were always there for each other. We both

732
00:31:51,360 --> 00:31:53,480
Speaker 4: had friends come and go, and neither of us had

733
00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:56,400
Speaker 4: any close friends anymore. But I knew, at least I

734
00:31:56,440 --> 00:31:59,360
Speaker 4: thought i'd always have her like she'd always have me,

735
00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:02,000
Speaker 4: And I was hurt because I was realizing she never

736
00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:06,560
Speaker 4: felt that way. So she's your best friend, but you're

737
00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:07,400
Speaker 4: not her best friend.

738
00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:11,920
Speaker 1: Who different sides of that lough we supposed to like

739
00:32:11,960 --> 00:32:13,080
Speaker 1: you can't change anything.

740
00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:18,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, Hannah, Yeah, just replaced your sister. I guess. Ashley said,

741
00:32:18,960 --> 00:32:21,360
Speaker 4: if I was really a friend, I would never be

742
00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:24,840
Speaker 4: friends with Hannah, let alone have her in my bridal party.

743
00:32:25,080 --> 00:32:27,719
Speaker 4: I asked her once again to provide me any specifics

744
00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:30,440
Speaker 4: on the flirting and cheating instances with Hannah and her ex,

745
00:32:30,720 --> 00:32:34,120
Speaker 4: but she couldn't just swore that it happened. I told

746
00:32:34,120 --> 00:32:36,720
Speaker 4: Ashley what I've told her before. Then Hannah and I

747
00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:39,240
Speaker 4: actually talked about her his story with Ashley and r X.

748
00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:42,000
Speaker 4: Hannah and I bonded over the fact that we're both

749
00:32:42,040 --> 00:32:45,320
Speaker 4: receipt keepers for situations like these where she wants to

750
00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:48,200
Speaker 4: show proof of something. She shared all her old text

751
00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:51,080
Speaker 4: with Ashley's X with me, where they hardly had full

752
00:32:51,080 --> 00:32:55,320
Speaker 4: conversations and no flirting. Ashley insisted Hannah could have deleted

753
00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:58,000
Speaker 4: texts well. I argued that it's more likely that they

754
00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:01,480
Speaker 4: were just casual friends in a school that only graduates

755
00:33:01,640 --> 00:33:02,800
Speaker 4: forty people a year.

756
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:05,560
Speaker 1: Oh, well, that makes a lot of sense.

757
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:08,440
Speaker 4: Yeah. We kept arguing about the bridal party and the

758
00:33:08,440 --> 00:33:11,239
Speaker 4: wedding dress appointment. After the third time, she said I

759
00:33:11,280 --> 00:33:12,640
Speaker 4: was making it hard for her to want to be

760
00:33:12,640 --> 00:33:14,640
Speaker 4: my maid of honor. I said she didn't need to

761
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:18,400
Speaker 4: worry about it anymore and was off the hook. Dang no,

762
00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:22,480
Speaker 4: dang man, Well there you go. That's it. No more

763
00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 4: made of honor. I feel like this is like I

764
00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:27,560
Speaker 4: don't have a sister, but I do have friends who

765
00:33:27,600 --> 00:33:30,760
Speaker 4: I consider sisters, and I feel like, sometimes you just

766
00:33:31,160 --> 00:33:33,560
Speaker 4: you fight. From what I've heard about sisters fighting, you

767
00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:34,520
Speaker 4: get pretty crazy.

768
00:33:34,600 --> 00:33:37,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, I recently got a new sister and sometimes she

769
00:33:37,920 --> 00:33:40,560
Speaker 1: fights with me. That's tough sometimes, but.

770
00:33:40,520 --> 00:33:41,720
Speaker 4: Then you get over it.

771
00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:45,160
Speaker 1: You get over it over I think this is too much.

772
00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:46,440
Speaker 1: Everyone's the gay hole here.

773
00:33:46,560 --> 00:33:48,440
Speaker 4: I agree, I agree, I agree.

774
00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:51,760
Speaker 1: Like, ope, you're doing this because you want to torment

775
00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:52,320
Speaker 1: your sister.

776
00:33:52,520 --> 00:33:55,280
Speaker 4: You literally said, yeah, she starts like she's always about

777
00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:57,680
Speaker 4: the drama, and then you literally set her up to

778
00:33:57,840 --> 00:34:00,800
Speaker 4: like you're like, I know she's gonna starts some drama

779
00:34:00,800 --> 00:34:03,040
Speaker 4: if I do this. I know, and she did, and

780
00:34:03,120 --> 00:34:04,640
Speaker 4: she's the ale for that, but like.

781
00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:06,600
Speaker 1: You know what else she supposed to do.

782
00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:08,920
Speaker 4: If you know the train's coming, gotta get out of

783
00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:11,840
Speaker 4: the way. A couple of weeks past, I apologize for

784
00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:15,319
Speaker 4: the distasteful joke. I made an unfair expectation I tried

785
00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:17,560
Speaker 4: to put on her, and I apologize for the half

786
00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:21,200
Speaker 4: budded apology I initially gave her. She accepted the apology

787
00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:23,520
Speaker 4: and said sorry as well. I could tell she thought

788
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:25,440
Speaker 4: I would ask her again to be my maid of honor.

789
00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:27,399
Speaker 4: I told her I thought it was best for us

790
00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:30,080
Speaker 4: for her to be there as a bridesmaid without any

791
00:34:30,160 --> 00:34:32,920
Speaker 4: of the expectations of a maid of honor. She paused,

792
00:34:33,280 --> 00:34:36,399
Speaker 4: Who's going to be your maid of honor? Then she snapped, oh, no, oh,

793
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:37,239
Speaker 4: p oh pe.

794
00:34:37,480 --> 00:34:39,319
Speaker 1: We already know you're already in a petty mood. We

795
00:34:39,320 --> 00:34:40,279
Speaker 1: already know you're gonna pick.

796
00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:43,000
Speaker 4: I was slightly taken aback by her tone that came

797
00:34:43,040 --> 00:34:46,360
Speaker 4: out more like an accusation. No one, Oh, I conceded.

798
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:48,480
Speaker 4: Everything I said to you when I asked you to

799
00:34:48,520 --> 00:34:50,360
Speaker 4: be my maid of honor and the night we fought

800
00:34:50,640 --> 00:34:53,200
Speaker 4: is all true. So I'm not gonna have one. You know,

801
00:34:53,239 --> 00:34:55,120
Speaker 4: the maid of honor plans the bride or shower and

802
00:34:55,160 --> 00:34:59,719
Speaker 4: the bachelorette party, right. Ashley continued her accusatory tone. Well,

803
00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:02,080
Speaker 4: I've trying to tell you I only wanted a low

804
00:35:02,160 --> 00:35:04,200
Speaker 4: key bachelorette and Mom and I can do the rest

805
00:35:04,239 --> 00:35:07,040
Speaker 4: of the planning, I answered her. That turned into even

806
00:35:07,120 --> 00:35:10,240
Speaker 4: more arguing about the bridal party, which resulted in nashally

807
00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:13,240
Speaker 4: giving me an ultimatup. Either Hannah is in the wedding

808
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:16,680
Speaker 4: party or she is. She wants me to punt Hannah

809
00:35:16,680 --> 00:35:18,840
Speaker 4: out because I never should have asked her in the

810
00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:21,520
Speaker 4: first place. She said, that's how I can prove if

811
00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:23,680
Speaker 4: a really friends the way I said we are. If

812
00:35:23,680 --> 00:35:26,560
Speaker 4: I don't, then she'll remove herself as a bridesmaid. I

813
00:35:26,600 --> 00:35:29,839
Speaker 4: feel lost and devastated. I love Hannah and I don't

814
00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:31,920
Speaker 4: want to break her heart, let alone piss off my

815
00:35:31,920 --> 00:35:34,720
Speaker 4: fiance and my future brother in law. But my argument

816
00:35:34,760 --> 00:35:37,239
Speaker 4: with my sister turned into the whole family arguing with

817
00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:39,920
Speaker 4: each other. Now my parents are basically telling me I

818
00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:42,319
Speaker 4: should do it and keep the peace, and I'm so

819
00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:44,759
Speaker 4: tired of all the fighting that I'm starting to think

820
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:45,319
Speaker 4: they're right.

821
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:49,480
Speaker 1: Dude, you guys don't like each other. Yeah, you could

822
00:35:49,520 --> 00:35:52,799
Speaker 1: totally see this shift in her thought process of being

823
00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:55,919
Speaker 1: made of honor whenever you mentioned Hannah. If Hannah did

824
00:35:56,000 --> 00:36:00,040
Speaker 1: or didn't cheat on her ex, I don't know. It

825
00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:02,759
Speaker 1: seems all messy and like it's just time to I

826
00:36:02,760 --> 00:36:05,560
Speaker 1: don't know. You guys, either to mend or not be sisters.

827
00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:08,960
Speaker 4: Yes, you're done being sisters. I think at this point

828
00:36:09,239 --> 00:36:11,600
Speaker 4: you've already made a decision that led to this drama.

829
00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:14,200
Speaker 4: And I think that you, I honestly think that OP

830
00:36:14,320 --> 00:36:16,719
Speaker 4: should just keep Hannah in the wedding and you know,

831
00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:19,120
Speaker 4: let you know, because at that point, it's kind of

832
00:36:19,160 --> 00:36:21,440
Speaker 4: like an OP doesn't have to make the decision, If

833
00:36:21,440 --> 00:36:23,440
Speaker 4: that makes sense, Okay, It like puts it on the

834
00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:26,040
Speaker 4: sister to make a choice to not be a bridesmaid,

835
00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:29,360
Speaker 4: rather than OPE actively being like, Hannah, you're out of

836
00:36:29,360 --> 00:36:32,080
Speaker 4: the wedding. Yeah, because I feel like if she does

837
00:36:32,120 --> 00:36:35,000
Speaker 4: it that way where she keeps Hannah in, then the

838
00:36:35,080 --> 00:36:37,319
Speaker 4: sister throws a tantrum and she's like, okay, like I'm

839
00:36:37,360 --> 00:36:38,880
Speaker 4: not kicking. I want you to be in the wedding.

840
00:36:39,120 --> 00:36:40,720
Speaker 4: So she's not really choosing anyone.

841
00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:41,360
Speaker 1: Okay.

842
00:36:41,800 --> 00:36:44,240
Speaker 4: I think that, honestly would be better because your sister's

843
00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:46,200
Speaker 4: throwing a fit, and I don't think that you should

844
00:36:46,200 --> 00:36:46,759
Speaker 4: give into that.

845
00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:50,360
Speaker 1: Don't give into it. She seems like she's the spoiled

846
00:36:50,400 --> 00:36:53,399
Speaker 1: and entitled one. Yeah, but I m also smelling hints

847
00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:54,359
Speaker 1: of that from you, Op.

848
00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:57,080
Speaker 4: I just it just feels like you knew what was

849
00:36:57,120 --> 00:36:59,799
Speaker 4: going to happen, but it's too late to stop.

850
00:36:59,840 --> 00:37:02,120
Speaker 1: An yeah, what happens next?

851
00:37:02,320 --> 00:37:04,560
Speaker 4: Opie says. I swear I didn't set out to be

852
00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:06,840
Speaker 4: a bridezella. I just wanted the women I love and

853
00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:09,920
Speaker 4: trusted as bridesmaids. But I should have foreseen all the

854
00:37:09,960 --> 00:37:13,640
Speaker 4: problems asking Hannah caused. Now I'm in such a hole.

855
00:37:13,760 --> 00:37:15,520
Speaker 4: I don't know who to turn to except for you,

856
00:37:15,640 --> 00:37:18,279
Speaker 4: Lovely Potatoes, who I know will be honest with me.

857
00:37:18,480 --> 00:37:20,399
Speaker 4: I really do feel like the worst person. If that's

858
00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:23,840
Speaker 4: any consolation. Depending on how this continues with my family,

859
00:37:23,920 --> 00:37:25,840
Speaker 4: I might just a lope, y'all. I know I'll be

860
00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:28,000
Speaker 4: an ale either way. But what would be the least

861
00:37:28,040 --> 00:37:31,440
Speaker 4: a whole move. Should I apologize and remove Hannah as

862
00:37:31,440 --> 00:37:34,040
Speaker 4: a bridesmaid since it is my sister and I did

863
00:37:34,160 --> 00:37:37,160
Speaker 4: majorly f up by making that stupid joke. Or should

864
00:37:37,160 --> 00:37:40,160
Speaker 4: I let Ashley remove herself since she's the one imposing

865
00:37:40,160 --> 00:37:42,920
Speaker 4: the ultimatum again, I think you should just let Ashley

866
00:37:42,960 --> 00:37:46,680
Speaker 4: remove herself, call her bluff. Maybe she's bluffing, Maybe she

867
00:37:46,760 --> 00:37:47,279
Speaker 4: won't do it.

868
00:37:47,400 --> 00:37:51,680
Speaker 1: Probably she's also expecting a lot from this bachelorette party. Yeah,

869
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:54,919
Speaker 1: all this stuff. It seems like, oh, you're not You're

870
00:37:55,000 --> 00:37:56,799
Speaker 1: just gonna have a low key bachelorette party. But we're

871
00:37:56,800 --> 00:37:58,359
Speaker 1: supposed to go out and drink and have a good

872
00:37:58,400 --> 00:38:00,279
Speaker 1: time and do all these different things. Yeah.

873
00:38:00,280 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 4: I feel like she wanted to make it like her

874
00:38:02,440 --> 00:38:03,400
Speaker 4: bachelorette party.

875
00:38:03,560 --> 00:38:06,520
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, oh yeah, about you. I wonder how that

876
00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:07,359
Speaker 1: boyfriend's doing.

877
00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:09,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, Hannah's been together.

878
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:11,840
Speaker 1: No no, no, no, no, no. Oh my gosh, Ashley's

879
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:14,600
Speaker 1: boyfriend does she have one? Yeah, she moved into apartment

880
00:38:14,600 --> 00:38:16,279
Speaker 1: with her. That was the first toy thing.

881
00:38:16,520 --> 00:38:19,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, right, right, right, Well, but that's the end of

882
00:38:19,440 --> 00:38:20,360
Speaker 4: that story. Folks.

883
00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:24,000
Speaker 1: My entitled sister assumes she can use my venue for

884
00:38:24,040 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 1: her wedding, but she never booked it.

885
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:28,400
Speaker 4: Well, she's gonna find out she's wrong.

886
00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:31,360
Speaker 1: I am twenty five. My sister is twenty nine. I

887
00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:33,920
Speaker 1: also have a younger sister eight. When I was fourteen,

888
00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:36,239
Speaker 1: my mom sent me to live with her parents. Her

889
00:38:36,239 --> 00:38:38,880
Speaker 1: excuse was that they needed me to help out. I

890
00:38:38,920 --> 00:38:41,640
Speaker 1: believe she just didn't want to deal with her growing

891
00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:45,000
Speaker 1: mel teen. By the way, this comes from throwaway cis.

892
00:38:45,040 --> 00:38:46,760
Speaker 1: Please and if you would have made your own stories,

893
00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:48,640
Speaker 1: go to your so I show, okay, story t I'm subredded,

894
00:38:48,760 --> 00:38:52,760
Speaker 1: I'm Riley, I'm Sophia. No, P says, So my grandparents

895
00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:55,680
Speaker 1: owned an amazing property in the mountains that has the

896
00:38:55,760 --> 00:39:01,400
Speaker 1: amazing view. We also have some horses and other critters. Okay,

897
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:05,800
Speaker 1: got that chicken money. Yeah, they were all so quite

898
00:39:05,920 --> 00:39:08,680
Speaker 1: wealthy as well. They both passed around four months ago,

899
00:39:08,920 --> 00:39:11,759
Speaker 1: a month apart. They gave me the property because I

900
00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:14,759
Speaker 1: would appreciate and respect it more, while my mom and

901
00:39:14,880 --> 00:39:19,040
Speaker 1: sisters got money and other assets overall valued more than

902
00:39:19,040 --> 00:39:22,640
Speaker 1: the property. In the past four years, I turned part

903
00:39:22,719 --> 00:39:26,320
Speaker 1: of the property into a venue for mainly weddings. GPS

904
00:39:26,520 --> 00:39:29,000
Speaker 1: knew of this idea and thought it was a good one.

905
00:39:29,120 --> 00:39:32,000
Speaker 1: We are busy and usually booked around eight months out.

906
00:39:32,239 --> 00:39:34,479
Speaker 1: My sister got engaged one and a half years ago

907
00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:37,000
Speaker 1: and said she wanted to get married at the property.

908
00:39:37,160 --> 00:39:39,040
Speaker 1: I said, yes, just let me know the date as

909
00:39:39,040 --> 00:39:41,440
Speaker 1: soon as possible so I can make sure it's booked.

910
00:39:41,760 --> 00:39:44,400
Speaker 1: I never got a date. I followed up several times

911
00:39:44,400 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 1: and kept asking her. She would brush me off. Two

912
00:39:47,320 --> 00:39:51,040
Speaker 1: weeks ago I got the wedding invitation stating the property

913
00:39:51,120 --> 00:39:54,279
Speaker 1: is the location and the date, which is September of

914
00:39:54,440 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 1: this year.

915
00:39:55,680 --> 00:40:00,160
Speaker 4: Uh, that's depending on when this was posted. That's very eas.

916
00:40:00,520 --> 00:40:03,919
Speaker 1: And depending on where this is, that's a baller month

917
00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:07,200
Speaker 1: to get married. Yeah, you gotta have some cash for that.

918
00:40:07,560 --> 00:40:09,880
Speaker 1: I immediately called her and said that we are booked

919
00:40:09,880 --> 00:40:12,520
Speaker 1: for that day and can't accommodate her. Well, now, her,

920
00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:16,399
Speaker 1: my mom, other family, her partner's family, as well as

921
00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:19,359
Speaker 1: other flying monkeys have been blowing up on me. They

922
00:40:19,400 --> 00:40:22,520
Speaker 1: are also calling and writing reviews for my business.

923
00:40:23,320 --> 00:40:25,920
Speaker 4: No, that's so annoying.

924
00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:28,919
Speaker 1: I asked them to stop and called my sister, telling

925
00:40:28,960 --> 00:40:31,520
Speaker 1: her that I literally said she all she had to

926
00:40:31,560 --> 00:40:34,200
Speaker 1: do was tell me when she knew her date was

927
00:40:34,239 --> 00:40:36,640
Speaker 1: so I could block it out and I would take

928
00:40:36,640 --> 00:40:39,520
Speaker 1: care of everything else. She went off on how I'm

929
00:40:39,680 --> 00:40:43,880
Speaker 1: ruining her day it's our family's property, and how she

930
00:40:44,160 --> 00:40:47,200
Speaker 1: already sent out the invitations and couldn't go back. Now

931
00:40:47,640 --> 00:40:50,120
Speaker 1: I should just tell the other couple to cancel. They

932
00:40:50,120 --> 00:40:52,120
Speaker 1: have been on the books for over a year now

933
00:40:52,320 --> 00:40:55,760
Speaker 1: and I actually like them. Family is more important. After

934
00:40:56,040 --> 00:40:59,160
Speaker 1: the last big blow up, I started communicating strictly through

935
00:40:59,239 --> 00:41:02,880
Speaker 1: the business, using our record line as well as email.

936
00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:05,839
Speaker 1: I suggested three other dates around the same time. But

937
00:41:05,880 --> 00:41:10,080
Speaker 1: that's not good enough. I'm being resentful and a a

938
00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:11,600
Speaker 1: whole not at all.

939
00:41:12,040 --> 00:41:15,759
Speaker 4: Literally your okay, if you weren't related to them, it

940
00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:18,400
Speaker 4: would be quite literally insane if they said that to

941
00:41:18,480 --> 00:41:21,840
Speaker 4: just a random like business. Yeah, they're like, yeah, I know,

942
00:41:21,880 --> 00:41:25,160
Speaker 4: we didn't book but like two weeks before or however long.

943
00:41:25,320 --> 00:41:27,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, two weeks ago, yeah.

944
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:29,760
Speaker 4: However long it's you know, I guess this is probably

945
00:41:30,040 --> 00:41:32,400
Speaker 4: we'll say it was in March. Yeah, like still, I

946
00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:36,200
Speaker 4: mean anytime that they're doing it. They can't just send

947
00:41:36,239 --> 00:41:39,800
Speaker 4: out the letters and say, yeah, like we're doing it here.

948
00:41:39,960 --> 00:41:42,799
Speaker 4: If it was a person that wasn't related to them,

949
00:41:43,280 --> 00:41:45,880
Speaker 4: there would be absolutely no question that that's crazy.

950
00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:48,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, you need about a year and a half.

951
00:41:48,960 --> 00:41:52,759
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's or they booked it, which is what happened here.

952
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:54,600
Speaker 4: And op he's even offering other dates.

953
00:41:55,120 --> 00:41:56,360
Speaker 1: That's really nice of you.

954
00:41:56,640 --> 00:41:59,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, uh hh, ridiculous.

955
00:41:59,080 --> 00:42:03,000
Speaker 1: Very crazy. To add thank you all for the overwhelming response.

956
00:42:03,280 --> 00:42:05,720
Speaker 1: I thought it was going crazy. I'll try to respond

957
00:42:05,719 --> 00:42:07,759
Speaker 1: to people later when I have some time. Thank you

958
00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:10,479
Speaker 1: all for the advice and responses. Edit to add two. Wow,

959
00:42:10,560 --> 00:42:13,560
Speaker 1: there's no possible way I can respond to everyone. I'm

960
00:42:13,560 --> 00:42:16,280
Speaker 1: so popular. Blah blah, blah blah. I plan on getting

961
00:42:16,320 --> 00:42:18,399
Speaker 1: in contact with the couple and see if I can

962
00:42:18,440 --> 00:42:21,280
Speaker 1: take them to dinner or something to explain the situation.

963
00:42:21,840 --> 00:42:24,719
Speaker 1: I'm thinking of giving them a discount, getting a guest list,

964
00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:28,000
Speaker 1: and being tied on security on our part. Thanks to everyone.

965
00:42:28,120 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 1: Edit to add three. I'm so blown away by the responses.

966
00:42:31,320 --> 00:42:33,400
Speaker 1: I probably won't update till later, but I'm going to

967
00:42:33,480 --> 00:42:35,960
Speaker 1: reach out to the other couple and have a sit

968
00:42:36,040 --> 00:42:38,640
Speaker 1: down with my sister as well as my mom. I

969
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:41,400
Speaker 1: have a meeting with a lawyer this week. And finally,

970
00:42:41,440 --> 00:42:43,800
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, but I'm not going to name my business

971
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:46,800
Speaker 1: for reasons. Thanks for the offers of writing good reviews,

972
00:42:46,840 --> 00:42:49,160
Speaker 1: but I can't accept it. We have one comment, so

973
00:42:49,280 --> 00:42:51,480
Speaker 1: she talks about like, you know, just do a favor

974
00:42:51,480 --> 00:42:54,239
Speaker 1: for me and be kind for everyone, and we have

975
00:42:54,440 --> 00:42:58,840
Speaker 1: some relevant comments. I mean, that's nice they're talking to

976
00:42:58,880 --> 00:43:00,440
Speaker 1: the couple, but I don't I don't know.

977
00:43:00,560 --> 00:43:03,640
Speaker 4: I'm confused if Op's saying and we'll probably find this out,

978
00:43:03,640 --> 00:43:07,040
Speaker 4: but I'm confused if Ope is saying that they're gonna

979
00:43:07,080 --> 00:43:10,560
Speaker 4: go meet to talk with the couple to change their date,

980
00:43:10,719 --> 00:43:13,719
Speaker 4: or if OPI just wants to be nice because she

981
00:43:13,760 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 4: wants to get back at her family. I'm not I'm

982
00:43:15,600 --> 00:43:16,560
Speaker 4: not quite sure.

983
00:43:17,040 --> 00:43:20,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, she said, she's just gonna sit down with them, Like,

984
00:43:20,280 --> 00:43:20,600
Speaker 1: are you.

985
00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:22,400
Speaker 4: Trying to change the date? Because I don't think you

986
00:43:22,400 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 4: should do that.

987
00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:23,960
Speaker 1: Don't do not.

988
00:43:24,080 --> 00:43:25,240
Speaker 4: Don't give in to your sister.

989
00:43:25,719 --> 00:43:30,040
Speaker 1: Oh gosh, relevant comments disregardable says, your mom has to

990
00:43:30,080 --> 00:43:33,200
Speaker 1: be the one filling her head with It's fine, it's

991
00:43:33,280 --> 00:43:36,360
Speaker 1: our property. We can use it whenever we want. Opie.

992
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:39,160
Speaker 1: I have no doubt in my mind that my mom

993
00:43:39,239 --> 00:43:41,400
Speaker 1: is the one filling her head. She definitely has the

994
00:43:41,440 --> 00:43:44,760
Speaker 1: mentality of what's hers is hers and what's mine is hers.

995
00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:49,520
Speaker 1: Grounch Down says, oh yeah, system, mom know better. It's possible.

996
00:43:49,600 --> 00:43:52,920
Speaker 1: Sister never moved out of the house at eighteen, though hopefully.

997
00:43:52,600 --> 00:43:54,319
Speaker 4: And also I realized, I said she but oh Pie's

998
00:43:54,360 --> 00:43:54,640
Speaker 4: a guy.

999
00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:59,040
Speaker 1: Oh dude, I forgot. Oh Pie's a dude. Everyone. Opie

1000
00:43:59,160 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 1: is a man. He has man parts. Continue hopefully Opie

1001
00:44:04,160 --> 00:44:06,600
Speaker 1: updates about this. My family had a lot of siblings

1002
00:44:06,680 --> 00:44:09,480
Speaker 1: raising each other, basically single parent at home because my

1003
00:44:09,560 --> 00:44:12,759
Speaker 1: dad was rarely around, and that does grow a lot

1004
00:44:12,760 --> 00:44:16,040
Speaker 1: of resentment, but it also grows a sense of responsibility.

1005
00:44:16,200 --> 00:44:20,080
Speaker 1: Sister never giving Opie the wedding date despite multiple attempts

1006
00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:23,040
Speaker 1: of communication is why I doubt. This is a situation

1007
00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:26,759
Speaker 1: where sister raised him until he was fourteen, and more

1008
00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:30,440
Speaker 1: so favoritism. So sister just says the favorite Well.

1009
00:44:30,360 --> 00:44:33,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean like his mom literally gave him away.

1010
00:44:33,520 --> 00:44:36,160
Speaker 4: She's like, you're gonna live with your grandparents. Bye.

1011
00:44:36,719 --> 00:44:39,040
Speaker 1: We did want to buy So yeah.

1012
00:44:38,920 --> 00:44:41,000
Speaker 4: Clearly there's some favoritism going on here.

1013
00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:43,560
Speaker 1: Opie says, I don't want to get too much into that,

1014
00:44:43,680 --> 00:44:46,560
Speaker 1: but my older sister didn't raise me at all. I

1015
00:44:46,640 --> 00:44:49,440
Speaker 1: was basically alone from around eight ten ish to when

1016
00:44:49,440 --> 00:44:52,480
Speaker 1: I was relocated. She also didn't move out until about

1017
00:44:52,480 --> 00:44:55,960
Speaker 1: four years ago, and she's now twenty nine. She didn't

1018
00:44:55,960 --> 00:44:59,280
Speaker 1: move out twenty five. Yeah. Ope, he added to another commenter,

1019
00:44:59,440 --> 00:45:03,520
Speaker 1: does she have caterers booked with Menu Efficient DJ Decorations

1020
00:45:03,520 --> 00:45:05,560
Speaker 1: deposit or is she thinking that you're going to do

1021
00:45:05,600 --> 00:45:07,719
Speaker 1: all this and pay for all of it too, as

1022
00:45:07,760 --> 00:45:10,400
Speaker 1: she talked with any of them and booked them. But

1023
00:45:10,480 --> 00:45:12,840
Speaker 1: he says, I honestly have no idea. I need to

1024
00:45:12,880 --> 00:45:15,160
Speaker 1: go back and make sure if anything's booked for that day.

1025
00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:18,080
Speaker 1: Is already is for the actual couple. I need to

1026
00:45:18,120 --> 00:45:20,719
Speaker 1: call the other couple and possibly have a sit down

1027
00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:23,440
Speaker 1: face to face with them. As my sister, she hasn't

1028
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:25,360
Speaker 1: told me much. I'll try to see if I can

1029
00:45:25,400 --> 00:45:27,440
Speaker 1: get my little sister to be a mole for me

1030
00:45:27,480 --> 00:45:29,960
Speaker 1: to gather information. Infod I add a little sister and

1031
00:45:30,000 --> 00:45:32,719
Speaker 1: I have a good relationship. She spends time with me

1032
00:45:32,840 --> 00:45:36,040
Speaker 1: and loves my horses, so it should be easy to

1033
00:45:36,120 --> 00:45:40,960
Speaker 1: convince her. Oh my god, that's it, dang time out. No, No,

1034
00:45:41,120 --> 00:45:42,120
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm just confused.

1035
00:45:42,160 --> 00:45:45,440
Speaker 4: Why you're meeting with the people. I don't understand. Are

1036
00:45:45,440 --> 00:45:47,600
Speaker 4: you trying to tell them that you can't give them

1037
00:45:47,600 --> 00:45:50,880
Speaker 4: that day? Like, what's your plan here? Because don't do that.

1038
00:45:51,040 --> 00:45:52,880
Speaker 4: You have a business to run. Don't switch up on

1039
00:45:52,920 --> 00:45:55,320
Speaker 4: the people that I've committed to you for the you

1040
00:45:55,440 --> 00:45:59,040
Speaker 4: know sister that's trying to give you a trying to

1041
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:03,560
Speaker 4: force you your and even though she has had no planning

1042
00:46:04,239 --> 00:46:07,239
Speaker 4: or given you any time to prep. Don't do that.

1043
00:46:07,960 --> 00:46:11,120
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, it says I would. Yeah, Okay, this is relevant, guys.

1044
00:46:11,200 --> 00:46:12,720
Speaker 1: I just found another update.

1045
00:46:12,800 --> 00:46:16,320
Speaker 3: Oh ran, Hey it's Sam. We'll get back to the stories.

1046
00:46:16,320 --> 00:46:18,200
Speaker 3: But here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors.

1047
00:46:18,840 --> 00:46:21,040
Speaker 1: Thank you all for your love, comments and opinions. It

1048
00:46:21,080 --> 00:46:23,759
Speaker 1: was quite overwhelming. It has been busy, Sorry it took

1049
00:46:23,800 --> 00:46:25,759
Speaker 1: so long. First, I would like to say that I

1050
00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:28,600
Speaker 1: did leave out a bunch of background information in history

1051
00:46:28,600 --> 00:46:31,239
Speaker 1: between my family and I. People had concerns about the

1052
00:46:31,239 --> 00:46:33,839
Speaker 1: comment I made about my little sister and putting her

1053
00:46:33,880 --> 00:46:36,200
Speaker 1: in the middle of things. I didn't end up asking her,

1054
00:46:36,239 --> 00:46:38,799
Speaker 1: but she still helped out. In regards to the other

1055
00:46:38,800 --> 00:46:42,360
Speaker 1: couple of that book today, I will not did not

1056
00:46:42,520 --> 00:46:45,360
Speaker 1: cancel on them. I invited them out to the properties

1057
00:46:45,520 --> 00:46:47,600
Speaker 1: and have a nice dinner. We had a good time,

1058
00:46:47,600 --> 00:46:49,880
Speaker 1: and I explained what was happening. I said I would

1059
00:46:49,880 --> 00:46:53,040
Speaker 1: not cancel on them. I offered added security, crested, a

1060
00:46:53,120 --> 00:46:57,200
Speaker 1: guest list and a main point of contact for guest questions,

1061
00:46:57,520 --> 00:47:00,200
Speaker 1: and a discount for just in case things happened. They

1062
00:47:00,280 --> 00:47:02,520
Speaker 1: understood and accepted the new terms and offer.

1063
00:47:02,800 --> 00:47:04,960
Speaker 4: Of course they did. They just got a discount.

1064
00:47:04,760 --> 00:47:07,400
Speaker 1: A nice dinner, right besides something yes, man.

1065
00:47:07,320 --> 00:47:11,000
Speaker 5: I'm like, of course, whatever you say, yeah, heck yeah,

1066
00:47:11,400 --> 00:47:13,279
Speaker 5: I do have a lawyer and I have sent her

1067
00:47:13,360 --> 00:47:16,600
Speaker 5: ceased and assist letters to my sister mother the friends

1068
00:47:16,640 --> 00:47:18,400
Speaker 5: and other family members who were.

1069
00:47:18,239 --> 00:47:22,080
Speaker 1: Making false reviews good and talking bad about my business.

1070
00:47:22,160 --> 00:47:23,840
Speaker 4: I was gonna say, you should do that, because they

1071
00:47:23,880 --> 00:47:26,400
Speaker 4: can't just be leaving all these bad reviews that have

1072
00:47:26,480 --> 00:47:27,439
Speaker 4: no backing.

1073
00:47:27,440 --> 00:47:31,719
Speaker 1: And that went overwhelm. Sarcasm didn't go so hot, I

1074
00:47:31,719 --> 00:47:35,480
Speaker 1: imagine not. She also said not to share my details

1075
00:47:35,520 --> 00:47:38,319
Speaker 1: to get better reviews. On to my sister and mom.

1076
00:47:38,440 --> 00:47:41,480
Speaker 1: I told them both that it's my property. There is

1077
00:47:41,520 --> 00:47:45,080
Speaker 1: no hour, and it is not the family property. It's mine.

1078
00:47:45,360 --> 00:47:48,279
Speaker 1: I told them under no circumstances where they allowed to

1079
00:47:48,320 --> 00:47:51,640
Speaker 1: show up on the date of question. I had offered

1080
00:47:51,760 --> 00:47:55,680
Speaker 1: several different solutions, which all were rejected. All I asked

1081
00:47:56,000 --> 00:47:58,560
Speaker 1: in the beginning was for an immediate response to when

1082
00:47:58,600 --> 00:48:01,160
Speaker 1: they figured out a date they wanted to get married.

1083
00:48:01,280 --> 00:48:03,840
Speaker 1: If it was at any other venue and they did this,

1084
00:48:04,239 --> 00:48:07,200
Speaker 1: it would not work. Just because I'm running. It doesn't

1085
00:48:07,200 --> 00:48:11,120
Speaker 1: give them special treatment or priority, they argued. I shut

1086
00:48:11,160 --> 00:48:13,359
Speaker 1: them down. If they want to have their wedding here,

1087
00:48:13,760 --> 00:48:16,600
Speaker 1: call for a date now. My younger sister was able

1088
00:48:16,640 --> 00:48:18,759
Speaker 1: to find the invitation list and send it to me.

1089
00:48:19,080 --> 00:48:21,919
Speaker 1: I guess my older sister left her computer open. All

1090
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:25,160
Speaker 1: of the people that RSVP'd I sent an email slash

1091
00:48:25,200 --> 00:48:27,600
Speaker 1: text saying the venue is not where the wedding will

1092
00:48:27,640 --> 00:48:30,280
Speaker 1: be set, as it was never reserved under the bride

1093
00:48:30,280 --> 00:48:31,120
Speaker 1: and groom's names.

1094
00:48:31,440 --> 00:48:34,480
Speaker 5: Dude, that is some scheven from the little system.

1095
00:48:34,680 --> 00:48:37,759
Speaker 4: Yeah, she's still trying to get a rooting. Yeah, yeah,

1096
00:48:38,040 --> 00:48:41,040
Speaker 4: good stuff. You sent your spying wild.

1097
00:48:41,480 --> 00:48:43,600
Speaker 1: The groom reached out to me and asked if I

1098
00:48:43,680 --> 00:48:47,319
Speaker 1: was serious about her not reserving the date. Apparently she

1099
00:48:47,600 --> 00:48:51,760
Speaker 1: told his side of the family she had a covered liar,

1100
00:48:52,320 --> 00:48:53,560
Speaker 1: not to worry about it.

1101
00:48:53,920 --> 00:48:54,760
Speaker 4: She's a liar.

1102
00:48:56,200 --> 00:48:59,040
Speaker 1: He also apologized and mentioned they knew the date for

1103
00:48:59,200 --> 00:49:01,600
Speaker 1: over a year, then why wouldn't.

1104
00:49:01,239 --> 00:49:05,880
Speaker 4: She say, like literally, what was her thinking there?

1105
00:49:06,040 --> 00:49:08,000
Speaker 1: And on top of that, he said, he has a

1106
00:49:08,040 --> 00:49:09,600
Speaker 1: lot to think about now.

1107
00:49:09,680 --> 00:49:12,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, they might not even need the venue. There might

1108
00:49:12,640 --> 00:49:15,200
Speaker 4: not even be a wedding if she's lying about everything.

1109
00:49:15,280 --> 00:49:17,799
Speaker 1: Because if you have an estranged brother and you're hearing

1110
00:49:17,800 --> 00:49:20,719
Speaker 1: from your partner, oh they're horrible. All they say is

1111
00:49:20,760 --> 00:49:23,320
Speaker 1: mean things. Yeah, Oh, you actually have a conversation with

1112
00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:24,920
Speaker 1: him and you're like, oh, they're normal.

1113
00:49:24,760 --> 00:49:29,239
Speaker 4: It's pretty normal. Oh, she never told you what date

1114
00:49:29,320 --> 00:49:33,080
Speaker 4: we were doing. That's strange. Yeah, of course, it's got

1115
00:49:33,080 --> 00:49:33,880
Speaker 4: a lot of thinking about.

1116
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:37,200
Speaker 1: Now. Since that talk, everything is quiet and I'm scared.

1117
00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:40,400
Speaker 1: Usually when my sister is quiet, one of two things happen.

1118
00:49:40,680 --> 00:49:43,920
Speaker 1: It's about to get painful. Eruption is immediate. So those

1119
00:49:43,920 --> 00:49:46,320
Speaker 1: are two things. That's all for now. I'll keep you

1120
00:49:46,360 --> 00:49:48,839
Speaker 1: all updated. I'm not sure when I'll update, but it's

1121
00:49:48,840 --> 00:49:51,040
Speaker 1: over now. Also, sorry to the people ask you for

1122
00:49:51,120 --> 00:49:53,319
Speaker 1: my venue details. I don't want to share it here

1123
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:56,919
Speaker 1: do to me keeping my anonymity. Also, I'm in North

1124
00:49:56,920 --> 00:50:00,000
Speaker 1: America and that is it. I also look for an update.

1125
00:50:00,400 --> 00:50:01,440
Speaker 1: There's no other update.

1126
00:50:01,600 --> 00:50:04,080
Speaker 4: That's it, but it seems like he's resolving it. We've

1127
00:50:04,120 --> 00:50:07,320
Speaker 4: got the like the legal side being involved. Yeah, the

1128
00:50:07,880 --> 00:50:10,879
Speaker 4: people who have that date aren't being canceled on, which

1129
00:50:10,920 --> 00:50:11,279
Speaker 4: is good.

1130
00:50:11,560 --> 00:50:12,560
Speaker 1: They're not showing up.

1131
00:50:12,640 --> 00:50:15,040
Speaker 4: And now the sister might not even be getting married.

1132
00:50:15,400 --> 00:50:19,200
Speaker 1: Shoot, man, that's I'd invite the brother in law or

1133
00:50:19,239 --> 00:50:20,080
Speaker 1: the new brother in law out.

1134
00:50:20,239 --> 00:50:22,520
Speaker 4: I'd be like, hey, you want to come hang out,

1135
00:50:23,080 --> 00:50:25,239
Speaker 4: come check it out. We can ride some horses.

1136
00:50:25,600 --> 00:50:27,040
Speaker 1: Tell you how bad my sister is.

1137
00:50:27,320 --> 00:50:29,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, and take him out to dinner.

1138
00:50:29,600 --> 00:50:31,400
Speaker 1: Be nice, man, you don't want to get married.

1139
00:50:31,960 --> 00:50:34,120
Speaker 4: I gotta tell you I'll give you a discount on

1140
00:50:34,160 --> 00:50:37,560
Speaker 4: the venue. Agree. Yeah, don't get married.

1141
00:50:37,719 --> 00:50:41,200
Speaker 1: And guys, that's the end of that story. End episode.

1142
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1143
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